Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, Hello, babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
Have you ever spent 20 minutes trying to decide what to eat for
dinner? Or replayed a conversation in
your head 47 times in the shower trying to figure out why you
said that one thing? Or maybe you spent weeks or
months trying to decide if you should start the business,
launch the podcast, the YouTube channel.
If you've been overthinking applying for the job, leaving
the relationship, joining the gym, or hiring a coach, then
this episode is for you. Because today we're talking
about why you're overthinking every little decision and what
your brain is actually trying to do.
And here's what I want to say right away.
You're not broken. You're not bad at making
decisions. You're not incapable.
Your brain is being a brain doing exactly what it's designed
to do in our brain isn't met isn't designed to help us create
our dream life, the life where we feel happy, confident and
fulfilled. Our brain is actually designed
to do the opposite. So I'm so excited to talk about
this in today's podcast episode. I think this episode is going to
free you. I'm so excited.
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scenes in my day-to-day life. All right, let's get into the
episode. Let's talk about overthinking
because I don't think you realize how much time you
actually spend during the day. Overthinking.
We overthink conversations. What should I say?
What if they say this? What if I sound stupid?
Then after that conversation, we overthink it again.
Why did I say that? Uh, I sounded so weird.
I should have said this instead. You sounded so dumb.
We overthink what we're doing with our day.
Should I clean the bathroom first or the laundry first?
Hmm, Should I actually do the recording of the podcast first
or should I answer these emails first?
Should I work out instead? We overthink everything.
We overthink purchases. We overthink relationships.
We overthink career decisions. We overthink text messages.
We literally overthink every little thing.
And the reason we do it is actually really simple.
Most people think they overthink because they're anxious and they
have high anxiety, but that's not the root cause.
The real reason you overthink is because you're trying to make
the perfect decision. You want the right decision, the
best decision, the safest decision, the decision that
guarantees success, the decision that guarantees happiness, the
decision that guarantees that you won't fail Because somewhere
deep down your brain beliefs, if I can make the right choice,
then I'll be safe. And this is where your animal
brain comes in. Now your brain has one primary
job, keep you alive. That's it.
Your brain doesn't care if you become successful.
Your brain doesn't care if you launch the podcast or the
business. Your brain doesn't care if you
build confidence. Your brain does not give a fuck
about your dream life. The only thing your brain cares
about is your survival for thousands of years.
Uncertainty could be very, very, very dangerous, and making the
wrong decision could literally cost someone's life.
So your brain has evolved to constantly scan for danger.
The problem is that your brain hasn't caught up to modern life.
Today's danger isn't tiger danger.
The danger is posting on Instagram, sending the e-mail,
starting the business, having a difficult conversation, leaving
the person making a decision without knowing exactly how it's
going to turn out. It's scary, it's uncertain, and
your brain responds the same way.
Just like our ancient ancestors, being scared of the uncertainty
of leaving The Cave, knowing that you might die by a tiger.
So your brain starts thinking and thinking and thinking and
thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking and
thinking, trying to eliminate the uncertainty, trying to
create guarantees, trying to predict the future.
I wanted to give an example for you guys.
So this is what I wrote in my notes for you.
OK, so your brain wants AGPS for your life.
Like think about it like when you use AGPS, it gives you every
turn, every exit, every stop sign if you can, if there's two
lanes to make a left, like the GPS, like Google Maps, like it
breaks it down for you. And your brain wants the same
thing. Your brain wants to know every
single stop sign, every little thing that could possibly get in
the way from you getting to your final destination in your brain
once the same thing, but for your life, like your brain is
trying to do like Agps. For your future, it needs to
know if it's the right choice, if it's going to happen, how
long is it going to take? Will it work out?
Will people like it? Will I succeed?
Can I tell you the honest truth? Life doesn't give you Agps.
Life does not give you the story, the directions beginning
to end. Life only gives you the very
next step. That's it.
And most people are sitting in their driveway waiting for the
entire route to show up before they start driving.
They're waiting for the certainty.
They're waiting for the guarantees.
They're waiting to know exactly how everything is going to
unfold. Meanwhile, the confident people,
they just start driving. Not because they know
everything, because they trust themselves.
They're going to figure it out. They trust themselves to reroute
if necessary. They trust themselves to handle
whatever comes next. Confidence isn't knowing.
Confidence is trusting yourself. For example, I was overthinking
something recently. I actually have something very
exciting coming up for you and when I was trying to decide like
when I should announce it, I'm like, should I do it in June?
Should I do it in August? Would August be smarter?
Is June too soon? Like will I be prepared for
this? Do people even want this help?
I was going back and forth, back and forth, back and forth,
trying to find the perfect answer.
And then I realized something. I wasn't looking for the answer.
I was looking for certainty. I was looking for a guarantee
that this was actually going to work.
But the only way it works is if I work, if I make it work.
How you make the right decisions is you make the decision right.
How you make the right choice is you make it right.
You get to work. You make it right with how you
believe about it and the actions towards it.
And I want you to write this down.
I really want you to soak this in.
The right decision is a decision you make right.
That's it. Most people think confidence
comes before the decision. No, confidence doesn't come
before it, it comes after it. Confidence comes from backing
yourself up, having yourself having your own back.
Confidence comes from showing up.
Confidence comes from following through.
Confidence comes from making a decision and then making that
decision work for you. So instead of asking yourself
what's the right decision, I want you to ask yourself these
questions instead. How can I make this feel fun?
How can I make this simple and easy to do?
How can I make this decision right right now?
What would need to happen for me to act on this today?
Because most of the time there isn't 1 perfect choice.
There's multiple choices. Literally doesn't matter what
you do, as long as you do the thing, I don't care what you do.
Just pick one thing, follow through, evaluate, and do it
again. Like I really want you to
imagine how much time you would get back if you stop trying to
predict every possible outcome. How much energy would you get
back? How much peace would you get
back? How much confidence would you
actually build? Because overthinking doesn't
create better decisions. Overthinking creates delayed
decisions in delayed decisions create delayed results.
And when you have delayed results, you create lack of
confidence. So stop delaying the decisions.
Take action. Make the decision right.
There's no right option. There's no right choice.
There's no right decision, just a decision that you make right.
That's what I have for you in today's podcast episode, make
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If you listen to this podcast episode, I love you so much and
I'll see you the next one. Bye.
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