1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:04,040 Well, welcome back to the show. This summer has been brutal with 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,560 heat and humidity and both Becca and I have pot Postural 3 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:12,560 Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome and we have both been really 4 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:16,360 feeling it lately and we figured probably a lot of you have too. 5 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:21,000 So today we're talking about what really matters with Pot 6 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:24,120 Slayers hit, how Becca and I noticed them. 7 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:28,200 How do we care for ourselves and how do we shift shift beliefs 8 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:29,440 around product to being arrested? 9 00:00:29,440 --> 00:00:32,560 Because when the flare up hits, there's a whole lot of crap that 10 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:35,240 comes in. So stick around and join us for 11 00:00:35,240 --> 00:00:39,360 this conversation, Becca. Wow, right? 12 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:42,600 Wow. I mean, it's been a week, a 13 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:45,440 week, two weeks. I don't know how long, many. 14 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:50,080 It feels like forever right? But here in the state we are in 15 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:53,600 summertime and it is the end of the summertime which is always 16 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:59,480 the hottest part of the summers. And why pop scenario with the 17 00:00:59,480 --> 00:01:02,600 heat is terrible? I have not. 18 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:05,480 There is no good coming out of hot temperatures for me. 19 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:11,360 Between having pop, being in pre menopause plan, being on mental 20 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:15,160 health medications that make me sensitive to temperature, summer 21 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:18,320 is like a no blow for me. And it's actually one of the 22 00:01:18,320 --> 00:01:21,560 reasons that I moved so far up north where I live was to get 23 00:01:21,560 --> 00:01:23,840 away from that. So this past week has been a 24 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:26,320 challenge. We had a huge heat wave here in 25 00:01:26,320 --> 00:01:29,160 Maine for like I think 3 days in a row. 26 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,520 It was and it just took me off in the feet. 27 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:36,000 I don't know if you felt the flu, but I was like at 50%. 28 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:38,920 Oh. My gosh, yes. 29 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:44,960 So I am in, of course, like the the pit of heat and humidity in 30 00:01:44,960 --> 00:01:49,240 central Alabama. Gee, thanks, honey. 31 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:54,360 I'm so going to move back. You know, we, we moved to 32 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,640 Colorado and we're there for a couple years. 33 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:01,400 And I thought, Oh my gosh, this is going to be great for my 34 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:03,200 pots. And it was in a lot of ways 35 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:06,680 because it was less humidity. But I have to say the heat was 36 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:11,000 still just as bad for me in the summer with pots and everything 37 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:14,000 in Colorado as it has been here in central Alabama. 38 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:18,760 But the the heat this summer, it's been brutal. 39 00:02:18,920 --> 00:02:24,040 And I've I felt a few things creep in because, you know, for 40 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:28,040 those that follow the show here for a little bit, you know, I 41 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:32,600 was diagnosed with long COVID in January of this year and I 42 00:02:32,600 --> 00:02:35,200 didn't get COVID until the January prior. 43 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:37,440 It was the first time I got it in all that time. 44 00:02:37,440 --> 00:02:41,360 I was really lucky but that actually set. 45 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:44,840 Off a. Ton of POTS related symptoms and 46 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:48,120 issues for me that I hadn't had in almost a decade. 47 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,600 So this summer has been really hard. 48 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:54,240 Nearly hard. And it is. 49 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:58,480 And what's crazy, I think for me too, is that I, there's part of 50 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:01,480 my brain, I guess it's the same part that for women when they 51 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,520 have babies, forgets how painful birth was. 52 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:07,200 There's a part of my brain that for cat how much it stinks and 53 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:11,080 how bad a flare is. And you know, I'll push myself 54 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:14,120 if it the longer it's been since the flare, the harder I will 55 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:18,160 push myself because that's somehow weird way I forget like 56 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:22,080 all of those things. And I should know, we talk about 57 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:25,440 seasonal living, you and I, and here I should know, here comes 58 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,240 summertime. I should start like laying my 59 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:29,480 load. You know, I have to start to 60 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:32,520 lessen my load a little bit because I never know when the 61 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:35,400 heat's going to come. I have no control over that 62 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:37,120 piece of it. I only have control of how I 63 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:42,160 respond to, but being overloaded in my work right and and really 64 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:47,480 spread thin makes it worse. It makes me more susceptible to 65 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:51,800 some kind of flair. I think it happens for me too. 66 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:56,600 And you know, I started almost a year ago now. 67 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,360 So for those of y'all that that have been part of the hormone 68 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:03,600 harmony series and and I was teaching about there's different 69 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:06,880 phases of your cycle and how it shows up for their Co occurring 70 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:11,480 health conditions. I honestly really leaned into 71 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:16,399 that this year. And since January I have blocked 72 00:04:16,399 --> 00:04:19,320 off an entire week and I call it my rest and reset week. 73 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,240 And it's when I have my cycle and we're actually recording. 74 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:29,040 That's stupid enough and all the Berry menopause stuff, but it, 75 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:32,880 it was really interesting for me because, you know, before we got 76 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:36,000 on and hit record, I was like, Oh my gosh, my teeth have really 77 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,560 been hurting. Like I was really in a lot of 78 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:41,120 pain last night. And it's something that I've 79 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:46,800 noticed when I'm having a POTS flare, like the things that 80 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:49,960 normally I, it's like I may not notice or it's not that big a 81 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:53,000 deal, intensify like it becomes so much worse. 82 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:57,600 So normally I've been noticing like my week before my period, 83 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:00,920 during my ludial phase, and then the week of my menstrual cycle, 84 00:05:01,320 --> 00:05:03,520 my teeth will get really sensitive, like the nerve 85 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:06,120 endings. And so I noticed that and, and 86 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,280 then I, I was panicking when it first happened because I 87 00:05:09,280 --> 00:05:11,840 thought, Oh my gosh, if I go to the dentist and I got all kinds 88 00:05:11,840 --> 00:05:14,280 of dental traumas there, that's kind of a big thing that was 89 00:05:14,280 --> 00:05:17,520 super scary. But I, I started tracking like, 90 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,120 oh wow, no, this happened about the same time last month because 91 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:22,920 I feel in that little trekker thing and I just write random 92 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:25,600 stuff down because you and I both have said slicks, random 93 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:29,160 things will show up. And yesterday, of course, I 94 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:33,320 started three days early and it wasn't just like, OK, we're 95 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:34,640 going to give you the little signal. 96 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:37,480 And then all of a sudden, you know, you got a little prep days 97 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,640 before everything really starts. I didn't get that. 98 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:42,440 I got, I got a signal yesterday morning and then it all started 99 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:45,080 yesterday afternoon and last night. 100 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:50,600 I my ear was hurting, my top of my jaw on the right side of all 101 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:53,680 of my teeth up there hurt. And it's stuff like this is like 102 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:57,480 starting to recognize these signs, but it's worse this time 103 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:00,120 because I started having some POTS flare up. 104 00:06:00,800 --> 00:06:05,920 But now that I did, you're already inflamed and flared up 105 00:06:06,080 --> 00:06:09,000 from and then this gets layered on top of it, right? 106 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:14,360 It is unreal. It is really like I feel crazy a 107 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:17,840 lot of the time when all of this happened because they're it's 108 00:06:17,840 --> 00:06:21,200 like that, like have you turned and then be like my teeth hurt 109 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,040 and I know what it hurts like when you have to go to the 110 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:25,240 dentist. This isn't the same kind of 111 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:27,360 teeth hurt, but my teeth hurt right? 112 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:31,440 Like and I get all right, if my ears get itchy or my feet eat 113 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:35,760 the itchy feet, I don't understand. 114 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,800 I forget it and there's no amounts of moisturizer that 115 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:41,120 would stop the itch on my feet. I don't understand it. 116 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:45,720 And it's really like we'll do your little signals, your little 117 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:50,440 warning that stuff is happening, though my itchy feet is always 118 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:54,720 my little signal that I am in like coming toward my period 119 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:56,600 somewhere. Something is happening that my 120 00:06:56,600 --> 00:07:00,040 hormones that my feet are great and then it'll pass. 121 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:04,200 But I really have to say the layering on of the Perry 122 00:07:04,200 --> 00:07:11,120 menopause symptoms with the pop is it's almost like, I don't 123 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:12,600 know, I don't even know how to just spray. 124 00:07:12,880 --> 00:07:15,440 It's like someone else takes your bodden from you for a 125 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,520 little bit. That's how I feel like you're 126 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:20,720 just onto the ride and that's. Feel like somebody turns the 127 00:07:20,720 --> 00:07:24,520 dial up on everything that. Like everything, and I don't 128 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:27,200 mean to be angry and mean at people and things like, but I 129 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:29,160 you just feel trapped in your own skin. 130 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:37,800 OK, we're we're going to talk about that for a SEC last week. 131 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:43,920 I am telling you, I it had probably been since my late 30s 132 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:51,000 that I had like this out of nowhere Superintendent rage 133 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:56,720 experience. And it hit me last week and 134 00:07:56,720 --> 00:08:02,240 y'all, it was so bad. I was walking down my driveway 135 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:04,920 cussing and screaming like a crazy person. 136 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,160 Now I live out in the country and have a quarter mile long 137 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:09,040 driveway, so it was kind of a good thing. 138 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:12,680 But I'm walking down an opera and I blail in my hands and I am 139 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:16,760 just, I was, I don't like the Tasmanian devil. 140 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:19,960 And I'm just like that. All this stuff just coming out 141 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:23,680 because I had to get it out right And he knew I knew 142 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:28,240 something was not right. And perimenopause, this has just 143 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,480 been one of those things. And with all the stuff that's 144 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,559 happening, like I started to notice. 145 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:37,520 Like for me, it's immediately when I start to get really bad, 146 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:41,799 like Vertigo and dizzy. That's like comes on 1st for me 147 00:08:41,799 --> 00:08:45,680 usually. And I'll get like a sort of racy 148 00:08:45,680 --> 00:08:48,240 heart and I'll feel a little short of breath. 149 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:51,600 Like those are some of the ways that I notice it and I'll get 150 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,160 like a little dull headache. You know, some of those little 151 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:57,200 things are the signals that, you know, some pot stuff's coming up 152 00:08:57,200 --> 00:08:59,920 for me and that's been creeping in. 153 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:03,720 And then, of course, being in my luteal phase last week, 154 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,560 everything intensified and that's the first time. 155 00:09:06,920 --> 00:09:09,680 And y'all, I'm 51. So, I mean, it's been a minute 156 00:09:09,680 --> 00:09:13,880 since I have had this kind of intense, but I knew it was a 157 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,760 chemical thing. And that's the worst. 158 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,840 Part you can. Feel that it's a chemical you're 159 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:22,880 like I am. This is not like who is this 160 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:26,200 you're unrecognizable to sell. Sometimes I like the. 161 00:09:26,200 --> 00:09:29,320 Dragon Lady. Yeah, like, and I know people 162 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:31,920 joke about it all the time. They see memes about it online 163 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,480 and everything. But like, you know how we get to 164 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:37,800 a phase where we're like, we anybody eating here, right? 165 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:40,080 Like the sound of their chewing and you're like, could I? 166 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:43,880 I will whip your face right now. My own chewing my own. 167 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,840 I mean, I annoy. Do it to ourselves. 168 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:53,360 I annoy myself and I think that, you know, a lot of this stuff is 169 00:09:53,360 --> 00:09:57,840 happening for me together, but it's almost for me. 170 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:00,640 And I don't know if you feel the same way, but I you know, I 171 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:04,400 could deal with my pop and I was dealing with my nuisance of 172 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:07,400 periods and they were separate thing for me. 173 00:10:07,720 --> 00:10:10,120 Most of my so my pots is acting up. 174 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:12,560 Let me do XYZ. This is about my period. 175 00:10:12,560 --> 00:10:15,440 Let me do XYZ. But now I'm in this New Year's 176 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:18,800 very menopause thing that nobody understands and they are 177 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:22,720 connected together now. And so sometimes what I use are 178 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:25,200 my pots doesn't work for my period right. 179 00:10:25,200 --> 00:10:29,920 And all back in this is a game that needs to find itself to 180 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:32,360 men. I'd I don't like this but how 181 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:34,960 dangled they are? I feel like I'm played whack A 182 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:39,680 mole for tuts. OK, so for me, one of the things 183 00:10:39,680 --> 00:10:43,000 that I do to help, like recognizing the signals and sort 184 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:47,040 of at least allowing a little space when I know, like for me, 185 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:50,440 the week of my period, this is 1 where I do like my rest and 186 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:53,400 reset. Like I don't book any big stuff 187 00:10:53,400 --> 00:10:56,760 this week. And sometimes I do have a flight 188 00:10:56,840 --> 00:11:01,080 things event and it happens, but traditionally I'm like pretty 189 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:04,760 rigid around that time because I know there's so much going on 190 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:06,640 right now. I don't know how I'm going to 191 00:11:06,640 --> 00:11:09,520 feel. It's less predictable sometimes. 192 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:13,640 So I block that off. But then I also use my hormone 193 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:17,240 harmony tracker and I just kind of track even the most random, 194 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,280 like obscure stuff that I'm something comes up, I just write 195 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:22,400 it down. And I've noticed like over a 196 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,000 couple months, I can track stuff with something that you do to 197 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:28,320 kind of help recognize your your pot symptoms and signal. 198 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:32,160 Literally for me is one of the hardest things that I struggle 199 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:34,880 with the most because I'm somebody I really, really 200 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:38,480 struggle with identifying my body signal. 201 00:11:38,920 --> 00:11:43,120 And So what I actually do for my health is take care of myself in 202 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,320 a very moderated way all the time. 203 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:48,760 So like I don't ever let down my guard around my pots. 204 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,440 I have things that I do all, you know, everyday, all the, you 205 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:54,000 know, in an effort to keep it controlled because I don't 206 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:56,680 always catch the signal. So I'm not somebody who can be 207 00:11:56,960 --> 00:12:00,560 kind of reactive to my symptoms. I have to do symptom management 208 00:12:00,560 --> 00:12:03,760 ahead, if that makes sense. So I take a lot of supplements 209 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:08,160 at night. I take, I take magnesium, I take 210 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:11,760 vitamin DI take right. So I take a lot of supplements 211 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:13,880 to support when I know what is going on. 212 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:18,000 I do have electrolyte drinks. Those are out there and things 213 00:12:18,000 --> 00:12:20,240 like that. And so I drink them, I make sure 214 00:12:20,240 --> 00:12:23,160 I drink two of them away, one of them first thing in the morning, 215 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,120 right? Other thing that I can kind of 216 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:29,440 that I've noticed for me is I'm very weather sensitive. 217 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:34,000 So I can more than anything else, if I look at the weather 218 00:12:34,360 --> 00:12:37,560 and I have an idea of what's coming and what days are, you 219 00:12:37,560 --> 00:12:39,600 know, I kind of could say, oh, well, that day I'm not going to 220 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:42,600 be able to do too much. I can already see that I'm going 221 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:46,040 to be impacted in that way. And so I try to not set myself 222 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:48,920 up for failure by ignoring those things. 223 00:12:49,160 --> 00:12:52,880 A lot of what I do is prep and then of course I then I'm like 224 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,400 the emergency. Then the other side of prep is 225 00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:58,640 to be the emergency preparedness scent. 226 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,440 So I catch them with me around it, right? 227 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:05,080 I carry make sure I always have electrolyte little packets with 228 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:08,280 me or I make sure that I'm thinking about salt and do I 229 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:12,600 have it with me and just making sure I have the emergency things 230 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:15,000 if I'm wasn't able to prepare for some. 231 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:18,520 Oh yeah, I keep one of the little electrolyte thing tab, 232 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:20,440 you know, water packet things in my purse. 233 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:22,960 But you know, I'm like you, I use a lot of different 234 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:25,800 supplements and stuff. What I have found, and this has 235 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:28,200 been really good, I use something called magic mineral 236 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:31,160 salt. We'll sit magnesium mineral 237 00:13:31,160 --> 00:13:32,560 salt. I will send you the link for 238 00:13:32,560 --> 00:13:33,920 the. Write it down. 239 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:35,480 Look at us. We're here giving each other 240 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:36,520 advice to. I will. 241 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:38,920 We'll see. There's a link to all the stuff 242 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:41,680 that I use 'cause I shared this in our Hormone Harmony and I'll 243 00:13:41,680 --> 00:13:45,360 also share that download for everybody that's like your 244 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,600 Hormone Harmony with your COVID curing health condition that 245 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:52,160 cover endometriosis, Pecos, all kinds of stuff, POTS, the whole 246 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:54,240 thing. I'm going to share that 'cause I 247 00:13:54,240 --> 00:13:55,920 think this is something that's really important. 248 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:58,040 But I mean, this stuff has been great. 249 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:03,160 And I just add a little dash of this into my very first cup of 250 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:06,880 my everyday dose mushroom coffee 'cause I got off caffeine last 251 00:14:06,880 --> 00:14:08,600 year. Oddly. 252 00:14:09,880 --> 00:14:13,520 I was such a coffee addict, but and then and so I just do that. 253 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,680 I kind of kind of like you, just the how do I prepare? 254 00:14:16,680 --> 00:14:19,480 How do I do preventative things, you know? 255 00:14:19,480 --> 00:14:21,520 Yeah. And then have that emergency kit 256 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:23,320 First off. But I love your check in the 257 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:25,440 weather because you know the barometric pressure. 258 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:30,920 I do, and this is one of the things that I was invalidated 259 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:34,400 about, by the way, my entire life was my sensitivity to the 260 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:36,560 barometric pressure. What do you mean? 261 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:38,320 You know it's gonna rain? Do you know how many people I 262 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,200 could have spared by telling them to get an umbrella in my 263 00:14:41,200 --> 00:14:44,080 life? Like any beautiful. 264 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:47,080 But I have to know because it also impacts my migraine. 265 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:49,840 It'll impact my brain fog, right? 266 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:53,400 Lots of different things, but mostly it limits my, you know 267 00:14:53,400 --> 00:14:55,560 what I'm capable of on those days. 268 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,400 And in the summertime, those winters are tiny, you know. 269 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:07,040 What's some ways that you know you decide what gets your spoons 270 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:11,320 on Flare? Days, OK, so on flare days to me 271 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:14,480 is like selfish day, right? That's my number 1. 272 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:17,840 So I, I am somebody who gives, gives, I love, I love to give my 273 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:20,000 energy to people. I love to give my time to 274 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,000 people. I love to collaborate with 275 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,320 people. I love to support other people's 276 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,960 work, right? But when I go into a flare, 277 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,080 those are the days when I call to all of those people and say, 278 00:15:30,080 --> 00:15:35,040 I have always been here for you, but I cannot make our meeting or 279 00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:39,840 I need to reschedule our this or whatever because I need to do 280 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:43,280 take that time. And any energy I do have really 281 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:46,720 has to go to my priorities, which for me or myself and my 282 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:49,200 family, right? And so that means I have to make 283 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:51,440 sure that my dogs get that. And I have to make sure that I 284 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:54,600 get that, that I take care of my hygiene, that my husband has 285 00:15:54,600 --> 00:15:58,440 what he needs, that we're, we're all safe and have what we need, 286 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:00,400 right? Because in that time, I don't 287 00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:02,600 have all of my everything available to me. 288 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:05,840 And then if I have anything leftover, I could think about 289 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:08,920 giving it to other people. But usually on flair days, what 290 00:16:08,920 --> 00:16:13,280 I try to do is not right. I try to, you know, this my body 291 00:16:13,280 --> 00:16:15,680 saying stop. That's why I treat it. 292 00:16:16,120 --> 00:16:19,320 You know it's my body signals because I don't listen to slow 293 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:24,560 down very well, right? That's a really, I love that. 294 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,800 It's interesting. I, I was really thinking about 295 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:35,480 this as I've had a couple taste lately and, and it's, it's been 296 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:39,680 one of those things where I'm like, you know, I actually 297 00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:40,880 didn't even think twice about it. 298 00:16:40,880 --> 00:16:47,200 Like I, I was on reflection that I, I noticed, Oh wow, I had a 299 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:50,960 bunch of stuff the other day on my calendar and I was really 300 00:16:50,960 --> 00:16:52,960 just not doing well. It was hard to stand up. 301 00:16:53,120 --> 00:16:57,080 It was just, I wasn't feeling well and my brain was just not 302 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,840 doing the thing. And I went, what do I need? 303 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:04,440 That's the big question I always ask myself, what do I need and 304 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:11,119 have an Alexa Thyme in and really for me, I do know, you 305 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:14,839 know, and I just need to listen for a second like you just need 306 00:17:14,839 --> 00:17:18,599 to get your butt in bed. You need to have like nothing 307 00:17:18,599 --> 00:17:21,240 watch some fun TV. And just. 308 00:17:21,319 --> 00:17:24,240 Stay in the house and be cool. Don't mean go outside. 309 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:28,720 I was like, OK, and I just immediately sent out a couple of 310 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:32,480 messages and I said, I'm not feeling great today. 311 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:36,720 I would not be the best person to show up for what we're doing. 312 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,400 I would like to reschedule. Here's the link. 313 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:42,720 Let's do that. And do you know, in the minute I 314 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:47,080 in the moment, I not question myself, I didn't go, oh God, 315 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:48,080 they probably need blah, blah, blah. 316 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:49,200 I didn't think about any of that. 317 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:52,080 I was just like, what do I need? OK, this is what I need to do. 318 00:17:52,520 --> 00:17:53,960 And then I reflected back on that. 319 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:58,080 I'm like, holy cow. Like that felt so empowering and 320 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:03,040 so freeing because I didn't question, I didn't shame, I 321 00:18:03,040 --> 00:18:06,360 didn't blame, I didn't try and force myself to do stuff. 322 00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:11,000 And I was like, how much better than I feel the next day. 323 00:18:11,040 --> 00:18:12,960 I was like, I felt like a new person. 324 00:18:13,200 --> 00:18:14,880 Well, that's and that's the thing. 325 00:18:14,880 --> 00:18:16,880 I want us all. I hope that everybody who's 326 00:18:16,880 --> 00:18:18,880 listening gets this right Because sure, we're talking 327 00:18:18,880 --> 00:18:20,880 about POTS. We've also talked about prior 328 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:24,040 menopause and periods, but this could be about anything. 329 00:18:24,280 --> 00:18:28,320 When you get to that place of overwhelm where your brain is 330 00:18:28,320 --> 00:18:31,720 like, I'm tired and I can't, you deserve that break. 331 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,600 You deserve to give that to yourself because that's what you 332 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:36,440 need. If you needed to go pee, you 333 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,360 wouldn't tell yourself, no, I have to do this. 334 00:18:38,360 --> 00:18:41,640 I'm not going to go pee, right? So it's like it's understanding 335 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:44,880 that those that's part of your body's communication to you is 336 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:47,680 when, right. And what happens when we don't 337 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:49,720 pay attention is we do really crappy work. 338 00:18:49,920 --> 00:18:53,080 That's what I want to tell you when you show up places and you 339 00:18:53,080 --> 00:18:55,400 are not your full self. You're a crappy friend, you're a 340 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:58,080 crappy spouse, you're a crappy parent, you're a crappy 341 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,200 everything. So you're not even, you showed 342 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:02,720 up, but you're not even there and doing what you want, the 343 00:19:02,720 --> 00:19:04,800 person, you're not the person you want to be when you're 344 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:07,400 there, right? And so we have to remember that 345 00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,160 we're doing everybody else a favor too by taking that time 346 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:13,240 for ourselves because whoever you rescheduled with would 347 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:16,640 rather be with you when you're feeling well, then, you know, 348 00:19:16,640 --> 00:19:19,160 with you when you can barely, you know, keep your eyes open or 349 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:20,600 stay awake or any of those things. 350 00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,840 And so we, I don't know where that trap comes from when it 351 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:26,000 works for everybody, but we all feel like, oh, I shouldn't 352 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:27,880 reschedule. I should push myself through, 353 00:19:28,600 --> 00:19:31,560 right? I think what are the tips that 354 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:34,480 really helped me because sometimes I was like, I'm not 355 00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:37,160 really sure what I need. So what I would do because I'm 356 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:41,000 like you like my love language is giving and I, I gift a lot 357 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,840 of, you know, time, resources, all that kind of stuff. 358 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:45,880 That's my love language. I'm the same. 359 00:19:46,360 --> 00:19:50,520 And so I kind of used that and instead I flipped it when I 360 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:53,120 sometimes if I'm like, I don't know what the hell I need. 361 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:56,160 I don't know. I'm just like, if my really good 362 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,960 friend Becca came to me and said this is how she was feeling, 363 00:19:58,960 --> 00:20:04,600 what would I tell her? What would I want her to have? 364 00:20:04,960 --> 00:20:08,280 You know, that kind of thing. And when I flipped it, then I 365 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:10,440 was immediately like, oh, this, this and this. 366 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:13,480 Right. And because they come that, I 367 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:15,920 don't know, we touch on that space of all the shame that 368 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,720 come, right? That comes up for us as we are 369 00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:21,560 processing what's happening to us. 370 00:20:21,720 --> 00:20:26,200 Because the whole world is we've been fooled into believing, 371 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:28,040 right? This myth about productivity 372 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,760 that if somehow we are not currently producing some kind of 373 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:35,360 materials, we are, you know, just occupying space, for 374 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:38,080 instance, that someone else could be occupying, right? 375 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:42,480 And the minute chronic illness raises its ugly head into your 376 00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:48,920 life, you have to reframe how you think about rest and what 377 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:52,360 you beliefs are around rest, right? 378 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:56,120 And whose, whose voice is in your head, right? 379 00:20:56,120 --> 00:20:59,840 Like whose repetitive stuff is in there. 380 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:03,800 Because this, we've talked about it before, that fear of being 381 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,720 caught resting like that, because that comes up for this 382 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,880 all the time. And yet if we don't rest, we 383 00:21:10,880 --> 00:21:13,640 don't get better. So you have no choice. 384 00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:17,320 And if you're truly chronically I'll, if you don't rest, your 385 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:21,440 illness will make sure that you rest one way or another. 386 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:25,640 And so it's about can I choose one to rest or do I let my 387 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:27,440 chronic illness juice when I rest? 388 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:32,160 It it's you know your health is your wealth, right? 389 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:34,960 And I didn't even plan this, but y'all I've got on the perfect 390 00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:38,200 T-shirt for today. My T-shirt says hustle at the 391 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:41,440 top and has a line through it and underneath it real big. 392 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:44,960 It has a line. Yeah, that is it. 393 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:49,480 And I think that's one of the things, and this is where I 394 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:54,560 really struggled because I've had that productivity and 395 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:59,280 performance equated to my love ability and my worthiness, my 396 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:05,280 value, right? And when I, it was complete, 397 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:07,440 like all of my chronic conditions, it was like the 398 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:10,800 perfect storm and my entire body shut down and I was bedridden 399 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,080 and I couldn't even lift my hands. 400 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,840 I had two little kids at home and, you know, my husband was 401 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,120 overseas. And this was just like the 402 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,920 absolute worst. And there was this part of me, 403 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:24,680 and I remember it was about two full years, honestly, of just 404 00:22:24,680 --> 00:22:32,600 this horrible internal viciousness beeping myself up 405 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:37,040 every day because my body, I felt like my body had betrayed. 406 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:39,440 Yeah. Who had quit? 407 00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:45,920 It was revolting against me. And when I flipped that 408 00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:49,080 perspective, thanks to some really beautiful people in my 409 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:53,800 life who said, feel like there might be a different way to look 410 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,440 at this. This isn't your body betraying 411 00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:57,360 you. Perhaps. 412 00:22:57,520 --> 00:23:01,280 What if this is your body telling you what you need, but 413 00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:03,280 you just don't know how to listen yet? 414 00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,680 Yeah. And that if Abby won't, because 415 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,280 we're so busy listening to whatever the other voices out 416 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:14,720 there telling us what we're supposed to do, what we should 417 00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:19,720 do, all of these things, right. But this is wrapped, I think, 418 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:26,880 for me to around a lot of our police around aging women, women 419 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:30,240 and aging, right? Gosh forbid that we should need 420 00:23:30,240 --> 00:23:33,400 more rest because we're getting older, right? 421 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,960 Just for that, right? Or that we've, if you want to 422 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,240 put it in those terms, we've earned rest by our years on this 423 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:43,720 planet, right? However we want to talk about 424 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:46,760 it, right? But aging is a component of 425 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,240 this. You cannot, even if you were a 426 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:53,240 quote UN quote productive person in your 20s that looks different 427 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:55,800 in your 40s, you don't have the same capacity. 428 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:59,360 And that's those the job. I think that's the lesson in 429 00:23:59,360 --> 00:24:03,680 chronic illness for me is, you know, I don't get to decide the 430 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,760 speed of thing. Sometimes I have to rest, 431 00:24:07,360 --> 00:24:09,200 sometimes my body has to force me. 432 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,320 But I also spent, and I don't know if this is for you, I spent 433 00:24:14,320 --> 00:24:20,760 a lot of years ignoring my meat suit and I wanted nothing to do 434 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:23,760 with it. It was so annoying to me, right 435 00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:25,920 that I feel like this is my lesson. 436 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:27,800 And no, you have to pay attention to that. 437 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:31,560 You don't get tried on. Like you don't get to just wear 438 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,800 it like a suit carrying your brain around. 439 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:37,280 You have to take care of it. This is the lapse because I was 440 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,440 so jealousy. I just want to take my brain out 441 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:43,520 and put it somewhere else. Hey, that I feel very much like 442 00:24:43,520 --> 00:24:47,600 I am my brain and like it's just, you know, inside this meat 443 00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,200 suit, but I could take it and put it in another meat suit and 444 00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:52,000 I still feel like me. I don't, you know what I mean? 445 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:55,800 Like my brain is genuinely who I feel that I am. 446 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:59,400 That's where I feel I exist. And this is just like the the I 447 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:03,680 don't know, the car that I'm in. This had the vehicle of for my 448 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:07,000 brain. The interesting thing, I love 449 00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:11,760 that we're talking about those. So I had this very unusual dream 450 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,600 the other night and I woke up, you know, early in the morning 451 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:16,160 when you get in that dream state. 452 00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:18,920 And I was sort of in that lucid dreaming state where I was like 453 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:20,760 conscious, but also still during new. 454 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:26,480 And this very clear image came and I didn't want to forget it 455 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,280 because I've been like, you know, the meat suit, the skin 456 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,280 bag, all that kind of stuff. It's just like, I don't know, 457 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:35,040 it's just like the brain, which was just so beautiful. 458 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:39,360 You're going to love it. It was the Earth swing. 459 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:44,920 This vessel is our earth swing. Like I even saw a globe on a 460 00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,520 swing, like moving back and forth, and it is standing 461 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:48,600 around. You know how when you're little 462 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,880 and you get in the swing and you spin yourself around and you go 463 00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,000 in every direction, you go high or low? 464 00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,920 And I was like, yeah, actually that's pretty accurate. 465 00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:59,040 So I was like, it's my earth swing. 466 00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,000 Oh, I like this. I like, but that we, I 467 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:06,440 genuinely, I know, I don't know if you're out there and there 468 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,840 are typical people listening, do you feel like you're attached to 469 00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,800 like it's all one package or do you break 'cause I don't 470 00:26:12,800 --> 00:26:16,320 necessarily feel that way. I feel like my brain was placed 471 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,920 into this package and I'm you know, the package is optional to 472 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,120 me. You you like I feel like could 473 00:26:23,120 --> 00:26:25,160 be that brain in a jar, you smooth beer. 474 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:27,480 So I'd be fine. I wouldn't have to deal with 475 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:28,800 pops. It would all be great. 476 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:31,480 I mean. Honestly, I think if I could do 477 00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:34,240 that, I like, I'll just want to have like one of those bionic 478 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:35,560 bodies. Right. 479 00:26:36,120 --> 00:26:39,120 Yeah. But like, how do we reframe 480 00:26:39,120 --> 00:26:42,880 this, especially when we're in a POTS flare? 481 00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:46,720 Because, you know, if it's not just a couple of days, if you're 482 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:51,200 in a flare that's lasting for a long time, you and I both had 483 00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:53,840 those. There's a lot of crud that comes 484 00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:57,520 up because you're you can navigate the whole belief system 485 00:26:57,520 --> 00:27:00,520 and the Shane stuff and give yourself some rest for a short 486 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,240 time. But there's this point of time, 487 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,920 but we hit it and all of a sudden it's like no longer 488 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,680 acceptable. Yeah. 489 00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:13,400 Well, that is I think for me is about understanding your new 490 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,600 normal, which is a terrible way to say excite the word normal. 491 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,840 But when you have chronic illness, when you enter 492 00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:25,080 perimenopause, all of it, right, you're adjusting to a new 493 00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:28,400 normal. So your standards, what you were 494 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,960 holding yourself to before have to change. 495 00:27:32,360 --> 00:27:34,960 And if you don't change them now, you're holding yourself to 496 00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,560 old standards that you can't possibly attain anymore. 497 00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:39,920 And that's I think our grave mistake. 498 00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:43,120 We have to, you know, you might have been, it's again, you might 499 00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:45,640 have been one thing in your 20s, but now you're in your 40s and 500 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:49,360 you have to kind of reframe the whole thing and what your 501 00:27:49,360 --> 00:27:52,400 capacity is, what you want to be doing, how much of that. 502 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,000 So when you're, I think in a especially when you're in an 503 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,720 extended flare, it's easy to land in depression. 504 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:02,800 What is my purpose? Am I even bothering, right? 505 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:06,000 I don't even waste. I used to say I'm just a waste 506 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,360 of oxygen. I'm just thinking up somebody 507 00:28:08,360 --> 00:28:11,600 else's air, right? And things like that. 508 00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:14,440 And it's easy to go into that. But again, that's attached to 509 00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:19,120 that productivity thing, right? It's when you're only resting 510 00:28:19,120 --> 00:28:21,600 for too long. If you feel like you should be 511 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,760 doing something else or be somewhere else, right? 512 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,920 And So what I say to people is you have to create a new 513 00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,800 standard, a new set of normal. And if that means you nap every 514 00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:35,280 day and that's your new normal, then you nap every day and that 515 00:28:35,320 --> 00:28:38,080 is your new normal. And it's not about a standard, 516 00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:41,160 you know? These standards and 517 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:43,640 expectations, oh man, they could be so heavy. 518 00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:47,560 You know, one of the things I love, and I know that you have 519 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:49,440 this experience too, in your groups. 520 00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:53,840 And it's like the genius, the wisdom that comes from our 521 00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:57,960 collective conversations. And the other day in our 522 00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:01,600 alignment Sundays group, we were talking about some hard stuff 523 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:05,080 and one of our members shared a phrase that they had heard 524 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,240 recently. And I was like, that's so good. 525 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:15,920 And she said if they could, they would like, Oh my gosh. 526 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:19,600 You know, like sometimes if somebody's hurt your feelings or 527 00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:23,200 maybe they did something or you know, I was thinking about this 528 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,720 from a plots fleer. It's like the days that I need 529 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,000 to rest, you know, if I could do something, I would. 530 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:33,800 But today I I'm and that's OK. Like pushing yourself isn't, 531 00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:36,360 isn't the norm. That shouldn't be acceptable 532 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:38,720 behavior, pushing yourself past your limits. 533 00:29:39,240 --> 00:29:42,120 And yet we're all asked really from a young age to push 534 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:45,560 ourselves fast. I, I really, I feel like it 535 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,160 starts pressing school, like we don't get to school really 536 00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:50,200 because we need some place to send them all their parents 537 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,760 work, right? I'm asking kids to sit for that 538 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,800 many hours, right? And and it's beyond their 539 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,720 capacity. So we get used. 540 00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,400 To that way. Right. 541 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:05,800 I mean, it's and so we can't, we have to, you know, pushing 542 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,840 through is something we're told and taught to do so early on. 543 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,480 And that's I think the piece that we have to change for 544 00:30:11,480 --> 00:30:14,280 ourselves, right? That's not fair. 545 00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:17,720 We have limit because you're human, and that's OK. 546 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:24,120 So what's something right now that you are in the process of 547 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:29,760 unlearning around your needs or anything? 548 00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:37,920 Think you know I am a natural helper person and I am not 549 00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:42,480 someone who accepts help well. So like, I give help, fantastic. 550 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:47,720 I will help every, but I am not an asker of help. 551 00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:51,800 Like there I still am working around the shame of needing help 552 00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:55,960 and needing support. I think probably because I'm 553 00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:57,800 always need support for weird things. 554 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:02,920 That was like the things I asked for support around and probably 555 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:05,760 even until the day if I told people some of the things I need 556 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,960 support around, they would really judge around it. 557 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:11,000 So really that's something I'm still working on and something 558 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:14,960 that I need to be humble about because when I am in a flare, I 559 00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,880 really need help. I can't get up a million times. 560 00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:20,080 I have to make sure I'm hydrating. 561 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,240 I have to, right? There are things that I, I have 562 00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:23,920 to do in a flare to get out of the flare. 563 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:26,880 And so I do need help and support for those things. 564 00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:29,800 So that's something that me and my little ego need to work on 565 00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,560 about not asking for help for ourselves. 566 00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:40,480 What about you? I am in the place of practicing 567 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:47,440 that more frequently as I've gotten to place of uncomfortable 568 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:53,920 and knowing that I can ask, I'm good with that part, but I don't 569 00:31:53,920 --> 00:31:58,240 practice actually asking because I'm like, who do I ask? 570 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,960 So part of sort of what I'm unlearning and part of this 571 00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:04,800 process for me has been who do I identify? 572 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:07,520 So I just kind of started preemptively working on a list 573 00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:09,680 around this, I don't know, a couple months ago. 574 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,920 And it's like, well, if I need this kind of help, who would be 575 00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:17,080 the person I would want to ask? And so that way when I do need 576 00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,320 it, I've already got something to go back to. 577 00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:23,640 But for me, it's kind of like, OK, pause for a minute. 578 00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,000 What do you need? What? 579 00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:30,000 Who's person that you can ask for this and then actually go 580 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:34,480 ask them? Not just a theory, I'm saying. 581 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:39,440 Right, this is a great person, but I you can't get frozen and 582 00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:43,560 they ask right, You have to make sure we and there is around that 583 00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,520 whole piece, right? We have we have work to do all 584 00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,720 of us, because I think many people are willing to get help, 585 00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:51,560 but so few people are willing to ask. 586 00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,560 We have trained ourselves to believe it's a weakness to need 587 00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:58,640 assistant, right? And that we shouldn't and 588 00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:01,440 layered, we shouldn't show our weakness to anybody. 589 00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:03,840 So we shouldn't ask for help. Someone shouldn't know. 590 00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:05,840 And I think that's a huge mistake. 591 00:33:06,000 --> 00:33:09,200 I think that's a terrible habit to me and I am desperately 592 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:10,800 working. I'm asking. 593 00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,760 OK, So collectively as a community here together and 594 00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,840 things that really matter, Becca and I are not going to be the 595 00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,840 chief standing alone here. We hope will. 596 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,400 Not. Let's do this together. 597 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:27,920 Let's find a way that we can, can support one another in this. 598 00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:31,800 And for me, I think sometimes, Oh my gosh, when we talk about 599 00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,600 how do we advocate for ourselves, you know, how do we 600 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,600 have connection with, with other people, especially when it comes 601 00:33:39,600 --> 00:33:44,000 to like when we're in a flare. So Becca, how do you explain 602 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:48,240 POTS to other people who don't have it or aren't familiar with 603 00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:50,520 it when you're in a flare and you need some help and they're 604 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,280 like, what the heck do you need to do that for? 605 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:57,600 You did it 2 days ago, right? I have noticed that if I truly 606 00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:01,040 am in a flare and I actually need something, that I do my 607 00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:03,200 darndest not to explain a damn thing. 608 00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:08,280 That is actually because when I am in a flare, I need something 609 00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:11,800 and it is not my responsibility to educate you in that moment, 610 00:34:12,159 --> 00:34:16,520 right? So. 611 00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:19,320 Oh, happily educate you around POTS. 612 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:22,480 I will share resources, right? But when I'm in a flare, that is 613 00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:24,880 not my time to educate. That's when I have to take care 614 00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:29,480 of self. But at the same time, I also 615 00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,320 need community more than anything else. 616 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,600 So when I'm in a flare, there is nothing that I love more than 617 00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:37,080 going into my POTS haste book book group and reading everybody 618 00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:39,639 silly memes about all the things you deal with when you're 619 00:34:39,639 --> 00:34:42,560 chronically I'll because it takes away that isolation. 620 00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:46,440 Here you are stuck in bed, all of these things, but then you 621 00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:47,920 see there's other people stuck in bed. 622 00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,639 They're stuck in bed far away from you, but they are also 623 00:34:50,639 --> 00:34:53,760 having these thoughts or these conversations or these thinking. 624 00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,720 And that always makes me laugh and it always makes me remember 625 00:34:57,720 --> 00:34:59,720 I'm not alone in it. And then I'm not crazy. 626 00:34:59,720 --> 00:35:03,000 Other people are having these symptoms and all of those 627 00:35:03,000 --> 00:35:05,120 things. And a lot of the time the 628 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:10,200 solutions for many of my problems, mind, my mind 629 00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:12,680 community, when I see other people posting, right, You'll 630 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:17,640 see, oh, someone found this in a couple of you know, this thing 631 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:20,640 and or this way to calculator, this way to track. 632 00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:24,480 And then you can find options for yourself and you know that 633 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,720 there's somebody else out there is thinking about it as much as 634 00:35:26,720 --> 00:35:30,960 you are at the close at 7:00. So I to me, that's the key for 635 00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:34,880 me is I'm reminding myself that I'm not alone because when I 636 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:37,600 start to feel alone and I bleed it, I go into that depression 637 00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:41,200 mode where why am I here? Why am I doing all the things 638 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,600 I'm doing? Yeah, absolutely. 639 00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:50,880 It's, it's one of the reasons that I, I'm such a huge advocate 640 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:54,560 and champion of the invisible disabilities organization. 641 00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:59,280 And I have joined their campaign for the last two years. 642 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:03,680 And it's, it's important because I think we can't do these things 643 00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:05,680 sometimes when we're in a flare, we just don't have the energy 644 00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:07,760 and that's not where our capacity needs to go. 645 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,440 And there's plenty of other times, you know, like when you 646 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:13,920 are feeling well, those are great times to advocate in a way 647 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:17,080 that works for you. You know, like my, my friend Rex 648 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,080 scanner. I, I love them so much. 649 00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,840 They were like, there are times I just don't feel safe. 650 00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:24,000 There's times I just don't have the energy, the brain width, the 651 00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:25,560 capacity. But I can wear a T-shirt. 652 00:36:26,240 --> 00:36:31,080 Yep, you know, I just something that simple or just, you know, a 653 00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:34,480 general like just image post and leave it at that. 654 00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:40,120 And you got to remember, we were always because so few people 655 00:36:40,120 --> 00:36:43,200 really know about like POTS and M casts and LR Stanlow's 656 00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:46,360 hypermobility, all of the Co occurring conditions that show 657 00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:50,240 up in our lives. People just on average aren't 658 00:36:50,240 --> 00:36:54,640 very well educated in our human bodies to begin with. 659 00:36:54,920 --> 00:36:57,000 You know, we don't get about these things in school. 660 00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:01,400 And because we are struggling with them, we become the experts 661 00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,080 on this. I mean, we honestly, we did the 662 00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,200 deep dives, we do the research, all this stuff. 663 00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,840 And we're always going to know. I mean, I see this in our POTS 664 00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:11,040 groups all the time they were in, it's like, Oh my gosh, I had 665 00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:13,360 to educate my doctor. How many times did we go? 666 00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,920 And we are educating our medical professionals on how to treat us 667 00:37:16,920 --> 00:37:19,640 right? And it's just, it's exhausting. 668 00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,120 And so really that's something I love that you shared that back 669 00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:24,680 out. We have to really think about. 670 00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:29,280 It's not my job to educate you, but it is my job to let you know 671 00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:32,040 what the boundaries are and what I need in 1X. 672 00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:34,600 Right. Like, that's, I think there's a 673 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:38,080 time and place, but it happened to me also when I got my autism 674 00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,040 diagnosis right. There was a sudden expectation 675 00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:44,360 that then I was an expert in autism and I had all the answers 676 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,240 around everything for all right, just because I had it. 677 00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,800 And it's not my job as an autistic person to educate. 678 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:53,640 Have I now chosen it as my job? Yeah. 679 00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:58,040 But it is not my inherent obligation as an autistic person 680 00:37:58,040 --> 00:38:01,040 to educate. And so I am fascinated by the 681 00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:03,840 amount of people who ask questions to an autistic person 682 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:11,920 when they're in meltdown. The the most understanding, the 683 00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:14,240 least, whatever. And that's how I feel when I'm 684 00:38:14,240 --> 00:38:17,600 in a flare and someone asked, what do I mean by Bob, 'cause I 685 00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,080 don't feel good and I don't have the patience. 686 00:38:20,080 --> 00:38:22,240 And I'm like, thus trying to take care of myself. 687 00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:24,960 And so I do remind myself, I don't have to. 688 00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:27,080 I just have to tell you what I need. 689 00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:29,360 And if you're not able to help me with what I need, then I need 690 00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,680 to move on 'cause I have to take care of myself right now. 691 00:38:32,240 --> 00:38:34,840 You know, and there's a time and a place when, if I'm feeling 692 00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:38,120 well, I would gladly speak an hour and a half on POTS and what 693 00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:39,760 it is. And that would impacts me and 694 00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:42,680 all of those things. And so we need to remember that 695 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:44,400 we're allowed to put that boundary up. 696 00:38:44,720 --> 00:38:47,000 You know, just 'cause I have the information doesn't mean you 697 00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:52,200 deserve to get it right now. I mean, right, 'cause Google it, 698 00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:53,560 right? Exactly. 699 00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:59,520 Yeah. I mean, and I think that one of 700 00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:02,080 the things that makes a big difference, you know, like you 701 00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:05,800 said, we do tend to isolate when we're not feeling well because 702 00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:09,400 it takes energy, it takes that capacity to be with other 703 00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,320 people. And so that's exhausting. 704 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:14,560 And sometimes it's even my sensory system and all this 705 00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:18,520 stuff happening during a flare up is just like, no, I, I can't 706 00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,960 be around other people. Just too hot. 707 00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,720 No, But if I'm in my ludial phase, it's for your safety and 708 00:39:28,720 --> 00:39:31,800 I'm not. It's really, you know, you know 709 00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:33,960 yourself. And so we have to call those 710 00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,880 limits, you know, and it's when you have POTS. 711 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,160 Like if I had to go somewhere where I had to wear specific 712 00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,320 clothes when I'm in a POTS flare, why not? 713 00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:48,840 No, no, because no, I need like I need be. 714 00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:53,000 I need to not be in anything. That's weird feeling. 715 00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:57,480 No, nothing too tight, right? It's a situation. 716 00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:01,880 Oh my gosh. And and just like the days where 717 00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:04,800 the. The blood and everything isn't 718 00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:07,600 pooling in my legs and my extremities and I can't quite 719 00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:10,520 you and I have to wrestle myself into those Dang Ted hose. 720 00:40:10,520 --> 00:40:15,480 Joel, I live in central Alabama in the another circle of heat L 721 00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:19,720 and humidity and I am wrestling myself, my little fluffy body 722 00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,320 into these Dang Ted hose. And it is just like, Oh my gosh. 723 00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,880 I actually saw in our pots Facebook, one of the pots 724 00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,120 Facebook groups, somebody had somebody's from about two 725 00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:32,120 different designs for something. You put the Ted hose on and then 726 00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:35,000 slide it up so you're not like wrestling and choking yourself 727 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:36,480 to death. Because I feel like I'm 728 00:40:36,480 --> 00:40:39,320 suffocating when I put those things on because I have like 729 00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,920 constriction stuff. It it's almost like, OK, maybe 730 00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:46,400 maybe I'll try that, you know? And there's just things you can 731 00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,880 get in community that you can't get anywhere else. 732 00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:55,720 And I think it's also one of the places where when I felt really 733 00:40:55,720 --> 00:40:59,440 invalidated, especially by medical appointments and things 734 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:04,320 like, I, I needed community. I needed to know other people 735 00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,400 saw me, Like, I wasn't experiencing like, like this 736 00:41:07,400 --> 00:41:09,800 crazy thing. And somebody looks at me, you 737 00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:13,280 know, like at the doctor's office, like a third eye or 738 00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:16,400 something. Yeah, when not, there is nothing 739 00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:18,800 that feels better than saying you have a weird symptom like 740 00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:21,840 your teeth hurt, typing it into your Facebook group and having 741 00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:26,920 everybody Oh yes, yes, right, 'cause you're like, please, you 742 00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,480 understand, right. Like thank goodness, and that 743 00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:33,200 piece is not something that anything you can get anywhere 744 00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:35,880 than community. All of those people have stepped 745 00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,640 in the shoes, you know, and so that's why it feels good. 746 00:41:38,640 --> 00:41:41,000 It feels like somebody caught you, right. 747 00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:43,160 It feels like you get caught by by everything. 748 00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:46,800 And so that to me is for me one of the things that I rely on the 749 00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:49,640 most when I'm having really hardcore mental health days 750 00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:53,520 around either my players or my autism, which yes, I still have 751 00:41:53,520 --> 00:42:00,320 them around my the look check in. 752 00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:03,040 I know Facebook is like an old person thing now, but we have 753 00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,760 some really old long standing group on there from, you know, 754 00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:09,480 in our community. And when I'm having a bad day, I 755 00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:12,720 go there because I know someone else was in a pill, know I'm 756 00:42:12,720 --> 00:42:17,040 feeling that day, and I can be like, yeah, me too, you know? 757 00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:23,040 And I think just to kind of bring this conversation that I, 758 00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:26,080 I hope has been of great service to you for listening. 759 00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:29,200 If you have been experiencing some POTS flares this summer, if 760 00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:33,600 you have add any of the stuff I cannot shared and maybe some 761 00:42:33,600 --> 00:42:35,680 different things we want to know about those two. 762 00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:39,440 But we also want to talk about like, what is success look like 763 00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:43,320 in a flare because we can really kind of get caught on all the 764 00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:47,040 stuff that's not going well. But how do we start to be gentle 765 00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:49,720 with ourselves to go, you know what, that was a micro win. 766 00:42:49,720 --> 00:42:54,080 Or I just gave myself permission to rest and that was a huge 767 00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:55,920 success. Right. 768 00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,920 I mean, we have to package those things up and look at them 769 00:42:58,920 --> 00:43:01,160 properly, right? A flare is a flare. 770 00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:04,240 It's going to do its thing and it's going to roll through a 771 00:43:04,240 --> 00:43:06,240 cycle and then at some point it will end. 772 00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:09,640 Are there things we can do to support the ending of that? 773 00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:13,080 Yes, right, they're stupid. You can remember to hydrate, you 774 00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:15,240 can remember to put your feet up right. 775 00:43:15,240 --> 00:43:17,520 You can remember to lay down when it's possible. 776 00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,600 Don't do too much exertion, right? 777 00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:24,240 We can do all of those things, but it to me it's the pausing 778 00:43:24,240 --> 00:43:27,320 and awareness. Yes, I am in flair. 779 00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:31,280 We are acknowledging I am in flair, right? 780 00:43:31,640 --> 00:43:35,760 That to me is a package to win. Every time I say to myself, I'm 781 00:43:35,760 --> 00:43:40,200 not crazy, I don't feel good, I am in a flare and I acknowledge 782 00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:42,480 it and then say, do I need to hydrate? 783 00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:44,600 Do I need electrolytes? Should I have a pickle? 784 00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:46,600 Do I? What could I do for myself? 785 00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:50,320 That's a win to me, 'cause I've acknowledged its existence, 786 00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,440 right? Which means it's not this all 787 00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,640 powerful thing hanging above me anymore. 788 00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,560 You're real, you're happening. And just like if I had a 789 00:43:57,560 --> 00:43:59,920 headache, I would. What could I do to make it 790 00:43:59,920 --> 00:44:01,360 better? And that, to me, is a win, 791 00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:03,520 right? If I can get through a flare 792 00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:07,440 without a just without being depressed at all, I consider 793 00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:10,720 that an even bigger one. Oh my gosh, yes. 794 00:44:12,320 --> 00:44:17,040 One of the things for me that has been such a huge way to 795 00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:22,320 reframe and to really begin to look at and and really feel 796 00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:26,040 successful even in a flare. It's been just simply 797 00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:30,680 acknowledge that the reason that I have a particular symptom or 798 00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:34,000 condition is it because I'm being punished, isn't because 799 00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,480 I'm a bad person, isn't because I did something wrong. 800 00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:43,800 It's just part of my journey and it's the way the symptoms flare 801 00:44:43,800 --> 00:44:46,520 up or just sometimes how my body is responding to an 802 00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:49,320 environmental thing. It can something that's totally 803 00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:53,320 out of my control. It isn't because I didn't do 804 00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:58,840 something or I did something wrong, because I would be pretty 805 00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:01,160 hard on myself thinking I could have prevented this. 806 00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:03,800 I could have had more water, I could have done this, this, you 807 00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,360 know, somehow. And that can be really hard. 808 00:45:06,720 --> 00:45:09,640 Yes, like I could, should have, could have or should have done 809 00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:13,560 more or something, but it's not we we shouldn't ratchet like 810 00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:14,480 punishment. You're right. 811 00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:18,040 It it's very easy for us to take it as like a personal 812 00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:21,760 punishment. But no, I think there's lessons 813 00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,680 in it for us. I think those of us who were 814 00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:28,520 gifted our chronic illness, right, we were given it for a 815 00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:30,400 reason. There's something in it for us. 816 00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:32,760 There's a lesson to learn. And it might just be that we're 817 00:45:32,760 --> 00:45:35,920 the people that have to show the world that we're all going too 818 00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:38,080 fast and that we need to slow down. 819 00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:41,920 Definitely. You know, you and I have 820 00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,880 something pretty special coming up to help everybody 821 00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:50,480 intentionally take that choice to slow down, to really tap into 822 00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:52,480 yourself. And Becca and I are really 823 00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:54,200 excited. We are putting together a 824 00:45:54,360 --> 00:45:59,280 three-part workshop series, The Journey of Self Renewal, and our 825 00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:02,200 first workshops could be coming up at the end of September and 826 00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:03,680 it's going to be the fresh start. 827 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:07,880 Rewrite the story of you, Becca. Tell me. 828 00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,160 I mean, you and I were planning this and talking about the end 829 00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:13,080 of the. Year, we are going to tackle the 830 00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:14,960 evil monster of negative self talk. 831 00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:18,200 That is what we are going to do. We are going to tackle that 832 00:46:18,200 --> 00:46:21,200 monster. Talk about how we reprogram that 833 00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:24,360 and how we take control of that situation so that the things in 834 00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,280 our life that we're doing are choices, not stuff that we feel 835 00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:30,920 pushed to or are habitually doing, which is even worse. 836 00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:34,160 Well, it totally is. I'm so excited about this. 837 00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:36,640 We're going to make sure that y'all have all the information 838 00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:39,040 that you need coming up in the next couple of weeks. 839 00:46:39,040 --> 00:46:41,720 We'll have that ad on both of our social media channels and 840 00:46:41,720 --> 00:46:43,200 we'll send it out to our e-mail list. 841 00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:46,480 If you're not yet following the show, hit the follow button. 842 00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:49,000 Make sure you do the notifications so you don't miss 843 00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:51,320 anything that we have coming up because Beckon are really 844 00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,680 excited about this three-part workshop series to help you 845 00:46:54,680 --> 00:46:59,240 rewrite the story of you to obliterate that mean negative 846 00:46:59,240 --> 00:47:02,600 little voice that's just beaten you up inside that really has no 847 00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,880 business being there. Get out. 848 00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:07,160 We're going to teach you how to do it. 849 00:47:08,040 --> 00:47:10,200 We are, we're going to do it. Take care of y'all, have a 850 00:47:10,240 --> 00:47:14,640 fabulous month and we'll see you next month here on things that 851 00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:16,200 really matter. Bye bye. 852 00:47:16,880 --> 00:47:22,080 It's been quiet. Alright, Energy Mastery, let's 853 00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:26,960 turn the tide. Top shelf guests dropping wisdom 854 00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,200 bombs. Join us next week. 855 00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:34,440 Where the energy's strong beyond crying burnout, we're breaking 856 00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:36,440 free. Podcast pumping. 857 00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:41,680 Follow energy tips and tricks to push off fight fast pace and 858 00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:43,440 fun. You'll feel alive. 859 00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:47,080 Energy Mastery. Come along for the ride behind 860 00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:50,880 Beyond. 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