Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation, then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, NLP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is help you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome too the Mindset Babe podcast.
Have you noticed anything differently?
I have changed my podcast cover. I am so excited.
It is so cute. Two weeks ago I did a photo
shoot and I finally have the photos.
If you are paying attention, you know, I actually posted another
podcast cover and when I posted it, I wasn't feeling it.
I love the photo, I look amazing.
I'm still going to use it somewhere somehow.
But when I posted it, I just faded in the background.
I just didn't like how I was next to the other podcast
covers. Like you just completely missed
me. So I was like, I'm gonna do the
other photo. I all this week I've been having
my mastermind and sisters. I've been asking my coworkers
everyone, like, which photo is your favorite?
And it was a hard decision. Everyone loved both of them.
But I'm so happy, the floral dress, and it's actually not
even a dress. It's two pieces.
It's a top and a skirt actually, like tied together in the skirt.
There's like a little like loophole.
You like tie the top in the skirt.
It's so cute. And I'm so excited that I
actually picked that one. It's so funny.
I always wanted to be in a black suit on the podcast cover.
I've had visions of this and the day I did the photo shoot I
couldn't even find my black blazer for it.
Like I had the pants, but I couldn't find the blazer.
And so I just picked a random outfit in my closet that I loved
that I feel comfortable and confident in, and it turns out
that was the winner. So I'm so excited.
I have a new podcast cover. I feel like a professional.
I feel iconic. I feel like I'm in the big
league. So I'm so excited.
I actually quickly want to share with you my Instagram post
'cause I feel like it's very inspiring.
And I think I might actually just do a whole podcast episode
on the success of the podcast and how it's been so successful.
OK, this is the Instagram post and make sure you follow me on
Instagram the mindset babe. Follow me.
I would love to connect with you.
Like when you follow me, please message me so I know to follow
you back and to say what's up. Tell me that you listen to this
podcast episode. I would love to be friends with
you. I would love to connect with
you. Follow me on Instagram, the
mindset babe. And then you also get to see the
whole evolution of the podcast covers.
So this is the caption swipe for the evolution.
Five years ago, I started a podcast, and when I have an
idea, I implement pretty quickly.
So when it came to creating the podcast cover, I grabbed a
random photo in my camera roll, created it on Canva, and called
it a day. I didn't want it to be perfect,
I wanted it to be done. Now with almost half a million
downloads, I think we're at like 487,000 downloads, thousands of
listeners every single week and over 305 star reviews across all
platforms in all countries. I have decided it's time to do
professional photo shoot and my biggest advice for any aspiring
podcast creator, YouTube creator, anyone starting a
business, anyone wanting to start a big project is to start.
Start unprepared, start unsure, start fucking messy.
Just start. Please just start.
Go for it. The reason why my podcast is so
successful wasn't because I was prepared, wasn't because I had a
professional photo shoot before I got started.
I didn't even have a website when I started the podcast.
It was because of my consistency.
The success came in the doing. The success came in the doing.
Thank you for listening to the podcast.
If this is your first time ever listening, if this is your 10th,
100th, 300th episode, I don't even know what we're at right
now. Maybe like 317.
Thank you, thank you, Thank you for listening to the show, for
supporting my dreams and for showing up for yourself like
this podcast, like you come to learn right for you.
So thank you for having me as a channel, using my wisdom and the
wisdom, the knowledge, the tools, everything on the
podcast. Thank you for actually using the
tools. If this podcast has impacted
you, please leave a five star review and share it with a
friend. So that's the first thing I had
to say. In today's episode, I am going
to talk about the belief holding you back, the belief that's
making you feel that you're not good enough and the belief
that's completely destroying your confidence.
We're talking about that in this podcast episode.
Before I get into it, I want to personally invite you to 30 Days
of Self Love. This is a free self love
challenge. In this challenge, I'm going to
be talking about the four things, blocking yourself love.
We're going to be talking about your body, how to love your body
more. We're going to be talking about
people, how people destroy our self love, holding on to past
relationships. We're going to be talking about
our past failures and mistakes sometimes when we're unable to
get over things that we did in the past that blocks us from
self love. And then we're also going to be
talking about the world and society, how society gives us
pressure to look a certain way and behave a certain way, and
how that blocks our self love. This challenge is completely
free. Starting July 1st for 30 days,
I'm going to be sending you daily audios directly to your
phone. You can listen anywhere,
anytime. The audios, I'm going to be
making them like less than 10 minutes.
I understand that you're busy. I want it to something that you
can listen to on your commute getting ready like I want it to
be something that you can easily add in your daily routine.
You're going to register at my website www.themindsetbabe.com.
Self love. Make sure you put the WWWW.
For some reason if you don't do it, my website sometimes shows
up, sometimes does not. I don't know what's going on
with the Internet, it's weird to me.
However, go to www.themindsetbabe.com/self
Love. That link will also be in the
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Love challenge. Once you register, you will be
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So make sure you join the group because that's where I'm going
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July 1st. I'm going in for 30 days and I'm
going to extend the group for two weeks afterwards.
So if you do fall behind, no worries at all.
Nothing has gone wrong. Just get back on track.
You have so much time to do the whole self of experience on your
own terms. And I'm so excited to do this.
I've never done a whole like monthly, like a month challenge
before. So, so excited.
It's going to be testing myself, my ability, my capacity to show
up and give content with you. So I love how we're both going
to be in a challenge. Make sure you register with the
link in the description box. All right, let's get into this
episode. All right, We're talking about
the number one belief that's keeping you from feeling good
enough, the number one belief that is destroying your
confidence. And I know that you might have
this belief because not one, not 2.
But I've had three separate conversations in Becoming Her
Academy just this week, and it's only Thursday about this one
belief, this one thought. The thought is I'm behind.
Raise your hand if you feel like you're behind.
And I get it. It's so easy to feel behind.
Even myself. I get in traps of this.
And I have so much to say about this topic.
And I don't have a script. I'm just going to tell you what
I've been telling the ladies in Becoming her this, it might be
all over the place. This podcast episode, I feel
like it's already been with my intro, but here we go.
This is the first thing I need to say.
The main reason why you feel behind is because of comparison.
How do you know you're behind if there's nothing to compare
yourself to, right? So who have you been comparing
yourself to? Who is making you feel behind?
And I feel like for most of us, it's random people on the
Internet. The first thing I told one of my
students, because becoming her is individual coaching, it's
private one-on-one coaching. So I'm like thinking about every
like session I had. In the very first like coaching
call I had with my student. I told her you don't know the
full story. Social media is meant for the
highlights. It's meant for the perfect
moments. And I gave her the example about
how I did my photo shoot. And I was like posting like my
beautiful photos. But what I did not post was me
freaking out in my closet, crying 'cause I couldn't find my
blazer, they didn't see me try on my husband's suit.
And then me go downstairs and ask my husband and if I if I
could wear his suit. And he tells me how bad I look
and how I look like a car salesman.
And then I just start crying more.
They didn't see that I did not post that.
They did not see the tears, the drama, the anxiety.
No one saw that. But what I did present was how I
was having this amazing photo shoot.
Do not base your life off of a chapter a couple of sentences in
someone's book. And then I had another call
yesterday and she was comparing herself to her coworkers and
comparing herself to someone who like just grew up rich and like
kind of has like generational like wealth doesn't have to
stress about money. And I told her everyone starts
off with different circumstances.
We all start at like a different point in a race.
And I told her, like me and her, we had to deal with trauma in
our lives as children. Not every child has to go
through that. And thank God some children did
not have to go through, right? The trauma and all the craziness
that kind of held us back from the starting point just a little
bit, right? And so, yes, there are people
who may be further ahead of you because they were dealt with a
different playing card. And I'm not saying the people
who grew up with trauma, who are poor, who deal with like
unfortunate circumstances. That doesn't mean you can't be
successful, doesn't mean you can't be happy or confident.
There's so many stories of people completely changing, like
their life around. But yeah, there's some people
that may be a little bit ahead of you because they just grew up
differently and that's OK. That's their story.
Nothing is wrong with you just because you were you grew up
differently. And I truly believe the universe
gave us our struggles or obstacles or challenges to help
us grow in a certain way. In this student, she's 25, she's
pretty young. And she was comparing herself to
people that are like in their 30s, like in their 40s.
And I told her like, they have multiple years, decades of life
ahead of you. You're never gonna catch up.
How are you gonna catch up in 10 years in a, in a year?
It's impossible. You're comparing yourself to
someone in like 2 decades older than you, five years older than
you. Like, it doesn't matter, like
the time, right? But they've had more time,
they've had more chances, they've had more opportunities
on this planet. You're not gonna catch up and
it's OK. Focus on your own race, catch up
on your own life. Don't focus on them, focus on
you. But I see that a lot.
I with the younger, the younger kiddos who are like in their
first half of their 20s comparing themselves to 30 year
olds, like I'm 30, do not compare yourself to me.
Like I've had more time, more mistakes, more failures on this
planet. Of course, I'm a little bit
ahead, right? Because I've been doing this,
I've been in the game for a little bit longer, right?
So that's really like the first point I wanted to talk about.
After I said that to my students, I then told them, yes,
there is someone prettier than you, smarter than you, has more
money than you, is more successful than you.
Yes, that is true. There is someone better than you
and also you're prettier than someone else.
You're smarter than someone else, you're more successful
than someone else. You have your life together more
than someone else. And I believe that's true for
everyone. Even for me, I'm smarter and
more prettier than other people. And also there's people that are
way smarter and way more prettier than me.
Like that is a fact. And if that's true for everyone,
that means everyone is just in the middle.
Everyone is just in the middle because there's someone better
than you and you're better than someone else.
And that's true for everyone. And so you're not behind, You're
just in the middle. And you may not even be in the
middle of life. You may not even be like 50 or
over. And if you are, hello, I love
you so much. Thank you for listening to the
show. But a lot of people aren't even
like, it's not even halftime yet.
Like, we're still like playing like in the first half of the
game. There's still like so much time.
When I said that to the first student and becoming her, she's
like, well, I want to be the best.
Like I want to be the greatest. And I was like, girl, me too.
I want to be the best podcaster, I want to be the best coach.
Like I want to be like a great, amazing entrepreneur.
Like I want to be the best too. I want to be the best wife.
I want to be the best traveller. Like if there is a best, like I
want it, yes. Who doesn't want to be the best?
But I told her it's a difference from being like, I want to be
the best. Let me show up.
Let me wake up early, stay up late.
Let me grind, let me hustle. Let me be the champion.
Like it made me think of like a professional athlete, Like they
are grinding to be the champion. To be #1 if you want to be #1
you need that mindset. Not like I'm gonna cry in the
corner and boohoo because I'm not #1 yet know if you want to
be #1 let's do it. But we can't cry in the corner
because we're not number one. We got to get on the field,
practice and train so we can become number one.
That was so good. We got to practice and train so
we can become number one. I love it.
So when I coach, I love to do like both sides of the spectrum
of like, actually you're not behind at all.
Like I want you to actually make a list of like 20 to 30 things,
50 if you want a plus of all the struggles, the obstacles, all
the things that you have overcome, the celebrations, all
the success that you have. Like if you're listening to this
podcast, like I'm pretty sure you're ahead of a lot of people.
If you're listening about personal development and
changing your life, you're ahead.
You're ahead, baby girl. And I really want you to make a
list to do so. And also right, everyone just in
the middle. So that's one thing.
So that's like one side of the spectrum of you're actually not
behind. And also, yeah, what if you are
behind? We can't be crying in the
corner, right? We got to get up, get on the
field, we got to practice, we got to go.
And this is what I told one of the students of becoming her
like just last night after her work shift.
Yes, if you work a nine to five, if you need coaching, I can meet
with you after work. Not a problem at all.
But we're having this conversation about how she's
behind. And I told her, yeah, you might
be a little behind. And I told her, like me and you,
girl, like, we're meant to be millionaires.
We're meant to have a big future.
We're meant to have a lot of abundance in our lives, and
we're not there yet. Yes, we're behind.
And I told her us being behind this is just a preparation
period. The universe is preparing us,
getting us ready so we can hold more.
Like the only reason you're behind is because the universe
is teaching you how to hold that, how to hold that success
before he gives you more. You're actually in a preparation
season. And then she mentioned how we're
like, just like cooking in the oven, right?
We're just cooking in the oven, getting prepared.
And one of the things that she's been working on is saving money.
And we were talking about how how can you expect the universe
to give you $1,000,000 if you can't even save 1000, if you
can't even manage your money, if you're overspending and you're
just waiting, saying you're behind because you're not
hitting your sales goals and you're not where you are
financially. Yeah.
Because the universe is like, how are you?
How do you expect me to give you more if you can't even handle
what you currently have? And so, yeah, you are behind
with your girls because you are meant for greatness, for
abundance. You are meant for so much more.
And so, yeah, you may be a little behind, but we're not
crying in the corner about it. We're getting prepared.
And that right there gives me so much motivation.
Like, yes, the mindset, babe, I'm a little behind.
There's goals that I have not hit, that I have been on my
vision board for years, but I am just getting ready.
I'm in the preparation season, I'm practicing.
And when it's time, it will come.
I promise you it will come. And the last thing I want to end
with, the last thing I really talked about when it comes to
the belief I'm behind is where did you even get this story
from? Who told you that you were
behind? Is it just something that you
just made-up in your head or did someone actually tell you you're
behind? In one of my 2 situations one
student was like actually no one told me this, I just made it up
in my head which is OK. Good to know you're creating
this mental drama for yourself. Can we just let it go, please?
Then I had another student. It was like actually I got this
from my grandma. Like my grandma all the time
used to say that I was behind and how I can never rest.
And once I was done with one thing that I would have to like
do another thing. Like I couldn't just relax and
sit and watch TV like I was always on the go as a child.
And when I told the student is you're more than welcome.
You can keep Grandma's story, but also you can rewrite your
own. Because at the end of the day,
you have your own story and you are not only the main character
in that story, you're also the director, you're also the
costume designer. You write the script, you do the
lighting like you do everything in your own story.
And I gave her the example of of like Harry Potter.
And let's say someone's like, oh, yeah, like I love Harry
Potter and Harry Potter is like his real name in real life.
And you're like, actually like, it's Daniel, like Radcliffe.
And they're like, no, no, no. Like his real name is Harry
Potter. And you're like, no, like the
reality is his name is Daniel Radcliffe.
And he's just pretending like as a character in Harry Potter and
how Hermione is actually like Emma.
And like you're like, the reality is like those are just
characters in a movie playing a script.
But the reality is you're not behind.
You're not behind. So you can keep the script
grandma script your mom's script, society script the
random girl that you don't even know on Instagram script to make
you feel behind. Or you get to decide to write
your own to change the narrative because what you focus on
changes your reality. This episode was so good.
I hope you felt it. I hope this gave you a whole new
perspective change. If you enjoyed this podcast
episode, if you want to work on your body confidence, if you
want to increase yourself esteem, get into the free Self
Love challenge. I would love to have you in
there. We start next week.
Make sure when you register you get into our group, the place
where I'm going to send you daily audios.
If you love the podcast, you're going to love the challenge.
I'll say it on, I'll say it again.
If you love the podcast, you're going to love the challenge.
It's completely free. You need to get in there.
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I love you so much and I'll see you next week.
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