Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
In today's episode, I want to talk about how to stay positive
when life feels hard. Every single morning feels like
a struggle. You think to yourself, this
can't be it. There has to be more in my life.
You are secretly struggling, you are secretly suffering, and
every single day you have a smile on your face, but on the
inside, you are truly not feeling good.
You feel like you're behind. Your soul is dying a little bit.
So in today's episode, I want to talk about this topic.
I think it's going to be so impactful.
If you're having a hard day right now, a month, year, or
even if you're not, if actually if everything's been good for
you, still listen to this episode.
It's going to be a game changer. Before we jump into the episode,
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in also change their mindset. All right, let's get into the
episode. I want to start off with the
truth about positive thinking because most people here stay
positive and they often think it means ignore your problems,
pretend like everything is OK, and force yourself to be happy.
This is not what I'm talking about in today's podcast episode
because life is hard. Life is challenging, life is
difficult, people get sick, relationships and plans don't
work out. You make mistakes.
And the goal isn't to deny your current reality.
The goal is to stop focusing on only one part of your reality,
because when life feels hard, our brain has the tendency to
zoom in on everything that's going wrong.
I want you to imagine your life is a giant wall covered in
photographs. Hundreds and hundreds of
photographs of every accomplishment, every milestone,
every victory. When you graduated high school,
when you got your degree, when you bought your first car, of
you getting married, having children, starting a business,
healing a part of yourself that you didn't think that could
heal, buying a home. This wall is full of greatness,
achievements in your life. But when life feels hard, your
brain grabs A magnifying glass and zooms in on that one picture
that's missing the promotion. You haven't gotten the weight
that you haven't lost, the money you haven't made, and the goal
you haven't reached. And all of a sudden, all you can
see is the photos that are blank, which is like a blank
piece of paper versus the hundreds, thousands of memories
surrounding you that show how great you are, that show the
accomplishments that you have actually achieved.
And I know this because I sometimes do this.
Yes, Perry, the mindset, babe. I'm also guilty of this too.
I'll be honest, I'm not where I want to be.
There's so much growth. There's so many things that I
want to do, so many achievements that are not off my To Do List
yet. And when I focus on the lack,
when I focus on what's missing, the things I haven't achieved,
my mistakes, my failures, I feel behind.
I feel like a loser. I don't feel good enough.
But a core philosophy that I teach in Becoming her is you are
currently living one of your prayers.
At one point in my life, I dreamed, I prayed that I would
own my car and I do, I would own a house and I do that.
I would go to Europe and I have that.
I would have a top rated podcast and I do.
We tend to forget about the miracles and the prayers we are
currently living right now. So the key to switching your
mindset when life doesn't feel good enough, when life feels
hard, is to look at the tiny blessings right in front of your
face because at the end of the day, there are so many things
going right in your life. So yesterday I actually had a
call with one of the becoming her students and she is a stay
at home mom. And yesterday we were talking
about how to talk back to your brain is one of the lessons in
becoming her. But a thought that she has about
herself is being a stay at home mom isn't valuable.
That her being a stay at home mom means that she's not
valuable because she's not contributing financially to the
household. And I looked at her and I said,
did you know that people wished they had your life?
People are praying for the opportunity to be with their
kids right now. I still have my 9:00 to 5:00,
and the mothers that I work with all the time say I wish I was
with my babies. I only see them for like an hour
in the morning and I barely get any time with them at night.
But time I get home, I have to cook dinner and put them to
sleep. I wish I was spending more time
with my kids. I'm missing the milestones.
I'm missing these moments with them.
I wish I could be a stay at home mom instead of being at this
shop. So many mothers have told me
this at my job. And so it's so fascinating that
there are women sitting in corporate offices right now
wishing they could be a stay at home mom, be with their babies.
And there are stay at home moms wishing they had careers and
they weren't at home with their babies all day because it's not
valuable. And it's so funny that the grass
is always greener. When you're staring at someone
else's lawn, they have greener grass.
They have flowers and roses and sunflowers.
They have a beautiful gate. When you're looking at someone
else's lawn, you forget to look at yours and take care of your
flowers and the things that you have to deal with and things
that you have going on. No matter what season you're in,
your brain will find a reason to look at someone else's life.
But comparison stills your ability to appreciate your own
life. I'm going to say that again.
Comparison stills your ability to appreciate your own life.
I also wrote down in my notes, I want to talk about body image
for a second because this is a big one.
When we struggle with body image, our brain becomes
obsessed with what's wrong. I'm too big, I'm too small, I'm
too old, I'm too young, too Something, whatever it is, fill
in the blank and we're constantly asking, how do I
look? And when you're asking yourself
that question, typically the answers aren't the best.
But something that helped me truly love my body wasn't
saying, Oh my goodness, I love my body and I'm so beautiful and
I'm amazing because at one point I couldn't even look at myself
in the mirror. My main thought about my body
was I was disgusting. Like I couldn't even look at
myself in the mirror because I was disgusting.
I was hideous. I looked like shit.
That was my mindset when it came to my body about 3 years ago.
And what really helped me get out of that mindset wasn't
saying I love my body. It was starting with gratitude,
being thankful for the abilities that my body has.
For example, I'm so grateful that I can use my voice.
I'm grateful that you have ears to hear this, my voice, this
podcast. I'm thankful for my legs to help
me go places to place. I'm thankful for my taste buds.
I can taste delicious foods. I'm thankful for my fingertips,
like in touch and experience textures.
I'm thankful for my stomach. I might have love angles and I
might be bloated, but I'm thankful that my body is able to
digest. I'm thankful that I'm able to go
to the bathroom in the toilet. I don't have to use ostomy back.
Who cares if I have wrinkles? My body is working perfectly
fine. Did you know your body is
performing miracles every single second?
And our brain focuses on the wrinkles, the stretch marks, the
love handles. Like honestly, who cares?
You have breath, you have a heart that's beating, you have
eyes that you can see you, I'm assuming maybe not, right?
You have all your five senses. Your body is actually fucking
incredible. And taking a moment to realize
how amazing your body is, not how it's too much or not enough.
It's perfectly fine the way it is.
And when we start appreciating what your body does instead of
only focusing on how it looks, everything starts to change.
I want to talk about why gratitude works for a little
bit. Your brain's natural reaction is
negative. It's called negative bias.
Its job is to scan for problems. Thousands and thousands of years
that helped humans survive. But today it causes more stress,
more anxiety, more feelings of worthlessness and not feeling
good enough because your brain auto automatically notices
what's wrong, what's missing, what's dangerous, what's
incomplete. Gratitude is intentionally
redirecting your attention. Not ignoring your current
reality, but seeing all of your reality.
Taking a step back and seeing all the photos on the wall.
When most women think gratitude might mean that they're
settling, it doesn't. You can be grateful for where
you are now and excited for where you're going. 2 things can
exist at the same time. For example, I'm so grateful for
my home and my house and yet I would still have some upgrades.
I am so grateful for this podcast and yet better things
are coming. I am grateful for my business
and everyone that has enrolled in becoming Her.
And also, I imagine hundreds of women going through this
program. You can appreciate the chapter
you're in while still believing there's more ahead of you.
This is why I have a gratitude practice and I do it every
single day. And I have a whole podcast
episode talking about my journal practice.
Let me find it for you. It's so good I had to post it
twice. It's episode 280.
What I ask myself every single morning.
Daily journal prompts for confidence and success.
Add it to the queue after listening to this episode.
But every single morning, I start with gratitude.
I start with celebrations. I start with the blessings and
the prayers that I currently have asked for that are in my
life. If life feels hard right now,
I'm not asking you to pretend everything is amazing and
awesome and perfect. I'm not asking you to fake
positivity. I'm asking you to widen your
perspective. Because yes, maybe something
isn't working. Maybe you are a little behind.
Maybe you are truly disappointed.
But that's not the whole story. There are things in your life
right now that a younger version of you prayed for.
There are things in your life right now that someone else
wishes they had. And those are the things in your
life that are worth celebrating, big or small.
And I have to mention this because when I told my student
this, she's like, wait, we could do this.
Did you know you can celebrate things from years ago when you
graduated high school, when you got your bachelors degree,
whatever it is, when you finally left that toxic relationship?
It doesn't have to be celebrations from 2026.
It could be from 2015. So make sure you have a daily
gratitude practice. Make sure you listen to that
podcast episode, episode 280, so you're able to practice more
because right now your brain is wired to look at the negative.
But the more you do this gratitude practice, the more you
do my journal prompts I do every single morning, you're able to
rewire your brain to focus on the positive.
And the more you practice gratitude, the easier it becomes
to access it when life gets hard.
The more you celebrate life, the more life celebrates you.
Not because life just got magically easier, but because
you stopped staring at one thing that's missing and started
appreciating everything that you already have.
That's what I have for you in today's podcast episode.
Remember, you are currently living one of your prayers.
Look hard for it today. All this week, I want you to
look at the miracles, the blessings currently in your life
and I can give you 1. The fact that you're listening,
that you have ears that work and you're listening to this podcast
is a miracle itself. You don't have hearing aids.
You're not deaf. You're something's going right
in your life. There truly is.
I can't even see you and I know that there's greatness that
you've achieved and there's so many things to be grateful for.
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That's what I have for you in today's podcast episode.
I love you so much and I'll see you in the next one.
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