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Welcome to the Mindset Bay 
podcast. 

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If you want more confidence and 
motivation then you're in the 

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right place every week at your 
dose of self development advice 

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and strategies. 
I'm your host Perry Richardson, 

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life coach, N OP practitioner, 
motivational speaker and mental 

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health advocate. 
My mission is help you find more

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happiness and take more action 
in your life. 

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Now let's begin. 
Hello, hello, hello babe. 

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Welcome to the Mindset Babe 
podcast. 

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In today's episode I want to 
talk about how to build 

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discipline and stop self 
sabotaging. 

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I want to start with this. 
Did you know your future self is

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watching you right now? 
Watching you make the excuses, 

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Watching you procrastinate, 
watching you say, eh, I'll just 

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do it later. 
I just don't have time. 

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I'm just going to start next 
week. 

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Meanwhile, days are passing 
anyway. 

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Weeks are passing. 
They're going by. 

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The year is moving along. 
Happy May and the life you keep 

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saying you truly want and desire
doesn't get created because you 

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don't have discipline. 
And this is exactly why I want 

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to have this episode. 
Today I want to talk about the 

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common misconception when it 
comes to discipline. 

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Discipline isn't about forcing 
yourself to do anything. 

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Discipline isn't about doing 
more. 

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Discipline isn't about working 
harder. 

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Building discipline is actually 
easier than you think. 

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And I want you to sit with that 
for just a second. 

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Like, what if building 
discipline is way easier than 

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you could ever imagine? 
Because my personal opinion, I 

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believe discipline is just a 
mindset. 

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Discipline is just a way of 
thinking. 

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Discipline is a way of being. 
I want you to grab a pen and a 

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paper because I want to give you
the official mindset babe. 

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Definition of discipline. 
Discipline is about deciding who

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you want to be and then backing 
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Discipline is about deciding who
you want to be, then backing it 

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up. 
So putting your money where your

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mouth is, meaning if you truly 
believe in something or say 

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you're committed to doing 
something, back it up. 

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Back it up with action, effort, 
time, and resources. 

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So the very first part of this 
definition, deciding who you 

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want to be, we got to answer 
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So girl, who do you want to be? 
Recently I've been calling this 

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an action statement. 
It's a statement that you take 

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action on until you get the 
results, and it includes one 

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goal and one current limitation.
If you're listening to this 

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right now, I'm just going to 
guess one of your biggest 

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limitations is time. 
You don't have enough time 

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because you work a full time job
or maybe you're in school or 

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maybe both. 
I actually have one client. 

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Guys, she literally has not one 
but two full time jobs and also 

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getting her master's degree in 
social work. 

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Like she's literally a rock 
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So you can include all the 
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typically it just includes one. 
My action statement is to create

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a successful business while 
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Yes, I am so a corporate girly. 
I'm actually recording this 

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before I go to work today on 
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But yours could be creating a 
healthy sexy body while working 

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full time, or finding a soulmate
while working full time, or 

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becoming a better mom while 
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Or just nurturing relationships 
and your friends and your 

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family. 
Just getting back to that and 

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having fun in your life while 
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It doesn't matter what it is, 
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While XY and Z for most of you 
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while working full time, working
a corporate job, whatever it is.

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And we're just going to call it 
how it is that we do have 

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limited time. 
Because the one thing I see a 

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lot with my client, it's like, 
well, I can't do my goal because

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I work a full time job versus 
yes, I understand I have limited

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time and limited hours because I
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What am I going to do about it? 
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my personal goals are more 
important than this job that I'm

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working at. 
But we can't ignore our current 

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reality. 
So what is your action 

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statement? 
Who do you want to be? 

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So that's the very first step. 
Once you figure out your action 

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statement and you really decide 
who you want to be, you need to 

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now answer these three 
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These three questions are meant 
to help build the mindset of 

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discipline. 
I hope you still have your pen 

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and paper next to you. 
Are you ready? 

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The first question you need to 
ask yourself is even when I 

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don't feel like it, I'm going to
take action anyway because then 

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you're going to fill in the 
blank. 

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Even when I don't feel like it, 
I'm going to take action anyway 

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because, and I love this because
this question is literally like 

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the definition of discipline. 
This is what discipline is all 

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about. 
Taking action anyway, even when 

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you don't feel like doing it. 
So I want you to answer this not

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once. 
I want you to give like 10 

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different answers to all the 
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I'm going to give you give 
multiple answers to the 

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questions because the deeper you
go, it's going to transform your

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life is going to change 
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And before you know it, you're 
going to be showing up to all 

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the things on your To Do List 
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It's kind of crazy. 
I wanted to give this example. 

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Let's say your feelings are like
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Some days it's really sunny in 
other days it's raining really, 

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really bad. 
There's a storm a brewing. 

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But your goals, they don't care 
about the weather. 

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And you don't cancel your dreams
just because it's raining. 

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Just like you still go to work 
when it's raining just because 

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you don't feel like it and it's 
a rainy day and it's cloudy, you

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still have to go to work. 
So you still need to work on 

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your goals. 
You still need to work on your 

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action statement because your 
action statement is more 

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important than your work. 
And not saying right, slack off 

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and not do what you need to do, 
but my personal opinion, your 

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life is way more important than 
just your job and just your 

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career. 
There's so much more that this 

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life can offer you. 
There's so much more to 

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experience and to enjoy than 
just going to work Monday 

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through Friday. 
For example, for me, my action 

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statement for this year is to 
create a successful business or 

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working full time. 
Even when I don't feel like it. 

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I'm going to take action anyway 
because this is what I meant to 

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do. 
I love doing this. 

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I love giving value. 
I love encouraging other people.

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And I'm in it now over 300 
episodes. 

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I'm not quitting now, I'm in. 
I'm doing it anyway because I 

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truly see this as a life 
changing career for other 

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people, but also myself. 
The way how I have to grow, I 

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have to go first. 
I have to go often. 

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Like everything I teach you like
I'm actively living it. 

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And so I'm changing myself, 
going on my own personal 

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development while helping others
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creating financial freedom. 
That's why I'm going to show up 

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to do my business and to 
recreate courses and podcast 

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episodes and all the things, all
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That's why I'm going to do it 
anyway, even when I don't feel 

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like it. 
All right. 

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The second question you need to 
ask yourself is even when I 

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don't have time, I'm going to 
find and create the time because

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dot dot dot fill in the blank. 
Even when I don't have time, I'm

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going to find and create the 
time because now this one is 

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going to call you out a little 
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I'm sorry, because it's not like
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You do have time. 
You're just choosing to put your

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time in other places. 
For example, your time is like a

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bank account. 
You get 24 hours every single 

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day. 
And the real question is, where 

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are you spending that time? 
Scrolling, Overthinking, 

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avoiding. 
Or are you building your future?

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Are you taking action on your 
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And honestly, this is probably 
the hardest question out of the 

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three. 
So if you feel stumped, it's OK.

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Take a deep breath, think about 
it, simmer on it, think about it

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for the rest of the weekend. 
But I love this. 

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I love all these questions 
because it calls out the 

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limitation, just like the action
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Like I'm not going to argue with
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We're not going to argue with 
your brain. 

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If your brain wants to tell you,
you don't have time. 

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If your brain wants to tell you,
I don't feel like it. 

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OK, noted. 
Listened. 

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I see you, I hear you, and any 
who, even though I'm still going

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to take action because right, XY
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And the third question to ask 
yourself to build discipline and

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to stop self sabotaging is I 
desire to take action on this 

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because I desire to take action 
on this because and this is your

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why. 
Actually, they all kind of spark

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desire and your why and hope 
compel you to take action. 

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All three of these questions 
will compel you to take action 

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towards your dreams and goals. 
But anyhow, this question really

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states your why. 
And I don't want a surface level

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why. 
I don't want, I want to go to 

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the gym because I should or I 
want to go to the gym because I 

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want to lose weight. 
I want to go to the gym because 

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I hate my body and summer's 
coming up. 

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No, we're not doing that. 
We need something a lot deeper. 

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Like I want to go to the gym 
because I want to feel confident

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in my body. 
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I want to have hot sex and feel 
good in the bedroom, whatever it

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is. 
I want to build my business 

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because I want freedom. 
I want to build my business 

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because I want to help people. 
I want to show up because I 

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refuse to live a little life. 
I want to show up because I know

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there's more than my corporate 
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So I desire to take action on 
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If you answer these three 
questions and give multiple 

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answers to these questions, you 
will rewire your brain to take 

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more action. 
Without effort, without trying, 

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your brain will automatically 
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And this is going to help you 
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Because the only reason why we 
self sabotage is because we 

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fight with the limitations. 
We fight with the things that 

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our brain is telling us that we 
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So we're not going to fight with
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We're like, yeah, that could be 
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And also even though, because 
I'm still going to do it anyway 

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and that is discipline to me. 
It's deciding who you're going 

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to be and then showing up 
anyway, backing it up even when 

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you don't feel like it, even 
when you don't have enough time 

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because you desire to do so. 
Recap. 

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These are the three questions 
you need to ask yourself. 

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Even when I don't feel like it, 
I'm still going to take action 

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anyway. 
Because the second one, even 

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when I don't have time, I'm 
going to find and create the 

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time. 
Because in the very last 

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question, I desire to take 
action because, and this is 

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really going to help you get 
moving, help you get going. 

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Hope you really find that rhythm
and groove in your life so you 

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can take consistent action. 
Because all these questions 

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really help you build your why 
and create a strong, compelling 

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reason for you to show up. 
I want to end with this example.

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Your why is like fuel in your 
car and if your tank is empty, 

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you're not going to go anywhere.
And most of you guys are running

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on empty because your reasons 
aren't strong enough. 

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It's because you have to do it 
or you should do it or because I

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did that in the past or because 
my mom did it or that Lady on 

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Instagram and I saw that Tiktok 
video. 

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So now I should be doing that? 
No, Why do you want to do it? 

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Answer these three questions. 
It will change your life. 

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You're so welcome. 
I can't wait to see what you 

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create after listening to this 
podcast episode. 

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I love you so much and I will 
see you in the next one. 

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Bye. 
Thank you so much for listening 

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