1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,680 The other day, OK, I was like staying at this guy's place and 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:05,120 the guy like went to work in the morning and I was like still at 3 00:00:05,120 --> 00:00:08,600 this place and I went to the bathroom and the and the water 4 00:00:09,560 --> 00:00:12,120 like tank broke so I couldn't flush. 5 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:14,120 And I'm like, I can't, I can't leave. 6 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:15,200 Was it poop or? Pee. 7 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:18,920 It was pee OK, but still I can't have it like like I, I can't 8 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,400 have my pee stay in his place when I'm leaving. 9 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:25,040 So I have to like fix it on the slot. 10 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:28,720 So I learned how to fix a water tank that morning. 11 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:34,080 Now the other day were me and Victoria were out having drinks 12 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:38,400 and the public bathroom. The water water tank also broke 13 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:39,040 and I fixed. It. 14 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:40,640 And you fixed it. I fixed it. 15 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:44,720 Girl, get this girl a medal. That's crazy. 16 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:46,840 You're just going around fixing the pipes of New York City, 17 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,080 baby. Is that attractive? 18 00:00:48,160 --> 00:00:51,120 Yes, OK, no, you are. You are the man who cuts wood on 19 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:53,400 Instagram. To me now I'm like hello Women 20 00:00:53,400 --> 00:01:02,120 doing it for themselves. So Liz, what's keeping you up 21 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:05,200 tonight? I think that the straight 22 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:10,320 girlies need to give the moderate guys on Hinge a chance. 23 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,120 Hear me out. OK, moderate. 24 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:17,120 It's not fully there yet. Yeah, right. 25 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:19,960 They're they're on the cusp. They don't know what they want, 26 00:01:19,960 --> 00:01:21,640 clearly. Like these are the guys who can 27 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,240 barely dress themselves. These are the guys that are 28 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:29,160 perfect to date if you want a project, not like a a person. 29 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:30,200 You know what? I mean a project. 30 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:31,800 What do you mean? You know, when girls date for 31 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,800 potential girl, I'm seeing potential. 32 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,400 The man's a moderate, OK? He clearly he's just 33 00:01:38,400 --> 00:01:40,120 misinformed. Get in there. 34 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:44,480 Go date him, be delusional, change him and do it for the 35 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:45,920 good of the country. OK, we need you. 36 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:48,800 It's hard times out there. Wow, I, I love it. 37 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:52,520 It's like I've never heard of, I never heard of dating for a good 38 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,840 cause like that. You know, yeah, gorilla dating. 39 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:58,640 Yeah, we're getting out there 'cause like, you know, this 40 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:00,520 world, it's tough times out there. 41 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:02,400 It feels like we can't really do anything. 42 00:02:02,880 --> 00:02:05,840 But if we can change the hearts and minds of stupid dudes 1 by 43 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:07,920 1, I think we could really take over. 44 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:10,199 One step at a time, yes. One dude at a time. 45 00:02:10,199 --> 00:02:13,160 That's that's how we're gonna when the election next in the 46 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:16,560 next election, Yeah, yeah. Yeah, women aren't fighting in 47 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:18,640 the wars, but we have other wars that we can fight. 48 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:21,240 Exactly. Yeah, that's my take. 49 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:23,040 Now, I'm not saying it's going to be fun for us. 50 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:24,840 I'm not saying the girls are going to like them. 51 00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:28,160 Well, I mean, it's going to be hard to date any man. 52 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:29,520 Word. Right. 53 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:32,680 So you might as well contribute to the country, to the good. 54 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:35,360 'Cause yes, right, Exactly like you're going to. 55 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,720 It's going to be turmoil. Whoever you date. 56 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:40,760 You might as well like change some, change some belief 57 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:41,960 patterns. Do you know what I mean, 'cause 58 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:43,480 then they get out of their feedback loop. 59 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:46,880 Like we're all in our algorithm, in our own little feedback loop. 60 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:50,760 And these guys, like, give them a little Pixie dust, a little 61 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:54,480 pussy dust, you know? OK, I have a but I have a 62 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:56,440 concern if that's actually the case. 63 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:00,600 What if? What if the guy converts the 64 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,040 girl? No, that's not allowed. 65 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:05,640 No, I don't. I don't. 66 00:03:05,640 --> 00:03:07,640 I'm not responsible for that if that's what happens. 67 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:10,880 Good Lord. OK, OK, let me then. 68 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:13,280 Only cool girls are allowed to go on this mission. 69 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:15,360 You're only allowed to go on this mission if you're a liberal 70 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:17,320 baddie and you understand what's going on. 71 00:03:17,320 --> 00:03:19,440 Yeah, you have to be like strong enough in your belief. 72 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:21,320 You cannot be changed. Yeah, yeah. 73 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:23,480 Oh my God. We're going for the moderate, 74 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,800 not the fully conservative. Yeah, the fully conservative. 75 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:28,080 That takes a special kind of woman. 76 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:31,080 Now I am that woman. Put me in there. 77 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,760 Have you been? Have I dated a Republican? 78 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:35,600 Yes. You don't. 79 00:03:37,160 --> 00:03:38,880 Have. No, no, no. 80 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:41,640 Listen, OK. I grew up in Iowa, so it's 81 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:43,560 different there. OK, what's it like there? 82 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:47,760 Well, it's just the middle of the country, right? 83 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,960 So it's very traditional. I heard there's like a lot of 84 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,000 like fields, cornfields. There's a lot of cornfields. 85 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:55,520 Yeah, that's it. That's all. 86 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:57,800 I haven't been to Iowa. Well, the men are hot. 87 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:00,000 They are girl. Yeah. 88 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:01,400 You like them? What's your? 89 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,280 What's your type? I mean, I like a hot guy. 90 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:05,400 Yeah. And is he tall? 91 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:06,800 Yeah. Is he pretty strong? 92 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:07,480 Yeah. Yeah. 93 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:11,640 Does he love his mom? Yeah, I yes, but not so much 94 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:14,240 not, not like to the point where. 95 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:15,920 OK, OK. Not to the point where he's like 96 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:17,560 a baby. Well, I would say what you just 97 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:19,959 described is like the classic Midwestern man. 98 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,200 Oh. My God, that's a Midwestern man. 99 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:25,000 Maybe I should be like looking out for like, maybe I should set 100 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:28,600 my hinge pinned to like somewhere else instead of New 101 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:29,920 York. Cuz I feel like in New York it's 102 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,040 different. It's not a Midwestern man. 103 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,600 No, like these men do not. That's another thing that's 104 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:36,840 keeping me up at night. Yeah. 105 00:04:36,840 --> 00:04:40,120 What is it? Men don't stand for women on the 106 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:45,200 subway, right Stand. OK, that's also one of my 107 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:47,040 observations when I come to New York. 108 00:04:47,880 --> 00:04:52,520 And this very recently, like 2 days ago, I was in the subway 109 00:04:52,840 --> 00:04:56,040 and I was like wearing heels. My heels like are killing me. 110 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,920 And then a guy stood up for me and let me sit on the seat and 111 00:04:59,920 --> 00:05:03,320 they're like they're tourists, they're not from here. 112 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:06,520 I was like, of course, Taurus, you're Taurus. 113 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:08,960 Because a New Yorker would not give up his seat for a woman 114 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,360 who's suffering. In her heels. 115 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:14,360 And like, I see that both ways. Like, OK, yeah, whatever, he's a 116 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:18,320 New Yorker, but stand up like, be, be a be a man. 117 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,560 I know gross. I and I know people are going to 118 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:22,920 have feelings about that both ways. 119 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:26,280 I was dating this guy from Texas and he was like a true, like, 120 00:05:26,280 --> 00:05:29,400 cowboy gentleman. Weirdly voted for Bernie 121 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:31,840 Sanders. So don't get, you know, he 122 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:33,880 wasn't a Republican. OK, God bless him. 123 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:38,840 Anyway, like he was, I dated this guy from Texas and he went 124 00:05:38,840 --> 00:05:42,360 to visit me in New York and he wouldn't sit on the subway 125 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:45,360 because he's like a woman or an older person might need to sit. 126 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:50,960 And he was like God, you know? Men like that exist. 127 00:05:50,960 --> 00:05:52,920 They do, but only in Texas, apparently. 128 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:58,960 You got to really be careful. OK, OK. 129 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,880 About the subway giving seats, one, it's like a very much of A, 130 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:08,120 so I, I grew up in China and in China whenever we take buses or 131 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:10,600 subways, you always gave up your seat. 132 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:14,080 Like, it's always like, you will be looked down upon if you don't 133 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,160 give up your seats to someone who's like, I don't know, older 134 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:22,040 or pregnant or maybe carrying a lot of stuff or look a little 135 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,440 bit more, I don't know, disadvantaged. 136 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,320 Yeah. And but I feel like here it's 137 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:27,960 not as much. No. 138 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:32,040 I see like all these grandmas standing in the subway, nobody's 139 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:34,680 giving them with the seat. No, yeah, I don't. 140 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:36,560 I don't like that. Give grandma a seat. 141 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:38,800 I gave a lady a seat, my seat the other day. 142 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,960 Yeah, Her name was Joan. Joan, if you're out there, she's 143 00:06:41,960 --> 00:06:44,080 80 years old. She was so cool. 144 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:47,520 We had like a really awesome conversation because I gave her 145 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:50,200 my seat and then some lady gave up her seat so I could sit by 146 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:51,840 Joan because we were having a little chit chat. 147 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:55,880 Oh wow, the kindness will is contagious. 148 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:57,840 Kindness is contagious. That's good. 149 00:06:57,840 --> 00:06:59,560 T-shirt that's AT shirt. That's right. 150 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:00,840 That would be good. I've. 151 00:07:00,960 --> 00:07:02,240 Heard about the? T-shirt business. 152 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:06,640 How did you get your because I saw your I need to get my logo 153 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:09,360 up on like some shirt like this so I can sell my merch. 154 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,240 You know, because this is a sleepover and I was like, why 155 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,080 are you already having a merch before I did? 156 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,360 Oh my gosh, this is actually from being I was a bridesmaid. 157 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,040 I was a bridesmaid in Four Weddings this year. 158 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:24,000 Just this year. Just in this year 2025, I was a 159 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,760 bridesmaid 4 times, which is so beautiful and so expensive. 160 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:30,040 You. It's expensive for you. 161 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:32,480 Girl, have you ever been a bridesmaid? 162 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,080 No, I've never. The American bridesmaid system 163 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:37,960 has gone so far. Tell me about it. 164 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:42,040 Yo, okay, when you are asked to be a bridesmaid, first of all, 165 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:45,320 they don't just ask you anymore. You get like a box in the mail. 166 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:48,400 Oh yes, you get a box in the mail like they're proposing to 167 00:07:48,400 --> 00:07:50,920 you. Oh my God, I got fancy perfume. 168 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:53,240 I got a lip plumper. I mean, I use all this stuff all 169 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:56,520 the time, but it was a huge. But it's all a trap. 170 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:59,960 It's it's a lure, it's a lure. Yeah, yeah, they, they give you 171 00:07:59,960 --> 00:08:03,040 a box and they say, all right, you're going to spend 4 to $500 172 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:07,040 just to come to my wedding and love me and listen, I'll do it, 173 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:11,160 but why can't I just. Love you instead of spending 174 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:13,320 that much money, Yeah. What do you spend the money on? 175 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,960 Well, the dress, so they pick a bridesmaids dress it it depends 176 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:20,120 on the brides, but it's it's never less than $100 for a 177 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:20,680 bridesmaid. Dress. 178 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:23,000 They pick the dress. Well, yeah, because they want 179 00:08:23,000 --> 00:08:24,960 their bridesmaids to, like, look a certain way. 180 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:26,880 Right. And you have to buy the dress. 181 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:28,160 Yeah. What? 182 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:31,040 Well, yeah, because I'm the one wearing it, I guess. 183 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:32,360 And now and then you keep them all. 184 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:35,760 So now I just have a closet, the tiniest closet in New York City, 185 00:08:35,799 --> 00:08:38,760 and it's filled with bridesmaids dresses. 186 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,320 Yeah, and these dresses are big. They're like puffy or like they 187 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:44,400 have a lot of layers. There's a lot going on. 188 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:44,920 Yeah. Yeah. 189 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:46,840 One of them was like a little tighter, which was good. 190 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:47,600 OK. Yeah. 191 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:49,920 And some they are cute and like, I hope I will wear them again, 192 00:08:49,920 --> 00:08:52,440 but I'm not wearing a lot of gowns on the daily, you know? 193 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,000 But yeah, they're expensive. So you have to get the dress and 194 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,840 then you have to fly there if you don't live there, right? 195 00:08:59,240 --> 00:09:01,840 And then you buy a gift for them, typically. 196 00:09:01,840 --> 00:09:04,520 And then there's The Bachelorette party, which 197 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:06,800 typically involves travel. OK, what? 198 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:09,760 What about tell me more about Bachelorette party? 199 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:11,760 Have you ever been to? About I haven't what? 200 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:13,680 You've never been to a Bachelorette party? 201 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,520 Okay, well the it's like a sleepover, but like on steroids 202 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,520 and a little more sexy. Okay. 203 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:23,120 Not that a sleepover isn't sexy, yeah, but a Bachelorette party? 204 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:24,560 I'm trying to think of a good example. 205 00:09:24,560 --> 00:09:27,040 Is it just one night? No, it's usually a weekend. 206 00:09:27,560 --> 00:09:29,880 It's usually a weekend. You get there. 207 00:09:29,920 --> 00:09:31,720 This is this is important information. 208 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,680 You get there on say like a Thursday night and everyone's 209 00:09:34,680 --> 00:09:37,240 chill and settling in. There's outfit planned for every 210 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:38,800 day. It is extreme. 211 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:42,080 It's extremely regimented. Like you show up and you will be 212 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:44,120 wearing jeans and a black top. Wow. 213 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:45,880 And if you're not wearing jeans and a black top, you're gonna 214 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:47,640 borrow somebody else's jeans and a black top. 215 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:48,680 Oh my God. Or you can't. 216 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:50,800 Or you're not invited. No, you're murdered. 217 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:54,680 Yeah, it's like a. Cult I think I've saw, I think 218 00:09:54,680 --> 00:09:57,800 I've seen like a like a documentary. 219 00:09:59,040 --> 00:10:03,720 The Bachelorette Marty murders. First it's sexy, then it turns 220 00:10:03,720 --> 00:10:04,840 sour. Yeah. 221 00:10:05,200 --> 00:10:09,360 No, I yes, I would say you show up on a Thursday, you put on 222 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:12,200 your jeans and your black top, the girls assemble, then 223 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,760 everyone gets drunk. And then there's like a daytime 224 00:10:14,760 --> 00:10:18,080 activity that usually involves drinking and like, penis shaped 225 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:20,520 lollipops. And then everyone gets really 226 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:23,760 drunk. One person always cries, you 227 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:25,360 know? You've had that with girls. 228 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,680 I know how they are, those people. 229 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:31,880 It's always me. I'm kidding. 230 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:35,840 But and then you party and then everyone's like super hungover 231 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:37,600 the next day. But you said that you were gonna 232 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,120 drink again. So then everyone's like hungover 233 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:41,320 on a boat. Uh huh. 234 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:44,160 It's like a reality TV show. It's like you're on a mission. 235 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:45,080 Yeah. Yeah. 236 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:48,360 You're on a mission to have, like, the most fun and like, you 237 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,360 just stand in a circle around the bride who's wearing white a 238 00:10:51,360 --> 00:10:53,200 lot. And you're like, yeah, girl, 239 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:55,560 it's like that. That's kind of fun. 240 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:56,480 Yeah. Yeah. 241 00:10:56,520 --> 00:10:57,920 We have to get you to a Bachelorette. 242 00:10:57,920 --> 00:10:59,960 Wait, let me get married. Me. 243 00:10:59,960 --> 00:11:00,920 No, you get married. I. 244 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:05,360 Got a few Republicans I can. Call they they they're the ones 245 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:06,640 that are actually getting married I. 246 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:08,840 Know listen, I want to get married. 247 00:11:09,040 --> 00:11:10,320 Yeah, I would want to get married too. 248 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:11,320 I would. Love to get married. 249 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:13,760 I don't think anyone in New York wants to get married and I don't 250 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:15,600 know why. Yes what's up with that? 251 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:19,080 I know I was like I don't know what it is but my TikTok has 252 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:22,920 been giving me all these videos about situationship and some why 253 00:11:23,360 --> 00:11:25,960 like everything about situationships. 254 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:28,640 Are you in a situationship? I'm I'm. 255 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:34,360 T she's in a situation ship. It's not it's going OK, hold on. 256 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:37,160 I'm I'm reading just from the vibe it's going OK, but we're 257 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,000 not going to talk about it yet on the podcast. 258 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,280 No, I can't talk about it yet. Oh, he's famous. 259 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:43,560 No, no, no, no, no, no, no. He's famous. 260 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:46,480 Listen. Well, I'm glad I'm. 261 00:11:46,760 --> 00:11:47,640 Thank you. You're welcome. 262 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:48,920 I. Wish, I wish. 263 00:11:49,720 --> 00:11:50,920 Is he? Treating you nicely. 264 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:53,560 We're too shy. We can't talk about it. 265 00:11:53,560 --> 00:11:54,600 I'll talk about mine all day long. 266 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:55,880 No, I just went through a breakup. 267 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:59,000 Here's the thing about me. I don't know if this is true of 268 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:01,360 you. I will fall in love at the drop 269 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:04,880 of a hat. Me too, it's bad. 270 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:08,200 It's bad. I meet them and then I like, I 271 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:11,520 immediately see everything good about them and nothing bad, 272 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:13,520 right? And I'm like, we should get 273 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:14,600 married. Yeah. 274 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:17,560 And we should, yeah, have kids. And you know. 275 00:12:17,960 --> 00:12:20,320 Yeah, I think I'm the love bomber. 276 00:12:20,560 --> 00:12:24,840 Me too. Hot girls. 277 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:28,840 We're hot girls love bombers. Yeah, we're love bombers. 278 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:31,480 I just listen. I I would rather be that way. 279 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:33,880 And then everyone's always like, oh, but it like it crashes and 280 00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:39,840 burns and I'm like, yeah, because it's hot and fast and 281 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:40,600 loose. Yeah, I. 282 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:44,320 Mean that's why people do drugs. That is why people do drugs, 283 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:45,040 right? Yeah. 284 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:48,960 It's not about the after the drug, it's about when you're on 285 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,520 the drug. Yeah, yeah. 286 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:52,720 And we're we're interested in the love drugs. 287 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:53,920 Exactly. Yeah. 288 00:12:53,960 --> 00:12:56,680 You know that song? I used to be love drunk, but now 289 00:12:56,680 --> 00:12:58,680 I'm hungover. Do you know that song? 290 00:12:58,680 --> 00:13:01,800 It's like a weird emo song. I really like emo boys lately. 291 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:06,480 Emo boys I I I'm not sure if I like emo boys, but I do like 292 00:13:07,560 --> 00:13:11,280 boys that are not AA are not my type. 293 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:12,880 You don't like alpha man? No, why not? 294 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,280 I don't know, I feel like it's too much. 295 00:13:15,280 --> 00:13:17,920 It's there's too much of them like there, there's too much 296 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:21,000 personality. And I feel like I would be, I 297 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:23,480 want to be an alpha too. So I guess you can't have two 298 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,960 alphas in a relationship. You want them subdued? 299 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:30,160 You want a quiet guy? Isn't that why we isn't that? 300 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:33,400 Why isn't that what the Oh my God, what am I saying? 301 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:37,320 Isn't that why we love bomb? Because we're we're the alpha 302 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:40,360 and isn't it? I've never thought about it like 303 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:42,200 that. I don't know. 304 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:44,800 I think I love Bond because I just really want my life to be a 305 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:46,840 like a romantic comedy. OK. 306 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:50,200 But maybe I don't know if I'm the alpha, I don't know what I 307 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:55,080 am, but I was a Delta gamma at college, so maybe it's that. 308 00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:57,760 DG forever. No, I'm kidding. 309 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:00,040 Were you in a sorority? No, I wasn't. 310 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:02,080 That was a thing. But sorry, back to alpha men. 311 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:03,360 You don't want to date alpha men. 312 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:07,240 You want to date someone who you want to be like the star. 313 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:09,600 Have you heard the theory about how there's the flower in the 314 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:10,320 water? No. 315 00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:12,880 What is it? OK, so there's this theory that 316 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:15,920 in every relationship there's the flower and the water, and 317 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,400 that one person is kind of the flower and the other person 318 00:14:18,400 --> 00:14:20,120 waters them and watches them grow. 319 00:14:20,400 --> 00:14:23,200 However, that sounds kind of awful. 320 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:26,240 Like ideally both people would be the flower, but I I people 321 00:14:26,240 --> 00:14:29,000 say that it tends to be that one person ends up kind of being the 322 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:30,560 flower. Oh, are you the flower? 323 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:32,480 Well, I'm not dating anyone right now, but. 324 00:14:32,520 --> 00:14:36,040 Were you the flower? I have been the flower, I have 325 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:39,800 been the water. I've seen both ways this shakes 326 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:41,760 out. You know, I've been both. 327 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:46,520 I think my ideal would be that we're both both, but it's really 328 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:50,120 hard to be with a guy who thinks he's the flower hard. 329 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:52,240 Yeah. Then you're, yeah. 330 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:56,040 Then you have to be like a trat wife to like nurture, nurture 331 00:14:56,040 --> 00:14:58,800 him, you know? I don't want to be a trat wife 332 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:00,800 at all. I would love to make a loaf of 333 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:03,360 sourdough bread, don't get me wrong, but I wouldn't like for 334 00:15:03,360 --> 00:15:07,600 it to be my primary occupation. No, sometimes I feel like I 335 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:10,880 would be a good stay home wife but not with a kid. 336 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:15,440 You don't want kids? I don't know. 337 00:15:15,440 --> 00:15:17,120 You don't know. Yeah, probably not. 338 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:18,760 OK. Yeah, I don't know. 339 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:19,960 No, it's a. Scary time. 340 00:15:19,960 --> 00:15:23,080 I don't wanna. OK, I just saw this person's 341 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:26,040 dating profile. OK, can I talk about it? 342 00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:27,480 I it's anonymous. It's OK. 343 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:32,360 So in this this guy, he has. Yeah, he has like a website on 344 00:15:32,360 --> 00:15:35,280 his dating profile. So I out of curiosity, I click 345 00:15:35,280 --> 00:15:37,240 into the website. He's like, oh, you can learn 346 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:39,560 more about me on this website. So I click into it. 347 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:41,960 I thought it's gonna be like a company page or something, like 348 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:45,120 like he's famous or something. But then it's a website that he 349 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:49,600 created, that he put everything about him on it. 350 00:15:49,760 --> 00:15:53,240 It's like thousands of words. I can't scroll to the end. 351 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:56,600 It's like crazy. Anyway, I brought it up because 352 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:02,200 he was saying that like he's Steel Breakers with the first 353 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:05,960 deal, like he kept saying in that in whatever message he 354 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:09,560 wanted to say. He had a website, yes, of just 355 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:12,320 all about him. Yes, so much about him. 356 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:15,240 Specifically a website so that people could date him. 357 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:18,720 Yes, it was like a dating like app website. 358 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:21,640 Yeah, I gotta see this. Yeah, I'll show you after. 359 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:22,920 OK, yeah, that sounds like crazy. 360 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:28,080 He's like this is my net worth and it's like in the 2 digit 361 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:32,400 millions and he's like, I don't. Believe that at all? 362 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:35,480 I'm sorry, a dude with two digit millions net worth? 363 00:16:35,480 --> 00:16:38,440 I mean, maybe that clock said he's like making a website about 364 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:41,040 himself. This guy is going to end up 365 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:43,600 being on an episode of Dateline. Oh. 366 00:16:43,840 --> 00:16:45,560 Like in the in the good way or a bad. 367 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:47,640 Way bad. This guy's like he's going to 368 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:49,080 get you. Did you go out with? 369 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:50,720 It No, no, no, he's not in New York. 370 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:53,000 He's like in somewhere else and he's. 371 00:16:53,000 --> 00:16:56,600 Where South Africa I don't. Know he's in America like Texas. 372 00:16:57,080 --> 00:17:00,160 What? These Texas boys, they're coming 373 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:01,400 for us. Wait a minute. 374 00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:03,080 Why were you in? Why did you find him? 375 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:04,119 How did you find him? No, He's. 376 00:17:04,359 --> 00:17:07,280 I just saw this dating profile. Oh, OK, He's from Texas. 377 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:10,839 He lives in Texas, but he's like, oh, I'm willing to uproot 378 00:17:10,839 --> 00:17:16,119 my whole life to wherever to meet you, you and whoever the 379 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:17,839 right person. Could it be you? 380 00:17:17,839 --> 00:17:20,000 I don't. Know I don't I don't I feel like 381 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:25,560 I feel like that's such a direct or pragmatic way in dating like 382 00:17:25,839 --> 00:17:27,599 approaching dating. It's like everything is all 383 00:17:27,599 --> 00:17:33,360 stats and like I want 3 kids and you must want you must not have 384 00:17:33,360 --> 00:17:36,200 any kids before and you must want three kids too. 385 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:42,960 And it's OK if we do, Sergey, and it's OK if, but it just 386 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:45,280 feels like everything is about reproduction. 387 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:48,880 That is the least sexy thing I've ever heard. 388 00:17:49,360 --> 00:17:52,440 Like there's no, there's no like room for desire. 389 00:17:52,800 --> 00:17:54,840 Yeah, I feel like you have to fall in love first. 390 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:57,080 You have to fall in love first. No, this man is like trying to 391 00:17:57,080 --> 00:18:00,440 Make Love into a spreadsheet. Yeah, I'm like, if you find 392 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:03,240 someone that you really love, but the person only wants two 393 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:05,960 kids, are you gonna just say no? Yeah, yeah. 394 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:06,640 That's. Crazy. 395 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:08,240 This man needs to take an improv class. 396 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:11,720 This man needs to loosen up a little. 397 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:14,080 I I agree. I feel like OK, that's my hot 398 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:15,600 take. Everybody should take at least 399 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:18,400 one improv class. Oh, you're speaking my language. 400 00:18:18,800 --> 00:18:21,320 I genuinely think if everyone took an improv class there'd be 401 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:22,320 no worse. Yes. 402 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:24,600 The the world would be a better place. 403 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:26,040 The world would be a better place. 404 00:18:26,040 --> 00:18:27,960 I think people would kill people less. 405 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:31,440 Improv like changes everything. Improv rocks and people are 406 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:32,680 like, oh, it's cringy. Good. 407 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:34,160 Be a little bit. Cringy. 408 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:37,320 Yeah. You have to be taking some like 409 00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:40,120 really a lot of courage for the, you know. 410 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:45,200 Yeah, to be off the cuff, to be in the moment, cuz like improv 411 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:48,040 is all about like listening and responding and like being in the 412 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:49,320 moment and not being in your head. 413 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:53,440 And we have such an epidemic of being in our heads and I'm 414 00:18:53,480 --> 00:18:56,440 anxious. And it's just like, you gotta 415 00:18:56,440 --> 00:18:57,920 and it's real, but you gotta get out of it. 416 00:18:57,960 --> 00:19:00,040 You know, and it probably is about like teamwork. 417 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:02,560 So you have to like get out of your, get out of your head, get 418 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:03,800 out of your comfort zone. Yeah. 419 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:06,080 You gotta be a good listener. Yeah, yeah. 420 00:19:06,080 --> 00:19:08,160 Are you doing improv? I do improv all the time. 421 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:12,080 Yeah, I do improv. Like a lot, which some people 422 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:14,320 don't, don't love. I definitely don't tell like 423 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:18,120 lead on dates with like, and yeah, I do a lot of improv 424 00:19:18,120 --> 00:19:21,040 because like that will make a a man afraid, you know what I 425 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:22,000 mean? That'll scare. 426 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:24,800 That'll scare men off a little. Bit it was like in one of my 427 00:19:25,200 --> 00:19:27,360 previous podcasts. It's like being funny as a 428 00:19:27,360 --> 00:19:29,120 woman. It will scare men away or 429 00:19:29,160 --> 00:19:30,720 something. Like that for sure, for sure you 430 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:33,360 can be. As long as they perceive that 431 00:19:33,360 --> 00:19:35,840 they are still better than you, then they'll like you. 432 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:39,280 I can't tell you how many first dates I've gone on where men 433 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:43,120 will say, like, I'll tell them I'm an actor, and then they'll 434 00:19:43,120 --> 00:19:45,840 be like, yeah, I think I'd be, like, really good at acting 435 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:47,760 like, if I tried. Yeah. 436 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:50,640 And this other day I went on this guy, he was like, I bet I I 437 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:52,240 could do. Honestly, I think if I did stand 438 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:54,640 up I'd be really good. Yes, and they'd be trying to 439 00:19:54,640 --> 00:19:56,520 give you all these jokes. Yes. 440 00:19:56,520 --> 00:19:59,320 They're like pitching me jokes and what I say, what I always 441 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:00,800 say. When a man tells me he thinks 442 00:20:00,800 --> 00:20:02,920 he'd be really good at stand up, I always just hold his hand and 443 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:06,800 I go. A lot of men think that, and 444 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:11,280 then they're always like, yeah. And then it usually shuts him 445 00:20:11,280 --> 00:20:13,520 down. God, I love shutting men down 446 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:15,560 and I love building them up. You gotta do both. 447 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:17,240 You gotta do both. Is that how you're? 448 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:20,680 That's how you're gonna convert a moderate man. 449 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:24,800 I wanna convert a moderate man to to Vote Blue by just building 450 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:25,680 them up. I'm gonna get him. 451 00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:27,400 I'm gonna, I'm gonna break down his walls. 452 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:29,880 Here's how I'll do it. Okay, what we're gonna say. 453 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:32,280 You go first. So if I. 454 00:20:32,280 --> 00:20:33,800 Had a moderate man in the room with us. 455 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:36,080 Now he was here with us. OK, imagine. 456 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:37,440 You want to know what I would imagine? 457 00:20:37,440 --> 00:20:37,920 Here we go. Yeah. 458 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,880 Give us your best moderate man. Oh, OK. 459 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:42,080 Yeah. Good little wave. 460 00:20:42,080 --> 00:20:42,880 Wonderful. There he is. 461 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,000 OK, good. He's got a beard. 462 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:45,640 It's a little weird, but we'll go with it. 463 00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:47,480 Here he is. He clearly. 464 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:48,600 He just needs someone to hear him out. 465 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,080 I'm gonna listen to everything he says. 466 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:51,880 I'm gonna really get. I'm gonna hear his point of 467 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:53,720 view. I'm gonna make him feel so 468 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:57,240 heard, and then I'm gonna hit him with actual facts and 469 00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:00,320 knowledge, but in a way where he thinks he's coming up with it. 470 00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:01,480 And then he's going to be like, huh? 471 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:03,400 Yes. How do I do that? 472 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,240 Girl, maybe I'll start teaching classes. 473 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:08,040 Yes, you should you. Should. 474 00:21:08,240 --> 00:21:10,720 Because you got to make men think that it's their idea. 475 00:21:11,320 --> 00:21:14,040 And so one of the greatest strengths a woman has is 476 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:16,440 manipulation. And you can use it for good. 477 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:20,560 I'm not saying use it for evil, but, you know, manipulate them 478 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:24,200 into, you know, reading things or hearing you say things or 479 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,320 thinking about it in a way that they hadn't thought about it. 480 00:21:26,320 --> 00:21:29,120 But they have to be like, huh, that's actually pretty smart. 481 00:21:29,120 --> 00:21:31,400 You can't lecture them. You got to like, you got to 482 00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:36,120 invite them to the improv class. OK, wait, I have two two things 483 00:21:36,120 --> 00:21:39,800 I want to say First you I don't know if I can do that. 484 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:43,040 If I'm like love bombing them, like if I'm I'm, I'm like, you 485 00:21:43,120 --> 00:21:45,760 know, in the high. I don't think I think that these 486 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,920 are two separate things. I think love bombing is meant 487 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,200 for love and dating a moderate is meant for bettering the 488 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:50,720 country. OK. 489 00:21:51,000 --> 00:21:52,880 Yeah, OK. Yeah, is meant for service. 490 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,520 Yeah. No, but I understand love 491 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:56,680 bombing is I don't, I don't, I don't. 492 00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,760 I never think that I'm love bombing in the moment. 493 00:22:00,120 --> 00:22:04,000 Cause typically when I'm in that they're bombing me back, it's 494 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:07,320 equal bombing. OK, I guess I haven't. 495 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,440 Well, I I haven't been. I mean, I've been love bombing 496 00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:13,160 people and people have been love bombing me, but he hasn't been 497 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,560 the same people. So it's kind of hard to find 498 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:19,080 that balance. But I don't know if I if the 499 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:20,920 love bombing is mutual, then what? 500 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,120 Then it's just love. Then you should get married. 501 00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:24,720 Yeah, that's what I'm looking for. 502 00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:26,040 Yeah. Yeah, I've been. 503 00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,840 I've been Mutual love bombed. You want to know The hardest 504 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:32,480 thing about mutual love bombing is sustainability because it 505 00:22:32,480 --> 00:22:34,840 does seem like you should get married when you're both love 506 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:37,760 bombing each other. But then it's kind of hard to 507 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:40,800 keep that up. And like the mask has to come 508 00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:43,480 off at some point. And if it does come off, which 509 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:46,320 it should, then you see from there. 510 00:22:46,320 --> 00:22:49,080 But sometimes when the masks comes off, it's like. 511 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,440 OK, so you're saying if if I'm love bombing someone and they 512 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:55,600 don't love bomb me back, that's a sign of healthy relationship 513 00:22:55,600 --> 00:23:00,120 keeping looking forward and I should like love bomb them more 514 00:23:00,120 --> 00:23:04,040 into to have them think this? Yeah, change their. 515 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:06,760 Minds that's horrible advice maybe I shouldn't have yeah, 516 00:23:06,760 --> 00:23:09,320 maybe not I don't think I don't think the experts are going to 517 00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,640 agree on that no, I think that you should just follow your 518 00:23:12,640 --> 00:23:15,600 heart and be with people who are good I just think my general 519 00:23:15,600 --> 00:23:18,400 opinion with people especially dating in New York not so much 520 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,560 like Midwestern like from Iowa. I just think people need to like 521 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:25,840 give it a go in like a full way. I don't like that people do 522 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:29,000 things kind of 50% to try to like guard their heart. 523 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:31,440 Like the whole thing about falling in love is that like it 524 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:33,360 is going to. Hurt your feelings, I know. 525 00:23:33,360 --> 00:23:35,400 Like it just is. Yeah, and it I don't like how 526 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:38,960 people were like they're playing games like they're like, oh, I 527 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:42,680 shouldn't be sending the text. But then like, because they'll 528 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:44,640 think they're going to think that I'm too desperate. 529 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:47,000 But if you want, if you are desperate, you should. 530 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:48,880 They should know that you're desperate. 531 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,520 I will send seven texts in a row. 532 00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:51,600 I don't care. Yeah, me too. 533 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,880 Yeah. I think, like, you have to tell 534 00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:57,040 people that you like them because if you like them and 535 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,280 they like you, then they'll stick around. 536 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:02,000 But if they don't like you, then they'll be like this too much. 537 00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:03,680 Thank you. Wonderful. 538 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:06,480 I'm so glad to know that I'm too much now before I wasted any of 539 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,360 my time and energy on you. Yeah, You know what I mean? 540 00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,320 And usually. Yeah, I think that's better. 541 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:15,680 Like I have a friend and she met this guy and they've been 542 00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:19,120 dating. They have been exclusively 543 00:24:19,120 --> 00:24:21,560 dating, going on dates, hooking up, staying at each other's 544 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:25,680 houses for months like 6 months. They don't talk to anybody else, 545 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,880 but they're like, we're not dating, we're not boyfriend and 546 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,240 girlfriend. Why are they even doing? 547 00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,320 That I'm like, you are boyfriend and girlfriend. 548 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:34,560 They're like, well, we might. I don't think we're really fit. 549 00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,680 So we probably are going to break up in like a couple of 550 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:38,880 months. So like the whole time they're 551 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:42,040 just like keeping at keeping each other at arm's length. 552 00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:44,760 So then you never get the benefit of truly falling in love 553 00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,320 and you're still going to break up anyway. 554 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,240 So what are you doing? What are you doing? 555 00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,400 You might as well be together. And instead of like, not giving 556 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,320 it a try at all. Yeah, yeah. 557 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:57,040 Are they, are they together? Like after a couple months they 558 00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:58,440 say they're. Going to No, they're still doing 559 00:24:58,440 --> 00:24:59,520 this. They're still doing it. 560 00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:01,400 Still doing it. Yeah. 561 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,320 God bless them. I just feel like it's gonna hurt 562 00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:06,320 your feelings either way. And you always after breakup, 563 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,280 you always get hotter, listen or not, maybe hotter in the soul. 564 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,840 I think you like after like a relationship ends, like you find 565 00:25:13,840 --> 00:25:15,560 out more about yourself every time. 566 00:25:15,720 --> 00:25:18,480 Yeah, and I think sometimes hotter on the outside too. 567 00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:20,800 True. Yeah, yeah. 568 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,520 I'm trying to think if I've ever gotten uglier after a breakup. 569 00:25:24,360 --> 00:25:27,520 I think you can get uglier. I mean, maybe in the moment for 570 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,720 a couple of days, and then you get yeah, yeah. 571 00:25:29,720 --> 00:25:33,040 And then you get super hot. This stuffed animal has seen me 572 00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:36,800 in ugly like the ugliest. States you've ever seen what's? 573 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:38,560 What's the name? Oh, this is Pudge. 574 00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,720 Pudge. Yeah, if, if Pudge could talk, 575 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,080 he would be like maybe lock them doors and turn the last. 576 00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:45,440 He's like a country. He's a country singer. 577 00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:48,000 Look at him. He's got an old soul. 578 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,240 He was actually a Webkinz. Do you remember Webkinz? 579 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:53,720 No, wait, I might. It was like a you got it. 580 00:25:53,720 --> 00:25:57,600 Like the stuffed animal came he, you, you could play him on the 581 00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:59,160 video like on the computer as well. 582 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,240 So the stuffed animal came with a code and then you could play 583 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,440 the code on the website. That's so smart. 584 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,680 That's so cute. Yeah, it was a huge thing. 585 00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:09,320 I thought I don't know if Webkinz is still there. 586 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,040 It probably it's like Club Penguin. 587 00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:12,400 Did you have Club Penguin? No. 588 00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,000 Damn. What did you have in China? 589 00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,080 What was the game that you all played? 590 00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:20,440 I don't know what was the game. We didn't play games. 591 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,760 Oh. Nintendo yeah, but it's not 592 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,360 related to our stuffed animals. Now what's this stuffed animal's 593 00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:28,960 name? This is this is Ronnie. 594 00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:32,760 Ronnie, I love him. Yeah, Pudge. 595 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,200 I feel like we we would like make a make a good couple. 596 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:38,080 I think so. Pudge and Ronnie. 597 00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:39,360 Is Ronnie a girl or a boy? A. 598 00:26:39,480 --> 00:26:40,880 Boy. Pudge is a boy. 599 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,640 What's up with that girl? I feel like all of my stuffed 600 00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:48,160 animals are boys. Yes, and I feel like I I noticed 601 00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,200 that for other girls too. Yeah. 602 00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:54,400 No, no, no. My, your, your stuffed animals 603 00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:57,360 are girls. OK, See, all of my stuffed 604 00:26:57,360 --> 00:26:59,440 animals are guys. I don't know what that's about. 605 00:26:59,920 --> 00:27:01,480 I also. Do you have the thing where you 606 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,080 have to, like, I always try to make sure his eyes are showing. 607 00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:07,160 And then if I leave the house, he has to be facing up so he can 608 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:07,760 breathe. Oh. 609 00:27:08,120 --> 00:27:10,280 Yes, yes. Not like under the cover. 610 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:11,640 No, yeah 'cause then he'll die. He needs. 611 00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:15,320 To be able to breathe exactly. And some people might call that 612 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:17,160 autism, but I just call that being quirky. 613 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:18,960 OK, That's. That's being cute. 614 00:27:18,960 --> 00:27:21,080 That's being considerate. That's being human being, that's 615 00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:23,640 being a good person. Yeah, that that'll make you a 616 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:24,840 great mom. It sounds like you're going to 617 00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:26,240 be a great mom. You're not going to leave your 618 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,200 kid. Face down, ass up in the covers. 619 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,880 Exactly. Yeah, and what are stuffed 620 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:34,720 animals if not preparing for motherhood, right? 621 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:36,320 Right. Yeah, I do. 622 00:27:36,360 --> 00:27:38,680 I would love to be a mom. My sister's having a baby in a 623 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,480 couple of weeks. Congratulations. 624 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:42,040 So excited I'm going to be Aunt Liz. 625 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:43,880 Oh. That's exciting. 626 00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:46,840 I want to make her cool. I don't know how to make a kid 627 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,480 cool besides just being cool near it, you know? 628 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:53,120 But she's gonna be a girl, so she can come to the sleepovers. 629 00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:57,360 Oh yes, OK, maybe when she's over 18 she can come to this 630 00:27:57,360 --> 00:27:59,600 sleepover. But other sleepovers she's 631 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:00,280 welcomed. Yeah. 632 00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:02,360 Were you allowed to have sleepovers as a kid? 633 00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:06,120 Yeah. My brother-in-law doesn't want 634 00:28:06,120 --> 00:28:08,560 to let my niece have sleepovers, like ever. 635 00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,080 Why? Apparently a lot of parents are 636 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:12,960 anti sleepover. Why? 637 00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:16,040 Because they think that's when all the bad things what 638 00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,920 happened. What are the best things? 639 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:22,680 Like drinking or like bullying? Okay, on one of the sleepovers I 640 00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,640 did kiss my best friend, but. That's formative. 641 00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:28,760 That's important. Everyone should kiss their best 642 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,200 friend once. Yes, yeah. 643 00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:34,400 I think that's really good. I had a lot of sleepovers as a 644 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:38,320 kid and I think it teaches you how to be away from your parents 645 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:42,720 and I was always the first to fall asleep at a sleepover. 646 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,320 Oh, I don't. I don't remember details like 647 00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:46,520 that. You know how everyone would want 648 00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,360 to stay up and then you like you just trying to fall asleep and 649 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,600 then everyone giggles? You know what I'm talking about. 650 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:52,360 I always would fall asleep first. 651 00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:54,280 I was a sleepy girl. No, you didn't. 652 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,480 You're not. I'm not good at staying up late. 653 00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,640 But they might be talking about tea after you're asleep and 654 00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,640 you're missing out. Almost certainly, yeah. 655 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:04,800 But then I would wake up in the morning earlier than all of 656 00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,280 them, and I would go have real tea with their moms. 657 00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:09,840 And that they had a real tea. Yeah, they have the. 658 00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,480 Real tea and then you like hear about their like their divorce 659 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:14,400 or something and like that's really what I want to hear 660 00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:16,560 about. I care about that way more than 661 00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:18,800 than the kids. The freaking cheese puffs in the 662 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:19,880 basement. You know what I mean? 663 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,600 You're like you're. There for the moms, not the 664 00:29:21,600 --> 00:29:23,360 kids. I am almost always there for the 665 00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,720 moms. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 666 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,760 Always there for the moms dating a guy who like, feels more 667 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:31,600 traditionally masculine. Yes, 'cause I feel like a lot of 668 00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:34,640 girls that I talk to, a lot of my friends, they want a guy who 669 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:40,160 feels like rugged or like strong or like handy, like good around 670 00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:42,680 the house, like he could like fix the cabinets or something. 671 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:43,680 Do you know what I'm talking about? 672 00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,360 Is that alpha or? No, that's not really alpha. 673 00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:47,400 Oops, something. Just fell off. 674 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,320 I don't know. I think this little thing, it's 675 00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:53,000 not necessarily. I don't think girls necessarily 676 00:29:53,000 --> 00:29:58,040 want an alpha guy. It's more like he seems like he 677 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:02,120 could fix the leak in the pipes. Like I want a man who can, like, 678 00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,760 you know, fix the cupboards if they break. 679 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:07,000 Like a man who has a tool kit in his house. 680 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:08,960 Why is that attractive? Why can't you just do it 681 00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,440 yourself? I could, but I don't want to. 682 00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:12,920 I don't know why that's so attractive. 683 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:14,960 Is that not attractive to you? Is that just me? 684 00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,800 I don't find it attractive. What about like a lumberjack? 685 00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:20,840 You know that one guy who cuts wood on the Internet? 686 00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:22,520 Yeah, I know. But is that sexy to you? 687 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,120 It's. Not sexy to me. 688 00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:25,960 What? What is sexy to you? 689 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:27,720 I don't. Know I like a male who can't 690 00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:31,240 solve problems. Chopping what is a problem? 691 00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:32,960 There's a fire that needs to be made. 692 00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:34,920 You mean like solve what kind of problems? 693 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:39,400 I don't know. Like like excel spreadsheet 694 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,000 problems. I don't know you. 695 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:43,120 Want a man who can do spreadsheets? 696 00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:47,440 A male who can like, you know, that are very organized and 697 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:50,960 like, you know, can book a flight and a whole trip and like 698 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:53,960 send me an Excel sheet and a whole e-mail of everything 699 00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:55,920 booked up. You want an event planner? 700 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:56,840 Yes. OK. 701 00:30:56,840 --> 00:30:59,520 If there's any hot event planners out there who do not 702 00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:03,200 identify as alpha, drop a comment. 703 00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:06,360 Yeah, no, that's so. Funny, the other day, OK, I was 704 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,880 like staying at this guy's place and the guy like went to work in 705 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,760 the morning and I was like still at this place and I went to the 706 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:16,640 bathroom and the and the water like tank broke so I couldn't 707 00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,960 flush. And I'm like, I can't, I can't 708 00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:19,920 leave. Was it poop or? 709 00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:23,880 Pee it was pee OK, but still I can't have it like like I I 710 00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:27,040 can't have my pee stay in his place when I'm leaving so I have 711 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:32,240 to like fix it on the slot. So I learned how to fix a water 712 00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:37,240 tank that morning. Now the other day were me and 713 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:41,280 Victoria were out having drinks and the public bathroom. 714 00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:44,080 The water water tank also broke and I fixed. 715 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:44,880 It. And you fixed it. 716 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,720 I fixed it. Girl, get this girl a medal. 717 00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:50,880 That's crazy. You're just going around fixing 718 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:52,520 the pipes of New York City, baby. 719 00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,240 Is that attractive? Yes, OK. 720 00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,240 No, you are. You are the man who cuts wood on 721 00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,240 Instagram to me now I'm like, hello? 722 00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,160 Women doing it for themselves. Exactly. 723 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:02,520 Wow. That's really something that. 724 00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,840 See, yeah, I I love that you're a problem solver and that you 725 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:08,040 were like, I'm just going to fix this thing. 726 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,320 I want a man like that, too. I'm like that too. 727 00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:12,160 OK. But I just what's another 728 00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:14,280 example? I just feel like my dad, not 729 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:16,920 that you're supposed, you know, you want to date someone who's 730 00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:18,320 kind of like, my dad's a great man. 731 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,400 Yeah. I don't have daddy issues. 732 00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:23,600 He's a good guy. And he just like, has the 733 00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:25,680 mentality of I can figure that out. 734 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:28,680 I can fix that. Like, you know, that thing like, 735 00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,680 oh, I wanted, I want to date a guy who would come pick me up 736 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:34,040 from the airport at 6:00 AM because my dad would. 737 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:35,280 Yes. You know what I mean? 738 00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:38,200 OK, bring back picking up your friend from the airport. 739 00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:41,040 Bring back picking up your friends from the air airport. 740 00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,480 That is, you need to be a villager if you want to be in 741 00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:46,360 the village. Have you ever heard that? 742 00:32:46,360 --> 00:32:49,320 Like, you need to, if you want someone to pick you up from the 743 00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,120 airport, go pick someone up from the airport. 744 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:51,960 Yes. Yeah. 745 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:53,680 I love getting picked up from the airport. 746 00:32:53,680 --> 00:32:55,960 I love picking up a friend, bringing some flowers, Right. 747 00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:59,680 Whatever happened to flowers? I know, and it's not that hard 748 00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,240 to pick up a friend from the airport and it's gonna 749 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:04,880 inconvenience. Inconvenience. 750 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:07,400 What's the word? Inconvenience. 751 00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:09,960 Inconvenience. Yep, it's gonna inconvenience 752 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:12,120 you. Yeah, but it's not that much of 753 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,840 A inconvenience and. It helps them so much. 754 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:16,600 Yes. I think that's so true of a lot 755 00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:20,240 of things because everything is so convenient now with like 756 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:24,440 Ubers and this is, and that's like people don't go out of 757 00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:28,680 their way for people as much anymore because like there's a, 758 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,080 there's quick solutions for everything. 759 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:35,360 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like I guess because you said 760 00:33:35,360 --> 00:33:38,360 your your dad will pick up pick you up from the airport Totally. 761 00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,160 Yeah. So like if you it'll be much 762 00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:43,880 better if your dad pick up pick you up from the airport, then if 763 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:45,320 he sends you money to get an Uber. 764 00:33:46,000 --> 00:33:46,800 Totally. Yeah. 765 00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:48,600 Oh, yeah. My dad would never send me money 766 00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,160 to get an Uber and be like, that's a waste of money. 767 00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:51,200 I'll just come pick you up. Right. 768 00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:54,760 But I'm also, I'm from Iowa, and everyone drives everywhere. 769 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:56,720 OK. So like, my mom would drive me 3 770 00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:59,040 hours to Chicago to get to the airport there. 771 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:02,040 You know what I mean? But yeah, my dad wouldn't send 772 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:03,560 me money. My parents don't send me money 773 00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:05,600 for anything. Yeah, but I don't ask for it 774 00:34:05,640 --> 00:34:07,120 either. I have like a fear of asking 775 00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:07,960 people for money. Me. 776 00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,199 Too I never like. I don't want help from anyone. 777 00:34:10,199 --> 00:34:12,920 Yeah, I I don't like asking money from people. 778 00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:17,400 And also, it's like I just brought it up because I heard 779 00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,560 people's parents, they're complaining that their parents 780 00:34:20,560 --> 00:34:23,560 didn't pick them up. Instead of pick them up, they 781 00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:27,040 send them money to get Uber. I wouldn't complain, I don't. 782 00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:29,920 Know I feel like it's not like they should show up as a parent 783 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:36,400 to pick them up and yeah I remember when I was like leaving 784 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:40,520 leaving in China I was like my mom I mean we don't drive in 785 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,760 China because there's like cities everywhere so she like 786 00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:46,880 she would take the subway with me to the airport for. 787 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:50,520 An hour and back. So it's still sending off and 788 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:54,920 picking up without driving. Yeah, I once, I once fell in 789 00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:59,480 love with a guy in Greece and he literally changed my entire 790 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:02,280 perception on love. Like I, he's an incredible 791 00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:04,680 person, person. And I met him when I was in 792 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:08,240 Greece and then he, I invited him to come and visit me in New 793 00:35:08,240 --> 00:35:10,040 York. He had never been to America in 794 00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,480 his life. And so he came and he visited 795 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,040 New York and he stayed with me in my like tiny little apartment 796 00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:18,560 in Hell's Kitchen for a week. And I went and picked him up 797 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,760 from the airport and like, I made him a sign and like he kept 798 00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,920 the sign, you know what I mean? Like little things like that I 799 00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:27,320 think go a long way. How did he teach you about love 800 00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:28,520 that you didn't know before? What? 801 00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:30,560 It's a good story. I've actually never told this 802 00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:35,320 story, so that's a fun story. So I had gone through a horrible 803 00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,520 breakup. I was living with my ex in New 804 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:41,160 York, and we broke up and I had moved and I was healing, I 805 00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,880 guess. And I went to Greece because my 806 00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:47,480 cousin was getting married and my grandmother, my Yaya, sent me 807 00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:49,840 to Greece to go to my cousin's wedding. 808 00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,640 So I was there. Solo trip, hot girl solo trip in 809 00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:56,240 Greece. And I was walking around the 810 00:35:56,240 --> 00:36:00,400 streets and I saw this sign that said improv vibe, which is like 811 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,120 it was an improv school. And I was like, they have improv 812 00:36:03,120 --> 00:36:06,480 in Athens and I love improv. So I went in and they were like, 813 00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:09,680 oh, we're actually doing our all our first ever all English open 814 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:11,200 jam tomorrow night if you wanna come. 815 00:36:11,240 --> 00:36:13,720 And I was like, I wanna come. That's destiny. 816 00:36:13,920 --> 00:36:17,840 OK, It was destiny. I show up at the this bar and in 817 00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,080 the back of the bar they're doing an improv open mic. 818 00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:28,560 I walk in and I make eye contact with 64 Greek God like curly 819 00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:32,560 hair, so beautiful, like cool, like glasses, like kind of 820 00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:35,680 artsy, like cool outfit. I made eye contact with him and 821 00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,400 it was like, like it was instant. 822 00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:40,720 And I swear to God, we kissed before we even talked. 823 00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:42,880 It was. It was crazy. 824 00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:43,920 Yeah. Like it was. 825 00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:47,200 So it was a movie. Like we just, yeah. 826 00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:49,480 We sat next to each other and we watched these people do improv 827 00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,560 and like our knees touched and then like, yeah, we were just 828 00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:54,080 inseparable. It was crazy. 829 00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:55,920 It was like soulmate. It was so electric. 830 00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,440 It was so electric. And he was such a gentleman. 831 00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:00,760 And then we went like we didn't hook up. 832 00:37:00,760 --> 00:37:03,200 We just like we kissed, but like we didn't, you know, I mean, and 833 00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:04,840 then we continued seeing each other. 834 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:09,200 He took me on dates like we really like, Yeah, fell in love. 835 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:12,600 And then he came to visit me in America, and I showed him 836 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:16,040 America like he had never been in a building taller than 10 837 00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:17,520 stories. Oh my God. 838 00:37:17,520 --> 00:37:21,120 And I took him to like the 96th floor, like something crazy like 839 00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,800 that. And I brought him to the Comedy 840 00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:25,560 Cellar. He was like obsessed with 841 00:37:25,560 --> 00:37:28,040 American stand up comedy. He was obsessed with it. 842 00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:31,920 And we saw Andrew Schultz and he like loves Andrew Schultz. 843 00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:34,640 So we saw that. And he, like, I've never seen a 844 00:37:34,640 --> 00:37:37,600 grown man more excited than him. Like he, we took him to 845 00:37:37,600 --> 00:37:39,400 Broadway. I took him to a Broadway show 846 00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:42,880 and he wept because it was just so spectacular. 847 00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,400 Like he just never seen anything like it. 848 00:37:44,720 --> 00:37:47,960 So anyway, after that I went. So we stayed in touch. 849 00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:51,560 Obviously we were in love. And then I went to Greece again 850 00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:56,320 that October and visited him. And we went to Santorini and we 851 00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:58,120 like, stayed in this like, sexy cave. 852 00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:01,240 And then we went to visit my family, like my Yaga's like 853 00:38:01,240 --> 00:38:04,240 village in Greece. And I saw like family members I 854 00:38:04,240 --> 00:38:06,640 hadn't seen since I was a kid. And he was my translator. 855 00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,680 Wow, that's yeah, it is very magical. 856 00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:11,760 It was so magical. So Mamma Mia. 857 00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:14,520 Yeah. And yeah, he just like, I still 858 00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:16,160 love him to this day. We still talk. 859 00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:20,480 But he was, he wouldn't be happy if he lived in America and I 860 00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:23,080 wouldn't be happy, I don't think, living there. 861 00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:26,960 So we just love each other and support each other from afar. 862 00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:28,720 But like, that's the love of my life for sure. 863 00:38:29,240 --> 00:38:32,160 Wow, how can you fall in love with someone else when you have 864 00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:36,360 that person? Yeah, because I know I can't. 865 00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,480 This isn't very ROM com like. I feel like in the movie I would 866 00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:41,680 end up with him. I would like run away to Greece, 867 00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,680 but then I don't know. I just, I don't think that's the 868 00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:47,840 right thing for me to do. And to choose yourself first. 869 00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:51,560 Yeah, so I think for me, I know that I'm gonna find someone in 870 00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:54,880 America who is my guy, but he just. 871 00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:57,440 This is what I say. Some people are meant to raise 872 00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,920 your bar. And the people I was dating 873 00:38:59,920 --> 00:39:04,800 before I met him, I wasn't holding them to a standard that 874 00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,960 I should have been for my heart and myself. 875 00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:12,200 And meeting him and him loving me for like my whole operation, 876 00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:16,160 like the bad stuff combined, I was like, huh, like this is what 877 00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:18,640 it should be and I'm not going to accept anything less. 878 00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,800 Yes. So he really gave me the gift of 879 00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,480 raising my bar, even though I don't think I'm going to be with 880 00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,000 him. Yeah, I agree. 881 00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:27,000 I love that for you. Thank you. 882 00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:30,640 And when we were talking about you were showing him all around 883 00:39:30,640 --> 00:39:34,080 New York, you know, the Broadway shows and comedy, it, it made me 884 00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:37,440 feel like you're being a man in the relationship. 885 00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:39,880 I don't know. I I was being the man. 886 00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:43,880 Yes, well. Maybe he he did that for me when 887 00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:45,880 I went to Greece, he showed me around. 888 00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,520 I think it's just like New York is my city. 889 00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:51,640 So I was, I was being very lady like, let me let me tell you, 890 00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:55,040 But I was showing him around and showing him my world. 891 00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:56,800 You know what I mean? It was so cool. 892 00:39:56,800 --> 00:40:01,240 It's crazy to watch the face of someone who's never seen America 893 00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:04,600 to, like, go to Times Square. I need a Krispy Kreme doughnut. 894 00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:06,920 You know what I mean? Like it was crazy. 895 00:40:06,920 --> 00:40:08,000 It's. Pretty precious. 896 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:11,280 I feel like after, after that, he must be in love with you too. 897 00:40:12,080 --> 00:40:14,920 Like, yeah. Like, he's like, like, like 898 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:18,000 completely in love. Well, I think like he was, this 899 00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:20,760 was a few years ago now. It's been a little bit of time. 900 00:40:20,760 --> 00:40:23,480 It's been at least. Yeah, like 2 years. 901 00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:25,520 Oh, that's crazy. Yeah. 902 00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:28,200 So he supports me from afar. I think he has a new girlfriend. 903 00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:30,600 I don't know. I don't. 904 00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:33,240 It's like this is the only relationship in my life where I 905 00:40:33,240 --> 00:40:35,080 feel like that, like I'm my other exes. 906 00:40:35,080 --> 00:40:37,960 I like maybe we'll still be get back to get like, I don't know, 907 00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:39,960 like not really. Yeah, Yeah. 908 00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:44,880 No, I feel like it's because you both, I feel like it was great 909 00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:47,120 because you're equal. Like you, like I said, it's not 910 00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:51,000 like by saying you're the man in the relationship when you were 911 00:40:51,240 --> 00:40:53,960 showing him around in New York, it's like you both have autonomy 912 00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:56,640 to show each other a part of your world. 913 00:40:57,080 --> 00:40:59,440 So it's like, you know, because I'm thinking, oh, like 914 00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:04,880 sometimes, sometimes girls can like be infatuated by a guy 915 00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:06,960 because he's showed him her a good time. 916 00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:14,800 But it's like you're doing that, but you are like, it's 917 00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:18,080 interchangeable because you you did that and he did that too. 918 00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:21,000 Yeah, I think for me also, it was such an understanding of 919 00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:23,320 culture. Like he felt so like home for me 920 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:26,080 because I grew up with my Greek side of the family and grew up 921 00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:29,040 in the Greek Orthodox Church and like around Greek people. 922 00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:34,080 And he just like is he's just like super open, like he'll chat 923 00:41:34,080 --> 00:41:36,320 with anyone. Like I love, I love a man who 924 00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:40,440 can talk to strangers. Oh God, I love a man who chit 925 00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:43,680 chats. I love a man who can like make 926 00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,400 conversation and go have fun because that makes life so much 927 00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:47,640 more fun. I don't really want you to be 928 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:49,960 shy. Yes, yes, I agree. 929 00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:53,400 I'm like, grow up, you're shy. You know a hot take. 930 00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:55,800 A grown man shouldn't be shy to talk to strangers. 931 00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:58,920 Well, and women, I don't want women to be shy either. 932 00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:00,720 I just don't like, love shy people. 933 00:42:00,800 --> 00:42:03,560 No, I don't, but I mean, it's hard for people. 934 00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:07,000 People are different, I guess, but it's for more for like me 935 00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:09,440 choosing a partner. Maybe I see that as a green 936 00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:12,120 flag. One last question before we end 937 00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:16,200 the Oh my gosh, yeah, Yeah. So because you were talking 938 00:42:16,200 --> 00:42:20,960 about the Greece Greek guy, do you think I've also had this 939 00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:26,960 talk with my previous podcast guest, But do you think it's 940 00:42:26,960 --> 00:42:31,200 like better for a relationship to have two people from very, 941 00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:34,720 very different backgrounds so you can like, you know, teach 942 00:42:34,720 --> 00:42:38,920 each other or show each other your own cultural experiences? 943 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:42,760 Or do you think it's better for the people to have similar 944 00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:44,360 backgrounds so you can relate to each other? 945 00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,000 I don't know. Yeah, Interesting. 946 00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:51,680 I don't know if one is necessarily better than the 947 00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,160 other. I think here's my take. 948 00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:58,240 When you first are meeting somebody and falling in love, 949 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:01,840 it's more fun and more exciting. When you come from different 950 00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:04,520 backgrounds in different places and you learn about the other's 951 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,960 culture, it's just a little bit more of an uphill battle because 952 00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:12,640 you have to compromise and like as if it goes on long term, you 953 00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:15,720 have to merge worlds. So I think it's easier if you 954 00:43:15,720 --> 00:43:19,320 find someone who, like, has the exact same lived experience as 955 00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:23,320 you because it's easier to merge into one, you know, one being 956 00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:25,320 when you get married, whatever, you know what I mean? 957 00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:28,560 So I think it's easier to meet someone who's the same as you, 958 00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:33,240 but it's more fun and maybe more rewarding to meet and be with 959 00:43:33,240 --> 00:43:34,360 someone who's different from you. 960 00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:37,080 Like, I've learned so much dating people who are so 961 00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:39,600 different from me. Like that Texas guy, Yeah, he 962 00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:42,080 was awesome. It was really fun to date him. 963 00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,520 And we were really different, but our core values were the 964 00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:46,440 same. So I think if your core values 965 00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:49,400 are the same, then it doesn't matter so much about your like 966 00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:51,040 you know where you grew up or whatever. 967 00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:53,320 I like that. I agree, yeah. 968 00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:55,760 Yeah, we got really deep with it at the slumber party. 969 00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:56,880 Is that OK? Yeah. 970 00:43:57,080 --> 00:43:58,720 Of course we. Always get deep. 971 00:43:58,720 --> 00:44:00,800 We get deep. Yeah, we're stuffy. 972 00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:03,360 Yeah, they're so cute. We're hot and we're deep. 973 00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:04,960 Yeah, hot girls have stuffed animals. 974 00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:07,200 Yes, yeah. Hot girls have stuffed animals 975 00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:08,840 on their beds. More than one if you like. 976 00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,520 Sometimes. Yeah, I have at least three. 977 00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:12,600 Yeah, yeah, I have a bunch over there. 978 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:15,720 They're so cute. Leave a labooboo. 979 00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:18,360 Yeah, I do. Wow, wow. 980 00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:19,800 Yeah. Thank you so much for coming. 981 00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:21,120 Thanks for having. Me.