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Welcome to Let's Chat with MBB. 
I'm Sarah Burby, A BCBA National

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Board Certified Health and 
Wellness Coach, certified in TV 

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and counselor, 7 figure business
owner, speaker, mentor and 

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community trailblazer. 
I created this podcast as a 

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space for you to feel connected,
confident, and ready to tap into

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your passion. 
Because here is what I know to 

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be true. 
You can have it all if you allow

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yourself to be open to receiving
it. 

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On this show, we're diving deep 
into the intersection of mind, 

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body, and behavior. 
We'll explore what it takes to 

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build a life and business you 
love, breakthrough the barriers 

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holding you back, and step into 
the version of yourself you're 

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meant to be. 
My hope is that you leave each 

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episode feeling supported, 
motivated, and ready to tap into

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your highest self. 
I want you to crush every single

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self limiting belief that's been
keeping you small and step 

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boldly into everything you're 
capable of becoming. 

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So let's chat. 
Hey, hey, welcome back to let's 

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chat and quantum leaps Part 2. 
If you listen to Part 1, you 

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know that I'm currently in the 
midst of a quantum leap, and I 

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think it'll be today's episode 
where you share about that. 

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It depends on how many tangents 
I go, but I'm so happy they're 

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even recording this today 
because in approximately 

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3:00-ish hours, I am about to do
another branding shoot. 

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And I can't wait to show you 
that behind the scenes. 

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I can't wait to show you how it 
turns out. 

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And this is literally an example
of the bead you have Free Mark 

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doing this photo shoot as a 
person that I'm going to become 

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in Q3 of 2026. 
Like it's not an option. 

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This is who I'm becoming and I 
just want you to think about who

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you are becoming in your Q3 or 
your Q4 and not feeling like 

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waiting until you're ready. 
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we've talked about before is 
make that decision of who you're

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becoming. 
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this episode as well as the rest
of the quantum leap things. 

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So, and want to reiterate that a
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that happens to you. 
It's a decision. 

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It is something you decide. 
There is a moment, you may not 

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even be fully conscious of this 
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where you're saying something 
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I want to grow. 
I want to become a version of 

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myself that I haven't been yet. 
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starting point. 
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discomfort, the what feels like 
irrational actions, all that 

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comes after you make that 
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And nobody else on this earth 
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And here's what I love about 
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It means that you are not 
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You're not waiting for the right
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circumstances or the right 
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You're just making that 
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requires. 
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thinking, OK, cool, but how do I
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I want to ask you, have you made
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Because if you have even just 
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internally. 
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even if it's just in your 
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driving in the car, if you've 
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beginning of your leap. 
Now, you don't leap to an 

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identity, you leap from one. 
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something that I said in Part 1 
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sharply, even more clearly now, 
that internal shift first, 

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evidence 2nd. 
And that is true. 

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But here's an even cleaner 
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You don't leap to a new 
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You leap from one. 
Meaning you don't do all the 

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hard work and then earn the 
right to call yourself the next 

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version of yourself. 
You decide here first. 

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Now you act from that place, and
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oftentimes suddenly just 
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And most people have that 
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They think, oh, when I do this, 
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when my business hits six 
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entrepreneur when I had the 
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identity works. 
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around the identity that you 
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one that you're hoping to earn. 
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around what you practice, so if 
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circumstances to become the next
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going to come. 
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visualization and making that 
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just like brushing your teeth is
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with all five of your senses 
what that next version of 

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yourself is. 
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start living from it, and then 
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identity always. 
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looking like if I want to get 
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now because I think the more 
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the more useful it's going to be
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So here is what's actually 
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I am in a significant investment
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And when I say investment, I 
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word, in money, in energy, in 
time and in identity that is 

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requiring me to become a 
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right now in real time when it 
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And last week I mentioned I 
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myself and my team to get really
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And I want to come back to that 
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good example of what leaping 
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like in practice. 
So I didn't invest that money 

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because I had proof it was going
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I didn't have a spreadsheet, an 
Excel sheet that told me that my

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ROI was guaranteed. 
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version of me who is building 
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this. 
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She invests in her team. 
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has all the answers. 
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Was I terrified, yes. 
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no. 
And I'll come back to that 

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distinction in a minute 'cause 
that's really, really important.

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I've also been doing a full 
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So new visuals, new photo shoot,
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positioning. 
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a rebrand, you know that it's 
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It forces you to ask yourself 
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about who you are becoming, what
has to fall away, what are you 

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going to stop doing, what are 
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version of you no longer fits 
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And some of what has to go is 
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of, stuff that worked and 
letting go even when you know it

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10 potentially work, even though
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that is wrong. 
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can get crystal clear on who I'm
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actually help more people. 
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I'm going through that don't 
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I know are right in my body and 
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been doing this now for so long 
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So within the last month I hired
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I sponsored. 
I was a major sponsor, A keto 

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sponsor at NJ ABBA. 
I just sponsored women in 

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behavior analysis. 
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So like huge sponsorships. 
I am booking a another retreat 

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for fall 2026. 
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and it was like so amazing. 
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hard work and things went into 
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wanted to be and like really 
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environment that I wanted to be.
And that one is finished and I'm

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I have the location, I have the 
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person conference and 
potentially an in person event 

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that's not CE US but similar to 
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So anyway, I'm planning that for
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Doing a virtual action health 
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August of this year. 
So, so many decisions were made 

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in the last 30 days. 
And I think part of that is just

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my, my, my next level is already
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You have two choices. 
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whether it's right debate, 
whether it's too much debate 

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whether you're going to make it 
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your head down and freaking do 
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And that's really what I'm 
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And so a lot of these things 
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these things, I don't have proof
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profitable, but I just know in 
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And again, I know so much about 
building a business now, not 

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saying they don't ever make 
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That is not what I'm saying at 
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I've done a lot of things that 
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And part of that is just like, 
the more you do this, the more 

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the bigger risks you can take 
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The bigger the word, the bigger 
the risk, the bigger the what is

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the opposite, the bigger the 
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I guess you can say. 
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house less than two weeks ago. 
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So we're just getting that right
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It just feels like so good. 
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I love the location. 
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house we did was because of the 
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the location. 
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I told my husband I am not 
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neighborhood in New Jersey 
unless we move to like Costa 

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Rica or something. 
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I am continuing to do and invest
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you have to think about is like,
what are you pushing yourself 

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just to push yourself just to 
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A quantum leap is not being busy

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and not productive. 
A quantum leap is just being so 

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aligned with what you know you 
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is fueling your soul even when 
it doesn't make sense to anybody

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else around you. 
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I feel like I am running at 10X 
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I feel like, and I'm so aligned 
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professionally and I feel like 
I'm able to articulate that much

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so much better now so that as we
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grows and scales, I know 
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looking for. 
I just posted this the other 

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day. 
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Mothers and Behavior Analysis 
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the most kind, meaningful 
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I presented on mom guilt, on an 
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And they were just so kind. 
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you guys send me a message on 
Instagram or Facebook or an 

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e-mail, it truly makes my entire
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I'm not just saying that. 
It just continues to fuel me in 

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what I do. 
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impactful. 
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old story that I would tell 
myself, this story that I'm not 

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a good public speaker, that I'm 
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nobody wants to hear from me, 
that blah, blah, blah, blah, 

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blah. 
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message and gosh, what AI want 
to say disgrace. 

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That's not the right word. 
But like, how selfish would that

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been of me to not really tap 
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meaning and purpose. 
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story that I wasn't good enough,
that I wasn't a good speaker, 

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that I was didn't know anything,
that other people were better 

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than me. 
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would not be having the impact 
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truly believe I was put on this 
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And like, how selfish of me not 
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But to tap into that gift, I 
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uncomfortable and do things that
feel scary and step in to that 

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new identity. 
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I just told myself I'm going to 
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I'm going to be a clear 
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I'm going to be somebody that is
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people. 
I'm going to have a presentation

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style that is different than 
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I was going to do. 
These are the traits that I want

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to embody. 
This is the kind of person I 

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want to be. 
This is energy that I want to 

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bring into a room, and this is 
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I got crystal clear on that 
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followed. 
OK, that's what I'm trying to 

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tell you. 
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so, so clear is you have to get 
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version of yourself becomes in. 
In 2025, I hit $1,000,000 in 

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that in a year, $1,000,000 in my
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And like, how freaking cool is 
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Now I have two choices. 
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$1,000,000. 
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that's pretty damn good. 
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But I know I was made to do more
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It was made to have more of an 
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So now I'm constantly thinking 
in this next version of myself, 

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what is it going to take for me 
to step into that next version 

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of myself? 
To continue to lead others, to 

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continue to empower others, To 
continue to make others feel 

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confident in their best version 
of themselves without losing my 

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ability to build such a strong 
community, such a strong 

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foundation. 
What is it gonna take for me as 

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a leader to continue to do that?
What am I going to have to? 

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What skills am I going to have 
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Where am I going to have to dive
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The more I've seen, the more 
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what I do. 
So what skills am I going to 

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have to acquire on the back end 
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I'm still learning. 
I'm still figuring it out. 

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But that's the thing about the 
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We don't have it all figured out
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That is not true, I cannot 
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So what is it like when I'm 
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What are some signs physically 
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middle of the night. 
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It is a running joke in my 
husband because I'll wake up at 

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3:17 almost on the dot when I 
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leap phase when my brain is just
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don't feel anxious. 
It's not like I'm wide awake and

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I feel anxiety or I feel 
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It's like my body is literally 
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when I'm sleeping, something 
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figure out and instead of 
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my gosh, I need to go on my 
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what conversations I need to 
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need to make, what kind of 
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and not try to just be like, Oh 
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I'm going to be so tired. 
I need to go to sleep. 

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I just literally lay there and I
think about what is my brain 

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trying to tell me? 
How can I get really quiet and 

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listen to that? 
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actually do when you're in a 
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And it's not like you're a five 
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care routine. 
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orientations, more like ways of 
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this messy middle. 
So the first thing that I want 

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you to think about is making the
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OK, it sounds simple, but I 
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important thing. 
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because when you're half and 
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There's research on something 
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I'm sure you've heard before. 
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day you spend turning the same 
undecided question over and over

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and over in your mind, you're 
burning that mental energy and 

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it's a meaningful chunk of your 
capacity that's going, should I 

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do this? 
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Maybe I'll wait. 
Let me see how it goes. 

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And the moment you decide fully,
no more revisiting just this is 

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decision, I'm going to stick to 
it, that energy gets freed up 

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entirely. 
And then your focus starts to 

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sharpen. 
Your actions click into place 

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and things that you felt stuck 
on for days or weeks start 

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moving really, really quickly. 
So a lot of times people will 

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say, I don't know how to make 
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The answer is stop being stuck 
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Stop being stuck in the messy 
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Make the decision because you 
cannot build momentum in two 

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directions at once when you're 1
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decision made fully can collapse
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I've seen this in my own life. 
I've seen this with clients that

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I've coached some major 
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I'm not saying make an 
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saying think about it and then 
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Do not Stew on it. 
Do not spend days and days and 

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days and weeks and weeks on one 
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Second is I want you to think 
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environment. 
Don't let it happen by default. 

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So your environment we know is 
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So the people that you spend the
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conversations that you're in, 
the rooms you put yourself in, 

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all of this is recalibrating 
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what is possible, and what 
Someone Like You. 

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There's also research on this 
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pick up accents or catch each 
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around us. 
We are absorbing them. 

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We absorb their beliefs and what
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So if the people in your 
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you want is too big, it's too 
risky, it's too much that is 

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getting in your way on whether 
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And it is the antidote of not to
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It is intentionally getting 
yourself in rooms where your 

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leap is totally normal, where 
the thing you're building is 

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just a Tuesday for somebody 
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Because once your brain sees it 
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that what felt impossible starts
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This is why I constantly are 
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mentoring and in trainings and 
traveling to different places. 

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it's the environment. 
It's what it's doing to my 

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nervous system. 
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what's possible when I'm around 
people that make multi 

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$1,000,000 like it is nothing. 
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recalibrates my reign for what 
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So ask yourself, is your 
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design or by default right now? 
Who are the people that you are 

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around most? 
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your sense of what is possible 
next, I want you to notice your 

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body, not just your thoughts. 
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about how I tune into my body, 
my sensations. 

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I'm trying to get more clear. 
I'm trying to articulate that 

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better. 
And I want to go a little bit 

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deeper here because I think most
of us are so trained to live 

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from the neck up that we miss 
the most important data. 

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And so all the signs I've talked
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restlessness, the unbearable 
Ness, the almost there feeling, 

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those are body signals before 
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And your body knows before your 
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I truly believe that. 
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that there is a specific 
meditation or journaling 

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practice. 
But it will say, start paying 

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attention to what you feel in 
your body when you think about 

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the things that you're scared to
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Fear and excitement live in 
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my body, almost the exact 
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The only difference is the story
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So when you start telling 
yourself, or can you start 

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telling yourself, this is 
excitement, this is my system 

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gearing up instead of this is 
danger. 

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I should stop doing that, start 
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it a little bit differently, 
that feeling, that sensation, 

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and see if it changes anything 
about what you do next. 

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Hit next document, Vanessa. 
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I've been jotting things down, 
not in the formal journal or 

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anything like that, just bullets
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thoughts when something feels 
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And I want to encourage you to 
do the same because you are in 

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the middle of a before and after
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And the middle is the hardest 
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Once you're on the other side, 
the doubts, the decisions that 

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felt irrational, the moments you
almost turn back, that is going 

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to be the most powerful part of 
your story when you were through

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it. 
And when I went through my 2020 

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leap, I didn't know what the 
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I didn't document it well at 
all. 

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I just remember the outcome, but
I kind of lost track of what it 

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felt like from the inside, what 
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And that would be much more 
useful number one, for myself 

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now and also to share with you. 
So this time I am capturing it 

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and I just want you to get it 
out of your head in somewhere 

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that you can look back on. 
Number 5 is stack your micro 

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leaps daily. 
Or another way to put this is 

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start casting your votes for 
your new identity. 

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And this is really practical 
because the quantum leap is not 

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always going to be a big 
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Most of the time it results in 
those tiny, tiny, tiny, tiny, 

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almost invisible decisions that 
stack up suddenly and then boom,

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you are in a completely new 
reality. 

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Every single time you take an 
action that belongs to your 

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future, the future version of 
yourself instead of that 

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habitual version, you're casting
a vote. 

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You're telling your body this is
who I am now. 

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And eventually neurologically, 
physically, in your actual 

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brain, the balance tips and you 
simply are that person. 

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Without feeling like an effort 
anymore, it just becomes who you

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are. 
So it doesn't have to be a 

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$10,000 investment. 
It can be an e-mail that you've 

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been putting off for two weeks. 
That can be a boundary that 

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you've been avoiding. 
It could be that classy one to 

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sign up before you feel ready. 
One thing every day in the 

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direction of who you're becoming
is the way that you put it in 

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the work to build that bridge. 
So here's what I want to leave 

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you with this week. 
If you were like, this sounds so

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cool, Sarah. 
I wanna have a quantum leap. 

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How do I do this? 
The first thing I want you to 

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ask yourself is have you made 
the decision that you are going 

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to have one? 
Have you made the decision that 

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you are going to step into this 
next version of yourself? 

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Really made it not I'm thinking 
about it not I'm kind of in, but

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we'll see. 
Have you decided because if the 

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answer is yes that you're on the
right track, you are closer than

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most. 
And if the answer is not yet, 

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that's the work that I invite 
you to do is to really think 

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about why you have not made that
decision yet. 

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What is holding you back from 
saying yes? 

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And then think about what is 1 
action this week that the next 

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version of you would take that 
your current self has been 

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avoiding and write that down 
voice note it do something to 

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make it a permanent product of 
something your current self has 

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been avoiding but the next 
version of yourself would do. 

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That's all I have for you this 
week. 

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I will catch you next week. 
Chat soon. 

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One more thing before you go. 
If you are a BCBA or a board 

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centered by health coach who's 
really good at what they do and 

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really tired of doing it. 
Someone who's built your whole 

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identity around your credentials
and your clients. 

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But somewhere along the way, 
stop showing up for yourself. 

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If you're feeling burnout, like 
your boundaries are pretty much 

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nonexistent and you secretly 
want more money, more freedom, 

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more impact, more purpose, and 
more fun, but somehow feel 

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selfish for wanting it, then 
permission for more is your 

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community. 
It's a space where we work on 

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mindset and actually give you 
practical tools to stop 

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shrinking yourself. 
Whether that means building your

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business or your side hustle, 
finding setting boundaries at 

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work, asking for that raise, or 
just posting that selfie on 

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social media, we'd love to have 
you. 

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You can check out the link in 
the show notes for all the 

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information. 
On another note, if you missed 

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the spring cohort, the wait list
is now open for the fall cohorts

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of our 32 CEU National Board 
approved Health and Wellness 

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coaching program. 
This is an MB HWC Board approved

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program and you could be dually 
certified as a BCBA and Board 

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certified Health coach in just 
six months with Mind Body 

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behavior. 
The cohort starts in September 

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and runs through February and we
are opening up the wait list 

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very soon, so make sure that you
join so you not only get 

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priority registration but also 
the best tuition.