I'm tired, you're tired, tired. I'm tired, too.
It's okay. It's been a long week.
Yeah, dude. It really has been a long couple
decades. It was a couple of that.
Very quietly. Pick up my microphone, put it
back down. Nobody noticed, it's fine.
It was good. I was truly slouch on the desk
and then I decided that I didn't want to touch on the desk but
now we know work. I'm like I'm in that moment.
Of like like it's too hot but it's too cold at the same time
and everything hurts and I'm dying.
Please help. I'm sorry.
Bubs. You want some ice water?
We got ice water. Yeah, I do.
Actually. Yeah, there it is.
Special thanks to Brian for doing our Foley work this week.
I really appreciate that. You put some Nails in a tin can,
hi everybody. Its Katie asaurus the siloed,
it's me a good and welcome back to infinite.
Quest Quest today's episode We are continuing our series Where
We complain about the 1880s, a Criterion of complaining, what
about stuff with Katie and Eric, another working title.
It's a podcast. I feel like it was on the list
too far away. I was going to get my ukulele.
I feel like that's like a really good like theme song.
Okay, Tina complain about stuff complaining about stuff with
Katie and Eric that is pretty funny that shit.
That should be like a bonus Saturday episode like 50 minutes
long, like a little segment that we thought we can have like a
segment where we just like, you know, what really great it could
be like, you know what really grinds my gears.
Yeah, we like that. But you know what really gets my
noodles in a nut. Shut up to people, come to the
twitch streams. You get that joke Odie.
These. Oh geez.
This week we are an episode or episode.
We are on criteria 3 and this is an interesting one.
Katie, are we on three? I thought we were on for around
30, we run fourth episode of this because the first one was
pitching me actually just piss. You just, yeah.
Okay. This one is an interesting one
because it shows, That they're trying like they take in this
one. It seems like they've taken a
lot of what we've said in previous episodes on this into
account in their language criteria. 30k criteria 3, hit me
with a dog often does not seem to listen when spoken to
directly Not often, doesn't listen to in spoken often.
Doesn't seem to listen, I like that, which I really like this
is the first one that I'm okay with.
Yeah, I'm really into that. Like, yeah, it does require good
pass pass. Well, no more.
Now I'm mad because I feel like I blew my perfect story for that
on Tuesday. Oh yeah.
Well, you know some way better story for that it for this
episode. Well, you know damn it.
Maybe you go back and listen to two.
These episode but just pretend that we're talking about this
one. Okay, thank you.
Well, I think I would like to see that kind of amendment made
to a lot of the other one. I bet it's gonna happen.
I like honestly, I bet March. Yeah, I'm I'm hoping.
I mean, the amendment if it wasn't clear was the word
seemed. Yeah.
I think that that completely changes the whole thing because
that's exactly what we talked about.
Last is exactly talking about that stuff.
That's right. Yeah.
Do you want to just like luck that into the other one and just
go straight to for he ran? Well I mean because the thing is
just like my Attention might not look like you're paying
attention, but it doesn't mean that I'm not paying attention
and I wish fucking like it's not hard to teach that is not hard
to teach like just day one, a teacher School.
Hey, teachers, you might have a kid who's a doodlin.
Just a lot of doodle. Oh yeah, I'll just leave them
alone because you're fine. You'll survive your little
fucking teacher feelings. Won't get hurt.
Everybody can move on. Well, I think I mean I wouldn't
so spicy about it. Shit.
I wouldn't be surprised if that. If the word seemed is in there
in direct response to everything that we just complained about on
Tuesday's episode. You know they changed it because
of us because of us besides, it's been 48 hours, Wednesday.
They adjust the DSM for us. My friend.
Our podcast is so important but I would like to see what how it
does. However, assume a measure of
objectivity in the person answering that question.
If If the, if there's a, if this survey is being taken, or if
these sheets and one are being filled out by a person, talking
about another person, like a teacher about a student, a
parent about a child? Yeah, it does.
Require I think require a lot of objectivity on their part
because They would have to acknowledge that.
There's a chance that their perception is wrong.
Yeah. You know, like they might seem
like they're not but I acknowledge that they could be.
Yeah, well, but maybe that's not that.
He's maybe it, maybe it's a bigger net.
Maybe it catches, both parents /, teachers /, co-workers that
do acknowledge that they might be wrong.
It might just seem like they're not paying attention.
When in fact they are but also the people who are dumb, who Who
just believed that. Of course, their assumption is
correct because they're a version of reality is the only
correct one. Yeah.
Therefore if they seem like they're not paying attention,
they must not be. Those people would also answer
that question often or five. Yes, it happens out.
Nearly nearly constantly, you know, for the person as well.
Does it make sense? Yeah.
Like it's catching both of those people.
Yeah, I also think that like, I'm just going to say it like, I
think. I get really hung up on the
Linguistics because like that's my whole thing is like
Shakespeare specifically chose those words?
And so I think this is like one where they actually like
linguistically, they are like they're being I don't say sneaky
but they're definitely being I think more inclusive than in
some of the other ones, you know that.
Like it's just it's I think that's it's honestly, the seems
like it's just it's Pivotal. Yeah, it really is.
You know how do you mean an inclusive?
Because I mean literally exactly what you said like I think it
can say. I truly believe that my kid
isn't paying attention, or it looks like my kid isn't paying
attention, but maybe they are but externally, it seems.
Yeah, I mean, I think that's badass.
I've literally just that the same thing you did.
So no, I mean, I really think it's badass especially like, If
you were, if you were to be a parent or teacher or co-worker,
taking this survey about another person and your as into the
Linguistics of it, as you are and it's let's say it said,
often does not pay attention when spoken to directly.
If like, if it were you, you might think.
Well certainly it looks like they're not paying attention.
Yeah, but that's just my perspective.
You know what the hell do? I know like the more, the more
Well, this because I know people from, like my experience of like
constantly getting in trouble as a kid for like not looking like
I'm paying attention and it's like no bitch.
I've already read the entire textbook.
I'm bored look like in their pay attention or look like a big
attention. You get to pick one.
Hey, sorry. I used to do this thing.
Where I would take like, the the textbook which I had already
read and I would put another book like rate like here and I'm
like, hold it up with my tummy. So it would be like balance
between like the desk and my tongue.
And I would like look down and then it would look.
Like I was reading the textbook but I was actually reading
another book. I used to get in trouble for
that shit all the time. Well, here's the thing I got in
trouble for the most in school was sneaking other books under
the desk. Why it was like a whole thing?
Well, I got in trouble for bringing an exacto knife to
school. Because I was page-by-page
carving out an iPod shaped hole my books, so that I could put my
iPod in there and like, watch videos.
They're really funny. It was pretty fun.
That's a relief. I mean, what's funny is they
found the exact amount but they didn't find the book so I got to
finish the book. That's good and it worked.
I also found out that the little scroll wheels on iPods Works
through duct tape. So if you put duct tape because
it would fall out, oh yeah. And so I put a little duct tape
thing on there so that it would stay in there and it could still
scroll on the scroll wheel through the duct tape.
I like how we just told very similar but very different
sources. Like I used to read books while
reading the other book at the same time, there's like I carved
a hole. In mind for my iPod.
Well, it's because all I need is two people in this world.
It's because well it does this that my version of school worked
until we started being expected to read things that we didn't
discuss in class sure. You know when it was just like
the only way you're going to hear about this is if you do the
assigned reading, but before then it was just like if I
doodled and listened in class. It was just like Bing Bang.
Boom done. Yeah.
And I was fine. Like my test scores were always
really high, but my homework grades were always garbage
because ice actually, I just said this.
I never said this sentence before, but I said it to my
great, aunt, Jackie, who is the last surviving member of that
generation of my family, she's 90 years old but she's just
massively fucking well-educated red.
Like the probably the most well-read person I've ever met.
She's had more time than use. I was gonna say Time is like
Seattle, a huge head, start on you, but she, but she dropped
out of college because she was going to college for computer
science. Wait, I would have been in the I
don't know early 60s late 50s as a woman and so she was like,
nope, fuck all this bullshit. Sexism bullshit, I will learn
this on my own. So anyways, I said, I, I said
offhand to her like, oh, I dropped out of college to
because I love Learning. I just hate having to prove it
to some jackass like and that's what I always hated was like, I
loved learning. Learning is my favorite thing to
do of all time. What I hated was having to prove
it to some jackass. Like we would sit in class and
the teacher would be like two plus two equals four and it's
like okay and then they would go around the room.
Feel like what is two plus two equal for good job, right?
Gold star was to muster for good job gold star.
Here's a homework worksheet, do it tonight and bring it back
tomorrow. And it's just every question is
two plus two equals question mark and it's like, I'm not
going to, this is degrading. This is fucking degrading, man.
I'm not gonna do this, meanwhile.
I'm like, have you considered wrapping all of your self-worth
and self-esteem in the grade that you get from that
assignment? Pro tip do that, it's very
healthy. And then that way, when you stop
getting graded because you've graduated, you'll have nothing
to wrap yourself worth up. And, and it's really fun.
It's really fun. Really fun.
Way to live your life. Eric, it's good.
Oof Everything is a competition that I must win at all costs a
tree because I think, honestly, I think one of the reasons that
I didn't do assignments and didn't do reading is because I
did wrap my self-worth up into how well I did them.
And if I didn't do them that I never opened that door and chat.
That's that's a valid strategy. No.
I mean it's this is this is still the case for me now it was
in my careers and in my just life in general but I would
never like, do the outside reading or do the dumb fucking
worksheets? That they Would have us do
because even still I could do easily as well as everybody else
without having done any of that shit.
Yeah, but that would stand to reason that if I did do the
reading, then, would I be doing like way better?
You know? And I never wanted to find out
the actual answer that question. Like what if I did do all the
stuff and I wasn't as brilliant as I thought I was going to be
so I just would never answer that.
Question was the same thing with cooking like what if I did read
all the books on cooking and read into the history on my
craft and all that stuff. What, you know, what, if I'm
still not very good. Even then, you know what, if I'm
still just passable, like, I am now and I never wanted to answer
that question, so I didn't. You are the best cook?
I know. So.
Well, this is so I mean, I'm very biased in the, what the
kingdom of the blind. The one-eyed man is King is
listen, I like your food. Thank you.
You're welcome. I would eat at your restaurant.
Well, thank you very much. It's fine that was thing.
But yeah, I don't worry the fuck.
Are you talking about the Third? The third criteria, but it's
pretty good listener. We've been very specific that
these are spring boards and sometimes we'll just talk about
other stuff and that's okay, too.
Yeah, yeah. Also, how much time do we have?
Like, we were in courting for like an hour?
We're Going For 10-12 minutes. That's not true.
It's true. Really looking at the ticker?
Yeah. 12 minutes. He says, my time pretty cool.
Right ever realize. How about my time playing this
is? Do you know what I'm doing in
Minecraft? Now?
What? Just as just a springboard.
Fine. Somebody brought up in On my
twitch stream today, you know, so on my on my twitch stream,
dear listener, if you don't come to them, what are you doing?
Come on, come on, pushing amazing.
Good time. We talk about stuff.
Sometimes it's serious. Sometimes it's whimsical who
knows and the plugs are songs, but either way on those twitch
streams, you can donate bits. Each bit is like a Cent and as a
source of you, are you going B? And I've rigged up a bunch of
stuff such that certainly ENT See ENT.
I thought you were talking about like perfume and I was like,
what the fuck are you talking about?
That's not what you're doing. Oh gee, I was so confused era,
they're making like those, you know, those Glade plugins
things. Yeah, they're making those but
they activate like with your mind, you know, they're like
neurologically activated, you know, makes sense if you think
about it, fuck you. Anyways if you don't admit he's
a little Minecraft sheep or Mob, or animal will drop.
And then I'm all depends on what B you donated.
Anyways, so many my twitch streamers like, hey, on the
Quest Craft Server. What if you had like, all of us
go in front of a green screen. And then, when we're in your
Twitch streams, we could like, do anything to have our, that's
such a good idea, such a good fucking idea.
And so I'm starting. I'm building a building in
Minecraft, in the commercial District, that's called student
Studio. Googly, eye, Studio Ghibli, but
it's like a big Film Studio. Green screens for a fun.
That's really fun. It's worth much.
Stupid. Yeah, did you hear about that
actress? That got stabbed, like Reese,
something or other? Witherspoon.
No, with a knife. Wow, I don't, I don't, I'm
sorry. I hear you so much.
So this is the first one where we had to, like Vamp for time.
Which I feel like is a good is a good indicator that it's a.
It's a pretty okay. Well, it's a pretty okay with
themes. Well, what else would you like
to see in? Like let's say your dream DSM.
Well, I do want to point out that's like that's right.
Yes LT says Christ. That's the nerdiest.
Thing I've ever said in my life, but like, given that we're not.
Hey girl, why lay back? Tell me about your first.
Yeah, I'm finished. What do you think?
What do you want to hear in those pages?
Girl, it's gonna be cool, girl, but given that we're not like I
would like comma C Brown level experts on ADHD and ultimately
we're just yeah, we're some fucking schmoes.
I'm fucking schmoes. But still Even still.
What would you like to see? I would like to see you
rejection sensitivity addressed even if it's even if it is, just
like, Because I like, I mean, I have to try to really carefully
because again, I'm not, I'm just some fucking smell but I like I
mean I as somebody who lives with the effects of rejection
sensitivity like holy shit is real.
Like it is fucking real and if you look at the statistics you
know like Berkeley is like 95% of people with ADHD, you know.
Like another people are like 90s 80s like it's always like
exceptionally high but it's It's hard because it's like is it a
conversation about us symptomatic element of ADHD?
Or is it a symptomatic element of living with ADHD and a
society in which it is not? Okay?
Like we re talking about on toots like oh like pacing around
in the back of the room. Yeah.
Like where it's like not okay to do that.
And so like we become traumatized and that you know
the rejection sensitivity is just a collection of trauma
symptoms, you know? yeah, and so I think Inuk not
like some kind of acknowledgement about that.
I think that would be cool because that's a big one.
I also think I mean it's hard because it's like we were
talking about when we started this series is like eating
disorders. Are not a criteria for having
ADHD but they are incredibly common in people with ADHD like
the same was like addiction and so it's like I don't want to be
like, you know, isn't an addict is like a criteria for ADHD
because that's not what I'm saying.
But like some kind of acknowledgement about like, The
the incredibly high comorbidities in terms of like,
sleep difficulties and addiction issues.
I think that would be, I think that would be good, but I just,
I just, I'm honestly, like, I will, I will, I think it's
important to say when you don't know something, but I don't know
how to do that, because I'm not that kind of doctor.
I just played one on sot enough. Yeah.
I think I think we're in an interesting phase with it,
because did he SM is originally for for clinicians for
professionals. Yeah.
Like it's a perfect it was a book that doctors had on their
shelf like you ain't my grubby little hands on it.
Well will never be is the internet.
Anybody can read it at any time and fucking complain about it.
Like we know what we're talking about which isn't necessarily a
bad thing but it's just a thing. And so for example, like what I
would like to see is acknowledgement that like Well,
pretty much exactly what you said, just just acknowledging
that there's often other shit that comes with it.
Eh see, that isn't directly related to the diagnosed, which
they did do though. Like, I'm going to correct
myself because they did. Do that in the consensus
statement. Yeah, because that's the thing
is because I feel like one of the like, because the DSM is for
like diagnostic. Yes.
Literally this the diagnostic and statistical manual.
Yeah. And so, like the DSM is for
diagnosing, but then the consensus statement was like,
but also here's Everything else that we know about it like we
can concretely prove. And so there was a lot of
conversation in the consensus statement that's like addiction
and and right, you know, eating disorders and rejection
sensitivity, and that kind of stuff.
But I mean hot take. I do think we're talking
sensitivity should just be a criteria whether or not they
acknowledge it as like a separate thing or if they just
say, like trauma-based responses, to Rich, perceived
rejection, but I think it should be linking fucking nine.
Five percent because you don't have to have all fucking a
right? And it's like but that's like a
huge part of it for a lot of people especially in
conversation with executive dysfunction.
Yeah, I mean, I saw a spicy hot Heart, Take Heart.
Take was it? I think.
Yeah, as the DSM in this, this also might just be us because of
what we do for a living. Like, I've been so close to it.
Sorry. We're yes, we're really close to
you. So, so I'm maybe I'm sensing the
changing of winds that aren't actually there.
They're just there in the communities that we run in.
But it seems like the DSM is becoming more and more used by
non-professionals people who just want to look some shit up,
which is fucking great, but which makes me inclined to say
they should have more resources in there for, you know, hey, if
you testifies with ADHD, just know you're much more prone to
addiction. You're more prone.
To car accidents, you're more prone to eating disorders but
that's all stuff that's like after you Diagnosed you go by
the book and you read up more on it.
You know. It's like none of that
information that exists today. Oh yes.
Why would you bring up a book that could there be?
No we're not supposed to bring out of that supposed to talk
about. Okay we're definitely not
writing a book shut up. Nope shut up.
Its that's just for fake Sony made the I know where you heard
this jokes. It's a rumor.
There's no if the quest book coming out that's just a rumor
but Sergeant for example like saying in the cabinet we just
had a meeting today was very exciting.
We've talked about the book of the fleet has been willing are
doing. This is not his but was it?
Oh, so like putting something about rejection sense of
dysphoria or the higher likelihood of having problems
with addiction. If you have ADHD, like, putting
that stuff in the DSM entry for ADHD does not help professionals
diagnose. This are maybe I mean I'm not a
professional like I'm what I'm saying is ultimately, that's the
function of the book is to health professionals diagnosed.
So would it be helpful to professionals to have that stuff
in the DSM? I mean, they're professionals so
they already know that shit well, but, you know, the
assembly official thing, you know, I think the rejection
sensitivity one would because I think that there are some people
to wear like that is their most unlivable symptom, you know.
But like where is with like addiction or eating disorders or
something like that. That's like a specific.
Other thing that you are dealing with that is made much more
challenging by having ADHD like the propensity for having it or
not. Not, you know it's like are you
statistically more likely to get bronchitis you know like it's a
different thing but it's like you might have to handle it
differently. I have to remember to take my
meds or, you know, whatever the fuck.
And it also like there's so many, how does this?
There's so many thing presentations of ADHD else is
like behavior that presents itself with ADHD that could very
well be because of something else because of anxiety or
because of depression. Yeah.
Because of OCD like, totally. And the idea is that, The
symptom lists in the DSM are specific enough that you can
say. Oh, it is this and not this even
though there's a big Venn diagram, they're like, yeah,
because, you know, people who have ADHD do this, but people
with anxiety, don't do that. Therefore, we can tell that if
they have that then it must be ADHD and anxiety.
Yeah, a great Tick-Tock account. I was, I was debating that
saying their name, but I'm realizing, they said it in a
tick tock, so I can quote the wrong, because it's already
public. But DJ P.
JM D on. On Tick-Tock who's going to be
in the podcast. I just keep forgetting to
fucking schedule it because conventions and shit but he's a
doctor like a like a real ass motherfucking doctor
specializing in a specializing in ADHD coat and all real
doctor. And he when he talks about
rejection sense of dysphoria. He's talked before about how if
he's trying to, you know, narrow stuff down like perhaps it's
anxiety. Perhaps so City.
Who knows moving in closer. He says, he often looks for
rejected sensitive sensitive dysphoria, As a way of narrowing
it down to ADHD, which I found is really interesting.
So and we're in which is speaks to my point of would having an
entry about RSD in the DSM. Help people do to help
professionals diagnose ADHD perhaps it would I'd love to we
should we should have like a lot of professional people on the
podcast before the DSM comes out just so they could like
speculate wildly oh yeah about what we should do like a March
Madness but like that. She has some symptoms.
Oh my God. Like what?
DSM symptoms? You think?
We're going to stay where she will be.
Just make it like really stupid and weird be great we could
have, we could have Leslie PSI D and Daleks he jpj Alex dr.
Anna just have them all come in Riyadh and be like what do you
think get in March Madness? Pull.
What would you like to say? That would be.
That would be really fun. I'll start blasting out some
some some some messages that's like really got me.
Really good. Do you want to be in our March
Madness? I'm gonna spend this roster.
So what do you what do you call this brackets?
Brackets. March Madness bracket.
I'm about the DSM criteria. That's so silly.
We really should. I mean that would be really
good. I mean I was I mean that just
because that would be fun. But like a lot of these things I
think part of my frustration with with the DSM in general is
that I'm just not qualified to have real to have a put a lot of
weight behind my own opinion. Yeah.
Like I think I've always not really cared very much about
what I think about stuff which is ironic cause I have a fucking
podcast. We talk about anything about
stuff but that's because other people said they wanted.
To hear it. I wasn't just assuming but I've
never really cared what I think about specific, things like
that. Because what do I know?
Like I'm going to defer to the people that know more than me,
so it's kind of frustrating because it's something that's so
like important to me and dear to me, that people be able to be
diagnosed accurately and have a diagram and diagnosis be
accessible to people. But ultimately I'm not a doctor
and so I can't say that. That criteria is bad.
I can say what I don't like about it and perhaps whatever
whatever but I can't specifically safe.
For these clinical reasons, that should be different.
Yeah. That frustrates me?
Yeah, I get that. But, you know, I mean that makes
total sense where you going to do, what are you gonna do when
you go to do anyways we have what time is it is about.
It's about that but it's about that time Jordan to the patreon
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I don't know. I went down.
So, whoa, I've had a lot of coffee.
We gotta end this. What are we gonna do?
We gotta end this. Sometimes you start a thing
without realizing how you're gonna finish it.
Like when you said patreon family, you clearly were about
to say patreon but you realized member of the patreon is it
called a big tree on? It's called a patron but that's
not enough syllables so much I tried to bring weirdly good at
these and I don't know how to feel that good every everybody
from all of us here at infinite Quest.
Thank you so much for being here.
Thank you so much for supporting us.
Remember to eat a snack? Remember to drink some water.
Remember to take your meds? It's and remember to be kind to
yourself and to others. And most importantly, remember
that we love you.