1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,200 The problem is we can't control how we feel. 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:05,040 Yeah. And we might love somebody at 3 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:08,200 one point, Yeah. And then not love them the next 4 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:10,440 day. So I should say I love you for 5 00:00:10,440 --> 00:00:12,080 the moment. Like I love you right now. 6 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:15,960 Yeah, I love you at like I've been loving you recently. 7 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:21,520 I've been loving you recently. Yeah, that's actually so sweet. 8 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:25,720 If someone told me I've been loving you recently, that's very 9 00:00:25,720 --> 00:00:27,800 kind. Yeah, so because you. 10 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,080 Yeah, I'm not going to say I love you forever because then 11 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:31,840 I'll be lying to you because I don't know. 12 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:35,000 Yes, I'll love you forever. Yeah, yeah, that's I think the 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:36,680 three times I'm like, I love you. 14 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:39,080 Such a deep statement. You can say I've been loving you 15 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:41,120 recently. More specific terms to that 16 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:42,040 person. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 17 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,240 Like, I've been loving you since we met. 18 00:00:44,280 --> 00:00:46,560 I've been loving you for the past three months. 19 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:48,640 I've been loving you since, like, I don't know. 20 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:52,720 I don't know, Memorial Weekend I. 21 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:56,760 Don't know, I've been loving you since specifically Memorial 22 00:00:56,760 --> 00:00:59,640 Weekend. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 23 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:01,840 Put a time stamp on that exactly. 24 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:08,720 Yeah. Well, so Beanie, what's keeping 25 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,680 you up tonight? What's keeping me up tonight is 26 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:15,320 that I believe you can only tell someone that you love them three 27 00:01:15,320 --> 00:01:17,480 times Max if you're in a relationship with them. 28 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:21,800 Three times, Max. What are the, what are the three 29 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:23,040 times? What are the times that you can 30 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:26,280 Is there like a, you know, yeah. If I've already in a 31 00:01:26,280 --> 00:01:29,000 relationship with them and I've already said three times, does 32 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:30,720 it mean it has to end? You have to end. 33 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:33,360 Yeah, you're done. Oh, no. 34 00:01:33,360 --> 00:01:35,400 Yeah, Yeah. Why? 35 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:38,960 Well, I think it just overused and loses its power. 36 00:01:38,960 --> 00:01:42,000 Like I feel like also like coming from an immigrant like 37 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:46,000 household like in in Max. This is what my mom says and my 38 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:49,280 mom is has. Wait, tell us about yourself. 39 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:52,000 My background, Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I'm white Mexican. 40 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:57,720 I'm white Latina. And in my family at least, love 41 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,680 is shown through actions, not through words. 42 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:04,320 So you have to love them through your actions. 43 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,000 Like, why are you just telling them that you love them? 44 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,759 That's not real. OK, Yeah. 45 00:02:09,039 --> 00:02:12,800 So love them through like making them food or doing their lawn. 46 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:17,160 No, don't do their laundry. Don't don't do their laundry. 47 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:19,240 Not yet. Yeah. 48 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,400 After getting married maybe. What do you think? 49 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:23,000 Would you sell someone that you love them? 50 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:29,400 OK, I you called me off guard. I feel like I I've, I've 51 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:33,280 recently learned that you should like show affection through 52 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:37,800 action instead of, you know, words of I'd although I feel 53 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:40,240 like a words of affirmation is important sometimes too. 54 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,240 Yeah, cuz I feel like I'm also an immigrant. 55 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:46,200 I'm I'm Chinese and we don't like my mom. 56 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:47,800 Never say I love you. Yeah. 57 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:51,520 But she shows the reaction. But I feel like sometimes I wish 58 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:55,920 that on top of the action she would say something nice 59 00:02:55,920 --> 00:02:58,280 sometimes. Yeah, yeah, I have that same 60 00:02:58,280 --> 00:02:59,720 thing. I literally talked to my mom 61 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:00,400 today about it. She's. 62 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,960 Really. Well cuz so in Spanish you have 63 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:08,120 taquiero the ammo ite de seo. OK, for for us who are 64 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:09,880 illiterate, what does it? Yeah, what does it mean? 65 00:03:09,920 --> 00:03:12,280 So the Kyeto is like most commonly used. 66 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,880 You use that with your friends, you use that with your lover. 67 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,680 It means I. It means I want you. 68 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,240 Literally. I can say it to my friends like 69 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:22,280 I can say it to you, Tequieto. Yeah, yeah, you can say 70 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:24,960 tequieto. Even though it's it means I want 71 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:27,320 you. It's more casually like I love 72 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:28,280 you. I have deep affection. 73 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:32,880 For you, OK. Then the ammo is like I love you 74 00:03:33,240 --> 00:03:36,800 like I love you. Of you like capital L, capital 75 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,920 L, yeah. And my mom was like, you can say 76 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:42,120 that only if they got if they're in a car accident and about to 77 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:47,200 die, like, like immigrant mom telling you, I'm only gonna tell 78 00:03:47,200 --> 00:03:49,760 you I love you if you're in a car accident about to die, which 79 00:03:49,840 --> 00:03:53,120 is which is crazy, that is. Yeah, but I kind. 80 00:03:53,120 --> 00:03:55,480 Of agree with that. The fact that thing is, I agree 81 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:57,840 with it, Yeah. And then the last one is 82 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:00,560 Tedesale, which is more sexual. That's like, I want you 83 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:02,000 sexually. Oh, wait, wait. 84 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,440 What's the last one? How do you say it, Tedesale? 85 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:07,960 Oh, OK. So then if you're in a 86 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:11,200 relationship, I say use those three. 87 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:16,279 Don't say the animal like saying the animal like I love you. 88 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:23,120 I just think it over, it over uses its, IT loses meaning I 89 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:26,640 guess, Yeah. I don't know, I feel like OK, 90 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,080 I'm very conflicted on this because I feel like even though 91 00:04:29,280 --> 00:04:32,480 in my culture people don't say like parents to children don't 92 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:36,080 really say I love you but I feel like friends or like casual 93 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:39,320 relationships. They say like love you like a 94 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,960 lot like love you babe. Like yes. 95 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:44,800 No, and that's something I was almost conditioned into because 96 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:46,240 I didn't tell my friends I love them. 97 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:48,640 And then I recently started doing that. 98 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,800 I'm doing. It I assimilated, yeah. 99 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,360 Yeah, you are. You are against your own take. 100 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,200 I well, well, well. I'm against my own take with 101 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:02,800 friends, with romantic lovers. You just can't give yourself 102 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:04,880 away. You have to keep yourself. 103 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:09,480 I'm almost like you can't be too vulnerable with your with your 104 00:05:09,480 --> 00:05:12,000 lover. You can't, no. 105 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:15,080 I agree, yeah. I feel like if you're the one 106 00:05:15,080 --> 00:05:17,200 that's like more vulnerable, you're, you're the one that's 107 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:22,040 like, I'm losing. It's not a. 108 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,480 Game. Should be losing or. 109 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:30,320 Winning I I'll take a bullet for my lover before. 110 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:32,280 Before you say. I love. 111 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:36,880 You that's kind of romantic. What do you, what are the what 112 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:38,880 are the three times that you can say I love you? 113 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:43,320 So first time you say I love you, I think it's like when it 114 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:45,440 when you feel it. When you feel it. 115 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:47,960 Oh my God, the crush. The crush. 116 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:51,520 Like when you feel it kind of bursting out of you, you have to 117 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:53,920 say it. But I feel it all the time. 118 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:58,000 You feel it all the time. But like what if you feel the 119 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:02,600 burst with with like a lot of people, like multiple people at 120 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:04,360 the same time? Would that happen? 121 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,960 Or if that happens, then it doesn't count. 122 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:10,880 Like you can't, you can't count. OK, so the three times can only 123 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,000 it doesn't have to be the same person. 124 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:14,800 It doesn't have to be the same. OK well that's good though. 125 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:18,080 Almost I'm I'm for that. Distribute your love so you 126 00:06:18,080 --> 00:06:20,120 don't get too attached to one person. 127 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,040 Right. So say I love you to multiple 128 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:25,240 people to multiple people. OK, and maybe if you're like, 129 00:06:25,280 --> 00:06:27,920 oh, I love this one person too much, say it to other people so 130 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:29,000 you don't have to say it to them. 131 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:34,440 You're off to something. Yeah. 132 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:37,000 OK, I'm gonna start doing that. They love you. 133 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:38,600 I love you. Oh, my God. 134 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:41,520 I love you, Rachel. Yes, then sweet. 135 00:06:41,520 --> 00:06:45,760 OK, the second time. Second time, maybe if you got in 136 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:47,280 a fight. The biggest? 137 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:49,080 The biggest? Fight well, it's hard though, 138 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:51,440 because I don't know, like. You don't know if there's gonna 139 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:53,960 be a fight that's topping. Yeah, this one. 140 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:57,280 That's why you don't fight. But actually I like to fight in 141 00:06:57,280 --> 00:06:59,920 my actually I'm a fighter. You are. 142 00:06:59,920 --> 00:07:01,040 What do you like about the fight? 143 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:04,720 I like kind of beat people being honest with me, being real with 144 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,240 me. Yeah, but I mean, wouldn't you 145 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:10,760 want them to be real with you from like all the time? 146 00:07:11,080 --> 00:07:15,160 Yeah, then that means you have to fight because because you 147 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:17,040 can't just agree with me all the time. 148 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:20,280 And I'm very passionate and combative almost. 149 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,600 What do you what's your like? Do you, do you like, like 150 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:25,080 gaslighting? Yeah. 151 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:27,400 You do. Yeah. 152 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:30,160 Do you? Yeah, yeah. 153 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:32,480 I try. I feel like I should get better 154 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:34,800 at that. At gaslighting, yeah, it's, I 155 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:36,800 think, a very feminine way to manipulate. 156 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,400 A feminine. Way well, is it 'cause men do 157 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:40,880 it? Yeah, I feel like men do it. 158 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:43,760 Yeah. But women gaslight in a way of 159 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:49,360 like, why? Women gaslight in a way of like, 160 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:51,800 I'm not saying that, I'm saying this, yes. 161 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:54,800 Yeah, I mean that, is that even gaslight? 162 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:56,880 No, it's just not what you're saying. 163 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:58,640 Yeah. So we're not gaslighting. 164 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:01,520 I feel like maybe I don't. I'm gonna change my take here. 165 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:03,920 Oh, well, already. No, no, no, no. 166 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:05,800 Well, more so like gaslighting wise. 167 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:10,200 Like I don't gaslight because I like to be almost 168 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:14,240 problematically honest, I believe almost with being 169 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:17,680 direct. Yeah, I love, I love being 170 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:19,960 direct. That's why I say I love you all 171 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:20,880 the time. Yeah. 172 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:23,720 So it shouldn't be 3 times. Oh, 'cause you feel it. 173 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:26,160 Right, 'cause if you're being honest and like direct you 174 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:27,800 should you would say it all the time. 175 00:08:28,200 --> 00:08:30,920 But I just get annoyed with couples that are like babe and 176 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:33,840 sweetheart and. Yeah, that's a little annoying. 177 00:08:33,919 --> 00:08:38,080 Or yeah, I'd rather see like affection through action. 178 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:43,360 I feel like, OK my take is if someone says I love you or like 179 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:47,720 a lot of like compliments and words of affirmation, a little 180 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:51,480 bit of of it is good. But when it's too much, almost 181 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:55,120 like love bombing, then it makes me think that this person does 182 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,960 it to everybody else, so then it's not special anymore. 183 00:08:57,960 --> 00:09:01,840 Yeah, it's not just to me, yeah, but like. 184 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:06,720 I don't know, I feel like acts of service can also be like this 185 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:09,720 person does it to everybody. Yes, it can be toxic. 186 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:12,120 Yeah. Well, at least or maybe you're 187 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:15,560 not thinking of me when you're doing it right. 188 00:09:15,760 --> 00:09:16,680 Yeah. Yeah. 189 00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:20,680 I don't know. I guess like I do romanticize 190 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:26,040 this idea of like someone's there's so much unsaid. 191 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:27,960 Yeah. Whereas I love you is I love 192 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:32,440 you. But in the unsaid is so much 193 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:36,440 more like. You're a, you're a romantic. 194 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,640 I am a romantic, Yeah. What's your sign? 195 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:41,120 I'm Aries. Aries. 196 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:44,040 Oh wait, you're Aries. What are you? 197 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:46,000 Your birthday is coming up. April third. 198 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:47,960 Yeah. April 3rd Wow. 199 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,560 OK. Oh my God, yeah, I have. 200 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,440 I have a party that I wanted to go to on April 3rd. 201 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:55,800 It's a Saturday or Friday, I think. 202 00:09:56,120 --> 00:09:59,280 Well, I'm going to LA for my birthday 'cause I get too shy to 203 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:01,600 have a birthday party where all my friends are. 204 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:02,560 I have to leave. What? 205 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:04,560 Yeah. That's a that's a hot take. 206 00:10:04,560 --> 00:10:08,160 Why? Because it's just awkward. 207 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:11,920 It's like, I don't want to be worried about that or people 208 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:13,800 having fun at my party. Stuff like this. 209 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:16,680 I almost want to be anonymous. What do you I mean, I just don't 210 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:19,560 have a birthday party. Yeah, well then it's people 211 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:20,880 like, oh, you're not doing anything for your birthday. 212 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:24,000 Yeah, that's kind of sad. But so you're gonna be spending 213 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:26,160 time by yourself in LA. In LA, yeah. 214 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:27,600 Wow. Well, actually I've that's. 215 00:10:27,680 --> 00:10:29,480 Actually liberating. I have a friend that lives 216 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:31,480 there. You're gonna spend with one 217 00:10:31,480 --> 00:10:34,520 friend for your birthday. For my birthday. 218 00:10:34,520 --> 00:10:38,000 OK, that's well, yeah, I, I think that's good. 219 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:40,320 Yeah. I feel like I don't wanna like 220 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:43,000 sometimes I don't wanna like mix my friends cuz I feel like they. 221 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:46,920 OK, this is yeah. This is like comedy related. 222 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:51,320 Comedy specific because there's like bringer shows and sometimes 223 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:55,720 bringer shows I invite different friends that are in different 224 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:58,640 friend groups. But when they come, the host 225 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:00,160 asks them who are you here to see? 226 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:01,640 And they're always like, oh, Rachel. 227 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:05,880 And then the hosts sit them together and I feel like they 228 00:11:06,040 --> 00:11:09,920 they're like forced to talk to each other and I feel a little 229 00:11:09,920 --> 00:11:12,480 awkward about it. Are your friends like your 230 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,480 different friend groups are not vibing their different energies? 231 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:19,040 Yeah, I feel like sometimes. Well how are they have like more 232 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:22,760 like straight laced? Or like, like, I don't know, 233 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:26,480 like if you, if I invite a guy that I'm kind of seeing and then 234 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:30,000 like they sit them with like a bunch of friends, then I feel 235 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:33,160 like. That's a little awkward, I know. 236 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:37,120 Yeah, I love to do that, though. I love. 237 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:41,320 There's nothing I actually no, but I love talking to my 238 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:47,760 friends, potential partners. What if like it's just you're 239 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:52,720 like not so close friend like my my potential partner Like would 240 00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:56,360 that be like? Yeah, actually, right. 241 00:11:56,560 --> 00:11:58,640 I won't know what to say. Yeah, 'cause you don't know me 242 00:11:58,640 --> 00:12:00,360 that much. You don't know that, Yeah. 243 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:03,320 Well also I believe, I'm sorry I'm contradicting myself 244 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:07,200 literally every other time, but I also believe my friend's 245 00:12:07,200 --> 00:12:09,120 boyfriend. I have nothing to do with him, 246 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:12,040 he doesn't exist to me. Oh, OK, so you don't want to 247 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:14,160 talk to them? But I love talking to my friends 248 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:16,120 dates and being like, what's what are you about? 249 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:17,640 Like what's going on with you? Like. 250 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:20,320 I like that, yeah. Like makes them feel a little 251 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:22,840 pressure. Yes, I do like applying the 252 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:25,720 pressure and be like, what do you want to do with your life 253 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:27,360 like? Yeah, yeah. 254 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:28,800 Like what are you going to do with my friend? 255 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:33,480 Like like, yeah, I like, I guess I like to do that with like just 256 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:35,760 any man, I guess. Yeah, actually make them 257 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:37,080 uncomfortable, any man? Yeah. 258 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:38,880 Yeah. Wait, what did I say? 259 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:41,640 I feel like I like to have them a little scared. 260 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,040 I don't remember what I did, what I said that I did. 261 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:48,560 But anyway, what's the third time that you say I love you in 262 00:12:48,560 --> 00:12:52,880 a relationship? So I'm sorry I'm realizing I'm 263 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:54,880 talking over you, but. It's no, no, it's fine. 264 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:56,280 Sorry. I'm talking over you too. 265 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:57,880 It's. OK, I'm getting too excited. 266 00:12:57,880 --> 00:12:59,520 No, I'm excited too. Yeah, that's good. 267 00:12:59,920 --> 00:13:03,600 No, all the great podcasters talk over each other. 268 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:05,040 Yes. Yes. 269 00:13:05,560 --> 00:13:09,160 The third time is when you're about to leave them. 270 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:14,600 You say it one last time. But then if you said it 2 times 271 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:18,320 and then like you have one last time left and then I'm gonna be 272 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:21,320 like OK, I don't want to hear it anymore. 273 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:25,680 You're like, I don't want to hear any more from them. 274 00:13:26,000 --> 00:13:28,720 Or you mean? Like, like if I hear I love you 275 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:31,120 again, that then it'll mean that they're leaving me. 276 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:33,000 So I don't want to hear I love you again. 277 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:36,400 But if I don't hear I love you again, then I'll feel insecure 278 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:38,880 and then I'll like be like, do you even love me? 279 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:44,120 Do I? But it seems like your love 280 00:13:44,120 --> 00:13:45,800 language is words of affirmation then. 281 00:13:46,440 --> 00:13:50,040 Maybe I am, but I also like, do I like, I like acts of service 282 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:53,600 and I like gift giving. Like I like, you know, giving, 283 00:13:53,680 --> 00:13:55,720 giving them, giving people little gifts. 284 00:13:57,760 --> 00:14:03,280 OK, I, I met a guy and he doesn't want a relationship, but 285 00:14:03,280 --> 00:14:08,400 he loves like cooking with like his date, his casual dates. 286 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:16,000 But so he's saying like he's a, he's a bad, he said he's a bad 287 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:18,160 fuck boy because he doesn't just fuck. 288 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,800 He does like all the kind of cute stuff with the girl. 289 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:24,120 And then like some girl said that he's a good fuck boy in 290 00:14:24,120 --> 00:14:29,040 that sense because he's he's a fuck boy under like cover. 291 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:31,880 Yeah, yeah. But he's still like this, like 292 00:14:31,880 --> 00:14:34,440 he's still like leaving them and disrespecting them in that way. 293 00:14:35,000 --> 00:14:37,160 Why? Or like he's like not committing 294 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:38,760 to. Them, no, he's not committing to 295 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:40,920 them, but he's like doing like, yeah. 296 00:14:41,680 --> 00:14:43,920 I kind of am for that. You are for that. 297 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:47,040 Well, I'm like, if you're being honest with someone, but you're 298 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:49,840 still, you know what I hate? I hate when people are like, so 299 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:53,240 many men do this, do this these days where they're like, I don't 300 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:55,680 want to be in a relationship with you before you even ask 301 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:58,400 them. It's like, I never wanted to be 302 00:14:58,400 --> 00:14:59,600 in a relationship with you either. 303 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:01,720 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, my God. 304 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:03,760 You're just assuming that I want that. 305 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:05,760 Obviously I don't want that. Yeah. 306 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:08,280 OK. So when they said that, then I'm 307 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:11,760 like now I kind of now I'm interested. 308 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:12,600 Yeah. It's like. 309 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:15,600 I don't know what they say when they say I don't want a 310 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:17,200 relationship. You're like, now I'm interested. 311 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:18,680 Yeah, 'cause like what? Why? 312 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:20,280 Like why don't you want a? Relationship. 313 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:21,800 I was going to say no, but why you're saying? 314 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:23,000 No. Why are you saying no? 315 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:26,320 Exactly why are you saying no? Yeah. 316 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:28,320 Well, it's 'cause they're freaking insecure. 317 00:15:28,320 --> 00:15:29,280 I don't know what's wrong with them. 318 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:33,920 Well, in that sense, if I'm using reverse psychology, then I 319 00:15:33,920 --> 00:15:36,400 should be the one saying like, I don't want a relationship with 320 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:40,320 you 1st. So then they will be like, I was 321 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:42,360 going to say no first, but you're saying no, yeah. 322 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:45,280 And so then they would want. Yeah, well, it's like a game of 323 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:47,560 cat and mouse who's most disinterested. 324 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:50,000 Yeah, that's so boring to me, though. 325 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:51,720 I wish. Like everyone's so not 326 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:56,040 everyone's like nonchalant this like everyone has to be the most 327 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,640 nonchalant, right? That's the competition we're 328 00:15:58,640 --> 00:16:01,200 under. Yeah, really. 329 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:03,240 Yeah. It's like the competition of 330 00:16:03,240 --> 00:16:07,680 like, who's more nonchalant? I I hate that about New York. 331 00:16:07,760 --> 00:16:10,040 Is it just New York? I think it's the whole world. 332 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:11,400 The whole world. Oh, my God. 333 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:15,280 What's OK? Have you been dating, like, when 334 00:16:15,280 --> 00:16:18,040 you were not in New York? Yeah. 335 00:16:18,040 --> 00:16:18,800 Have y'all? Where? 336 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:20,720 Where have you been? I've been in Boston. 337 00:16:20,880 --> 00:16:25,400 Oh, and there, I mean, I was just like dating around. 338 00:16:25,400 --> 00:16:27,840 Do you want me to tell you some of the guys there? 339 00:16:31,000 --> 00:16:32,000 No. OK. 340 00:16:32,640 --> 00:16:34,880 Like what they would do? Yeah, yeah, yeah. 341 00:16:35,240 --> 00:16:36,520 They were just. Do you think there's a 342 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:39,520 difference? Between the men in Boston versus 343 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:43,520 New York, yeah, yeah, I think in Boston they're more like, 344 00:16:46,600 --> 00:16:47,880 they're more like bidding their time. 345 00:16:47,880 --> 00:16:50,160 They have more time. New York, everyone. 346 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:53,760 We're almost spoiled for choice. OK. 347 00:16:53,760 --> 00:16:59,000 So like by bidding their time you mean like they are more like 348 00:16:59,840 --> 00:17:02,600 they feel like their clock is ticking for finding a partner? 349 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:07,839 Yeah, or in Boston. In Boston, it's more like you 350 00:17:07,839 --> 00:17:09,560 catch a fish, you keep that fish. 351 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:13,440 Right here is. Here is like you have so many 352 00:17:13,440 --> 00:17:15,000 fish. It's catch and. 353 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:16,520 Release. It's catch and release. 354 00:17:16,520 --> 00:17:21,680 Yeah, Yeah. And I was honestly, because I've 355 00:17:21,680 --> 00:17:24,720 been celibate a year, I haven't been able to really test the 356 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:27,079 waters. You've been celibate. 357 00:17:27,079 --> 00:17:28,400 For a year. I've been celibate for a year. 358 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:30,040 Is that intentional? Yeah. 359 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,800 Oh, so you're an intentional celibate? 360 00:17:32,800 --> 00:17:33,760 So you're an insult? No. 361 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:40,200 No. No, I'm a voluntary celibate. 362 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:45,160 So yeah, yeah, yeah. But Loki, I'm trying to break 363 00:17:45,160 --> 00:17:48,840 out of it. Yeah, I'm trying to have sex. 364 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:53,000 Try to have sex. OK, try not to say I love you. 365 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:57,600 More so often, yeah. Why are you? 366 00:17:57,600 --> 00:18:00,360 Why? Why did you become celibate? 367 00:18:01,120 --> 00:18:03,840 I think because I was like, not having sex for the right 368 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:06,760 reasons. Like, yeah, I was seeing the 369 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:11,160 world very sexually, yeah. When you were celibate or before 370 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,720 you were celibate? Before I was celibate, oh, I was 371 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:17,640 just not like taking the time to think like, why am I having sex 372 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:20,080 right now? Not that I would have sex that 373 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:23,920 often, but like you have enough sex with like he's the most mid 374 00:18:23,920 --> 00:18:25,840 guy ever. You're like what the fuck am I 375 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,240 doing? Yeah, I sometimes think that 376 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:29,760 too. Yeah, yeah. 377 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:31,840 And when you take it off the table, you could just be like 378 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:34,960 OK, so I actually have to know them as a person I guess. 379 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:39,880 So have you been dating or you you've just been like, yeah. 380 00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:42,080 I've been dating a little. OK. 381 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:48,080 I've been dating a little, but then I just say I'm celibate and 382 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:50,120 that ends the whole interaction. No. 383 00:18:50,120 --> 00:18:54,080 Yeah. I guess everybody want, all 384 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:58,160 everybody want is sex. Yeah, yeah, I guess so. 385 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:02,480 It's yeah, Yeah. Even even me, though, because 386 00:19:02,480 --> 00:19:05,560 I'm just not. Takes really a long time for me 387 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:07,440 to like somebody I know. Yeah. 388 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:09,200 What about you? Are you dating? 389 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:13,160 For me it's a little weird. I don't know. 390 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:17,680 I'm like in between. Situationships. 391 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,120 It's hard to it's hard to say. I feel like I'm in a weird 392 00:19:22,120 --> 00:19:28,080 space, but I, I do feel like, so I'm trying to talk about my, my, 393 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:32,440 my experience when I was dating like more actively. 394 00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:37,560 So I don't know. I feel like I, I, I do find 395 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:40,600 myself having sex with mid guy and I feel like I, I wish I'm 396 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:41,880 not doing this. Yeah. 397 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:48,040 And OK, I've, I was talking to a guy friend and he was like, I 398 00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:50,960 was like, do you ever like have bad sex? 399 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:56,320 And he's like, no, it's like even though I've had sex that I 400 00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:57,640 feel like I wouldn't do it again. 401 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:03,200 But I've also like, it felt good at the moment. 402 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:07,200 And I'm like, I don't know if that's the case for me, 'cause I 403 00:20:07,200 --> 00:20:12,040 feel like I would like, like if I'm having sex with a guy that I 404 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:15,840 don't find attractive, I feel I would. 405 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,080 I don't know, I wouldn't enjoy it. 406 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:22,760 I feel like I'd rather not have sex than have bad sex, but I 407 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:27,160 feel like for him or I don't know if he can represent guys 408 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:32,040 even though you're not attracted to this person, but like there's 409 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:38,360 no not no such thing as bad sex. Yeah, which I I don't, I don't 410 00:20:38,360 --> 00:20:41,680 know, that makes me sad 'cause I'm just like, what is the point 411 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,840 of sex anyway? Even like what is the point if 412 00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:48,280 you're not if you're just doing it to do it? 413 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:51,880 I feel like men almost use it as like a way to dissociate or as a 414 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:54,480 crutch. Like I need to have sex like pre 415 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:57,280 programmed, right? That's almost how I was viewing 416 00:20:57,280 --> 00:20:58,600 it. I was like, I need to have sex. 417 00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:02,520 Like I need to take this box. But then in the act of it I'm 418 00:21:02,520 --> 00:21:05,640 like, what is it even for? Right. 419 00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,920 Other than procreation or something, it is an exchange 420 00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:11,400 like it does strip away a lot of who you are. 421 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:14,480 It does strip away. It strips away like you're just 422 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:17,000 bodies rubbing against each other. 423 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:22,040 But is it meaningful? Wow, it's so deep. 424 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:24,800 I don't know, I feel. Like this is so philosophical. 425 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:27,040 About sex, yeah. Yeah. 426 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,560 A lot of a lot of heavy questions. 427 00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:40,560 That's OK. OK so I I So what if I said I 428 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:44,440 love you 4 Times Now I have to like I've already said I love 429 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,880 you 4 times what do I do? I feel like. 430 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:50,040 At the end of the relationship, I'm like, I'm done. 431 00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:53,680 I've been holding this back. I've I say 100 times, I love 432 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:54,680 you. I love you, Yeah. 433 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,160 I feel like maybe I should explain more, like my theory of 434 00:21:59,160 --> 00:22:03,000 it, like, right. I feel like when you tell 435 00:22:03,000 --> 00:22:07,360 someone I love you, yeah, you're putting almost a burden on them 436 00:22:08,120 --> 00:22:17,560 because you're saying your emotion just like, and I've 437 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,360 never been in a relationship and maybe it shows. 438 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:23,600 But like when you tell someone I love you, like you're putting, 439 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:29,000 let me maybe give me a second to get my bearings. 440 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:34,520 I guess that's OK, like. Yeah, I see what you mean. 441 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:39,320 I feel like when I've, I've been told I love you, like when I was 442 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:44,880 not expecting it and I felt like I had to react and I felt like I 443 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,120 have a pressure to say it back, like, 'cause nobody says I love 444 00:22:48,120 --> 00:22:51,680 you expecting that you'll say, well, I don't love you. 445 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,840 Yeah. Like there's a ritual already 446 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:58,200 established with the I love you that maybe doesn't feel all the 447 00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:01,480 way real to me. And so I'm like, OK, you can 448 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:05,480 only say it three times, so you can almost force yourself to be 449 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:08,680 in that moment, but then you actually do feel it all those 450 00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:12,320 times. But I feel like, is there a 451 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:16,560 difference between love and just like a rush of, you know, 452 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:21,280 attraction? Like sometimes I feel like, what 453 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:23,120 were you saying? Like you were saying, like 454 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,560 falling in love. Like you can say I'm falling in 455 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:29,520 love with you. What did you say? 456 00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:34,360 Or the Spanish versions. No, like before we started 457 00:23:34,360 --> 00:23:36,600 recording. I'm falling in love with you. 458 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:40,240 Like you are allowed to say I'm I'm falling in love with you. 459 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:45,040 Maybe I I don't remember, but I think that actually is a good 460 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,440 solution. Yeah, I'm falling in love with 461 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,280 you. Yeah, instead of saying I love 462 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,640 you. Maybe there's a love. 463 00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:54,720 More of a bridge, yeah. Yeah, I I feel like I've done 464 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:56,520 that. I'm falling in love with you. 465 00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:59,640 That's such a player move, to be honest. 466 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,680 Rachel, I'm falling in love with you. 467 00:24:02,360 --> 00:24:05,840 Yeah, I mean, then they don't have to say I love you back 468 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:10,160 because I didn't say I love you. Just I'm falling in love with 469 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:10,920 you. Yeah. 470 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:16,160 I'm currently in a state where I'm like, but it does burst out 471 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:17,560 of you. It does. 472 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,440 Like, that was so resonant to me when you were like, it bursts 473 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:21,720 out of me. I need to say it. 474 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:26,240 Maybe it's something about me. Maybe I have I have problem. 475 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,840 No, maybe I need to. Like I feel like it's like part 476 00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:32,280 of love bombing, isn't it? No, but if you actually 477 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:36,360 earnestly feel it, I think the problem is, the problem is we 478 00:24:36,360 --> 00:24:38,240 can't control how we feel. Yeah. 479 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,240 And we might love somebody at one point. 480 00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,800 Yeah. And then not love them the next 481 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,040 day. So I should say I love you for 482 00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:47,680 the moment. Like I love you right now. 483 00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,560 Yeah, I love you at like I've been loving you recently. 484 00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:57,120 I've been loving you recently. Yeah, that's actually so sweet. 485 00:24:57,120 --> 00:25:01,320 If someone told me I've been loving you recently, that's very 486 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,400 kind. Yeah, so cuz you. 487 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:06,200 Yeah, I'm not gonna say I love you forever because then I'll be 488 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:07,960 lying to you. Cuz I don't know if I'll love 489 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:09,080 you forever. Yeah. 490 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,240 Yeah, that's I think the three times I'm like, I love you. 491 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:14,680 Such a deep statement. You can say I've been loving you 492 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,720 recently. More specific terms to that 493 00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:17,640 person. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 494 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,800 Like, I've been loving you since we met. 495 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:22,160 I've been loving you for the past three months. 496 00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:24,240 I've been loving you since, like, I don't know. 497 00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:28,320 I don't know, Memorial Weekend I. 498 00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,160 Don't know. I've been loving you since 499 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,640 specifically Memorial weekend. Yeah, yeah. 500 00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,400 Yeah, put a timestamp on that exactly. 501 00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:40,480 Yeah. Well, OK, you can say I love 502 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:44,560 you, but you have to renew it like it can't. 503 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:48,520 It can't be a, you know, forever. 504 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:52,200 Yes, it's like a lease. Yes, it has a specific time. 505 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:54,960 Yeah. And if you change your mind 506 00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:59,880 before the, the specific before the lease ends, you have to like 507 00:25:59,880 --> 00:26:03,600 pay a penalty like there's, there's, yeah, there's, you 508 00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:06,880 know, punishment for that. Yeah, I fully agree with that. 509 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:12,480 I I'm like I damn, I just lost my train of thought. 510 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,120 Well, 'cause I was just thinking about like this time. 511 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:16,800 I thought you didn't go out last night. 512 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,240 I didn't go out last night. No. 513 00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:22,440 Well, when you said lease, I'm thinking about this time my mom 514 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:28,000 got divorced and this time this well, this one time when my mom 515 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:34,640 got divorced, her and I rented a car from in Texas and the car 516 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:37,000 had a colony of Wasps living in it. 517 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,280 What And like she was recently divorced. 518 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,000 Like we were thinking a lot about love and lost love and 519 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:47,240 like, you know, once, can you ever really stop loving 520 00:26:47,240 --> 00:26:49,560 somebody? And then the whole time we had 521 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:52,120 these Wasps. Like like a like a lot of white 522 00:26:52,120 --> 00:26:55,680 guys who are like kind of like white and like, you know, Wasps 523 00:26:55,920 --> 00:26:59,440 like you had, you had a backseat, A roll of like the 524 00:26:59,440 --> 00:27:02,720 guys in like Patagonia jacket, a trunk. 525 00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:07,280 Full of Wasps that would be. Oh my God, that would be 526 00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,640 actually way worse than living the bugs that we had in that 527 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,440 freaking car. That's so funny. 528 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:17,520 No, they were actual. Actual actually like bugs, like 529 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,720 flying Wasps. Not the ones in like Wall 530 00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,120 Street. Yeah, OK, yeah, even though 531 00:27:22,120 --> 00:27:25,360 those are more dangerous than than the bugs. 532 00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:29,200 Yeah, but I don't know, when you said Lisa reminded me of that, 533 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,680 'cause I was like, damn, like sorry, love lost. 534 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,720 Yeah. Yeah, that was just yeah. 535 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,520 Oh, we that's the story. What's the where? 536 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:38,520 Where'd the story? Go away. 537 00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:40,040 That's that's basically the story. 538 00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:47,640 Just that like basically what I want to ask you is the story is 539 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:51,400 about my mom recently divorced and us in that car with the 540 00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:52,560 Wasps. Yeah. 541 00:27:53,360 --> 00:27:56,000 But can you really stop loving somebody? 542 00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,080 Because that's what me and my mom were thinking about. 543 00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:04,080 Like in that car full of Wasps. You talk about that with your 544 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:07,000 mom. Yeah, well, actually only 545 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,600 recently, though. We weren't having these 546 00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:13,880 vulnerable conversations before. What prompted the change I 547 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:18,240 wonder? Yeah, cuz I feel like is this a 548 00:28:18,240 --> 00:28:22,520 very like, is this a typical immigrant mom move? 549 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:24,800 Like you don't talk about vulnerable stuff with him. 550 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,080 Yeah. How do you how did you start? 551 00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:30,960 I wanna, I wanna know. Yeah, she actually started going 552 00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,040 to therapy, I think. Well, she actually, wow. 553 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:36,320 She has not gone to therapy, but she watches YouTube videos of 554 00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:38,200 therapists. OK, OK. 555 00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:41,160 That's good. And I feel like that's led to a 556 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,440 lot of discussions. She's opening up to. 557 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,120 You. Yeah, but I'm also still kind of 558 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,720 reserved, I'm realizing like. You're the one user one now. 559 00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:55,600 Yeah, I have some things to hide. 560 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,640 Yeah. It's actually beautiful though, 561 00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:02,760 thinking of my mom being in love and no, I don't know that makes 562 00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:04,360 you cry all like just thinking about I like. 563 00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:08,520 OK, that's something else, something else my mom just told 564 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,360 me. So I'm going to China next 565 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,520 month, next week. And I bought some like clothes 566 00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,440 to send to my mom's address so she's she can like bring it to 567 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:18,000 me. So then I can bring bring it 568 00:29:18,000 --> 00:29:19,880 here. And I bought like a like a cute 569 00:29:19,880 --> 00:29:25,360 set that's like like a black and red like skirt set. 570 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:30,040 And, and my mom got the package. She's like, she's like, this is 571 00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:31,840 so short. What are you gonna? 572 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:37,800 Can't you actually wear this? So I'm like, I'm 30 years old, 573 00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:39,920 Why are you still doing this? By the way, I. 574 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,800 You're 25. You are 25, Rachel. 575 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,680 So. OK, my heart take I I gonna I'm 576 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,240 gonna start telling people that I'm 30. 577 00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:52,160 Yeah, yeah. Why? 578 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,640 'Cause I feel 30, 'cause I feel I identify. 579 00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:01,560 This has been OK. I'm gonna tell people I'm 35. 580 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,880 Why are you upping it now? Wait wait wait. 581 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,240 You feel 30? Spiritually. 582 00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:12,520 Morally Like in which sense? I feel 35, not 3030. 583 00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,200 Thirty is just me being more like, you know, conservative 584 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:18,240 about that. Yeah, I actually feel 35. 585 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:20,440 Why? Why 35? 586 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:25,400 Because I feel like I've been feeling 30 when I was 20, so now 587 00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:28,920 I'm 25 I've I should be feeling 35. 588 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:33,520 That Minsky lyric. Do you listen to Minsky whiskey? 589 00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:36,040 You don't have whiskey? Wait, maybe? 590 00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:39,360 She's a Zurich. I was so young when I behaved 25 591 00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:43,520 and now I feel like I've grown into a tall child. 592 00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,920 Oh, a tall child. Yeah, sometimes I feel that. 593 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:51,840 I OK also about tall child. I was telling this joke about 594 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:56,560 like, I, I say, I sometimes I feel like I don't have accent or 595 00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:59,360 as people can't tell that I have an accent or if I'm a immigrant 596 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,040 from China when they first meet me. 597 00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:05,000 And someone said you should say it's like being a tall child 598 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:09,240 because children are not tall. And if you're tall, people are 599 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,360 gonna think you're like, you're an adult, but you're not. 600 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:17,000 Wait, wait, wait, wait. Being a tall child as is like an 601 00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:18,960 analogy for like having an accent. 602 00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,720 Having no accent. Having no accent. 603 00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:23,120 Yeah. Oh, interesting. 604 00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:24,760 Like being two kids in a trench coat. 605 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,000 Almost. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 606 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,480 Yeah. Anyway, what were you talking 607 00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:31,880 about? I completely I completely 608 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:33,960 forgot. I thought I was the one having a 609 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:37,280 hangover. No, I'm just actually a very 610 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,880 Spacey person, to be honest. OK, But you were doing your take 611 00:31:40,880 --> 00:31:42,560 about how you want people to think you're 35. 612 00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:44,440 OK, Thank you. Which is very interesting 613 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:49,440 because most people, like most women want, are imprisoned by 614 00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:54,000 the age and the beauty complex and all this like women have to 615 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:59,520 pretend to be younger. I guess if I'm like 50 I would 616 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:03,360 also think I'm 35. You were spiritually 35. 617 00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:05,800 Forever. Forever 35, Yeah. 618 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,680 Well, it's an interesting age 'cause it's like you're not 40, 619 00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:13,640 you're in your mid 30s. I mean, Sex and the City was so 620 00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:16,800 35. Yes, OK, I'm ready to be in my 621 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:18,840 Sex and the City era. Yes. 622 00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,840 No, I feel like I 'cause I feel like I've lived a life. 623 00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:25,080 How am I only 25? I feel like I've I've been 624 00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:30,160 through so much, but I like the numbers don't add up so well. 625 00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:33,880 The numbers of my age doesn't add up, but I feel like the 626 00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,280 numbers in my bank account kind of goes up to 25 years old. 627 00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:42,320 Someone some some my bank account looks like someone who's 628 00:32:42,320 --> 00:32:45,160 25 year old bank account because. 629 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:48,520 You are you are 25. Yes, I feel like maybe I should 630 00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:51,840 calibrate on that. But you were also saying like 631 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:57,320 being 35 or saying you're 30. Yeah, but doing things that a 25 632 00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:59,200 year old does. Yes yeah, yeah OK. 633 00:32:59,200 --> 00:33:05,560 I feel like I'm mentally like 35, but I have everything else 634 00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:10,880 25 So it's like me being like having the mind of a 35 year old 635 00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:14,480 living in a 25 year old body. Yeah, which is the best thing. 636 00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:18,680 Like that's why I mean there's also like, you know, the beauty 637 00:33:18,680 --> 00:33:22,760 standard and everything. So I feel like I right now I 638 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:25,960 have the privilege of being young, having a young 639 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:30,640 appearance, but I also have the mind of a 35 year old woman. 640 00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:33,120 So I'm like best of both worlds. So I I feel good about that, 641 00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:35,720 yeah. I actually am loving this. 642 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:42,160 Yeah, it's it's very like, like those ancient Greek like beasts 643 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:45,000 that have the head of a lion but the body of a scorpion. 644 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,360 That's you with your 35 year old mind. 645 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:52,160 That's that's what I'm going to dress up As for Halloween. 646 00:33:52,200 --> 00:33:56,520 Yes, we need that. Yeah, you don't feel you, Do you 647 00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,200 feel your age? I want to be like Alexa Demi, 648 00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:02,560 who has no public record of her age if you go to her Wikipedia. 649 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:03,560 Really. Yeah. 650 00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:06,040 I didn't know that. If you go to her Wikipedia it 651 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,760 says I don't know what it's question mark when she was born. 652 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,840 Like not even like an estimate. They don't like have like a 653 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:14,040 range of the time that they think that she's born. 654 00:34:14,199 --> 00:34:15,960 They have a range in some articles. 655 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,520 Oh, but I would love to be mystery. 656 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,080 Like we don't know when she was born. 657 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:23,679 That is kind of cool. You could be like 150 years old 658 00:34:23,679 --> 00:34:27,600 and nobody knows. Wow, maybe that maybe she is. 659 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,800 Maybe she like, old. Yeah, that's that's some part of 660 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:33,280 the secrets the government's trying to keep from us. 661 00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:35,440 Yeah, yeah. How old Alexa Debbie is? 662 00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:39,560 Yeah. Let us know I reveal the files. 663 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:40,520 Yeah. Yeah. 664 00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:41,520 What? Were you saying? 665 00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:46,239 I just, I don't know, I feel like also with my people are 666 00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,159 nicer to you if they think you're younger, which I think is 667 00:34:49,159 --> 00:34:51,360 true. Oh, because they think you're 668 00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:56,560 dumb. Yeah, whereas if you're older 669 00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,800 and you're still acting dumb, people are like, what is wrong 670 00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,000 with her? Oh, you're right. 671 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:03,400 But if you're young but and you're acting old, people are 672 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:04,640 going to think that you're smart. 673 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:09,080 Yes, well, that's your problem, that you're in a 35 year old in 674 00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:10,240 a 25 year old. 'S body. 675 00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,680 Yeah, I guess not. That's not always a good thing 676 00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,160 because people would think, assume that I'm smart, but I'm 677 00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:17,520 actually not. Really. 678 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:20,160 You don't think you're smart? Well, I think I'm smart, 679 00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:21,200 actually. Never mind. 680 00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:24,480 Well. It depends what kind of smart? 681 00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:26,480 Like do you think you're street smart or book smart? 682 00:35:27,720 --> 00:35:32,640 I think I am both. I think I'm I'm OK. 683 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,760 Do you think you're book smart or street smart? 684 00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:37,520 I think I'm like, not street smart. 685 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:41,800 Well, I actually burnt Mac and cheese, yes, on Friday, and I 686 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,680 got carbon monoxide poisoning. Oh my God. 687 00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:46,320 Yeah, OK. That's why I'm Spacey. 688 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:49,640 Probably, yeah. OK, you're the one that's 689 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:51,280 getting high. I'm the one that's getting high. 690 00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:55,000 I'm freaking gas bro. Carbon monoxide. 691 00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:56,360 But he does. How does he feel? 692 00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:00,520 I'm like forgetting things. I'm forgetting things and I have 693 00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:03,080 headaches. Oh no, but I'm also using it as 694 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,200 an excuse to be messy and send DMS. 695 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:09,680 Oh, I have a problem with sending DMS too. 696 00:36:09,680 --> 00:36:12,480 You send DM What's your Yeah? What's your favorite DM you've 697 00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,920 ever sent? OK I have this problem. 698 00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:18,120 When I get drunk I start sending DMS to celebrities. 699 00:36:19,640 --> 00:36:23,880 I want to see these please. I'm like, I feel so vulnerable 700 00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:27,880 because when I'm famous, I have so many people I have to 701 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:34,920 apologize to. Like, like, whenever I like, I 702 00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:40,560 see I sent the DMS that I sent to the celebrities that I sent 703 00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:44,600 DMS to, I feel like I would be friends with them. 704 00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:48,760 Like, it's always someone that I feel like maybe I just saw or 705 00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,240 like, I feel like we have a connection. 706 00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:52,440 Like we. Yeah. 707 00:36:52,720 --> 00:36:57,600 Like the other day I saw Hassan Minhaj downstairs my apartment. 708 00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:01,960 And obviously the day I saw Hassan Minhaj was the worst day 709 00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,400 that I looked. I know, I know. 710 00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:08,720 I couldn't look worse. And for I forgot his name and he 711 00:37:08,720 --> 00:37:11,080 was like wearing like a suit and sunglasses. 712 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:13,880 I forgot his name. Like I was like, are you a 713 00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,520 comedian? And I'm like, and he's like, 714 00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:19,480 yes, he shook my hand. He's like, nice to meet you. 715 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:22,760 And then I, I ran away. I was like so scared. 716 00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,520 He's so beautiful. Yeah, he is. 717 00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:27,000 Oh my God. Yeah. 718 00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,360 He said yes to being a comedian. That's interesting. 719 00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,120 Huh. Because I he's a. 720 00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,840 He's a comedian. Oh, he asked you if you were a 721 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:36,280 comedian. No, no, I asked him. 722 00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,880 Oh, he's a comedian because he's like a streamer or something 723 00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:40,920 like that. Wait, he's a comedian. 724 00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,240 His son. Oh, his. 725 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:46,560 I'm thinking, you know what? I'm thinking of his son, the 726 00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:49,440 streamer who's really sexy. Okay, you're thinking about 727 00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:50,840 Hassan Minaj. Minhaj. 728 00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:52,520 Minhaj. Yeah. 729 00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:55,200 Sorry, I was thinking with Hassan it's okay, but both are 730 00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:56,640 actually very beautiful. Right. 731 00:37:56,640 --> 00:37:59,520 Yeah. So I sent him with you. 732 00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,880 Have a DM, did he ask to open for him? 733 00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:06,400 No, he has like a setting that he doesn't receive DMS from 734 00:38:06,440 --> 00:38:08,960 random fingers. So thank God. 735 00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:12,080 Thank God more. Every celebrity should be doing 736 00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:13,120 that. So I don't want to send them 737 00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,240 stupid DMS and then they read it well. 738 00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,200 What do you say? Or are you just saying hey? 739 00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,280 Yeah, so like, oh, I just saw you dancing my apartment. 740 00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:24,000 I really like your stuff and stuff like that and. 741 00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:26,080 Did you have like a seduction line? 742 00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:27,840 No. Oh, just very nice. 743 00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:31,240 Yeah, or I've how come I Oh my God. 744 00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,880 OK, this is like I have 6 minutes left. 745 00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:36,120 Can I just reveal all the DMS that I've? 746 00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,600 Please, please tell me all of them. 747 00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:42,920 I've sent Martin Scorsese's daughter DM because I I saw her 748 00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:45,480 and I talked to her at a party and I felt like, well, we're 749 00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:47,600 friends now. I can send her Adm Yes. 750 00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,720 But I was like, Oh my God, if you ever want to come to China, 751 00:38:50,720 --> 00:38:51,280 let me know. Oh. 752 00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:54,480 My God. I feel so vulnerable, like, I 753 00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:57,160 feel like I was like so drunk when I sent that. 754 00:38:58,480 --> 00:39:02,680 Obviously when Martin Scorsese's daughter, Francesa Scorsese, 755 00:39:02,680 --> 00:39:04,800 come to China, she's not gonna come to me. 756 00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:07,720 But. I think she should bro. 757 00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:08,840 Right? Yes. 758 00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:13,640 OK Francesca, please please reply on Rachel's DM because 759 00:39:13,720 --> 00:39:15,280 she'll take you out. Yeah, I'll take you. 760 00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:16,880 Yeah, we'll, we'll we'll have a good time. 761 00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:20,840 I've also sent DMS to. Oh my God, there's so many. 762 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,480 Wait. OK, I think. 763 00:39:25,720 --> 00:39:29,120 OK, one more. It's like a DJ that I saw, have 764 00:39:29,120 --> 00:39:30,960 I talked about this before? I'm like podcast. 765 00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:36,360 So it's a DJ that I saw and he's like mid to high tier DJ. 766 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:40,840 And like I was he had a new song released and he played it at the 767 00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:42,920 set that I saw. And I was like, I couldn't 768 00:39:42,920 --> 00:39:45,560 figure out what the lyrics are. And I try to find like look up 769 00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:47,840 the lyrics online, but it's such a new song. 770 00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:52,000 There's no like lyrics that you can just Google And then like, I 771 00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,880 don't like that. The last line of the song was 772 00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:58,400 Bitch, I'm not a couch, so I was like, what does that mean? 773 00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:00,840 Bitch, I'm not a couch, don't sit on me. 774 00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:03,440 Yeah, I don't know what it means, so I I asked him. 775 00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:08,560 In the DM. And he read it like it says 776 00:40:08,560 --> 00:40:11,840 seem, but he didn't reply to me. Damn, I know I was. 777 00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:15,000 I'd rather that you just don't see it, you know? 778 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:16,960 Don't read it if you're not gonna reply. 779 00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:19,120 Exactly. Don't leave me on red. 780 00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:20,720 I feel that. Right. 781 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,560 If I'm A Celebrity, I'm gonna, yeah, at least like your 782 00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,640 message. If, well, you've received creepy 783 00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,960 DMS for sure though, you don't read those. 784 00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:33,040 That's true, yeah. Do you have this creepy DMS? 785 00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:36,200 No, I mean like some people DM nice stuff. 786 00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,720 This one guy was like, and I rarely received received like 787 00:40:39,720 --> 00:40:44,160 DMS like this, but this one was guy was like, Oh, we fans, when 788 00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,080 are you coming to Vancouver? And he signed his name and he 789 00:40:47,080 --> 00:40:51,320 was like me and my 78. He was like me and my 78 year 790 00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,880 old wife and I'm like. That's so sweet. 791 00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,160 That is kind of sweet. Like, that's really nice. 792 00:40:56,160 --> 00:41:00,320 Signing your name at the end of the DM, that's bring that back, 793 00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:03,360 yeah. Well, actually, I want to send 794 00:41:03,360 --> 00:41:08,040 Adm to a celeb, OK? I think me, everyone's saying 795 00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:10,080 this. I think me and Hudson Williams 796 00:41:10,080 --> 00:41:12,440 would be friends. I think we would be friends. 797 00:41:12,440 --> 00:41:19,120 I think yeah, you should. I would say in the DM hey I'll 798 00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:20,880 send him a song. Yeah, you should do it right 799 00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:22,520 now. Well, I don't have my phone. 800 00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:26,320 I'm like, hey, we'll craft after. 801 00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:28,400 We'll craft after. Yeah, I'll send him. 802 00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:32,120 I'll send him. I'll send him. 803 00:41:35,880 --> 00:41:38,280 I'll send him. Wild Horses by Wolf Alice. 804 00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:41,880 OK and be like this is a cool song I've been listening to. 805 00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:47,520 That's so lame, that's my DM. Okay, not even like, if you 806 00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,160 like, you should end with like an open-ended question that's 807 00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:53,120 like, that will boost your like reply rate. 808 00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:57,800 What are you doing later? I thought he's like he has a 809 00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,480 girlfriend. Never mind. 810 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:01,720 You didn't know. I thought he didn't really have 811 00:42:01,720 --> 00:42:03,200 a girlfriend. Cool. 812 00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,560 Did you see that video of him giving a girl a vape? 813 00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:07,360 I don't know. I didn't see there's this. 814 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:12,240 Beautiful video of him dancing. Video of him is beautiful, yeah. 815 00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:16,520 But there's this one where he's like dancing with the model and 816 00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:19,680 he's feeding her a vape like he's holding it for her to vape. 817 00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:21,560 Oh my God, that's kind of sexy, He. 818 00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:23,440 Can't have a girlfriend he's if he's doing that. 819 00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,840 Right. Yeah, even if he does, I mean. 820 00:42:27,240 --> 00:42:30,600 Yeah, maybe it's like a. Front, maybe he has to say he 821 00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,920 has a girlfriend, so then he doesn't get DMS to like scare 822 00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:37,240 off people, you know, I think people do that. 823 00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:41,240 That's true, but I would be down and be just his friend. 824 00:42:41,240 --> 00:42:44,840 Yeah, though to be honest. Oh, and not to be like, but I 825 00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,320 would be Connor Story's friend as well. 826 00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:50,960 Yeah. You said that like, really 827 00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:54,640 reluctantly. No, actually, because the truth 828 00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,400 is I think I don't want to say this about someone who's taken 829 00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:58,520 because I didn't realize he was taken. 830 00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:01,120 But I would marry Hudson Williams and I would befriend 831 00:43:01,120 --> 00:43:04,000 Connor Story And I think Connor Story and I, that's my 832 00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:06,800 parasocial relationship. I think Connor and I would be 833 00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:08,920 friends, OK? Like good friends. 834 00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:13,000 Have you seen like like their like Connie? 835 00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:14,440 What is his name? Connor. 836 00:43:14,800 --> 00:43:19,160 Connor Stories Connor stories. Childhood Like tape. 837 00:43:19,720 --> 00:43:22,640 Oh yes, I've seen his YouTube. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 838 00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:24,640 It was very sweet. It was very sweet. 839 00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,920 There might, I don't know if do you have a pair of social 840 00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,440 relationship with anybody. What does that mean? 841 00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,720 It means it's a celebrity that you're like that. 842 00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:37,560 We're friends in my head. Oh, in my head. 843 00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,240 I. I think I'll be good friends 844 00:43:41,240 --> 00:43:46,440 with Bo and Yang. My God, yeah, I think you guys 845 00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:48,160 would click. I think so too. 846 00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:54,640 OK, I've looked up the timeline. So it seems like Bo and Yang and 847 00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:57,800 Ariana Grande are really like besties now. 848 00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:03,320 And so back when Ariana Grande just like blew up like break 849 00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:07,320 free kind of era problem, that kind of era for Ariana Grande. 850 00:44:07,720 --> 00:44:11,160 Bowen Yang was a graphic designer when that happened. 851 00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:21,360 So if that if if Bowen Yang as as himself, as a he like I'm 852 00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:25,640 just trying to say like right now, I'm I'm not nobody right 853 00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:28,560 now, but like maybe later I'll be friends with someone who's 854 00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,440 like very big right now. Yeah, well, he, I think he's 855 00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:35,280 gonna be in this bed. He's gonna be in this bed next. 856 00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:37,800 I hope so. Yeah, get him on. 857 00:44:38,400 --> 00:44:41,000 OK, that's the next person. Well, I think I've already sent 858 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:44,360 with you. So that one is, yeah. 859 00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:45,360 Yeah. He didn't see you. 860 00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:46,480 He didn't reply. It's OK. 861 00:44:46,840 --> 00:44:52,040 Well. OK, I have a problem apparently. 862 00:44:52,240 --> 00:44:55,400 I think it's beautiful, though. It's very human to reach out to 863 00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:57,080 people. Yeah, want them to. 864 00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:58,360 Come on. Yeah. 865 00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:02,720 I know, I know Celeste Yim who was like the head writer for 866 00:45:02,720 --> 00:45:03,800 SNL. You know her. 867 00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:04,720 No, I don't know. Her. 868 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:05,440 Them. Sorry. 869 00:45:05,720 --> 00:45:06,600 Them. Them. 870 00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:09,960 Oh, them, yeah, yes. I don't know them, but I heard 871 00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:12,960 of a story of how they met, how they got their job was they met 872 00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:16,480 Bowman at a birthday party and they just sent them a packet. 873 00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:18,280 That's crazy. That is crazy. 874 00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:22,680 OK, I do agree. Like I like just meet people at 875 00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:25,040 the most random occasions in New York. 876 00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,800 Yeah. Like I met a very like a big 877 00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,200 influencer just out of this like on the street. 878 00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:35,080 And then like I was asking him about like doing podcasts and 879 00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:37,520 stuff right before I met him, right before I started doing 880 00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,560 podcast. Oh cool. 881 00:45:39,600 --> 00:45:41,640 Oh my God, did. He give you good advice. 882 00:45:42,040 --> 00:45:46,120 I think so, yeah. Are you good at like, meeting 883 00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:47,720 people? Like first impressions? 884 00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:49,800 No. Oh, really? 885 00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:51,480 Maybe I am. I don't know. 886 00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:53,560 Depends on the day. I I definitely didn't give a 887 00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:55,520 good first impression to Salman Hodge. 888 00:45:56,840 --> 00:46:00,000 Because you're rushing. Yeah, I don't think I give good 889 00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:04,960 impressions really. If I know them, if I know that 890 00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:07,760 they are a celebrity, I don't give good impressions. 891 00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:12,520 But when I met that like, like podcaster that's kind of 892 00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:15,160 popular, I didn't know that he was a podcaster. 893 00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:16,960 So I was like, cool, I was chill. 894 00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:20,880 Yeah, I feel like I'm the same. I'm bad at pretending I don't 895 00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:22,200 know somebody. Yeah. 896 00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:26,800 There was like a tik toker at a bar the other day and it was 897 00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:28,360 just awkward. I was like you're getting a 898 00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:30,600 vodka cranberry. Me too. 899 00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:35,640 Damn. OK, OK, one more story. 900 00:46:35,640 --> 00:46:38,480 I have to say this because I feel like I have to like it's 901 00:46:38,680 --> 00:46:44,040 like have to get it out. I met James Austin. 902 00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:49,040 James Austin. Was his last name James. 903 00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:51,080 I don't know Butler, James Austin, but. 904 00:46:51,240 --> 00:46:54,320 No, the person for SNL who does like Trump impressions. 905 00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:57,120 Oh my God, John. Johnson, yeah. 906 00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:59,280 James Austin Johnson. I think so. 907 00:46:59,520 --> 00:47:05,000 I know, I just know him as JAJ and I, I saw him just casually 908 00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:09,840 like I stepped on him. I was like walking and he like 909 00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:14,520 we both like jaywalked and cuz he jaywalked and I jaywalked. 910 00:47:14,520 --> 00:47:16,960 After him, Oh my God. And I stepped on his like back 911 00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:19,040 of his kneel and the. Back of his. 912 00:47:19,160 --> 00:47:22,920 Knee, yeah, no, no, no, the back of his like heel, sorry heel. 913 00:47:23,360 --> 00:47:26,480 And I was like, I'm so sorry. And I'm like, are you the guy 914 00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:30,600 from SNL? And he's like, yeah, yeah, I'm 915 00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:32,560 James. But I didn't hear it and I 916 00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:35,080 forgot his name. So I was like, yeah, yeah, yeah. 917 00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:38,880 And I didn't repeat his name. He was even asking me my name. 918 00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:42,920 And I still like, yeah, I still didn't know his name when I when 919 00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:45,160 I was there. I felt so rude and I felt like I 920 00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:49,920 was so like, I was too excited to like, yeah. 921 00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:54,480 To meet him, yeah, but still, like, I bet you were good. 922 00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:57,200 Like how long was the interaction total? 923 00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:00,200 Like 30 seconds. Yeah, yeah. 924 00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:02,720 And we were walking like to the same direction. 925 00:48:02,720 --> 00:48:06,120 So we were like walking. If I started pretending we 926 00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:08,960 didn't just talk. Damn, that's awkward. 927 00:48:08,960 --> 00:48:11,440 Yeah yeah. Sorry to all the celebrities 928 00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:13,600 that I OK. And then I DM D him afterwards. 929 00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:16,560 What did you say to him? I was like, sorry. 930 00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:23,440 I was like a little yeah to here, to all the celebrities 931 00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:26,600 that I've DM D I'm sorry. I love you. 932 00:48:27,720 --> 00:48:31,120 I need to get like take a class like from you about what DMS 933 00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,240 you're sending. I think it's actually, well, I 934 00:48:33,240 --> 00:48:35,920 think it's beautiful that you're sending very earnest DMS like 935 00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:39,280 you're being very like nice, but and sincerely. 936 00:48:39,480 --> 00:48:40,960 If you should take a class from the. 937 00:48:42,680 --> 00:48:45,920 DMS I send, well I think that the Ms. I send are weird. 938 00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:49,040 It's OK. I mean, even if you're sending 939 00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:50,720 the earnest one, you don't get a reply. 940 00:48:50,720 --> 00:48:53,440 So maybe like. Yeah, maybe become more earnest. 941 00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:57,280 No, maybe become more weird so then they are, you know, they're 942 00:48:57,280 --> 00:48:59,200 intrigued. Yes, they're going to. 943 00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:00,280 Talk about it with their friends. 944 00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:03,040 Oh my God, there was this well, this was not a celebrity, but 945 00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:06,280 there's this guy on hinge. I'm still mad that he ghosted 946 00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:09,280 me. He was like, he was like, 947 00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:10,720 there's something wrong with my car. 948 00:49:10,720 --> 00:49:12,680 And then he sent me 100 pictures of his car. 949 00:49:13,320 --> 00:49:16,800 Oh, I was like, oh, OK, there's something wrong with my car. 950 00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:22,400 And then I sat a really zoomed in picture of Tow Mater and and 951 00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:29,120 he was like, oh and. I love your style OK dating of 952 00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,800 like pint messages. It's kind of random. 953 00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:36,280 Yeah, well, actually more so. It's a visual joke, guys. 954 00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:38,600 It's a visual joke, OK. And. 955 00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:41,120 I'll try to like post like if you can send me the. 956 00:49:41,120 --> 00:49:45,080 Pictures I'll send you the DMS please and then and then he was 957 00:49:45,080 --> 00:49:49,120 like oh, I'm not sure what I'm seeing and then I'm like oh it's 958 00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:54,680 tow mater guys. It was really funny over guys. 959 00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:56,880 It was really funny over a. Text I'll make sure to like. 960 00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:59,440 Put the pictures underneath. Maybe put fake laughter in the 961 00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:02,200 background of an of an audience. I will. 962 00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:03,480 OK. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 963 00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:07,480 That's my DM story. OK, well, I feel like I should 964 00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:09,760 wrap up because we we've run out of time. 965 00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:13,800 And I just want to say that I've been very much enjoying your 966 00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:16,160 Instagram stories. Oh my God. 967 00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:18,800 I love it. Like it's like my yeah it's my, 968 00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:21,480 it's my must do. Like my checklist every day. 969 00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:23,760 Wait, that means the world? Really. 970 00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:26,680 Yeah, that means so much. Oh my God. 971 00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:31,240 Yeah, so everybody follows Vinny because her posts are so funny. 972 00:50:31,240 --> 00:50:33,400 Like watch all of her stories please. 973 00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:35,040 Oh, my God. That means the world. 974 00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:36,720 Thank you, Rachel. Yes. 975 00:50:36,720 --> 00:50:39,400 I I think you're so freaking funny, dude. 976 00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:42,920 Yes, thank you. Like, I I still remember you, 977 00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:46,360 you at that mic. Like it made a huge impression 978 00:50:46,360 --> 00:50:47,520 on me. Yeah. 979 00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:49,800 The one that I don't remember. The one that you don't remember 980 00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:51,800 and you got harassed by some random white guy? 981 00:50:52,120 --> 00:50:53,600 Don't remember what you're talking about. 982 00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:54,680 So many. Yeah. 983 00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:58,760 I was like which one? But I'm a huge fan of you and 984 00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:00,400 thank you so much. That means the world. 985 00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,400 Huge fan of you too. Yeah, everybody follows Beanie 986 00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:06,320 and everybody follows the podcast. 987 00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,320 If you're listening, you haven't followed the podcast. 988 00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:12,040 Please follow the podcast on either Spotify or Apple podcast 989 00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:13,320 or wherever you're listening to this. 990 00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:17,240 It'll mean the world to me because that's what Spotify's 991 00:51:17,240 --> 00:51:20,400 telling me to do, like ask your listeners to follow you. 992 00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:22,640 So I'm trying to do that and implement that. 993 00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:25,360 So thank you. And if you could give me a five 994 00:51:25,360 --> 00:51:28,400 star, Not too much to ask, just no need to. 995 00:51:28,600 --> 00:51:32,280 Maybe if you want to, if you're really a big fan, leave a 996 00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:34,440 comment. You know, that's it. 997 00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:39,080 Leave something nice. Hey, Tag Bowen, tag Bowen. 998 00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:41,960 So he comes. I think he should come. 999 00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:45,200 He should come, yeah. And he works nearby, so I really 1000 00:51:45,200 --> 00:51:46,520 wouldn't even be that big, right? 1001 00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:49,200 Oh, not to tell people where you live. 1002 00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:53,000 Not today. Oh, OK, leave it out. 1003 00:51:53,000 --> 00:51:54,040 I. Think it's OK. 1004 00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:56,720 It's it's very, it's a big, big building. 1005 00:51:56,720 --> 00:51:59,040 Big New New York's very big. Yeah, it's OK. 1006 00:51:59,440 --> 00:52:01,160 Well. Thank you be thank you for 1007 00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:03,280 having me, this was so fun.