1 00:00:02,040 --> 00:00:04,840 Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast. 2 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:08,280 If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:12,440 right place every week at your dose of self development advice 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:15,760 and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson, 5 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:20,160 life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental 6 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:23,480 health advocate. My mission is help you find more 7 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,280 happiness and take more action in your life. 8 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:29,480 Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe. 9 00:00:29,560 --> 00:00:32,800 Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast. 10 00:00:33,120 --> 00:00:38,440 In today's episode I want to talk about the number one self 11 00:00:38,440 --> 00:00:44,000 love habit that has completely transformed my confidence. 12 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:49,600 It has increased my self esteem and I am so excited to share the 13 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:54,240 secret with you today. I want to start off with the 14 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:57,560 story. I really want to set the stage 15 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:01,960 of this habit for you today. All right, Are you ready? 16 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:04,640 Let's get into it. We're getting right into it in 17 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,840 today's episode. So I remember going to work. 18 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:11,320 I still have my 9:00 to 5:00. Raise your hand if you're a 19 00:01:11,320 --> 00:01:13,440 corporate girly. I see you. 20 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:16,600 I hear you. Are you listening to this on the 21 00:01:16,600 --> 00:01:19,440 way to work or driving home or at your shift? 22 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,080 Sending you so much love, Benny. Who? 23 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:26,520 I remember going to my work and there was a girl that I worked 24 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:30,560 with and she always looked so good. 25 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:33,400 She always looked so put together. 26 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:38,920 And anytime I would be with her, I would feel a lack of 27 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:42,160 confidence. I would feel insecure because I 28 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:46,600 didn't look like her. I would compare myself to her 29 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:50,120 like, Oh my goodness, she's so much more prettier than me. 30 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:54,960 Her lips are bigger than mine. I love her eyelashes. 31 00:01:54,960 --> 00:01:59,040 Like she just has this presence, like just the way she carried 32 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:01,280 herself. You could tell that she just had 33 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:05,040 confidence within herself. Have you been around these 34 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,479 people? And so I remember for months I 35 00:02:08,479 --> 00:02:11,320 would go to work and I would have to work with her 'cause 36 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:14,680 it's my job. And I would always get so 37 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:20,480 insecure in her presence. And I remember one day I had 38 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:26,160 this light bulb moment that completely shifted everything 39 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,720 for me and helped me become more confident. 40 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,000 This is a light bulb moment. This was the biggest 41 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:38,520 breakthrough I had. The only reason that she looks 42 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:44,680 better than me is because she took the time to look better 43 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:48,440 than me. She wasn't prettier than me or 44 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:53,080 more beautiful than I was. She just took the time in the 45 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:58,320 morning to put herself together to make herself look presentable 46 00:02:58,640 --> 00:03:02,160 and for her to feel her most confident self. 47 00:03:03,600 --> 00:03:06,400 And I know the biggest thing that came up for me was like, 48 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,720 well I don't have time. I don't have time to get ready 49 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,640 and do a full face and look good for the day. 50 00:03:12,640 --> 00:03:16,880 That was like my biggest mindset block holding me back from 51 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,720 actually getting ready and wanting to put my makeup on like 52 00:03:19,720 --> 00:03:22,000 consistently and like to beat that girl. 53 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:27,440 And I realized me and my Co worker, we both have the same 54 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:31,600 amount of time. Me and my Co worker we both have 55 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:36,800 24 hours in a day. Me and my coworker we both start 56 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,320 at 8:00 AM Monday through Friday. 57 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:44,400 How can she find the time to get ready and professional and 58 00:03:44,840 --> 00:03:47,200 really take the time and put herself together? 59 00:03:47,440 --> 00:03:53,160 But I couldn't and I realized there was no excuse. 60 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:58,040 If I wanted to make the time, I could make the time. 61 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:02,360 If I wanted to look good in the morning, I could do that. 62 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:04,840 Because it wasn't like she was prettier than me. 63 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:08,840 She just took the time, right, to look pretty and put herself 64 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:12,280 together. And something I realized was 65 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,440 like, I didn't want to do a full face. 66 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:16,880 Like I don't want to do a full face Monday through Friday. 67 00:04:16,880 --> 00:04:20,200 That's just not me. But how can I elevate my look? 68 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:26,600 How can I elevate my confidence? And so I decided I only really 69 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:31,280 need to do a couple of things for me to feel confident in 70 00:04:31,280 --> 00:04:35,000 myself. One, I need to do my eyebrows 71 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:39,840 and two, I need to have like some eyelashes or something. 72 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:44,400 And so I didn't want to pay for eyelashes. 73 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:48,720 The maintenance for those, the upkeep at this point in my life, 74 00:04:48,840 --> 00:04:53,040 I just cannot do it and I just cannot lay down for two hours 75 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,680 while they get done. Your girl got things to do. 76 00:04:56,760 --> 00:05:00,120 Also, I don't want to do the glue eyelashes. 77 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,400 Like if you don't do a full face and then you do like the glue 78 00:05:03,400 --> 00:05:05,680 strips. It just is not the vibe. 79 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:10,680 It just does not look good. So I did some research and I 80 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:14,160 found some eyelashes. They're called Glamnetics. 81 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:17,040 I should have got a discount code before recording this 82 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:20,960 podcast episode, but I love them so much. 83 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,720 Literally you just do eyeliner. The eyeliner is magnetic and 84 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:28,440 then there's magnets on the eyelashes, eyelashes, and 85 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:31,720 literally you just pop those suckers on. 86 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:37,560 I look so good now every single day, Monday through Friday with 87 00:05:37,560 --> 00:05:42,120 my 5 minute makeup routine, 10 minutes Max. 88 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:47,440 I do my eyebrows, I do my eyelashes, I do my eyeliner, I 89 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:53,800 put some mascara on. And I also decided to start 90 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:57,040 wearing jewelry because I realized having jewelry like 91 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:00,040 having like a statement piece also makes me feel confident. 92 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:04,040 And I didn't go to the extreme. I didn't like go down to Tiffany 93 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:08,920 and Co or go to Chanel. Your girl went on Sheen and I 94 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:12,760 got like, I don't even know, 3-4 packs of ear earrings. 95 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:17,360 I think each pack had like 5 or 6 earrings in them and I spent 96 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:22,960 like $10 on like, I don't know, 40 different earrings that now 97 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:25,520 that I like rotate like almost every single day. 98 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:28,520 There's like these three that I absolutely love that I wear the 99 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:34,680 most, but I realized I only really needed to do 3-4 things 100 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:37,760 for me to fully feel confident in myself. 101 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:41,880 It didn't take me a lot of time. Literally, it takes me 10 102 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:47,560 minutes or less to get myself together and I'm so glad I take 103 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:51,200 that 10 minutes to put myself together so I'm able to feel 104 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,400 confident for the rest of the day. 105 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,000 Now when I look at myself in the mirror, I don't feel shame of 106 00:06:57,000 --> 00:06:59,240 like, Oh my goodness, like look how bad you look. 107 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:01,520 Like you should have like put yourself together. 108 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:05,800 Like, like it sucks to know that you're not trying. 109 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,760 And I think that was the biggest thing for me was because when I 110 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,480 get ready, I look good. Like, I know you have those 111 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:16,480 moments when you're not trying and you're not getting ready and 112 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:19,040 you're just in your graphic tee and your leggings. 113 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,880 And the moment you do your wash your hair and do your hair and 114 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:24,560 you put your makeup on some red lipstick, whatever it is, you're 115 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:28,720 like, damn, who is she? She looks good. 116 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,680 We all have that moment, right? But why can't we have that oh, 117 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:38,360 she looks good moment every day. It doesn't have to take a full 118 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:43,960 hour or even 30 minutes. You just need 10 minutes to get 119 00:07:43,960 --> 00:07:47,200 ready for your day and that's the self love habit that has 120 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:50,480 completely increased. My confidence was taking 10 121 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:54,080 minutes out of my morning to make myself look good. 122 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:57,880 So I feel good. Another thing I wanted to 123 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:01,600 mention in this podcast episode was just like dressing and 124 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:05,120 getting ready for work. I wear scrubs so I don't really 125 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:08,040 have to think about my outfits every single day. 126 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:12,440 But I remember just like during the regular time, like I'm 127 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:16,400 outside of work, I would hang out with my friends and also 128 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:21,840 just feel, I don't know, bummy, homeless, not beautiful. 129 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:24,080 I felt like a man because I would always just be in my 130 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:28,760 graphic T-shirts and my leggings and tore up Vans and like 131 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:30,800 Converse. Like I would just like just 132 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:32,919 threw on stuff that was comfortable. 133 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:39,240 And for the longest time I had the mindset that if I was going 134 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:43,039 to look good and like put together and have like a really 135 00:08:43,039 --> 00:08:47,600 nice outfit on, that meant I couldn't be comfortable. 136 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:51,600 And so if I want to be comfortable, I have to wear 137 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:55,320 leggings and like a graphic tee. I don't know where I got that 138 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:57,400 programming. I feel like it was sometime in 139 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:03,320 high school that happened. It was like we like pick comfort 140 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:05,800 over fashion. It was sometime in high school 141 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:09,920 that that belief came to me. But then one day I was listening 142 00:09:09,920 --> 00:09:13,920 to a podcast about like 3 years ago and they were talking about 143 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:18,360 the same topic and they're talking about how you can look 144 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:23,160 fantastic, you can look amazing and sexy, and you can look good 145 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:31,120 and also still be comfortable. And how I do this is I love to 146 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:33,960 wear a dress. I love dresses. 147 00:09:34,720 --> 00:09:36,560 I don't even have to put on two pieces. 148 00:09:36,600 --> 00:09:40,080 I only have to put on one thing and I look fabulous. 149 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:42,880 I look amazing. There's just something about a 150 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,080 dress that just elevates your style. 151 00:09:45,680 --> 00:09:48,840 Like honestly, it takes more time and energy to put on 152 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:52,920 leggings and a shirt than it is to put on a dress. 153 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,600 I have dresses for the summer, I have dresses for the winter. 154 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,640 I love a good dress and sandals and I love a good dress and 155 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:02,520 boots. If you ever see me in person, I 156 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:06,000 will probably be wearing a dress because it makes me feel good. 157 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:09,640 It feels like my style is elevated, that I'm more 158 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:12,200 confident in myself. And when you look good, you feel 159 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,920 good. It's very simple, just wear a 160 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:19,360 dress, put some magnetic eyelashes on and do your 161 00:10:19,360 --> 00:10:22,160 eyebrows. That's really all you have to 162 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,000 do. At least for me, that's how I 163 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:29,120 feel more confident in myself, especially with my appearance 164 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:33,400 and my body image. And it's so true, when you look 165 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:39,200 good, you feel good. So the number one self love 166 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:43,080 habit that has completely increased my confidence is 167 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:47,080 taking 10 minutes out of my morning to put myself together 168 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:51,920 so I can look beautiful, so I can feel beautiful, so I can 169 00:10:51,920 --> 00:10:55,720 have more confidence. That's what I have for you in 170 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,760 today's podcast episode. 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