Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, my name is Courtney.
I am one of Perry's becoming her clients.
These past few months with her have been absolutely incredible.
I have dealt with a lack of self worth, self love, self respect
for a very long time and honestly from my very first
consultation call I knew that this partnership was going to be
one that would change my life and I can definitely say it has
enhanced it thoroughly. So far Perry has done nothing
but been a wonderful support system.
She has taught me so many different ways not only to love
myself, but also how to show up with more compassion and
kindness on my worst days. I tried therapy in the past and
it was helpful in most respects, but working with Perry has been
more beneficial because she provides me with tools and
resources that allow me to continue the work on my own.
We meet once a week, she sends a text weekly as well, and we
check in if I'm having a particularly bad day or I have a
random question. I shoot her a text and she
responds quickly and it has just been a fabulous journey working
with her. I can now say that I walk
through the world with a completely different lens than I
did before. I've got confidence.
I have peace, more energy, and clarity on my desires, all of
the things that I was struggling with to do on my own.
So if you were thinking about whether or not you should work
with Perry, I highly, highly recommend it.
It's so nice to have someone in your corner to hold you
accountable, to cheer you on, especially when you're not ready
to cheer yourself. And Perry, she's awesome.
She's funny, she's confident, she's kind.
She actually listens constantly encourages me.
And when I'm getting in my own way, she has a tendency to tell
me so in the most gentle way possible.
So thank you, Perry, from me to you.
I really appreciate all of your time and effort and energy that
you have put not only into our sessions, but into creating this
beautiful community. Thanks for making every session
feel like I'm just talking to my best friend.
I'm sending all of the love and cheers and many, many beautiful
wishes your way. That review almost made me cry.
It is so beautiful to watch women go from feeling worthless,
feeling uncapable, feeling not good enough to them finally
feeling confident, worthy, free, loving who they are.
Within six months, you can listen to Courtney's full story.
She came on the podcast. It's episode 3 O 5 how Courtney
overcame anxiety, overthinking and self doubt.
She talks about her experience in my program becoming her.
The bad, the good, the ugly. Like she does not hold back.
So make sure you listen to that episode right after this one.
I am so glad Courtney came on the podcast and to share not
only her testimony on the beginning, but her full
transformation in the program. In today's episode, I want to
talk about the real reason you're still overthinking,
you're self doubting and you're still stuck.
And the reason why I want to do this episode because those are
the three problems I solve in becoming her and how I set up
this podcast episode. I'm going to talk about it in
like 3 different themes. I have a lot of examples, a lot
of analogies that help you stop overthinking so you finally are
able to take action, feel confident and feel good enough
in your life after this podcast episode.
So I'm so excited for it. By the end of the episode,
you're going to take away three things that you can implement
today, today. And I wanted to create this
episode because there's so many ambitious women who are silently
struggling. You might look successful and
functioning. You have the degree, you have
the home, you have the family, you have the romantic
relationship on the outside, your life might look put
together. It might look perfect.
And you may even think to myself, why am I not happy?
I have everything. This is so normal.
So many women are consistently drain, consistently questioning
themselves, over analyzing everything.
They're starting and they're stopping.
They're feeling stuck in cycles that they can't seem to break.
And that's why I created Becoming Her.
So today I want to breakdown the biggest problems in Becoming Her
and why so many women finally start changing when they go
through this program. And this is your final call
because applications for Becoming Her close this Sunday,
this Sunday, May 31st. So you can go ahead.
You can apply with the link in the show notes.
All right, let's get into the episode.
OK, so the number one thing holding you back, keeping you
stuck, having you overthink is the problem.
Are you ready? It's the thought, it's the
mindset of I know what to do, but I'm not doing it.
Raise your hand if you know exactly what to do, but for some
reason you're not showing up. And this is probably one of the
most frustrating experiences ever.
Because it's not like you don't know, you know, you know you
should go to the gym. You know you should stop texting
him. You know you should apply for
the job. You know you should wake up
earlier. You know you should stop doom
scrolling. You know you should post the
content. You know you should start the
routine. But for some reason, you're not
doing it consistently. And then what happens?
You start making it mean something about you, that you're
lazy, that you're not disciplined enough, that there's
something wrong with you. Like your biggest thought might
be, why can't I just get it together?
But here's what I want you to understand.
It's not you. You are not the problem, it's
your lack of structure, systems, and accountability.
I wrote down to examples to really kind of like show this
for you. It's like driving.
It's like trying. It's like trying to drive a car
with no steering wheel. And then you're screaming at
yourself like, Oh my goodness, I can't believe I crashed this
car. No, the car crashed itself.
You're trying to build consistency without emotional
regulation, without accountability, without support,
without structure. Of course, you're not showing up
and doing the things that you want to do.
Of course it feels hard. Another example I wanted to give
is most women are trying to build their dream life based on
like motivation. That's like trying to power your
entire house when lightning strikes.
You're like when the lightning strikes.
When the motivation strikes, then I will finally have the
power in my home and I can finally clean it.
Not sure if that's the best example, but why are we waiting
for the energy? Why are we waiting for the
lightning to strike so we can finally get powered up, juiced
up, to take action towards our life?
But motivation isn't the goal. Motivation is fleeting.
What we really need to focus on, the one thing you really need to
focus on, is becoming the woman who gets it done, Changing your
identity and becoming the woman who shows up no matter what.
She shows up for herself even when she doesn't feel like it,
even when she's tired, even when she doesn't believe she shows
up. She is committed to the goal and
commitment is a mindset. It's a being.
It's who you are. In becoming her, one of the
steps is how to get it done. Teaching you all things
productivity, my time management system, how I get it done, how I
work a full time job and also have a business.
Also I'm very active in my family, in my friendships, I
love to travel, I do fun things, I sleep 8 hours a night.
My work life balance is so good and I want to show you how in
this step in becoming her, I teach you how to create
routines, how to create a system that works for you.
Becoming Her has accountability. It has daily support to make
sure you show up to the things you need to show up on.
One of my goals in becoming her, there's so many transformation,
there's so many goals, the visions I have for you, but one
of my biggest vision for you, my biggest goal for you is to help
you become the woman who gets shit done.
Because when I think of you becoming her, she's productive,
she's out there, she's getting it done.
So that's one of the core steps in this program is teaching you
that skill, helping you become the woman who actually follows
through. I wrote another example in my
notes. So I want you to imagine two
women, they both say they want confidence.
One woman she journals about confidence once a week, she
listens to podcast, she listens to the Mindset Babe, but nothing
really changes about her behaviour.
The second woman, she starts setting boundaries, she keeps
promises to herself, she starts showing up consistently, She
even starts taking action when she feels uncomfortable.
Which woman is going to feel more confident?
The woman journaling, listening to podcasts, or the woman
actually taking action in her life.
Confidence is built through evidence.
It's built through action. And that's why accountability
matters so fucking much. Because sometimes you don't need
more information. You actually need someone
helping you. You need someone to help you to
stay in the room, to show up for yourself, to help you regulate
the stress, the overwhelm of life.
If you're tired of starting every single Monday, if you're
tired of feeling inconsistent, if you're tired of feeling like
your life is being controlled by your moods, Becoming her was
literally built for you. And you can apply with the link
in the show notes. The second thing I want to talk
about is the thought is the belief that a lot of women have
in it breaks my heart so much is I don't feel good enough or I'm
not good enough. And this one runs deep.
And honestly I think it's the root of almost everything.
Not feeling good enough in relationships, not feeling
pretty enough, not feeling successful enough, not feeling
smart enough, not feeling productive enough, not feeling
worthy enough, not feeling chosen enough.
And the worst part? A lot of women look completely
successful on the outside while they're silently struggling with
this internal battle every single day.
You have the job, the apartment, the achievements, the degree,
and yet you still feel so deeply insecure because self worth
unfortunately, is not built through achievements, it's not
built through awards, and it's not built from an applause.
I wanted to give the example. Trying to build self worth
through achievements is like trying to fill a bucket that has
holes in the bottom. No matter how much you pour in,
it's never going to fill up. It's never going to be enough.
That's why so many women are addicted to productivity,
validation, attention, achievement and external
success. Because they think maybe once I
have finally achieved this, I will finally feel good enough.
I will finally feel capable. I will finally be loved.
But that's not how it works. And it will never, never work
like that. Because the real problem was
never your body or your career or your relationship status.
The real problem is the relationship you have with
yourself and usually that relationship was shaped years
ago. The relationship that you have
currently was built years ago. Through childhood experiences,
criticism, rejection, bullying, family fights, family dynamics,
heartbreak, Instagram, TikTok, social pressure, women are
walking around trying to build confidence while caring.
Years, years. Like how old are you?
How long have you been holding onto this pain, in these
emotional wounds? And you no longer have to feel
this way. You should see my first aid kit.
I have all the tools, I have all the resources to bring you back
to life and this is one of the steps in becoming her.
It's processing past pain, releasing the past and moving
forward. Becoming her.
We do so much in this program. We do mindset work, we do
identity work, but my favorite part is the emotional healing.
It's getting rid of the negative thoughts and the criticism and
the beliefs that the ex fucking boyfriend told you, your mother
told you, your dad told you all these fucking lies about your
character, your worth, and your value.
One of my favorite parts is rewriting that story.
You decide what you want to think about yourself.
You decide the story of your life.
Not your ex, not your mom, not your dad, not even me.
You do, You do. And this is one of my favorite
things I talk about in Becoming her.
I'm not sure if you can feel my passion but so many women are
struggling from past shit that they're still holding on today.
And in becoming her is opportunity for you to release
it where you can get supported every step of the way in.
The very last thing I want to talk about is the mindset of
emotions are bad. I can't feel this way.
My emotions are too much. It's so crazy that we were
taught algebra, biology, history, but no one taught us
how to process our emotions. What happened with that?
And so that's why so many women are emotionally overwhelmed.
I want you to raise your hand if you've ever felt anxiety, social
anxiety, stress, burnout, overthinking, panic, sadness,
emotional shutdown, depression, people pleasing avoidance, and
so many women think my emotions are my problem, this is my
fault, these are bad, I shouldn't be feeling this way.
But emotions are not the enemy. Avoiding the emotions amplifies
them, which causes it to feel worse, which causes you to feel
so overwhelmed and the emotions that feel so heavy and you feel
so trapped by them. Emotions are kind of like a
beach ball. And what you imagine you have
your beach ball and you're pushing it underwater.
And the harder you try to push that ball underwater, you're
pushing it, pushing it, pushing it.
The moment you let go, it explodes, It pushes out the
water. The harder you try to suppress
your emotions, the harder they will eventually explode back,
either in your face or in someone else's.
In Becoming Her, I teach you how to process negative emotions, I
teach you how to deal with social anxiety, I teach you how
to overcome depression, and I teach you how to handle and
regulate the stress and overwhelm in your life.
One of the steps in Becoming Her is helping you master your
emotions. Master the anxiety, the
overwhelm, the stress, the depression, because you deserve
to feel good every single day. And it's possible, yes, it's
possible. You, you can feel better.
You just need to learn the tools to help you do so.
And that's what I teach you inside Becoming her.
If you're suffering from social anxiety, if you have panic
attacks, if you're feeling depressed and you're ready to
get out of it, you need to apply to Becoming Her.
This is where you get supported. This is where you can finally
get help. The reason why Becoming Her
works? If you've been listening at all
this month, there's so many testimonials of women coming on
and sharing how this program actually works for them.
And it works because I'm not just teaching you fluff.
I'm not just teaching you some raw, raw motivational thing.
In becoming her, we focus on your thoughts, on your emotions,
on your identity. We focus on your healing, we
focus on your routines, we focus on your behaviours, your
consistency. And most importantly, we focus
on you as the whole process. Because your dream isn't built
on random motivation and random quotes and podcast episodes.
It's about going through a real process, getting real tools and
real resources to help you become the woman that becomes
her that becomes a woman you've been dreaming about your whole
life. Applications for becoming her
closes this Sunday, May 31st. If you've been listening to this
podcast, any of the podcast this month and thinking I really need
this, but I don't know if this is right for me, it's right for
you. This is your chance.
This is your moment to get help, to get supported and I would
love to be there for you. You can go ahead.
You can apply with a link in the description box.
I cannot wait to read your applications.
I love you so much and I'll see you next week.
Bye. Thank you so much for listening
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