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Welcome to the Mindset Bay. 
Podcast. 

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If you want more confidence and 
motivation, then you're in the 

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right place. 
Every week at. 

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Your dose of self development 
advice and strategies. 

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I'm your host Perry Richardson, 
life coach, NLP practitioner, 

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motivational speaker and mental 
health advocate. 

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My mission is help you find more
happiness and take more action 

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in your life. 
Now let's begin. 

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Hello, hello, hello babe. 
Welcome to the Mindset Babe 

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podcast. 
Are you struggling with your 

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confidence? 
Do you feel like you lack 

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confidence compared to other 
people? 

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That the self doubt, the fear, 
everything is at the surface? 

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If so, then I created this 
podcast episode for you. 

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I am so excited for this. 
This is a recent concept and 

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tool I taught in Becoming Her. 
I have taught all of my students

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this process and it's already 
giving them results, changing 

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their mindset. 
They're already feeling better 

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about who they are and what 
they're doing. 

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I love creating new concepts, 
having new ideas to teach so my 

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clients feel better and they 
stop overthinking. 

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And this was actually a recent 
transformation that I went 

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through coaching that I received
from my coach. 

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And I've got that coaching in 
December. 

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I'm going to like tell you the 
whole story and how this idea 

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really came to me and what made 
me want to teach it to my 

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clients. 
And now you is just the feeling 

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of feeling unworthy, having self
doubt and wanting to quit on 

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your dream, on your goal. 
So let's get into it. 

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I'm so excited to teach this on 
the podcast episode today. 

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I had to teach all my clients 
this first. 

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So the past two weeks I've been 
teaching this concept over and 

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over and over and over again, 
which I re find it. 

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It's so much powerful now, 
getting all my clients 

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perspective and their opinions. 
So let's do it. 

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So in December, and I've talked 
about this before, but in 

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December I was feeling like a 
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I felt like a failure. 
I turned 30 on December 23rd and

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then also with the year ending, 
I just had a lot of emotions 

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come up. 
I was going to a new decade 

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right end of the year and I felt
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I felt disappointed. 
I felt frustrated because I 

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still work my 9:00 to 5:00 job 
and I'm building my business and

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I just thought by now I would be
a full time business owner and 

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just doing this like as my full 
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I just had missed expectations. 
I thought it was going to happen

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a lot quicker than it was and I 
was really thinking if I should 

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even give up my business, if I 
should really just quit my 

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business and focus just getting 
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And I went to my coach feeling 
really defeated, feeling 

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disappointed like why can't I 
figure this shit out? 

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Felt like such a loser. 
And I tell her all of this and 

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she's like, OK, you told me all 
the self doubt, you told me all 

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the uncertainty, you told me all
the fear. 

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But what do you know? 
What are you certain of? 

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And that question changed 
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And I've been asking myself that
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And it's completely shifted my 
confidence, my belief with my 

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business, with who I am, what 
I'm creating, my mission, my 

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goal, my purpose. 
And it's just made me feel more 

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grounded and certain in my life 
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Like I finally figured out this 
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Like, I know what I'm doing. 
Like I feel like I know what I'm

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doing. 
And This is why I really created

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this. 
And I'm going to share this 

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amazing tool with you so you 
feel like you know what you're 

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doing. 
So I realized the reason why we 

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feel bad. 
It's because of uncertainty. 

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Uncertain if we're doing enough,
uncertain if we're lovable, 

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uncertain if this will work, 
uncertain if we should keep on 

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going. 
And uncertainty comes from the 

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fear of the unknown, right? 
The fear of judgment, the fear 

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of failure, the fear of 
rejection, the fear of getting 

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left out, right FOMO, the fear 
of missing out in the fear of 

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not being good enough because if
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you're going to get kicked out 
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So a lot of fear that we 
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the uncertainty that we have. 
But fear is a part of human 

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nature. 
Fear is a part of life. 

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I was giving my. 
Clients this example of like 

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kids who are scared of monsters.
So before bed, the kids like, 

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can you check underneath my bed?
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Like can you check? 
And then right, you check 

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underneath the bed and you're 
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monsters. 
They're like, OK, but can you 

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check the closet? 
There's the monsters in there 

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and you check the closet and 
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right? 
And as an adult, we know there's

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no monsters in the room. 
There's no boogeyman. 

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We know that's true. 
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never left. 
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attached itself to monsters 
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And as an adult, that fear part 
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our brain to have us look out in
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make sure we're safe, went and 
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And so now your brain will tell 
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Like your brain will offer you 
confusion, like to keep you 

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safe, to keep you stuck, to keep
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Because if you don't know, you 
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Or your brain will be like, I 
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I'll go but, but, but, but, but 
don't forget about this thing in

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the past, the thing that hurt 
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You don't want to do that again.
For example, I had a client, 

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she's going on her health and 
fitness journey and she's always

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just struggled with her weight. 
And she's like, I want to get 

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healthy, I want to lose weight. 
But all these things in the 

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past, I've been doing this for 
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So that's her monster under the 
bed is all the things that she's

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done in the past that failed. 
I had another client. 

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She wants to start dating, but 
her brain is telling her blah, 

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blah, blah, blah. 
Remember all those men in the 

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past who treated you like shit? 
Actually, all men are shit. 

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You don't want to do that. 
And so our brain will tell us 

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blah, blah, blah, blah because 
of the fear and uncertainty, and

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that's our monsters under the 
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So I really want you to ask 
yourself, what do you want to 

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do? 
But your brain's like, blah, 

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blah, blah, blah. 
But don't do that. 

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Because XY and Z, that's the 
fear, that's the uncertainty. 

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That's the monster under your 
bed, and the brain will feed you

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fear and uncertainty. 
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Under the covers. 
And as a kid, sure, you might be

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able to stay under the covers 
and hope the monster doesn't see

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you, but as an adult, you just 
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day. 
You have to be a functional 

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member of society like you just 
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You have to get up. 
You have to deal with the scary 

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monsters. 
So that's the what that's the 

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like uncertainty, the fear. 
I really wanted to set the stage

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for it. 
Why this is important, why this 

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is impactful and why you need 
this tool every single day in 

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your life. 
Why you need this mindset tool 

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and like your tool belt to help 
you shift your state of mind 

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One, because it shapes your 
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You don't act from your goals, 
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If you're uncertain about who 
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hesitate. 
If you are certain about who you

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are and who you're becoming, 
you're going to move. 

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Identity always wins over 
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You can set the goal to lose 
weight, get healthy, whatever it

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is. 
But if you don't see yourself as

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someone who eats healthy, as 
someone who gets exercise and 

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moves their body, you're never 
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Or if you have a goal to get 
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But if you have the identity in 
seeing men as shit, that's never

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going to happen for you. 
Or you're just going to attract 

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a man who's shit. 
If you don't trust yourself, you

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don't trust other people, you're
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relationship that you want. 
It all comes from the inside #2 

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because it determines your 
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Uncertainty creates 
overthinking, and then 

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overthinking creates delay, And 
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And if you want to achieve your 
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momentum to get you going and to
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Uncertain women wait. 
They wait to move. 

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They ask for permission, they're
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Versus certain women move, they 
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They take action, they take 
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they try something different. 
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point, that certainty really 
forms your identity in who you 

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are, and then who you are drives
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Then your behavior is what makes
your results, what drives your 

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results and creates the life 
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Another reason why this concept 
and tool is so important is 

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because it changes your 
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You can have the same 
circumstance but with different 

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certainty and that changes how 
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For example, like nothing has 
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Like I'm still working my full 
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client calls after work and on 
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Nothing has changed but my 
confidence, my willingness to go

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after the challenge, to work 
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It's almost like I double down 
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to where I'm going. 
Nothing has changed. 

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Just my certainty of winning has
my certainty of belief of that 

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it's working and I'm capable. 
And I want you to think of those

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two different realities. 
The reality of me thinking I'm a

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failure, I'm a loser. 
I can't believe I'm still doing 

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this. 
It's never going to work. 

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It's not working. 
I'm just going to quit. 

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Should I quit that mindset? 
What do you think I do and how 

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do you think I'm feeling? 
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I felt really defeated. 
I felt disappointed in myself 

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and then the actions, right? 
Probably not doing too much, 

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doing the very like bare minimal
versus the mindset, I know what 

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I'm doing, I'm capable, this is 
working. 

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I'm certain that I'm going to 
win. 

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I'm certain if I keep taking 
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Imagine the feelings that you're
going to have and then when you 

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feel those feelings, the action 
you're going to take two 

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different certainties. 
You can be certain that it's not

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going to work or you can be 
certain that it is going to 

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work. 
And when you have the certainty 

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that it's working for you, your 
life is going to change. 

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You're going to take more action
because what you think your 

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mindset drives your actions and 
your actions create your 

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results. 
So I looked up the definition of

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certainty and I thought this was
so interesting. 

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All right, so Are you ready? 
Certainty is the emotional 

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commitment to belief, certainty 
the emotional commitment to a 

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belief. 
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much because certainty is a 
feeling you have, the emotional 

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commitment that you have. 
And then our feelings are caused

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by our thoughts are caused by 
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And I already mentioned this, 
but the two different types of 

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commitment, you can be committed
to the belief of it's not 

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working, I'm a failure, I'm a 
loser, I hate my life, I'm not 

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worthy. 
This isn't working for me. 

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I have been there. 
I have been there. 

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Or you can have the commitment 
to the belief I know what I'm 

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doing. 
This is working. 

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I am capable. 
I got this. 

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And so the tool I'm going to 
teach, don't worry, I'm going to

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get into it at the end of the 
episode. 

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I'm going to teach you it, but I
got to make sure your mindset is

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on board because I can tell. 
You what to do? 

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But if you are on the other side
of uncertainty, you're not going

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to do it. 
But the whole point of this tool

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and concept is to help your 
brain get on board with the 

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certainty of it's working that 
you can do this. 

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The certainty of feeling 
motivated, of feeling 

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determined. 
That's where I want your brain 

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to be in the whole point of this
exercise and what I'm going to 

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teach you the tool at the end of
the episode. 

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But I do think certainty and 
confidence, they're the same, 

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but a little different. 
For me, confidence is external, 

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like confidence can be 
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put some red lipstick. 
On. 

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confident. 
Like I can do these things to 

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feel confident versus certainty.
When I feel certain, it's a 

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internal knowing. 
It's very grounded, very 

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powerful and I wanted to give 2 
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this. 
One example is example. 

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That my client gave. 
Me. 

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She talked about going to school
like she was very certain she 

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was going to get her bachelor's 
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But the classes not every 
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Class she took, she had 
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Not every single test she took, 
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certain that she was going to 
get her degree. 

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Another example, like my 
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if I take action in my business,
I will get the result that I 

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want. 
I am certain becoming her is 

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life changing. 
It's going to help so many 

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women. 
But sometimes my launches in 

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between launches, my confidence 
varies between launch, every 

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single launch. 
Like, I'm certain that it's 

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going to help people, but 
sometimes, right, my confidence 

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dips. 
I had another client tell me 

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that she was certain that she 
wanted to be a mother and she 

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was certain that she's going to 
have a family and she wanted to 

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be. 
A mom, but the. 

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Confidence of being a mom. 
She had no idea what she was 

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doing pregnant. 
She, she was, you know, back and

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forth with her confidence, but 
she was certain this is what she

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like commitment, like you are 
committed to the result no 

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matter what happens. 
You don't have to be confident 

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in every single moment of taking
action towards the result. 

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You just need that certainty, 
that internal knowing that it's 

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going to work out, that it's 
going to happen for you. 

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I hope that makes sense. 
I hope those examples really 

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like clarify it for you. 
But you can not have confidence,

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but you can be very certain with
who you are and what you're 

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doing. 
And that's the conversation that

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I really we're having today. 
My coach always tells me you 

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don't need to be positive, you 
need to be powerful. 

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And it makes me think of like 
this example, right? 

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You don't need to be confident, 
you just need to be certain. 

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There's two quotes I found that 
I think will really help this 

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podcast, give it more weight and
more value, really be impactful.

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Quote #1 Whatever you think you 
can or you think you can't, 

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you're right, Henry Ford. 
So if you believe that you can 

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do it, you can. 
If you believe you can't, you 

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can't. 
Another quote is you become what

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you believe, Oprah Winfrey, 
Whatever you believe to be true,

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whatever you're certain of will 
happen for you. 

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You become what you believe. 
We have two options when it 

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comes to our mindset. 
Right, we have our. 

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Confident mindset, which is our 
certain mindset and then we also

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have a self doubt mindset which 
is the uncertain. 

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Mindset on. 
Average a human has 14,000 to 

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60,000 thoughts per day, 80% of 
those. 

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Thoughts are. 
Negative unless you interrupt 

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it. 
When I told this to my client 

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she was like what does like 
interrupt like really mean and 

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to me? 
Interrupting your thought. 

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Means switching. 
Your thoughts? 

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Jumping thoughts? 
Changing. 

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Thoughts. 
I had another. 

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Client tell me. 
I just love doing. 

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The one-on-one coaching sessions
with Becoming Her 'cause it gets

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so many like perspectives and so
many ways I can explain this, 

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especially for the podcast 
audience, for you right now, but

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my client. 
Said it's awareness like. 

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How you interrupt is having 
awareness of your. 

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Thoughts. 
And I just. 

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Thought that was so genius but 
pretty much interrupting it is 

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having the awareness. 
That you're having that thought.

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And then changing. 
That thought. 

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And the very first step in 
becoming her is teaching you how

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to redirect your brain. 
And I give you so many. 

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Tools to do so and the new. 
Tool I just created. 

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Which I'm so. 
Excited to finally. 

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Give it to you 20. 
Minutes in this podcast. 

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It's called the certainty game. 
The certainty game is a hope. 

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You. 
Dig for the positivity. 

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To help you. 
Interrupt the negative thinking 

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for you to feel certain and for 
you to feel confident in 

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whatever you're doing. 
The certainty game. 

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There's only two rules. 
Only two. 

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The very first rule, positive 
answers only. 

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You can only answer. 
With positive thoughts. 

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Positive. 
Answers and rule #2 You can't 

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say I don't know, you have to 
force yourself to answer the 

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question. 
OK, so those are the 2 rules, 

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positive answers only. 
And you can't say I don't know. 

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You have to force yourself to 
answer the question. 

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Other things to know, be 
creative. 

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The questions can be related to 
any subject, any topic. 

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During my coaching calls this 
week, like I was using the 

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certainty game towards their 
individual challenge, their 

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individual problem. 
Again, like people come to me 

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for everything. 
I solve all the problems with 

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the coaching tools that I have. 
And so I was just using the 

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certainty game to solve all my 
clients problems this week. 

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So what are you certain of? 
I asked my client this and she's

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like, I don't understand what 
you're asking me. 

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Like what do you mean? 
Like I don't understand? 

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And I was like, OK, so it's like
what do you know? 

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What are you certain of? 
What do you know? 

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Some things that I am certain 
of. 

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I am certain that I am deeply 
loved. 

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My husband loves me so much. 
My family loves me so much. 

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I know that I am deeply loved in
those two areas. 

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Friendships hit or miss. 
Did you see what I did there? 

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I was talking about the 
certainty and then I was but in 

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this area, but this area, I did 
that on purpose. 

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I did that on purpose because I 
actually had that experience 

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like a couple minutes ago, like 
thinking about what I was going 

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to say for this part of the 
podcast. 

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And so just notice my brain even
did that. 

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Remember, we want to stick on 
the positive. 

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No, but but, but but buts. 
So we're going to start over. 

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I am certain I am deeply loved. 
I have people that love me. 

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I am certain that this podcast 
creates an impact. 

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Like if I just show up on this 
podcast, like I'm going to 

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change so many lives. 
I'm certain I love what I'm 

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doing. 
I love personal development. 

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I love learning new things. 
I love helping women transform 

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their lives and for them to 
completely change who they are. 

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I love coaching. 
I love being a mentor. 

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I am certain that I live in such
a beautiful city yesterday. 

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I live in Las Vegas, NV 
yesterday I could see the 

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mountains with the snow and I'm 
like driving past like the strip

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and it was just so beautiful 
being on the 15 yesterday, 

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seeing the mountains with the 
beautiful strip. 

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Like in between that and the 
Legion stadium where the Raiders

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play. 
It was a gorgeous drive to work 

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yesterday. 
I am certain I live in such a 

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beautiful city. 
I am certain of that. 

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I am certain that I know how to 
make money. 

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I am certain I know how to save 
money. 

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I am certain when it comes to 
finances. 

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Like I finally have figured that
out. 

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I am certain in that area. 
So what are you certain of? 

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It can be very broad or can be 
about a certain topic. 

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For example, like this was 
originally for my business. 

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So what I'm certain of when it 
comes to my business, I'm 

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certain that hundreds of people 
are engaged and interested in my

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work. 
I am certain that people want my

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work. 
I am certain that I know what 

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I'm doing. 
I know what I'm talking about. 

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I am certain that becoming her 
selves. 

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I am certain that people of the 
mindset, babe, like I am certain

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I got this so you can have 
something about business. 

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I had a client who's on her 
health and fitness. 

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So I asked her, like, what are 
you certain about health and 

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fitness? 
What are you certain about food?

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What are you certain about 
diets? 

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What are you certain about your 
ability to show up? 

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And that question actually was 
kind of in all of the certainty 

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games that I played with my 
clients this week, It's like, 

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what are you certain about your 
ability to show up? 

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I am certain if I have a game 
plan, if I schedule the time to 

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do it, I'm going to do it. 
I am certain that I will show up

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for the things that I want. 
I am certain that I just have to

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get my brain on board and to get
myself motivated. 

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Like I am certain that I know 
how to show up. 

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I am physically able to show up.
I am certain that I can do it. 

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What are you certain about life?
Like, what do you know about 

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life? 
I know life is hard. 

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I am certain that things are 
tough and they are difficult. 

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I am certain that life is 50, 
fifty, 50% terrible and 50% 

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amazing and awesome, like life 
is going to have difficult 

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times. 
I am certain that life is 

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beautiful and there's so many 
things to be grateful for life. 

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I'm certain that life is a gift 
and we are the present. 

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I am certain that you have to 
work hard like if you want 

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results, you need to put the 
time, energy and effort like I'm

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certain you have to show up to 
get the things that you want in 

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life. 
What are you certain about who 

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you are? 
What do you know about who you 

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are? 
Right? 

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What are you certain of? 
I am certain that I am 

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determined. 
I am a disciplined person. 

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I am certain that I'm a positive
person. 

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I look on the bright side and I 
am certain that I have good. 

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Energy, and I am. 
Certain that I am actually 

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really hilarious. 
People say I'm funny, but I am 

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certain that I am full of light 
and hope and positivity and I am

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certain I know how to have a 
good time. 

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When you focus on the certainty 
of your life, when you focus on 

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what you do know instead of what
you don't, you shift your energy

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to positivity, to confidence, to
motivation. 

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You just like level up. 
Like the best thing I can think 

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of is like a battery. 
And like when you're thinking 

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about what's not working, when 
you're thinking about the 

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uncertainty, the fear, the self 
doubt, it's like the red part of

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the battery. 
It's like very, very low. 

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It's like 5% and the best way to
refill your battery is by doing 

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the certainty game. 
So I challenge you for the next 

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30 days to ask yourself every 
single day, what are you certain

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of? 
It could be literally about just

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that question. 
What are you certain of about 

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life or do you certain of about 
health and fitness, finances, 

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whatever you're working on, What
are you certain of? 

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You can write this down. 
Honestly, I don't care. 

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It could be in the shower, it 
could be driving to work and 

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could be cooking dinner. 
As long as you ask yourself this

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question again, positive answers
only, and you have to force 

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yourself to answer the question.
And I love a list of 10. 

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What are 10 things you're 
certain of? 

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I love 10 because it really 
helps you shift the energy 

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because you could do like 3 or 4
but when you get to 7 you're 

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like, I don't know. 
But when you force yourself to 

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say the answer, when you dig for
that positivity, you will find 

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gold. 
So make sure you do list of 10 

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every single day for 30 days. 
I promise you this will change 

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your life. 
And when it does? 

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Message me on Instagram The 
mindset babe. 

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I want to know how this changed 
everything for you. 

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This is a simple, easy, 
impactful exercise for you to 

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do. 
I'm so excited that you finally 

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know about the certainty game. 
I love you so much. 

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Thank you, thank you. 
Thank you for listening to the 

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Let me know the thing that has 

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mindset babe, I love you so much
and I will see you in the next 

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episode. 
Bye. 

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