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Welcome to the Mindset Bay 
podcast. 

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If you want more confidence and 
motivation, then you're in the 

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right place every week at your 
dose of self development advice 

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and strategies. 
I'm your host Perry Richardson, 

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life coach, NLP practitioner, 
motivational speaker and mental 

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health advocate. 
My mission is help you find more

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happiness and take more action 
in your life. 

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Now let's begin. 
Hello, hello, hello babe. 

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Welcome to the Mindset Babe 
podcast. 

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Do you have a lot on your plate?
Are you busy and it just feels 

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like you have a lot going on at 
this moment? 

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If so, this podcast was made for
you. 

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I have been having so many 
people tell me I have a lot on 

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my plate from my clients. 
I've had two client calls and 

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becoming her of people telling 
me. 

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I just feel so overwhelmed. 
I have so much on my plate. 

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And then also I've had like 
other conversations just in 

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life, like with my coworkers 
waiting in line at the grocery 

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store. 
Like I have just been hearing a 

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lot of people say I have a lot 
on my plate and I have a law on 

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my plate. 
Also, I run a business. 

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I still work by 9:00 to 5:00. 
I have my friends and my family 

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and I work out and I enjoy life.
And so I understand what it's 

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like to be doing multiple 
things. 

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I understand what it's like to 
have a lot of things on your To 

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Do List. 
But at the same time, I'm not 

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stressed, I'm not overwhelmed. 
I'm actually chilling like I'm 

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actually having like such a 
great time living life with all 

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the things on my plate. 
And so I was like, I need to do 

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a podcast episode about this 
because clearly I have a mindset

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and strategy that's been working
for me. 

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And so I thought it'd be helpful
if I shared this mindset and 

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strategy with you. 
If you feel like you have a lot 

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on your plate, I got you, I got 
you, I got you. 

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Before we get into it, I want to
talk about these self doubt 

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detox. 
We are slowly coming towards the

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end of the calls. 
It's been so much fun to coach 

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on these these. 
Self Doubt Detox is a 

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personalized custom coaching 
call to help you stop believing 

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the negative chatter in your 
brain. 

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This is a detox for doing a 
spring cleanse of the negativity

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in your brain so you can finally
step into the confidence you've 

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been waiting for. 
If you've been praying for 

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confidence, if you've been 
praying for clarity, I invite 

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you to get on a call. 
You can go ahead. 

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You can book these self doubt 
detox with the link in the 

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description box. 
All right, let's get into this 

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episode. 
It's so crazy how the universe 

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works because I had two random 
people tell me that they had a 

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lot going on at this moment. 
And then I had two client calls 

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on Sunday and it was literally 
about the same topic. 

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So I was like, like, everyone 
needs to hear it clearly. 

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Something is going on with just 
the summer and kids going back 

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to school and all the things. 
So I wanted to start off with a 

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story time. 
So I want to rewind for a 

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second. 
I've always had something on my 

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plate, always had a full plate, 
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Like I remember middle school, 
middle school, I did competitive

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cheer and I did school cheer at 
a lot on my plate. 

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Then I went to high school and I
also cheered and I did broadcast

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and I did your book and was 
studying for the SA TS and 

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applying for colleges. 
Had a lot on my plate. 

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Then I went to college. 
In college I was taking five 

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classes a semester. 
I was actually in a Co Ed 

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fraternity and I was over like 
pledging. 

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And I also was the president of 
my majors club, healthcare 

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administration with a minor in 
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Let's go. 
And so in college I had a lot on

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my plate. 
I also worked I worked at the 

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gym at my college UNLV go 
Rebels. 

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I worked all four years. 
So I had a lot on my plate. 

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Then I graduated college and now
I have a full time job and a 

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business have a lot on my plate.
I can't remember a time like I 

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think the last time I didn't 
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elementary school. 
So here's the truth bomb. 

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There has never been a season in
my life where I didn't have a 

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lot going on, and I know I'm not
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Let's be real. 
When was the last time your 

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plate was empty? 
Seriously, think about it. 

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No deadlines, no errands, no 
appointments, no kids, no work, 

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no plans. 
Like for me, the last time I 

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completely had an empty plate 
was elementary school, like back

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when my biggest decision was 
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to use. 
So I was really thinking about 

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that, like when was the last 
time I had an empty plate of the

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answer? 
I guess elementary school. 

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But then I realized too so many,
so many people like use the 

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seasons for excuses to not do 
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We're just going to be honest 
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For example, winter, I can't go 
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There's holidays and family and 
travel and there's just so much 

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pressure going on right now. 
Summer, I can't go after my 

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goals in the summer because 
vacation and school's out and 

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activities, like when am I even 
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And then spring, Oh my goodness,
I can't go after my goals in the

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spring because I got to do my 
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graduation and there's new 
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Oh my goodness, I can't go after
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it's back to school and it's 
really like the last quarter and

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we got to push and it's like the
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There is always something going 
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And so a lot of people use the 
excuse, use this mindset of I 

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have a lot going on. 
I'm so busy. 

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There's just so much on my plate
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If you're always in this 
mindset, which you can be at 

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this mindset literally any time 
of the day, any season, every 

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year of your life, you could 
tell yourself that there's so 

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much on your plate because there
is, there has always been. 

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But if you keep waiting for 
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you will keep waiting. 
And then you'll probably be 65 

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and you will let your whole life
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And so if you keep telling 
yourself that there's a lot on 

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your plate that you can't go 
after your goals, your dreams, 

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if you can't work out, if you 
can't start the business, start 

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the podcast. 
If you tell yourself this, you 

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will be shackled by your current
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You will stay in this current 
reality, like you will be 

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shackled to the current reality.
You will be stuck here because 

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there's just so much on your 
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But I want to offer, there's 
always been something on your 

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plate. 
And so we need to learn how to 

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solve for this problem because 
honestly, babe, like, I'll be 

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honest with you. 
I don't think there'll be things

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like never not on your plate. 
And when I was coaching my 

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client, we were doing the model,
which is something I teach in 

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becoming her. 
It's my tool to stop 

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overthinking. 
But we really uncovered like if 

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you're thinking I have so much 
on my plate, you feel 

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overwhelmed, you feel 
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And when you do that, what you 
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Do List, but you add more things
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And the result that you create 
for yourself is you do have so 

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much on your plate because even 
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just add things on. 
And so you could literally be in

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this mindset for years and never
take action on your goals, on 

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the life that you truly desire. 
I wanted to give the metaphor 

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like, I want you to sit with 
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You have a big old plate of 
life, right? 

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There's the mashed potatoes are 
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The meatloaf is your family 
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There was like a side salad of 
errands and appointments, and 

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somewhere in the corner of the 
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You're the spinach on the plate,
the thing that's actually good 

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for you, the thing that fuels 
you, the thing that strengthens 

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you, the thing that heals you. 
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eat everything else first. 
They fill themselves up with 

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everyone else's needs and 
they're like, oh, I'm full, I'll

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eat the spinach later. 
And I wrote down in my notes, 

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like, when you do this, you make
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And this is the opposite of self
love, compassion, trust, 

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confidence. 
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baby girl, you are not an 
option. 

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You are the main course. 
You are the reason the plate 

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even exists. 
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ourselves that way and put 
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Because at the end of the day, 
we are the ones who are doing 

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everyone else's things, doing 
everyone else's duties and jobs,

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being the take caretaker. 
And I'm not sure if you've heard

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of like the saying, but you 
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And so we have to make sure that
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And I truly believe one of the 
pillars. 

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I'll tell you all three. 
There's three pillars of self 

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love. 
One, talking to yourself with 

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kindness #2 taking action 
towards your dreams and goals, 

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doing the things that you 
actually want to do in this 

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life. 
And then three, learning how to 

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forgive yourself for mistakes, 
having compassion for yourself. 

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And so if you have a lot on your
plate, you probably are talking 

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shit about yourself for one. 
But two, you're not taking 

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action towards the things that 
you want to do in the only life 

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that you have. 
And the mindset shift I really 

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want to offer is instead of 
waiting for things not to be on 

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your plate, for things to calm 
down, you will always be 

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shackled to your reality because
you will always have a lot on 

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your plate. 
You will always be busy. 

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But if you don't learn how to 
take action with the chaos, the 

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chaos will win. 
And I could easily be in the 

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mindset that I don't have enough
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I'm so busy. 
I have a lot on my plate at this

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moment that I can't record 2 
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I have my business, I have my 
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I like, I am a busy gal myself. 
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mindset like there's no way I 
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a week. 
But I always ask myself, instead

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of asking, do I have time? 
I want you to start asking 

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yourself, how do I create time? 
How do I create time? 

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And when I ask myself that 
question, this is what came out,

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came out of me. 
One is wake up one hour earlier 

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to record the podcast, which I 
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Batching my content on Sundays 
instead of watching Netflix, 

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saying no to the stuff that 
drains my energy and really 

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setting boundaries and stick to 
them like my life depends on it.

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Because it kind of does. 
Here's the truth that I live by 

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Time doesn't just appear. 
You make it, you choose it, and 

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when everything feels urgent and
important, guess what? 

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Nothing is. 
So you have to decide what 

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actually moves the needle, 
builds the vision, and what 

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gives you life. 
Because you aren't meant to live

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a life where you're last on your
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You're not meant to wait for 
permission, or silence or the 

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perfect moment to begin. 
You're meant to take messy, 

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bold, beautiful action even when
there's a lot on your plate, the

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inbox is full, the dishes are 
dirty. 

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Because the woman that you want 
to become, she's not waiting for

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life to slow down. 
She's walking forward, even in 

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the chaos, because she knows 
she's worth it. 

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And so are you. 
That's what I have for you in 

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today's episode. 
You have a lot on your plate. 

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So what what are you going to do
about it? 

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Because you will always have 
something on your plate. 

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Hopefully it was a good slop in 
the face, but ask yourself, how 

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can I create the time? 
Stop putting yourself last. 

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This is a wake up call to put 
yourself 1st. 

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And if you're wondering like, I 
don't even know like how to put 

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myself first. 
Like what does that even look 

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like? 
I invite you to the self Doubt 

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detox. 
This is an hour where we focus 

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on you. 
We look at your dreams, we look 

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at the roadblocks, the problems 
holding you back. 

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I give you solutions, you get 
answers at the end of the call. 

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So if you're ready to have 
confidence, if you're ready to 

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take action towards your dream 
life, I recommend you scheduling

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the Self Doubt Detox. 
You can go ahead. 

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You can schedule with a link in 
the description box. 

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I love you so much. 
I hope that you have a great 

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day. 
Bye, Thank you so much for 

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listening to the Mindset Babe 
podcast. 

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If you are looking to get more 
confidence and take action 

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towards your dreams, then I want
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Ioffer private one-on-one 
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This mentorship will teach you 
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time management and 
manifestation so you can 

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transform your mindset. 
Get the tools to become the 

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badass you were meant to be. 
Register with the link in the 

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show notes.