Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe them to
the Mindset Babe podcast. In today's episode, I'm talking
about the only yes, the only thing you need this year for
happiness, for confidence and for success.
I am so excited for today's episode.
I really been thinking about the new year in 2026 and how can I
set you up for success? Like how can I make sure that
you have the mindset that you have the strategy that you can
actually make this year your year?
So I've really been thinking about you and I'm so excited for
today's podcast episode because honestly, this episode 2 day is
going to change your life. It's the only thing you need
this year and the year after that.
In 10 years from now, if you do this, everything will change for
you. All right?
I'm so excited. So let me set the stage for you.
So you wake up and you feel a cold coming.
You're congested, you have a runny nose, and you start to
have a cough. Now, hold on.
Stay with me. OK?
Stay with me. Stay with me.
And as the day goes on, you get progressively worse and worse.
The day goes by, you end up going to sleep, and then you
wake up the next morning and you're officially sick.
You take some Dayquil, but it's just like getting worse.
And by the third day, the symptoms are so bad.
You're like, I might have to go to like urgent care.
Like I think something's like really wrong with me.
Like I might actually need a doctor.
Like, I might need like a trained professional to help me
get over these symptoms. Then you go to the doctor, you
get a diagnosis, you get prescribed something to help you
feel better, and then you leave the doctor's office.
You get the prescription. Maybe you get some Gatorade,
maybe some Vicks, humidifier, whatever it is.
You get something at your local Walgreens or CVS and then you go
home and you start the antibiotics, whatever it is, you
start the medicine that the doctor prescribed to you.
The doctor gave you a diagnosis and this is like, OK, well, this
is the treatment plan to solve these symptoms so you feel
better. And so anytime you are truly
like physically, I'll, you typically, right, you go to the
doctor to get treatment, you go to urgent care, you go to your
primary care, you go to the emergency room, tell a doc,
whatever it is right when you're like, Oh my God, I'm really
fucking sick. You get help, you go to the
doctor. And so your body gets sick.
That is a part of life, right? Like you will probably get sick
this year. Like I've been, I wasn't sick.
Well, the year just started, but I was sick like last, I don't
know, like September, like really, really bad.
And so you will get sick, right? Like can we agree that's normal?
Like your human body will catch disease and illness and
bacteria. Like we are just a host for
sickness. And so your body can get sick,
but also something else can also get really, really sick.
And it's your mind and your mind can actually get sicker than
your body. So the only thing you need this
year for success, happiness, confidence is a doctor.
But for your brain. AKAA Life Coach A life coach is
a trained professional who treats uncomfortable symptoms in
your mental and emotional health.
Doctors treat like your physical body while a life coach treats
your mental and emotional body. They treat the uncomfortable
symptoms in your mind and in your emotions.
And so you might be asking like, OK, like, what are the
uncomfortable symptoms? Which is a great question
because when you go to a doctor, when you have physical illness,
like, it's very obvious. But sometimes when we're quote
UN quote, brain sick, when our brain isn't healthy, quote UN
quote when it's unhealthy, there's some symptoms that
aren't quite as obvious. And so I want to talk about
these symptoms that a life coach treats.
And I really want to talk about these symptoms that I treat
because I'm a certified life coach.
I've been a life coach. It'll be five years in February.
And I want to talk about these symptoms that I treat in my
practice. And if you work with me or
another coach, I really want you just to see if you need
treatment for your mind. And I want to say there's no
shame for getting help in this area.
Just like it's not shameful to go to the doctor when you're
sick or to take Dayquil or Nyquil when you're sick.
Like it's OK if your body is sick, nothing is wrong with you.
Just like if you're mine is sick, nothing is wrong with you.
But I want to talk about these symptoms that I treat in my
practice and to help you just become more aware and give you
more options so you're able to get the help that you need.
Maybe you've tried therapy, maybe you're already like on
some anti anxiety or depression medication and you just still
feel like something is wrong. So I want to talk about the
symptoms that I treat and maybe I can help you and really create
a custom treatment plan for you this year.
All right, so these are the symptoms to know if you might
need a life coach if you're quote UN quote like brain like
sick, OK, And I want to say like sick, like lightly, like
obviously there is so many modalities and you may need more
help than a life coach. And again, there's not a problem
with that. But these are the symptoms that
I treat. Symptom #1 You are your biggest
critic. Like nothing is good enough for
you. You could literally do
everything on your To Do List and you will still say it's not
enough, you didn't do enough. You will tear yourself down, you
will belittle yourself. Like you just don't give
yourself enough credit. Like you are truly your own,
like biggest critic. Like that's like the very first
symptom. And I feel like the main
dialogue is I'm not good enough. Why would I do that?
I'm so dumb, I'm so stupid. Like are you serious?
And you are just consistently tearing yourself down.
Like you're honestly just hyper critical with everything you do.
How you know this, but you're like, Oh my goodness.
Like I already know. But just in case if you don't
know how you know if this is you when people compliment you and
you don't receive it. Like other people think you're
smart, other people think you're capable, but you don't believe
them. Like you're like oh blah blah
blah, said this, but that's not true.
Like you don't see what other people see in you.
Like, that's the very first symptom.
The second symptom is overthinking.
Like girl, like you overthink everything.
You have a million things going on in your brain at the same
time. You're thinking about work,
you're thinking about building a career.
You're thinking about relationships, You're thinking
about your friendships, You're thinking about your health,
you're thinking about your family, you're thinking about
doing a hobby. Like there is just too many
options, too many decisions, too many things to think about, and
you don't even know. Like it just confuses you and
overwhelms you. Like you don't even know what to
do. So how do you know this is you?
It feels like your thoughts are literally going like 100 mph.
Like, I love to give the example.
It's like your brain is like on the tracks, like on a train
track. And you were like, like, it's
just gone. Like you, we were waiting on the
platform and you missed the train and it's just like gone.
And you cannot catch up. And the train is actually about
to be like derailed. And it's going to like call all
these things and the train might catch on fire because it's just
like so much and just so dramatic.
And you know what I'm talking about.
Do you know what I'm talking about?
And it's almost like you just get carried away and lost in
your thoughts. It's like literally you're just
spaced out looking at a wall, thinking about a million things.
OK, the third symptom is you feel overwhelmed because you
feel like you can't handle everything on your To Do List.
Like your calendar is just too much and your To Do List have To
Do List. And you're probably thinking, I
have so much to do. There's too much to do.
This is fucking a lot. Like this is too much.
And then this causes a sense of overwhelmed and you're just
stressed. Like you wake up already
stressed and you're in a spiral. Like you just sense doom, like
you're just preparing for the chaos ahead.
And you're like, I don't think I can handle the chaos.
And you can feel the anxiety. You can feel the overwhelm by
doing like simple day-to-day tasks like doing the laundry,
doing the dishes, going to work. Like it just feels like a lot.
And you wake up every morning thinking how you're like, you're
already thinking like, how am I going to make it through today?
Where am I going to fit all the things in work, the workout,
cleaning the house? When am I going to read?
When am I going to take time for myself?
And it feels impossible. And anytime you think anything
feels impossible, that's a mindset issue.
That's a symptom that you need to go to the brain doctor.
Another symptom that a brain doctor treats that I treat is
you struggle to get yourself motivated.
Like you just aren't excited to take any action.
Like you know what to do, but you're just not doing them.
Like you aren't doing what you want to do either.
Like you're not working out, you're not cleaning the house,
you're not posting on Instagram or doing a podcast or YouTube.
You're not doing your big dreams or in the business, whatever it
is. And honestly, it just feels like
you know better and you are consistently beating yourself
up, going to the very first symptom, being your biggest
critic. And you beat yourself up because
you're not as productive as you used to be.
Like there was some time, a point in your life that you are
productive, you're motivated, you're driven, you're like,
let's go and you're not now. And you're experiencing like a
lot of shame and guilt and you're like, what is wrong with
me? Like I used to be so excited for
my goals and my dreams and I can't even do them.
Like I it just stresses me out and there's no motivation.
Like you should see my day. Like I work my 9:00 to 5:00 and
I'm drained. Like I'm drained in my and I'm
tired after work. I don't know what to do.
There's just no motivation inside of me.
This is a big, big, big, big thing that I treat, especially
in becoming her is shifting your mindset, helping you find the
energy, find the time so you're able to show up for your dreams
and your goals and overall your destiny, your destiny.
All right. Another symptom that I treat is
confusion, like you don't know where to go.
You don't even know who you are and you're just so confused.
And if you were honest with yourself, like you don't even
know what you like. Like what do you even like to
eat? And this is because you've been
living for everyone else except for yourself.
And I see this a lot like when I treat my clients, this is, I see
it the most after a breakup, like after a long term
relationship, after a divorce, I feel like most women lose
themselves. They don't know who they are.
And so something I do with my clients is help them find who
they are and for them to be no longer confused on who they are,
what they want, who they want to become.
Another symptom is that you don't feel worthy or you don't
feel good enough. Like you feel like you have to
do something to become worthy and you haven't done things like
there's, you haven't achieved a lot to become worthy.
Like there's still some things you need to do to become worthy.
Like you don't believe that you are inherently worthy.
You believe that you're not good enough.
Like you have a deep belief that you're not worthy, you're not
good enough. Like I feel like really that's
just the dialogue. Like if you just feel like
you're not good enough, not good enough in relationships, not
good enough in your business, not good enough in your career,
not good enough in your health, just like just not good enough
daughter, wife, friend, whatever it is.
If you just feel like you're not stepping up to the plate, you
need to see a brain doctor. You need to see a life coach.
Like honestly, I would try to do it by the end of the month.
Like you need to see someone about this.
Like this is very important and it's so chronic.
Like so many women don't believe they're good enough because of
society, because of what people have told them.
Like they he didn't love me, so I can't love myself.
My parents didn't love me, so I don't love myself, but I'm not
good enough. Like this is a huge thing.
Like I truly believe like we need to shift this narrative and
life coaches are the best modality, the best person to
shift this reality and to shift this narrative that you're
telling yourself because you are good enough and you are fucking
worthy. Like, end of story.
All right. Another symptom is when you look
in the mirror and you instantly criticize yourself.
You say that you're fat, you say that you're ugly.
You look at your face like, like my skin is so discolored and I
hate my acne and why do I look like that?
And my Cellulite and my boobs are too small or my boobs are
too big or my ass is too small or my ass is too big or my tummy
is too big. Whatever it is, you instantly
criticize yourself when you look at the mirror and honestly, like
if we could be truly honest, you avoid, you avoid looking at
yourself in the mirror because you can't even face yourself.
This is another symptom that I treat in becoming her.
All right, we're bringing it home.
The last symptom that I treat as a brain doctor, as a life coach
is all or nothing thinking. It's either we go all in or we
don't do it at all. If I don't work out on Monday
then what's the point of going the rest of the week?
Like fuck it, if I can't finish this task then what's the point
of doing anything else? Like it's either all or nothing.
Something I teach my clients and something that I treat like the
treatment plan I give my clients is finding the middle ground.
Because the middle ground is where the magic happens.
That's where the results truly are, without hustle, without
overwhelm, without stress. It's where things get easier.
When you think in the middle ground instead of all or
nothing. And when you're in all or
nothing thinking, it's a clear sign that your mind is
dysregulated and is only thinking about the fear and the
risk. Because your brain believes
mistakes equal danger and imperfection means rejection.
And so quitting feels safer than trying at all.
But how you get successful, how you build your confidence, how
you become happier, how you love the life that you are living is
by trying over and over and over again.
So those are the symptoms that I treat as a professional life
coach. These are the symptoms.
If you have these, I highly recommend as your friend, as
your mentor. If you look up to me, you should
see a brain doctor. You should see a life coach.
If it's me, I don't care. But life coaching has changed my
life. And I know literally, if it's
the only thing you do this year to get a life coach, your life
will dramatically change. All right, a recap with the
symptoms #1 you are your biggest critic #2 overthinking.
You overthink everything #3 you feel overwhelmed because you
feel like you can't handle everything on your To Do List,
so you don't feel capable #4 you struggle to get yourself
motivated. You are excited to take action
towards your dreams #5 you are completely confused.
You don't know where to go. You don't even know who you are
number six. You don't feel worthy or good
enough #7 you look in the mirror and you instantly criticize
yourself and you actually avoid the mirror and #8 you're an all
or nothing thinking. These are all the symptoms that
I treat as a professional life coach, as your brain doctor in
becoming her. If you are experiencing one or
any of these symptoms, I want to invite you.
I want to tell you. You need to get in to Becoming
Her in January. Enrollment is coming soon.
And you know what? I wasn't going to tell you, but
I feel like I need to because I feel like you need this.
I feel like if you have these symptoms, you need help and I
can help you. Becoming Her applications will
open January 20th. If you are experiencing any of
these symptoms, I can help you in becoming her.
We create a step by step custom treatment plan to heal all of
these symptoms. So if you want to heal for 2026,
if you want to get rid of this mind sickness, if you're ready
for a brain doctor, put it on your calendar.
January 20th, Becoming Her applications will open.
I love you so much and I'll see you in the next one.
Bye. Thank you so much for listening
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