Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation, then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, NLP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is help you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
Do you have a lot on your plate? Are you busy and it just feels
like you have a lot going on at this moment?
If so, this podcast was made for you.
I have been having so many people tell me I have a lot on
my plate from my clients. I've had two client calls and
becoming her of people telling me.
I just feel so overwhelmed. I have so much on my plate.
And then also I've had like other conversations just in
life, like with my coworkers waiting in line at the grocery
store. Like I have just been hearing a
lot of people say I have a lot on my plate and I have a law on
my plate. Also, I run a business.
I still work by 9:00 to 5:00. I have my friends and my family
and I work out and I enjoy life. And so I understand what it's
like to be doing multiple things.
I understand what it's like to have a lot of things on your To
Do List. But at the same time, I'm not
stressed, I'm not overwhelmed. I'm actually chilling like I'm
actually having like such a great time living life with all
the things on my plate. And so I was like, I need to do
a podcast episode about this because clearly I have a mindset
and strategy that's been working for me.
And so I thought it'd be helpful if I shared this mindset and
strategy with you. If you feel like you have a lot
on your plate, I got you, I got you, I got you.
Before we get into it, I want to talk about these self doubt
detox. We are slowly coming towards the
end of the calls. It's been so much fun to coach
on these these. Self Doubt Detox is a
personalized custom coaching call to help you stop believing
the negative chatter in your brain.
This is a detox for doing a spring cleanse of the negativity
in your brain so you can finally step into the confidence you've
been waiting for. If you've been praying for
confidence, if you've been praying for clarity, I invite
you to get on a call. You can go ahead.
You can book these self doubt detox with the link in the
description box. All right, let's get into this
episode. It's so crazy how the universe
works because I had two random people tell me that they had a
lot going on at this moment. And then I had two client calls
on Sunday and it was literally about the same topic.
So I was like, like, everyone needs to hear it clearly.
Something is going on with just the summer and kids going back
to school and all the things. So I wanted to start off with a
story time. So I want to rewind for a
second. I've always had something on my
plate, always had a full plate, always had something going on.
Like I remember middle school, middle school, I did competitive
cheer and I did school cheer at a lot on my plate.
Then I went to high school and I also cheered and I did broadcast
and I did your book and was studying for the SA TS and
applying for colleges. Had a lot on my plate.
Then I went to college. In college I was taking five
classes a semester. I was actually in a Co Ed
fraternity and I was over like pledging.
And I also was the president of my majors club, healthcare
administration with a minor in public health.
Let's go. And so in college I had a lot on
my plate. I also worked I worked at the
gym at my college UNLV go Rebels.
I worked all four years. So I had a lot on my plate.
Then I graduated college and now I have a full time job and a
business have a lot on my plate. I can't remember a time like I
think the last time I didn't have anything on my plate was
elementary school. So here's the truth bomb.
There has never been a season in my life where I didn't have a
lot going on, and I know I'm not alone.
Let's be real. When was the last time your
plate was empty? Seriously, think about it.
No deadlines, no errands, no appointments, no kids, no work,
no plans. Like for me, the last time I
completely had an empty plate was elementary school, like back
when my biggest decision was about what color crayon I wanted
to use. So I was really thinking about
that, like when was the last time I had an empty plate of the
answer? I guess elementary school.
But then I realized too so many, so many people like use the
seasons for excuses to not do the things that they want.
We're just going to be honest right here.
For example, winter, I can't go after my goals.
There's holidays and family and travel and there's just so much
pressure going on right now. Summer, I can't go after my
goals in the summer because vacation and school's out and
activities, like when am I even going to do that?
And then spring, Oh my goodness, I can't go after my goals in the
spring because I got to do my spring cleaning and there's
graduation and there's new projects and then it's fall.
Oh my goodness, I can't go after my goals in the fall because
it's back to school and it's really like the last quarter and
we got to push and it's like the year end pressure.
There is always something going on.
And so a lot of people use the excuse, use this mindset of I
have a lot going on. I'm so busy.
There's just so much on my plate right now.
If you're always in this mindset, which you can be at
this mindset literally any time of the day, any season, every
year of your life, you could tell yourself that there's so
much on your plate because there is, there has always been.
But if you keep waiting for things not to be on your plate,
you will keep waiting. And then you'll probably be 65
and you will let your whole life just pass right by you.
And so if you keep telling yourself that there's a lot on
your plate that you can't go after your goals, your dreams,
if you can't work out, if you can't start the business, start
the podcast. If you tell yourself this, you
will be shackled by your current life.
You will stay in this current reality, like you will be
shackled to the current reality. You will be stuck here because
there's just so much on your plate.
But I want to offer, there's always been something on your
plate. And so we need to learn how to
solve for this problem because honestly, babe, like, I'll be
honest with you. I don't think there'll be things
like never not on your plate. And when I was coaching my
client, we were doing the model, which is something I teach in
becoming her. It's my tool to stop
overthinking. But we really uncovered like if
you're thinking I have so much on my plate, you feel
overwhelmed, you feel frustrated, you have anxiety.
And when you do that, what you do is you do things off your To
Do List, but you add more things on your To Do List.
And the result that you create for yourself is you do have so
much on your plate because even though you subtract things, you
just add things on. And so you could literally be in
this mindset for years and never take action on your goals, on
the life that you truly desire. I wanted to give the metaphor
like, I want you to sit with this.
You have a big old plate of life, right?
There's the mashed potatoes are your nine to five.
The meatloaf is your family obligations.
There was like a side salad of errands and appointments, and
somewhere in the corner of the plate is you.
You're the spinach on the plate, the thing that's actually good
for you, the thing that fuels you, the thing that strengthens
you, the thing that heals you. And what most women do is they
eat everything else first. They fill themselves up with
everyone else's needs and they're like, oh, I'm full, I'll
eat the spinach later. And I wrote down in my notes,
like, when you do this, you make yourself an option.
And this is the opposite of self love, compassion, trust,
confidence. Because at the end of the day,
baby girl, you are not an option.
You are the main course. You are the reason the plate
even exists. And so we need to treat
ourselves that way and put ourselves first.
Because at the end of the day, we are the ones who are doing
everyone else's things, doing everyone else's duties and jobs,
being the take caretaker. And I'm not sure if you've heard
of like the saying, but you can't pour from an empty cup.
And so we have to make sure that we pour our cups 1st.
And I truly believe one of the pillars.
I'll tell you all three. There's three pillars of self
love. One, talking to yourself with
kindness #2 taking action towards your dreams and goals,
doing the things that you actually want to do in this
life. And then three, learning how to
forgive yourself for mistakes, having compassion for yourself.
And so if you have a lot on your plate, you probably are talking
shit about yourself for one. But two, you're not taking
action towards the things that you want to do in the only life
that you have. And the mindset shift I really
want to offer is instead of waiting for things not to be on
your plate, for things to calm down, you will always be
shackled to your reality because you will always have a lot on
your plate. You will always be busy.
But if you don't learn how to take action with the chaos, the
chaos will win. And I could easily be in the
mindset that I don't have enough time.
I'm so busy. I have a lot on my plate at this
moment that I can't record 2 podcast episodes a week because
I have my business, I have my 9:00 to 5:00, I have my clients
I like, I am a busy gal myself. And I could easily be in the
mindset like there's no way I can record two podcast episodes
a week. But I always ask myself, instead
of asking, do I have time? I want you to start asking
yourself, how do I create time? How do I create time?
And when I ask myself that question, this is what came out,
came out of me. One is wake up one hour earlier
to record the podcast, which I do now.
Batching my content on Sundays instead of watching Netflix,
saying no to the stuff that drains my energy and really
setting boundaries and stick to them like my life depends on it.
Because it kind of does. Here's the truth that I live by
Time doesn't just appear. You make it, you choose it, and
when everything feels urgent and important, guess what?
Nothing is. So you have to decide what
actually moves the needle, builds the vision, and what
gives you life. Because you aren't meant to live
a life where you're last on your own To Do List.
You're not meant to wait for permission, or silence or the
perfect moment to begin. You're meant to take messy,
bold, beautiful action even when there's a lot on your plate, the
inbox is full, the dishes are dirty.
Because the woman that you want to become, she's not waiting for
life to slow down. She's walking forward, even in
the chaos, because she knows she's worth it.
And so are you. That's what I have for you in
today's episode. You have a lot on your plate.
So what what are you going to do about it?
Because you will always have something on your plate.
Hopefully it was a good slop in the face, but ask yourself, how
can I create the time? Stop putting yourself last.
This is a wake up call to put yourself 1st.
And if you're wondering like, I don't even know like how to put
myself first. Like what does that even look
like? I invite you to the self Doubt
detox. This is an hour where we focus
on you. We look at your dreams, we look
at the roadblocks, the problems holding you back.
I give you solutions, you get answers at the end of the call.
So if you're ready to have confidence, if you're ready to
take action towards your dream life, I recommend you scheduling
the Self Doubt Detox. You can go ahead.
You can schedule with a link in the description box.
I love you so much. I hope that you have a great
day. Bye, Thank you so much for
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