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Welcome to the Mindset Bay 
podcast. 

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If you want more confidence and 
motivation then you're in the 

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right place every week at your 
dose of self development advice 

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and strategies. 
I'm your host Perry Richardson, 

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life coach, N OP practitioner, 
motivational speaker and mental 

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health advocate. 
My mission is hope you find more

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happiness and take more action 
in your life. 

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Now let's begin. 
Thank you so much Perry. 

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Your program has literally 
changed my life. 

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I have moved into my dream apt. 
I am now an online coach because

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of the work that you do. 
I am forever grateful to not 

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only have had a coach over these
last six months but to also at 

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the end of the six months have 
gained a friend. 

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You have been nothing but 
compassionate, supportive and 

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you have absolutely guided me to
my highest dream life and I'm 

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forever grateful to you. 
Keep up the work you are 

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awesome. 
I love you. 

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I love you so much, girl. 
Thank you so much for being a 

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part of Becoming Her. 
It was such a honor and a 

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privilege to coach you and 
mentor you for the last six 

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months. 
Becoming Her is officially open 

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for enrollment. 
And I really think behind the 

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scenes, like, how can I get 
people to enroll? 

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And a couple things came out of 
that question. 

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One, sharing testimonials and 
reviews. 

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This process works and you're 
going to be hearing from the 

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ladies that have completed 
becoming her, sharing their 

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experience. 
And then also what came up for 

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me was people are probably like,
what the hell is even life 

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coaching? 
Like how can life coaching even 

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help me? 
So in today's episode, I really 

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want to talk about the 
difference between therapy and 

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life coaching and what you 
should choose based off your 

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needs, your desires, and the 
results that you want to create 

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in your life. 
Life coaching and therapy are 

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very different and they create 
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So I decided let's have a 
podcast talking about the 

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difference between therapy and 
life coaching. 

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If you're struggling with your 
mental health, if you want a 

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better mindset, which route 
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And we're going to be talking 
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Before we dive in, I want to 
speak on a e-mail that I 

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received a couple days ago about
becoming her and it pretty much 

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said I want to do your program, 
but I literally don't have any 

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time. 
How much time is needed and how 

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long is the program really? 
And I want to share what I 

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responded to her. 
First of all, I get it. 

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I get that you're busy. 
You've got the career, 

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responsibilities, goals and even
maybe a family and you already 

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feel like there's not enough 
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This is exactly why I designed 
Becoming Her for the busy woman 

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with a lot on her plate. 
This is how Becoming Her work. 

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So Becoming Her is a one-on-one 
coaching which means we meet on 

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your time. 
There's no pre work, there's no 

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homework, there's no hours of 
reading. 

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You just have to show up for one
hour a week, and that one hour 

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is very flexible. 
Want to meet after work? 

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I got you. 
Want to meet on the weekends? 

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I got you. 
And we? 

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Don't even have to meet on the 
same day, same time every single

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week. 
If one week it's a Sunday 

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morning and the next week it's a
Thursday night, it's completely 

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based off your schedule and they
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It doesn't have to be like in a 
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So if life gets crazy, no 
problem, we'll just meet the 

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following week. 
But I created becoming her, so 

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time will never be a thing that 
keeps you from transformation. 

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All you need is 1 hour a week 
and you'll change the way you 

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think and feel about yourself. 
Becoming Her Academy is not 

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open. 
It is meant for the ambitious 

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woman who is still doubting 
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She still feels insecure, not 
good enough, and she's ready for

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a change. 
If that's you, then I invite you

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to apply to Becoming Her. 
Applications close May. 31st. 

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And you can apply with the link 
in the show notes. 

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All right, let's get into the 
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Let's talk about the difference 
between therapy and life 

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coaching in which route would be
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All right, let's start off with 
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Let's talk about what it is. 
So what is therapy? 

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Therapy is about healing. 
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It helps you process trauma, 
work through your mental health 

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struggles, and really make sense
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I wanted to give the example. 
It's like rehab for your 

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emotional injuries and it really
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Life coaching, though, it's all 
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the future. 
It asks you, what do you want, 

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who do you want to be, and how 
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If therapy is like fixing a flat
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teaching you how to drive that 
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And at the end of the day, 
therapy gives you insight, but 

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coaching gives you 
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So why does this even matter? 
So many ambitious women are 

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stuck in therapy for years, 
rehashing the same story over 

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and over and over and over 
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And therapy creates the 
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and therapy can explain why you 
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always give you the how. 
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Like, how do I get out of this 
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I actually had one of my clients
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years in therapy learning why 
she had low self esteem, why she

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had daddy issues and no 
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But it wasn't until coaching 
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building her confidence. 
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difference. 
Like therapy explains it, but 

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coaching transforms it. 
I wanted to give the another 

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example of imagine therapy is 
like reading the manual for your

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car. 
Like, OK, though, this is the 

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car. 
This is like the horsepower. 

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This is how I break and I go and
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But coaching is actually getting
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somewhere new. 
So that's like the what of both?

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Therapy is amazing. 
You have to have the awareness. 

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You have to uncover why you're 
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And then life coaching, it's 
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How do I heal this? 
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I want to talk about who it's 
for, who therapy is for, and who

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life coaching is for. 
So therapy is for the woman who 

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is navigating some deep trauma, 
deep pain, or having some mental

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health condition. 
This can look like extreme 

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depression, extreme anxiety, 
pretty much where you're non 

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functioning. 
It's just really hard to move 

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through life every single day, 
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hard to go to work, hard to talk
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Doing the simple day-to-day 
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is for the person who is really 
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coaching is for the women who 
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they're meant for more. 
They know that they're meant for

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thriving. 
She's a woman with a degree, the

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job she's successful on paper, 
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she's playing small. 
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like, let's say therapy is 
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your house is burning down 
versus coaching is hiring a 

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designer once the house is 
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decorating and you want 
something flowy and beautiful 

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and very modern. 
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I actually had a client of mine,
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and she was saying how she felt 
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reasons why she was broken. 
I'm not going to discuss those 

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here, but she like a whole list 
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broken and why she was damaged. 
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sympathize with you. 
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really nice cuddle and a hug 
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I tell you the truth. 
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confronting. 
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And so I told her, yeah, you 
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damaged, but you can fix broken 
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You can fix damaged goods. 
So what do you want to do about 

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it? 
Do you still want to be broken 

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or do you want to fix yourself? 
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energy that I give with life 
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It's like, look, you're broken. 
That's fucking cool. 

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What are you gonna do about it? 
And this is what we're gonna do 

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about it. 
We create the game plan and we 

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really help you pick up those 
broken pieces in your life so 

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you feel whole again versus 
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You're just looking at the 
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Like, what do I even do with 
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I also wanna talk about the 
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transformation even happen in 
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It often happens in a clinical 
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the past pain therapy. 
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in person, but now they have a 
lot of therapy online versus in 

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coaching. 
The transformation happens in 

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powerful conversations, in 
strategies, and in identity 

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shifts. 
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doesn't ask you why you feel 
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to change it. 
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like, that's cool. 
What are we going to do about it

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then, honey? 
One of my clients said I don't 

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feel confident in meetings and 
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why with me. 
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I gave her identity exercises 
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build her confidence. 
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everything. 
Like the way she showed up in 

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the boardroom. 
She was no longer no longer 

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scared to raise her hand, give 
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I wanted to give you another 
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I feel there's like so many 
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like giving examples really just
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So I wrote down that therapy is 
like replaying like the old game

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tapes, like athletes. 
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themselves and their opposing 
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they'll watch and watch and 
watch and watch versus coaching 

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is really stepping onto the 
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ready to win. 
It's another thing to watch the 

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failures versus getting on the 
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something different. 
Let's talk about the impact. 

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So therapy helps you cope, which
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Coaching helps you create. 
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coaching gives you power. 
Therapy clears the weeds. 

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Coaching plants the flowers. 
In therapy and coaching, they're

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both impactful in very different
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I'm not saying that 1 is better 
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Of course I'm a life coach. 
I love life coaching. 

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But I have seen in my own life, 
in my client's life, that 

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therapy sometimes is just the 
first step, but you just need 

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more to get on going and to 
actually change your life. 

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I had another client tell me 
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this is the first time in her 
life where she actually feels 

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worthy, worthy of her 
accomplishments, worthy of 

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telling her boss. 
Like actually, I can't do that 

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schedule. 
Like she actually feels worthy 

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of doing the things that she 
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Like she is slowly no longer 
people pleasing because she's 

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waking up with life coaching, 
realizing whose life is she 

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truly living. 
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that she was living life for a 
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But in coaching, I really helped
her navigate deciding, picking 

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and taking the next step to no 
longer live life for other 

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people, to live life for her and
to stop people pleasing. 

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It's one thing, right? 
To know, Oh yeah, I'm living my 

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life for my husband and my 
coworkers and my kids and my 

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parents. 
That's like the one thing of the

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awareness. 
But it's another thing to 

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actually do something about it. 
And that's where coaching comes 

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in. 
And coaching doesn't just change

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how you feel. 
It changes how you show up 

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everywhere in your career, in 
your relationships, your 

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confidence, and your life. 
I actually want to share the 

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coaching tools that I teach in 
becoming her. 

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Actually, I got a little ahead 
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Let's talk about the tools for 
therapy and then tools with life

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coaching and becoming her. 
So in therapy, the tools are 

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usually talking it out, 
exploring the past and learning 

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coping skills, which all of 
those things are amazing and 

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very helpful. 
Let's talk about inside 

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coaching, especially in Becoming
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This is the toolbox of methods 
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and I've never talked about this
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interesting. 
So let's talk about the tools I 

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actually give you in Becoming 
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I teach you the model. 
The model is a tool to help you 

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stop overthinking by breaking 
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feelings, actions, and results. 
And once you see it, you can 

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explain it. 
You can understand why you're 

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stuck in a negative thought 
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really slows it down. 
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about the presentation, you can 
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calm, confident and prepared. 
The model is the very first tool

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that I teach you in becoming 
her, we literally talk about in 

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the very first session. 
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the release method. 
This process is to release any 

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negative emotions by regulating 
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So instead of bottling up the 
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teach you how to feel it, 
release it and move forward. 

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This is like cleaning out your 
emotional closet so you can make

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space for joy, confidence and 
happiness in your life. 

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Another tool that I teach in 
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formula. 
This is all about identity. 

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Most women think confidence 
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confidence comes from becoming 
the woman who already believes 

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she's worthy. the IT Girl 
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helping you step into the 
version of yourself who already 

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has what she desires. 
Whatever. 

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If it's confidence, success, 
love, or fulfillment, I take you

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through a three-step process. 
Really think of the Igor formula

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like trying on a new outfit. 
At first it feels different, but

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the more you wear it, the more 
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I had a client of mine say she 
always feels like she's the nice

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girl at work, never the leader. 
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she has really redefined herself
as the confident decision maker.

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And literally in three months 
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position at her job. 
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about becoming someone else. 
It's about revealing the version

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of you that's been there all 
along, that's been hiding and 

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waiting to shine. 
We let her out in the IT Girl 

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formula. 
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Becoming Her is the Momentum 
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This is all about motivation, 
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But motivation isn't something 
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create. 
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tool to help you generate 
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So instead of waiting until you 
feel like it, this method really

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teaches you how to shift your 
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Create the momentum you need to 
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Think of motivation like pushing
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It's the hardest at the start, 
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rolling, the momentum gets 
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And the momentum method really 
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just out of the way so you don't
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I had another client say that 
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starting her podcast. 
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we created a 10 minute daily 
action plan for her in that 

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micro action really help her 
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And within weeks she already 
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Her podcast is up and running. 
She's actually going to be 

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coming on the podcast either 
this month or next month to talk

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about her podcast. 
She really wanted to help her 

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promote it. 
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proves that you don't have to 
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You can generate it yourself. 
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teach in becoming her in the 
very last tool I teach in 

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becoming her. 
It's called the belief ladder. 

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Most ambitious women think they 
need to jump straight from I'm 

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not good enough to I'm the most 
confident, beautiful, powerful 

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woman in the world. 
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Your brain won't do that drum 
because it won't believe that 

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leap. 
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Belief Ladder. 
It's a tool to help you climb 

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from disempowering beliefs to 
empowering ones, one step at a 

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time. 
Imagine you're crossing a river.

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You can't jump from one side to 
another in a single leap, but 

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you can cross by stepping on the
stones in between, and each rung

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on the ladder is one of those 
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It gets you closer until you're 
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I had one of my clients come in 
with the belief I'll never be 

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confident at work. 
And the very first stone was I'm

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learning how to speak up in 
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Then it became I can hold my own
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Now she walks in the boardroom 
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I'm a confident leader. 
Who deserves to be here? 

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The belief ladder works because 
it's realistic and it really 

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helps you just pull yourself 
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It gives your brain proof and 
your body momentum until one day

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you look around and realize, Oh 
my goodness, I'm living on the 

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top of the ladder. 
So those are the tools I teach. 

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In Becoming Her, I teach you the
Model, A tool to help you master

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your thoughts and stop 
overthinking. 

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I teach you the Release method, 
how to really master your 

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emotions and release the 
negative emotions in your body. 

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I teach you the IT Girl formula,
helping you embody your next 

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identity, hoping you build 
confidence and high self esteem.

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Then I teach you the Momentum 
method, really helping you 

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generate motivation on demand. 
And I teach you the belief 

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ladder. 
This really helps shift beliefs 

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step by step until you're the 
most confident, powerful version

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of you. 
That's what I have for you in 

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today's episode. 
So what are you going to choose?

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Therapy or life coaching? 
Both modalities are so amazing 

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and they have different purposes
at different times in your life.

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If you are interested in life 
coaching, I want to invite you 

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to Becoming Her. 
Becoming Her is my signature 

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life coaching program. 
If you are struggling with 

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overthinking, if you are 
struggling with your negative 

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thoughts, this program will give
you all the. 

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Tools to overcome. 
Self doubt. 

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So you can finally feel 
confident you can. 

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Go ahead, you can apply with the
link in the description box. 

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Applications close May 31st. 
If you have any questions 

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regarding life coaching apply. 
You will get invited to a free 

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complimentary consultation. 
Call with me and I can answer. 

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All of your questions. 
Go ahead, apply with the link in

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the description box and I'll see
you next time, love. 

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You so much. 
Bye. 

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Thank you so much for listening 
to the Mindset Babe podcast. 

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If you are looking to get more 
confidence and take action 

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towards your dreams, then I want
to invite you to work with me. 

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Ioffer private one-on-one 
mentorship. 

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This mentorship will teach you 
everything about goal setting, 

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time management, and 
manifestation. 

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So you can. 
Transform your mindset. 

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Get the tools to become the 
badass you were meant to be. 

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Register with the link in the 
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