1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:04,200 Up to date, I've had three men that written me poems and one 2 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:08,119 guy written me a song. And I'm not impressed by that. 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:10,240 I'm not impressed by any of that. 4 00:00:10,240 --> 00:00:15,440 It's like whenever they do, it's like, like at the the third guy 5 00:00:15,440 --> 00:00:19,040 who's written writing me a poem, he's like, he like you must be 6 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,120 so impressed that I'm writing you a poem. 7 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:23,240 I love you so much that I'm writing you a poem. 8 00:00:23,280 --> 00:00:25,280 Yeah. Like this is the third time. 9 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:27,000 It's that it's. It doesn't. 10 00:00:27,560 --> 00:00:32,680 It's not doing me anything like write me my, I don't know, write 11 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:36,840 me my resume that that'll give me more like I'll like that 12 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:39,080 better than. That does turn me on, though, 13 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:42,400 when a man uses his competency to help me. 14 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:44,160 Yeah. Like when I, you know, it goes 15 00:00:44,160 --> 00:00:47,560 to whether it's like problem solving or like, well, I can 16 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:50,080 introduce you to somebody like that is just like, wow. 17 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,400 Yeah, yeah. You know we love a problem 18 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:53,720 solver. A problem solver. 19 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:58,760 Yeah, like a like a like a hunter, but modern hunter. 20 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:07,880 Yeah, that is modern Hunter. So OB, what's keeping you up 21 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:12,720 tonight? Modern men are gold diggers and 22 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:15,720 they just rebranded it as emotional stability. 23 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:21,360 OK, elaborate. OK, they use coded language 24 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:23,920 these days. They do, they do, right? 25 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:27,800 I've been having some job interviews and it's a lot of 26 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,640 codes and I I don't understand what kind of codes are you 27 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:32,160 talking about so. Example like they'll be like, 28 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,120 oh, she comes from a good family. 29 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:36,160 Oh, that's, that's the code, yeah. 30 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:38,360 Means Hamptons House. Yeah. 31 00:01:38,480 --> 00:01:43,240 She got a great comes from a great school, Hamptons house. 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:45,320 I thought you were gonna say Ivy. 33 00:01:45,320 --> 00:01:48,840 It was still Hamptons house. She has an amazing circle of 34 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:53,800 friends, many Hamptons. Houses exactly, Yeah. 35 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:56,560 So you have all the neighbors are from all the friends are 36 00:01:56,560 --> 00:01:59,760 also from the Hamptons house. Yeah, and The thing is, like 37 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:04,240 women are are still villainized for trying to marry up, but men 38 00:02:04,240 --> 00:02:06,600 are quietly doing that these days. 39 00:02:07,000 --> 00:02:09,400 Yes, they're marrying up. I agree. 40 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:11,800 I I was just thinking about this these days. 41 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,600 Oh yeah, yes, I think I feel like I've been talking to men 42 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:18,040 and they are talk telling me about like their exes, like 43 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:22,520 being richer than them and I didn't know they do that. 44 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:25,760 I thought that and they're very comfortable with that. 45 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,160 They're very happy about that. They're like, oh, I really love 46 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,360 the, the, the purse, the wallet that she got me. 47 00:02:31,360 --> 00:02:35,760 It was a Louis Vuitton wallet. Yeah, she's, she's so much 48 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,280 richer than me. I don't need to support her. 49 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:42,520 She can like she was actually asking to like give me gifts, 50 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:45,640 like support me. So I feel like they are actually 51 00:02:45,640 --> 00:02:47,960 enjoying that. And you nailed it on the head. 52 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:51,440 It's not that they want low maintenance women, they want 53 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:54,360 high maintenance women, but that they don't have to find. 54 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:57,600 Wow. And I know this because I have 55 00:02:57,600 --> 00:03:00,400 two brothers. So I get to sit like, I'll fly 56 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:02,040 on the wall. And they're like in the age 57 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:05,400 range of like late 20s, like early 30s. 58 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:08,800 So it's like prime dating. They get like the pick of the 59 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:10,520 litter and they're with their friends. 60 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:13,240 And so I'm just listening to all these guys who work across like 61 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:17,840 finance, tech, even in the medical field. 62 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:22,080 And these are the considerations that go into them deciding if 63 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,480 they're going to date this woman seriously. 64 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:27,640 I agree. Yes, yes, yes. 65 00:03:27,920 --> 00:03:29,800 Oh my God. Wait, can you say the line again 66 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:31,360 like the high maintenance and low maintenance? 67 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:34,960 So they don't want a low maintenance woman, they want a 68 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:37,800 high maintenance woman that they don't have to pay the 69 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:39,400 maintenance on. Wow. 70 00:03:39,840 --> 00:03:44,440 Do you know how expensive it is to have your life together? 71 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,560 Yes. Wow, you're just preaching. 72 00:03:47,680 --> 00:03:50,400 Keep going if you have more. Oh my God. 73 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,040 Like, think about it, you got you got your, your physical, you 74 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:57,400 got your mental, you got your spiritual, all those things. 75 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,440 They need to be fed, they need to be exercised, they need to be 76 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:02,120 challenged, they need to be rested. 77 00:04:02,360 --> 00:04:05,040 I mean, that's like a whole Berry's boot camp class there. 78 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,480 That's like 45 bucks. It's. 79 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:13,000 Various boot camp classes are 45 bucks 40. $5 it's insane it. 80 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:15,360 Is insane. It's it's insane how much you 81 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,360 have to spend in this. Also, it's in the city. 82 00:04:17,360 --> 00:04:21,640 Like how much it it is to like just live a normal life. 83 00:04:21,880 --> 00:04:25,640 So if you have like I feel like people are women are getting 84 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,760 called out for having high standards or being high 85 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:32,560 maintenance for just wanting to do the normal things like like 86 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:36,480 the bare minimum things to go to a yoga class. 87 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,480 And it's like these are necessary things that help make 88 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:44,920 us grounded, another coded language, which that's an 89 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:48,440 expensive thing to. Be grounded is just a way of 90 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,680 saying that she does expensive things but I don't need to pay 91 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:53,520 for. It don't have to pay for it like 92 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,240 even the ability to sleep in. Oh yeah. 93 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:58,200 I mean just the ability to sleep. 94 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:00,360 When is the last time you slept in I? 95 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:06,840 Have not we could also get to it because I have a checklist for 96 00:05:06,840 --> 00:05:10,320 how to not like how to avoid these gold digger guys. 97 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,480 OK, how do I, how do we do that? OK, so. 98 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,560 Well, I guess we could back up just a little bit. 99 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,920 I love that you're you have a checklist for avoiding these. 100 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:22,440 Gold digger guys. OK here's the checklist is like 101 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:26,520 one hobbies avoid a man with hobbies. 102 00:05:26,560 --> 00:05:28,200 Wait. Andy Hobbies I thought you were 103 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:29,080 going to list. Hobbies. 104 00:05:29,400 --> 00:05:32,840 No, no, no, no, no, no, no. These are we're and we're not 105 00:05:32,840 --> 00:05:34,480 ladies. We're not calling these red 106 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:36,480 flags. I'm over the color red being 107 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:39,160 villainized like everyone looks great in red. 108 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:41,600 No, we're going to call this risk management. 109 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:46,280 This is the Obie's risk management framework for 110 00:05:46,280 --> 00:05:50,880 avoiding gold digging men. 1A man with hobbies. 111 00:05:52,720 --> 00:05:54,960 Just not even. I don't know, no. 112 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:57,520 OK, OK. Is that what you're going to 113 00:05:57,520 --> 00:05:59,880 say? I don't know a male who likes to 114 00:05:59,880 --> 00:06:03,160 sew. Why don't you ponder on that one 115 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:06,000 for a bit? I think you right just prove my 116 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:07,520 point. You're right. 117 00:06:07,560 --> 00:06:09,160 You're right, Right. You're right. 118 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:10,360 Yes. Ding, Ding, Ding. 119 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:11,880 You know what that's the sound of? 120 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:13,520 Ding Ding. Ding, what is that? 121 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:18,400 Disappointment two. You ready for two? 122 00:06:18,400 --> 00:06:21,200 Oh, I think I'm ready. I'm just running through my 123 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,080 head. Like just all the hobbies that I 124 00:06:23,080 --> 00:06:25,560 thought was green flags that run into my head. 125 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,040 Nah, Nah, Nah. No, you gotta throw them out. 126 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,160 #2. OK. 127 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,000 Dreams. Dreams. 128 00:06:33,240 --> 00:06:36,200 Nothing more dangerous to a woman than a man with dreams. 129 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:40,720 Not oh really, but they have potential. 130 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:43,360 Why don't you think about what you just said? 131 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:47,600 Oh. My God I'm so bad at this. 132 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:52,200 But it's amazing because your gut reaction is exactly laying 133 00:06:52,200 --> 00:06:55,160 the things that cause like issues for us potential. 134 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,480 And you know, we always get scolded if we're going after a 135 00:06:57,480 --> 00:06:59,480 man's potential. Well, you're right, you're 136 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,800 right, right? Dreams, it starts off with they 137 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:05,480 have so much potential. Next thing what they had an open 138 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:11,560 mic doing stand up comedy. Oh, my God, that's so true, 139 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:12,760 Right? And there's so many of them. 140 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:14,880 I can't, I can't even. I can't believe it. 141 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:16,000 I didn't. Yeah. 142 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:17,920 I didn't see that. The the open mikers. 143 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:19,920 Yeah. And the and the and the, the 144 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:22,680 thing about that is now they're poor, but they got the 145 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:26,480 confidence of a CEO. True. 146 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:30,040 There's so many confident men out there, right? 147 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,880 It's wait, I've, I think I've seen this somewhere. 148 00:07:32,880 --> 00:07:35,800 This might not be original. It's like men can be so 149 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,240 mediocre, but they are so confident. 150 00:07:38,240 --> 00:07:41,560 But women are so great, but they're so humble. 151 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:44,760 Yes. Yeah, I think yeah. 152 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:46,760 Oh my God, this OK, this is a sidetrack. 153 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:50,480 Sorry to no go distract your your I want to hear the fullest. 154 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:55,080 But this is a from a Chinese comic, Chinese woman comic. 155 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:58,080 Her name is Yang Li, and she was she's very famous. 156 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:01,160 She went on a show and her one of her jokes was about like, 157 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:05,120 what is it like? Like what I said, like men are 158 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:08,080 so mediocre. Men are so confident. 159 00:08:08,280 --> 00:08:11,400 And she got like death threats because of that. 160 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:15,760 She got like, so people are so angry about her. 161 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,800 I so many people sending her messages and people are like 162 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:21,400 sending hate comments or like, oh, I, I don't even want to date 163 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:22,880 women like that. And people are like, oh, you, 164 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,760 you can't even get near her or someone like that. 165 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:29,480 Yeah, but the fact that she got death threats because of that, 166 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:30,600 it's. Over That is insane. 167 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:32,559 Yeah. Was it coming from women too? 168 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:37,600 No, for men. For men, yeah, just like they're 169 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:39,559 just angry. See, that's ironic because if 170 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:42,120 somebody was like, hey, you can achieve everything you want by 171 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:45,080 being mediocre, I'd be like through the roof. 172 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:47,800 Exactly. You should be more confident 173 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:49,320 about that. You should actually be doing 174 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:50,000 something. Yeah. 175 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:52,640 It's only a three prong framework. 176 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:53,720 A what? A what? 177 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:55,240 A three prong. Yeah. 178 00:08:55,240 --> 00:08:56,600 OK, OK. What's the third one? 179 00:08:56,880 --> 00:09:00,840 The third. 1. Is foodie foodie? 180 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:05,240 You can't even date a foodie. No, no, not even like they're, 181 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:08,240 they like down to the earth like a food truck food. 182 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:12,240 That's what you want. No, no, no. 183 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:14,480 You wanna be eating out of a truck? 184 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:18,360 Me in this beautiful room. And that's what you see for your 185 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:22,040 future. Oh my God, you're so right. 186 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,960 I got called like that stare that you just gave me. 187 00:09:24,960 --> 00:09:27,160 I don't know. I, I feel like I've seen my past 188 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:31,040 24 years of life, 25 years of life just passing through me. 189 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:32,560 All the mistakes I've made. Oh, man. 190 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:37,440 Oh, thank you. The foodie Foodie is woman's 191 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:38,760 talk. OK, that's going to be a 192 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,520 controversial take, but being a foodie is woman's talk. 193 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,920 OK. In the ancient times, Roman 194 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:48,800 soldiers would walk for miles eating biscuits. 195 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,280 Roman soldiers eat biscuits. Yes. 196 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:54,560 I thought they OK Roman. OK. 197 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:56,240 It's still Yeah, people are cooking. 198 00:09:56,920 --> 00:10:02,000 It was just some kind of like kind of dough thing that they 199 00:10:02,000 --> 00:10:03,320 would mix. True, true, true. 200 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:06,600 I was thinking like, like Cavemen. 201 00:10:06,680 --> 00:10:08,880 I'm sorry. Oh, no, no, a little bit, not 202 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:10,680 too far, but a little bit further than that. 203 00:10:10,680 --> 00:10:12,760 Yeah, they would eat these biscuits. 204 00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:16,480 That is the lineage, ladies, that we need to tap into. 205 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:22,200 Yeah, we're the gatherers. Yes, Yeah, we're the one that's 206 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:25,760 taking care of the food in the in the history in like Asian 207 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:28,480 history. So they shouldn't be the one. 208 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:32,000 That's like asking for so much. Right. 209 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:33,680 Variety and. Like, why do you, how do you 210 00:10:33,680 --> 00:10:35,560 have the time to think about food? 211 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:38,840 You should be like focused on working or something, I don't 212 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:42,040 know, lowering your cholesterol. Like, why are you walking around 213 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:43,520 talking about like? Food. 214 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:46,360 Exactly. Watch those cholesterol guys. 215 00:10:46,680 --> 00:10:49,520 Yeah, and sometimes a lot of like food. 216 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:54,720 I think some food makes you lose your hair quicker too, right? 217 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:56,400 Yeah. Yeah, you're right. 218 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:59,800 You're right. I think 40, OK. 219 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:03,760 I don't know. Hair people with hair No. 220 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:05,800 What are you talking about? You're or you're or you're? 221 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:07,000 Now you're adding buns. OK. 222 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:12,880 I'm trying to add points the the the go digger potential people 223 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:15,920 with hair because they they haven't seen the other side. 224 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:16,720 That's a good. One. 225 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:18,640 I like that one. I don't know. 226 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,360 That's what my mom tells me. She's like, she's like, look for 227 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:24,280 a man who's balding, really like that, you're gonna get closer to 228 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:27,240 him, like asking you, you know, to, to do something serious than 229 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,880 a man with a full head of hair. Oh my God, it's so true. 230 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:30,680 Yeah. Yeah. 231 00:11:30,680 --> 00:11:32,000 I wait. I love your mom. 232 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:35,120 I know this is how I, how come I have these like raw takes in 233 00:11:35,120 --> 00:11:36,600 this world 'cause my family's from Fiji. 234 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:40,040 So like, we just basically escaped like pooping into like a 235 00:11:40,080 --> 00:11:42,720 hole in the ground. So I just don't have like the 236 00:11:42,720 --> 00:11:47,280 capacity to romanticize life. No, you can't have a man that's 237 00:11:47,360 --> 00:11:49,600 gold digging you. No, I don't have any gold to 238 00:11:49,600 --> 00:11:55,480 dig. There are a lot, actually a lot 239 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:59,000 of like men who think women are gold diggers, but they don't 240 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:03,400 have any gold to dig a. 100% yeah, I, I called one of my one 241 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:04,800 of my brother's friends out on that. 242 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:08,200 He was talking about this girl. Oh, you know, she wants my 243 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:09,280 money. We go out to eat. 244 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:12,880 She expects me to pay. I'm like, you're a consultant at 245 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,600 Deloitte, like you make 150,000 a year. 246 00:12:16,680 --> 00:12:18,120 What is she digging? Copper. 247 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:21,600 Like what? What gold is she digging get? 248 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,160 Real they. Talk about that. 249 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:25,240 To this day, they're like, I can't believe OB said that. 250 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,520 I'm like, yeah, because you got your head up your kotakis. 251 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:29,320 Like you don't even have gold to dig. 252 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:32,920 Yeah, I know She can't believe you said that because he doesn't 253 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:35,800 want to hear the truth. Yeah, he he wish he had more 254 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:37,760 gold. If he actually has more gold. 255 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:40,560 OK, Yeah, if someone who actually has a lot of gold, 256 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:42,760 they're not not afraid of. They're not thinking. 257 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:44,320 About that, they're not thinking about that. 258 00:12:44,440 --> 00:12:46,320 They're not accusing women or anyone. 259 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,200 Yeah. As a gold diggers, yeah. 260 00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:50,360 Yeah, it's like slow your roll. They're Bezos. 261 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:55,320 Just cuz you order off Amazon doesn't mean you're Jeff Bezos. 262 00:12:55,320 --> 00:13:02,960 Yeah, no, I feel like, OK, but if I have a, you're right, 263 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:04,640 you're right. If I have a lot of gold, I 264 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:07,280 probably wouldn't want, I wouldn't want a gold digger. 265 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:10,040 I don't know. OK, I've thought about this too. 266 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:14,080 Like what if you are, what if you are on the other end, right. 267 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:16,760 So I actually have a, a name for these couples. 268 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:20,520 I call them the modern mismatches. 269 00:13:20,960 --> 00:13:23,680 And you can see it, you see it especially in New York and in 270 00:13:23,680 --> 00:13:26,200 Boston. Like these guys who like just 271 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:29,280 look like something sculpted out of a magazine, probably work in 272 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:31,720 like finance or tech or something. 273 00:13:31,960 --> 00:13:36,080 And then the girl, the woman or not, you know not who you would 274 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:39,680 expect to be with. And and you're looking at that, 275 00:13:39,680 --> 00:13:41,880 you're like, OK, he's not attracted to her. 276 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:43,640 He's attracted to her dad's LinkedIn. 277 00:13:44,520 --> 00:13:48,080 Now, let's say you're one of these ladies, OK, You don't want 278 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,320 to be these ladies. You don't want to be with a gold 279 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:53,040 digger because they will never appreciate you. 280 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:56,680 They're always going to think that somehow they're doing you a 281 00:13:56,680 --> 00:14:02,720 favor, even though your dad or your family are subsidizing your 282 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:05,640 lifestyle. Yeah, that's like they're gonna 283 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:09,080 gaslight you into giving them their the resources. 100%. 284 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:15,160 Yeah, I OK, we don't talk enough about how like we talk a lot 285 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:19,720 about how women are marrying up, marrying rich or being gold 286 00:14:19,720 --> 00:14:22,080 diggers. But there's so many people that 287 00:14:22,080 --> 00:14:27,240 I even know, like in person, their boyfriends are asking them 288 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:31,040 for money or like asking like, oh, could you just lend me 100 289 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:33,360 bucks? I'll I'll pay you back like 290 00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:36,160 right now, like after a couple days. 291 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:40,120 But they don't, they never do. And like I feel like there's a 292 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:45,600 lot of delusional or like very like boy coded women are giving 293 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:49,040 these men money. It's not like sometimes they 294 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:51,160 don't even have that much money. They're just like thinking 295 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:57,000 about, like trying to be nice or, or, or like, I don't want to 296 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:59,720 say gullible because sometimes they do have some pretty good 297 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:03,000 excuses to make you fall for it, but. 298 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:05,960 Well, it's also you nailed it about the gaslighting. 299 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:09,680 As women, we're trying to fight against the stigma that we are 300 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:14,920 are after something. So we do that offense an 301 00:15:14,920 --> 00:15:18,640 offensive way an an offense, an offensive defense by being like 302 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:24,760 here, take money, take whatever and plug into my network to try 303 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:28,280 to prove that we're not doing that while completely ignoring 304 00:15:28,280 --> 00:15:30,720 that they're actually the ones doing it to us. 305 00:15:31,240 --> 00:15:35,080 And they also they're they're not just gold diggers to like 306 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:39,080 their romantic partners. Like, I think I, I've seen this 307 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:42,480 tick tock or whatever article like they like the when you 308 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:47,160 observe how they act in like social events, like networking 309 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:51,480 events to like other men who are senior or may bring benefits to 310 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:55,640 them, You can see how like they're more desperate than a 311 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:58,000 gold digger. Women who are trying to marry 312 00:15:58,000 --> 00:15:59,480 up. They're they're like doing all 313 00:15:59,480 --> 00:16:01,640 the networking. They have like a whole set of 314 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:06,760 coded language they they would express to, I don't know, 315 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:13,160 shareholders like being in the front of finance, like doing 316 00:16:13,160 --> 00:16:17,400 private equity or I don't know the terms, what's the terms like 317 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:19,200 the front? Front office. 318 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:23,040 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's literally like, like 319 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:25,800 trained gold diggers. You're literally digging gold 320 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:29,120 from the shareholders. Nailed it on the head. 321 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:33,120 So we romanticize these guys with jobs like private equity, 322 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:36,120 hedge fund, investment banking. You know what all that 323 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:38,800 translates to? You have to raise capital. 324 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:42,440 That is, you have to sell and raise money. 325 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:46,520 You are just walking around digging for gold and that's 326 00:16:46,520 --> 00:16:49,160 where it's like as a woman, you don't want to put yourself in 327 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,040 alignment with these guys because they're going to be 328 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:55,560 looking to you like, do you have money to put in to give your 329 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,880 family money to put this? Do you have a network I can plug 330 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,640 into? And that's what they're looking 331 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:00,280 for. You know what? 332 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:03,680 I don't blame them, but those are not the guys you want. 333 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:07,560 Yeah. Also, even if you don't have a 334 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:10,359 network or a family that they can plug into, like just the 335 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:15,040 fact that you are like as a woman, you're pretty or you're 336 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:18,160 you, you have a good background. Even if you're not directly 337 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:21,440 giving them money or resources, having you by their side I feel 338 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:25,240 like it's already a like bump up their net worth so they can get 339 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:29,160 more social status and then get more money from the 340 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:30,800 shareholders. For which they give you no 341 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:32,120 credit. Yes. 342 00:17:32,120 --> 00:17:34,200 You get no credit for that. You don't get credit for that. 343 00:17:34,360 --> 00:17:36,360 That's true. I never thought about that. 344 00:17:36,360 --> 00:17:40,600 You don't get credit for standing next to the private 345 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:45,960 equity guy when he's actually your presence actually like. 346 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:49,960 Helps boost his credibility. Yeah, you know who I think are 347 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:53,440 the most undertapped resources of in terms of men? 348 00:17:53,760 --> 00:17:56,440 Who? The P, the guys who work in like 349 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:58,800 the service, the service providers in like financial 350 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:01,960 service, like anyone from the BIG4, the big four like 351 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:05,760 Deloitte. KPMGEY was the other one. 352 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:11,440 TWC, It's not sexy, right? It is not McKinsey, it is not 353 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:16,360 Goldman Sachs. But those companies, the, the, 354 00:18:16,360 --> 00:18:18,560 the company, the, the firm themselves hold the 355 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:21,400 relationships. So to be successful in those 356 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,240 companies, you got to be a grinder. 357 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:26,880 So you're getting these guys who when they achieve success, it is 358 00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:31,040 through them grinding through technical ability more so than 359 00:18:31,040 --> 00:18:34,280 like having to sell or like raise capital. 360 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:36,840 And so these guys are like diamonds. 361 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,280 I feel like, yeah, it's not sexy. 362 00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:41,040 Their job is never going to sound sexy. 363 00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:42,400 They're going to be boring as hell. 364 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:44,280 But you know what? You're going to sleep well at 365 00:18:44,280 --> 00:18:45,480 night and you're going to be fed. 366 00:18:45,680 --> 00:18:47,760 Wow. Yeah, OK, I do love me. 367 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:48,720 I'm boring, man. We. 368 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:52,440 Do like, why do you want? What do you want to be? 369 00:18:52,720 --> 00:18:54,960 You want to beat Don Draper? You want to date Don Draper? 370 00:18:54,960 --> 00:18:56,760 I mean, like, I'd rather beat Don Draper. 371 00:18:56,760 --> 00:19:00,160 Yes, exactly. I OK, I think I was thinking 372 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:03,720 about it before too. I was, I was like for like if 373 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:07,360 I'm describing a guy or like the dates that I want the dynamic to 374 00:19:07,360 --> 00:19:09,760 be in, I want to be the one that's picking restaurants. 375 00:19:09,760 --> 00:19:11,480 I want to be the one that's making reservations, like 376 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:14,680 getting us into like the restaurants that's hard to get 377 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,280 reservations to. I want to be the impressive 1 378 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:21,520 and taking control, taking the taking the lead. 379 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:24,880 And I feel like a lot of guys, they want to do that. 380 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,000 And I feel like that just doesn't work with me. 381 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:30,200 It might work at at the beginning, but I feel like long 382 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:33,200 term, I feel like it's not. Maybe we're just too. 383 00:19:33,760 --> 00:19:36,320 We're just too strong women. That's what I was like. 384 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:38,920 That's what the foodie thing was, right? 385 00:19:38,920 --> 00:19:40,160 That's why I said it's woman's talk. 386 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:44,680 That's a woman's, woman's area to do like you. 387 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,040 Like you're the ones who's like, oh, like we're like the 388 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:48,840 gatherers. Like, oh, OK, this is like a 389 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,520 cool place to be. And then they show up and 390 00:19:50,520 --> 00:19:52,720 they're just hungry and thankful. 391 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:56,640 Like, wow, that's amazing. Yes, yes, yes, we take care of 392 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,640 that part. Like I'm seeing this guy I 393 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:04,240 melted cheese on cracker. I and I picked, I did crackers 394 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:06,840 because all the bread in my apartment had molded out like 395 00:20:06,840 --> 00:20:08,680 my, my household is not a bread household. 396 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:10,360 So I melt this cheese on a cracker. 397 00:20:10,360 --> 00:20:13,480 He's like, that's amazing. Oh, wait, I don't. 398 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:14,800 Is it? Is it a press? 399 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:18,120 I feel like I don't know if it's an impressive thing to melt 400 00:20:18,120 --> 00:20:19,760 cheese on a cracker. Is it? 401 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:21,840 For the right man, for the right man. 402 00:20:22,040 --> 00:20:24,400 That's my point. That is how you weed them out. 403 00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:28,600 You melt cheese on a cracker for cheese on a cracker, melted is 404 00:20:28,600 --> 00:20:29,960 one of the most satisfying things. 405 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:33,480 If a man see eats that and is like so excited about it, that's 406 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:36,360 the man for you. That's the that's the anti gold 407 00:20:36,360 --> 00:20:38,840 digger. Oh yeah, yeah. 408 00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,480 You don't want a guy who who eats that that you made and then 409 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:46,480 like I like caviar better. 100% or was like talking about some 410 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:49,280 stupid thing from Yelp that he's like, well, they do this amazing 411 00:20:49,280 --> 00:20:50,680 Mac and cheese. He's like, why are you thinking 412 00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:52,600 about Mac and cheese? Like, are you eating Mac and 413 00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:54,880 cheese and going out there and like taking over the world Like. 414 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:57,960 Yeah, yeah, No, I don't think. I don't think. 415 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:00,960 Wait, I don't know if Jeff Bezos eats Mac and cheese? 416 00:21:01,360 --> 00:21:04,960 No he doesn't, but I'm sure if Lauren Sanchez melted cheese on 417 00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:09,560 crackers he's like this great. I do feel like, OK, I, I don't 418 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:13,560 know about how like good of a man Jeff Bezos is, but I feel 419 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:16,280 like he definitely treats Lauren Sanchez well. 420 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:18,800 I don't know. I I've had this thought too. 421 00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:20,360 I would never want to work for him. 422 00:21:20,360 --> 00:21:23,120 I don't think unless he was going to offer me like stand up 423 00:21:23,120 --> 00:21:25,400 comedian, whatever on Amazon, I will take that. 424 00:21:25,760 --> 00:21:28,800 But yeah, I but I think he treats his woman well. 425 00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:30,840 Yeah. You can tell. 426 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,680 How do you tell? Because of how the woman looks 427 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:35,880 like, if she's vibrant, that's how I judge. 428 00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:38,680 That's how I judge men. If your wife, if you're, if 429 00:21:38,680 --> 00:21:42,480 you're a successful man and your wife is vibrant and like happy, 430 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:44,680 then I'm like, OK, you're treating her well. 431 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:49,400 Where is like Bill Gates wife? She always had looked so worn 432 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,720 and I that's why I was like, I would never want to be before 433 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:55,320 any of the allegations came out. I was like looking at her. 434 00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,360 I was a kid. I was like, something's not 435 00:21:57,360 --> 00:22:01,240 right here for that much money. Why she looks so worn? 436 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,960 Well, she looks amazing. Yeah, that's true. 437 00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,600 That's a good point. I didn't think about that. 438 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,000 Now I'm thinking like, what? What is it? 439 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:13,760 Mark Zuckerberg's wife, I think she's also. 440 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,600 She does her things too. I don't know what to make of 441 00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:18,120 her. I don't. 442 00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:22,600 She's so individualistic and the two of them are like such peers 443 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,720 that sometimes I can't tell. It's like, is she just deciding 444 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:30,120 this is the fashion choices she wants to make or is there 445 00:22:30,120 --> 00:22:33,800 something weighing her down to? I don't know. 446 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:38,680 I feel like it's like Mark Zuckerberg's been showing, I 447 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:42,440 don't know, at least on social media, that he's a good husband 448 00:22:42,600 --> 00:22:45,560 and he does all the like. He wrote a song for her or like 449 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,000 made a statue for her. Oh God. 450 00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:53,240 But it's like, it's like, you know, I feel like this is kind 451 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,480 of like some types of guy that I've been with. 452 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:59,520 It's like they do all the things to get credits to like, like, 453 00:22:59,800 --> 00:23:03,400 you know, keep a score. Like I've done this thing for 454 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,880 you. You must be so happy that I did 455 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:09,040 this. But it's not actually like she 456 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:10,440 didn't ask for it. She didn't ask for it. 457 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:14,360 Like nobody wants to sit through a song you wrote unless maybe 458 00:23:14,360 --> 00:23:17,400 you're like a famous musician and you're re appropriating like 459 00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,160 one of your hits and putting like Obi Obi Obi in it. 460 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,560 They're OK. But like otherwise I really 461 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:25,760 don't want to like do a one person open mic with you. 462 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:29,680 Oh my God. One person open like yes, you're 463 00:23:29,680 --> 00:23:31,560 not even famous for that. You're not even. 464 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:32,640 Like you don't even do that for a. 465 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:37,080 Living like build some cool AI thing for her that. 466 00:23:37,080 --> 00:23:40,920 Exactly exactly that'd be cool build some like AI thing like 467 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:43,560 that she wants to do like that would benefit her life. 468 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:47,080 Like, she's very passionate about medicine and, and she 469 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:48,760 does, she's involved in a lot of charities. 470 00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:52,280 I if I were her, I'd be thrilled if he donated some kind of tech 471 00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:53,880 around that right? Right, right. 472 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,760 Not I don't need him singing to me. 473 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:59,440 Yeah, that's. I'd I saw that statue, that 474 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:02,720 thing that he put in their garden, I was like, I don't, I 475 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:07,560 wouldn't want that either. Yeah, no, I OK, that's a little 476 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:08,880 creepy. That's weird. 477 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,560 And then you usually make, I don't know if you like statues 478 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,040 of people are made after they are dead. 479 00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:19,680 Yeah, Yeah. Anyway, this reminds me of, I 480 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:23,640 don't remember if I talked about this on the pod, but I've had up 481 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:27,560 to date, I've had three men that written me poems and one guy 482 00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:31,160 written me a song and I'm not impressed by that. 483 00:24:31,360 --> 00:24:33,280 I'm not impressed by any of that. 484 00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:38,000 It's like whenever they do, it's like, like at the third, the 485 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,560 third guy who's written writing me a poem, he's like, he like 486 00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,200 you must be so impressed that I'm writing you a poem. 487 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,280 I love you so much that I'm writing you a poem. 488 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:50,880 Yeah, like, just the third time. It's that it's, it doesn't, it's 489 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:56,080 not doing me anything like write me my, I don't know, write me my 490 00:24:56,080 --> 00:25:00,480 resume that that'll give me more like a I'll like that better 491 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,120 than. That does turn me on, though, 492 00:25:02,120 --> 00:25:05,480 when a man uses his competency to help me. 493 00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:07,240 Yeah. Like when I, you know, it goes 494 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:10,640 to whether it's like problem solving or like, well, I can 495 00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,160 introduce you to somebody like that is just like, wow. 496 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:15,440 Yeah, yeah. You know we love a problem 497 00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:16,800 solver. A problem solver. 498 00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:21,800 Yeah, like a like a like a hunter, but modern hunter. 499 00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:25,440 Yeah, that is modern Hunter. Yeah, they're not gold. 500 00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,200 Diggers. No, yeah. 501 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,840 Not that I'm thinking about it. OK? 502 00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:33,760 The other day I was thinking, would I be a good sugar mommy if 503 00:25:33,760 --> 00:25:37,000 I have so much money? Would I be a sugar mommy? 504 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:41,760 I was thinking that. It's a tough one because I don't 505 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,400 know, I think in every woman, regardless of the age or 506 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,720 economics, there's a part of you that wants to be taken. 507 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:50,280 Care of, right? Yes. 508 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,480 So I want to be taken care of. So. 509 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,640 But if I already make so much money, I don't need to be taken 510 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:58,000 care of. I wonder, I would love to know 511 00:25:58,000 --> 00:25:59,880 what's going on with Gisele bündchen. 512 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,720 She, I don't know if you know what happened with her, but she 513 00:26:02,720 --> 00:26:05,840 was like married to Tom Brady. They broke up and she got 514 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:10,560 together with her like martial arts and fitness instructor. 515 00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:12,440 Now they're married and they have a baby. 516 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:15,520 She she's like almost a billionaire. 517 00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:19,000 He. Nowhere near that, but they seem 518 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,120 really happy. So like that would be like a 519 00:26:21,120 --> 00:26:25,520 modern day sugar Mama situation that seems to be working for 520 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,840 them because he's so grounded in his own masculine. 521 00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:30,640 Energy because he's this like martial. 522 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:31,880 Arts. Right. 523 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,360 So he's not like threatened by by her. 524 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:41,200 So I feel like, OK, maybe being like a powerful woman also helps 525 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:45,240 you find the right man who's not threatened by your power. 526 00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:48,720 Yes. So maybe even if you're not a 527 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,400 sugar mommy, you're already wedding, but whatever man, 528 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:56,160 you're finding because because you already have the power and 529 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:59,120 the. Yeah, I do believe we get what 530 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:02,200 we give out. And if you have substance, 531 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:04,600 you're going to attract substance. 532 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:07,840 I have this one girlfriend. I love her to death, but like, 533 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:11,080 she since college, like she just dated guys who are always kind 534 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:13,080 of con artists. And then I was like looking at 535 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:14,000 her. And I was like, there's this 536 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,720 pattern. And when I think about you, my 537 00:27:16,720 --> 00:27:18,800 friend, she's always running schemes. 538 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:22,000 Oh, what do you mean? Like she just always like she's 539 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,400 the kind of person that will like buy something and then 540 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,400 return it after she's used it type of thing. 541 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:29,440 And she does it like beyond when you like, we all sort of did 542 00:27:29,440 --> 00:27:31,960 that in college, but it's like you just stop now. 543 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,760 Shouldn't stop. She never stopped like it's just 544 00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,200 those kind of things. And and then so these guys that 545 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,720 she dates, they're also gold diggers because her family is 546 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:45,120 like pretty well off, but she herself doesn't have like money. 547 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:47,920 So that's where like a lot of her relationships haven't worked 548 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,800 out because then they're expecting when things are 549 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:53,320 getting serious, they're expecting like her to give more 550 00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,800 money. And she's like, well, my parents 551 00:27:55,800 --> 00:28:01,200 have money but I don't have. Money, yeah, it is very. 552 00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:05,080 I don't know, when it comes to marriage, I feel like it's also 553 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,280 a different thing like than dating. 554 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,840 Like it's more serious. It's literally you have to 555 00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:14,360 combine your finances and like, like, whatever the law recognize 556 00:28:14,360 --> 00:28:17,960 you as like a like One Financial entity. 557 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:21,480 Yeah. So it's, it's a little scary if 558 00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:27,520 if you're the one that's like, yeah, I, I feel like when I was 559 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:31,640 in China, this like very, very, very. 560 00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:33,960 I don't know about other countries, but back in China, 561 00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:40,280 people who like usually their parents will buy a house for 562 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,520 them. Like guys, parents will buy a 563 00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,320 house for them. Like if they don't buy a house, 564 00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,480 he's not going to marry someone. Well, yeah. 565 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:53,120 Like like if I go back to China and marry someone in China, I 566 00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:58,240 automatically have a Yeah, but but usually the woman also has a 567 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,040 house too. Like usually maybe they buy the 568 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,360 house and the woman does like maybe they put in a smaller 569 00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,240 percentage but or but it's all like family. 570 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:07,800 Coming together. Yeah, yeah. 571 00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:13,440 It's like, it's like the marriage, the guy, the the the 572 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,640 guy's parents already planning the marriage. 573 00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:19,680 It's like what in the US the family save for the college, but 574 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,840 I feel like in China they save for the house for the marriage. 575 00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,680 So I did some research because I didn't want to be completely 576 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,960 anecdotal about this modern men, gold diggers. 577 00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:37,160 And what popped up was Asian men are the least likely to be stay 578 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:41,840 at home husbands. And the the rate has been 579 00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:46,040 increasing like drastically since 1989. 580 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:50,800 It's gone from 11% to 18%, which according to what I was reading 581 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:53,880 is a pretty big jump for that period of time. 582 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,760 So it's like steadily going up that more men want to be house 583 00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:00,400 husbands. You're not going to you're going 584 00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,680 to be very unlikely to find that with an Asian man. 585 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,200 Oh, interesting. His mom won't let him. 586 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:10,320 Wow, wait, wait, I didn't know. So what does it mean if they're 587 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:14,840 not stay home husbands? That means they're out there 588 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:16,640 making money. Yeah, they're out there working. 589 00:30:17,560 --> 00:30:21,800 I do. Like Asian men are another under 590 00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:24,800 untapped resource. Honestly. 591 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,040 Yes, right. Yes. 592 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:31,600 Honestly I I the Asian girls out there stop dating white men. 593 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,280 The white and the white men were like one of the biggest 594 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:37,320 percentage of men that are more likely to be stay at home, 595 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,120 right? Like if you could bag yourself 596 00:30:39,120 --> 00:30:41,760 an Asian guy like I've been like you're, it's going to be 597 00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,840 amazing. OK, Asian guys out there. 598 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:46,560 I'm back. Yeah, me too. 599 00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,760 And Asian guys are like gotten like cooler and hotter these 600 00:30:53,760 --> 00:30:54,800 days. Yes, they are. 601 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:55,200 Really. They're. 602 00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:58,720 Tall like they're they, they, they just got swag to them. 603 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:03,120 Yeah, no, I, I just went back to Asia for a month, honestly. 604 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,760 Yeah, I, I was happy about what I was seeing. 605 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:09,360 Yeah, like there was like one guy that I was just talking to 606 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,000 yesterday. He's like so obsessed with me. 607 00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:17,520 He like got, he's like first yammed me on my rent note and 608 00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:20,880 he, I thought he was just like a enthusiastic fan, but he's like 609 00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:25,240 just started wooing me for like over 2 years now I think. 610 00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:28,760 And he was asking me oh, can I date you? 611 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,680 And I'm like, I don't know, you're not in America. 612 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:33,840 He's like, why don't you come back to China? 613 00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:38,520 There's so many Chinese guys who just like blow money on you and 614 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:43,720 but I feel like the the concept of a lot of people dating white 615 00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:47,160 people, white men is like, they are the ones that are more like 616 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:52,960 in in position of powers. So they statistically they hold 617 00:31:52,960 --> 00:31:56,720 more wealth, but I feel like they're not spending the wealth 618 00:31:56,760 --> 00:31:58,680 on their women, no. They're not spending on the 619 00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:02,200 women in general and also that statistic is skewed to like a 620 00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:06,000 smaller pool of which most of us don't have access. 621 00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,120 To yeah, yeah, yeah. So on in the in the meat, the 622 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:12,640 the more standard medium, like the bigger pool that most of us 623 00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,480 have access to. Women are out earning men, Yeah. 624 00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:20,040 Wait, what's the pool? The women are out earning men. 625 00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:22,800 So most the reason why like husbands have been shifting into 626 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:25,600 stay at home husbands status is because women are just earning 627 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,000 so much more than them. But then they kind of run the 628 00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,080 numbers and they're like, you know what? 629 00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:31,800 Yeah, maybe it just makes sense for you to be home and like take 630 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,520 care of the house or the kids, but not even necessarily the 631 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:37,360 kids, just like take home care of the house because it's just 632 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:39,480 the woman just makes so much more. 633 00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,240 Wait, actually I feel like that wouldn't, wouldn't be a bad 634 00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:46,520 setup. I I, if I make so much money, I 635 00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:50,440 want to come home with the, with the warm soup, warm, warm dinner 636 00:32:50,440 --> 00:32:53,360 every night. Yeah, I dug up an article on 637 00:32:53,360 --> 00:32:55,840 this. They ran, they followed these 638 00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,960 women in like the 80s and 90s who because that was like kind 639 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:00,680 of the era of like the power woman. 640 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,360 And it was something psychologically happened to all 641 00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:06,240 their husbands, the stay at home husbands where each one of them 642 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:10,280 cheated on the wives because they wanted to feel like they 643 00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:12,920 were the ones in power. So they would go cheat with like 644 00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:15,840 the the girls like flipping burgers and who thought that 645 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,200 they were amazing. It just I don't know. 646 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,680 It doesn't. It doesn't That don't work. 647 00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:24,120 Oh, wait, yeah. Oh, interesting. 648 00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:29,640 I OK, I I read, I think this is from Ali Wong's stand up 649 00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:32,440 routine. One of her, I think one time she 650 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:37,680 was saying she's she's very successful and her husband was 651 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:42,160 she, he graduated from Harvard Business School and then when 652 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:45,920 she blew up, he like quit his job and become a stay home dad 653 00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:48,640 and sometimes managed his tour, her tour. 654 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:55,000 So she kind of flipped him into like a stay home dad when she 655 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,280 married him for his earning potentials. 656 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:04,760 But I remember in her jokes she was saying she doesn't want a 657 00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:09,199 male who's like aspire to be a stay home dad. 658 00:34:09,199 --> 00:34:13,679 She want a male who has the potential, has the ability to 659 00:34:13,679 --> 00:34:18,320 make so much money, but choose to stay at home because of her. 660 00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:20,719 I could see that. Yeah, he was an interesting 661 00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:23,760 case, too, because he's, like, the son of A billionaire or 662 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:27,199 someone really wealthy. Yeah, like his dad has a ton of 663 00:34:27,199 --> 00:34:28,800 money. And she said that's what fueled 664 00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:30,800 her. They locked her into a very 665 00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:33,400 strict prenuptial agreement. She would get. 666 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,000 No money. So she said that is what gave 667 00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:39,239 her the fuel because she knew at the end of the day if he walked 668 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,840 away she had nothing. Wow, that just gives me 669 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,800 goosebumps now. Yeah, no, but she did. 670 00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:47,719 She's she's the one that's walking away with all her money. 671 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:49,760 I feel like that's such a power move. 672 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,600 I I wish I could do that someday. 673 00:34:51,639 --> 00:34:56,120 You will. We will, although I wouldn't 674 00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:00,240 want my husband to like think that I don't have like and put a 675 00:35:01,240 --> 00:35:03,880 prenup on me, though I feel like I would. 676 00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:10,160 But that is a good power move. Like to the feeling of of being 677 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:14,640 the underdog and and then like impressing everyone when they 678 00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:17,360 didn't expect it. I feel like that's a that's a 679 00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,920 better feeling than always being the top. 680 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:22,200 I don't know. I don't know. 681 00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,960 I think sometimes like it worked out for Ali Wong, I don't know 682 00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:27,200 if it'll work out for the rest of us. 683 00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,960 So I'd rather bat in higher averages where like I'm not 684 00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:33,280 dealing with somebody who's like puts me against the corner and 685 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,520 tells me if this like, you know, if this doesn't work out, you're 686 00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:37,760 walking away with. Nothing, right? 687 00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:39,320 Right. Especially she popped out a few 688 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,560 babies for them like it's. That is true. 689 00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:43,880 True. And she's not like even if her 690 00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:46,640 stand up doesn't work out, she still has a great degree if 691 00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:50,160 she's still a good person. Like, that's not like he didn't 692 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:52,880 pick up like someone who's flipping burgers. 693 00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:57,120 Not saying flipping burgers. Yeah, if you like their 694 00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:01,160 background still matched. Like she went to UCLA and she 695 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,680 was on a scholarship or something, and she speaks few 696 00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:08,440 languages. I feel like it would be a equal 697 00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,840 even if she didn't make all that money from stand up. 698 00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:14,360 That's why I was happy when I heard that they got divorced 699 00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,080 because I didn't like, because I, I remember as a kid, I was 700 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,880 like reading about that my mother was like reading it to 701 00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,960 me. And I was thinking to myself 702 00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,200 that even though she's championing this, like that just 703 00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:28,120 didn't feel right, that she knows that she's not going to 704 00:36:28,120 --> 00:36:30,000 get anything. It just felt like unjust. 705 00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,800 And so the fact that she achieved success and then left 706 00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:35,240 him, I was like, good because he didn't. 707 00:36:35,240 --> 00:36:36,600 He never deserved. Her because he. 708 00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,000 Didn't value her. Yeah, yeah, she didn't. 709 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,360 He didn't stand up for her when the family wanted to sign a 710 00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:45,960 prenup. Yeah, this reminds me, have you 711 00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:49,960 seen Sex and the City? I started watching some of the. 712 00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:51,320 Episodes. OK, OK. 713 00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:54,680 Which one I was thinking about Like Charlotte. 714 00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:58,280 With Trey. Yeah, yeah. 715 00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:00,360 Yeah, and she's like, I'm worth. More. 716 00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:03,160 Yeah, she's like, I'm worth $1,000,000. 717 00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,440 I think that's such a power move too. 718 00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:11,520 Like you, you're not like I understand the the mentality of 719 00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:17,400 signing a prenup, but like, it is, it is like, yeah, I feel 720 00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:19,560 like it's a very controversial thing. 721 00:37:19,720 --> 00:37:21,520 I've. I haven't. 722 00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:27,440 Yeah, if you are ever married and would you be, would you 723 00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:29,600 accept that? So I literally, I asked my dad 724 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,400 about this. I was like, because I was like, 725 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:32,920 how do you tell somebody? I don't? 726 00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:34,320 Because he said never sign a prenup. 727 00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:36,160 That's what my dad said. He said never sign a prenup. 728 00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,480 I was like, but how am I going to tell them no? 729 00:37:38,720 --> 00:37:41,040 How do you tell somebody no? It sounds so logical. 730 00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:42,600 There's like a lot of good points for it. 731 00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:48,480 And he said, because you'll tell them that you believe in true 732 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:51,680 love and that love lasts forever, and that this is a 733 00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:54,520 signal that they don't believe that love lasts forever. 734 00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:58,040 And here's the rub is you got to be willing to walk away. 735 00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:00,600 Wow. So I thought that was really. 736 00:38:00,600 --> 00:38:03,760 Cool wow. Take notes ladies. 737 00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:07,520 That's, that's very well put. And I, I think that's also like, 738 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:15,040 like your like he's coming from a, he's coming the coming. 739 00:38:15,240 --> 00:38:18,880 He's saying not to sign a prenup because he believes that you are 740 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:23,880 a good person and he believes in true love and, and the fact that 741 00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,280 you are worth it even if it doesn't work out. 742 00:38:26,720 --> 00:38:31,720 So yeah, it's, I feel like it's all about self love and self 743 00:38:31,720 --> 00:38:33,320 worth. Well, the irony is my daddy's a 744 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,560 bastard. Like he's he, you know, so he 745 00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:39,240 understands like how life works. So he's always like 20 steps 746 00:38:39,240 --> 00:38:40,520 ahead. And he was like, this is how I 747 00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:42,400 do it. This is the that was like the 748 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:45,360 blessing curse of my parents is like, they're like, this is how 749 00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:46,960 the world works. And I'm like, I don't know. 750 00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,120 No, but they understand it, but they don't do it. 751 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,360 They understand it, but it's like they, they, they're, it's 752 00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:58,720 great lessons. But then I'm I'm happy to apply 753 00:38:58,720 --> 00:39:02,680 it as like who I am, which is not as Machiavellian as. 754 00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,120 I see, I see. That's good that they're 755 00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:08,640 teaching you the, the, the you know, the trial centers They've, 756 00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:10,280 they've experienced. Yeah. 757 00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:13,440 Wow. I feel like prenup is not very 758 00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:18,440 much a thing where I grew up. I don't exactly know 'cause I 759 00:39:18,440 --> 00:39:21,440 didn't plan to get married before. 760 00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:22,960 So I feel like you. Didn't wanna give you never 761 00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:23,640 wanted to get. Married. 762 00:39:23,640 --> 00:39:25,480 No, no, no, I don't know. OK. 763 00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:28,800 When I was in when I was in college, I, I was like, I was 764 00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:30,680 like, I'm never getting married, never having kids. 765 00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,960 I, I hate men. I, I don't wanna, I, I'm so 766 00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,960 fulfilled. I'm so self fulfilled. 767 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:39,600 I don't wanna tie myself into a marriage or anything. 768 00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:44,440 Like literally we had like an essay about like write about 769 00:39:44,440 --> 00:39:48,760 your future, your future life, whatever. 770 00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:53,120 And then I wrote about like I, I might like, I wouldn't get into 771 00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:56,520 a marriage unless it has some value to me. 772 00:39:56,520 --> 00:40:00,920 Like I wouldn't, I wrote about like it's either finance 'cause 773 00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:04,960 we had readings about like, oh, how you know, there's marriage 774 00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:10,400 green card and there's also marriage benefits in taxes like 775 00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:14,200 taxes in the benefits in the secular. 776 00:40:15,720 --> 00:40:18,880 Objective world. So I wrote about like, I don't, 777 00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:23,440 if I don't have any objective benefits, I will not get 778 00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:26,040 married. And if I get married, I'm going 779 00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:30,200 to have an open relationship. And if I have kids, probably 780 00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:32,280 going to be through a surrogate. Yeah. 781 00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:38,160 Yeah, I can see that. But I feel like I've now that 782 00:40:38,160 --> 00:40:42,600 I'm actually like getting to the age of maybe get people around 783 00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:47,760 me are getting married. I'm like, I maybe I want to get 784 00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:51,280 married. Yeah, I might not be so like 785 00:40:51,640 --> 00:40:54,160 hateful on men. Yeah, I might. 786 00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:58,280 I I still, I mean I am hateful on some behaviors, but I still 787 00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,480 believe there's one for me out there. 788 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,280 There is. But there's. 789 00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:08,520 It's very funny because for that class, I think my it was a 790 00:41:08,520 --> 00:41:10,880 random, random class. The professor had a friend who's 791 00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:15,520 a carrot card reader and she did a session for anyone who signed 792 00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,400 up. And she was telling me that 793 00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:20,360 family matters a lot in my future. 794 00:41:20,560 --> 00:41:24,000 And I was like, what the fuck this, this girl is not legit. 795 00:41:24,000 --> 00:41:25,840 I was like, I don't see it at all. 796 00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:29,720 And she's like, just wait. And I'm like, wow, what is 797 00:41:29,720 --> 00:41:34,760 happening to me right now? I'm I can see myself being in a 798 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:38,320 stable long term relationship or a marriage now. 799 00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,240 It's it's I don't know. I feel like it, it changes 800 00:41:41,240 --> 00:41:43,920 through time. Sorry, I feel like I'm over 801 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:45,120 Sherry. That's good. 802 00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:47,240 What? Were you talking about? 803 00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:52,680 Well, I don't know, I forgot to, but you I, I know it's kind of 804 00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:56,720 cool as I always thought, like having a Wikipedia page of just 805 00:41:56,720 --> 00:41:59,760 full of like all your marriages is like so chic. 806 00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:02,200 Are you like Elizabeth Taylor style? 807 00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,240 What do you? Mean like she's just have like 808 00:42:04,240 --> 00:42:07,720 put like 6, I don't know, like a ton of marriages. 809 00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,480 Like I'm kind of the opposite way. 810 00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:13,280 Like I would, I think like the ultimate like power move is 811 00:42:13,320 --> 00:42:15,360 being able to get married and divorced. 812 00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:18,760 Like you have to be rich to get married and divorced. 813 00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:22,200 Yeah, like you can't that. So it's like as a powerful 814 00:42:22,200 --> 00:42:25,840 woman, being able to just like rack up a ton of husbands and go 815 00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,240 through different phases. You'd be like, this is like my 816 00:42:28,240 --> 00:42:32,640 artistic phase. This is my like science phase. 817 00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:35,040 Like that's so cool. Yeah. 818 00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,360 How many how many marriages do you plan to? 819 00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,320 I wouldn't be down for like 5. Really. 820 00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,400 Be like so cool. Yeah, that that's actually a 821 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:47,600 girl's dream. Honestly, every girl or a lot of 822 00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:51,520 girls, they dream about the wedding, the big ceremony. 823 00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:55,360 It's so fun to be in the dress. Why don't you just do it five 824 00:42:55,360 --> 00:42:58,920 times? Yes I agree that's a good idea. 825 00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,680 I could totally make it happen. So even if I meet one person I 826 00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:04,200 just do it 5. Times right yeah yeah you just 827 00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:09,960 have a big party five times even if yeah yeah wow okay, I think 828 00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:13,480 that's we have like 3 minutes left 3 minutes left yes. 829 00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,240 I think we should we should wrap up soon. 830 00:43:15,240 --> 00:43:18,080 OK, I had really fun conversation with you. 831 00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:20,720 Is there anything you would like to add before we wrap up? 832 00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:24,720 No, I think I, I think I covered everything. 833 00:43:24,720 --> 00:43:26,080 I mean like I can give you like a sound. 834 00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:28,160 There was like a few sound bites I had in my hand. 835 00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,120 Yes, could be fun. Let's see. 836 00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:35,640 I would say woman date for money, men date for Wi-Fi 837 00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:39,880 password and a doorman. And a doorman. 838 00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:43,640 And a more for the doorman, the. Doorman. 839 00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:47,560 Yeah, for the other man in the building, the mandate for the 840 00:43:47,560 --> 00:43:48,560 other. Man, the other man in the 841 00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:53,600 building. Yeah, I love that. 842 00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:56,560 Yeah, the other one I also really like. 843 00:43:56,560 --> 00:44:00,240 I feel like I'm gonna make into a T-shirt okay, like the one 844 00:44:00,240 --> 00:44:04,440 about the maintenance. Yeah, that men don't want a low 845 00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:06,680 maintenance woman, they want a high maintenance woman they 846 00:44:06,680 --> 00:44:10,440 don't have to pay for. Wow, get that on the T-shirt. 847 00:44:10,760 --> 00:44:14,600 Although I am thinking about start with merge this year you. 848 00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,040 Have to you have to attribute me you go dash OB yes. 849 00:44:17,240 --> 00:44:19,800 Yes, and I'll say like which episode? 850 00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,200 Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's gonna be look, it's gonna 851 00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:25,040 look like Bible. You know when wow both of the 852 00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:26,600 Bible. That's amazing. 853 00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:31,080 There's like a word and A and a comma and and then like the 854 00:44:31,160 --> 00:44:32,960 number. So it's gonna look like that, 855 00:44:32,960 --> 00:44:38,000 but it's gonna look like Bible, but it's gonna be like 33 856 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:42,000 minutes, 35 seconds. OB Episode 13.