Here's something to remember under personal development.
Some things I had to learn. First steps to success.
First of all, you need good ideas.
Just decide right now you're going to accelerate your plan
for collecting good ideas. Ideas for your life, Ideas for
your health, Ideas for your marriage, your relationships.
Ideas that stimulate one idea sometimes lead to the leads to
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And the four or five ideas in the future that really thrust
acceleration into your life, you couldn't have gotten unless you
went through the first one and the second one and the third
one. Next, you need a good plan.
So we're going to talk about time management and game plans
tomorrow. Need a good health plan?
Traveling around the world? You can imagine the kind of
health plan I have to have if I didn't have a superb extreme.
Got to underline the word extreme.
If I didn't have a superb extreme health plan, you think I
could travel all over the world? People look at my calendar and
say impossible, I'm the only one that can do it.
Everyone else is too young. Incredible.
But I've got to be extremely healthy.
I can't let up at all in terms of diet and nutrition, exercise,
all that stuff in order to stay healthy.
So a good health plan, a good family plan, Here's a good one.
A good marriage plan. Some people just go along
married with their fingers crossed.
You've got to have a better plan than that.
Some are whistling in the dark hoping everything will work out.
Not, not a good plan. You need a good plan for how to
use the day. We'll talk about that tomorrow.
Best kept secret of the rich. How to use your time.
A good plan to meet the right people over the right amount of
time to stimulate your life. You need a game plan for
lifestyle. We'll talk about that later.
So to succeed, we need good ideas and good plans.
Here's the next We have to learn to handle the passing of time
because all of this takes time to learn, to grow, to change.
Getting through the seasons takes time.
The spring has a certain amount of time.
The summer has time. The harvest has time.
The winter has time. Learning to handle the passing
of time. Jot this down if you're involved
in business, you got to give your project time.
You've got to give your people time.
Give people a chance to learn. Chance to grow, chance to
change. One of the great requirements,
especially in such an industrialized, busy, mad
dashing society and that is to have people patience first.
We exercise it with our children and our family.
Getting people to work together. Got to have patience even with
your family. If you're involved with
independent people, it's it's a challenge.
It's like herding cats trying to get them to work together.
Herding sheep is easy. They very quickly get going the
same direction. But try herding cats.
It's like your children, different ages and different
personalities and different opinions to get the family all
going the same direction, kind of working together to make
things work. I'm telling you, it is a
challenge, but if you'll have some patience, you can do it.
Now here's the big one, to have patience with yourself.
Give yourself time to learn. Give yourself time to understand
good ideas. Give yourself time to make
changes and then grow into those changes.
Give yourself time to refine your personality to fit the
business, whatever business you're engaged in.
In some you may have to speak up a little stronger and some you
may have to calm down just a little bit more.
Just learn to refine your personality and your temperament
to suit. All of us can do that, but it
takes it takes time. Have patience with yourself.
We had to do that from the beginning, learning to tie the
shoe strings of your shoes. If you tried a couple of times
and says I'll never learn this, it's over.
Say no, you can't go through life with your shoes and tie.
Come on. Some people, maybe it happens
for them a little quicker than others.
Some people get the hang of it almost overnight.
Someone else, it takes a little longer.
If it takes you a little longer, have patience with yourself
because patience has its own reward.
Patience is a virtue of the extraordinary kind.
We have to have patience with our employers.
We have to have patience with government officials.
You got to have patience with IRS.
You got to have patience with the Army, You got to have
patience with the FBI. Here's a good thing to remember
while you're exercising patience.
Usually enough good people will finally make it right.
You just got to jot that down. Usually enough good people will
finally make it right. Not everyone in the community is
going to toe the line and do the moral thing.
But let me tell you what most will.
That's how we create a society that we can live in.
Most will. Every teenager will not obey all
the rules and regulations and live a model life.
Not everyone will. But jot this down, Most will.
Enough will when the good Lord recruited 12.
Not every disciple, not everyone of the 12, but it was enough of
the 12 to start a movement that's lasted for 2000 years.
Not everyone, but enough will. There's only been a couple of
exceptions to that. Rule 1 was the story of Sodom
and Gomorrah. God was going to destroy Sodom
and and Gomorrah for their evil ways.
Abraham had a friend that lived there, and Abraham implored and
said, God, if I can go to Sodom and Gomorrah and find 50
righteous people, will you spare the city and God, said Abraham,
you've been such an excellent friend of mine.
Yes, I'll spare the city if you can find 50.
So he searches the city, can't find 50 good people, comes back
and says, Lord, would you take 40?
God says Abraham for you, come on, I'll do it if you can find
40. So he searches for 40, can't
find 40, and he comes back and says, would you take 30?
Good Lord, says Abraham, only for you will I reduce it to 30.
Can't find 30, can't find 20, Abraham said.
This is my last request. Would you take 10?
God said only for you, Abraham. So he went searching for 10 and
you know the story, couldn't find 10.
That's the exception to the rule.
So he said, Abraham, get your friend Lot and his family out of
there because the end has come. But that's the exception to the
rule. So jot down the general rule.
Most will. In a civilized society, most
will obey the rules. In government, most will.
Not every senator will, but what enough will to build a stable
government and a future. Not everyone in the armed forces
will, but enough will. Not everyone in the community
will, but enough will. Not every teenager in this high
school will, but I'm telling you, the most will.
And that's how we survive in a civilized society because most
will. And that's a good feeling to
know. Most will.
OK, so have patience. Next under personal development
is learning to solve problems. By the way, having patience with
the seasons takes time to develop the crop.
You can't plant the seed, dig around it in a few days saying
where is it? Where is it?
And you can't really help. All you can do is nourish some
people plant in the spring, leave in the summer.
Just haven't got the patience to last.
So next comes solving problems. Business problems, family
problems, personal problems, financial problems, emotional
problems. There's all kinds.
Here's a good idea I found in solving problems every once in a
while. You've got to.
I haven't got it here, but I can just describe it for you.
Take a piece of paper, put a line down the center of the
paper, and on the left side describe the problem.
So just jot that down a piece of paper in half.
On the left side, describe the problem.
Sometimes it's a good idea to take a problem out of your head
and put it on paper. We'll talk a little bit more
tomorrow about how to think on paper.
This is one of the ways to think on paper.
Our mind usually is too busy sometimes to sort things out.
So if you take it out of your mind, put it on paper, what is
the problem? And you describe to the best of
your ability to what the problem is and then ask this question,
is that all of it? Because if you're going to
prescribe something for the problem, you need to know what
all of it is when you've got it all listed on the other side.
Now of the papers called answers and solutions, the problem on
one side, answers and solutions on the other side.
And now let me give you 3 questions, three questions that
can help solve most any problem. Here are those questions.
Number one, what could I do? So just jot that down.
What could I do? Then you start developing what
we call working papers. And the working papers consist
of making a list of the things you could do to solve this
problem #1 and you say, well, number one would take too long.
I can see that right now. Let's go to #2 maybe that's the
answer #3 no, that isn't it. And let's say you've got several
points now, and you've done your best to try to solve the problem
yourself, and you can't solve it yourself.
Here's the second question, what could I read?
Maybe somebody spent a lifetime researching the problem you've
got, and they've got some excellent answers from a
lifetime of research. Maybe in your own journal you've
taken notes before on something you say, hey, I remember a class
I took. Seems like there were some
answers there. So you go back, do a little
research. So under #2 is research and if
you search what you will find, if you research, you will find,
search and research. Now research as soon as possible
because if the problem is severe, you don't want to wait
till too late. My friend Kenny comes to me and
says you just lost a beautiful lady, fabulous lady.
They got a divorce. She was really something.
Then after his divorce, he comes to me and says you know it's
over. But he says you know something
strange. He said I found a book in my own
library that I think would have saved my marriage if I had read
it before my divorce, and it was a book entitled How to Live with
Another Person. He said I should have read that
book a long time ago. He finally read it, but it was a
little late. It's like reading a book on
nutrition after you've had a heart attack, right?
To me, that's good. That is good, but gosh, it's so
much better to read it before. Spare yourself the agony and the
lost time and maybe the loss of your life.
Now, if you, if you tried to solve it yourself and you can't
solve it and you've researched and it doesn't seem like you've
got the answer, here's #3 the third question is who could I
ask? Is there someone around me that
might have the answer to my problem?
Now under that put here, put this.
Don't ask first. Now try to solve it yourself.
Develop some working papers. What you think you might do That
still isn't it? Here's some books I've read.
This guy's crazy. This guy no answers.
Haven't got it. Now I ask.
But if you now can show your working papers to who you ask,
you can't believe how swift the answer will come.
All of us have heard this, but let's remind ourselves one more
time and put it in your notes. We all love to help people who
first of all try to help themselves.
Back to the philosophy of deserve.
I've tried to work it out, haven't got the answer.
Maybe you can help me. Somebody is very willing to help
you if they know you've tried first to help yourself.
It works that way with our children, right?
My daughter Linda, before she got married, used to travel a
lot. She comes to me and say, Daddy,
I'm headed for Thailand. I said wonderful.
She said, I've saved up my money.
I said fantastic, she said, I've got $1000.
I said wonderful. She said.
The kids wanted to go here, wanted to go there.
I didn't go. They wanted to buy this, wanted
to buy that. I didn't buy.
I got my money put aside, $1000. I said Linda, unbelievable, you
must be my daughter. That's fantastic.
Now she said to make the trip I only need a couple of thousand
more. An easy 2000, right?
But she knew she couldn't get the whole 3.
But she knew that if she worked hard to the best of her ability
and put that first thousand together, the next two was easy,
right? OK, so develop your working
papers. Do your best to solve problems.
Here's why you try to solve it on your own first.
You need the mental and emotional muscle.
You need the discipline. If you just quickly go to the
answer, somebody that's got it now you're not developing the
muscle, you're not developing the discipline to solve your own
problems because there may come a day when there's no one else
to ask. So you need the rhythm of
learning, the rhythm of trying, the rhythm of seeing if you can
do it first to build the emotional mental muscle, OK.