Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is help you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hello, hello, hello babe.
Welcome to the Mindset Babe podcast.
In today's episode, I'm talking about 5 habits of a confident
high value woman. And when I say high value, I
don't mean she's more valuable than anyone else, because all
humans are equally valuable, equally worthy.
When I say high value, it just means she's finally owned her
value. She's finally stepped into her
value because a lot of women, they have the achievements, they
have the degree, they have the good job, they have the home,
they have the family, they have all the things.
And yet they're still discounting their success.
They haven't fully owned their value like their value, like
they're looking at the value like they think their value is
outside of them. No, the value is already in you.
You just have to claim it. You just have to own it.
You just have to step into it. So I'm going to talk about 5
habits to help you own your value because you have it.
You are worthy, you are capable, you are good enough.
But your brain has been lying to you.
The voice in your head, have you noticed it?
The voice in your head, the one that says you're not ready,
you're behind, Who do you think you are?
Don't do that. You're going to look stupid.
You're going to sound dumb. And I remember like hitting all
of my accomplishments, like I have my bachelor's degree, I
have a great career, I have my home.
And my brain was still telling me you're not good enough.
You're a piece of shit. You're never going to figure
this out. You're behind, you're a failure,
you're a loser. And I realized self doubt
doesn't care how successful you are.
It actually gets louder and bigger the more success you're
trying to achieve. And confidence isn't built by
achieving more and doing more things.
Because I'm assuming if you're listening to this podcast, you
probably have done a lot of things and the confidence is
still missing. It's still lacking for a reason.
The reason why you are still lacking confidence, why you are
still doubting yourself, is because you are allowing the
negative chatter run your brain. You're letting your brain lead
you. You're letting your brain direct
you. You're letting your brain run
the shots instead of you running the shots.
And when your brain is running the shots, it just causes a lot
of chaos, overwhelm, stress, inadequacy.
It gets a lot of negative emotions when your brain is
leading you instead of you leading your brain in.
Last week I literally had the best idea on how I can support
you and how I could guide you through this.
I've been in business for five years.
I have helped hundreds of women stop doubting themselves and
finally love who they are. And I've always offered a
program, but I've never offered just like a one off session.
Five years in business and I've never just offered a one off
session. Like, you can just get one
session and sometimes one session is all you need to
completely shift your mindset. And I had someone apply for
becoming her. And at the time she could not
commit to the full six months. But she was in such deep pain.
And I was like, girl, like, I can help you.
You need help. Like everything you just told
me. Like, you don't deserve to feel
like this. Like you need to let this go.
Like you need to process it and I was like, I just need one
session with you and we're just going to let this go and you're
going to feel free. And I've been thinking about
that. You just need one session.
So for the month of March only, March 2026, I am offering the 60
minute Self Doubt Detox. This is a 60 minute call to
eliminate the negative chatter in your brain.
I'm going to teach you how to quiet your inner mean girl, that
voice in your head who's running the show.
And I love the word detox because we're doing a cleanse.
We're cleansing out the negative thoughts in your head and we're
going to replace them with new ones, powerful ones that are
going to finally make you confident you can go ahead.
You can register with the link in the show notes.
I'm only doing it for the month of March, March 2026.
At first, I was going to wait to air this next week.
I think it was going to be like March though, like fourth or
something. Next Tuesday.
I don't even know. I was like, that's too late.
I want to see you next week. I want to help you next week.
Get rid of this negative chatter in your brain by giving you
simple coaching tools. You can go ahead.
You can register with the link in the description box.
All right, let's get into these habits.
All right, habit number one, she keeps promises to herself.
Self love is self trust and self trust is built through the
moments where you show up for yourself.
The confident, high value woman. If she says she's waking up
early, she's waking up early. If she says she's going to the
gym, she's going to the gym. If she says she's starting a
business, she's starting a business.
She follows through. She doesn't break the promises
that she made with herself. Every time you break a promise
to yourself, your brain logs it. I always love to give the
example. Let's say you schedule these 60
minute self doubt detox and I don't show up and I don't reach
out to you saying Oh my goodness, like I'm so sorry.
Like something happened, like I have to reschedule.
I just don't show up. And if I don't show up to that
call, you're going to lose trust with me.
You're going to be like, who the hell is this mindset, babe?
You're going to unfollow the podcast and follow me on
Instagram, whatever it is, but you're probably never going to
trust me again. But we do that with ourselves.
We say we're going to wake up early to go to the gym and then
we don't do it. And then eventually our brain
will start telling us that we're never going to follow through.
What's the point? You're not going to do it
anyway. Your brain starts questioning
the trust, the relationship that you have with yourself.
You start negotiating with your own standards.
You start lowering the bar for yourself and you really start
like living in the maybe like maybe I'll do this, maybe I
won't do that And keeping your promises to yourself.
Isn't this like huge grand like thing?
Like it's doing the workout even when you don't feel motivated.
It's having hard conversations instead of avoiding them.
It's logging off when you said you're going to log off, taking
lunch when you said you're going to take lunch at work, saying no
when you want to say no. It's keeping the small promises
to yourself daily. So I'm going to ask you what
promise can you keep to yourself today?
What's one thing you need to get done today and make sure you
keep that promise. You show up for yourself.
The second habit that she has is she invest in her body.
And I'm not talking about like lip injections or like a BBL.
I'm talking about whole nutritious food movement that
builds strength and mobility, sleep that actually restores
you, hydration. Your body is your only home.
Are you taking care of it?
Because when you invest in your body, you think better, you earn
better, you lead better, and you love better.
When you invest in your body, everything changes.
Like honestly, like if you've ever had any chronic illnesses,
I have a autoimmune disease when it hits like when my body is in
so much pain, like I can't do anything else.
Like mentally I'm drained, like I can't focus.
Like everything like comes from your body, how you feel, your
mood comes from the, I didn't see like the shapeness, but like
the Wellness. There it is the Wellness of your
body. All right, habit #3 She invest
in her mind. High value women know your
mindset will either keep you stuck or keep you expanding.
It will keep you stuck or it will keep you going.
Your mindset determines your income.
Your mindset determines your standards.
Your mindset determines your leadership.
Your mind is your biggest asset. Your mind is your biggest asset.
And assets require investments. Confident, high value women?
They invest in therapy to release trauma and regulate
their nervous system, Coaching to shift their identity and take
bold action, Mentors to expand their thinking rooms to stretch
them. Because growth isn't by
accident. Growth happens when you
intentionally invest in it. And I kind of want to address
the big elephant in the room. I was thinking like, should I
really like say this or not? Are people going to get
offended? But here we go.
We're saying it anyway. We're being bold, We're being
truthful. I'm keeping the promises to
myself. ChatGPT is not therapy.
It's not life coaching. It's a tool.
And tools are great. It can give you ideas.
It can give you journal prompts. It can give you surface level
advice. Helpful, absolutely
transformational. No, information doesn't change
your life. There's this saying that I
completely disagree with. It's knowledge is power.
No, no, no, no, no. Knowledge is not power.
Action is power. You can learn all the things.
Chat can tell you all the things but if you don't take action
there's no power. The knowledge is wasted.
And I actually had a client she left, she did like a couple
months by herself. She ended up re enrolling and
becoming her this round in last February.
But she was telling me how she was using chat and chat was
giving her all these ideas and making her game plans and
creating like morning routines and even like she was thinking
about starting a business and created a whole business plan.
Like, she like designed her life with like ChatGPT, but she
wasn't doing the things because she didn't have the coaching
accountability to actually take action towards the things.
And she actually felt more stuck.
Chat gave her so many ideas. She'd even know what ideas to
take action on. She felt confused, she felt
stuck. And so yes, ChatGPT is a great
tool and yes, AI can generate so many amazing answers, but it
cannot hold emotional space when you're unraveling.
It can't help you regulate your nervous system in real time, it
can't call you out when you're playing small, and it can't be
on your ass in keeping you accountable.
In high value women, they don't want hacks, they don't want
temporary motivation. They want real shifts.
So high value women, they invest in their mind.
All right #4 they invest in their environment.
Your environment is not a neutral space.
Your environment is either elevating you or lowering you.
The space truly influences your standards, how you focus your
habits, and how you feel your nervous system.
Last weekend, my husband and I, we went to a Mediterranean
Turkish restaurant called Nuka, I think is how you pronounce it.
It's at Town Square in Las Vegas.
I live in Las Vegas, NV, but it's at Town Square.
It's behind the Whole Foods. We were like, how do we work?
This is Whole Foods, this is not it.
We're like looking at the map. But anywho, we walk in and there
was something about this environment that was so
elevated. Like I just walked in and I just
love the space. Like I instantly got relaxed.
My shoulders fell, but also I was still like elevated with
like posture like I just love the environment And we're we
were already like, we have to come back.
The food was so good and they actually have hookah.
We're like, all right, actually I'm recording this on Thursday.
I think actually tomorrow we or this weekend, we might go back
and actually do like the nightlife that they have because
we just went for a Sunday brunch.
But anywho, I love the environment.
I'm like so happy and jazzed about it.
I'm like, I need to go again. The environment matters.
Even the people, the people you hang out with matters.
You are the average of the five people you hang out with.
If you are consistently around complainers, mediocre mindsets,
drama, scarcity, thinking you will be the next one.
I saw like a quote. It was like if you're around 4
broke people you'll be the 5th. If you're around 4 I don't even
know. But it was like in that type of
phrasing. I wish I saved it in night for
this podcast episode. But anywho.
If you're around 4 broke people, you will be the 5th.
If you're around 4 people that don't have goals, you will be
the 5th. If you're around 4 people with
negative attitudes and bad mindsets, you will be the 5th.
The people you're around, the energy you surround yourself in,
all of that is contagious. Energy transfers, standards
transfer, ambition transfers. Make sure you are investing in
your environment. All right, In the last habit,
habit #5 which I was also like, I don't know if I should really
have this. Like I was brushing my teeth
last night. And I'm like, I don't know if I
should say this one, but it's rest.
Yes, rest is a habit. Rest is that something you earn.
Rest is something that is required.
And we talked about this earlier in the podcast episode, how
confident, high value women, they know that their body is
their only home. And sometimes we got to turn off
the lights. We just can't have all the
lights on in the house all the time.
Like we got to turn the lights off.
They know they need to rest. And REST isn't just naps.
It's logging off without guilt. It's taking a walk without a
podcast. It's saying no to plans when
your body says no. It's having white space in your
calendar. As ambitious women who were out
there achieving amazing things, we have this thing I like to
call it. It's called REST guilt when we
feel guilty for resting but we need to rest.
If we don't rest, we will get burnt out.
That's the only reason why people get burnt out is because
they never turned off the lights, they never took a break,
they never rested. So something that I do, I
actually schedule in my calendar.
I use Google Calendar. I schedule do nothing time and
on my do nothing time I can do whatever I want.
I can scroll, I can watch TVI can have a glass of wine and
just eat snacks. Get like I could literally do
anything my heart desires. If I want to take a nap, I can
take a nap. It's the time where I don't have
to constantly be thriving and striving and cleaning up the
house and just doing things. It's where I can do nothing and
I love scheduling it because when I'm doing nothing, my brain
will tell me you're lazy. What are you doing?
You should be doing something else like you need to be
productive. And I can tell my brain it's
it's actually my do nothing time.
I've actually scheduled this time and it's gives my brain
Peace of Mind. It quiets the chatter in my
brain. My brain's like, Oh yeah, you're
right. Like this is the time you're
doing nothing. It completely eliminates the
rest guilt. So I wanted to share that with
you. If you have that symptom of the
brain, when your brain is convincing you to feel bad for
resting, schedule your rest time, your rest time, your play
time. I schedule my do nothing time
and I actually schedule when I sleep.
My sleep is in there because sleep is a habit that all high
value women have. So those are the five habits.
Let me do a recap for you #1 she keeps promises to herself #2 she
invests in her body. I'm not talking about injections
and BBLS #3 She invests in her mind #4 she invests in her
environment and #5 she rest. And I have to be completely
honest with you. I know what it feels like to be
successful on paper but insecure in the head.
I know what it feels like to question yourself even when
everyone else believes in you. And I know how exhausting it is
to fight with your freaking brain all day.
You're not broken, you're not behind, you're not incapable.
You've just been rehearsing the wrong thoughts.
Your brain has just been leading you.
And if something in your chest is saying you know what, I'm
done living this way. Like I need a change, then book
your 60 minute self doubt detox session.
Let's eliminate the negative chatter so you can finally feel
confident again. You can go ahead.
You can schedule with the link in the description box and I
will see you next episode. I love you so much, have a good
day. Bye.
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