Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Thank you so much Perry.
Your program has literally changed my life.
I have moved into my dream apt. I am now an online coach because
of the work that you do. I am forever grateful to not
only have had a coach over these last six months but to also at
the end of the six months have gained a friend.
You have been nothing but compassionate, supportive and
you have absolutely guided me to my highest dream life and I'm
forever grateful to you. Keep up the work you are
awesome. I love you.
I love you so much, girl. Thank you so much for being a
part of Becoming Her. It was such a honor and a
privilege to coach you and mentor you for the last six
months. Becoming Her is officially open
for enrollment. And I really think behind the
scenes, like, how can I get people to enroll?
And a couple things came out of that question.
One, sharing testimonials and reviews.
This process works and you're going to be hearing from the
ladies that have completed becoming her, sharing their
experience. And then also what came up for
me was people are probably like, what the hell is even life
coaching? Like how can life coaching even
help me? So in today's episode, I really
want to talk about the difference between therapy and
life coaching and what you should choose based off your
needs, your desires, and the results that you want to create
in your life. Life coaching and therapy are
very different and they create different results.
So I decided let's have a podcast talking about the
difference between therapy and life coaching.
If you're struggling with your mental health, if you want a
better mindset, which route should you take?
And we're going to be talking about it in today's episode.
Before we dive in, I want to speak on a e-mail that I
received a couple days ago about becoming her and it pretty much
said I want to do your program, but I literally don't have any
time. How much time is needed and how
long is the program really? And I want to share what I
responded to her. First of all, I get it.
I get that you're busy. You've got the career,
responsibilities, goals and even maybe a family and you already
feel like there's not enough hours in the day.
This is exactly why I designed Becoming Her for the busy woman
with a lot on her plate. This is how Becoming Her work.
So Becoming Her is a one-on-one coaching which means we meet on
your time. There's no pre work, there's no
homework, there's no hours of reading.
You just have to show up for one hour a week, and that one hour
is very flexible. Want to meet after work?
I got you. Want to meet on the weekends?
I got you. And we?
Don't even have to meet on the same day, same time every single
week. If one week it's a Sunday
morning and the next week it's a Thursday night, it's completely
based off your schedule and they don't have to be consecutive.
It doesn't have to be like in a row.
So if life gets crazy, no problem, we'll just meet the
following week. But I created becoming her, so
time will never be a thing that keeps you from transformation.
All you need is 1 hour a week and you'll change the way you
think and feel about yourself. Becoming Her Academy is not
open. It is meant for the ambitious
woman who is still doubting herself.
She still feels insecure, not good enough, and she's ready for
a change. If that's you, then I invite you
to apply to Becoming Her. Applications close May. 31st.
And you can apply with the link in the show notes.
All right, let's get into the episode.
Let's talk about the difference between therapy and life
coaching in which route would be best for you.
All right, let's start off with the basics.
Let's talk about what it is. So what is therapy?
Therapy is about healing. It really focuses on the past.
It helps you process trauma, work through your mental health
struggles, and really make sense of old wounds.
I wanted to give the example. It's like rehab for your
emotional injuries and it really helps you get back to baseline.
Life coaching, though, it's all about growth and it focuses on
the future. It asks you, what do you want,
who do you want to be, and how do you get there?
If therapy is like fixing a flat tire on your car, coaching is
teaching you how to drive that car toward your destination.
And at the end of the day, therapy gives you insight, but
coaching gives you transformation.
So why does this even matter? So many ambitious women are
stuck in therapy for years, rehashing the same story over
and over and over and over again.
And therapy creates the awareness of why you're in pain,
and therapy can explain why you are struggling, but it doesn't
always give you the how. Like, how do I stop struggling?
Like, how do I get out of this pain?
I actually had one of my clients tell me that she spent five
years in therapy learning why she had low self esteem, why she
had daddy issues and no self-confidence.
But it wasn't until coaching that she actually started
building her confidence. And that's really the
difference. Like therapy explains it, but
coaching transforms it. I wanted to give the another
example of imagine therapy is like reading the manual for your
car. Like, OK, though, this is the
car. This is like the horsepower.
This is how I break and I go and the gas I need.
But coaching is actually getting in the driver's seat and going
somewhere new. So that's like the what of both?
Therapy is amazing. You have to have the awareness.
You have to uncover why you're in pain.
And then life coaching, it's like, all right, I see the pain.
How do I heal this? How do I transform this?
I want to talk about who it's for, who therapy is for, and who
life coaching is for. So therapy is for the woman who
is navigating some deep trauma, deep pain, or having some mental
health condition. This can look like extreme
depression, extreme anxiety, pretty much where you're non
functioning. It's just really hard to move
through life every single day, maybe hard to get out of bed,
hard to go to work, hard to talk to other individuals.
Doing the simple day-to-day things are difficult and therapy
is for the person who is really non functional versus life
coaching is for the women who are already functioning but know
they're meant for more. They know that they're meant for
thriving. She's a woman with a degree, the
job she's successful on paper, but on the inside she knows
she's playing small. I wanted to give the example of
like, let's say therapy is calling the fire department when
your house is burning down versus coaching is hiring a
designer once the house is rebuilt and now you're
decorating and you want something flowy and beautiful
and very modern. And I wanted to share a story.
I actually had a client of mine, She did therapy for many years
and she was saying how she felt broken.
And in the therapy sessions, they just revealed all the
reasons why she was broken. I'm not going to discuss those
here, but she like a whole list of all the reasons why she was
broken and why she was damaged. And in therapy, they like to
sympathize with you. And it's therapy is sometimes a
really nice cuddle and a hug versus life coaching.
I tell you the truth. And it could be a little
confronting. I'll be honest with you.
And so I told her, yeah, you might be broken, you might be
damaged, but you can fix broken things.
You can fix damaged goods. So what do you want to do about
it? Do you still want to be broken
or do you want to fix yourself? And that's like the type of
energy that I give with life coaching.
It's like, look, you're broken. That's fucking cool.
What are you gonna do about it? And this is what we're gonna do
about it. We create the game plan and we
really help you pick up those broken pieces in your life so
you feel whole again versus therapy.
You're just looking at the broken pieces.
Like, what do I even do with this?
I also wanna talk about the where Like where does this
transformation even happen in therapy?
It often happens in a clinical setting where you're processing
the past pain therapy. I've seen a lot of therapy like
in person, but now they have a lot of therapy online versus in
coaching. The transformation happens in
powerful conversations, in strategies, and in identity
shifts. It happens when your coach
doesn't ask you why you feel stuck, but gives you the tools
to change it. Kind of my example earlier,
like, that's cool. What are we going to do about it
then, honey? One of my clients said I don't
feel confident in meetings and in therapy, she would unpack the
why with me. She learned the thought model.
I gave her identity exercises and I gave her practices to help
build her confidence. And this really changed
everything. Like the way she showed up in
the boardroom. She was no longer no longer
scared to raise her hand, give her opinion and ask questions.
I wanted to give you another example.
I feel there's like so many examples in this, but I feel
like giving examples really just help it more clear for you.
So I wrote down that therapy is like replaying like the old game
tapes, like athletes. So rewatch that game of
themselves and their opposing team and they'll they'll watch,
they'll watch and watch and watch and watch versus coaching
is really stepping onto the field with a brand new playbook
ready to win. It's another thing to watch the
failures versus getting on the field and actually trying
something different. Let's talk about the impact.
So therapy helps you cope, which is amazing.
Coaching helps you create. Therapy gives you peace, while
coaching gives you power. Therapy clears the weeds.
Coaching plants the flowers. In therapy and coaching, they're
both impactful in very different ways.
I'm not saying that 1 is better than the other.
Of course I'm a life coach. I love life coaching.
But I have seen in my own life, in my client's life, that
therapy sometimes is just the first step, but you just need
more to get on going and to actually change your life.
I had another client tell me maybe about two weeks ago that
this is the first time in her life where she actually feels
worthy, worthy of her accomplishments, worthy of
telling her boss. Like actually, I can't do that
schedule. Like she actually feels worthy
of doing the things that she actually wants in her life.
Like she is slowly no longer people pleasing because she's
waking up with life coaching, realizing whose life is she
truly living. And in therapy, she realized
that she was living life for a million and one people.
But in coaching, I really helped her navigate deciding, picking
and taking the next step to no longer live life for other
people, to live life for her and to stop people pleasing.
It's one thing, right? To know, Oh yeah, I'm living my
life for my husband and my coworkers and my kids and my
parents. That's like the one thing of the
awareness. But it's another thing to
actually do something about it. And that's where coaching comes
in. And coaching doesn't just change
how you feel. It changes how you show up
everywhere in your career, in your relationships, your
confidence, and your life. I actually want to share the
coaching tools that I teach in becoming her.
Actually, I got a little ahead of myself.
Let's talk about the tools for therapy and then tools with life
coaching and becoming her. So in therapy, the tools are
usually talking it out, exploring the past and learning
coping skills, which all of those things are amazing and
very helpful. Let's talk about inside
coaching, especially in Becoming Her.
This is the toolbox of methods and formulas I give my clients,
and I've never talked about this on the podcast, which is so
interesting. So let's talk about the tools I
actually give you in Becoming Her number 1.
I teach you the model. The model is a tool to help you
stop overthinking by breaking down the cycle of thoughts,
feelings, actions, and results. And once you see it, you can
explain it. You can understand why you're
stuck in a negative thought loop.
And this also helps you slow down your brain.
Sometimes it feels like your brain is going 100 mph and this
really slows it down. And so instead of spiraling
about the presentation, you can shift your thoughts and walk in
calm, confident and prepared. The model is the very first tool
that I teach you in becoming her, we literally talk about in
the very first session. Something else I teach you is
the release method. This process is to release any
negative emotions by regulating your energy.
So instead of bottling up the guilt, the shame, the fear, I
teach you how to feel it, release it and move forward.
This is like cleaning out your emotional closet so you can make
space for joy, confidence and happiness in your life.
Another tool that I teach in becoming her is the A Girl
formula. This is all about identity.
Most women think confidence comes from achievements, money,
or status. But the real secret is
confidence comes from becoming the woman who already believes
she's worthy. the IT Girl formula is my process for
helping you step into the version of yourself who already
has what she desires. Whatever.
If it's confidence, success, love, or fulfillment, I take you
through a three-step process. Really think of the Igor formula
like trying on a new outfit. At first it feels different, but
the more you wear it, the more natural it truly becomes.
I had a client of mine say she always feels like she's the nice
girl at work, never the leader. And through the IT Girl formula,
she has really redefined herself as the confident decision maker.
And literally in three months she got promoted into AVP
position at her job. And so the IT girl formula isn't
about becoming someone else. It's about revealing the version
of you that's been there all along, that's been hiding and
waiting to shine. We let her out in the IT Girl
formula. Something else I teach in
Becoming Her is the Momentum Method.
This is all about motivation, productivity.
But motivation isn't something you wait for, it's something you
create. And the Momentum Method is my
tool to help you generate motivation on demand.
So instead of waiting until you feel like it, this method really
teaches you how to shift your energy.
Create the momentum you need to act right now.
Think of motivation like pushing a car.
It's the hardest at the start, but once the wheels start
rolling, the momentum gets easier.
And the momentum method really helps you get that first push
just out of the way so you don't stall out.
I had another client say that she kept procrastinating on
starting her podcast. And through the momentum method,
we created a 10 minute daily action plan for her in that
micro action really help her build momentum.
And within weeks she already recorded three podcast episode.
Her podcast is up and running. She's actually going to be
coming on the podcast either this month or next month to talk
about her podcast. She really wanted to help her
promote it. But the momentum method really
proves that you don't have to wait until inspiration hits.
You can generate it yourself. And this is something that I
teach in becoming her in the very last tool I teach in
becoming her. It's called the belief ladder.
Most ambitious women think they need to jump straight from I'm
not good enough to I'm the most confident, beautiful, powerful
woman in the world. But here's the truth.
Your brain won't do that drum because it won't believe that
leap. And so that's why I created the
Belief Ladder. It's a tool to help you climb
from disempowering beliefs to empowering ones, one step at a
time. Imagine you're crossing a river.
You can't jump from one side to another in a single leap, but
you can cross by stepping on the stones in between, and each rung
on the ladder is one of those stones.
It gets you closer until you're fully on the other side.
I had one of my clients come in with the belief I'll never be
confident at work. And the very first stone was I'm
learning how to speak up in small ways.
Then it became I can hold my own in meetings.
Now she walks in the boardroom with.
I'm a confident leader. Who deserves to be here?
The belief ladder works because it's realistic and it really
helps you just pull yourself forward.
It gives your brain proof and your body momentum until one day
you look around and realize, Oh my goodness, I'm living on the
top of the ladder. So those are the tools I teach.
In Becoming Her, I teach you the Model, A tool to help you master
your thoughts and stop overthinking.
I teach you the Release method, how to really master your
emotions and release the negative emotions in your body.
I teach you the IT Girl formula, helping you embody your next
identity, hoping you build confidence and high self esteem.
Then I teach you the Momentum method, really helping you
generate motivation on demand. And I teach you the belief
ladder. This really helps shift beliefs
step by step until you're the most confident, powerful version
of you. That's what I have for you in
today's episode. So what are you going to choose?
Therapy or life coaching? Both modalities are so amazing
and they have different purposes at different times in your life.
If you are interested in life coaching, I want to invite you
to Becoming Her. Becoming Her is my signature
life coaching program. If you are struggling with
overthinking, if you are struggling with your negative
thoughts, this program will give you all the.
Tools to overcome. Self doubt.
So you can finally feel confident you can.
Go ahead, you can apply with the link in the description box.
Applications close May 31st. If you have any questions
regarding life coaching apply. You will get invited to a free
complimentary consultation. Call with me and I can answer.
All of your questions. Go ahead, apply with the link in
the description box and I'll see you next time, love.
You so much. Bye.
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