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Welcome to the Mindset Bay 
podcast. 

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If you want more confidence and 
motivation then you're in the 

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right place every week at your 
dose of self development advice 

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and strategies. 
I'm your host Perry Richardson, 

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life coach, N OP practitioner, 
motivational speaker and mental 

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health advocate. 
My mission is hope you find more

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happiness and take more action 
in your life. 

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Now let's begin. 
Hello, hello, Hello, babe. 

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Welcome to the Mindset Babe 
podcast. 

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Have you ever spent 20 minutes 
trying to decide what to eat for

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dinner? 
Or replayed a conversation in 

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your head 47 times in the shower
trying to figure out why you 

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said that one thing? 
Or maybe you spent weeks or 

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months trying to decide if you 
should start the business, 

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launch the podcast, the YouTube 
channel. 

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If you've been overthinking 
applying for the job, leaving 

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the relationship, joining the 
gym, or hiring a coach, then 

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this episode is for you. 
Because today we're talking 

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about why you're overthinking 
every little decision and what 

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your brain is actually trying to
do. 

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And here's what I want to say 
right away. 

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You're not broken. 
You're not bad at making 

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decisions. 
You're not incapable. 

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Your brain is being a brain 
doing exactly what it's designed

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to do in our brain isn't met 
isn't designed to help us create

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our dream life, the life where 
we feel happy, confident and 

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fulfilled. 
Our brain is actually designed 

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to do the opposite. 
So I'm so excited to talk about 

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this in today's podcast episode.
I think this episode is going to

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free you. 
I'm so excited. 

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Before we get into it, make sure
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If this podcast has helped you 

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anyway, hope you think 
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I would love to connect with you

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there. 
I share more mindset tips, 

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strategies, advice on the 
podcast and also behind the 

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scenes in my day-to-day life. 
All right, let's get into the 

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episode. 
Let's talk about overthinking 

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because I don't think you 
realize how much time you 

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actually spend during the day. 
Overthinking. 

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We overthink conversations. 
What should I say? 

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What if they say this? 
What if I sound stupid? 

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Then after that conversation, we
overthink it again. 

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Why did I say that? 
Uh, I sounded so weird. 

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I should have said this instead.
You sounded so dumb. 

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We overthink what we're doing 
with our day. 

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Should I clean the bathroom 
first or the laundry first? 

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Hmm, Should I actually do the 
recording of the podcast first 

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or should I answer these emails 
first? 

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Should I work out instead? 
We overthink everything. 

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We overthink purchases. 
We overthink relationships. 

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We overthink career decisions. 
We overthink text messages. 

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We literally overthink every 
little thing. 

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And the reason we do it is 
actually really simple. 

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Most people think they overthink
because they're anxious and they

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have high anxiety, but that's 
not the root cause. 

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The real reason you overthink is
because you're trying to make 

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the perfect decision. 
You want the right decision, the

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best decision, the safest 
decision, the decision that 

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guarantees success, the decision
that guarantees happiness, the 

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decision that guarantees that 
you won't fail Because somewhere

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deep down your brain beliefs, if
I can make the right choice, 

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then I'll be safe. 
And this is where your animal 

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brain comes in. 
Now your brain has one primary 

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job, keep you alive. 
That's it. 

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Your brain doesn't care if you 
become successful. 

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Your brain doesn't care if you 
launch the podcast or the 

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business. 
Your brain doesn't care if you 

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build confidence. 
Your brain does not give a fuck 

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about your dream life. 
The only thing your brain cares 

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about is your survival for 
thousands of years. 

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Uncertainty could be very, very,
very dangerous, and making the 

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wrong decision could literally 
cost someone's life. 

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So your brain has evolved to 
constantly scan for danger. 

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The problem is that your brain 
hasn't caught up to modern life.

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Today's danger isn't tiger 
danger. 

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The danger is posting on 
Instagram, sending the e-mail, 

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starting the business, having a 
difficult conversation, leaving 

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the person making a decision 
without knowing exactly how it's

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going to turn out. 
It's scary, it's uncertain, and 

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your brain responds the same 
way. 

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Just like our ancient ancestors,
being scared of the uncertainty 

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of leaving The Cave, knowing 
that you might die by a tiger. 

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So your brain starts thinking 
and thinking and thinking and 

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thinking and thinking and 
thinking and thinking and 

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thinking, trying to eliminate 
the uncertainty, trying to 

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create guarantees, trying to 
predict the future. 

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I wanted to give an example for 
you guys. 

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So this is what I wrote in my 
notes for you. 

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OK, so your brain wants AGPS for
your life. 

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Like think about it like when 
you use AGPS, it gives you every

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turn, every exit, every stop 
sign if you can, if there's two 

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lanes to make a left, like the 
GPS, like Google Maps, like it 

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breaks it down for you. 
And your brain wants the same 

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thing. 
Your brain wants to know every 

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single stop sign, every little 
thing that could possibly get in

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the way from you getting to your
final destination in your brain 

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once the same thing, but for 
your life, like your brain is 

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trying to do like Agps. 
For your future, it needs to 

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know if it's the right choice, 
if it's going to happen, how 

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long is it going to take? 
Will it work out? 

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Will people like it? 
Will I succeed? 

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Can I tell you the honest truth?
Life doesn't give you Agps. 

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Life does not give you the 
story, the directions beginning 

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to end. 
Life only gives you the very 

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next step. 
That's it. 

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And most people are sitting in 
their driveway waiting for the 

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entire route to show up before 
they start driving. 

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They're waiting for the 
certainty. 

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They're waiting for the 
guarantees. 

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They're waiting to know exactly 
how everything is going to 

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unfold. 
Meanwhile, the confident people,

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they just start driving. 
Not because they know 

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everything, because they trust 
themselves. 

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They're going to figure it out. 
They trust themselves to reroute

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if necessary. 
They trust themselves to handle 

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whatever comes next. 
Confidence isn't knowing. 

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Confidence is trusting yourself.
For example, I was overthinking 

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something recently. 
I actually have something very 

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exciting coming up for you and 
when I was trying to decide like

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when I should announce it, I'm 
like, should I do it in June? 

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Should I do it in August? 
Would August be smarter? 

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Is June too soon? 
Like will I be prepared for 

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this? 
Do people even want this help? 

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I was going back and forth, back
and forth, back and forth, 

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trying to find the perfect 
answer. 

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And then I realized something. 
I wasn't looking for the answer.

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I was looking for certainty. 
I was looking for a guarantee 

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that this was actually going to 
work. 

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But the only way it works is if 
I work, if I make it work. 

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How you make the right decisions
is you make the decision right. 

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How you make the right choice is
you make it right. 

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You get to work. 
You make it right with how you 

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believe about it and the actions
towards it. 

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And I want you to write this 
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I really want you to soak this 
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The right decision is a decision
you make right. 

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That's it. 
Most people think confidence 

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comes before the decision. 
No, confidence doesn't come 

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before it, it comes after it. 
Confidence comes from backing 

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yourself up, having yourself 
having your own back. 

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Confidence comes from showing 
up. 

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Confidence comes from following 
through. 

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Confidence comes from making a 
decision and then making that 

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decision work for you. 
So instead of asking yourself 

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what's the right decision, I 
want you to ask yourself these 

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questions instead. 
How can I make this feel fun? 

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How can I make this simple and 
easy to do? 

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How can I make this decision 
right right now? 

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What would need to happen for me
to act on this today? 

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Because most of the time there 
isn't 1 perfect choice. 

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There's multiple choices. 
Literally doesn't matter what 

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you do, as long as you do the 
thing, I don't care what you do.

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Just pick one thing, follow 
through, evaluate, and do it 

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again. 
Like I really want you to 

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imagine how much time you would 
get back if you stop trying to 

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predict every possible outcome. 
How much energy would you get 

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back? 
How much peace would you get 

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back? 
How much confidence would you 

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actually build? 
Because overthinking doesn't 

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create better decisions. 
Overthinking creates delayed 

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decisions in delayed decisions 
create delayed results. 

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And when you have delayed 
results, you create lack of 

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confidence. 
So stop delaying the decisions. 

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Take action. 
Make the decision right. 

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There's no right option. 
There's no right choice. 

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There's no right decision, just 
a decision that you make right. 

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That's what I have for you in 
today's podcast episode, make 

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sure you share it with a friend,
your mom, your friend, your 

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sister, your brother. 
Share it with someone who needs 

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this podcast episode. 
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If you listen to this podcast 
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I'll see you the next one. 
Bye. 

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