Now to her again get through because we have so many subjects
to cover. Let's cover.
Now some other things under personal development.
Here's one that's important as you read and as you listen in as
you study and as you grow and as you take notes, and as you fill
up your journal and then try to work on the ideas to make
yourself valuable in the marketplace.
Here's something to remember under personal development, some
things I had to learn. First steps to success.
First of all, you need good ideas.
Just decide right now. You're going to accelerate your
plan for collecting. Good ideas, ideas for your life,
ideas for your health ideas for your marriage or relationships.
Ideas that stimulate one idea sometimes lead to these to the
next needs to the next. And the 45 ideas in the future
that really thrust acceleration into your life.
You couldn't have gotten unless you went through the first one
in the second one, and the third one.
Next you need. Good plans.
We're going to talk about time management.
Game plans tomorrow. Need a good health plan
traveling around the world. You can imagine the kind of
Health Plan. I have to have if I didn't have
a superb, extreme got underline, the word extreme.
If I didn't have a superb, extreme Health Plan, you think I
could travel all over the world? People, look at my calendar and
say impossible. I'm the only one that can do it.
Everyone else is too young. Incredible.
But I've got to be extremely healthy.
I can't let up at all in terms of diet and nutrition exercise.
All that stuff in order to stay healthy.
So a good health plan, a good family plan.
Here's a good one, a good marriage plan.
Some people just go along married with their fingers
crossed. You got to have a better plan
than some are whistling in the dark.
Hoping everything will work out, not not a good plan.
You need a good plan for how to use the day.
We'll talk about that tomorrow. Best kept secret of the rich.
How to use your time. A good plan to meet the right
people, over the right amount of time, to stimulate your life.
You need a game plan for lifestyle.
We'll talk about that. Later.
So, to succeed, we need good ideas and good plans.
Here's the next, we have to learn to handle the passing of
time. Because all of this takes time
to learn to grow to change. Getting through the seasons
takes time. The spring has a certain amount
of time, summer. That's time.
Harvest has time. The winter has time learning to
handle the passing of time dot this down.
If you're involved in business, you've got to give your project
time. You've got to give your people
time. Give people a chance to learn
chance to grow chance to change. One of the great requirements,
especially in such an industrialized busy, mad dashing
society and that is to have people patience.
First, we exercised it with our children or family.
Getting people to work together. Got to have patience even with
your family. If you're involved with
independent people, it's a challenge.
It's like herding cats trying to get them to work together.
Herding sheep is easy. They very quickly, get going the
same direction, but try herding cats.
It's like your children, different ages and different
personalities and different opinions to get the family.
All, go in the same direction kind of working together to make
things work. I'm telling you.
It is a challenge. But if you'll have some
patience, you can do it. Now.
Here's the big one to have patience with yourself.
Give yourself time to learn. Give yourself time to
understand, good ideas. Give yourself time to make
changes and then grow into those changes.
Give yourself time to refine, your personality to fit the
business, whatever business you're engaged.
In some you may have to speak up a little stronger and some you
may have to calm down just a little bit more.
Just learn to refine your personality and your temperament
to suit. All of us can do that, but it
takes, it takes time. Have patience with yourself.
We had to do that from the beginning, learning to tie the
shoe strings of your shoes. If you tried a couple of times
and says, I'll never learn this. It's over.
See. No, you can't go through life
with your shoe's. Untied.
Come on. Some people.
Maybe it happens for them. A little quicker than others.
Some people get the hang of it. Almost overnight, someone else.
It takes a little longer. If it takes you a little longer
have patience with yourself. His patience has its own reward.
Patience is a virtue of the extraordinary kind.
We have to have patience with our employers.
We have to have patience with government officials.
You got to have patience with IRS.
You got to have patience with the Army.
You got to have patience with the FBI.
Here's a good thing to remember. While you're exercising
patients. Usually enough, good people will
finally make it, right. You just gotta jump that down,
usually enough. Good people will finally make it
right. Not everyone in the community is
going to toe the line and do the moral thing.
But let me tell you what most will.
That's how we create a society that we can live in.
Most will every teenager will not obey all the rules and
regulations and live a model life.
Not everyone will but jot, this down most will enough will When
the good Lord recruited 12, not every disciple.
Not every one of the twelve. But it was enough of the 12 to
start a movement that's lasted for two thousand years, not
everyone. But enough.
There's only been a couple of exceptions to that rule.
One was the story of Sodom and Gomorrah.
God was going to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah for their evil
ways. Abraham had a friend that lived
there and Abraham implored and said God, if I can go to Sodom
and Gomorrah and find 50 righteous people.
Will you spare the city? And God said, Abraham, you've
been such an excellent friend of mine.
Yes. I'll spare the city if you can
find 50. So he searches the city can't
find 50, good people comes back and says, Lord, would you take
40? God, says Abraham for you, come
on, I'll do it. If you can find 40, so he
searches for 40, can't find 40. and he comes back and says,
would you take 30? Good Lord, says Abraham only for
you. Well, I reduce it to 30, can't
find 30, can't find 20. Abraham said, this is my last
request. Would you take 10?
God said only for you, Abraham. So, he went searching for 10 and
you know, the start couldn't find him.
That's the exception to the rule.
So he said, Abraham, get your friend lot and his family out of
there because the end has come. But that's the exception to the
rule. So, job down the general rule
most will in a civilized society.
Most will obey the rules in government, most will not every
Senator will, but what enough will to build a stable
government in the future? not everyone in the armed forces
will, but enough will not everyone in the community will,
but enough with Not every teenager in this High School
will but I'm telling you the most will.
And that's how we survive in a civilized society because most
will and that's a good feeling to know, most will.
Okay. So, have patience.
Next, under personal development is learning to solve problems.
By the way, having patience with the seasons takes time to
develop the crop. You can't plant the seed dig
around it in a few days saying, where is it?
Where is it? And you can't really help.
All you can do is a nourish. Some people planted spring leave
in the summer. Just haven't got the patience to
last. So next comes solving problems,
business problems, family problems, personal problems
financial problems, emotional problems.
There's all kinds. Here's a good idea.
I found in solving problems every once in a while.
You've got to got it here, but I can just describe it for you.
Take a piece of paper, put a line down the center of the
paper and on the left side, describe the problem.
So just jot that down a piece of paper in half on the left side,
describe the problem. Sometimes it's a good idea to
take a problem out of your head and put it on paper.
We'll talk a little bit more tomorrow about how to think on
paper. This is one of the ways to think
on paper are mind usually is too busy, sometimes to sort things
out. So if you take it out of your
mind, put it on paper. What is the problem?
And you describe to the best of your ability to what the problem
is? And then ask this question, is
that all of it? Because if you're going to
prescribe something for the problem, you need to know what
all of it is, when you've got it all listed on the other side.
Now of the papers called answers and solutions.
The problem on one side answers and Solutions on the other side.
And now let me give you three questions.
Three questions that can help solve.
Most any problem here. Are those questions number one?
What could I do? So just jot that down.
What could I do? Then you start developing what
we call working papers. And the working papers consists
of making, a list of the things you could do to solve this
problem. Number one.
And you say, well, number one would take too long.
I can see that right now. Let's go to number 2.
Maybe that's the answer. Number three, no, that isn't it.
And let's say you've got several points now and you've done your
best to try to solve the problem yourself and you can't solve it
yourself. Here's the second question.
What could I read? Maybe somebody spent a lifetime
researching, the problem. You've gotten?
They've got some excellent answers from a lifetime of
research. Maybe in your own journal.
You've taken notes before on something you say.
Hey, I remember a class. I took seems like there were
some answers there. So you go back do a little
research. So under number two is research.
and if you search what you will find, if you research You will
find search and research. Now research as soon as possible
because of the problem is severe.
You don't want to wait till too late.
My friend Kenny comes to me and says he just lost a beautiful
lady. Fabulous lady.
They got a divorce. She was really something.
Then after his divorce, he comes to me and says, you know, it's
over but he says, you know, something strange.
He said, I found a book in my own library that I think would
have saved my marriage. If I had read it before my
divorce. And it was a book entitled how
to live with another person. He said, I should have read that
book a long time ago. He finally read it, but it was a
little late. It's like reading a book on
nutrition after you've had a heart attack right to me.
That's good. That is good.
But gosh, it's so much better to read it before.
Spare yourself, The Agony and the lost time and maybe the loss
of your life. Now, if you tried to solve it
yourself and you can't solve it, and you've researched, and it
doesn't seem like you've got the answer.
Here's number three. The third question is, who could
I ask? Is there someone around me that
might have the answer to my? Problem.
Now, under that put here, but this don't ask first now.
Try to solve it yourself. Develop some working papers,
which you think you might do that, still, isn't it?
Here's some books. I've read this guy's crazy.
This guy. No answers.
Haven't got it. Now, I asked, but if you now can
show your working papers to who you ask, you.
Can't believe how swift the answer will come.
All of us have heard this, but let's remind ourselves, one more
time, and put it in your notes. We all love to help people.
Who first of all, try to help themselves.
Back to the philosophy of deserve.
I've tried to work it out. Haven't got the answer.
Maybe you can help me. Somebody is very willing to help
you if they know you've tried first to help yourself.
It works that way with our children, right?
My daughter Linda before she got married used to travel a lot.
She comes to me and say, Daddy. I'm headed for Thailand.
I said wonderful. She said I've saved up my money.
I said fantastic. She said I've got a thousand
dollars. I said wonderful.
She said the kids wanted to go here one to go there.
I didn't go. They wanted to buy this one to
buy that. I didn't buy.
I got my money, put aside thousand dollars.
I said, Linda unbelievable. You must be my daughter.
That's fantastic. Now.
She said to make the trip. I only need a couple of
thousand. More.
An easy 2000, right? But she knew she couldn't get
the whole three, but she knew that if she worked hard to the
best of her ability and put that first thousand together, the
next to is easy, right? Okay.
So develop your working papers. Do your best to solve problems?
Here's why you try to solve it on your own first.
You need the mental and emotional muscle.
You need the discipline. If you just quickly, go to the
answer somebody that's got it. Now, you're not developing the
muscle. You're not developing the
discipline to solve your own problems because there may come
a day when there's no one else to ask.
So you need the rhythm of learning the rhythm of trying,
the rhythm of seeing, if you can do it first to build emotional
mental muscle. Okay.