1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,800 This episode is brought to you in part by spiritpieces.com. 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:07,480 Beautiful cremation, jewelry and glass art pieces for people and 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:09,880 pets. You can find them online at 4 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:13,760 spiritpieces.com, or head on over to our Every Widow Thing 5 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:17,120 Instagram page and check out the highlight that's labeled 6 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:19,360 sponsors. And please let them know you 7 00:00:19,360 --> 00:00:21,600 heard about their company through the Every Widow Thing 8 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:25,600 podcast. This is every widow thing. 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:32,600 It's time for Part 2 of Ashes, Ashes We all hold Frank where we 10 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,600 discuss some very unique things you can do with your loved ones, 11 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:39,280 Ashes. I was curious about Holly has a 12 00:00:39,280 --> 00:00:44,360 necklace with some about. I would love to create maybe 13 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:48,040 like a piece of jewelry or something for my kids. 14 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:52,920 I'm not this is controversial. I'm sure I'm not a huge tattoo 15 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:55,120 person myself. I don't judge anyone that does 16 00:00:55,120 --> 00:00:57,720 that. But I wouldn't mind having 17 00:00:57,720 --> 00:01:01,480 someone having a piece of jewelry or something with the 18 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:04,200 ashes and I haven't even looked into this, but you guys. 19 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:09,880 Talked about. So I, Toby and I met this 20 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:14,440 jewelry designer in San Francisco that makes 21 00:01:14,720 --> 00:01:19,600 reliquaries. Those are like back in Victorian 22 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:21,880 time. You would take some a sacred 23 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:27,520 object and put glass over it. So so. 24 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:31,320 Yes. So when Toby was still alive, he 25 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:36,640 our cats died. They kind of died around the 26 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:39,720 same time, so know. Why I'm laughing? 27 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:41,560 He reached. Out to in. 28 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:43,000 This is her name. We're now talking. 29 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:45,440 About cats. So the jewelry designer's name 30 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:48,520 is Alex Blue. She owns a shop called Modern 31 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:54,000 Relics in San Francisco, and I have so many pieces by made by 32 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:59,400 her. And so Toby sent the cat hair to 33 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:05,160 Alex, and I have a necklace with my cat's hair, and then little 34 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:09,479 gold, teeny teeny tiny initials for their names. 35 00:02:10,199 --> 00:02:12,960 And we should. Probably put a picture of this. 36 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,280 I know. On there because it's pretty in 37 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:18,040 person, but if you hear about it, a bunch of hair and a neck 38 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:18,960 it. Sounds all. 39 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:19,960 It's hair. Yeah. 40 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,600 No, you would never know her, Never know what it is. 41 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:24,640 So. Very pretty to your. 42 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:27,360 Toe. OK, so flash forward. 43 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:28,600 Oh. It has beautiful jewelry. 44 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:30,160 In general, she has great taste. She. 45 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:32,120 Is our jewelry. Person for sure. 46 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:39,800 So we're in the at the Funeral Home after Toby died and I'm 47 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:44,120 like yeah, I want, I want the cheapest box for to be burned on 48 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:47,800 you know whatever. And and I said and can I have 49 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,760 some of his hair. I haven't told you all this yet, 50 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:54,480 so I not only have his ashes, I have. 51 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,080 I have hair. I have hair. 52 00:02:56,280 --> 00:03:02,360 And so I didn't ask. I went to San Francisco a couple 53 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:08,280 years after he died and saw Alex, and I took ashes and hair. 54 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:14,120 And you know, she was very close to Toby because he would call 55 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:18,840 her every year around my birthday or Christmas and have a 56 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:21,960 piece made for me. So she knew him very well. 57 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:28,480 And this went on for years. And so I went to San Francisco 58 00:03:28,920 --> 00:03:33,680 and took the ashes and hair, Just a little thing. 59 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:38,920 OK, so so I was able to get into the box where the ashes were, 60 00:03:39,000 --> 00:03:41,840 Karen. So I was not the same kind of 61 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:43,520 box. As you need help with my box. 62 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:48,920 So I I got into the. Box that's got to be cut out my. 63 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:51,840 Toby's box is a little nicer than Frank's box, Frank. 64 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:53,560 'S box is definitely just a plastic. 65 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:57,680 Box. So I got into the I got into the 66 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:02,360 ashes and I scooped a little tiny bit out. 67 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:09,040 And so I have a ring that Alex made for me that has Toby's 68 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:13,640 ashes in them, but I she still has his hair. 69 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:15,560 We. She made something for herself 70 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:18,240 with his hair. I know I need to. 71 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:22,280 I'm going to send her the link to this podcast and tell her you 72 00:04:22,280 --> 00:04:25,800 still have Toby's hair. But I could never decide what I 73 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:29,840 wanted. Like I wanted a ring because we 74 00:04:29,840 --> 00:04:34,680 did the ring with the ashes, because I wanted a ring to put 75 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:37,400 on my ring finger, 'cause I took my Are you? 76 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:38,920 Wearing the ring right now, too. Yeah, yeah. 77 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:41,320 But. You know what's strange is the 78 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:43,040 Funeral Home sent me the hair or who? 79 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:45,120 Somebody sent me the hair. I didn't ask for it. 80 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:47,200 Really. No, I didn't ask for anything. 81 00:04:47,200 --> 00:04:48,560 I didn't know how any of that works. 82 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:50,880 Once you're at the hospital, they take the body away. 83 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:52,240 I don't know what happens after that. 84 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:53,920 And then there we are at the funeral. 85 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:55,440 There we are. Interesting you didn't ask. 86 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:56,680 For it? No, I didn't ask for. 87 00:04:56,720 --> 00:04:58,560 It's in. I'm glad though, I mean. 88 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,160 Change like, was it just like, hey, there's just an envelope 89 00:05:01,160 --> 00:05:02,720 gets like, slid across the table I. 90 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:05,640 Don't remember. I mean like everything else. 91 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:07,120 In a safe place. Don't. 92 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:12,000 I don't remember any of it. I I remember later seeing it, 93 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,360 but just yeah, there's so much that happened. 94 00:05:14,480 --> 00:05:18,320 Yeah, you know, I don't know what I would want to do with his 95 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:22,240 hair. Well, I have some unusual 96 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:27,600 options for Ashes that I'm going to share with you guys, but I do 97 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:29,680 have one other question about Ashes. 98 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:33,560 So you haven't been able to break open your box, Kira, So 99 00:05:33,560 --> 00:05:37,400 nobody's getting any of Frank's ashes unless you can get in. 100 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:37,800 I'm. Sure. 101 00:05:38,080 --> 00:05:39,960 No, I'm going to get in this summer. 102 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:40,400 I'm. Sure you. 103 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:43,160 Could call the 10 year anniversary, I may just go over 104 00:05:43,160 --> 00:05:45,440 there and be like open this thing for me please 'cause 105 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,280 they're local. Let my husband out. 106 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:50,920 But let you know. And his sister and his parents 107 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:52,680 have asked for some. So I mean, I got to get that 108 00:05:52,680 --> 00:05:55,160 figured out. And then, Holly, what about, oh, 109 00:05:55,200 --> 00:05:56,480 and your kid? You want the? 110 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:59,280 Do you think your kids like the? Jewelry idea. 111 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,320 Maybe we don't have any hair. I mean, yeah, Frank was pretty 112 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:03,080 bald. He was bald. 113 00:06:03,480 --> 00:06:07,400 I thought about doing little bit of like putting some ashes, 114 00:06:07,720 --> 00:06:11,920 having something made for the boys like I don't know a key 115 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:16,200 chain, like a little, I don't know something on a key chain. 116 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:18,200 I was trying to think what would be. 117 00:06:18,200 --> 00:06:21,440 I mean I haven't done it because I haven't come up with what it 118 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:23,840 would be. I think Thomas would. 119 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:25,440 Wear a necklace? For sure. 120 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:29,560 He would wear something. Yeah, I know the girls would. 121 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:35,520 It can get very expensive to do jewelry, but I think they're 122 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,600 finding ways to to make it less expensive. 123 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:42,680 I found this great place when I was doing research for this 124 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:49,560 episode called spiritpieces.com Beautiful cremation jewelry and 125 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:52,000 glass art. They have so many different 126 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:57,320 options and tons of five star reviews. 127 00:06:57,320 --> 00:07:00,360 So people are really happy with them because it it is kind of 128 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:04,480 it's got to be a little daunting to to just ship your ashes off 129 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:06,840 to somebody. But anyway there are definitely 130 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:12,960 some more reasonably priced options out there for jewelry or 131 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:17,040 other, you know, other things that you can do besides jewelry 132 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,880 like the cremation glass art, but jewelry and glass art, 133 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:23,080 that's just one way you could go. 134 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:27,240 I actually found a lot of interesting options here. 135 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,000 First of all, look, if you want a truly unique send off, you 136 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:36,640 could just strap your ashes to some fireworks and have a 137 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:39,640 fireworks display. Yeah, that's not. 138 00:07:39,920 --> 00:07:44,680 I mean that's kind of fun, you know, at the celebration of life 139 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:46,000 are y'all are just staring at me. 140 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:50,040 Like, no all of all. Of your. 141 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,280 Services all of these things that I'm suggesting. 142 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:56,600 Just go on Google and and check it out because they're offered 143 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:01,400 everywhere and I don't want to give any specific spots because 144 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:03,520 wherever you live you'll be able to find something. 145 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,760 Another option is the jewelry, the memorial jewelry. 146 00:08:08,120 --> 00:08:12,560 Holly, your ring is more of like a capsule type thing that has 147 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,480 some ashes in it. Kind of looks like a mood ring a 148 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,240 little bit. It's a reliquary. 149 00:08:18,240 --> 00:08:24,280 Yes, a reliquary, but you can also have your loved ones ashes 150 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:33,400 created into a a diamond or some sort of a gem that you put, you 151 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:36,159 know. On it I want to add the the 152 00:08:36,159 --> 00:08:40,760 ashes in my ring also have sparkly white glitter has in 153 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:44,640 there so it makes it look pretty so it's not like. 154 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:46,520 No, we're going to. We'll put a picture of it. 155 00:08:46,680 --> 00:08:49,760 On our Instagram, you know. Just a ring full of dirt. 156 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:53,600 It's just a dirt ring. That's why we should put it on 157 00:08:53,600 --> 00:08:55,040 the Instagram so they could see it. 158 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:56,800 It's very. Pretty It is very I. 159 00:08:57,040 --> 00:08:59,680 Never would have thought the. Way that she does that because 160 00:08:59,680 --> 00:09:01,880 it's mixed. In and you would think that you 161 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:05,000 need okay. First of all, for those who 162 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:09,480 don't have ashes, you actually get a lot of ashes. 163 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:11,000 This is I it's. Heavy. 164 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:12,360 It's heavy. But it's. 165 00:09:12,680 --> 00:09:13,600 Yeah, it's. It's. 166 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:14,880 Gotta be it's a. Lot. 167 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:18,320 And so when you use these ashes. At least £15 to. 168 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:21,880 Create jewelry or something you've you haven't even barely 169 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,480 scratched the surface. Like you can do all of these 170 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:26,840 things and still have. Some I got a lot of ashes over. 171 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:28,960 Here to the cat. Yeah, oh, we're the cat. 172 00:09:29,160 --> 00:09:32,600 I would love to hear from our listeners like who did what? 173 00:09:32,600 --> 00:09:37,080 Like who did I did burials, what and what age you are because? 174 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:41,280 Shake it like. And I also. 175 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:43,720 Like from different countries. Since we're in. 40 different. 176 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:46,080 Countries now. Yeah. 177 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:49,120 We the people, different cultural What are the different 178 00:09:49,120 --> 00:09:51,400 cultural differences? What do you do like? 179 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:53,680 Yeah, you know, you deal. The countries, what do they do? 180 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:57,160 Right, all right. Another option for your loved 181 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,960 ones Ashes is you could take them on a trip around the world, 182 00:10:00,680 --> 00:10:02,960 just like Frank got in the car today. 183 00:10:03,120 --> 00:10:04,760 You don't have to take the whole box. 184 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:09,200 You can take a little bit of it, but then you can scatter it at 185 00:10:09,200 --> 00:10:11,880 all the places that you know, like Hunter and I never got to 186 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:14,400 go to Italy, but it would kind of be interesting to give. 187 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:16,800 It to Roger, he's a. Little bit of ashes over there. 188 00:10:16,960 --> 00:10:20,600 I have probably widows that travel with little portions with 189 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:24,160 Baggies and sprinkle like so they're on the trip with them or 190 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:26,920 they're. Yeah, I think that's nice, Toby 191 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:28,120 put. It in your carry on so they 192 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:30,000 don't lose this. That'd be really. 193 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:31,440 What were you going to say, Toby? 194 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:36,600 Toby he was 49 when he died and was he wanted to go to 195 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:41,680 Australia, New Zealand, Australia and New Zealand for 196 00:10:41,680 --> 00:10:45,440 his 50th and so I'm going to take him. 197 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:48,360 Some point planning a trip to Machu Picchu. 198 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,240 I should take him, but I'm sure you have to be careful. 199 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,760 I'm I'm sure there are. You can just. 200 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:55,400 Well, you're. Not taking the. 201 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:57,280 Whole box. I mean pepper a little. 202 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,880 Bit a little back. I wonder like. 203 00:10:59,880 --> 00:11:02,800 At the airport, if they've like, 'cause they do look, if you have 204 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:06,120 like, medications and you're like, this is ashes, I wonder 205 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:08,760 what that would look like at the airport in certain countries. 206 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:11,720 Because I know that if you have a a prescription and you're 207 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:14,240 traveling in certain parts of Europe, yeah, they find it. 208 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:17,120 You better have a doctor's note. It isn't just what's I just 209 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:19,440 learned that travel. With the death certificate to 210 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:23,960 prove the yes, actually the yeah, Holly and I both got 211 00:11:23,960 --> 00:11:26,520 tattoos of our husband's handwriting. 212 00:11:26,720 --> 00:11:31,040 But you can actually get a tattoo mixed with your loved 213 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:35,360 one's ashes and do the tattoo with the ashes. 214 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:38,280 So if I had known that, I probably would have done that. 215 00:11:38,640 --> 00:11:39,640 My husband died. A Group? 216 00:11:39,680 --> 00:11:42,240 A strip I'm not doing. Yeah, maybe I don't do that for 217 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:46,000 him. Another cool interesting thing 218 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:48,640 to do with your loved one's ashes is you can shoot them into 219 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:52,000 space. Apparently that is an option. 220 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:56,400 There are. Yeah, I'm sure some of this is 221 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:57,480 very expensive. I don't have the. 222 00:11:57,480 --> 00:12:02,560 Price, Elon. This particular place uses 223 00:12:02,560 --> 00:12:06,200 meteorological balloons filled with helium to carry 224 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,600 biodegradable urn to the edge of space. 225 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:12,680 Once the balloon reaches 100,000 feet, it bursts and scatters the 226 00:12:12,680 --> 00:12:17,920 ashes across the Earth. So that's one option. 227 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:18,720 I don't know. Yeah, Are you? 228 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:20,600 Buy a seat on and. Then on. 229 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:21,560 Somebody. Spaceship. 230 00:12:21,560 --> 00:12:24,040 What about the place that you can make diamonds? 231 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:26,320 Yeah. So there are places that where 232 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,320 you can make diamonds. The jewelry can get very, very 233 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:32,920 expensive. If you're creating a gym, I 234 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:38,200 found a place where they will make glass art to put on, like a 235 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:42,240 paperweight or a beautiful Hummingbird. 236 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:44,440 Or. You know, things like that. 237 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:48,160 And it was in the $200 range and it was very, very beautiful. 238 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:51,520 You can also put your ashes and make them into a sculpture. 239 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:54,520 There's lots of artsy things that you can do. 240 00:12:54,560 --> 00:12:57,960 But yeah, that I really liked the idea of creating art Glass. 241 00:12:57,960 --> 00:13:00,160 And they had. Go on Etsy and type in. 242 00:13:00,360 --> 00:13:02,600 I just. Went in Google and typed in. 243 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:07,280 What can I do with these ashes? Yeah, and all these different 244 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:10,160 ideas came up, so. Like, there's no rush. 245 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:14,720 I obviously I'm we're coming up on 10 years and I'm just now 246 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,360 thinking about it and maybe there are people that dive in 247 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:18,760 sooner but. Whenever. 248 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:21,800 Yeah, they're not going bad. They're not rashes, especially 249 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:23,400 in there's no. Expiration date. 250 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:26,840 There's wait, let me. Check the box, maybe there is an 251 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:29,080 expiration. Date they've already expired 252 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:31,400 maybe. For eating them, they're. 253 00:13:31,680 --> 00:13:34,040 Fully expired. Our husbands are expired. 254 00:13:34,360 --> 00:13:38,280 They are, definitely. There's a 1800 number on here. 255 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:41,240 People need to know how to get in that box. 256 00:13:42,320 --> 00:13:45,200 All right, well, there you go. 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