Welcome to the Mindset Bay podcast.
If you want more confidence and motivation then you're in the
right place every week at your dose of self development advice
and strategies. I'm your host Perry Richardson,
life coach, N OP practitioner, motivational speaker and mental
health advocate. My mission is hope you find more
happiness and take more action in your life.
Now let's begin. Hi, my name is star Ritchie.
First is first life without Perry.
I was always searching for something that I can make myself
do better personal development. I was just like craving it.
Long story short of sitting on the swings of the park looking
for a podcast, bright pink mindset babe right there in
front of me. Listen to her first podcast and
said hey, set up a free coaching call.
So I signed up and she texted me that day on her personal phone
and it really made us have a great connection.
I was so excited. I was just like, wow, like this
is really going to help me. She's a real person and she has
her own story that's really empowering and really, really
gives us like the hope that it's going to be fun.
You're changing and you're growing.
So it's been almost, I think a year now and I have seen
everywhere I've grown, everywhere I need to make
changes and I have my life on a like time, like a literally a
timeline and Perry me and all those other ways that I didn't
even know I need helped. I really, really, really, really
recommend Perry Richardson to help you guys or to give her the
chance to really grow with her because not is she just letting
us grow. She is growing herself, which I
think it's so much more personable and so much more
believable. And it's up to us to really take
on what we need to do to become the best version of ourselves.
Thank you, Perry, I love you so much.
I love you me two Star. Thank you so much for the
review. Star has literally been killing
it. She has gotten a high paying job
since her time working together. Not only does she know how to
save money, but she knows how to keep the money safe.
We have completely transformed her money mindset and she just
signed a lease to her very first place.
So congratulations Star, if you enroll in Becoming Her, you get
to meet Star on our monthly group coaching calls.
Star has redecided recommitted to the Becoming Her process
because she knows this work is incredible and she's ready to
take her life to the next level. I am so excited for today's
episode. Welcome to the Mindset Babe
podcast. This is a space where ambitious,
powerful women like you stop playing small and start owning
every ounce of your worth. Today's topic, I'm going to be
talking about how to develop your IT Girl identity.
This is a step in my Becoming Her process.
Becoming Her is my private coaching program and it's
currently open for enrollment. If you're a type of person who
needs guidance, he wants everything literally like laid
out for them. Like you know what you want, you
see the vision, you see the bigger picture, but you don't
know how to get there. This is why I created becoming
her. I literally give you the exact
process so you're able to build your confidence and become her.
I created Becoming Her for the person who lacks confidence, who
feels unworthy and unlovable. One concept I teach is to help
you increase your confidence by using the IT Girl formula.
O. In today's episode, I'm going to
be talking about the what and the why.
In Becoming Her, I actually give you the how.
I give you the tools, the prompts, all the exercises, and
I actually give you something tangible every single week to do
because you meet with me. You get private coaching
sessions with me every single week.
You also get daily guidance and accountability.
You get monthly group coaching calls and a private podcast.
If you're interested, you can apply to becoming her with the
link in the description box. All right, let's get into the
episode. The first question is really
just how do you know that you need to work on your identity?
So let me know if this is you or not.
You wake up early, you say your affirmations, you write down
your goals. You're trying so hard, but deep
down it still feels like you're wearing a costume, like you're
playing dress up in someone else's life.
Another analogy is it's like you're trying to bake a cake
with all the frosting, the decorations on the outside, but
the inside is still uncooked. You've made it look so good, so
delicious. It's Polish, it's impressive,
it's put together. But on the inside there's still
insecurity, doubt, fear, and that nagging voice whispering
Who are you trying to fool? Who do you think you are?
This happens because you're not actually embodying her, you're
performing what you think she looks like, what she does.
You're trying to become your dream self from the outside in,
but the true transformation always works from the inside
out. But honestly, like this is the
real problem, The real problem that no one talks about.
You can't affirm your way into identity you don't believe you
deserve. You can't fake it till you make
it forever. You can't fake true confidence.
You either become it or you end up burning out trying to perform
it. But here's the real truth bomb.
You don't become her by doing more.
You become her by being different.
The ICRA identity isn't something that you chase, it's
something that you activate. And we talk about this
activation process and becoming her.
I really want you to just think about this.
Every action you take flows from the identity that you hold.
If you believe you're not ready, you're going to delay your life.
You're going to avoid risk, you're going to play it safe.
But if you believe you're unstoppable, you're going to
take bold moves. Even when you're scared, you're
still going to do it. Because at the end of the day,
identity is the root. So the solution is you have to
shift who you are at the core. Not just what you do, but how
you think, what you allow, and most importantly, how you speak
to yourself. But guess what?
A woman who sees herself as powerful doesn't shrink when
someone doubts her. She expands.
She expands when the doubt, when the insecurity comes in, it's
opportunity for her to believe in herself even more, not
discredit her. And this is the energy you step
into in becoming her. So what is identity?
Your identity is a story you tell yourself about who you are.
It's the collection of beliefs that you have about yourself.
If you could give your mindset a movie title, what would you name
it? Would it be roller coaster?
Hot mess, trying, not good enough?
What would you name your mindset Right now the IT Girl identity
is made. I created it to help you rewrite
that story, to rewrite that movie, to go from roller coaster
to coast to trying to succeeding.
When you think about you being the IT girl, the highest version
of yourself, what does she believe about herself?
How does she feel about herself? What are her habits?
What does she do every single day?
The reason why I teach identity in developing your Icker
identity in becoming her is because your identity dictates
your decisions, actions, energy, and even what you're willing to
receive. If you believe you're unworthy,
you will self sabotage your success.
If you believe you're powerful, you will take bold action even
in uncertainty. Here's what happens when
yourself identity is low. You set small goals, you under
charge. You tolerate toxic relationships
and dynamics. You doubt yourself even when
you're overqualified and you sabotage good things because
they feel unfamiliar. But when your identity is high,
you set bold goals, you attract aligned people, You walk away
from anything that doesn't match your worth.
You take action that matches your dream identity.
You even start to normalize success.
Peace, love, abundance, everything in your external life
is literally a mirror of your internal identity.
Change yourself concept, change yourself identity.
You will change your entire life when you develop your Igor
identity. This is what happens for you.
You go from self doubt to self belief.
You start overcoming insecurities.
One of the most powerful personal transformations is
shifting from self doubt to self belief.
When you're able to trust your abilities, trust your abilities,
your choices, and your intuition, you learn how to
quiet the negative self talk and replace it with affirmations of
your worth. You really start redefining
confidence. Confidence isn't just about
looking good or being popular. It's about knowing your value,
staying true to your principles, and trusting your own judgment
even when it's risky. That's what we talk about in
Becoming Her. Something else is you learn how
to shift yourself, talk. You become your biggest
cheerleader. One of the lessons that I teach
in Becoming Her is how to quiet your inner mean girl and how to
allow and raise up into put it in the ox, your biggest
cheerleader. Because as you develop
confidence, you start cheering yourself on, you start to
celebrate the small wins and you're proud of the progress no
matter how big or small. Another thing when you develop
your Icker identity, which may be my favorite thing, is you
finally break free from comparison.
You start to celebrate your uniqueness.
You start to realize that your journey, your talents and gifts
are unique to you and that's something to be celebrate, not
minimized. Something else.
When you develop your IT Girl identity, you learn how to
overcome impostor syndrome, you really start owning your
success. A major aspect of a career
transformation is through confidence.
It's through learning how to quiet the voices of self doubt,
your inner mean girl. The more confident you become in
your identity and your worth, it's less likely you're actually
going to fall into the trap of imposter syndrome and you start
to recognize that you belong in spaces that you're in and that
you actually deserve the achievements that have been
given to you. You also start trusting your
expertise. You know that you're the expert.
You have confidence in the field of your expertise.
Developing your IT girl identity helps you stop second guessing
yourself. It hopes you feel powerful when
every single room you walk in the IT Girl isn't someone out
there. She's in you, waiting to be
activated. You don't need to do more, you
just need the right tools to help you become who you already
are. And if you want the support
building your unshakable a girl identity, one that's rooted in
confidence, powerful and unshakable self worth, then
becoming her is your next step. You can apply to Becoming Her
with the link in the description box.
Let's create the mindset, the identity that actually gets you
what you want in your life. The link is in the show notes.
You can apply to Becoming Her. Becoming Her is my signature
coaching program. It is five steps.
Step number 1. I teach you how to manage your
mind. Step #2 I teach you how to
become the master of your emotions.
Step #3 We talk about developing your IT girl identity.
Let's go. Step #4 I teach you how to
process past pain in step #5 I teach you how to get it done.
You can apply with the link in the show notes.
I love you guys so much. I hope this episode serves you
so well. I will see you in the next
episode so I love you. Bye.
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