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Welcome to Let's Chat with MBB. 
I'm Sarah Burby at BCBA National

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Board Certified Health and 
Wellness, Clutch Certified in 

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TV, even counselor, 7 figure 
business owner, speaker, mentor 

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and community trailblazer. 
I created this podcast as a 

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space for you to feel connected,
confident, and ready to tap into

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your passion. 
Because here is what I know to 

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be true. 
You can have it all if you allow

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yourself to be open to receiving
it. 

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On this show, we're diving deep 
into the intersection of mind, 

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body, and behavior. 
We'll explore what it takes to 

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build the life and business you 
love, breakthrough the barriers 

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holding you back, and step into 
the version of yourself you're 

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meant to be. 
My hope is that you leave each 

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episode feeling supported, 
motivated, and ready to tap into

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your highest self. 
I want you to crush every single

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self limiting belief that's been
keeping you small and step 

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boldly into everything you're 
capable of becoming. 

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So let's chat. 
Hello, hello, and welcome to 

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another episode of Let's Chat. 
I am on level 100 today because 

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number one, I'm recording this 
on a Sunday and it is 60° and 

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sunny and we've gotten a lot 
fresher so far today after I 

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feel like being cooped up 
forever and #2 because this week

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is our first ever in person 
event. 

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The retreat weekend is finally 
here and I cannot freaking wait 

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to see 25 people from all over 
the US come together for such a 

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special weekend, such a 
expansive weekend. 

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The things that I have planned, 
the surprises I have planned, if

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I do say so myself, are going to
be unreal. 

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And I am sitting in my bedroom 
right now recording this, 

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staring at the literal piles of 
things that I have for everybody

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that's coming. 
And I'm just thinking as I'm 

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talking, I don't know how the 
hell I'm even going to get all 

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this in my cart. 
But that is a problem for 1/3 

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day and that is not the purpose 
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That's today. 
I'm going to talk a little bit 

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more about the business side of 
I guess business, talk about 

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more tips on and strategy on 
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And like I said last week, this 
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business podcast. 
But I do know that a lot of you 

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that are listening are 
potentially interested in the 

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business. 
Maybe it's just a side hustle, 

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maybe it's going full time. 
And a lot of you said that last 

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week was really helpful. 
So I am happy to chat more and 

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just give you the knowledge that
I have. 

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I know that there is a lot of 
information out there now and 

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honestly about 80% of it's 
really bad, 80% of it 

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overcomplicates things. 
People have really good 

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marketing on how to hire them to
tell you what to do in business,

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which I guess is like a business
coach or they'll tell you like 

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this secret strategy or do this 
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It's really not that 
complicated, guys. 

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I'm telling you, I'm not saying 
it's not hard. 

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I'm not saying it's not 
challenging and a lot of time 

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and effort goes into building a 
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Trust me, it does. 
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it is pretty simple. 
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down, they could then just rinse
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That's why a lot of people that 
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successful businesses because 
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They're just able to rinse and 
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So hopefully in this podcast you
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that strategy if that's 
something that you're interested

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in doing. 
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how to talk about yourself. 
If you are wanting to share more

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about your business and what not
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And this is something that guys,
this hurt my soul when I learned

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this and I didn't want to 
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What I'm about to say, and I say
this with all of the love in the

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world, literally nobody cares 
about your credentials. 

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Nobody cares that you're a BCBA,
nobody cares that you have two 

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masters degrees. 
Nobody cares that you have this 

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certification or that training, 
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I'm saying that with love. 
And nobody cares about my 

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certifications either, OK? 
I am not exempt from this. 

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This was very hard for me and 
I'll tell you why later on in 

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this podcast. 
But your clients out there do 

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not care. 
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saying that they are not 
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They're very important. 
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have to coach our clients or 
whatever business it is that 

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you're trying to build and the 
masters that we have, the 

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education that we have, it is 
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You guys know I am super 
passionate about being confident

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in the area that you're working.
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But that's when we actually get 
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And if we don't have good 
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to get the clients into our 
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expertise isn't going to matter 
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the clients in the 1st place. 
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matter when you actually work 
with clients, but when you go to

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market yourself, talking about 
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OK, Nobody cares. 
And if you've ever tried to put 

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yourself out there, I want you 
to look at your website, your 

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Instagram, how you talk to 
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Is it all about your 
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Because if it is, that could be 
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might be having a hard time 
getting clients through a video.

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So by the end of this, I want 
you to be able to think about or

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talk about, I should say, what 
makes you people want to work 

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with you? 
What is your secret sauce? 

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How can you share the offer or 
offers that you have without 

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sounding like a walking LinkedIn
bio that is boring people to 

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sleep? 
So #1 credentials. 

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Tell people what you have, but 
they do not tell people what 

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they're going to get when they 
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And people want to know what 
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If they want to hire you, 
they're going to want to know 

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exactly what it is that you 
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And here is what happens when 
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when someone says, So what do 
you do when you say I have a 

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master's degree in this, I'm 
certified in this, I've been 

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doing, I'm an expert in behavior
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They're going to nod and they're
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going to be like, I don't know 
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about. 
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How is she going to help me? 
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in the translation. 
They don't understand how having

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a BC base certification, being a
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they don't understand how that's
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specific problem. 
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they're not going to hire you 
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They're hiring you to solve a 
specific problem that they have.

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They're tired, they're 
exhausted, they're stuck, 

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they're frustrated, and they 
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their own and it's not working. 
So they just want someone to 

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help them figure it out and 
that's the conversation that 

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they want to have. 
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end of this conversation know, 
OK, how are you going to help me

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get from point A to point B? 
And credentials are not the way 

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to sell them to get them to come
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It might actually turn people 
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Nobody wakes up and thinks I 
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master's degree. 
They wake up thinking I need, I 

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need to stop driving Monday 
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I need to stop having the Sunday
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thing Sunday morning. 
I need to stop eating like this 

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every time I'm stressed out, or 
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everything when I actually mean 
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I can't take on one more single 
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And that is the real ask. 
That is what they want from you.

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And when you lead with your 
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conversation with your 
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question that they weren't 
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It's like we just can't wait to 
word on it all of our 

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accomplishments, but that's not 
going to be the flux that we 

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think it is. 
So when someone asks you what 

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you do, I want you to answer it 
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Answer it from their 
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What it sounds like when it's 
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like I'm a licensed professional
and a licensed BCBAI, have 15 

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plus years in behavior change 
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nutrition. 
They're going to look at you and

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say OK, but what actually 
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you? 
What actually happens if I hire 

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you? 
The sentence that you just told 

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them has zero information about 
what their life looks like after

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working with you. 
So instead, try wording it like,

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I work with people who are 
exhausted and still somehow feel

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like they're not doing enough, 
who can't shake the guilt that 

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they're not doing enough. 
And together we figure out how 

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to break that pattern for good. 
So you can enjoy your life, so 

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you can XY or Z. 
Kind of what we're talking about

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in last week's podcast. 
OK, now you're talking about 

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their life. 
They're in it, they're painting 

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the picture, they clearly see 
the outcomes, and now they're 

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listening because they can 
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them from point A to point B. 
They haven't zoned out five 

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seconds into the conversation. 
So think about how you are 

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currently introducing yourself, 
currently marketing yourself, 

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currently talking about 
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And is it about you or about 
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If you have a website already, 
where is your bio on the 

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website? 
Because if it's the first thing 

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that people see on the website, 
they're going to say X Nope, on 

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to somebody else. 
Our attention spans are so short

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nowadays. 
How is it going to help them? 

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That should be the first thing 
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You're listening to this 
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steps. 
You're going to rewrite your 

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intro sentence, your elevator 
pitch, and start with I work 

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with people who what? 
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change that your ideal client 
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your credentials. 
OK, number two, people are not 

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going to trust you because of 
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They're going to trust you 
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life that they're currently 
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Think about the last time that 
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really quickly. 
Anybody, a doctor, a coach, 

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someone you found online, 
somebody that you Googled and 

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try to remember what actually 
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Really think about this. 
Why did you trust that person? 

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9 times out of ten, it wasn't 
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It was a moment they said 
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thought, how the hell did they 
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How the hell did they know that?
Like they've been living in your

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head, like they already know 
what you were going to say 

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before you said it, before you 
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You just keep reading and 
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You're like, Oh my gosh, this is
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How did they know that? 
That is what recognition does, 

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and it's faster and so much 
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When someone reads your words 
and they feel seen and heard and

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understood, they do not need to 
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something in them, in their 
heart and their soul already 

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said yes, already made that 
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The credentials then become that
confirmation, but it's not the 

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reason. 
And a lot of people get this 

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switch. 
They get it backwards. 

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They think that the proof first 
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then from that connection. 
But it almost never happens that

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way. 
Almost always connection first. 

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They feel seen and heard, and 
then the credentials might seal 

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the deal. 
And that's why two people with 

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the exact same training can have
completely different results as 

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business owners, because one of 
them learned how to describe 

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their Friends Life so clearly 
that the right people feel seen 

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and understood before they ever 
had even had a conversation with

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that person. 
And the other one sounds like 

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everybody else in that field, 
same exact skills, same 

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education, same experience, but 
they're going to have completely

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different impact because one of 
them figured out that the goal 

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isn't to sound too credible. 
It's to make someone feel seen 

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and known. 
And actually, you might know 

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people right now that are really
successful that are getting all 

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these clients that need to even 
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certification that you do it and
you're like, Oh my gosh, this is

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so annoying. 
Like I'm an expert in XY or Z. 

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Why is so and so able to get all
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What am I doing that they're 
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What are they doing then? 
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If you look at, they could step 
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they probably have their 
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down pat. 
They're probably not talking 

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about themselves. 
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all the things that their 
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we talked about last week, the 
more specific that you could. 

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I know this is hard. 
I know this does not make any 

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sense in our brains, but the 
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people that you're going to talk
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When you're vague and when you 
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to solve everyone's problems, 
you're going to reach nobody. 

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And we don't want that for you, 
OK? 

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I don't want you to have 
crickets. 

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I want you to get super clear on
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talking to so they feel seen and
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That copy feels like it's 
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because it is. 
You know them so well. 

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to tell everyone else who has 

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that same experience to come 
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So when it's not working or when
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sound like I help high achieving
people unlock their potential 

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and create lasting change. 
Boring. 

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OK, That could be literally 
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There's nothing for them to 
grasp to. 

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There's nothing for them to hold
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A person reading it can't really
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they have all the degrees, they 
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done XY or Z, and you want to 
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And they still feel like they're
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successful on paper but can't 
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external validation, who can't 
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night, who blah, blah, blah, 
blah, blah, right? 

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As specific as you can get it 
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Someone is either going to be 
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That's not what I shove the 
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they're going to move on, or 
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God, yes, that person gets it. 
And that's the right outcome, 

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whether they come to you or they
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Remember, we're only trying to 
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We want to try to be the magnet,
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So when someone says no to you, 
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And you have more space and 
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We don't want to try to talk to 
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So think about your best 
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If you haven't a client yet, 
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Just try to visualize what your 
best client would be, your ideal

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client, people that you loved 
working with, the ones who got 

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the real results, What was 
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they found you. 
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you haven't figured this out 
yet, it's OK if they're still 

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beginning. 
But it's a good thing to do to 

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get this information is you can 
do surveys, you could do a free 

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Google survey, you can do an 
e-mail. 

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The easier the better, the less 
response effort. 

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But what was it like before you 
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What were you thinking? 
What were you doing? 

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What is it like now? 
We could do this in an intake. 

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I'm curious, what are you 
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What are you currently doing? 
What are your biggest struggles?

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So you have that market research
for future clients. 

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It's a good way that you can get
that information and then start 

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to collect that data and think 
about specific things that your 

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ideal clients or your favorite 
people were thinking and feeling

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and doing before they worked 
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And then go look at your 
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your social media feed. 
Does any of that information 

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show up on there? 
Any of those things that your 

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idyllic client was thinking and 
feeling and doing before they 

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worked with you? 
Is that anywhere on your website

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or your bio? 
If it's not, it's time to 

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rewrite that. 
Is all your information 

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primarily about you or is it 
about all the way Wait is that 

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you help other people? 
And the last thing I want to 

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talk about is what happens when 
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is your calming yourself down in
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really helping other people. 
And this is what I realized I 

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was doing. 
So I said, I'll talk about this 

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later on. 
I wanted to leave the best for 

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last because honestly, when I 
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like, Oh my gosh, like, this is 
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When I was listing everything I 
was trained in, all my 

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credentials, all my experiences 
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someone else's needs. 
It felt very professional. 

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I felt very proud of myself. 
It felt like the right thing to 

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do. 
It was actually like a self 

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soothing thing for me. 
It was keeping me safe. 

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It was a way of managing my own 
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somebody else, about not being 
taken seriously, about someone 

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questioning whether I was good 
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preemptively defending myself 

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before anyone had a chance to 
ask me another question. 

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So I have a feeling that might 
resonate with you. 

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Your have a tendency to talk 
about all these credentials as a

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self-defense mechanism, almost 
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ourselves. 
That's why we also have this 

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tendency to want to get more and
more and more credentials when 

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it's OK. 
When is it that we actually have

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the experience in the training 
we need and we're just using 

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this as potential armor if 
someone were to question us? 

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Or do we actually need the 
skills? 

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It's a new skill that we need to
acquire. 

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The person that you're talking 
to, the potential client can 

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feel that when you start to list
off all your credentials and go 

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through this whole elevator 
pitch of things that are not 

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relevant to the actual client. 
And when you're talking about 

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your credentials, it feels like 
if you're the client, it feels 

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like you're saying like, please 
don't ask me any questions. 

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I'm giving you all the 
information that you need before

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you have a chance to question 
me. 

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And that energy is, it's like a 
weird energy. 

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It's a weird vibration, right? 
People are going to be a little 

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bit put off by that. 
And to have real authority, I 

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don't even know if authority is 
the right word. 

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But when you have confidence in 
yourself, you don't need to 

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announce all these credentials 
as a way to build up your 

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confidence. 
You just exude that confidence 

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as you're talking about your 
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And it just is going to show up 
in how you talk and what you 

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notice in the questions that you
ask, in the pauses, whether the 

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person in front of you feels 
like you already understand them

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or not before you even finish 
your sentences. 

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And that's what actually feel, 
builds trust with people when 

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they feel seen and heard, not 
when they have someone, just the

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word involvement, a list of 
certifications, that feeling 

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like you've been here before, 
you know exactly what to ask. 

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You understand me. 
And so the next time that you 

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feel this urge to leave with all
your training and your 

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credential and your methods and 
your framework, I just want you 

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to pause and ask for yourself. 
Like, is this for them? 

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Or am I saying this because I'm 
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Because if it's the second one, 
just practice noticing it and 

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pausing and asking what else do 
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Or what else do I need to say 
that the client needs to hear? 

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How can I make this client feel 
seen and understood? 

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If you have a tendency to lead 
with your credentials, you 

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probably spend the 1st 5 minutes
of a call walking them through 

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your training and your 
methodology before you even ask 

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a single question about what's 
going on for them. 

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And that gives off this 
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is come going to come first, 
your methodologies are going to 

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come first before their problem.
And we don't want that. 

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That's not going to help people 
feel seen. 

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What you want to do is. 
Ask them something like, what 

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have you already tried? 
What does the current day-to-day

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look like for you? 
Why do you think this hasn't 

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stuck? 
What are things that worked in 

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the past? 
What are some of your strengths?

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And those questions are going to
do so much more than listening 

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off your credentials ever could.
It's going to tell them that 

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you've been in this conversation
before. 

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It's not your first rodeo, that 
you're not going to give them 

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some generic plan. 
So I mean this, all the love in 

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the world, when was the last 
time when you shared about your 

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training or expertise? 
When was the last time you 

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shared that information for the 
client or to make you feel 

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better because you were nervous 
or unsure of yourself and you 

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felt like that was kind of a 
buffer to start the 

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conversation. 
So a little recap here. 

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We went through three changes 
that you can make if you are 

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wanting to start a business. 
Your side hustle full time is 

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start to lead with what changes 
are in it for the client. 

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Not the credentials that you 
have, not the certifications 

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that you have. 
You're going to describe your 

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life. 
So their life, I shouldn't say 

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so specifically. 
So they feel seen and understood

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and heard and you're going to 
check yourself before you start 

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to rattle off your resume and 
ask whose comfort is this 

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actually for? 
All right guys, let me know if 

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you did this. 
Let me know which steps you 

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implement and when, and I will 
catch you next week. 

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Chat soon, Bye. 
One more thing before you go, if

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you are a BCVA or a board center
by health coach who's really 

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good at what they do and really 
tired of doing it. 

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Someone who's built your whole 
identity around your credentials

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and your clients. 
But somewhere along the way, 

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stop showing up for yourself. 
If you're feeling burnout, like 

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your boundaries are pretty much 
nonexistent and you secretly 

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want more money, more freedom, 
more impact, more purpose, and 

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more fun, but somehow feel 
selfish for wanting it, then 

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permission for more is your 
community. 

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It's a space where we work on 
mindset and actually give you 

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practical tools to stop 
shrinking yourself, whether that

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means building your business or 
your side hustle. 

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Find the setting boundaries at 
work, asking for that raise, or 

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just posting that selfie on 
social media, we'd love to have 

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you. 
You can check out the link in 

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the show notes for all the 
information. 

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