1 00:00:02,080 --> 00:00:04,840 Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast. 2 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:08,280 If you want more confidence and motivation, then you're in the 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:12,440 right place every week at your dose of self development advice 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:15,760 and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson, 5 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:20,160 life coach, NLP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental 6 00:00:20,160 --> 00:00:23,480 health advocate. My mission is help you find more 7 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:26,280 happiness and take more action in your life. 8 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:29,560 Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe. 9 00:00:29,680 --> 00:00:33,120 Welcome too the Mindset Babe podcast. 10 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,000 Have you noticed anything differently? 11 00:00:38,480 --> 00:00:44,480 I have changed my podcast cover. I am so excited. 12 00:00:44,480 --> 00:00:48,480 It is so cute. Two weeks ago I did a photo 13 00:00:48,480 --> 00:00:51,840 shoot and I finally have the photos. 14 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:58,440 If you are paying attention, you know, I actually posted another 15 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:03,600 podcast cover and when I posted it, I wasn't feeling it. 16 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:06,240 I love the photo, I look amazing. 17 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:08,880 I'm still going to use it somewhere somehow. 18 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:14,640 But when I posted it, I just faded in the background. 19 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:18,720 I just didn't like how I was next to the other podcast 20 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:21,600 covers. Like you just completely missed 21 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:25,040 me. So I was like, I'm gonna do the 22 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:28,240 other photo. I all this week I've been having 23 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,880 my mastermind and sisters. I've been asking my coworkers 24 00:01:31,960 --> 00:01:34,720 everyone, like, which photo is your favorite? 25 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:38,840 And it was a hard decision. Everyone loved both of them. 26 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:44,520 But I'm so happy, the floral dress, and it's actually not 27 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:46,400 even a dress. It's two pieces. 28 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:51,040 It's a top and a skirt actually, like tied together in the skirt. 29 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:52,880 There's like a little like loophole. 30 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,440 You like tie the top in the skirt. 31 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:58,800 It's so cute. And I'm so excited that I 32 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:00,800 actually picked that one. It's so funny. 33 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:04,240 I always wanted to be in a black suit on the podcast cover. 34 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:09,919 I've had visions of this and the day I did the photo shoot I 35 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,160 couldn't even find my black blazer for it. 36 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,880 Like I had the pants, but I couldn't find the blazer. 37 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:19,800 And so I just picked a random outfit in my closet that I loved 38 00:02:19,800 --> 00:02:24,040 that I feel comfortable and confident in, and it turns out 39 00:02:24,480 --> 00:02:27,200 that was the winner. So I'm so excited. 40 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:30,840 I have a new podcast cover. I feel like a professional. 41 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:34,360 I feel iconic. I feel like I'm in the big 42 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:36,120 league. So I'm so excited. 43 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:40,960 I actually quickly want to share with you my Instagram post 44 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:43,080 'cause I feel like it's very inspiring. 45 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,440 And I think I might actually just do a whole podcast episode 46 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:50,960 on the success of the podcast and how it's been so successful. 47 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:56,080 OK, this is the Instagram post and make sure you follow me on 48 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:59,640 Instagram the mindset babe. Follow me. 49 00:02:59,640 --> 00:03:01,120 I would love to connect with you. 50 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:05,160 Like when you follow me, please message me so I know to follow 51 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:08,840 you back and to say what's up. Tell me that you listen to this 52 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,480 podcast episode. I would love to be friends with 53 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:13,120 you. I would love to connect with 54 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:16,240 you. Follow me on Instagram, the 55 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:18,040 mindset babe. And then you also get to see the 56 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,960 whole evolution of the podcast covers. 57 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:25,240 So this is the caption swipe for the evolution. 58 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:29,800 Five years ago, I started a podcast, and when I have an 59 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,000 idea, I implement pretty quickly. 60 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:36,440 So when it came to creating the podcast cover, I grabbed a 61 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:41,280 random photo in my camera roll, created it on Canva, and called 62 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:44,640 it a day. I didn't want it to be perfect, 63 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:50,160 I wanted it to be done. Now with almost half a million 64 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:56,920 downloads, I think we're at like 487,000 downloads, thousands of 65 00:03:56,920 --> 00:04:04,600 listeners every single week and over 305 star reviews across all 66 00:04:04,600 --> 00:04:10,720 platforms in all countries. I have decided it's time to do 67 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:14,800 professional photo shoot and my biggest advice for any aspiring 68 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:17,040 podcast creator, YouTube creator, anyone starting a 69 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:21,680 business, anyone wanting to start a big project is to start. 70 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:27,120 Start unprepared, start unsure, start fucking messy. 71 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,960 Just start. Please just start. 72 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:33,720 Go for it. The reason why my podcast is so 73 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:38,080 successful wasn't because I was prepared, wasn't because I had a 74 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:41,680 professional photo shoot before I got started. 75 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:45,560 I didn't even have a website when I started the podcast. 76 00:04:46,920 --> 00:04:48,960 It was because of my consistency. 77 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:58,360 The success came in the doing. The success came in the doing. 78 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:02,080 Thank you for listening to the podcast. 79 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:06,040 If this is your first time ever listening, if this is your 10th, 80 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:09,920 100th, 300th episode, I don't even know what we're at right 81 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:11,520 now. Maybe like 317. 82 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:17,720 Thank you, thank you, Thank you for listening to the show, for 83 00:05:17,720 --> 00:05:21,120 supporting my dreams and for showing up for yourself like 84 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:23,840 this podcast, like you come to learn right for you. 85 00:05:23,840 --> 00:05:30,920 So thank you for having me as a channel, using my wisdom and the 86 00:05:32,040 --> 00:05:34,520 wisdom, the knowledge, the tools, everything on the 87 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:37,200 podcast. Thank you for actually using the 88 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:40,360 tools. If this podcast has impacted 89 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,480 you, please leave a five star review and share it with a 90 00:05:43,480 --> 00:05:46,600 friend. So that's the first thing I had 91 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:48,480 to say. In today's episode, I am going 92 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:52,320 to talk about the belief holding you back, the belief that's 93 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:54,600 making you feel that you're not good enough and the belief 94 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:56,680 that's completely destroying your confidence. 95 00:05:56,880 --> 00:05:59,480 We're talking about that in this podcast episode. 96 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:05,160 Before I get into it, I want to personally invite you to 30 Days 97 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:08,240 of Self Love. This is a free self love 98 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:10,640 challenge. In this challenge, I'm going to 99 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:14,800 be talking about the four things, blocking yourself love. 100 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:18,240 We're going to be talking about your body, how to love your body 101 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:20,360 more. We're going to be talking about 102 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:25,880 people, how people destroy our self love, holding on to past 103 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,480 relationships. We're going to be talking about 104 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:33,080 our past failures and mistakes sometimes when we're unable to 105 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:36,280 get over things that we did in the past that blocks us from 106 00:06:36,280 --> 00:06:38,720 self love. And then we're also going to be 107 00:06:38,720 --> 00:06:44,280 talking about the world and society, how society gives us 108 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:48,600 pressure to look a certain way and behave a certain way, and 109 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:52,360 how that blocks our self love. This challenge is completely 110 00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:55,440 free. Starting July 1st for 30 days, 111 00:06:55,440 --> 00:07:00,000 I'm going to be sending you daily audios directly to your 112 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,440 phone. You can listen anywhere, 113 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:05,120 anytime. The audios, I'm going to be 114 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,200 making them like less than 10 minutes. 115 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:10,560 I understand that you're busy. I want it to something that you 116 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:13,680 can listen to on your commute getting ready like I want it to 117 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:17,480 be something that you can easily add in your daily routine. 118 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:23,960 You're going to register at my website www.themindsetbabe.com. 119 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:28,080 Self love. Make sure you put the WWWW. 120 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:31,680 For some reason if you don't do it, my website sometimes shows 121 00:07:31,680 --> 00:07:34,200 up, sometimes does not. I don't know what's going on 122 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:35,880 with the Internet, it's weird to me. 123 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:41,840 However, go to www.themindsetbabe.com/self 124 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:46,400 Love. That link will also be in the 125 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:50,400 description box, but I would love to have you in the self 126 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:53,160 Love challenge. Once you register, you will be 127 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:57,280 invited in our secret chat and our group. 128 00:07:57,560 --> 00:08:00,000 So make sure you join the group because that's where I'm going 129 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:04,520 to be posting the daily content. We start next week, Wednesday 130 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:08,640 July 1st. I'm going in for 30 days and I'm 131 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:11,760 going to extend the group for two weeks afterwards. 132 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:15,280 So if you do fall behind, no worries at all. 133 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:18,160 Nothing has gone wrong. Just get back on track. 134 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:23,200 You have so much time to do the whole self of experience on your 135 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:25,720 own terms. And I'm so excited to do this. 136 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:29,880 I've never done a whole like monthly, like a month challenge 137 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:31,520 before. So, so excited. 138 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:35,960 It's going to be testing myself, my ability, my capacity to show 139 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:39,039 up and give content with you. So I love how we're both going 140 00:08:39,039 --> 00:08:41,840 to be in a challenge. Make sure you register with the 141 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:46,480 link in the description box. All right, let's get into this 142 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:48,920 episode. All right, We're talking about 143 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:52,440 the number one belief that's keeping you from feeling good 144 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:57,880 enough, the number one belief that is destroying your 145 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:01,320 confidence. And I know that you might have 146 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:05,120 this belief because not one, not 2. 147 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:10,440 But I've had three separate conversations in Becoming Her 148 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:15,520 Academy just this week, and it's only Thursday about this one 149 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:22,680 belief, this one thought. The thought is I'm behind. 150 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:29,000 Raise your hand if you feel like you're behind. 151 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:33,760 And I get it. It's so easy to feel behind. 152 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:36,720 Even myself. I get in traps of this. 153 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:41,280 And I have so much to say about this topic. 154 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:43,840 And I don't have a script. I'm just going to tell you what 155 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:48,400 I've been telling the ladies in Becoming her this, it might be 156 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:51,000 all over the place. This podcast episode, I feel 157 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:54,440 like it's already been with my intro, but here we go. 158 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,760 This is the first thing I need to say. 159 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:04,800 The main reason why you feel behind is because of comparison. 160 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:09,600 How do you know you're behind if there's nothing to compare 161 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:14,560 yourself to, right? So who have you been comparing 162 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:20,120 yourself to? Who is making you feel behind? 163 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:26,840 And I feel like for most of us, it's random people on the 164 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:31,880 Internet. The first thing I told one of my 165 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:35,600 students, because becoming her is individual coaching, it's 166 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:37,960 private one-on-one coaching. So I'm like thinking about every 167 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,960 like session I had. In the very first like coaching 168 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:46,560 call I had with my student. I told her you don't know the 169 00:10:46,560 --> 00:10:52,560 full story. Social media is meant for the 170 00:10:52,560 --> 00:10:55,920 highlights. It's meant for the perfect 171 00:10:56,080 --> 00:11:00,440 moments. And I gave her the example about 172 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,880 how I did my photo shoot. And I was like posting like my 173 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:08,280 beautiful photos. But what I did not post was me 174 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:13,320 freaking out in my closet, crying 'cause I couldn't find my 175 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:17,080 blazer, they didn't see me try on my husband's suit. 176 00:11:17,560 --> 00:11:20,560 And then me go downstairs and ask my husband and if I if I 177 00:11:20,560 --> 00:11:23,560 could wear his suit. And he tells me how bad I look 178 00:11:23,560 --> 00:11:25,280 and how I look like a car salesman. 179 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:27,040 And then I just start crying more. 180 00:11:27,400 --> 00:11:30,400 They didn't see that I did not post that. 181 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:33,760 They did not see the tears, the drama, the anxiety. 182 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:39,920 No one saw that. But what I did present was how I 183 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:42,120 was having this amazing photo shoot. 184 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:51,720 Do not base your life off of a chapter a couple of sentences in 185 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,800 someone's book. And then I had another call 186 00:11:55,800 --> 00:12:01,600 yesterday and she was comparing herself to her coworkers and 187 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:06,360 comparing herself to someone who like just grew up rich and like 188 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:09,120 kind of has like generational like wealth doesn't have to 189 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:14,840 stress about money. And I told her everyone starts 190 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:17,400 off with different circumstances. 191 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:22,440 We all start at like a different point in a race. 192 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:28,520 And I told her, like me and her, we had to deal with trauma in 193 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:33,520 our lives as children. Not every child has to go 194 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:36,440 through that. And thank God some children did 195 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:40,880 not have to go through, right? The trauma and all the craziness 196 00:12:41,280 --> 00:12:44,960 that kind of held us back from the starting point just a little 197 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:47,760 bit, right? And so, yes, there are people 198 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:53,160 who may be further ahead of you because they were dealt with a 199 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:57,320 different playing card. And I'm not saying the people 200 00:12:57,320 --> 00:13:02,720 who grew up with trauma, who are poor, who deal with like 201 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:06,160 unfortunate circumstances. That doesn't mean you can't be 202 00:13:06,160 --> 00:13:09,080 successful, doesn't mean you can't be happy or confident. 203 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:12,720 There's so many stories of people completely changing, like 204 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:16,680 their life around. But yeah, there's some people 205 00:13:16,680 --> 00:13:19,760 that may be a little bit ahead of you because they just grew up 206 00:13:19,800 --> 00:13:23,000 differently and that's OK. That's their story. 207 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:26,440 Nothing is wrong with you just because you were you grew up 208 00:13:26,440 --> 00:13:29,400 differently. And I truly believe the universe 209 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:33,600 gave us our struggles or obstacles or challenges to help 210 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:39,120 us grow in a certain way. In this student, she's 25, she's 211 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:41,680 pretty young. And she was comparing herself to 212 00:13:41,680 --> 00:13:45,360 people that are like in their 30s, like in their 40s. 213 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:50,720 And I told her like, they have multiple years, decades of life 214 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:53,360 ahead of you. You're never gonna catch up. 215 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,360 How are you gonna catch up in 10 years in a, in a year? 216 00:13:56,720 --> 00:13:59,440 It's impossible. You're comparing yourself to 217 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:03,480 someone in like 2 decades older than you, five years older than 218 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:04,680 you. Like, it doesn't matter, like 219 00:14:04,680 --> 00:14:08,840 the time, right? But they've had more time, 220 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:12,640 they've had more chances, they've had more opportunities 221 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:17,120 on this planet. You're not gonna catch up and 222 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:20,960 it's OK. Focus on your own race, catch up 223 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:25,680 on your own life. Don't focus on them, focus on 224 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:27,400 you. But I see that a lot. 225 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:32,040 I with the younger, the younger kiddos who are like in their 226 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:35,760 first half of their 20s comparing themselves to 30 year 227 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:40,920 olds, like I'm 30, do not compare yourself to me. 228 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:45,760 Like I've had more time, more mistakes, more failures on this 229 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:48,440 planet. Of course, I'm a little bit 230 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:50,600 ahead, right? Because I've been doing this, 231 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:52,800 I've been in the game for a little bit longer, right? 232 00:14:53,160 --> 00:14:56,400 So that's really like the first point I wanted to talk about. 233 00:14:56,880 --> 00:15:02,200 After I said that to my students, I then told them, yes, 234 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:07,000 there is someone prettier than you, smarter than you, has more 235 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:09,800 money than you, is more successful than you. 236 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:13,440 Yes, that is true. There is someone better than you 237 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:17,480 and also you're prettier than someone else. 238 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:21,160 You're smarter than someone else, you're more successful 239 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:24,080 than someone else. You have your life together more 240 00:15:24,080 --> 00:15:28,200 than someone else. And I believe that's true for 241 00:15:28,200 --> 00:15:31,880 everyone. Even for me, I'm smarter and 242 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:35,120 more prettier than other people. And also there's people that are 243 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:38,040 way smarter and way more prettier than me. 244 00:15:38,160 --> 00:15:42,560 Like that is a fact. And if that's true for everyone, 245 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:47,480 that means everyone is just in the middle. 246 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:53,680 Everyone is just in the middle because there's someone better 247 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:55,280 than you and you're better than someone else. 248 00:15:55,280 --> 00:16:00,120 And that's true for everyone. And so you're not behind, You're 249 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:03,640 just in the middle. And you may not even be in the 250 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:07,160 middle of life. You may not even be like 50 or 251 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:10,640 over. And if you are, hello, I love 252 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:12,720 you so much. Thank you for listening to the 253 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,960 show. But a lot of people aren't even 254 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:18,440 like, it's not even halftime yet. 255 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:22,320 Like, we're still like playing like in the first half of the 256 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:25,680 game. There's still like so much time. 257 00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:29,360 When I said that to the first student and becoming her, she's 258 00:16:29,360 --> 00:16:30,880 like, well, I want to be the best. 259 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:34,280 Like I want to be the greatest. And I was like, girl, me too. 260 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:36,920 I want to be the best podcaster, I want to be the best coach. 261 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:39,880 Like I want to be like a great, amazing entrepreneur. 262 00:16:39,880 --> 00:16:42,200 Like I want to be the best too. I want to be the best wife. 263 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:45,600 I want to be the best traveller. Like if there is a best, like I 264 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:49,960 want it, yes. Who doesn't want to be the best? 265 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:53,680 But I told her it's a difference from being like, I want to be 266 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:55,520 the best. Let me show up. 267 00:16:55,520 --> 00:16:57,160 Let me wake up early, stay up late. 268 00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:00,160 Let me grind, let me hustle. Let me be the champion. 269 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:03,840 Like it made me think of like a professional athlete, Like they 270 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:10,240 are grinding to be the champion. To be #1 if you want to be #1 271 00:17:10,240 --> 00:17:13,839 you need that mindset. Not like I'm gonna cry in the 272 00:17:13,839 --> 00:17:19,000 corner and boohoo because I'm not #1 yet know if you want to 273 00:17:19,000 --> 00:17:22,680 be #1 let's do it. But we can't cry in the corner 274 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,520 because we're not number one. We got to get on the field, 275 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:30,480 practice and train so we can become number one. 276 00:17:32,400 --> 00:17:37,000 That was so good. We got to practice and train so 277 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:40,120 we can become number one. I love it. 278 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:45,080 So when I coach, I love to do like both sides of the spectrum 279 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:48,600 of like, actually you're not behind at all. 280 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:53,360 Like I want you to actually make a list of like 20 to 30 things, 281 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:59,240 50 if you want a plus of all the struggles, the obstacles, all 282 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:02,560 the things that you have overcome, the celebrations, all 283 00:18:02,560 --> 00:18:05,320 the success that you have. Like if you're listening to this 284 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:08,480 podcast, like I'm pretty sure you're ahead of a lot of people. 285 00:18:09,600 --> 00:18:12,200 If you're listening about personal development and 286 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:14,480 changing your life, you're ahead. 287 00:18:14,520 --> 00:18:17,160 You're ahead, baby girl. And I really want you to make a 288 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:20,280 list to do so. And also right, everyone just in 289 00:18:20,280 --> 00:18:22,960 the middle. So that's one thing. 290 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:26,000 So that's like one side of the spectrum of you're actually not 291 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:32,440 behind. And also, yeah, what if you are 292 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:35,520 behind? We can't be crying in the 293 00:18:35,520 --> 00:18:37,800 corner, right? We got to get up, get on the 294 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:40,600 field, we got to practice, we got to go. 295 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,680 And this is what I told one of the students of becoming her 296 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:46,720 like just last night after her work shift. 297 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:51,360 Yes, if you work a nine to five, if you need coaching, I can meet 298 00:18:51,360 --> 00:18:53,960 with you after work. Not a problem at all. 299 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:57,000 But we're having this conversation about how she's 300 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:00,680 behind. And I told her, yeah, you might 301 00:19:00,680 --> 00:19:03,440 be a little behind. And I told her, like me and you, 302 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:06,040 girl, like, we're meant to be millionaires. 303 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:07,600 We're meant to have a big future. 304 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:10,720 We're meant to have a lot of abundance in our lives, and 305 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:13,040 we're not there yet. Yes, we're behind. 306 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:19,720 And I told her us being behind this is just a preparation 307 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:23,960 period. The universe is preparing us, 308 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,760 getting us ready so we can hold more. 309 00:19:28,680 --> 00:19:32,440 Like the only reason you're behind is because the universe 310 00:19:32,440 --> 00:19:37,600 is teaching you how to hold that, how to hold that success 311 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:42,360 before he gives you more. You're actually in a preparation 312 00:19:42,360 --> 00:19:44,600 season. And then she mentioned how we're 313 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:46,680 like, just like cooking in the oven, right? 314 00:19:46,680 --> 00:19:49,760 We're just cooking in the oven, getting prepared. 315 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:55,000 And one of the things that she's been working on is saving money. 316 00:19:55,800 --> 00:20:00,040 And we were talking about how how can you expect the universe 317 00:20:00,040 --> 00:20:04,760 to give you $1,000,000 if you can't even save 1000, if you 318 00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:09,400 can't even manage your money, if you're overspending and you're 319 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:11,560 just waiting, saying you're behind because you're not 320 00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:14,320 hitting your sales goals and you're not where you are 321 00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:16,200 financially. Yeah. 322 00:20:16,360 --> 00:20:18,240 Because the universe is like, how are you? 323 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:22,320 How do you expect me to give you more if you can't even handle 324 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,600 what you currently have? And so, yeah, you are behind 325 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,440 with your girls because you are meant for greatness, for 326 00:20:28,440 --> 00:20:30,840 abundance. You are meant for so much more. 327 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:33,960 And so, yeah, you may be a little behind, but we're not 328 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:38,360 crying in the corner about it. We're getting prepared. 329 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:42,360 And that right there gives me so much motivation. 330 00:20:42,800 --> 00:20:46,960 Like, yes, the mindset, babe, I'm a little behind. 331 00:20:47,120 --> 00:20:50,760 There's goals that I have not hit, that I have been on my 332 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:55,720 vision board for years, but I am just getting ready. 333 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:59,800 I'm in the preparation season, I'm practicing. 334 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:04,240 And when it's time, it will come. 335 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:09,680 I promise you it will come. And the last thing I want to end 336 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:12,520 with, the last thing I really talked about when it comes to 337 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:16,920 the belief I'm behind is where did you even get this story 338 00:21:16,920 --> 00:21:20,080 from? Who told you that you were 339 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,760 behind? Is it just something that you 340 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:27,280 just made-up in your head or did someone actually tell you you're 341 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:31,080 behind? In one of my 2 situations one 342 00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:34,640 student was like actually no one told me this, I just made it up 343 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:38,720 in my head which is OK. Good to know you're creating 344 00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:42,320 this mental drama for yourself. Can we just let it go, please? 345 00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:45,280 Then I had another student. It was like actually I got this 346 00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,800 from my grandma. Like my grandma all the time 347 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:51,280 used to say that I was behind and how I can never rest. 348 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:54,160 And once I was done with one thing that I would have to like 349 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,000 do another thing. Like I couldn't just relax and 350 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,920 sit and watch TV like I was always on the go as a child. 351 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:05,240 And when I told the student is you're more than welcome. 352 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:11,120 You can keep Grandma's story, but also you can rewrite your 353 00:22:11,120 --> 00:22:13,840 own. Because at the end of the day, 354 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:23,520 you have your own story and you are not only the main character 355 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:27,960 in that story, you're also the director, you're also the 356 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:33,240 costume designer. You write the script, you do the 357 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:37,760 lighting like you do everything in your own story. 358 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:43,880 And I gave her the example of of like Harry Potter. 359 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:47,400 And let's say someone's like, oh, yeah, like I love Harry 360 00:22:47,400 --> 00:22:51,680 Potter and Harry Potter is like his real name in real life. 361 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:55,200 And you're like, actually like, it's Daniel, like Radcliffe. 362 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,040 And they're like, no, no, no. Like his real name is Harry 363 00:22:57,040 --> 00:22:59,280 Potter. And you're like, no, like the 364 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,480 reality is his name is Daniel Radcliffe. 365 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:06,960 And he's just pretending like as a character in Harry Potter and 366 00:23:06,960 --> 00:23:09,560 how Hermione is actually like Emma. 367 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:13,000 And like you're like, the reality is like those are just 368 00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:17,280 characters in a movie playing a script. 369 00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:21,040 But the reality is you're not behind. 370 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:25,200 You're not behind. So you can keep the script 371 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:29,160 grandma script your mom's script, society script the 372 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:33,480 random girl that you don't even know on Instagram script to make 373 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:37,600 you feel behind. Or you get to decide to write 374 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:42,600 your own to change the narrative because what you focus on 375 00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:47,680 changes your reality. This episode was so good. 376 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:50,880 I hope you felt it. I hope this gave you a whole new 377 00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:54,200 perspective change. If you enjoyed this podcast 378 00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,600 episode, if you want to work on your body confidence, if you 379 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:02,960 want to increase yourself esteem, get into the free Self 380 00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,480 Love challenge. I would love to have you in 381 00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:08,160 there. 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