Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello everyone, I just wanted to
take take a moment and give a shout out to my coach Perry.
Her classes have been life changing.
We actually just finished my 9th session.
Before my sessions with Perry I felt isolated, alone and like I
was just living a stagnant life. I knew that I needed to make
changes and I even had some tools to help me make those
changes, but I didn't know how to do it.
And that's really something that Perry excels at.
She's had a lot of experience and has shared a lot of her
wisdom with me. And more specifically, I went
with Perry because I was drawn to her relatability and her
positive attitude. Like, it's not often that
someone can casually drop an F bomb.
And she she's just so chill and relatable.
And that's something that I really wanted in a mentor.
And life after coaching is amazing.
My life now is just filled with gratitude and lightness.
And Perry's always there when I need her.
If I'm feeling overwhelmed, I can call her a text her, and she
will respond just with so much wisdom and love and kindness and
encouragement. For sure I couldn't.
I couldn't do this without her and I would recommend working
with her just for anyone trying to find themselves and trying to
become the best version of yourself.
I've had a lot of issues with like self worth and stuff like
that. And I finally realized, you
know, through listening to Perry's podcast, that's really
how I got into, you know, seeing her and just hearing her and
just knowing I need to be be a part of this.
So check out Perry, you, you won't be sorry you did.
Also, something else that I wanted to speak about briefly
was realizing that I am worth the investment in myself and my
future. And there is no price tag that
you can put on living a fulfilling life.
Thanks Perry. Love you.
I have a question for you. Raise your hand if you feel
anxious, if you feel overwhelmed, if you feel
unmotivated and honestly just mentally exhausted.
You are not alone. There is another woman just like
you who got the degree, climbed up the corporate ladder, and
they're feeling exhausted, they're feeling stressed,
they're not feeling fulfilled. And somehow, in some way, they
have to look good. And their health has to be
together. And they have to be a Good Wife
and they have to be a good mother.
And you have to be a good boss and you have to be good at
everything. And it feels like you're falling
short. And the crazy thing is, you're
doing everything you've tried. Therapy, journaling, podcasts,
the self help books, you're even doing affirmations.
And yet you still overthink. You still feel heavy in your
body and you still feel like something is wrong with you.
And honestly, you don't feel bad because your life is bad.
Hear me out. You don't feel bad because your
life is bad. You feel bad because you don't
know how to process your emotions.
You feel bad because emotions are moving through you and you
are never taught how to deal with them.
Like what to even do with all of this?
No one has taught you the how, so I am so excited.
In today's episode, I'm going to teach you how to process your
emotions because this is very, very important.
Learning how to handle your emotions is a game changer and
that's exactly why Becoming Her exist.
It's for high achieving women who look fine on the outside but
are exhausted from holding everything together on the
inside. And one of the biggest things
that I teach in Becoming Her is how to process how to master
your emotions. It's the very second skill that
I teach in Becoming Her. And I wanted to give you a taste
of what it's actually like to be in Becoming Her.
There is a bonus episode, if you haven't noticed, it is a guided
practice, a guided audio to actually help you release
negative emotions. And I didn't want to post this
episode. It's so funny.
I was like, this is what I give my clients.
Like I don't want to give it to like the podcasts.
Like this is something that I believe you should pay for to
get access to. And I even had one of my clients
tell me, like, you should drop this on the podcast.
And I'm like, no, it's just for my clients.
And I've been thinking about it and I've been thinking about it.
And then I asked my coach and she was like, what are you
doing? Why are you gatekeeping?
You need to post this. Like, obviously it just makes
sense to do it. So thank you for my coach.
You should thank her because this is some good content like
the meditation. The bonus is so good and it's
literally going to change your life.
This is 1 out of 10 audios that you get in becoming her because
I want you to actually have the tools to process emotions in
real time. And so no matter how you're
feeling, there's an audio for that.
I have created that. I have one on anxiety, I have
one on stress, I have one on confidence.
I have one on self love. I have one on Worthiness, just
to name a few. In Becoming Her you get a
private podcast. Yes, you heard me right, you get
a private podcast. And on this podcast is a
collection of guided audios to help you process your emotions
and for you to feel better. One of my core values in my
business is giving my clients 100% results, making sure they
get what they came for. And everyone has a different
version of them becoming her, right?
Everyone has a different flavor and taste, like everyone has a
different vision of what their life is when they are officially
her. And so I teach you 5 core skills
that will help you become her no matter where you're starting.
It will help you transform your life.
The very first skill you will learn in Becoming Her is the
skill of managing your mind. Inside Becoming Her, we start by
teaching you how to manage your mind.
Instead of believing every single thought that you have,
you learn how to separate facts from fear and really stop
letting your inner dialogue ruin your life.
This is where you stop overthinking.
You get out of your head and you really start to trust yourself
again. Another skill in becoming her is
helping you develop your It Girl identity.
We just don't think differently. We become someone different.
We develop a whole new identity. We develop a grounded, confident
and self trusting IT girl identity.
Your energy shifts. You become more confident and
bold in your decisions, you start having grace and trusting
yourself, and most importantly you are finally confident with
who you are. The third skill is a skill of
getting it done. This is where you learn how to
take massive action without burnout.
This is where you learn how to manage your time and you create
a a balanced, consistent schedule for you and routines.
Skill #4 is the skill of processing past pain.
You can't build a calm, confident future while carrying
on unresolved emotional weight inside becoming her.
We process past pain so it stops bleeding into your present.
You release old stories, stored emotions and patterns that no
longer serve you in. The very last skill is the skill
of mastering your emotions. I teach you how to master your
emotions instead of being ruled by them.
And today's episode is really the groundwork of this.
I'm going to make everyone who joins listen to this episode
because it's going to be so good.
I'm really going to breakdown the basics of processing
emotions and then in the program, we do this work daily,
weekly, monthly together to make sure we process any negative
emotions that you are experiencing and also creating
positive emotions that you want to feel becoming her
applications. They are open.
They close on February 8th. You can apply with the link in
the description box. All right, let's get into this
episode. All right, the first thing we
need to do, we need to define what emotions actually are.
And this is like the missing piece I feel like to all the
education that we were given. So emotions are not random, They
are not personality traits, they are not flaws.
Emotions are physical energy moving through your body.
They are your nervous system communicating with you.
And your nervous system communicates with you.
And emotion comes up from a thought, perception, or
experience and that's it. An emotion is just energy
running through you, a response from your nervous system that
came from a thought, perception or experience.
And all of these emotions, all of them 100%, ten out of 10 are
natural and normal. This is a natural and normal
thing that happens to every single human, and honestly
probably animals too, right? Like every single species
experiences this and emotions. They are meant to rise, they are
meant to move, they are meant to peak, and they're also meant to
pass. I wanted to give the example of
emotions, right? That's what we're talking about.
But think of emotions like weather moving through your
body. Weather moving through your
body. Anxiety is like a storm rolling
in. Sadness is heavy rain.
Anger is lightning. Grief is fog.
None of these are a problem. The problem is when you panic
about the storm. Stand outside in the rain
without an umbrella, pretend the clouds aren't there, or shame
yourself for the bad weather. Now imagine this.
A storm moves in, but instead of letting it pass, you trap it in
a sealed room. No airflow, no release, no
movement. And this is what most women do
with their emotions. They trap the weather in their
chest and their jaw, their stomach, their shoulders.
And then you wonder why you feel so heavy, tense, exhausted, and
anxious all of the time. Suppressed emotions don't
disappear. They get bigger, they get
louder, and they get bolder. And I think a lot of women think
that they should be able to handle this.
You're not supposed to handle the weather.
You're supposed to move with it. There's nothing to handle.
You don't need to get a grip on your emotions.
And this is the core thing I teach in Becoming her is I teach
you how to move with it. I teach you how to feel better
because feeling better doesn't just come from positive thinking
and manifestation and a better morning routine.
I hate to break it to you guys. It comes from emotional
regulation, processing your emotions.
And when I think about regulating your emotions,
processing your emotions, releasing your emotions, it's
allowing the emotion move through your body, letting the
storm come in and out of you, letting it pass and go to the
next state. It's getting out of here.
It's going to another state. Let that code front go somewhere
else, right? So you don't need to get rid of
your emotions. That's a well, I already talked
about a lot. I was gonna say that's the first
thing. But the first thing was knowing
what emotions even were. And then that great analogy that
escape you guys, what so good about the weather.
But the third thing you really need to know is you don't need
to get rid of your emotions. You need to know how to be with
them. Because when you learn to name
your emotions, so many of my clients, when they get into
becoming her, they don't even know.
Their emotional vocabulary is so low.
Like all they know is good and bad and angry.
That's it. So we have to learn how to name
your emotions. We have to learn how to allow
your emotions process your emotions and move those emotions
through your body. That's when you finally stop
feeling hijacked by them. And then make sure you listen to
the bonus episode this week. It is a closed eye process, so
don't do it while you're driving, but do it for you.
This week. Take a moment.
It's literally less than 10 minutes.
I think it's 8 minutes. Take 8 minutes for yourself
today. I challenge you, I double dog
dare you to do it today, but at least do it this week to really
see there's like so many hows to process emotions.
I give you like so many hows, so many different ways to process
your emotions in becoming her. So you have that bonus.
And also I want to talk about like a step by step process in
today's podcast episode that you can take with you also.
All right, step number one on how to process your emotions is
identify the feeling. How do you feel?
Really getting clear on what it is, Not just good or bad, but
really learning how to expand your vocabulary for your
emotions. Do you feel joy?
Do you feel sadness? Do you feel disappointed?
Being defeat, resentment, anger, frustration, gratitude, blessed
certainty, compel, desire. There's so many different
emotions, but we have to identify how do you feel and not
only how do you feel, but why do you feel this way and what are
you thinking that's causing you to feel this way.
So you have to be very clear on how do you feel, what that
emotion is, and why is it even coming up for you.
We got to get the starting point, right?
It's like Agps, we got to figure out where we're going before we
can get to our final destination.
Like we need the start point first.
So that's number one. Step number 2 is really allowing
that energy in your body. Again, emotions is just energy
in motion, emotions energy in motion, and that energy is
flowing in your body. So where is it in your body?
Is it light? Is it heavy?
Does it have a color? Does it have a shape?
What size is it? How does it feel?
Does it feel like lightning? Does it feel like fog?
Does it feel like sunshine? But allowing the emotion to flow
into your body and just allowing it to be there for like 30
seconds to a minute doesn't need to be like forever, but just
giving yourself a moment to be honest with where you are right
now and how you're feeling right now.
The third step is to ask for advice.
And you're like, what? What?
Ask for advice? I truly believe emotions are
trying to tell us something. They are little messengers
trying to tell us something. Our body talks to us.
I think, you know, when we have physical pain, like I've been
having a lot of back pain and knee pain, like my body is
yelling at me. Hey, girl, stretch, do
something. Something is wrong with you and
emotions. Is our body shouting at us?
Sometimes it feels like a shout. They're trying to tell us
something. Our body is trying to tell us
something. And even just asking yourself,
what is this emotion trying to tell me right now?
The 4th step is letting out that energy, like physically letting
it out. This looks like crying.
It looks like physically like shaking your head, shaking your
legs, shaking your arms. Looks like dancing it out or
beating up a pillow, screaming, walking, working out.
But when you move your physical body, it helps the storm like it
helps the weather get out of your body faster.
And then the very last step is shifting your energy.
So this looks like just intentionally thinking positive
thoughts, doing gratitude, doing your affirmations in Becoming
Her, The tools I have for this, I have you set UA belief plan to
help you believe new things. And I teach you how to talk back
to your brain. And also I teach you how to
quiet your inner mean girl. So those are the tools to help
you shift your energy. Also, another way you can shift
your energy is by doing a meditation, doing a guided audio
that helps you shift that energy.
And that is why I created the private podcast in Becoming Her.
So you're able to process any emotion that's coming up for you
in the current moment. You don't have to wait to see
me. You don't have to wait to see
your therapist. If you feel bad, if you feel
shitty, we can fix that right now.
There's an audio waiting for you and becoming her.
And also don't forget to check out the bonus I have for you
guys being so nice giving this to you.
I still can't believe I'm going to give you like the goods and
becoming her. I honestly can't believe I'm
doing it. But you have one audio on the
podcast for you that you can listen to a million times.
And if you listen to it and you're like, Oh my goodness,
like I want more of this. There is a whole private
podcast, a whole library waiting for you with audios just like
that one and becoming her. So that's how you process your
emotions. Step number one, identify the
feeling. Step #2 allow that energy in
your body. Step #3 ask for advice, step #4
let that energy out. And then step #5 shift your
energy. That's what I have for you.
In today's podcast episode, Becoming Her is open.
Applications close Sunday, February 8th.
This program is where you get rid of self doubt, where you
remove a shame, where you let go of all of the hurt, where you
stop feeling depressed, sad and anxious, where you stop hating
yourself, and where you can finally let it all go.
Every single week you learn tools of process, negative
emotions. Becoming Her teaches you mind
management, emotional regulation tools.
You get weekly private one-on-one coaching, daily
accountability, monthly group calls, support, and a private
podcast. You can go ahead.
You can apply with a link in the description box.
I love you so much, have a good day.
Bye. Thank you so much for listening
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