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If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
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life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is help you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
In today's episode I want to talk about the number one self
love habit that has completely transformed my confidence.
It has increased my self esteem and I am so excited to share the
secret with you today. I want to start off with the
story. I really want to set the stage
of this habit for you today. All right, Are you ready?
Let's get into it. We're getting right into it in
today's episode. So I remember going to work.
I still have my 9:00 to 5:00. Raise your hand if you're a
corporate girly. I see you.
I hear you. Are you listening to this on the
way to work or driving home or at your shift?
Sending you so much love, Benny. Who?
I remember going to my work and there was a girl that I worked
with and she always looked so good.
She always looked so put together.
And anytime I would be with her, I would feel a lack of
confidence. I would feel insecure because I
didn't look like her. I would compare myself to her
like, Oh my goodness, she's so much more prettier than me.
Her lips are bigger than mine. I love her eyelashes.
Like she just has this presence, like just the way she carried
herself. You could tell that she just had
confidence within herself. Have you been around these
people? And so I remember for months I
would go to work and I would have to work with her 'cause
it's my job. And I would always get so
insecure in her presence. And I remember one day I had
this light bulb moment that completely shifted everything
for me and helped me become more confident.
This is a light bulb moment. This was the biggest
breakthrough I had. The only reason that she looks
better than me is because she took the time to look better
than me. She wasn't prettier than me or
more beautiful than I was. She just took the time in the
morning to put herself together to make herself look presentable
and for her to feel her most confident self.
And I know the biggest thing that came up for me was like,
well I don't have time. I don't have time to get ready
and do a full face and look good for the day.
That was like my biggest mindset block holding me back from
actually getting ready and wanting to put my makeup on like
consistently and like to beat that girl.
And I realized me and my Co worker, we both have the same
amount of time. Me and my Co worker we both have
24 hours in a day. Me and my coworker we both start
at 8:00 AM Monday through Friday.
How can she find the time to get ready and professional and
really take the time and put herself together?
But I couldn't and I realized there was no excuse.
If I wanted to make the time, I could make the time.
If I wanted to look good in the morning, I could do that.
Because it wasn't like she was prettier than me.
She just took the time, right, to look pretty and put herself
together. And something I realized was
like, I didn't want to do a full face.
Like I don't want to do a full face Monday through Friday.
That's just not me. But how can I elevate my look?
How can I elevate my confidence? And so I decided I only really
need to do a couple of things for me to feel confident in
myself. One, I need to do my eyebrows
and two, I need to have like some eyelashes or something.
And so I didn't want to pay for eyelashes.
The maintenance for those, the upkeep at this point in my life,
I just cannot do it and I just cannot lay down for two hours
while they get done. Your girl got things to do.
Also, I don't want to do the glue eyelashes.
Like if you don't do a full face and then you do like the glue
strips. It just is not the vibe.
It just does not look good. So I did some research and I
found some eyelashes. They're called Glamnetics.
I should have got a discount code before recording this
podcast episode, but I love them so much.
Literally you just do eyeliner. The eyeliner is magnetic and
then there's magnets on the eyelashes, eyelashes, and
literally you just pop those suckers on.
I look so good now every single day, Monday through Friday with
my 5 minute makeup routine, 10 minutes Max.
I do my eyebrows, I do my eyelashes, I do my eyeliner, I
put some mascara on. And I also decided to start
wearing jewelry because I realized having jewelry like
having like a statement piece also makes me feel confident.
And I didn't go to the extreme. I didn't like go down to Tiffany
and Co or go to Chanel. Your girl went on Sheen and I
got like, I don't even know, 3-4 packs of ear earrings.
I think each pack had like 5 or 6 earrings in them and I spent
like $10 on like, I don't know, 40 different earrings that now
that I like rotate like almost every single day.
There's like these three that I absolutely love that I wear the
most, but I realized I only really needed to do 3-4 things
for me to fully feel confident in myself.
It didn't take me a lot of time. Literally, it takes me 10
minutes or less to get myself together and I'm so glad I take
that 10 minutes to put myself together so I'm able to feel
confident for the rest of the day.
Now when I look at myself in the mirror, I don't feel shame of
like, Oh my goodness, like look how bad you look.
Like you should have like put yourself together.
Like, like it sucks to know that you're not trying.
And I think that was the biggest thing for me was because when I
get ready, I look good. Like, I know you have those
moments when you're not trying and you're not getting ready and
you're just in your graphic tee and your leggings.
And the moment you do your wash your hair and do your hair and
you put your makeup on some red lipstick, whatever it is, you're
like, damn, who is she? She looks good.
We all have that moment, right? But why can't we have that oh,
she looks good moment every day. It doesn't have to take a full
hour or even 30 minutes. You just need 10 minutes to get
ready for your day and that's the self love habit that has
completely increased. My confidence was taking 10
minutes out of my morning to make myself look good.
So I feel good. Another thing I wanted to
mention in this podcast episode was just like dressing and
getting ready for work. I wear scrubs so I don't really
have to think about my outfits every single day.
But I remember just like during the regular time, like I'm
outside of work, I would hang out with my friends and also
just feel, I don't know, bummy, homeless, not beautiful.
I felt like a man because I would always just be in my
graphic T-shirts and my leggings and tore up Vans and like
Converse. Like I would just like just
threw on stuff that was comfortable.
And for the longest time I had the mindset that if I was going
to look good and like put together and have like a really
nice outfit on, that meant I couldn't be comfortable.
And so if I want to be comfortable, I have to wear
leggings and like a graphic tee. I don't know where I got that
programming. I feel like it was sometime in
high school that happened. It was like we like pick comfort
over fashion. It was sometime in high school
that that belief came to me. But then one day I was listening
to a podcast about like 3 years ago and they were talking about
the same topic and they're talking about how you can look
fantastic, you can look amazing and sexy, and you can look good
and also still be comfortable. And how I do this is I love to
wear a dress. I love dresses.
I don't even have to put on two pieces.
I only have to put on one thing and I look fabulous.
I look amazing. There's just something about a
dress that just elevates your style.
Like honestly, it takes more time and energy to put on
leggings and a shirt than it is to put on a dress.
I have dresses for the summer, I have dresses for the winter.
I love a good dress and sandals and I love a good dress and
boots. If you ever see me in person, I
will probably be wearing a dress because it makes me feel good.
It feels like my style is elevated, that I'm more
confident in myself. And when you look good, you feel
good. It's very simple, just wear a
dress, put some magnetic eyelashes on and do your
eyebrows. That's really all you have to
do. At least for me, that's how I
feel more confident in myself, especially with my appearance
and my body image. And it's so true, when you look
good, you feel good. So the number one self love
habit that has completely increased my confidence is
taking 10 minutes out of my morning to put myself together
so I can look beautiful, so I can feel beautiful, so I can
have more confidence. That's what I have for you in
today's podcast episode. If you listen to this podcast
episode, the hidden keyword is fashion.
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