Here's one of the greatest gifts all of us have, our language,
our ability to speak, our ability to frame words into such
a way that we create images and pictures.
Help someone to understand, help someone to become educated, help
someone to see what they couldn't see before.
It's almost God like in power. I've got 4 steps to achieve good
communication. Let's just do the fundamentals
here. There's not very many in fact
there's not very many fundamentals to anything just a
few handful 678 here's the first step to achieve good
communications number one have something good to say that's
step number one. It's fairly obvious to have
something good to say. Try to recall and remember and
take notes. Keep journal, whatever of your
experiences. Because as you live your life,
you're going to have something good to say.
One from your failures, 2 from your successes.
You're going to have something better to say from the mistakes
you've made and how you corrected it and bailed yourself
out. And sometimes, instead of just
registering it in your head, why not commit it to paper so that
it gets logged, it gets recorded, and someday you can
use it for the future. Have something good to say.
The key to speaking well, the key to excellent communications
is preparation. Actually, all of our life is
preparing this year, preparing for the next.
Those first what, 8-9 grades? Preparing for high school, then
high school. Preparing for college, college
and university. Preparing for a career, a career
to earn money, then preparing to make the investments to keep you
safe and secure. Build a financial wall around
your family. Nothing can get through always
preparing for those steps and stages in our life.
That's part of the game of life for humans.
It seems like it takes us longer to prepare.
When the little wildebeest is born, it only has about one hour
to get ready to run with the herd and escape the lions.
One hour. So the little wildebeest, as
soon as it's born, tries to stand up, falls down.
It's mother nudges it. Stand up, stand up, falls down.
Stand up. Come on, try again.
Why such urgency? The lions.
The lions are not very far away. Come on, come on, come on.
And within less than an hour. Within less than an hour, the
little wildebeest, brand new, just born, is now strong enough
to run with the herd and escape the lions.
Less than an hour. Human babies take a little
longer. After 17 years, we're not quite
sure they can escape all the lions and have a safe place to
go. So preparation.
Getting ready sometimes seems so laborious.
After going to grade one, now you got to go to grade 2.
After grade 2, it's grade 3. Will it never end?
Come on. One more grade.
Grade 4 and then 5. Wow, seems like it takes us
forever to finally get ready, you know, to design A life and
get married and have a family and a career and fortune and
future. But it takes preparation now to
communicate. Well.
Here's some good words to prepare for communication #1
interest. Just keep your interest alive in
people and places. If you'll develop an interest in
all of that when it's right side up and when it's upside down,
take a keen interest in the politics of the day and the
speeches and all that's happening.
It gives you good stuff to debate and decide where do you
stand on the major issues, not only the political issues, but
the major life issues. Be that kind of be that
interested in life and people. So underline the word life and
people. That's the whole study life.
Study life in all of its twists and turns.
Study people in all of their variety.
In being in an enterprise that you know, where you have to
employ people, get people to work with you, that's a
challenge. Different ages, different
different opinions, different personalities, different
temperaments. Here's one of the skills I
learned that paid me big money, getting people to work together
and see if they're all different in a whole variety.
How do you get them all to work together?
I'm telling you, it's not easy. It is a challenge organizing,
getting people to work together, but the pay, the paycheck, it's
unbelievable. Now, if you're working with
independent people, then it really is challenging.
It's like herding cats. Did you ever try that?
Herding sheep is easy. They all quickly get going the
same direction very quickly. Cats.
No way. If you've got 8 cats, how many
directions are they going? 8 different directions.
But if you can master herding cats, I promise you a paycheck
like you cannot believe. Here's what's interesting about
people. The ones who should do it the
most are inclined the least. How come they can't see it?
I don't know. I can see it.
They can't see it. Maybe right now they're not
supposed to see it. That that's the best.
I said sometimes you just got to take the easier way out.
I don't know if that's an easier way out than to try to explain
it all. That's just the way it is.
Somebody you thought was going to stay, they leave.
Here's what you have to learn to say.
Isn't that interesting? Wow.
And somebody that you thought was going to leave?
What, they stay and you say, I wouldn't have thought that in
100 years there's a surprise a day waiting for you working with
people. And then some people are nice
and some people are not so nice, but there's only a few.
When I first started in sales, Mr. Shoaf, my mentor, said,
here's the good news, Mr. Owen, there's only 9 or 10 real nasty,
miserable, horrible people in the world.
That's what he said. Now, he said they move around a
lot and you're liable to get one once in a while.
But when you do, you just say, hey, there's only nine more like
you. I can handle that the rest of my
life. That was really good.
And then sometimes you got to try a little wit and a little
humor. That helps.
When I first started traveling with Mark Hughes and Herbalife
21 years ago, one of my friends said to me, I heard some people
died using that product and I said not that many.
Now it was a silly comment that he made, so I had to think up a
silly answer. You can't give a, you know, an
honest answer. You know a good answer to a
silly comment. I said, I understand as long as
the deaths are under 100 a month, they get to keep selling
the product. If the numbers go over 100, they
have to come in for a review. Now, that was all silly
nonsense, but he deserved it, right?
His silly comment. I don't know.
Use a little humor. Somebody says this isn't going
to work for me. Say it was designed not to work
for some people. I don't know what?
What do I know? You know, what can I say?
I'm not a genius to figure this stuff out.
He's a student of life and people and all the varieties and
what's happening in the world. It's an interesting place to
live, and while you're here, learn all you can, study all you
can. Like the varieties.
Some people are easy and some are miserable.
Just learn how to handle all that.
Here's the next word to communicate well, and that's
fascination. It goes the step beyond just
interest. Be like a child fascinated with
everything. Next, sensitivity, trying to
understand where people are, where they're coming from, the
position they might be in at the moment, trying to understand.
A night visits us all after days, and some winters are tough
and some people are having tough times.
Be sensitive to all that. Next is simply knowledge.
Just gather every idea you can. That makes you a better
communicator. The storyteller tells us in the
beginning God spoke and said let there be light, and there was
light, giving us the indication that God's words can create
light. But now make this note, there's
more than one kind of light. Wow.
Next to the power of God creating light by his own words
is the power of all of us creating sight, which is light
in a form, helping somebody to see by using our language the
best we know how. What if somebody can't see, how
they could possibly be successful?
And you came along and told them your story, choosing the best
words you possibly could. And when you finished your story
they said, now I can see. Before you got here, I was
blind, couldn't see. Now that you've shared with me,
by your language, your story, now I can see.
Before you got here I was in the dark, and it seemed to me like
while you were talking, some things dawned on me.
Isn't that a good expression? Some things dawned on me like
the sun started coming up and the more you talked, the further
up the sun came and the brighter got the images and the
imagination, helping people to see.
That's one of the greatest gifts, the best wit in the world
was Winston Churchill, right? Lady Aster in the English
Parliament, exasperated one day with Winston Churchill.
She said, Winston, if you were my husband, I'd put poison in
your coffee. He said, Lady Aster, if you were
my wife, I would drink it now, whatever it takes.
Don't let anybody put you down. Words are so powerful if they're
framed right, if they're sent with sincerity.
Words that create images, words that express life, words that
express experiences, words that express gifts of ideas that
you've got to share. See that's that's some of the
greatest gifts you can bestow. And here's the best place to
start with your children. See if you can't inspire with
your own language. A better sense of the importance
of the day. A better sense of the importance
of doing the work. A better sense of the importance
of getting good grades, developing yourself, becoming
who you'd like to become. Do the disciplines now that'll
give you the joy later. Teaching is one of the greatest
senses of accomplishment in the world.
Helping somebody learn. Helping somebody take early
steps in a new career, early steps as an entrepreneur,
showing somebody the way, The gift of words, the gift of
language. Here's what the old prophet
said. Words are like a lamp for your
feet so you can see where to walk.
That's a gift. And then he said words are also
like a light for your pathway so you can see where to go.
If somebody with the gift of language and words can help you
to walk or you should walk and then show you a pathway to go.
They do you immeasurable service.
Who can calculate the value and the worth of that kind of
exercise, Showing somebody the steps to take and showing
somebody the way to go. That would be helpful.
Whether it's a way of good health, whether it's a way of a
better relationship, whether it's a way of an entrepreneur, a
refinement of career. Doesn't matter what it is if we
know the steps and somebody reveals to us the way.
See they do us by their own language.
Some of the greatest gifts we ever enjoy.
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