Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation, then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
In today's episode, I'm going to be talking about how to love
yourself in 30 days. And this is actually a free
experience that I created just for you, hoping you stop hating
your body, stop judging yourself, and finally feel good
enough. I'm calling this 30 Days to Self
Love. Starting July 1st, every single
day for 30 days, I'm going to be sending you audio messages
directly to your phone. They're going to be short,
quick, easy audios to digest and listen to.
So if you don't have time, it's perfect for you.
Each audio is going to be less than 10 minutes.
You can listen to it on the go, in your commute, going to work,
heading home, at work, cleaning your house, at the gym.
It doesn't matter where, you're going to be able to access it
anywhere at any time. I made this challenge to work
with you, your time on your schedule.
It's a total of 30 days and you might fall off and it's OK.
Nothing has gone wrong. The fastest race cars still have
to stop and do pit stop. We just readjust and we get back
on the track. If you miss a couple of days,
it's OK. I'm actually going to give you 2
weeks of access afterwards to catch up on any of the audios
that you missed. You can do a whole binge day if
you would like, but the Self Love Challenge is officially
open. You can register at
www.themindsetbabe.com/self love.
Make sure you put the www.inthe dot the mindsetbabe.com/self
love. For some reason, if you don't do
the WW, sometimes my website doesn't pop up.
I don't know. Make sure you include it, but
that link will also be in the description box.
It's a completely free challenge.
I would love to have you in there.
It's going to be amazing. There's already like 30 women in
the group every single day starting in July, I'm going to
be dropping the audios in there there.
There's already a welcome video for you in there and I'm going
to be dropping all the audios in the announcement group.
In the audios, you're going to get a mindset shift in a action
step in the discussion thread. This is where I want everyone's
action steps to be. Their insights, their
breakthroughs or transformations.
I really want the discussion thread to be a discussion.
I want it to be a chat of boss ass girls who want to increase
their self esteem, who want to love themselves, who want to
feel good enough. Like I really want this
community to be a group of girls, girls, women support
supporting women, women who are supporting each other, loving
each other, uplifting each other.
This is who the group is for. And it's a great opportunity to
make friends. Do you feel lonely in that
you're the only one in your group really wanting to grow and
change and to evolve. You might meet your best friend
in this challenge. So I'm so excited.
When you register for the self love challenge, you will get a
page that says please read start here and has all that
information to join the group. I know some of the ladies who
registered are not in the group, so make sure you get into the
group because that's where I'm going to be posting the self
love audios every single day for July.
You have to get the content of the challenge.
So make sure you're in it. If you have any questions,
you're like girl, I can't figure it out.
Please, please, please e-mail me at theperryrichardson@gmail.com
or you can direct message me on Instagram.
Then my and set babe, I will have that linked also in the
description box for you. But I want to talk about who
this challenge is for. It's for four different women
and I want to break down each one.
All right, the very first one, this challenge is for the woman
who doesn't like her body. You might actually hate your
body. The thoughts you might have are
that you're too fat, that you're too big, that you feel
disgusting. You look at the Cellulite, the
wrinkles, the rolls, and it doesn't make you feel good at
all. You wish that you were skinnier
and you feel a lot of shame, disappointment that you let your
body get this bad and so you avoid looking at yourself in the
mirror. Maybe you wear baggy clothes to
hide your body. You avoid taking pictures or
delete them right after. You cancel plans because you
don't like how you look. Spend way too much time trying
to figure out outfits. You avoid swimsuits, shorts,
fitted clothes and even intimacy when I first started myself.
Love journey. I remember I avoided having sex
with my boyfriend at the time. He's my husband now but maybe we
were engaged, I don't know. Anywho, I stopped having sex
with him because I hated my body.
I could barely look at myself in the mirror, let alone did I want
my partner to. And so I understand what it
feels like to have full body confidence that you don't feel
comfortable in your own skin and you miss out on experiences,
memories and opportunities because of how your body looks.
And so if this is you, if you don't like your body, if you
hate your body, please, please, please get into the self love
challenge because I'm going to tell you exactly what I did to
help me love my body. I can look at myself completely
naked in the mirror and be so happy with what I look like.
And I'm going to show you exactly how I did it.
Make sure you sign up for the challenge if you don't like your
body. So that's the first example of
like who this challenge is for. It's for the woman who hates her
body. The second is for the woman who
judges herself inconsistently, compares herself to everyone
else. Anytime you judge yourself, you
slowly destroy the relationship you have with yourself.
So yesterday I was laying in bed writing the podcast script and
this is like the only example that really came to me.
Me, my husband, we were on a date night last night.
This didn't happen, but I went to like, just if it did.
Like if my husband was comparing me to other girls at the
restaurant. Wow, that girl is so much
prettier than you. Wow, that girl is so much
skinnier than you. That girl over there crossed the
bar. She's definitely smarter than
you. What type of marriage do you
think we would have? Not a good one.
Not a good one at all. But we do this to ourselves,
judging ourselves for being stupid, judging ourselves for
making mistake, judging ourselves for being late, for
being behind. Everyone else has the career,
the relationship, the body. How about me?
And that dialogue will literally kill the self love, the
relationship that you have with yourself.
If you're consistently judging yourself, comparing yourself to
others, then you need to be in the challenge.
The challenge was made for you. So that's the second example of
who this challenge is for. It's for the woman who is
consistently judging herself, comparing herself to others.
And the third one is for the woman allowing the past to
determine the relationship she has with herself.
I remember when I let my past relationship to find my
worthiness, it takes me back to this one guy and we weren't even
boyfriend and girlfriend, but we acted like we were in you know
what I'm talking about, right? And I remember feeling not good
enough. I remember feeling not worthy,
not pretty, not sexy. Because he didn't want to be
mine. And since he didn't want to
declare his love to me, I guess that meant I wasn't good enough,
I wasn't lovable, I wasn't pretty.
That if he didn't want me, then who would?
And if he chooses someone else, she must be better than I am.
And I know I'm not the only one who's done this.
Someone leaves you. Someone rejects you.
Someone cheats on you. Someone doesn't fully commit to
you. And suddenly their behavior
becomes evidence of your worth. Suddenly you start questioning
everything about yourself, your body, your personality, your
value, your worthiness. But here's what I wish someone
would have told me. Other people's decisions are not
measurement of your worth. Someone choosing not to stay
does not mean you're unlovable. Someone not committing does not
mean you're not good enough. Someone walking away doesn't
mean that there's something wrong with you.
Yet so many women are still caring heart breaks from years
ago, still using a owed rejection as proof that they're
not good enough today, still letting someone else's opinion
determine how they feel about themselves.
And this is exactly why I created this challenge.
Because your past does not get to decide your worth.
A breakup is not your identity. Rejection is not your identity.
A failed relationship is not who you are.
You are still worthy. You are still lovable.
You are still enough. And this is exactly what we're
going to be talking about in this challenge.
And so if you are still suffering heartbreak, if you are
still feeling this pain, please be in the challenge with me so
we can finally let it go, so you can finally be free, so you can
finally love who you are. This is a chances opportunity to
let go of past relationships that are holding you back today.
All right, so that's another example.
It's for the woman who is still holding on to past hurts.
This challenge is also for the woman who does everything else
for everyone else but doesn't do anything for herself.
This woman has a huge heart. She's always there when someone
needs her. She's a friend.
Everyone calls the Co worker who jumps in and helps the daughter
who checks on everyone, or the wife who make sure everyone else
is OK. She gives love freely, she gives
a vice, encouragement, she gives grace and a lot of second
chances. But when it comes to herself,
it's a completely different story.
She only expects perfection from herself.
She criticizes herself for every single mistake.
And God forbid she gives herself a second chance.
And she has impossible standards for herself.
I went in to give like a couple examples like with this, her
friend gains weight and she's like, Oh my goodness, no girl.
Like you're so beautiful. But when you gain weight, you're
like, I'm a piece of shit. I need to get my life together.
When your friends make a mistake, you're like, it's OK,
you're human. But when you make a mistake,
you're like, I'm so stupid. When your friends are
struggling, you give them self grace.
You allow them to cry, you give them a hug.
But the moment you start tearing up, you're like, don't be a
baby, suck it up. You can't cry.
We don't have time for this. Did you know you deserve
compassion like everyone else? That you deserve to be loved,
held, understood. Yes, you.
I'm talking to you. Let me be the woman to support
you and guide you. Let the community support you
and hold you because you need it.
You need someone else taking care of you.
Let us be that for you in the challenge in July.
This is opportunity. This is a chance to no longer
put everyone else first. Let July be opportunity that you
finally show up for you. You pour into your cup first.
This challenge is completely free.
You don't have to pay a fucking dime.
It's on your time and your schedule.
There's honestly no excuse while you're not in the challenge.
So that's another example for who this challenge is for.
It's for the woman who puts everyone else 1st and she tends
to neglect herself. Last but not least is number 5,
and I think you might be shocked with this one.
Are you ready? It's for the woman who already
loves herself. Maybe you've been thinking like,
honestly, Perry, like I think myself love is pretty good.
And if I asked you to rate yourself of on a scale to 1 to
10, you would probably say 8, maybe even a nine.
Like, you actually like yourself.
You know your strengths. You're not consistently beating
yourself up. You don't hate yourself.
And honestly, let's go. That's so amazing.
Well, let me ask you a different question.
Do you keep promises to yourself?
Do you speak kindly to yourself when you make a mistake?
Do you set boundaries without feeling guilty?
Do you rest without feeling lazy?
Did you stop people pleasing yet?
Because self love isn't just how you feel about yourself, it's
how you treat yourself. It's the standards you set for
yourself, it's the boundaries you set, and it's the promises
that you keep. And honestly, it's the way you
talk to yourself on the hardest days.
Like anyone can love themselves when they got a promotion, when
they look good in the mirror, when their relationship is
working, when you just hit the gym and you're feeling
motivated. But what about when life gets
hard? When you gain the weight, When
you fail? When you get rejected, when you
feel overwhelmed, this is where your true relationship with
yourself is revealed. And I think a lot of women are
like, oh, I worked on self love, like, I'm good.
But self love isn't a destination that you just
achieve once and you're done. It's a relationship.
A relationship requires maintenance.
Even the healthiest marriages still need attention.
Even the healthiest friendships still need nurturing in.
The relationship you have with yourself is no different.
So maybe yes, you do love yourself and that's amazing.
This challenge isn't about fixing you, it's about deepening
the relationship you have with yourself.
I'm going to be sharing new tools, new perspectives, and new
ways to support yourself. Because no matter where you are
today, there's always a new level of confidence.
There's always another level of self love and self trust and
that's exactly what we're going to build together over the next
30 days. 30 Days of Self Love is officially open.
I'm going to share with you the step by step, the exact how to
love yourself, how you register. You're going to go to my website
www.themindsetbabe.com/self love.
We start July 1st, which I'm pretty sure it's next week, next
week like Wednesday. Let me put my calendar, yes next
week, Wednesday July 1st we are going in for 30 days.
Hoping you increase yourself love.
Register with a link in the description box and I can't wait
to see you inside. I love you so much.
Bye. Thank you so much for listening
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