Just get through the day. This is every widow thing.
Hey everyone, I'm Whitney from Every Widow thing and we are
back. With another episode.
We have so many great ideas to share with you, but I think
we're going to start with something lighthearted the the
shows that we're watching right now.
Kyra, you thought this would be a good topic because?
Well, I think because it's February and it's kind of a time
of year when everyone's hunkered down some.
Depending on where you live, weather's not great.
A lot of new shows to watch. I feel like when I run into my
friends, whether we're walking or working out or whatever, it's
always like, what are you watching?
What are you watching? Well, and you said something
about, you know, and I'm guilty of this.
You watch shows that then work you up and get your cortisol
levels all. Yeah, that's something that I
was noticing too. I think at this age, like
Brendan likes to watch really action-packed.
You know, one example is we've been watching Land Man and we
were watching American Primeval, and both of these shows have a
lot of drama and violence and they kind of tend to stress me
out, feel like if I'm watching this late at night, it can
affect my ability to fall asleep.
So anyway, so I like to watch more lighthearted thing.
I need some new ideas 'cause I just finished watching.
What I was? Watching younger.
So it's. Fun it's a fun fantasy like I
mean, let's be honest well, I'll just speak for myself.
I always imagine being younger and how much fun I would have
knowing what I know now. And she's actually doing it and
she's getting to have, she's got these younger friends, she's
dating younger men, she's getting a do over.
And and of course, then it's in publishing, which is like super
sexy and. Well, I'm going to add to the
younger thing that I thought was really funny because one time I
lied on the dating app so that you'd make the the 55 like
whatever, like 45 to 55 because it's done in decades most
people, right. So you wanted to, and Oliver was
nine years younger. So I was thinking, you know, I
want to be somewhere around my age, but not 2, like not 20
years or whatever, but on younger, This is a woman who
lied about her age, like, in a significant way, right?
And the people kind of forgave her.
But yet on the dating apps, if you lie for like a year or two,
they get really upset. Like, what else are you lying
about? So that part of you.
Lie on the dating app. You just put a different age
like it's devastating. You can only do it once.
Change your age. No, you just start it out.
You. Start.
Yeah, I've started rewatching Schitt's Creek, which is
hilarious about show, Yeah. When I really like, which has
some dark humor which I think goes along with everyone a thing
a little bit is bad sisters. Oh yeah, I'll.
Watch you as that if that is super fun.
There's two seasons, there's some death.
He definitely some death. It's basically the tell the
synopsis to everybody. Well, it's just it's in Ireland,
which is kind of different and cool.
And oh, Holly's been to the bar that they plot the murder in or
whatever they're doing. I don't want to get too much
away because we want you guys to.
But one sister is married to a jerk.
Yeah. The show is.
Really. Cute.
And they, you know, hilarity ensues.
It's, I thought it was fun. That's the kind of show I'm kind
of drawn to. There's so bad humor.
There's some darkness. I'm not worried about myself.
You guys are watching the fluff every Friday or Saturday night.
If I'm home one or the other one night I'll watch Dateline.
It's murders and it puts me to sleep.
The anchor. As soon as he starts talking I
can feel myself getting really sleepy.
So I, I do think a lot of you find them kind of soothing.
It's weirdly soothing because, and maybe it's because if your
life is like horrible, it kind of makes you feel a little bit
better about yours. Amazing.
I think that's what I'm watching in the evenings is that kind of
stuff. I'm not watching the Fluffy, the
Youngers or not much. I sort of like that shows sort
of along those lines that make you go wow, like like I've been
watching Scamanda. That's not a.
Feel good show, though it's not a feel good.
Speaking of feel good, we all sat down last night here in
Round Top in our PJS and we put on the new Bridget Jones movie
about the boy. Mad about the boy?
First of all, if you don't, if
you haven't watched the Bridget Jones movies, they are
hilarious. I read the books and I was
crying. I was laughing so hard.
I thought that this one would. Be the.
Same, but I look around the room and we're all crying instead of.
Well, I had no idea what it was about.
Yeah, it really sweet in the end.
I mean, of course, a lot of it you had to kind of suspend
belief. I'm trying to find the name of
the really cute actor. Oh, he.
Was in one day and I find it very interesting and I don't
know if it's because I don't think it's because I'm a widow.
There is a grief and tide to so many of the shows that I'm
watching and and the movies, like one day I didn't realize
what it was about and then I'm not going to spoil it, but there
is grief and loss in that movie. What's going on in the world?
And the writers are not immune to being a part of the world,
and they come up with these ideas based on real life.
I thought one day it was. Just so crazy.
It was so. Good.
There's some heartbreak there. It's a romance and it's really
well done. And the actor is Leah Woodall.
He's phenomenal. He's in the second season of
White Lotus. He is in this Bridget Jones new
movie as the younger love interest.
And, you know, we were all watching that last night.
And I would say it starts out really kind of light hearted,
like a lot of the Bridget Jones. And she is kind of struggling as
a widow and all of us can with young kids and all of us can
relate. And so we were kind of like, Oh
yeah, you know, we recognize that.
But then she just sort of miraculously lands this hot
younger guy. Which might not.
Be the most realistic storyline for some of us.
I hope you guys can find your Leo out there.
But then it has an interesting arc and I think it's worth a
watch. I mean, they're definitely some.
Grab your Kleenex for sure 'cause there's going to be.
But I, I thought overall and somebody it might have been you,
Laci said last night. I'm glad that they started four
years in or because it. Felt like that was more
realistic. I don't think anybody comes
right out of the gate feeling really well.
Takes. A long time and yet, and people
may have dalliances early on because, Whitney, you said you
did. Everybody's calling me out all
the time. Well, there was one of our.
Listeners that said she did. No, I know.
Hey, they're. Gone.
You can do whatever you want to do.
I don't think there's anything. It's not a judgement, it's more
like I just so grossed out about the fact of how to have to get
dressed up and go out and meet somebody.
Just the thought of it was overwhelming.
Well, and they do a whole scene in Bridget Jones of her getting
ready for the date that a lot of people can probably relate to.
Yeah, you. Haven't.
Well, Holly just talked about her.
Spent more time getting ready than actually, you know, 'cause
you do you worry about everything, Yeah.
Anyway, it's a fun. It was a fun, lighthearted.
And there's definitely. Crying at the end.
Yeah, there's some relatable scenes.
Have y'all? I think all of you guys have
watched Shrinking with Harrison Ford.
I did. I loved it.
And it's again about grieving. Have you watched it, Kier?
It's a little bit of it, but didn't it didn't stick.
It didn't resonate. Yeah, I I watched it a while
ago. I couldn't stick with it either.
Maybe I need to revisit? I love the characters.
I mean the next door neighbors crack me up.
I love the female next door neighbors.
Very funny, yeah. I loved that it shows a lot of
different sides of grieving is showing how the daughter is
grieving, is showing how the father who is a therapist is
grieving and how that plays into his work.
The relationships and dynamics between the friendships once the
wife has died was interesting to me.
And then in the last season, they actually.
So I'm not really spoiling anything by telling you that the
wife was killed in a car accident and and.
Is that that's just revealed early, Yeah, yeah.
And the the husband is just a mess.
And just like how many? Seasons are.
There, I think there's three now, but the third season they
actually do a storyline where the driver that killed the, you
know, he was driving the car that killed the wife comes into
the storyline and how the daughter and everybody reacts to
him, responds to him and what happens.
And it was just very, I don't know, it's funny, it's dark and.
Harrison Ford's. Really amazing because you've
never seen him like this before. But you know what I thought is
interesting, and this is jumping it way ahead, but we're going to
have a guest on our show in the future, near future, Cheryl
Martin, who is a therapist. She's retired.
She was actually my therapist the first year, but kind of a
similar thing. Her husband died in 2023.
So much like her, she's now. Not only was she a therapist for
grief and loss, she's now experienced a great loss.
Yeah, I think it's going to be really interesting to get her
insight as a therapist before she suffered that kind of loss
and after. And that's when excited oh,
shrinking I. Mean there seems to be a lot of
I mean. Sex in the City.
One of the characters is widowed in that.
What's the reprisal of Sex in the City?
What's it called? Oh, and just like.
That yeah, I don't. I didn't particularly like the
way they handled widowhood in that one.
It didn't seem real at all. Wasn't that in the pandemic?
And I had just gotten the Peloton And then I guess Mr. Big
like it has a hard Yeah, he did. Was like, you've got to watch
it. I'm like, I don't think I do.
The fact she moved through the grieving process so quickly to
the point that I was just like, really?
Like that's weird. I don't know, maybe it's hard to
do in ATV. Show Series.
That doesn't have that many. Episodes, which is why the
Bridget Joes that was smart that they had at four years out, you
can't really capture as we all know how long the process could
be right how how much time it takes.
To that's a good point. That's probably a really good
point because hers was right after his death.
Another movie that I just watched a couple of weeks ago.
It's with Reese Witherspoon and Will Ferrell cordially invited.
Have y'all heard about it? There's a dead wife that in that
movie and the and the daughter is getting married.
And I really like, again, I'm drawn to the the death part of
the story, you know, And there were funny parts and stuff, and
there were some silly parts. Will is bending over backwards,
right? Oh, make up to his dog.
Yes, but it also the daughter was his whole life.
So when she comes home with the the boy and is engaged, he does
not like it. His first reaction is not one of
oh, congratulations, which I really think is probably more
true than than people realize, you know, a lot of time.
Little bit of like dedicating your life and maybe this happens
more with fathers and daughters like, oh, you lose your spouse
and then you kind of dedicate your life to the children and
this is now sort of your wife figure.
But yeah, there are. These themes seem to be coming
into a lot of the current. Like Laci was saying, the
writers are picking up on, you know, reality, I guess.
Can we talk about land man? Because now this is definitely a
cortisol raising. The show?
Guess what? Spoiler alert, there's a widow.
Right, but. I guess I need to get Peacock
and watch it. So for those of you who don't
know what Land Man is, it's got Billy Bob Thornton, it takes
place in Midland and it's all around the oil fields and sorry,
Midland, TX. Far from where we are, right?
Now, now, my mom's grew up there, Midland.
Is in West. Texas.
What'd you say she's? In the same.
She's in the same. State.
Guess. What?
Else is close Australia. OK, Kira and Whitney do not
know. They're not.
Teaching GI breathing. Out East Coast.
West Coast. Exactly.
But it's in West TX which I've. Been Yeah.
And it. And when I got locked into it,
my friend, I was in Connecticut visiting a friend and she was
like, Oh my gosh, have you seen land?
Man? It's so funny.
So I sit down and I watch the first episode with her and it is
horrifying. It is violent and graphic and
you know, I mean, hammers to the head like it is terrifying.
Say it's funny. Billy Bob Thornton's
relationship with his daughter and his wife, his ex-wife.
This is. That's what.
She ended up saying, I look at her and I'm like, what in the
world do you find hilarious about this?
And she's like, Oh well, it gets better.
It gets better it. Really was good.
What I love about it is the widow storyline and in a way
that they are handling it and and really teaching somebody how
to handle dating a widow, I think.
How many episodes is it? Just one.
Season 2 Seasons I. Heard Billy Bob Ford Ditto an
interview where he said there might be another one.
But you know what I liked the the ex-wife and the daughter at
first I found them annoying and not at all believable since
everything else was really like a certain tone right when they
took on the old folks. Hello.
Yeah, and I think because my mom was in a memory care for a year
and I just kept in my. Mind imagining her?
That had happened at my mom's place.
That would have been so hysterical.
Well. So not to.
Give it too much away, but if you were a fan of.
Yellow. Stuff.
Oh yeah, Which is? Taylor shared Taylor Sheridan.
Yeah. Taylor Sheridan, it's.
Very there are a lot of similarities.
I mean that his style is very comes through and lay a man.
But they do hit on a lot of really important themes.
I think family, dysfunctional family it.
Was kind of Friday Night Lights ish too.
It had a lot of the music and the way that the lot of the
shots that they. Do is they dress like the Texas
background was kind of like oh OK, they're hot like honey.
Brenda kept saying they're romanticizing West, TX.
But Midland? Is.
There's a lot of money there. So it's, it's, it's, it's our
little plan, I mean. There's just nothing out there.
Oh, and very current. Also, there's a whole drug
smuggling. Yeah, Mexican cartel border
storyline, which is very current also.
So if you're into like that kind of stuff, I mean, that's part of
it, makes it a little scary for me and raises my cortisol.
But that's another theme running through this.
And there is a widow storyline. For a long time I was trying to
find things that I could watch with the kids because I was
trying to connect with them. We just landed on Shark Tank and
that's what we ended up watching and they they used to watch it
with Hunter. So it.
It just kept, you know, it just was something that everyone
would watch. But I feel like most of the
things that I want to watch, my boys wouldn't be interested in.
But Land man would be something that would hold a teenage boy's
attention. My daughter, maybe not so much,
but you know, so. My Brandon likes it so.
Much, Yeah. I mean, it's got a little of
everything, you know, it's got some humor.
It's got the, it's got some sex stuff.
It's got some bio. I'm going to start it this week.
All right, Holly, I'll. Let you know what I think.
OK, good. Is there anything else that
you've watched? I.
Recently finished and I know it started a while ago.
Virgin River. Did you like it?
I did Jack Sheridan. Don't we all want to Jack
Sheridan? I mean, I liked the first.
That was one of those shows for me where the first season was
good and then it just started getting.
Cheesy, slow, but then it. OK.
And then they win. I mean, they, they, they jumped
the shark, yes. I watched one episode that was
out. Jumps the shark, but it gets
better at the end and OK, the girls I work with, we were all
watching it and I was like, OK, I'm going to go back and finish
it because that same I was like, I don't know.
But I went back and finished and and she's a widow, the main
character. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I forgot.
To make fun of me, this is what I think is funny.
So my mom watched this show but I've never talked to my mom
about it again. And like recently, but the last
season, there is a lot of sex. Your mom's loving it.
I was like talking to my sister. I'm like.
Do you think? Moms had.
Finished. Oh, she finished it.
Ask her. What her thoughts because I
can't see her watching that. OK this is totally off topic.
Did y'all hear about this Home Depot trend on TikTok?
No OK so the Home Depot trend. Women are going to Home Depot to
find men because they're tired of the dating apps.
So this one woman on TikTok decides that she's going to try
the trend and she's going to record it.
She's going to video her. What's her?
Age around. She's in her 30s or something, I
don't know. She has 2.
Children recording or she has somebody no.
She recording herself at Home Depot and being like, hey, I'm
at Home Depot, OK, I'm going to try this.
And then she's kind of like going down the aisles, like
secretly with her phone and she sees somebody.
And so then she puts her phone down, but you hear her go up and
be like, hey, so I, I needed to hang a picture.
Can you help me? So he goes over and.
And at the end of the conversation, he asks for her
phone number. And they're still dating.
And they're like, they were on the Today show.
And it was. Yeah.
And she's from Dallas. Let's go to Home Depot.
But it was funny because some of the people in the comments, they
were laughing because she's videoing what he's picking out
for her and people are like no dude that will not hang a
picture the size that like he had no idea what he was doing
was. In hard get rich environment so
she's smart. Yeah, Then people in the
comments were saying things like always go to the plumbing aisle
because they make the most money.
One of my friends says you should go to the because I love
soup, especially when it's cold. She was like, why aren't you at
Central Market? The soup?
So I was like, yeah, right. Like anybody's talking to
anybody at the soup because they do it.
To her. Soup and so.
But she was not wrong. I went to the soup and some guy
goes, well, which one of those are you like?
And I was like, I didn't think he was that cute, but she was
not wrong. So it was kind of fun and.
Then you can be like you need like a.
Soup Romance. I love that you call it the.
Soups, the soup, the soup. What did you recommend?
Like a minestrone. Well, I like mushroom soup.
The. No.
You don't want to lead with fungus, I'm sorry.
Maybe. That's what happened.
Right, you needed to be. And that moment you're like, you
know what? I'm hearty, girl.
I like a little spice soup. Tortilla.
Yeah. We got to help you with your
answers, with your your soup flirting.
Same. Interest as you.
Then that's true. That's true.
What? Just be at the soups and wait
for someone to dive into the mushrooms.
It's snowing out. I know there's dorms everywhere.
I don't mean hear from anybody in a cold climate.
He's looking for men in the soups.