Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello, babe.
Welcome back to the Mindset Babe podcast.
In today's episode, we are talking about self doubt.
I'm talking about the chronic daily negative chatter in your
head that seems to follow you everywhere you go.
The voice that says you're not ready, you're not qualified,
you're too late, you're too much, you're not good enough.
And the crazy thing is you're in your 30s.
You have the degree, you have the experience, you have the
title, but internally you are doubting yourself.
You are questioning every single decision that you make.
And you look confident on the outside, but on the inside the
doubt is overwhelming. And I know how it feels to have
big goals and have big dreams with the voice inside your head
is telling you to shut up, be quiet, sit down.
This isn't meant for you. I have been there and that's why
I created the Self Doubt Detox and in this episode I want to
talk about what it is, why I created it, and how it can
benefit you. So I created the Self Doubt
Detox for the woman who rewrites the e-mail five times so you
don't sound stupid and then you revise it for the 6th time.
You over prepare for presentations because you're
scared someone's going to question you.
You overthink every single idea. You hesitate to say something.
You sit on ideas for months. You don't apply.
You don't pitch. You just sit on the sidelines
because you're too scared to get into the arena.
I know so many women who have big goals.
They want to be visible. They want to be seen, but they
are bullying themselves. They have a mental bully.
On average, the person experiences 14,000 to 60,000
thoughts per day. The average human experiences
14,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day.
Where do you think you are on that scale?
Do you think you have more than 60,000 thoughts?
Out of those thoughts, 80% of those thoughts are negative and
then 90% of those thoughts are repeating from yesterday.
Every single day you have thousands of micro thoughts
attacking you and they will keep attacking you if you don't have
the tools to intervene with those thoughts to change those
thoughts into positive ones. I love to give the example.
Your brain is like a teleprompter, feeding you lines
all day long, feeding you lines like you're behind.
She's better than you. This won't work.
You don't have enough time and most people just read whatever
shows up on the screen. But here's the thing, just
because it's on the teleprompter doesn't mean you have to say it
to yourself. Doesn't mean you have to believe
it. You are not your thoughts, you
are the reader of them. You are not your thoughts, you
are the reader of them. And the self Doubt Detox is
about rewriting the script and I'm actively doing this right
now. Like I just overcame so much
self doubt, so much negative chatter in my brain.
So I was going, I had this idea like 2 weeks ago and I was going
back and forth if I should offer it or not.
I found the name like the 60 minute detox came in my mind and
I was just still like going back and forth to self doubt coming
in my mind. No one wants this, no one cares
about this. Do you think you can do this?
Just all the negative thoughts going through my mind.
And I was driving one day and I was like, there's no right
decision, just the decision I make right.
There's no right decision, just the decision you make right.
And so I asked myself, how can I make this right?
And the first thing that came to mind was 60 minutes might not be
enough because I've been doing this for a very, very, very long
time, five years. I know sometimes there can be
tech issues, things happen, and I wanted to add a extra 15
minutes for any buffer time, tech issues, arrival time,
breathing room, and I want to be able to go over and not be
stressed like right at the hour. So it's called the 60 minute
self doubt detox, but it's actually in a 75 minute slot, 60
minutes of transformation in the 15 minutes for breathing room,
15 minutes of magic. Why I created this?
I've been doing business again for five years and I've always
offered monthly packages. Always.
I've done one month and I did three months.
I did four months. Now Ioffer 6 month packages.
But in five years in business, never once have I offered just a
one off session. And I asked myself, if a
therapist can do a one off session, why can't I in my core
offer? Becoming her is the bread of
butter of everything that I teach.
But I realized you may feel intimidated to joining a six
month program. And everyone deserves to have
this work. Every single person on this
planet deserves to have the wisdom and the tools to
eliminate the negative chatter in their brain.
Everyone deserves to have the information to quiet the inner
mean girl, to stop bullying themselves.
People are out here killing themselves because they don't
know how to quiet their inner mean girl.
The voice in their head has gotten so loud, so big, it's
uncontrollable. And I didn't just create the
session for you, but for everyone around you.
Because once you learn how to quiet your inner meeting girl,
you're able to help your friends.
You're able to help your sisters, your brothers.
You're able to help them so they no longer feel helpless.
I don't care what you look like. I don't care what size you are.
I don't care how much money you make.
You deserve to have access to these life changing tools.
So I have this breakthrough on Thursday, February 19th that I
wanted to give people more access that this information
shouldn't be gatekeeped anymore and how can I do this?
And it really had me do the work that I'm going to teach you on
this call because I had to overcome my bullshit and
eliminate the negative thoughts so quickly.
So I had this breakthrough on Thursday, February 19th.
And I launched this idea into the world on Friday, February
27th. A week in a day.
I made a sales page, Instagram
graphics, a podcast, wrote some emails in a week while also
working my 9:00 to 5:00 job. Like I got over all of my
limiting thoughts, doubting if I had enough time, doubting if
this would be successful, doubting if people want this.
I overcame all of it. And look, I know how scary it is
to be seen, to be heard, to put yourself out there.
And I'm actively doing it right now so I can show you the path.
Because self doubt isn't who you are.
Again, you are not your thoughts, you're just the reader
of them. You're just on a mental habit
loop. You're in a loop of negative
thinking. We're going to unbreak that
loop. But you're not born doubting
yourself. You have learned it.
Someone has taught you to doubt yourself.
And what can be learned can be unlearned.
And I know so many of you listen to this podcast, feel
overwhelmed. And when I say something that
might hurt, you're not overwhelmed.
You're just doubting your capability.
Overwhelm only happens when your brain is telling you I can't
handle this. Any sentences that start with I
can't, I'm not. I don't have that self doubt,
and self doubt creates procrastination, overthinking,
anxiety, comparison, shame, and playing small.
It's like you're trying to run a marathon or someone in your ears
whispering to you, you're too slow, you didn't train hard
enough for this, you're going to fail.
That marathon is going to be like, so unfun.
Is that even a word unfun? Who knows?
It's not going to be enjoyable, that's for sure.
Right? We want someone cheering you on
the sidelines with like a sign saying that you got this and
you're amazing and they give you like some water and they're
like, whoa, let's go. And like people are cheering you
on. That's going to be fun.
That's going to be motivating to help you get to the finish line.
I come up with like the most random analogies sometimes.
I hope you love them. Why you should be in the self
Doubt detox #1 When you learn how to overcome the self doubt,
you move quickly. You take action towards your
dreams, goals and desires. I'm a perfect example of this.
I can't like I'm so proud of myself.
I had an idea in my head and I brought it out into life and
you're hearing about this. I actually started talking about
it on Friday, but the fact I acted so quickly was because I
was able to switch that mind chatter to something positive.
And I'm going to teach you how to do that.
Number 2, why you need to be in the self doubt detox is because
you need to learn how to stop bullying yourself.
You need to learn how to stop telling yourself that you're
dumb and that you're stupid and that you're fat and you're never
going to get this. I'm going to help you stop
bullying yourself in the Self Doubt Detox #3 because you feel
overwhelmed again. The only reason why you feel
overwhelmed is because you're not capable.
And yes, in the Self Doubt Detox, we're really going to be
talking about the negative thoughts that you have.
But once you remove the negative thoughts in your head, how do
you think you're going to feel? You're going to finally feel
good. You're going to feel confident,
you're going to feel happy. You're going to feel that joy
again. So it's not just changing your
negative thought. That's about helping you feel
better. And when I think about these
self doubt detox, I really think about the global impact.
Imagine if millions of women stop doubting themselves.
Imagine the impact we would make the World Peace that we would
have. Imagine if women were no longer
scared to ask for raises, to start a business, that they were
able to make money on their own, be financially abundant, create
generational wealth. Imagine if women felt confident
enough to leave toxic relationships, that they weren't
scared that they were not going to find someone else.
They didn't doubt their capability of finding love
again. I know so many women that are in
relationships right now and they don't want to leave because they
don't want to start over which is so sad.
Imagine women using their voices, speaking up, being bold,
being loud, no longer having shame for who they are.
Imagine how the world would be different if women stop doubting
themselves. I would love to invite you to
this self doubt detox. In this session, you're going to
learn how to quiet the inner mean girl in your head.
I'm going to teach you how to stop overthinking, process
negative emotions like anxiety, overwhelm and sadness, and we're
going to rebuild yourself esteem.
And you're going to walk away with tangible tools to stop self
doubt in a simple plan to rebuild your confidence.
This is a 60 minute coaching call with an extra 15 minutes
for arrival time, integration and breathing room.
This is for the woman in her 30s who is high functioning but
internally insecure. You look confident but you're
always second guessing. Everything is successful but
feels behind and has big dreams but moves slowly.
If you're ready to eliminate the negative chatter so you're able
to feel confident, I want to invite you to this call.
I made it just for you. The Self Doubt Detox is
officially open in the last day to book a call is March 31st.
I'm only going to be doing this for March, so make sure that you
get the call. You can go ahead.
You can register with the link in the description box.
I love you so much and I'll see you in the next one.
Bye. Thank you so much for listening
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