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Hello and welcome back to Home 
and Hosting with Louis Burg, the

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podcast of We talk all things 
home hosting, interiors style, 

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and how to make the everyday 
feel a little more considered. 

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I'm your host, Louis Burg, and I
hope you're doing well wherever 

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you're listening from. 
If you're down here in the 

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Southern hemisphere with me, I 
hope you're keeping warm, 

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watching the leaves turn and 
fall and maybe leaning into 

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those slower, cosier days at 
home. 

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I've been trying to find the sun
wherever I can, and just 

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perching with my laptop and 
working away, trying to keep 

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cosy. 
But I do admit I am loving 

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wearing the robes and the 
cashmere knits and the cosy 

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slippers at home. 
But if you're listening 

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somewhere a little warmer, maybe
you've got the windows open, 

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you're enjoying a proper spring 
clean, and that garden is 

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starting to do its thing again. 
Either way, I feel like this is 

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actually a very good time of 
year to look at our homes 

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properly. 
Whether you're getting ready to 

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hibernate a little more or 
refreshing things up for spring,

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it's often the seasonal shifts 
that make us notice what is 

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working in our homes and what 
maybe isn't. 

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And today I want to talk about 
something I think comes up a lot

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when we talk about homes, but 
maybe we don't always have the 

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right language for it. 
And that's the difference 

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between a home that is clean, a 
home that's styled, and a home 

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that actually feels considered. 
Because I think a lot of people 

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fall into two camps when it 
comes to what they think makes a

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home nice. 
The first camp thinks is a nice 

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home is a clean home. 
Everything is spotless, the 

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cushions are thoroughly chopped,
the carpet has vacuum lines, the

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kitchen bench is completely 
clear, everything has been put 

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away. 
The house is tidy, the floors 

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are clean, the bed is made and 
visually it gives up this very 

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controlled idea of what a good 
home looks like. 

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And then there's the second 
camp, which is a nice home is a 

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styled one. 
Every surface has a tray, every 

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tray has a candle, every candle 
has a book. 

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Next to it there are vases, 
bowls, beads, tiny objects, 

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little stacks of books and 
cushions, throws, florals, 

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sculptures and every corner has 
been turned into a little 

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moment. 
And I think what's interesting 

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is that both of these homes are 
trying to achieve the same 

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thing. 
They're both trying to look nice

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and feel nice. 
They're both trying to 

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communicate that the person who 
lives there cares, but one can 

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end up feeling sterile and the 
other one can end up feeling a 

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bit overdone. 
So today I want to talk about 

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the middle ground. 
Not just how to clean your home,

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not how to decorate your home, 
but how to present your home 

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well. 
Because a home can be clean and 

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still not feel beautiful. 
And a home can be styled, it's 

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to not feel put together. 
And the home that actually feels

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good is usually the one that is 
being considered clean enough to

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feel calm, style enough to feel 
warm, edited enough to feel 

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tasteful and personal enough to 
feel like someone actually lives

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there. 
So let's get into it. 

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I want to start with the first 
type of home, which is what I'd 

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call the clean but sterile home.
And this is the home where 

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everything is technically done. 
There's the sofa, there's the 

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coffee table, there's ATV unit, 
there's a dining table, there's 

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the bed frame, and there are two
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And maybe there's a rug. 
And maybe there are cushions. 

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The furniture categories have 
been ticked off and the home is 

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clean. 
Everything is in its place. 

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The floors have been vacuumed. 
The surfaces have been wiped 

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down. 
The cushions are properly 

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chopped within an inch of their 
lives, like they're standing to 

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attention. 
Bunny ears is what stylist will 

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call it. 
But somehow, the home still 

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doesn't feel warm. 
It doesn't feel layered. 

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It doesn't feel beautiful in the
way that a home can feel 

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beautiful, and I think that's 
because the cleanliness and the 

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presentation are not the same 
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A clean home is very important. 
I'm not here saying don't clean 

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your home. 
Obviously clean your home. 

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A clean home makes you feel 
calmer, it makes you feel more 

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organised, it makes a space more
pleasant to be in and obviously 

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it's more hygienic. 
A room can be spotless and still

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feel cold because clean is the 
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It's not the whole story and I 
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get stuck. 
They think of the home as tidy. 

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It means it's nice, but when you
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sometimes there's just no 
atmosphere. 

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There's no lamps, there's no 
softness, there's no art, no 

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interesting texture, no flowers,
no books, no sense of ritual and

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no sense of how the person 
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It's just clean. 
It's just ticked all the boxes. 

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It feels quite corporate, like 
an office, and often the 

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furniture itself feels like it 
was chosen to complete the room 

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rather than create a feeling. 
And I want to be clear here 

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because this is not about 
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This is not about saying every 
piece in your home needs to be 

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expensive, because it absolutely
doesn't. 

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Some of the best times are built
with simple, affordable pieces 

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that you can find of marketplace
or you've inherited. 

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But there is a difference 
between choosing something 

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simple with intention and just 
buying the most obvious basic 

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version of something because you
needed it to take it off the 

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list. 
Like sofa done, coffee table 

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done, TV unit done, dining table
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And yes, technically the room 
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But does it have warmth? 
Does it have texture? 

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Does it have scale? 
Does it have lighting? 

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Does it have any personality? 
Are the colours and textures 

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speaking to one another? 
Does it actually feel like you 

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like? 
If you were to sit in the room, 

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would you complement the space? 
That's the difference. 

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Because a home being complete is
not the same as being a home 

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that's considered. 
And this is where the clean but 

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sterile home can fall a bit 
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It has order, but it doesn't 
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It can be neat, but it's not 
really inviting. 

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It might be tidy, but it's 
certainly not layered. 

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It might be practical, but it's 
not particularly beautiful. 

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It's the perfect motel. 
And I think sometimes people 

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almost remove the very things 
that make a home feel good 

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because they associate those 
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They remove all the books and 
they don't bother with lamps. 

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They've got overhead lighting. 
They don't need a bowl, they've 

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got a cupboard. 
They don't need flowers. 

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And if they do, maybe they'll 
just get some fake ones because 

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they live longer and look, that 
home is clean, but it's just a 

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bit bare. 
And I always think there is such

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a difference between a home 
feeling calm and a home feeling 

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empty. 
Calm has intention. 

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Empty just feels like 
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So if you're listening to this 
and you feel like your home is 

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clean but it still doesn't feel 
beautiful, I would not start by 

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buying a heap of decorative 
objects because I would start by

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looking for warmth, lighting, 
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And I think lighting is probably
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I do also think this kind of 
house happens to a lot of us 

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that are renting and we're 
afraid to take that leap into 

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giving it more of a homey feel. 
It could be because we see the 

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space as temporary. 
We don't want to risk not 

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getting our deposit back. 
We live with someone that's not 

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our partner so we don't want to 
overly invest. 

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But there are things that you 
can do that can make the space 

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feel homely without having to go
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So like I said, lighting is 
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overhead lighting can make even 
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Lamps do so much work in a home.
A table lamp on a console, a 

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floor lamp near a sofa, a 
bedside lamp with warm shades, 

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even a lamp in the kitchen or 
dining area if you have the 

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space. 
Lamps in different heights on 

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the table standing, that's what 
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You want the different heights 
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room. 
Then I would look at texture. 

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A neutral room does not have to 
be boring, but the texture has 

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to be doing some of the work. 
Linen, wool, timber, ceramic, 

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rattan, stone, leather, velvet, 
woven baskets, a soft rug, a 

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heavier curtain, a textured 
cushion. 

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These things add depth without 
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that's important because a lot 
of people here add more warmth 

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and think it means add more 
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It doesn't always mean more 
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Sometimes it just means better 
stuff. 

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Better lighting, better scale, 
better softness, better 

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materials. 
And if you're in a rental and 

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don't want to over invest, I 
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bed linen. 
Grabbing yourself some beautiful

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bed linen in a texture that you 
love and making sure that you 

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have a minimum of four standard 
pillows and a long lumbar so it 

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looks plush. 
Perfect. 

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There you go. 
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at is kind of speaking to the 
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And again, this doesn't mean 
that you have to turn your home 

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into a jungle. 
It could just be a bowl of 

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lemons. 
It just could be a bunch of 

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flowers. 
It could be branches in a vase. 

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It could be herbs in a jar in 
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It could be something from the 
market that just gives your room

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a bit of life. 
There is something about the 

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natural elements that 
immediately make a space feel 

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less sterile. 
And then I would look at the 

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walls and the scale of the room.
A lot of the rooms feel 

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unfinished because the walls are
bare, or because the art is too 

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small, or because everything is 
sitting low and there's no 

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height. 
One large artwork can do more 

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than five tiny things scattered 
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I can bring light and scale. 
A taller lamp can lift the eye, 

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and curtains can soften a room 
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In Myspace, I've got curtains 
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I've got sculptural mirrors that
act in place of both art and 

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mirrors, and they bounce the 
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So if you're feeling like you're
in that first camp where your 

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home is clean but it still feels
a bit cold, the solution is not 

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to abandon all cleanliness. 
It's just to add a little bit of

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life. 
Not clutter, life, warmth, 

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texture, lighting, scale, 
softness, and a few things that 

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actually reflect how you live. 
Now let's get on to the second 

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camp. 
It's pretty much the opposite. 

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This is styled, but not actually
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This is the home where the 
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They understand that a home 
needs layers. 

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They understand the power of a 
candle, a coffee table, book, a 

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vase and a tray and a good 
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But the problem is that 
everything becomes styled. 

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Every surface has a moment. 
The coffee table moment, the 

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console table moment. 
The kitchen bench has a moment. 

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The bedside table has a moment, 
the bathroom moment. 

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The shelves have several 
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Before you know it, the home 
starts feeling less like a home 

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and more like an amateur theatre
set or like a TikTok for you 

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page home. 
Everything is performing. 

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Everything has an aspect of like
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And this is where I think we 
really have to make an important

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distinction because there's a 
difference between clean and 

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styled. 
Because sometimes the over 

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styled home is not actually the 
cleanest home. 

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It might look decorated, but it 
doesn't mean that it feels 

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fresh. 
It might have lots of objects, 

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but that does not mean it feels 
calm. 

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It might have atmosphere, but 
that does not mean it's well 

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presented. 
And it could be a multitude of 

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like atmospheres and feelings 
too. 

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Like if you're borrowing too 
many reference points on social 

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media, like you're speaking to 
different styles and aesthetics,

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perhaps throughout the whole 
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So it can kind of feel confused 
and like cohesion, which is, you

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know, an easy thing to slip into
if you're unfamiliar with an 

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overall style and theme and 
you're relying on Pinterest or 

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TikTok. 
You'll be like, oh, entryway. 

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Oh, I love that entryway master 
bedroom. 

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Oh, I love that bedroom. 
And then kitchen cabinet island.

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Oh, I love that. 
And like, before you know it, 

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they're all little vignettes, 
but they're all actually 

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completely different. 
Like 1 was more traditional, the

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other one was more beat century 
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was more eclectic and the other 
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know? 
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stuff we have, the more things 
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So dust kind of happens. 
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two camps is that the clean home
often needs more styling and the

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styles home often needs more 
cleaning and editing. 

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They actually need to take a 
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because styling is not just 
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Styling is knowing what to leave
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It's knowing what to remove. 
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needs space. 
It's knowing when the room needs

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to breathe. 
It's the art of restraint. 

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And I think this is where people
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They confuse styling with 
accumulation. 

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They think I need a tray, I need
a candle, and then I need a book

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and then I need a vase and then 
I need an object and I need 

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something sculptural. 
And then I need a bowl and I 

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need beads and I need another 
candle. 

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And suddenly the room just has 
no hierarchy. 

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Everything is trying to be 
interesting. 

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Everything is trying to be 
looked at. 

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Everything is trying to say, 
look, I have style, but when 

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everything is a moment, nothing 
is a moment. 

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A home needs rhythm. 
It needs pauses. 

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It needs negative space. 
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like a design term, but all it 
really means is that not every 

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inch of your home needs to be 
filled. 

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Not every surface needs an 
object, and not every wall needs

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art. 
Not every corner needs a chair, 

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and not every shelf needs to be 
packed. 

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Sometimes the most expensive 
looking thing you can do is just

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leave the space and let it 
breathe. 

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And the other thing with 
overstyling is that it creates 

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maintenance. 
If you have 7 objects on your 

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coffee table, you have 7 objects
to dust. 

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You have to lift the tray, you 
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you have to move the books, you 
have to refresh the flowers, you

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have to deal with the candle 
wax, you have to straighten the 

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throw, you have to fluff the 
cushions. 

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And that's all fine if you 
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but styling has to be 
maintained. 

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You cannot just put things out 
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And I think this is where a lot 
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necessarily well presented 
because the objects are there, 

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but the freshness is not. 
The intention is there, but the 

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editing is not. 
The home has been decorated, but

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it hasn't necessarily been 
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And I think this also comes back
to we collect lots of bits and 

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pieces and we just add more and 
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So that thinking, hey, that tray
that I got five years ago, is 

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that really feeling like me now?
Like are we in the same space? 

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Like that's from like 3 rentals?
Like ago when I was in like a 

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mid century modern apartment and
now I'm in like a townhouse, 

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like workers cottage is a bit 
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Like is this speaking the same 
language? 

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I don't know, maybe I need to 
get rid of that tray and replace

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it rather than getting two other
the trays and then just moving 

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that tray into a different room 
because that room needs a little

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bit more stuff. 
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and doing that seasonal 
declutter is super important 

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when it comes to finding your 
way and making the home feel 

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more intentional and styled and 
a good reflection of you and 

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where you're at. 
So if you do feel like you're in

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the second camp where your home 
feels style but maybe a little 

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bit busy or chaotic, I would 
start by just removing. 

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Take away about 30% of the small
objects. 

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Not forever, just as an 
exercise. 

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Remove a few of the tiny pieces,
clear one surface, take one tray

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away, reduce the number of 
candles, edit the stack of 

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books, take out the thing that's
only there because you felt like

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it needed something, and then 
look again. 

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Does the room feel calmer? 
Can you see the better pieces 

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more clearly? 
Does the furniture have more 

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breathing room? 
Does the styling feel more 

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intentional? 
Because often when you remove 

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the extra things, the good 
things start to look better. 

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That's restraint. 
And restraint is not boring. 

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Restraint is what makes taste 
feel confident. 

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Also might I add, if it's 
feeling empty, just give 

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yourself a little time. 
Sometimes things can feel 

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uncertain and you're like, oh, I
don't know that you need to give

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yourself a day or even just 
sleep on it. 

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Take the things, move it into 
another room, go to bed, wake 

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up, walk into the space and feel
fresh. 

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It's like a Christmas time. 
You decorate the house at 

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Christmas, you pack it all away 
and you're like, Oh my God, the 

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house feels empty. 
You need to give yourself a 

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little bit of time to get used 
to it. 

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Just like a Christmas. 
You get used to it pretty 

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quickly and then before you know
it, it's Christmas again. 

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You packed it away and it feels 
empty. 

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That's a good way to feel 
whether it feels right or 

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whether you've taken too much 
away. 

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The next thing I would look at 
is the function, because if the 

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styling gets in the way of 
living, it's not really good 

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styling. 
If there's nowhere to put a 

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drink on a coffee table, that is
a problem. 

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If the bedside table is so 
starved that there's no room for

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a glass of water or to put your 
phone to charge at night, that's

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a problem. 
If an entry table has 3 candles 

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and a sculpture but nowhere to 
drop your keys, that's a 

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problem. 
If the surfer has so many 

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cushions that people have to 
throw half of them on the floor 

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before sitting on it, that is a 
problem. 

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A home should not be annoying to
live in. 

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That might be the simplest way 
to put it. 

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A beautiful home should still 
work, and that is why the third 

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camp, the considered home, is 
the one that makes the most 

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sense to me. 
Because the considered home 

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takes the best parts of both. 
From the clean home, it takes 

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the order, the maintenance, the 
freshness, the clarity and the 

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calm. 
And from the styled home, it 

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takes the warmth, the texture, 
the atmosphere, the beauty and 

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the personality. 
And when those two things meet, 

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that's when a home starts to 
feel properly put together. 

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Cling but not sterile. 
Styled but not staged. 

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Personal but not chaotic. 
Practical but not bare. 

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Beautiful but just. 
It's still livable. 

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That is a considered home, and I
think that's really where the 

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presentation comes into it 
because presentation is the 

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bridge between cleaning and 
styling. 

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It's not just whether your home 
is tidy and it's not just 

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whether your home is decorative.
It's how all those things come 

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together to communicate care, 
comfort, taste and how you use 

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the space. 
A considered home does not feel 

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like someone is trying to prove 
anything. 

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They're not trying to prove that
they're clean. 

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It also shouldn't feel like 
someone's trying to prove they 

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have taste either. 
It feels like someone has 

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thought about how they want to 
live. 

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And that to me is the 
difference. 

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And I think what also is a good 
thing to remember is that if you

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feel stuck in your home, like 
you might not know exactly what 

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to do yet. 
You might not have the perfect 

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sofa or the perfect rug or the 
perfect artwork or the perfect 

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colour palette or layout. 
And that's totally fine. 

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But you can usually start by 
identifying what's holding the 

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space back, because I think most
of us are naturally a little 

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better at noticing what we don't
like then clearly articulating 

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what we do like. 
So you might be able to walk 

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into a room and not know the 
perfect solution, but you can 

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probably say. 
This room feels cold or 

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cluttered or flat. 
The room feels busy or 

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unfinished. 
It feels maybe a bit generic or 

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hard to use or has no atmosphere
or too many little things. 

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It feels clean, but it doesn't 
feel warm. 

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Or it feels styled but it feels 
busy and not calm. 

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And that's actually a really 
good place to start, because 

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once you can identify what's 
holding the space back, you're 

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no longer just randomly buying 
things or removing things. 

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You're diagnosing the room. 
If the room feels cold, then it 

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needs warmth, so texture and 
lighting. 

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If the room feels busy, then it 
might need editing or negative 

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space. 
If the room feels generic, maybe

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it needs one or two pieces with 
more character. 

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If the room feels flat, then 
maybe it needs height or 

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contrast or art, or a better mix
of materials. 

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If the room feels impractical, 
then maybe the styling is 

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getting in the way of how you 
actually live. 

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So instead of asking what do I 
buy next, or what's my style? 

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Sometimes the better question is
just what's stopping this room 

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from feeling good? 
That question can get the ball 

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rolling because a considered 
home is not built by guessing, 

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it's just built by noticing. 
You notice what's off, what 

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feels bare, too cluttered or 
annoying to use. 

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You you're noticing what you 
want to avoid or you always have

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to move things out of the way. 
And then you can make one 

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considered change at a time. 
You can add the lamp, the three 

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small objects, or remove those 
three small objects, replacing, 

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you know, a random trinket piece
that you bought from a big box 

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store because it just doesn't 
mean anything. 

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You can be getting the bigger 
rug because you always knew that

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that rug was too small for this 
space anyway. 

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You might find, you know, a 
really beautiful mirror to stand

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in place of that artwork or 
print poster that you printed 

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off because you just needed 
something in your dorm room. 

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But the point is, you don't need
to know the whole answer before 

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you begin. 
You just need to know what's 

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holding the space back and start
somewhere. 

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So like, let's start with the 
coffee table. 

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A2 cling coffee table might be 
completely empty. 

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Maybe it's spotless. 
Maybe it is practical, but maybe

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it doesn't add anything to the 
room. 

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It's just a surface. 
An overstar coffee table might 

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have the tray, the three books, 
a candle of ours, a bowl, beads,

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object, flowers. 
Maybe it's just too interesting.

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You know, it looks good in a 
photo, but real life there's 

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just nowhere to put anything. 
So the considered coffee table 

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might have one great looking 
book or vessel with flowers. 

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Maybe it has a tray. 
If it's useful and there's 

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enough empty space to actually 
use the table, that's the 

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difference. 
It is styled, but it still 

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works. 
The same with the sofa. 

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The two clean sofa has chopped 
cushions like they're chopped to

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oblivion and nothing else. 
Or it's like with a rolled throw

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that's like rolled up like a 
towel at a hotel. 

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The over styled sofa is like 9 
cushions, a throw placed in 

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every specific angle, draped 
over that. 

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It goes over down into the floor
and it has pom poms on the ends 

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and nobody knows where to really
sit. 

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The considered sofa has enough 
cushions that add comfort and 

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texture. 
They speak to the style of the 

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sofa as well. 
And maybe there's a throw but 

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you know, it's folded nicely on 
the end and it like hangs over 

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the arm of the sofa. 
So it still feels that you can 

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sit down without ruining the 
room because that's what's 

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important. 
Your home should not feel like 

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one wrong move and it'll destroy
the styling. 

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Now, like another example could 
be the entryway. 

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A2 clean entryway might have a 
bare console and nothing else or

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some like fake branches off onto
the side. 

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And it's like, you know, not 
looking great. 

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Maybe it's tidy, but it feels a 
bit sterile and cold. 

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Whereas the over styled entryway
might have a lamp and then a 

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bowl and then a candle and a 
vase and three books and a 

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sculpture. 
And it's all landing on a 

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console that's not big enough to
hold all of this furniture. 

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And there's like a layer of dust
underneath everything because 

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you haven't been able to clean 
it lately. 

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Whereas the considered entryway 
might just have one lamp, a bowl

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for the keys, and a mirror to 
check yourself before you leave 

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to get out the door with maybe a
few seasonal flowers or 

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something. 
It has function, but it also has

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atmosphere. 
A bedroom is another good one. 

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A clean bedroom might have a 
perfectly made bed, white 

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bedding or not even. 
It could even be like it has a 

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pattern and then you've got a 
magenta cushion, just one 

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cushion because every bed needs 
a cushion, but it's like too 

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small and it's, again, it's 
magenta on like a geometric 

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duvet cover. 
And you've got bare bedside 

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tables with harsh overhead 
lighting. 

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And it always feels like a 
random mattress showroom or 

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budget motel. 
An overstyle bedroom might have 

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way too many cushions that are 
like chopped and way too many 

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throws, The bedside tables 
carved in objects, a chair with 

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a throw on it, a tray. 
And suddenly the room just feels

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like a boutique hotel cosplay, 
like a bed and breakfast. 

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You know, it's like interesting 
how I think of accommodation 

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references, but I feel like it 
really gives you an idea of what

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I'm talking about. 
Whereas considered bedroom just 

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has nice beautiful bedding, warm
lighting texture, some practical

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bedside space, enough softness 
and the room feels nice to sleep

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in because again, the room has 
to work for the life that 

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happens in it. 
And then a kitchen is a really 

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interesting one too. 
Like a too clean kitchen might 

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have absolutely everything 
hidden away and the bench is 

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clear, but it feels like a 
rental inspection. 

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Or it feels like you've closed 
up shop. 

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Like a bakery's like, tidied and
closed and it's empty, nothing's

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been pulled out. 
Whereas an overstarted kitchen 

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might have open shelves full of 
objects and jars and boards and 

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vases and cookbooks and candles 
and flowers and ceramics. 

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There's so much stuff that 
doesn't that shouldn't be in the

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kitchen, but someone ended up in
the kitchen. 

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A considered kitchen has clean 
surfaces, a few beautiful useful

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things like a fruit bowl, good 
tea towels, some nice pots and 

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pans that you really love. 
That are the ones that like stay

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out and look if you must, a 
couple of flowers and branches 

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if it suits, but only if it 
suits the room. 

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That's where I think people need
to land. 

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Not empty, not cluttered, just 
considered. 

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And if you want to order your 
home, I would ask yourself a 

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couple of these questions. 
Does this room feel clean? 

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Does it feel warm? 
Does it feel easy to use? 

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Does this room have too many 
things? 

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Does this room have enough 
texture, lighting, and life? 

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Is there anything just feeling a
void or a space that I've just 

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put there and I need to really 
get like go through and just get

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rid of? 
Is there anything in the room 

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that's also making it harder to 
live in, Like that thing that's 

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filling the space? 
Can you diagnose what the room 

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really needs? 
Is the room clean but cold? 

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Then we need to add warmth. 
If it's star but busy, we need 

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to edit. 
If the room's beautiful but 

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annoying to use, we need to 
simplify. 

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This is such a practical way to 
think about it because the goal 

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is not perfection and it's not 
about making your home look like

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mine or anyone else's or a 
catalogue or a Pinterest board. 

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The goal is to present your home
in a way that reflects your life

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well, and I think that's the 
point people miss. 

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A nice home is not just a home 
that has been cleaned. 

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A nice home is not just a home 
that has been decorated. 

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A nice home is a home where the 
decisions just make sense. 

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Furniture makes sense, the 
lighting makes sense, the 

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00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:45,720
objects make sense. 
There's just the right amount of

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styling and it's clean, you know
it's clean. 

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That's what makes a home field 
put together. 

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And honestly, I think This is 
why some houses feel good even 

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when they're not perfect. 
They might not have the most 

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00:27:58,360 --> 00:28:01,440
expensive furniture, they might 
not have the newest renovation, 

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00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:05,400
they might not have every trend,
but they have care and it has 

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00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:09,120
rhythm and there's warmth, 
there's restraint, and they have

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00:28:09,120 --> 00:28:12,800
a sense of person, you know, the
person that lives there. 

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And that always is more 
interesting than a home that's 

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just clean or just styled. 
So if there's one thing I want 

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you to take away from this 
episode, it's this cleanliness 

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00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:27,400
gives a home calm styling should
give a home warmth. 

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Restraint gives the home taste 
and function gives a home, 

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meaning you need all four. 
Because if you only have 

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cleanliness, the home can feel 
sterile. 

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If you only have styling, the 
home can feel chaotic. 

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If you only have restraint, it 
can just feel empty. 

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00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:50,480
And if you only have function, 
it can just fall flat because 

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they all need to work together. 
That's where a considered home 

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00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,440
lives. 
And that to me is the difference

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00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:59,040
between a home that looks dumb 
and a home that actually feels 

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00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:01,640
good. 
So this week, I'd love for you 

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to look at your rooms. 
You know your home 1 by 1 and 

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00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:08,240
ask yourself, is this room 
clean, styled or considered? 

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00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,000
And if it's clean but cold, you 
need to add some warmth. 

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00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,320
If it's styled or busy, you need
to take something away. 

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00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,000
And if it's functional but flat,
you just need to get in there 

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00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:19,320
and add some atmosphere. 
And if it's beautiful but 

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00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,120
annoying to use, well, we need 
to get into our routine. 

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00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,320
And we need to simplify a few 
things because the best homes do

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not feel untouched. 
They do not feel staged. 

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00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,480
They just feel understood. 
And that's what we're all trying

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00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,480
to create. 
Thank you so much again for 

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00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,560
listening to this episode of 
Home and Hosting with Louis 

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00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:37,800
Bourke. 
If you enjoyed this episode, I'd

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00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,800
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00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:42,040
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00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,560
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00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,800
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little bit more considered. 

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00:29:51,440 --> 00:29:53,720
You can also find me on 
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00:29:53,720 --> 00:29:57,600
Burke and over on the Journal at
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00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,520
for way more home and hosting 
and styling ideas. 

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00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:03,680
And as always, thank you so much
for spending the time with me, 

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