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Welcome to the Mindset Bay 
podcast. 

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If you want more confidence and 
motivation then you're in the 

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right place every week at your 
dose of self development advice 

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and strategies. 
I'm your host Perry Richardson, 

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life coach, N OP practitioner, 
motivational speaker and mental 

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health advocate. 
My mission is hope you find more

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happiness and take more action 
in your life. 

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Now let's begin. 
Hello, hello, hello, babe. 

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Welcome to the Mindset Babe 
podcast. 

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In today's episode, I want to 
talk about feeling behind. 

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Feeling behind in life, feeling 
behind in business and career, 

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feeling behind in relationships,
just feeling behind like you're 

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not where you're supposed to be.
And I really wanted to do this 

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episode because with the new 
year, it can be a mixed bag of 

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emotions. 
On one side, it's exciting and 

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it's motivating and it's like, 
let's go. 

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And also, there could be some 
shame, some guilt, frustration, 

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and some disappointment. 
And I really want to touch on 

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this today and first say that no
matter how you're feeling right 

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now, it's valid. 
It is so valid and you are fully

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capable of feeling this emotion 
in your body. 

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And I recently just experienced 
this recently. 

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This is actually going to be 
kind of my recent 

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transformation, something that I
got coached on. 

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So being super honest and 
vulnerable in today's episode. 

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But I remember last year, so 
like going into 2025, I was so 

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defeated. 
I wasn't motivated. 

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And typically with the new year,
I'm like, yeah, like, let's go. 

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I'm so excited. 
But I wasn't. 

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And I had so much disappointment
because I didn't hit my goals 

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that year. 
And this year I didn't hit all 

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my goals and at the same time, I
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I'm still ready to go. 
And I have such a great plan for

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this year. 
Actually, in my mastermind, 

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we're doing a three-year plan 
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So I've been planning and 
thinking about my next three 

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years and my life and my 
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But I really wanted to record 
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I have some notes here. 
I guess I'll get into it, but I 

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think it's really important and 
I think this needs to be said 

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because I think a lot of people 
may not be excited for the new 

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year. 
Then you see all the stuff on 

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the Internet and you're like, 
something's wrong with me. 

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And I'm not excited for the new 
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I'm not excited for my goals. 
And I actually feel very, very, 

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very heavy in the new year. 
So let's get into it. 

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But before we get into it, make 
sure you follow me on Instagram,

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The mindset, babe. 
I started a community over 

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there. 
There's a literally over 200 

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people in this. 
Like it's so crazy. 

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And in this community, I'm 
posting real time breakthroughs 

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behind the scenes. 
Like I posted like me at lunch, 

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like in my car at my 9:00 to 
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Like I really want to show the 
more authentic version of me and

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really show you behind the 
scenes of what it's like to be a

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regular person just like you 
with hardship, with obstacles, 

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that who is still working a nine
to five job and also still 

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showing up for their dreams, 
their goals, their passions. 

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So follow me on Instagram, the 
mindset Babe and make sure you 

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join the community. 
It's right in my bio section. 

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It's called the mindset babe 
community. 

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And if you're in the community, 
you already know that I'm 

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talking about this. 
Like I already dropped like a 3 

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minute voice note about this 
topic already. 

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So I'm excited to do a full 
podcast episode, but make sure 

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you get into the community 
because I'm dropping wisdom, 

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knowledge, inspiration. 
Literally, it's going to be the 

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best place on Instagram. 
All right, so a couple days 

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before my birthday, which was in
December, December 23rd, I have 

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a whole two-part series about 
lessons in my 20s. 

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I just turned 30. 
But anyhow, it was a couple days

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before my birthday and with my 
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the year coming up, I felt like 
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Y'all. 
I felt like a loser. 

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I felt like a failure because I 
didn't accomplish the biggest 

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goal I had for 2025. 
Like my biggest goal was to 

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finally leave my 9:00 to 5:00 
and to go full time in my 

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business and it didn't happen. 
I'm still working on my 9:00 to 

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5:00 job and I felt like a loser
that I didn't accomplish my 

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goals and really just thinking 
I'm a loser, I'm a fucking 

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failure. 
Created so much disappointment 

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for me and frustration. 
And I kind of had a lot of 

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shame. 
Like what's wrong with you? 

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Like why has it been taking you 
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And I was thinking about this 
just for like 2-3 days and it 

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was so painful. 
Like when you feel like you're 

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behind, it's so painful. 
It's a terrible experience. 

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And I was like, I need help, I 
need coaching. 

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So I got coached and what my 
coach told me was so amazing and

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completely shifted everything 
for me. 

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I was like, I got to record a 
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So my coach asked me, whose 
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yourself to? 
Whose timeline are you comparing

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yourself to? 
Because you only feel behind 

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because you are comparing your 
timeline to someone else's 

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timeline. 
And I realize I was comparing 

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myself to someone who is 
literally like 8 years older 

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than me and been in business for
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And I was comparing my timeline 
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And we're at completely 
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So of course their timeline is 
more advanced, right? 

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You've just been on this planet 
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have. 
Of course, your timeline may or 

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may not be advanced, right? 
Of course, right? 

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The more time you have on the 
timeline, the more opportunities

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you have for growth, right? 
And so I was comparing myself to

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this person, and also I was 
comparing myself to an invisible

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marker that I created for myself
that I just made-up a random 

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number of like, oh, once I hit 
this number, then I'll be 

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worthy, I'll be fully capable 
and I'll know that I have 

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arrived. 
And I just made this number up 

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and it was just so interesting 
when my coach asked me this 

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question of like, whose timeline
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It just broke something free, 
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And I realize the biggest 
problem when it comes to feeling

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behind, like the only reason we 
feel behind is because we're 

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comparing ourself to someone 
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Like that's the problem. 
And the solution is instead of 

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using comparison, we have to use
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And so when you compare yourself
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versus using them as inspiration
and possibility, it's so 

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painful. 
You feel like a loser, you feel 

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like a failure. 
Like you're like, what is wrong 

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with me? 
Like, why am I, like, what's 

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wrong with me? 
Like I feel like I should have 

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figured out Wi-Fi now and 
clearly it's not happening and 

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I'm just what the fuck? 
Like, I feel like that was 

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really like my dialogue, to be 
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And when you're in that space, 
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And we have to learn how to love
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goal yet. 
Recently I was listening to a 

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podcast and she talked about 1% 
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99% of life is going for the 
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Like 99% of your life is the 
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And we have to want the journey.
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We have to be excited for the 
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And to be excited for the 
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use other people for inspiration
instead of comparison and doom 

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and gloom and to find evidence 
that we're not capable and all 

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the things. 
So I have 4 things on my list to

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help you stop comparing yourself
to other people in a negative 

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light and use them as 
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All right, the first thing you 
need to know is the law of 

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oneness. 
This law states that everything 

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is interconnected. 
What is possible for one is 

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possible for all. 
I'm a huge believer and I've 

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talked about this on the 
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Every single human being is a 
window of opportunity of how 

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your life could be. 
The person that is rich, 

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beautiful, family, traveling the
world, whatever it is, whatever 

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you want. 
You see that on Instagram, on 

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Netflix, whatever it is that is 
possible for you and also the 

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person on the street begging for
money while you're waiting to 

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get off the freeway, that is 
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And every human being is a 
window of possibility of what 

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your life could be like. 
And anytime that you're jealous,

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it's actually a secret desire of
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The only reason why you're 
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that. 
You secretly want that and to 

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own it, to own your desires and 
to know if that person can have 

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it, so can you. 
Because what is possible for one

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is possible for all. 
So you need to know that number 

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2 is actually like a strategy. 
Like what to do? 

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Please please please please 
please please please unfollow or

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mute someone because I 
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can cause drama. 
Mute them or unfollow them. 

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Mute or unfollow anyone you 
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If you compare yourself to them 
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your mind about them, like 
judging them. 

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If you're judging yourself or 
judging them, mute them, block 

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them, unfollow them, get them 
out of your orbit, get them out 

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of your feed, please, 
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You can mute people on 
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I have done it several, several 
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And you can actually unfollow 
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still be like friends with them,
but you'll like unfollow their 

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stuff like on the Instagram or 
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So you can unfollow people and 
not get that drama and that self

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doubt and that judgment, like 
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We need to get rid of it. 
So unfollow, unmute the people 

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that you compare yourself to and
instead follow people that 

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inspire you. 
If you're listening to this 

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podcast, I'm just going to 
assume that I inspire you, which

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is so much fun. 
I love you so much. 

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Follow me on Instagram. 
The mindset, babe. 

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Get into the community, what you
do when you want daily 

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inspiration, Listen to this 
podcast, but also follow me on 

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Instagram. 
You can follow me on Facebook 

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too. 
I'm pretty sure it's a public 

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Facebook page. 
I'm pretty sure it's public. 

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Follow me, it's Perry 
Richardson. 

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If you want to be friends on 
Facebook, let's do it. 

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But you want to make sure that 
you follow motivational 

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inspiring accounts and I 
actually like on Instagram, 

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that's where I spend most of my 
time is you can actually like 

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favor it. 
I feel like I said, that's so 

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weird. 
You can favor it accounts and 

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those accounts will 
automatically like appear first 

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on your feed. 
And I believe you can do maybe 

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30. 
And all of my favorite accounts 

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are inspirational accounts and 
they're the first things I look 

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at when I go on Instagram. 
So do that. 

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And also I wrote down did you 
know you can mute suggested 

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post? 
It's like my favorite thing ever

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because I feel like I compare 
myself the most to suggested 

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posts. 
Like I'm not even following you.

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Like why are you even in my feed
bro? 

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Get out of here. 
So you can actually snooze 

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suggested post on Instagram. 
I'm pretty sure also on 

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Facebook. 
You know when there's like a 

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post, there should be like 3 
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right. 
Click that and it'll be like 

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snooze. 
And then Instagram will prompt 

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you. 
Do you want to snooze suggested 

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post for 30 days? 
Hit yes, you're welcome. 

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That has honestly changed my 
life. 

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All right, another thing to 
know, so you need to know the 

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law of oneness, but you also 
need to know you are currently 

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living one of your prayers. 
You are currently living one of 

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your prayers. 
Girl, I remember a time where I 

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prayed to have a car and I do 
now. 

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I remember I prayed to be a home
owner and now I am. 

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I remember I prayed to have a 
job and now I do. 

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I remember I prayed that this 
podcast would be successful when

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someone would actually be 
listening to me right now. 

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And it's happening. 
Even though I felt like a loser 

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and I felt like a failure and I 
didn't hit my big goal, I am 

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still currently living one of my
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I remember a time my eczema was 
so bad my skin was literally 

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falling apart and I was wishing 
and praying please I don't want 

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to look like this. 
And now my skin is healed. 

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I remember a time I was like I 
wish I knew how to save money. 

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I wish I was disciplined with 
money. 

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I wish that I knew how to manage
my money and now I do. 

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Even though my life isn't 
amazing and perfect and I didn't

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hit my big goal, I am still 
living one of my current prayers

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and I bet you are too. 
There was a time where you 

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wished and you prayed that you 
would have this life. 

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Now you are currently living one
of your prayers. 

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Can I get a Amen? 
And this principle right here 

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woke me the fuck up. 
I was like, why am I 

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complaining? 
Why am I complaining? 

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I have food, I have water, I 
have shelter. 

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I even have sour Patch kids and 
a top rated podcast. 

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And I just got married. 
Life is pretty good. 

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It's OK. 
It is OK. 

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And I'm recording this in my 
bed. 

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Like what is like, girl, you're 
going to be fine. 

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You're going to be fine. 
You're currently living one of 

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your prayers. 
You're good, you're Gucci, OK, 

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You're currently living one of 
your prayers. 

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It could be way, way, way, way, 
way worse. 

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Way worse. 
The last thing I want to talk 

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about, which is like another 
strategy thing, I got to have 

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what you need to know for the 
mindset, but also action is very

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important. 
We got to talk about the 

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strategy. 
So the second strategy action 

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question is when you think about
their timeline, like the person 

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you're comparing yourself to, 
why do you think their timeline 

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is more advanced than yours? 
Like what do you think the 

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difference between you and them 
are? 

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When you answer that question? 
You can use that as bread 

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crumbs. 
Like you can use that as, oh, 

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this is what I need to do. 
The only reason why you're quote

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UN quote behind isn't because 
you're broken, isn't because 

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you're not good enough, isn't 
because you're not capable. 

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It's because they're just doing 
different things than you. 

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And for me, when it came to my 
business, I was like, oh, 

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probably because she has higher 
prices than me and she just 

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creates more opportunities for 
her audience to engage with her.

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Like she's doing podcast, she's 
on Instagram, she's on LinkedIn.

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Like she's out there, she's 
being visible. 

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OK, maybe I should start being 
more visible, but I also had 

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another example of like becoming
healthier because that's also 

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one of my goals this year. 
Like I really want to focus back

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on my body and my health, but 
I'm like, oh, the only reason 

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why this person has a better 
body than me or is more 

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healthier than me is because 
they decided to be in the gym 

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and to eat healthy. 
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That checks outlet me do those 
things because success leaves 

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clues. 
This is why coaching is so 

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important is if you want 
someone's timeline, like ask 

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them for example, like for my 
business coach, like I want her 

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timeline. 
So I'm working with her, my life

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coach, like my personal life 
coach. 

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I get coached on just all the 
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I want her life, so I work with 
her. 

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So coaching mentorship is so 
important because if you want 

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someone's timeline, you can ask 
them because they already 

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created the path, They already 
created the map for you to go 

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on. 
And they're like, Oh my 

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goodness, watch out. 
There's going to be a snake down

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there and you might get bit and 
don't go down that path because 

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it's just going to loop you 
around. 

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You're going to start from the 
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Like they know how to get you 
from start to finish. 

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And that's why I invest in 
coaching. 

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Literally every coaching 
investment I've made is because 

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the coach, I want their fucking 
life like I want it. 

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And if they're offering help, if
they're offering to teach me how

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to live their life, teach me 
everything I want to know, teach

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me how to be successful, happy, 
all the things in love, like I 

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want to know it. 
Tell me the secret to the 

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universe. 
Tell me it. 

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That's what I have for you in 
today's episode. 

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Just a recap. 
Like, how do you actually love 

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yourself when you're feeling 
behind #1 the law of oneness? 

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You need to know this. 
Like this needs to be like 

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embedded in your mindset 
immediately. 

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The law of oneness. 
What is possible for one is 

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possible for all #2 please 
unfollow or mute anyone that you

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compare yourself to. 
Please #3 also know you are 

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currently living one of your 
prayers. 

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Can I get a Amen, Amen. 
And the last thing is let's 

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actually use them as strategy. 
Like what did they do it? 

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Let me do that. 
So what do you think that person

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did? 
And just copy them? 

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Just copy what they did. 
That's what I have for you in 

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today's podcast episode. 
I love you so much. 

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I know this is going to be so 
impactful, so helpful, and I 

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just love this episode. 
I feel like I really didn't have

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too many notes, like I'm really 
trying to express more of me in 

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the podcast. 
That's one of my goals is to be 

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more real, more honest, and to 
show you what it's like to be a 

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human with big goals, with all 
the life shit happening. 

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I love you so much and I will 
see you next week. 

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Bye. 
Thank you so much for listening 

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to the Mindset Babe podcast. 
If you are looking to get more 

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confidence and take action 
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Ioffer private one-on-one 

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This mentorship will teach you 

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manifestation so you can 
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