Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is help you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
In today's episode I want to talk about how to build
discipline and stop self sabotaging.
I want to start with this. Did you know your future self is
watching you right now? Watching you make the excuses,
Watching you procrastinate, watching you say, eh, I'll just
do it later. I just don't have time.
I'm just going to start next week.
Meanwhile, days are passing anyway.
Weeks are passing. They're going by.
The year is moving along. Happy May and the life you keep
saying you truly want and desire doesn't get created because you
don't have discipline. And this is exactly why I want
to have this episode. Today I want to talk about the
common misconception when it comes to discipline.
Discipline isn't about forcing yourself to do anything.
Discipline isn't about doing more.
Discipline isn't about working harder.
Building discipline is actually easier than you think.
And I want you to sit with that for just a second.
Like, what if building discipline is way easier than
you could ever imagine? Because my personal opinion, I
believe discipline is just a mindset.
Discipline is just a way of thinking.
Discipline is a way of being. I want you to grab a pen and a
paper because I want to give you the official mindset babe.
Definition of discipline. Discipline is about deciding who
you want to be and then backing it up.
Discipline is about deciding who you want to be, then backing it
up. So putting your money where your
mouth is, meaning if you truly believe in something or say
you're committed to doing something, back it up.
Back it up with action, effort, time, and resources.
So the very first part of this definition, deciding who you
want to be, we got to answer that.
So girl, who do you want to be? Recently I've been calling this
an action statement. It's a statement that you take
action on until you get the results, and it includes one
goal and one current limitation. If you're listening to this
right now, I'm just going to guess one of your biggest
limitations is time. You don't have enough time
because you work a full time job or maybe you're in school or
maybe both. I actually have one client.
Guys, she literally has not one but two full time jobs and also
getting her master's degree in social work.
Like she's literally a rock star.
So you can include all the limitations if you want, but
typically it just includes one. My action statement is to create
a successful business while working full time.
Yes, I am so a corporate girly. I'm actually recording this
before I go to work today on Thursday morning.
But yours could be creating a healthy sexy body while working
full time, or finding a soulmate while working full time, or
becoming a better mom while working full time.
Or just nurturing relationships and your friends and your
family. Just getting back to that and
having fun in your life while working full time.
It doesn't matter what it is, but you want to have your goal.
While XY and Z for most of you guys, it's probably going to be
while working full time, working a corporate job, whatever it is.
And we're just going to call it how it is that we do have
limited time. Because the one thing I see a
lot with my client, it's like, well, I can't do my goal because
I work a full time job versus yes, I understand I have limited
time and limited hours because I have my full time job.
What am I going to do about it? Because at the end of the day,
my personal goals are more important than this job that I'm
working at. But we can't ignore our current
reality. So what is your action
statement? Who do you want to be?
So that's the very first step. Once you figure out your action
statement and you really decide who you want to be, you need to
now answer these three questions.
These three questions are meant to help build the mindset of
discipline. I hope you still have your pen
and paper next to you. Are you ready?
The first question you need to ask yourself is even when I
don't feel like it, I'm going to take action anyway because then
you're going to fill in the blank.
Even when I don't feel like it, I'm going to take action anyway
because, and I love this because this question is literally like
the definition of discipline. This is what discipline is all
about. Taking action anyway, even when
you don't feel like doing it. So I want you to answer this not
once. I want you to give like 10
different answers to all the questions.
I'm going to give you give multiple answers to the
questions because the deeper you go, it's going to transform your
life is going to change everything for you.
And before you know it, you're going to be showing up to all
the things on your To Do List without even trying.
It's kind of crazy. I wanted to give this example.
Let's say your feelings are like the weather.
Some days it's really sunny in other days it's raining really,
really bad. There's a storm a brewing.
But your goals, they don't care about the weather.
And you don't cancel your dreams just because it's raining.
Just like you still go to work when it's raining just because
you don't feel like it and it's a rainy day and it's cloudy, you
still have to go to work. So you still need to work on
your goals. You still need to work on your
action statement because your action statement is more
important than your work. And not saying right, slack off
and not do what you need to do, but my personal opinion, your
life is way more important than just your job and just your
career. There's so much more that this
life can offer you. There's so much more to
experience and to enjoy than just going to work Monday
through Friday. For example, for me, my action
statement for this year is to create a successful business or
working full time. Even when I don't feel like it.
I'm going to take action anyway because this is what I meant to
do. I love doing this.
I love giving value. I love encouraging other people.
And I'm in it now over 300 episodes.
I'm not quitting now, I'm in. I'm doing it anyway because I
truly see this as a life changing career for other
people, but also myself. The way how I have to grow, I
have to go first. I have to go often.
Like everything I teach you like I'm actively living it.
And so I'm changing myself, going on my own personal
development while helping others and also at the same time
creating financial freedom. That's why I'm going to show up
to do my business and to recreate courses and podcast
episodes and all the things, all the classes.
That's why I'm going to do it anyway, even when I don't feel
like it. All right.
The second question you need to ask yourself is even when I
don't have time, I'm going to find and create the time because
dot dot dot fill in the blank. Even when I don't have time, I'm
going to find and create the time because now this one is
going to call you out a little bit.
I'm sorry, because it's not like you don't have time.
You do have time. You're just choosing to put your
time in other places. For example, your time is like a
bank account. You get 24 hours every single
day. And the real question is, where
are you spending that time? Scrolling, Overthinking,
avoiding. Or are you building your future?
Are you taking action on your action statement?
And honestly, this is probably the hardest question out of the
three. So if you feel stumped, it's OK.
Take a deep breath, think about it, simmer on it, think about it
for the rest of the weekend. But I love this.
I love all these questions because it calls out the
limitation, just like the action statement.
Like I'm not going to argue with you.
We're not going to argue with your brain.
If your brain wants to tell you, you don't have time.
If your brain wants to tell you, I don't feel like it.
OK, noted. Listened.
I see you, I hear you, and any who, even though I'm still going
to take action because right, XY and Z, all right.
And the third question to ask yourself to build discipline and
to stop self sabotaging is I desire to take action on this
because I desire to take action on this because and this is your
why. Actually, they all kind of spark
desire and your why and hope compel you to take action.
All three of these questions will compel you to take action
towards your dreams and goals. But anyhow, this question really
states your why. And I don't want a surface level
why. I don't want, I want to go to
the gym because I should or I want to go to the gym because I
want to lose weight. I want to go to the gym because
I hate my body and summer's coming up.
No, we're not doing that. We need something a lot deeper.
Like I want to go to the gym because I want to feel confident
in my body. I want to go to the gym because
I want to have hot sex and feel good in the bedroom, whatever it
is. I want to build my business
because I want freedom. I want to build my business
because I want to help people. I want to show up because I
refuse to live a little life. I want to show up because I know
there's more than my corporate job.
So I desire to take action on this because dot dot dot.
If you answer these three questions and give multiple
answers to these questions, you will rewire your brain to take
more action. Without effort, without trying,
your brain will automatically just lead you to the way.
And this is going to help you stop self sabotaging.
Because the only reason why we self sabotage is because we
fight with the limitations. We fight with the things that
our brain is telling us that we can't do.
So we're not going to fight with the brain.
We're like, yeah, that could be true.
And also even though, because I'm still going to do it anyway
and that is discipline to me. It's deciding who you're going
to be and then showing up anyway, backing it up even when
you don't feel like it, even when you don't have enough time
because you desire to do so. Recap.
These are the three questions you need to ask yourself.
Even when I don't feel like it, I'm still going to take action
anyway. Because the second one, even
when I don't have time, I'm going to find and create the
time. Because in the very last
question, I desire to take action because, and this is
really going to help you get moving, help you get going.
Hope you really find that rhythm and groove in your life so you
can take consistent action. Because all these questions
really help you build your why and create a strong, compelling
reason for you to show up. I want to end with this example.
Your why is like fuel in your car and if your tank is empty,
you're not going to go anywhere. And most of you guys are running
on empty because your reasons aren't strong enough.
It's because you have to do it or you should do it or because I
did that in the past or because my mom did it or that Lady on
Instagram and I saw that Tiktok video.
So now I should be doing that? No, Why do you want to do it?
Answer these three questions. It will change your life.
You're so welcome. I can't wait to see what you
create after listening to this podcast episode.
I love you so much and I will see you in the next one.
Bye. Thank you so much for listening
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