1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,800 He was like, oh, or you're a comedian. 2 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:03,600 Do you do a lot of raunchy stuff? 3 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:05,560 But like, no one says that to guys. 4 00:00:05,560 --> 00:00:07,920 No one's like, oh, do you just talk about sex, 'cause you're a 5 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:10,760 male comic? And they do talk about sex way 6 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:12,840 more than us. I never thought about it that 7 00:00:12,840 --> 00:00:14,000 way it. Pisses me. 8 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:17,320 Off I've also been told by guys that I shouldn't just do like 9 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:20,880 sexual materials and I like they're like oh you're so funny. 10 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:22,440 You shouldn't just sell yourself short. 11 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:25,480 You can come up with so much funnier stuff without talking 12 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,360 about sex. I was told that by a female 13 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,080 teacher, yeah. I don't know, how do you feel 14 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:32,960 about like because they're telling us that I'm like 15 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:35,880 thinking maybe I should. It doesn't fucking. 16 00:00:35,880 --> 00:00:37,920 Matter. It's like at the end of the day, 17 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:41,760 like as long as you're making people laugh, who cares? 18 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:44,960 And it pisses me off because it's like I want to just like 19 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:47,280 normalize that this is what I mean. 20 00:00:47,280 --> 00:00:51,760 Like we're fucked either way. Like whether you like, whether 21 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:56,840 you dress up, whether you dress down, whether you have sex, 22 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:01,000 whether you don't have sex, it's like you are going to be judged. 23 00:01:01,040 --> 00:01:04,480 Like we're always judged or like criticized. 24 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:06,600 Like no matter what we do, it's like we can't win. 25 00:01:06,920 --> 00:01:09,120 So. I don't know, I, I think what 26 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:11,080 that's what I was telling you. Like I want to do more clean 27 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:13,000 material just to like challenge myself. 28 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,400 And I know that I can. And also it opens up 29 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:16,880 opportunities. It's just the reality of the 30 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,720 world. But I also don't want to have to 31 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:23,000 feel bad about talking about a perfectly normal part of my life 32 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:26,840 and just 'cause you know, I have sex. 33 00:01:26,840 --> 00:01:28,760 Like people are going to judge me like what? 34 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:35,560 Or like see me as a a lesser person Like but people don't put 35 00:01:35,560 --> 00:01:44,200 those standards on on men, no. Piali, what's keeping you up 36 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:46,880 tonight? OK ChatGPT. 37 00:01:47,920 --> 00:01:51,320 I feel like it takes so much effort to tell ChatGPT what to 38 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:54,480 do, I may as well do it myself. It's like a man. 39 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,440 Oh. I agree, yes. 40 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,920 Right. Yes, like everybody's like 41 00:01:59,920 --> 00:02:03,080 talking about prompt engineering or like something like that. 42 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:04,360 Have you heard of that? No. 43 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:06,800 Like prompt. Like, people put so much effort 44 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,000 into writing the prompt. It's like you're telling your 45 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,880 boyfriend to wipe down the ketchup on the counter, but you 46 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,000 have to show them how to do. It and then you're you may as 47 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:21,240 well just do it yourself yes no so that's the thing I asked 48 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:26,480 ChatGPT for for dating advice, but then like it took a lot of 49 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:29,680 back story right 'cause I had to give ChatGPT all the details 50 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,360 'cause I couldn't just be like what should I say ChatGPT? 51 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:35,120 I was like, OK, so this is the situation. 52 00:02:35,120 --> 00:02:37,840 This is the nature of our interaction. 53 00:02:37,840 --> 00:02:42,480 Is he being passive aggressive given like all of the history? 54 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:44,360 Like what should I what should I do? 55 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:48,120 What should I Honestly the advice slapped like once I got 56 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:52,440 the advice but like it was so I had to write like a paragraph of 57 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,920 back story. OK, It sounds like it's been, 58 00:02:54,920 --> 00:02:56,360 it's been more useful than a man. 59 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:58,400 Like I feel like it's doing better 'cause it's actually, you 60 00:02:58,400 --> 00:02:59,680 said it's actually. Useful. 61 00:03:00,360 --> 00:03:02,560 Yeah, I I would say, I mean I feel. 62 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:07,600 AI is better than a man. It's less complicated, Yeah. 63 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:11,160 I feel like, I don't know. I do feel like technology 64 00:03:11,160 --> 00:03:13,800 outperforms men in general, like vibrators. 65 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,480 That's true and it's not even AI engineered. 66 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:21,840 Like vibrator's already so good and it's not even AI. 67 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:25,560 Yeah, that's, yeah, exactly. I'm like, I feel like technology 68 00:03:25,560 --> 00:03:29,720 generally outperforms men where they fall short. 69 00:03:29,720 --> 00:03:34,840 You know, like I, I don't usually ask men for, like I 70 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:37,280 don't ask men for dating advice. I know it's really bad. 71 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:41,080 Yeah, I don't know sometimes. You don't ever like, not even 72 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:43,200 like your gay friends or. Oh, OK. 73 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,360 Yeah, no, that's not true. Sometimes I will ask like a guy 74 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,880 friend, like what should I do in a dating situation? 75 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:51,800 Like from a guy's perspective, like what would you say? 76 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:53,760 What would you think? Yeah, that's OK. 77 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:57,400 That's that's true. No, I think they they have their 78 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:01,040 respective shortcomings and pros and cons. 79 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:04,400 Yeah. So Chachi BT is better than a 80 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:06,800 man in that sense. But. 81 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:08,880 OK. And probably in terms of like 82 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:12,960 emotional support. A Chachi PT does have really 83 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,480 good emotional support. Do you have like the 84 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:17,839 subscription? I don't actually. 85 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:21,560 I use the free version. Girl, you've been like typing 86 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:24,080 all the materials like I was. I was just thinking like, if 87 00:04:24,080 --> 00:04:27,440 you're have the prepaid version, you can just talk to it, but now 88 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,840 you have to like, yeah. Oh, I didn't know that. 89 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:32,640 So you so you don't have to type all the like back story about 90 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:36,080 your man and into Tachi BT. You can just like tell it. 91 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:37,400 Oh, it's like talking to a friend. 92 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:38,920 Yes. How much is it? 93 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:41,560 I think $20.00 a month. That's not bad. 94 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:46,000 And I think it also comes with like the like Sora you heard of. 95 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:47,040 That what's? What's that? 96 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:50,560 It's the like AI video generator. 97 00:04:50,840 --> 00:04:54,320 Have you seen like online? There's like a bunch of like AII 98 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:56,600 don't know rage bait like crazy videos. 99 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:59,600 I see all like I see a lot of AI animal videos. 100 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:04,520 Yes, like for the longest time I was so my friends and I, I have 101 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,160 two friends who also have cats. We're all like cat parents. 102 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:11,680 So we have a group chat called like puss check and then so 103 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:15,280 we'll like send pictures of our cats and send like cat reels on 104 00:05:15,280 --> 00:05:18,760 Instagram. And for a while we were all 105 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:22,760 getting like the weirdest AI cat videos where it's like. 106 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:26,600 Meow, meow, meow. Meow like it all has that 107 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:32,000 soundtrack and then it's always like the same weirdest storyline 108 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:34,560 of like there's a female cat and then. 109 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:36,400 You've. Seen these right and then she 110 00:05:36,400 --> 00:05:39,960 like cheats on her husband and she with her trainer cat and she 111 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:43,840 gets like pregnant and then it all it's so crazy like. 112 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:47,960 And I saw that. And that's like a man must have 113 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:49,680 made this this. Is what I'm saying. 114 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:52,040 It's so it's like Loki. Not even Loki. 115 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:54,440 It's like openly misogynistic. Like all the comments are like 116 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:55,760 that. Cat's for the streets. 117 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:58,680 Yes, yes. And it's like always like the 118 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:02,160 the female cat is always like so like curvy with like boobs and 119 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:03,760 stuff. Oh my God, it's so weird. 120 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:04,680 I know. Yeah. 121 00:06:04,680 --> 00:06:08,280 And then like the Jim Bro cat is usually like a black cat and 122 00:06:08,280 --> 00:06:11,440 he's jacked, and then there's like a white girl cat. 123 00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:13,760 And there's like. There's like a ginger husband 124 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,920 cat. And like the, the baby, like 125 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:19,120 sometimes there's like a scene of the baby and the baby's like, 126 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:22,800 like a black, like a black. Yes, and that's how they know 127 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:26,160 that it's not his. It's so crazy. 128 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:27,520 Oh, my God. Yeah, yeah. 129 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,520 And I, this reminds me of have you seen like, Oh my God, this 130 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:33,560 is first of all, this is such a smart episode. 131 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:35,480 We're talking about AI and technology. 132 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,320 Asians. It's because two of us. 133 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:44,480 It's unavoidable guys, but this reminds me of like this Chinese 134 00:06:44,480 --> 00:06:47,440 robot. So they made like a like a 135 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:51,680 walking robot that like looks very like very much like human, 136 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,400 like it can just walk like a human. 137 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:56,680 But then they made her have boobs. 138 00:06:56,840 --> 00:06:58,240 They made it have. Boobs. 139 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,600 Because she needed that, right? Yeah, but like, why don't you 140 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,960 make a man like, or a gender neutral robot? 141 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,320 Like why does a robot have to have like boobs? 142 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:09,880 You know what I mean? What was the robot doing like 143 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:11,920 just. Walking, I think like it was 144 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:15,120 like a dip, like, I don't know, launch party and they were like 145 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:18,560 showing what this robot can do. And I think the most like 146 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,800 breakthrough thing is that this robot can walk like a human. 147 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:26,320 They just did it for their entertainment. 148 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:28,960 Like they. Oh, probably, yeah. 149 00:07:28,960 --> 00:07:31,440 Maybe if they did it's. Like hey guys, let's give the 150 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:35,200 robot boobs. Of course. 151 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:37,680 And it's like people were like mad because like they didn't 152 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:41,920 give the male version of the the robot's apps. 153 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:47,000 They just like or like wide shoulders like nothing. 154 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:51,120 It's like the the the guy version of the robot looks like 155 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:53,120 just look like a robot. They're. 156 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,240 Probably insecure. They're like, we want this robot 157 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:56,800 to be hotter than me, but. Right. 158 00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:59,440 Oh, that's so true. That's so. 159 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:02,240 True, but they're like the girl robot has to be hot. 160 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:05,640 We need more women scientists in the robot field. 161 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:07,240 Women in STEM? Yeah. 162 00:08:07,280 --> 00:08:09,320 Women in male dominated fields. Have you ever been? 163 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:14,800 We need to actually, no. Oh, what did you study in? 164 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:16,880 College. I majored in philosophy. 165 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:19,680 Philosophy. Oh my God what a bold move as an 166 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:21,520 Asian. I know, right? 167 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:25,480 Well, 'cause I had a scholarship, so I was like, my 168 00:08:25,480 --> 00:08:27,680 parents couldn't like hold my tuition over me. 169 00:08:27,680 --> 00:08:29,720 I was like paying for it myself. Technically. 170 00:08:30,280 --> 00:08:33,240 So thank you. But then I was like, yeah, I'll 171 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:35,880 do what I want, you know. So I double minored in religious 172 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,880 studies and creative writing cause philosophy wasn't enough. 173 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:42,400 I did have a phase where I, I was studying science, but I'm, 174 00:08:42,400 --> 00:08:46,160 I'm like the worst Asian. Like actually I got like AC in 175 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:49,600 chemistry, organic chemistry. And that's like the reason I 176 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:52,760 didn't graduate with like summa cum laude. 177 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:56,600 I was Oh my God now cum laude 'cause I missed it by like .1 178 00:08:56,880 --> 00:09:01,440 because of fucking organic chemistry and I was like I'm not 179 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,880 doing pre Med No I mean it's whatever. 180 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:06,480 No I, no I I We love a smart girl. 181 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:09,280 Oh, thank you. Well, in some ways. 182 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:12,520 But not not the useful, not the lucrative 1 not. 183 00:09:12,520 --> 00:09:15,160 Well, well, we're, we're doing, we're doing well. 184 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:18,760 Are you in STEM? No, I well, I studied like kind 185 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:22,280 of more STEM when I was in high school, but at college I just 186 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:24,680 like I just give it up. I just did like media. 187 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:31,440 So but I took like math one O 1 was like a mandatory class. 188 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:34,400 So I took math 101 and then like, I was like, this is so 189 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:35,560 easy. I got an A+. 190 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:40,200 And then that's when I realized, like, sometimes you can't just 191 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:43,080 take things for granted because my classmates were not Asian. 192 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:45,720 They're like bummed that they got AD and they have to take the 193 00:09:45,720 --> 00:09:46,800 class again. Yeah. 194 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:48,520 And I'm like, so I, I'm so confused. 195 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:49,160 What? What? 196 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:51,560 Like they're like, it's so easy. Yeah. 197 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:54,000 It's like you're just so smart, though. 198 00:09:54,000 --> 00:09:56,400 Like for you, yeah, it's, it's true. 199 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:58,440 It's true. It's like, yeah, it just comes 200 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,480 naturally maybe. It's in the gene. 201 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:02,600 Test Well, this was math for you. 202 00:10:03,120 --> 00:10:05,840 Yeah, see math doesn't come naturally to me. 203 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:09,280 So for me, I feel like the anti Asian were like language and 204 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:13,120 like arts like humanities and stuff comes easy to me. 205 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:16,280 Like like on the Sats math was my lowest score. 206 00:10:16,560 --> 00:10:19,560 So I actually, yeah, all my language scores were really 207 00:10:19,560 --> 00:10:21,240 high, like the writing and reading. 208 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:26,640 Then I felt I actually I used to tutor Sats so I would always 209 00:10:26,640 --> 00:10:29,800 have a tough time like tutoring math, like I would have to 210 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:32,080 practice those questions like ahead of time. 211 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:35,960 Well, you're tutoring SAT. That means you probably did it 212 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:40,360 better than other people anyway. I guess, yeah, See, you're 213 00:10:40,360 --> 00:10:40,880 right. Yeah. 214 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:43,000 It's like, maybe we take some things. 215 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,320 Yeah, a little bit. Do you like? 216 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:47,520 Smart men, is that like something you look for? 217 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:51,200 But wait, sorry before I say, before I ask this question, I 218 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:55,320 just heard Pioli say that she always dated like like jacked 219 00:10:55,320 --> 00:10:59,360 guy. So I guess I feel like I already 220 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:00,720 know the answer. No I'm kidding. 221 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:02,960 What's your like? What's your type? 222 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:08,040 OK, this is a complicated question. 223 00:11:08,040 --> 00:11:13,720 Let me try to distill my answer. So I actually had a guy friend 224 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:16,080 say this to me. He was like, Pial, you've never 225 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:18,880 dated anyone on your level. You're not dating anyone on your 226 00:11:18,880 --> 00:11:19,760 level. I was like, yeah, 'cause he 227 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:21,800 doesn't. It doesn't feel like they exist. 228 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:27,440 Like I feel like I almost. OK, so I actually was overweight 229 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:29,640 growing up. I was like, definitely a late. 230 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:34,880 I was like a late bloomer. So I think I almost developed 231 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:41,920 this thing where I wanted to go for like really hot guys to like 232 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:47,360 prove to myself that I could pull them, you know, And it's 233 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:49,480 almost like you. Can you're you're. 234 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:51,000 Gorgeous. Oh, thank you. 235 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:53,840 So are you. But but like it's weird. 236 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:57,720 It's like I had to like feel sometimes like it. 237 00:11:57,720 --> 00:12:00,640 It became this game I would play with myself to get like this 238 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:04,320 validation, like if I get the hot guy, that means I'm enough, 239 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:09,280 you know, but then you know, a lot of the time the Hawkeyes are 240 00:12:09,360 --> 00:12:13,040 really dumb or like you know, they're just they're like himbo, 241 00:12:13,040 --> 00:12:15,720 like the himbo. I feel like I have AII had a 242 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:21,840 phase. I say had, but I've I've 243 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:25,480 historically like gone for himbos or not like gone for 244 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:26,960 'cause I. What's a himbo? 245 00:12:27,440 --> 00:12:28,880 It's like the male version of a bimbo. 246 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:31,120 What's a bimbo? OK. 247 00:12:31,120 --> 00:12:33,560 So like it's, it's like. Sorry. 248 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:36,280 Oh yeah, no, no, don't apologize. 249 00:12:36,680 --> 00:12:40,400 Yes please, I want to learn. OK, so it's just, I mean, it's 250 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:43,480 like a derogatory term. Like it's kind of, you know, a 251 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:46,280 bimbo. It's it's like a dumb hot girl. 252 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:48,920 So like a himbo is like a dumb hot guy. 253 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:52,120 It's kind of like this stereotypical like gym bro a 254 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:53,440 little bit. Yeah. 255 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:57,080 So I think I would kind of go for guys like that. 256 00:12:57,080 --> 00:12:58,680 And I almost like took pride in it. 257 00:12:58,680 --> 00:13:01,040 Like sometimes my friends have even commented on it. 258 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:03,680 They're like, oh, Piali always pulls the hottest guy in their 259 00:13:03,680 --> 00:13:04,720 room. But then what? 260 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:07,200 Where does that it? It never really got me anywhere. 261 00:13:07,200 --> 00:13:10,960 Like there was never any long term potential with that 'cause 262 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:15,320 it's, you know, like, so on the one hand, my type, I have like a 263 00:13:15,320 --> 00:13:19,400 superficial type maybe. And then I also have, but like 264 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:23,080 in a deeper level, I think yes, my type is like someone who can 265 00:13:23,080 --> 00:13:25,960 actually hold a conversation and is really smart. 266 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:31,640 No, actually I know I no, I guess like I have gone for a lot 267 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:36,480 of like nerds like I I was going for like white nerdy boys for a. 268 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:38,560 While white nerdy boys What what's what's what? 269 00:13:38,680 --> 00:13:41,200 White nerdy boys. I think because I grew up in 270 00:13:41,200 --> 00:13:46,240 upstate New York, so I was like always around white people, so. 271 00:13:46,560 --> 00:13:50,840 And I think it's like a woman of color sometimes it's like an 272 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:53,680 affirmation thing in a weird way. 273 00:13:53,680 --> 00:13:56,840 I don't know, the whole race and dating thing is like very 274 00:13:56,880 --> 00:14:01,760 complicated territory, right? It's like, there's a lot to 275 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:05,080 unpack there very, you know, turbulent waters. 276 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:09,680 We're we're wading into here. But yeah, like dating 277 00:14:09,680 --> 00:14:12,960 preferences. And, you know, 'cause there's, I 278 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:16,160 feel like usually people fall into one of two categories. 279 00:14:16,160 --> 00:14:18,920 It's like either you're like dating your own race or you're 280 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:21,400 like actively dating anyone but your race. 281 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:25,160 And I feel like for me, because I didn't really connect with 282 00:14:25,200 --> 00:14:27,960 being Indian in a lot of ways, or I like wanted to reject that 283 00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:31,240 part of myself. I would go for a lot of white 284 00:14:31,240 --> 00:14:33,640 guys. But also I think because I was 285 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:39,240 rebelling against a lot of the cultural, like, misogyny and 286 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:42,400 that can exist in South Asian culture and South Asian men. 287 00:14:43,920 --> 00:14:46,800 But yeah, I don't know. Not everyone's like that. 288 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,800 So I think my type is kind of, I don't know if I have a type 289 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:51,160 anymore. I think it's evolved. 290 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:52,920 So there's like the physical type and then there's like the 291 00:14:52,920 --> 00:14:54,360 intellectual type. Yeah. 292 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,280 Yeah. Well, I feel like, I feel like 293 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:59,040 it. You have to, for me, you have to 294 00:14:59,040 --> 00:15:03,640 like reach a threshold for the looks and then I can get to know 295 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:05,480 you better. Like you have to present 296 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:08,400 yourself well enough. Sure, but I think also 297 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:11,720 attraction can grow. Like I think I was telling you 298 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:13,760 this like my therapist kind of yelled at me. 299 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:18,840 She was like, well, she said height won't emotionally support 300 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:23,600 you. Well, because I think also I 301 00:15:23,600 --> 00:15:27,320 always was like a little bit of a heightist, like really, even 302 00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:29,200 though I'm not that tall myself, really. 303 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:32,840 I would like date a guy like that's like 57. 304 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:38,720 Really, yes, good for you. Honestly, that's like I, that's 305 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:42,440 good, That's a good quality. Like I, I don't like that I, I 306 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:44,640 don't like that I'm heightist. It's something I'm like ashamed 307 00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:47,400 of because it's not something that men have any control over. 308 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:50,080 And it's, it's such a like shallow thing. 309 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:53,800 I think for me it's because I was bigger. 310 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:57,360 So I want to feel small and I have that like notion in my 311 00:15:57,360 --> 00:15:59,840 head. So I've always gone for like 312 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:01,720 really tall guys. What's? 313 00:16:01,720 --> 00:16:05,560 The tallest you've been? 66. 314 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:08,440 Oh, that is really tall, like a basketball player. 315 00:16:08,680 --> 00:16:12,320 No, he's just like really skinny, but like it's also too 316 00:16:12,320 --> 00:16:14,680 tall I think. Is it true that tall guys have 317 00:16:14,680 --> 00:16:19,040 bigger Dicks? Not necessarily, but usually, 318 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:21,120 yeah, sometimes. So you're confirming. 319 00:16:21,240 --> 00:16:25,720 So yes. I have, I don't know if I should 320 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:27,120 say this one. I'm just going to say it. 321 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:29,760 My friends make fun of me sometimes because they're like 322 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:31,640 pial. You have a talent for finding 323 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:35,320 white men who are well endowed, who are what? 324 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:39,280 Well endowed, because usually white men are not that well 325 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:41,640 endowed. But like I always, I don't know, 326 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,520 it's like a divining rod. It's like a skill. 327 00:16:43,520 --> 00:16:46,560 I just find them. How do they even know if they're 328 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:48,400 well endowed? I mean, I don't I don't know 329 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:51,200 until I know, but like somehow I don't know. 330 00:16:51,200 --> 00:16:55,560 I'm able to suss it out maybe subconsciously, but it's not 331 00:16:55,920 --> 00:17:00,400 necessarily true that tall guys have are have bigger Dicks. 332 00:17:00,440 --> 00:17:05,599 But generally that is the case. I think only one time I found it 333 00:17:05,599 --> 00:17:09,440 to not be the case. OK, but also short guys can be 334 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:11,680 pretty well endowed. I don't know the size thing is 335 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:14,640 also maybe I mean how do you feel? 336 00:17:17,400 --> 00:17:21,400 I feel like it's always like after learning all these 337 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:24,800 theories like which race has bigger and smaller Dicks and 338 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:29,400 which like height and like build, I always find I am always 339 00:17:29,400 --> 00:17:31,440 surprised. Yeah. 340 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:36,600 I feel like I had too much expectation coming from like how 341 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:40,160 I see the sky and then I'm always surprised, like either 342 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:45,000 pleasantly or unpleasantly. Yes, how how tall are you? 343 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:49,640 I'm 5657. So you would date someone 57 344 00:17:50,240 --> 00:18:00,560 like your height? Well, they have to be good in 345 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:02,600 other ways too. Of course, yeah. 346 00:18:03,720 --> 00:18:08,360 But I mean, I'm not trying to be like all like a St. like I don't 347 00:18:08,360 --> 00:18:12,320 want to be too high up. But like if two guys who are 348 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:15,280 like similar in other backgrounds and everything else 349 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:19,120 and one guy is like 511 and other guy's 57, I'll definitely 350 00:18:19,120 --> 00:18:20,760 date the 511 guy. Yeah. 351 00:18:20,960 --> 00:18:24,240 Yeah, but I'm not gonna. Like a preference, but you 352 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:27,840 wouldn't like rule someone out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 353 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:32,520 But I think it's also because like growing up, I'm like, I 354 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:35,920 grew up in China and it's like my province is like the tallest 355 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:39,080 province in China and they're. Like, oh, really? 356 00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:41,440 Yeah. Yeah, and I'm like the shortest 357 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:42,840 and my friend grew. Really. 358 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:46,600 Yeah, and I know learned all these things about America, like 359 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:49,800 how big American men are, like how tall they are and like, you 360 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:51,560 know, all the basketball, NBA, whatever. 361 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,080 And then I came here and I'm like, what the fuck? 362 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:56,680 Why? Why am I the tallest girl in the 363 00:18:56,680 --> 00:18:58,200 room? Yeah. 364 00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:00,000 Why am I taller than a lot of men? 365 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:03,640 Like, yeah, I I didn't understand, but maybe that's why 366 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:10,360 I'm more tolerating for men's hide because I don't know, I 367 00:19:10,960 --> 00:19:13,800 maybe like you said, well, I don't know. 368 00:19:16,120 --> 00:19:21,240 Well, but I do think, OK, so so I've been working on this joke. 369 00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:26,480 So have you seen so on dating apps? 370 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:28,960 Women are looking for three sixes. 371 00:19:29,440 --> 00:19:30,720 You know you haven't heard of that. 372 00:19:30,720 --> 00:19:32,480 No, you haven't. No, no, no. 373 00:19:32,480 --> 00:19:39,640 Tell me. 3 inches, Sorry. Sorry. 374 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:42,520 No. Not 3 inches. 375 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:43,480 No. I was like. 376 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:48,480 Three sixes, 6 inches, 6 figures and six feet. 377 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:51,560 Oh hell yeah, yeah, I'm on board with that right. 6 inches? 378 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:55,720 Isn't that kind of? Average, I mean 6 figures is 379 00:19:55,720 --> 00:19:57,120 also average for New York I guess. 380 00:19:57,120 --> 00:19:58,200 True, true. Yeah. 381 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:02,520 But and then like my friend asked me, can it be a point 382 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:06,000 system? Like if you're like 5 something 383 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:09,600 57, can you make like a 7 figure salary and make it up? 384 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:14,960 I'm like, I don't know, like, and that reminds me of a study 385 00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:18,240 that I saw. I actually did research on this. 386 00:20:18,240 --> 00:20:23,120 So the study was titled like the article was titled Size Matters 387 00:20:23,120 --> 00:20:28,200 $30,000 an Inch. Oh yeah, it was like a study 388 00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:34,880 about like how if a man under the 510, which is the American 389 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:38,280 average height for a man, if they're one inch shorter than 390 00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:41,720 510, they need to make like $30,000 more A. 391 00:20:41,720 --> 00:20:46,760 Year like to overcompens or to offset yes, depreciation. 392 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:49,000 Oh my God, that sounds so bad. Yeah, yeah. 393 00:20:49,000 --> 00:20:52,240 And this was like this. In theory, I'm saying yeah. 394 00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:55,160 And this is like done like 10, more than 10 years ago. 395 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:58,440 So with inflation, like maybe, right, Yeah. 396 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:02,760 With that's so interesting with inflation, right? 397 00:21:03,560 --> 00:21:04,600 It's more than. Noise. 398 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:06,480 You don't think? Yeah, 30. 1000. 399 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:11,240 Well, yeah, that was the whole like 65 blue eyes, man in 400 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,680 finance, you know, that whole thing that was going around on 401 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,240 on TikTok. Was that your thing? 402 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:19,640 Is that your type? I feel, I feel like the idea is 403 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:23,520 that's everyone's type, right? In theory, but but in reality, I 404 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,520 don't know. I think I, I think that's what I 405 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:27,960 mean. I think my type has changed to 406 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:31,120 just, I don't know, I want to be like treated like a person. 407 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,160 Like I I have this debate with my friend where he's always like 408 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:37,360 nice guys finish last. I'm like, that's not true you. 409 00:21:37,360 --> 00:21:40,400 Know nice guy who's. Yeah, he's always like, oh, you 410 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:43,880 know, like the the and I'm not really the best person to talk 411 00:21:43,880 --> 00:21:46,400 about with this because I feel like I I prove him right with 412 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:50,360 like a lot of the guys I go for but or have gone for. 413 00:21:50,360 --> 00:21:52,760 Well, I say go for, but I don't really go for any. 414 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:54,600 Like I'm not. I've never been like the 415 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:57,360 aggressor in a dating situation. Never. 416 00:21:57,360 --> 00:21:59,640 I let them come to me. I do not make the first move. 417 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:01,840 I've never made the first move and I don't think I will. 418 00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:02,840 Yeah. Really. 419 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:07,960 How does that feel? I, I, I don't know if I can say 420 00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:10,800 empowering, 'cause I really respect when women make the 421 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,360 first move. I think it's awesome. 422 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:15,600 I just, I don't know, maybe maybe I'm not confident. 423 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:20,000 Maybe I just have, like, maybe I fall into traditional gender 424 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,640 roles or too, too much. Maybe I think it's like, I don't 425 00:22:23,640 --> 00:22:25,720 know, I'm afraid of rejection. I think it would be hard to be a 426 00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:27,720 man. Like, yeah. 427 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:29,480 Have you ever made the first move? 428 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,160 I feel like I'm not. If I really like the guy I 429 00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:35,840 would, but I feel like I've also made like now I'm thinking about 430 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:39,200 the times that I've made the first move and like now I'm like 431 00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:40,800 thinking about it. I'm so embarrassed. 432 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:43,280 Like I don't want to think about it anymore. 433 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:46,400 So maybe, maybe I'm just like pretending that I could, but I 434 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:50,560 actually can't. No, I, I mean, I don't think I 435 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:54,320 know what you mean, though. I, I like if I think about, I 436 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:58,760 think like one time I, you know, like wrote my number on a piece 437 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,760 of paper and left it at a guy's table and like ran away and I 438 00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:03,560 wanted to kill myself. Oh my God. 439 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,560 Oh my God. He did text me OK. 440 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,960 But then what happened? And then he stood me up where he 441 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,560 like said it. He was like he made plans and 442 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,240 then he like cancelled the plans. 443 00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,520 And then nothing ever. We like never talked. 444 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:18,480 Again, then why did you? Why would he text you that it 445 00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:20,160 was? Like that took ever just don't 446 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,200 say anything like it was bizarre. 447 00:23:22,360 --> 00:23:23,800 Yeah, that just happened to me too. 448 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,560 Like when when I was in college, I I thought this guy was like 449 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:31,480 really cute in my class and I don't know, maybe maybe I'm like 450 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:33,480 too self-centered. Like every time I just feel like 451 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:37,000 he just sits right next to me so he must be into me maybe. 452 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:39,040 But maybe that's like he. Chose. 453 00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:41,160 He chose where to sit. He knew what he was doing. 454 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:42,120 No, no, no. I. 455 00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:44,760 Feel like it was just like. That's like the only empty seat 456 00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:49,440 and he was like a like place lacrosse and I like one time 457 00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:52,320 during class, I gave him like a note that I that I wrote, it's 458 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:54,920 like you wanna be friends on Snapchat and I give it to him 459 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:59,000 and he added me on Snapchat and I'm like, I keep asking him, Oh, 460 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:02,720 you wanna hang out, whatever. And he just replies like the 461 00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:06,040 thumbs up emoji, like that's like such a bro Y thing. 462 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,480 Oh my God, yeah. The bare minimum of effort, 463 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:11,160 yeah. And and then like I keep asking 464 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,880 him out and he doesn't, he doesn't like really like reply 465 00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:16,800 or say anything. And I'm like, do you wanna like, 466 00:24:17,360 --> 00:24:19,240 like. And then he, he's just like, I 467 00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,280 need to like focus on my study and whatever. 468 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:23,560 And this was a gender studies class. 469 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:27,040 He could have studied you. What is he talking about? 470 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:31,360 Yeah, right. I was like, I'm like, yeah. 471 00:24:31,360 --> 00:24:33,480 I'm the homework. Exactly. 472 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,480 And like the IT was really funny like the gender studies class we 473 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,800 took it was also like they were talking about there's whole 474 00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:44,360 class talking about like mail ordered bride from China. 475 00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:48,000 Oh my God. And I feel like, well, I well I 476 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:49,360 should be leading the class anyway. 477 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:52,480 That's so funny. Yeah. 478 00:24:52,720 --> 00:25:00,880 How's how's, how's culture has been like, like dating, How's 479 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:05,360 culture and dating been like, I don't know, mixed up or not 480 00:25:05,360 --> 00:25:08,520 mixed up for you? What? 481 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,600 Do you, I don't know. I don't know. 482 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:11,640 I mean, like, I'm trying to be smart because I just talked 483 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,680 about college, but I don't know what I'm talking about right 484 00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:17,960 now. You are smart, but I just wanna 485 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,720 make sure. I also wanna make sure, I also 486 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:24,640 wanna say that both me and Piyali are a little fucked. 487 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:26,480 We're a little fucked up last night. 488 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:33,920 It had to be sad. It had to be sad. 489 00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,680 But we're we're powering through. 490 00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,480 We are. We're very cozy in bed right 491 00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:39,960 now. Yeah, it's much like bad. 492 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:45,200 I we both we both had fun last night, but right now the brain 493 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:45,920 is not really. Working. 494 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,440 It was such a relief though when you said that I was like Oh my 495 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:52,560 God girl me do same vibe right sometimes. 496 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,640 Sometimes you just have to share something to get something. 497 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:57,240 You know, just put it out there. Yeah. 498 00:25:57,960 --> 00:25:59,600 What did? I mean, you were asking about 499 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:01,280 how is culture? Oh, what were you going to? 500 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,680 Ask No, I was going to ask what you do, but I probably shouldn't 501 00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:05,720 be talking about that on the podcast. 502 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,880 Yeah. But it was funny. 503 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:14,160 I like I bumped into Piyali when I when we're at City of Goths 504 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:14,960 which. Is like a big. 505 00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:19,200 Halloween party in New York, and if you haven't been you, you, 506 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:21,200 you have to go. It was so fun. 507 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,560 Yes. Well, OK, so you were talking 508 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:28,360 about culture and dating. So I think, yeah, like sometimes 509 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:32,960 I consciously, I've like tried not to date Indian guys. 510 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:34,960 That's what I was kind of talking about earlier where I'm 511 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,600 like, oh, I reject the culture or they're like really 512 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:42,600 misogynist or they can be like, or I had like an ex who was like 513 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:46,000 that. But then I don't know, sometimes 514 00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:49,960 with white guys or like not, you know, Indian people, I'm like 515 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,520 maybe they don't get like a certain part of me so. 516 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:56,240 That's what I feel sometimes, yeah, yeah. 517 00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,640 Yeah. And I think with like, so the 518 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:05,120 guy I was with that night, like, yeah, I think it's kind of one 519 00:27:05,120 --> 00:27:10,480 of those things where I think I'm like not used to having. 520 00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:12,880 So I was, I was talking about like the himbos, right? 521 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:16,000 And like the fuck boys. Like I think I found a level of 522 00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,760 comfort in fuck boys. Like I dated this guy a few 523 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,800 months ago and he really fucked me up. 524 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:22,440 I can curse, right? Yeah, OK. 525 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,560 Yeah, 'cause he was like a fuck boy in nice guy clothing. 526 00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:32,080 Like he like, right. Like he presented like boyfriend 527 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:36,840 material, but he was 2 timing like the whole time. 528 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:40,920 And I'm kind of like, if you're gonna be a fuck boy, just be a 529 00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:42,280 fuck boy. Like just be open about. 530 00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,240 And I think that I almost find that comforting 'cause I'm like, 531 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:46,600 oh, there's no expectations. I don't like expect anything. 532 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:50,000 And I think I've almost become like, I've become a fuck boy 533 00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:51,640 myself. Like I've become a female fuck 534 00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:54,840 boy where I'm like, I, I don't know, I yeah, fucker. 535 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,600 Like I'm kind of, I don't know. I think I 'cause I was in like a 536 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:00,920 long relationship. Like I think my life arc has 537 00:28:00,920 --> 00:28:03,400 been I grew up because I was a late bloomer. 538 00:28:03,400 --> 00:28:05,240 I like wanted her boyfriend like so bad. 539 00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:07,200 I wanted a boyfriend like more than anything. 540 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:11,440 And then I got boyfriends and they ruined my life. 541 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,320 Like literally they just ruined my life like I made. 542 00:28:14,360 --> 00:28:16,520 You a fuck girl? Yeah, So then I was like, fuck 543 00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:17,920 this. Like I'm doing me. 544 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:19,600 I don't want to be in a relationship. 545 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:23,040 I'll just like use men the way they use us, you know, the way 546 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:24,800 they use me. And I was kind of like, OK, 547 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:26,440 we're on the same page. This is like mutual. 548 00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:29,120 And you can material from it. Exactly. 549 00:28:29,120 --> 00:28:30,800 I look at dating as material totally. 550 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:35,960 I'm like, I always get, yeah, but then so like when a guy's 551 00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,440 nice to me, I'm kind of like, what's wrong with you? 552 00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:42,400 Like it's weird. It catches me like off guard 553 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:49,600 cause I've become so comfortable with like the kind of maybe like 554 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,520 like a version of myself, right? Like not really sharing myself 555 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:55,320 with someone 'cause I'm and I'm not used to being respected. 556 00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:57,120 I'm not used to being valued. I'm really used to being like 557 00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:02,040 objectified and it's almost like a protective mechanism I've 558 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,720 developed. So then like now when someone's 559 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,680 nice to me, like, you know, this guy, for instance, I'm like, 560 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:13,160 I'm, I'm suspicious, you know, but it's like also nice. 561 00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:16,440 I'm like, Oh my God, I forgot. I I didn't know what it was like 562 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:20,600 to feel safe. Yeah, yeah, me, you should have. 563 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,560 Loved that that counts for sorry I didn't mean why is that? 564 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,160 No, you go. Oh, I was just gonna say that 565 00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:29,400 counts for more than you know, like height or money or 566 00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:32,520 whatever. I feel like there still have to 567 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:34,800 be a threshold for height and money or and. 568 00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:38,480 Look, he has money. Yeah, hell yeah, those things 569 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,040 matter. But I think also attraction can 570 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,200 grow. Like that's why I hesitate to 571 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:48,040 even say the type thing. Like I actually I got banned 572 00:29:48,040 --> 00:29:51,840 from Hinge. I got banned from Tinder. 573 00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:54,880 We should have. We should have 5 when we're not. 574 00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:56,720 OK, Yeah. What how? 575 00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,240 Why did you get banned from Hinge? 576 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:04,320 OK so I don't know for sure, but my theory is that I was too. 577 00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:08,080 I got banned for being too nice, like I had too many matches. 578 00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:11,800 I had like thousands of matches, I think. 579 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,440 I don't even remember. Like I people would look at my 580 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,120 notifications and they'd be like, holy shit, like that is. 581 00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:19,520 Crazy. I had like thousands of matches 582 00:30:19,520 --> 00:30:24,040 because I would just like back everyone who liked me, no? 583 00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:26,280 I thought you said you only want the. 584 00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:30,720 Well, I guess in. Reality, yes, but in OK, like in 585 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:35,040 theory yes, but in reality I am kind of like, oh, I don't, you 586 00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:37,640 know, everyone has a chance. I want to give everyone a 587 00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:38,400 chance. That's true. 588 00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:40,520 I don't want to just be superficial. 589 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,280 I can't really tell that much about someone from like a 590 00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,000 profile. Like I've actually never really 591 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,520 had a significant online dating experience. 592 00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:51,160 Like, I pretty much exclusively meet people in real life and 593 00:30:51,160 --> 00:30:53,440 have connections with people in real life 'cause I'm such a like 594 00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:57,840 vibe person. So the apps, yeah, the apps I'm 595 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:01,360 like, I can't really get excited by like a profile, you know, 596 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,520 pictures and like fake cultivated answers. 597 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,440 So I just kind of liked everyone who liked me. 598 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,960 But then, you know, when it came time to actually like messaging 599 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,520 and everything, then, you know, then I would actually be a 600 00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:16,480 little more choosy. So I wasn't actually interacting 601 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,640 with people and then a lot of people would accuse me of being 602 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,880 a fake profile or you know, I'd get a lot of messages it it's 603 00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:26,120 like the 180 guys we'll do on apps is so crazy where like 604 00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:28,320 they'll start open with good morning, beautiful. 605 00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:29,560 Well, you're. The 180 guy. 606 00:31:29,760 --> 00:31:32,560 So they'll be like like they'll start with, Oh my God, you're so 607 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,880 beautiful, like can I give you flowers? 608 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:38,880 And then when you don't respond, you stupid bitch, you think 609 00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,600 you're too good for me, you know, and then they would report 610 00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,240 me. So I think I I got reported for 611 00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:48,600 being a fake profile or, you know, like am IA bot. 612 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,720 And then yeah, I just went to log in one day and they were 613 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,400 like, your profile has been removed. 614 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,680 That's crazy. And I appealed and they denied 615 00:31:55,680 --> 00:32:01,280 it and I'm unhinged. Do a joke about this. 616 00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:05,480 I've been unhinged. I like the joke and no well I I 617 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:09,600 was unhinged but then I don't know why I I was banned from 618 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,880 Tinder but I think. Yeah, why I was going to. 619 00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,760 Ask. I think your explanation is 620 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,520 probably the the the true, like the same. 621 00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,720 Yeah, yeah, we're just too, too hot. 622 00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:21,000 We. Just we're too hot for the ABS. 623 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:23,240 Yeah, we're, we're having too many matches. 624 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:24,600 We can't. We don't have enough time for 625 00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:26,560 them. No, that's actually true. 626 00:32:26,800 --> 00:32:28,560 They just get salty. Yeah. 627 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:30,280 No, it's true. And that's the other thing 628 00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:33,240 There's it's too much. It's too many options. 629 00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:35,520 It's too available. Yeah, I can't. 630 00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,280 I don't know. I get overwhelmed. 631 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,280 Yeah, me too. And it's like, you can't really 632 00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:43,400 tell anything from. OK tell me, do you have like a 633 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:47,840 the funniest dating story? Funniest story. 634 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:53,240 OK, well, I'll tell you something that kind of I thought 635 00:32:53,240 --> 00:32:55,760 of when we were talking about this the app So, and this is 636 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:59,240 also a joke I'm working on where, OK, I do understand how 637 00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:01,480 men feel on apps because men are always like, oh, I don't get any 638 00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:05,120 matches and we're like drowning in matches, right? 639 00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:08,720 But then I, I did go on bumble BFF for like girlfriends. 640 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,440 Oh my God. I have, yes. 641 00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,000 Yes, go go. And then I was like not getting 642 00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:15,520 any match. I was like wow so 100 guys want 643 00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,040 to fuck me but not a single girl wants to be friends with me. 644 00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:20,400 This is so demoralizing. Right. 645 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:24,160 Oh, I have the same thought. I, I was like trying to write 646 00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,800 like similar jokes, but I was like, I was on Bumble BFF and 647 00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:29,320 then like no, like I have matches and then they don't 648 00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,000 reply to me and I feel like I have to make so much effort. 649 00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:35,400 Getting ghosted by. Yeah, it's so sad. 650 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:39,440 It's yeah, that's a real thing. So funniest dating story. 651 00:33:39,480 --> 00:33:44,680 I'm trying to think. Like online dating or funniest 652 00:33:44,680 --> 00:33:48,400 profile you've ever seen My on top of my mind, I've seen 653 00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:53,960 profiles that say I like my coffee like like I like my woman 654 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:59,000 like I like my woman like I like my coffee without other guys 655 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:04,440 sticking it. That's pretty much it that I can 656 00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,840 remember. Without another guy sticking it. 657 00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:10,920 Oh OK so I have so see this is what I mean by like the slut 658 00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:15,639 shaming like I feel like. OK so two things come to mind. 1 659 00:34:15,639 --> 00:34:19,120 is I saw a guy right on his bumble. 660 00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:21,040 You know how you can use the opening moves? 661 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,400 Now I have to use Bumble because which was terrible because again 662 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:25,920 I don't like making the first move. 663 00:34:25,920 --> 00:34:28,800 But now if you have opening moves, guys can send the first 664 00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:30,199 message. I didn't know. 665 00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:34,600 That yeah, pro tip. So I go on it when I'm bored or 666 00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:40,280 whatever. So I IA guy wrote one of the 667 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:44,639 prompts who was like on a scale from mildly dead to fully 668 00:34:44,639 --> 00:34:48,280 unhinged, where are you? Like which one? 669 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:49,520 Which end of the spectrum are you? 670 00:34:49,560 --> 00:34:54,239 And I was like, well, I think I'm more unhinged than dead. 671 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:58,360 Like, how about you? And he sent like some emoji, 672 00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:02,760 like as a response, like the, you know, like embarrassed or 673 00:35:02,760 --> 00:35:04,840 like sweating emoji. But then he also said like the 674 00:35:04,840 --> 00:35:10,440 flowers because I, I was like, listen like, and I don't ask 675 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:11,880 questions. You don't want the answer to my 676 00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:14,120 guy. But then I also sent him a link 677 00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,160 to that video on YouTube. Like the hot crazy scale. 678 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,120 I feel like allowed to be crazy because it like then guys think 679 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,480 you're hot or like, you know what I mean? 680 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:25,160 Are you, have you heard this? No, I. 681 00:35:25,240 --> 00:35:26,120 Have. What is it? 682 00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:27,240 My God, I have to send it to you. 683 00:35:27,240 --> 00:35:31,360 So it's like a guy in front of a whiteboard and he's it's like a 684 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:35,600 graph and he's like, the hotter a girl is, the crazier she is. 685 00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:39,800 So I almost feel like enabled to be crazy or like I feel 686 00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:41,920 validated and being crazy. I'm like, at least that means 687 00:35:41,920 --> 00:35:44,680 I'm hot, you know? Or like, you know, there's this 688 00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,440 thing like, hot girls are crazy. They are, though. 689 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:48,360 Are you? We are, yeah. 690 00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:50,120 I don't know. If I don't, I feel like I'm not 691 00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:52,360 that crazy. Maybe I'm not that hot. 692 00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:54,800 Maybe that's the. Reason you're hot, you're hot. 693 00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,280 Maybe you're just emotionally stable and not, you know. 694 00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,800 Why? Why are hot girls crazy though? 695 00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:01,920 I wanna find a justification for that. 696 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,240 I don't know, unusual thing maybe? 697 00:36:04,240 --> 00:36:06,680 It's just a crutch I'm like holding onto, but it's it's like 698 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,640 a thing that guys will, you know, like joke about. 699 00:36:09,640 --> 00:36:11,920 So I send them that. So then another story that comes 700 00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:16,920 to mind. OK, so I was in a situation 701 00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:20,520 recently where I was like sandwich between my own Eskimo 702 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:23,040 brothers. What is Eskimo brothers? 703 00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:27,680 You've OK, so Eskimos. I like learning English today. 704 00:36:27,720 --> 00:36:33,560 That's just my brain. So Eskimo sisters, it's like if 705 00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:36,440 we've slept with the same guy, we're Eskimo sisters, and then 706 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,600 Eskimo brothers have slept with the same girl. 707 00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:42,680 So I was like in a situation where I was with two guys who 708 00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:46,680 have I've hooked up with, but neither of them knew about the 709 00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:48,280 other. And then it was like, really 710 00:36:48,280 --> 00:36:50,400 awkward for me because I'd be like, Oh my God, you guys know 711 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,480 each other. Oh, they know each other. 712 00:36:53,600 --> 00:36:57,000 You just found out. So I had like, seen they kind of 713 00:36:57,000 --> 00:36:58,280 followed each other on Instagram. 714 00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,200 Maybe I shouldn't be talking about something on the podcast. 715 00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:01,440 I hope they don't figure this out. 716 00:37:01,720 --> 00:37:05,240 But yeah, I was kind of, I'd seen they, like, followed each 717 00:37:05,240 --> 00:37:07,240 other, but I'd met them separately, so I didn't know. 718 00:37:07,240 --> 00:37:10,800 And then like, I ended up in a situation where like, I was in 719 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:13,960 the same room as both of them because they're like part of I 720 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:15,480 guess a larger mutual friend group. 721 00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:21,600 And it was so weird for me. I I would be weirded out too. 722 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,520 I have been trying to think, Oh my God, there's so many stories 723 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,080 that I want to say but I can't say. 724 00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:31,040 It's like I can't say it on camera. 725 00:37:31,240 --> 00:37:33,320 I know now I'm like, should I not have said that? 726 00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,560 Maybe that's OK. OK, You didn't like mention 727 00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,600 names or anything like if I Yeah, I was thinking more like 728 00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:41,000 specific, like if I say it and people won't know who it is. 729 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:46,280 But my brain's not working today, you know, that's now 730 00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:48,360 that's how you know how much fun I had. 731 00:37:49,080 --> 00:37:54,520 I Yeah. I'm trying to think if there was 732 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:59,640 something else. I don't know what is going on in 733 00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:01,440 my brain. There's nothing in my brain. 734 00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:03,760 It doesn't. It's not usually like that. 735 00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,200 Is that what hot girl being hot feels like? 736 00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:07,880 Just nothing in your brain. Like, yeah. 737 00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:09,600 You just say whatever you want to say. 738 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:10,680 Like you. Yeah. 739 00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:13,880 Yeah, I think so. Just like unfiltered. 740 00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:18,400 I was thinking of, I feel like so many things have been coming 741 00:38:18,400 --> 00:38:21,160 up for me. I was thinking of like how I 742 00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:24,000 think I have a joke about why women like tall guys. 743 00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:25,560 I think it's. Women like tall guys. 744 00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:28,240 Why women like tall guys? I think it's because they take 745 00:38:28,240 --> 00:38:32,480 better pictures. Like the angle is is really. 746 00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:37,080 The angle I I disagree I disagree really yes, they make 747 00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:39,080 you short because. Like oh, because they're taking 748 00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:41,640 it from too high. I feel like when a guy's shorter 749 00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:44,280 than me though, I get like a double chin and like the angle 750 00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:46,640 is not flattering. But I guess it is good for your 751 00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:48,160 body. Maybe they'll get like a good 752 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:50,840 butt. I don't know. 753 00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:53,920 I think I'm, I've given up on guys taking pictures with me. 754 00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,480 It's like you have to make peace with. 755 00:38:56,480 --> 00:38:58,520 Yeah, that's true. They just don't know what 756 00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,280 they're doing. I also the other joke I'm 757 00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:04,160 working on though, with tall guys is like, I think we just 758 00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:08,600 can't see their faces clearly. Like there was there like there 759 00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:11,600 was this really tall guy and I, I thought he was hot by default. 760 00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:14,560 And then I got what closer look at his face and I was like, oh, 761 00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:18,360 he's actually not really, but I just assumed you. 762 00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:21,760 It's there's like a joke. It was on social media where 763 00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:23,560 people were like, is he tall? Is he hot? 764 00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:29,320 Or is he just tall and white? Can you do a Can you do a Can 765 00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,880 you do a hot guy? Oh sorry, can you do a tall guy 766 00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:36,440 impression? Yes. 767 00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,800 What would a tall guy say? What a what would a white, tall, 768 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:43,200 skinny like? I don't know guy would say. 769 00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:47,520 I think, I think just like they're so confident. 770 00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:50,920 I don't know, like they're just, it's like almost shocking to me 771 00:39:50,920 --> 00:39:54,880 sometimes the level of confidence that like my, my 772 00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:56,720 friends actually make fun of me for this. 773 00:39:57,000 --> 00:40:02,640 He was he was like why is your type either boring or completely 774 00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:07,640 insane? Which ones are the hot ones, the 775 00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:10,080 insane ones or the the boring ones? 776 00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,240 Or both. Both in different ways, I guess. 777 00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,720 Yeah. I feel like I need to go out to 778 00:40:17,720 --> 00:40:20,520 date more to be keeping up with the podcast. 779 00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:26,320 I feel like I I used to be such a slut and recently I've been 780 00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:30,400 tamed down and it's not. It's been hard for me to write 781 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:35,720 jokes lately and. It's the reason not to, not to 782 00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,400 tame yourself. We yeah, I do. 783 00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:40,160 I do. OK, so this is, it's a double 784 00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,120 edged sword though, 'cause sometimes I'm like, are all my 785 00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:46,800 slutty stories like going to dissuade any guy from ever 786 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,800 wanting to date me? It's like, are they gonna hear 787 00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:51,080 my are they're gonna watch this podcast, be like, Oh my God, I 788 00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,640 don't wanna be. That's not yeah, but this is 789 00:40:54,640 --> 00:40:56,360 what I mean though. This is what fucks me up is like 790 00:40:56,440 --> 00:41:00,760 the double standards between men and women or like, you know, 791 00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:04,800 like men can have a body count. Like no one's the things that 792 00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:07,640 people think are OK for men or say are OK for men. 793 00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:10,880 Like then they like that that comment you saw. 794 00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:12,800 I don't want another guy's Dick. Whatever. 795 00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:15,080 Like what do you expect? I'm just gonna sit around 796 00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:19,520 waiting for you. Like let me live my life. 797 00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:25,600 It's it's crazy. I actually just saw this, sorry. 798 00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,080 No, sorry. I was my my brain is down. 799 00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:29,160 Sorry. You go ahead. 800 00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:30,640 I. Feel like you're carrying the 801 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:31,960 whole conversation. No, no, no. 802 00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:33,280 You're. I feel like I'm talking too 803 00:41:33,280 --> 00:41:34,360 much. And I was like, I'll just keep 804 00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:35,480 talking. No, please. 805 00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:39,400 You OK, So I just. I saw this study, Yeah. 806 00:41:40,160 --> 00:41:44,800 Where like basically men benefit from marriage and relationships 807 00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:48,000 more than women do. Like men's life expectancy 808 00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:51,240 increases, they're like more productive or as women it like 809 00:41:51,240 --> 00:41:54,520 actually decreases. Yes. 810 00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,200 Or it's like not as beneficial for us. 811 00:41:58,240 --> 00:42:00,560 And that's how I felt like in relation, in a lot of my 812 00:42:00,560 --> 00:42:02,440 relationships. I felt like I was drained. 813 00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:06,640 I was like a shell of myself. And now I am really happy being 814 00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:08,840 like loud and proud. But then sometimes I do have 815 00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:12,200 moments where I'm like, oh, it would be nice to have like, you 816 00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:13,640 know? Yeah, I think about that. 817 00:42:13,640 --> 00:42:19,840 Some parts, yeah, Yeah. But I feel like for women, oh, 818 00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:21,920 brain's not working today. I'm so sorry. 819 00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:23,480 No, no, you're good. You're. 820 00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:25,320 My God, what did I? What were you saying? 821 00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,920 It's like having a dream. I'm like dreaming right now, you 822 00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,120 know, like when you have a dream. 823 00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:31,560 Out of body experience, yes, I feel that. 824 00:42:31,720 --> 00:42:33,880 No, it's like we have a dream when you're trying to remember 825 00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:35,360 it, but you don't remember it. But it's like. 826 00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:36,600 Cobwebs. Yeah. 827 00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:37,400 Is that? Me. 828 00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:38,920 What does it say? What's that? 829 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:40,200 What's it called? What'd you say? 830 00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:41,720 Oh, I said cobwebs. Yeah. 831 00:42:41,720 --> 00:42:44,840 What is that? Like, like spider webs, you 832 00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,680 know, like what spiders make. I don't. 833 00:42:47,320 --> 00:42:52,040 Yeah, I don't know. I feel like I'm being really 834 00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:53,520 crazy. I feel like I'm talking a lot. 835 00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:55,480 No, I feel like I'm not talking too much like. 836 00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:58,560 No, I feel like we had a really good conversation. 837 00:42:58,560 --> 00:43:03,080 We talked about trash GPT. Wow, you're being the host 838 00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,520 tonight. I thank you so much. 839 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:07,680 I feel like you'll be a very good podcast host and tonight 840 00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:10,720 I'm like. No, you're. 841 00:43:10,720 --> 00:43:14,680 You're like like wrapping up, you're like summary, like doing 842 00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,640 all the points before. Now I have to do it for myself 843 00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:20,080 too 'cause I feel like I had thoughts while we were talking 844 00:43:20,080 --> 00:43:23,120 and I wanted to like say them but then I would like forget and 845 00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:25,160 I would get distracted by something else. 846 00:43:25,240 --> 00:43:28,360 Me too we were talking about. Sometimes I can still remember, 847 00:43:28,360 --> 00:43:30,440 but tonight, tonight it's just not happening. 848 00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:33,760 Oh, I have another funny date that maybe we can put in place 849 00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:35,000 of the Eskimo brothers. Yes. 850 00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:40,680 So I went on a date with this guy and he like, he was really 851 00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:42,320 weird. He was like, oh, let's go to a 852 00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:43,920 rooftop. And then he talked his way into 853 00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:47,720 a private rooftop by like lying and saying he was like a a 854 00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:51,120 resident of the building. And it was super weird. 855 00:43:51,120 --> 00:43:52,360 I was like, are you a psychopath? 856 00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:55,680 Like that's kind of weird. And then, yeah, like, I was 857 00:43:55,680 --> 00:43:58,240 like, should I be impressed? Or is this just like weird? 858 00:43:58,240 --> 00:44:02,600 And then later. He catch me if you can yeah so 859 00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:06,080 far yes, but. Then later he we got in this 860 00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,000 weird fight because he was like, do you want to go see this 861 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:10,880 psychic? And I was like, no, but he like 862 00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:13,800 kind of bullied me into it. He was like, let's go see this. 863 00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:15,240 Like he was really insistent about it. 864 00:44:15,240 --> 00:44:18,320 And then I don't know something girl and he yes, no. 865 00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:22,080 Then he started crying about how like psychics broke up his 866 00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:24,720 family. Oh my God, I forget is. 867 00:44:24,720 --> 00:44:27,520 This the first date. No, this was like a second. 868 00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:29,400 Oh, that's still. It was a lot. 869 00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,440 It was crazy. And I every time I tried to 870 00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,400 leave, I was like, I'm going to go to the bathroom and then I 871 00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:35,520 would come back and he'd like bought another drink and he was 872 00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:37,680 still crying. It was like, that's crazy. 873 00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,240 It was an unhinged. Experience Have you ever been to 874 00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,280 the psychic? No, never. 875 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,760 I've had like psychic experiences. 876 00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:49,400 I had a psychic approach me on the street once but I haven't 877 00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:50,920 been to it. Were they correct? 878 00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,520 What? They were, yeah. 879 00:44:52,640 --> 00:44:56,280 It was kind of crazy. Is this like part of a longer 880 00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:59,800 story? But basically he said that like 881 00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:03,840 this girl was jealous of me and had put a curse on me and he 882 00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:07,680 gave me instructions on how to break the curse and she was like 883 00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:12,240 my ex's ex and she like cyber bullied me and was absolutely 884 00:45:12,240 --> 00:45:15,840 insane. So he was actually right like 885 00:45:15,840 --> 00:45:17,360 about everything. Wait. 886 00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,800 This was all like before you provided information about your. 887 00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,680 Ex Ex Yes no, he just like. Do you believe in that? 888 00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:26,520 In psychics. Yeah. 889 00:45:26,560 --> 00:45:30,200 Yeah, I think ever since that experience, like I really do, I 890 00:45:30,200 --> 00:45:32,680 don't think everyone's a psychic, but I think, have you? 891 00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:35,120 Have you been? I haven't been to a psychic. 892 00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:39,880 I've been to like, what is it like astrologist and my 893 00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:43,240 astrologist said that I'm gonna have 4 husbands in my life. 894 00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:45,520 I don't know. I don't know how that's going. 895 00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:46,680 I don't know. Like if you're like, good. 896 00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:50,960 For you. I feel like or is a little too 897 00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:52,760 much. I feel like I would stop at 3. 898 00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:55,280 Like I feel like 3 isn't is enough. 899 00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:59,040 I'm not even a number one. Sometimes I think about that. 900 00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,120 I'm like, I haven't even been married yet. 901 00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:02,960 But then I'm like. But I know as soon as I get 902 00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:04,720 married, I'll like wanna get divorced, you know? 903 00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:08,840 Yeah, we move on to the next. Normalize having 4 husbands. 904 00:46:09,440 --> 00:46:14,600 Yeah, well, if they're old and they, you know, and rich, then 905 00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:18,880 you can, yeah. My psychic also said my 906 00:46:20,200 --> 00:46:23,200 astrologist also said my husband is going to give me a lot of 907 00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:27,840 money and my husband might be a little older but she didn't say 908 00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:31,840 which one. And she also said that my my 909 00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:33,880 love life is going to be a little tough. 910 00:46:33,880 --> 00:46:37,600 But I think she meant that by like I'm going to have 4 911 00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:39,560 husbands but I don't see that as tough. 912 00:46:39,560 --> 00:46:43,400 I see that as living my dream. Yeah, I kind of. 913 00:46:43,680 --> 00:46:48,280 I want your astrologer's number. OK, my astrologist is Chinese, 914 00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:50,360 but she can. I think there's. 915 00:46:50,720 --> 00:46:54,000 Yeah, yeah, yeah. And she also, I don't know if I 916 00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:56,520 can trust her. I don't like it hasn't been 917 00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:58,840 proved. So I don't understand why you're 918 00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:01,280 asking for her number. Maybe because I like her 919 00:47:01,280 --> 00:47:03,720 answers, maybe she won't give me the same answers. 920 00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:06,680 You know, that's true. Also, I like, I like how she's 921 00:47:06,720 --> 00:47:09,000 like. I'm asking her like, is it OK if 922 00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:11,440 I do stand up comedy? And she's like, yes, yeah. 923 00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:15,320 And she's like, your, your love life is gonna be challenged, but 924 00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,400 your career is gonna take off. And both of your both of you and 925 00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,520 your husband is gonna make a lot of money. 926 00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:24,320 That's great, yeah. But she's also been like, wrong 927 00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:25,880 about a lot of things, so I don't know. 928 00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:30,200 She yeah, she's told me that I'm gonna be single like, now. 929 00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:35,200 But yeah, yeah, like I'm, I'm gonna be like celibate 930 00:47:35,240 --> 00:47:38,680 basically. But girls, we having sex. 931 00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:43,360 So I mean, I think there's material there. 932 00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:46,360 You were saying you feel like you don't have material because 933 00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:47,600 you're not slutty. That's OK. 934 00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,520 There's there's more material than being slutty. 935 00:47:50,520 --> 00:47:52,840 Like I think I'm struggling with this like clean material 936 00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:53,760 something. Yeah. 937 00:47:54,520 --> 00:47:58,160 But then that's what I mean. So my friend, actually, she told 938 00:47:58,160 --> 00:48:01,280 me, she sent me a screenshot of a Hinge message she got. 939 00:48:01,640 --> 00:48:04,760 And the guy was like, oh, so you're a comedian? 940 00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:07,920 Do you just talk about sex? And like, this guy said that to 941 00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:09,720 me once too. He was like, oh, you're a 942 00:48:09,720 --> 00:48:11,640 comedian. Do you do a lot of raunchy 943 00:48:11,640 --> 00:48:13,760 stuff? But like, no one says that to 944 00:48:13,760 --> 00:48:15,280 guys. No one's like, oh, do you just 945 00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:16,960 talk about sex because you're a male comic? 946 00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:20,240 And they do talk about sex way more than us. 947 00:48:20,360 --> 00:48:21,960 I never thought about it that way it. 948 00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:24,520 Pisses me off. Like we're in such a thing where 949 00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,720 it's like you have to, I don't know, it's like the whole 950 00:48:26,720 --> 00:48:29,240 Madonna horror complex or it's Madonna horror. 951 00:48:29,240 --> 00:48:32,280 It's like you're either seen as. I think about this a lot because 952 00:48:32,280 --> 00:48:36,600 I think I get like sexualized a lot on, I feel like on my social 953 00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:39,160 media. Yeah, no, this is good, this is 954 00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:39,880 good. We're cooking. 955 00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:42,640 We're in the kitchen. No, no, we're on the kitchen 956 00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:43,720 'cause we don't belong in the kitchen. 957 00:48:44,000 --> 00:48:48,040 But yeah, no, I feel like, 'cause I get, I think I was 958 00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:49,360 telling you this. Like, I feel like I get 959 00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:52,840 sexualized so much because of like just how my body is. 960 00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,000 So like sometimes I, I feel like guys just see me as like an 961 00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:57,520 object. Like they just see me as like a 962 00:48:57,520 --> 00:49:01,240 certain way and they don't think they don't like, they don't see 963 00:49:01,240 --> 00:49:05,280 me as like the girl to bring home to mom, you know, because 964 00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:07,320 I'm not like seen as wholesome and not for whatever. 965 00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,920 They just like categorize me. So the Madonna horror complex is 966 00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:15,520 either guys see you as a Madonna, like a pure, like a 967 00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:17,640 virgin, that Madonna, that Madonna. 968 00:49:17,680 --> 00:49:20,080 Yeah. No, not the Madonna or like a 969 00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:21,600 whore. You know, like, yeah. 970 00:49:22,080 --> 00:49:23,800 Oh, I yeah, I've heard of that. Yeah. 971 00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:27,800 I've also been told by guys that I shouldn't just do like sexual 972 00:49:27,800 --> 00:49:31,040 materials and I like they're like, oh you're so funny. 973 00:49:31,040 --> 00:49:32,600 You shouldn't just sell yourself short. 974 00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,640 You can come up with so much funnier stuff without talking 975 00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:37,520 about sex. I was told that by a female 976 00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,200 teacher, yeah. I don't know, how do you feel 977 00:49:40,240 --> 00:49:43,040 about like because they're telling us that I'm like 978 00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:45,960 thinking maybe I should. It doesn't fucking. 979 00:49:45,960 --> 00:49:48,040 Matter. It's like at the end of the day, 980 00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:51,880 like as long as you're making people laugh, who cares? 981 00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:55,040 And it pisses me off because it's like, I want to just like 982 00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:57,360 normalize that this is what I mean. 983 00:49:57,360 --> 00:50:01,880 Like we're fucked either way. Like whether you, like, whether 984 00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:06,960 you dress up, whether you dress down, whether you have sex, 985 00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:10,400 whether you don't have sex, it's like you who are going to be 986 00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:14,880 judged, like we're always judged or like criticized, like no 987 00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:16,720 matter what we do, it's like we can't win. 988 00:50:17,040 --> 00:50:19,720 So I don't know. I, I think that's what I was 989 00:50:19,720 --> 00:50:21,200 telling you. Like I want to do more clean 990 00:50:21,200 --> 00:50:23,120 material just to like challenge myself. 991 00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:25,480 And I know that I can. And also it opens up 992 00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:26,960 opportunities. It's just the reality of the 993 00:50:26,960 --> 00:50:28,840 world. But I also don't want to have to 994 00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:33,120 feel bad about talking about a perfectly normal part of my life 995 00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:36,960 and just 'cause you know, I have sex. 996 00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:40,760 Like people are going to judge me like what, Or like see me as 997 00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:46,440 a a lesser person like but people don't put those standards 998 00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:48,520 on on men. No, Yeah. 999 00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:52,000 I never heard of someone commenting on a man's post or, 1000 00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,080 like, stand a bit about, like, this is too sexual. 1001 00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:57,880 Yeah. They're like, women don't women 1002 00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:00,240 comics don't talk too much about, like, politics. 1003 00:51:00,240 --> 00:51:01,680 They only talk about like girly stuff. 1004 00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,240 Right, but exactly you never. Yeah or yeah, or society and 1005 00:51:05,240 --> 00:51:08,120 stuff, like serious stuff they talk about, like girly stuff and 1006 00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:09,600 sex. Right, right. 1007 00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:12,360 Or like you always see the classic like women aren't funny. 1008 00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:14,920 This stuff like no one ever says like men aren't funny. 1009 00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:18,440 Like Can you imagine like the comments that like the comments. 1010 00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:23,000 I want to make a video. So I I posted a real of like a 1011 00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:25,520 month ago where I was ranting about AI. 1012 00:51:26,840 --> 00:51:30,120 So have you heard about the AI actress Tilly Tilly Norwood? 1013 00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:34,920 So I posted a rant about this. I was just like, why is AII 1014 00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:37,000 thought the point of AI was to do the jobs that we don't want 1015 00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:38,440 to do, not the one job I actually want. 1016 00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:44,680 And like all the I I filmed this while I was like coming back 1017 00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:45,920 from the gym. So I'm wearing a sports. 1018 00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:48,200 Bra. I mean sports bra. 1019 00:51:48,200 --> 00:51:50,160 It's fine. It's like it was a sports bra 1020 00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:54,760 tank, like it was a shirt, like it's like it's and then if 1021 00:51:54,760 --> 00:51:57,760 anything, I was. Yeah, sorry, sorry, sorry, 1022 00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:58,280 sorry. No. 1023 00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:00,640 What about like, what about the video? 1024 00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:02,360 Oh yeah. So that's the thing. 1025 00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:05,480 So like for me, I was like, Oh my God, I almost don't want to 1026 00:52:05,480 --> 00:52:07,840 post it. Like I, you know, I don't, I 1027 00:52:07,840 --> 00:52:09,400 feel like I'm not wearing makeup, I don't look good, 1028 00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:11,000 etcetera, etcetera. And then my friend was like just 1029 00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:16,720 post it and I posted it and all the this video has like over 1030 00:52:16,720 --> 00:52:20,960 1,000,000 views combined on like Instagram and TikTok but for all 1031 00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,080 the wrong reasons. Like all the comments are 1032 00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:26,400 fucking like in cells and disgusting men like talking 1033 00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:33,800 about my boobs, like leaving foul like obscene emojis and 1034 00:52:33,800 --> 00:52:38,120 like like they they started calling me titty Norwood. 1035 00:52:38,920 --> 00:52:41,240 Like all the comments. I know I laughed but also I was 1036 00:52:41,240 --> 00:52:42,960 like wow. And then there's so many 1037 00:52:42,960 --> 00:52:46,160 comments that are like oh, are those real or those fake? 1038 00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,880 I was like wow, like no one cares if actors are real but 1039 00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:51,360 everyone cares if my boobs are. Oh my God you should make get 1040 00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,960 follow up videos. Yeah, get your priorities to 1041 00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:57,040 create TikTok, but why did why did I get on this? 1042 00:52:57,040 --> 00:53:02,320 There was a reason AI women. Oh yeah, women and men. 1043 00:53:02,320 --> 00:53:04,040 OK, so that's the thing. Yeah. 1044 00:53:04,320 --> 00:53:07,280 So like this is what I was telling you about earlier. 1045 00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:10,800 Like I get comments all the time where people are like, oh, do 1046 00:53:10,800 --> 00:53:14,440 you have an only fans or like, like I went out with this guy 1047 00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:16,880 and he was like, yeah, do you have, do you have only fans? 1048 00:53:16,960 --> 00:53:19,440 Like you post a lot of pictures at the beach or in a bikini. 1049 00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:20,760 It's like, So what? I'm a Pisces man. 1050 00:53:20,760 --> 00:53:22,280 I like the beach, I like the water. 1051 00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:24,920 I love pools. Or I just don't need to explain 1052 00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:28,760 myself to you. Like how how does like enjoying 1053 00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:31,520 the beach equate to I have only fans. 1054 00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:34,400 Like yeah, like I've do you ever look at a guys Instagram? 1055 00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:35,880 He's posting like he's a surfer bro. 1056 00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:38,040 He's posting pics at the beach and like, Oh my God, he must 1057 00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:39,000 have only fans. What a whore. 1058 00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:41,560 Yeah, you never, I never thought about it that way. 1059 00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:44,920 Like on the guy's perspective, like a guy who's always posting, 1060 00:53:44,920 --> 00:53:47,720 like shirtless, like pictures at the beach, whatever. 1061 00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:51,400 Yeah, no one's ever like, oh, he must be dumb or he must be a 1062 00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:53,320 slut. Like just the judgement and the 1063 00:53:53,320 --> 00:53:57,800 comments that we get just for being women. 1064 00:53:57,800 --> 00:54:01,080 It's. Or if a guy only posts like, 1065 00:54:01,200 --> 00:54:04,560 very ripped pictures of like, I don't know, like shorts, and 1066 00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:07,920 they'll think that he's gay. Oh really? 1067 00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:13,080 Yeah, ripped shorts, ripped body and wearing shorts. 1068 00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,320 Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. But that's the thing. 1069 00:54:16,320 --> 00:54:21,400 No one's ever like putting men down for how they present or 1070 00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:25,200 like doubting their intelligence or doubting their talent or any. 1071 00:54:25,200 --> 00:54:27,880 Like I get so many comments like, oh, you're just using your 1072 00:54:27,880 --> 00:54:29,920 body this that. It's like I don't see my body 1073 00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:32,840 the way that. Everyone else and I see your 1074 00:54:32,840 --> 00:54:35,800 Instagram, it's not like it's it's normal. 1075 00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:38,560 It's normal, right? Like, I'm not, you're not even 1076 00:54:38,560 --> 00:54:42,640 like, yeah. Yeah, Like, sorry, I have boobs. 1077 00:54:42,640 --> 00:54:46,000 Like because I have boobs, people think I'm, you know, like 1078 00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:48,960 I'm trying to show off or whatever and it's like, maybe 1079 00:54:48,960 --> 00:54:52,320 I'm just wearing a fucking bathing suit at the beach, like. 1080 00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:55,520 Yeah, my friend who also had big, big boobs, She's like 1081 00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:57,480 posting like she's not a comedian. 1082 00:54:57,480 --> 00:54:59,880 She's also posting like, like outfit videos. 1083 00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:01,880 And people are asking like, where's the link? 1084 00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:05,280 Like, how do I find the link? Like they're asking for her only 1085 00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:07,280 fan. So I guess that's not that's 1086 00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:08,200 not. Yeah. 1087 00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:14,440 And I recently I saw Louis CK's special. 1088 00:55:14,600 --> 00:55:16,280 Oh yeah. That was in theatre. 1089 00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:20,520 It was good. I mean, he like he he has 1090 00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:23,080 controversies, but I like I got the ticket for free, so I've. 1091 00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:28,280 Hell yeah, yeah. And I saw his material and I 1092 00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:32,160 like, 'cause I always been like, people have been telling me too 1093 00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:34,200 much about like, oh, you can't do the stroke, you can't do the 1094 00:55:34,200 --> 00:55:37,080 stroke. And then like I saw his material 1095 00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,120 and I'm like he, he's doing way riskier. 1096 00:55:40,280 --> 00:55:43,320 Exactly. Yeah, and he's like getting a, 1097 00:55:43,440 --> 00:55:45,160 what is it room? What is it called? 1098 00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:49,120 The standing ovation? This is what I mean. 1099 00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:53,080 This is exactly what I mean. Thank you for affirming that. 1100 00:55:53,360 --> 00:55:56,360 Yeah, yeah, no, it's, it's infuriating. 1101 00:55:56,360 --> 00:56:01,240 It's actually like, and, and that's why I almost consciously, 1102 00:56:01,240 --> 00:56:03,400 I like to play into it a little bit. 1103 00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:06,880 Like I like to dress up for shows and I'm like, oh, you're 1104 00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:10,080 going to think I'm dumb because I'm wearing a skirt. 1105 00:56:10,640 --> 00:56:12,480 Like because I'm wearing a mini shirt. 1106 00:56:12,480 --> 00:56:16,280 Like I'm almost like I am going to let you think I'm like a a 1107 00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:18,880 bimbo. I'm going to let you think I'm 1108 00:56:18,880 --> 00:56:21,720 like a hot dumb girl and then pull out really smart jokes and 1109 00:56:21,720 --> 00:56:23,240 like pull the rug out from under you. 1110 00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:27,480 Like my first show I did actually, my friend told me that 1111 00:56:27,560 --> 00:56:31,240 one of her like someone in the audience was like, oh that like 1112 00:56:31,240 --> 00:56:35,600 judging me for like wearing a short skirt on stage, like why 1113 00:56:35,680 --> 00:56:37,360 and. 2020 what? What? 1114 00:56:37,360 --> 00:56:39,920 Exactly and my friend totally went for bat to me she was like 1115 00:56:39,920 --> 00:56:41,720 what do you want her to wear A fucking paper bag? 1116 00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:44,960 Like why am I getting judged for what I'm wearing on stage? 1117 00:56:44,960 --> 00:56:47,360 Like I'm not naked even if I wasn't care. 1118 00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,280 I know that exists naked in all these shows, but it's like I'm 1119 00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:53,760 wearing like something perfectly normal and like, you're not. 1120 00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:55,600 You're clearly. And it was a woman who said 1121 00:56:55,600 --> 00:56:56,560 that. Oh my God. 1122 00:56:57,400 --> 00:56:58,880 Like, you're clearly not listening to. 1123 00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:00,400 Yeah. It's like the internalized 1124 00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:01,320 misogyny. I don't know. 1125 00:57:01,320 --> 00:57:03,360 It's tough. Sometimes it's like the things 1126 00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:07,720 men say, but also the things women will say, like, and then, 1127 00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:11,120 yeah, I don't know, Sometimes it, it cuts deeper. 1128 00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:12,200 It's even worse. It's like. 1129 00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:17,200 Yeah, I feel like it's, it feels, I feel worse when someone 1130 00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,880 I identified with calls me out for things that they 1131 00:57:20,880 --> 00:57:24,200 misunderstood me for or they just don't see the world, like 1132 00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:26,480 they're just not on my side. I feel like that hurts me more 1133 00:57:26,480 --> 00:57:28,080 than like if a guy like calls me. 1134 00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:33,480 For sure, yeah. Yeah, well, I think we're we're 1135 00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:35,240 overtime. We went overtime. 1136 00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:39,960 But yeah, this is a fruitful conversation. 1137 00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:43,560 Sorry my brain was like down for a little bit, but I'm glad I 1138 00:57:43,560 --> 00:57:46,040 came back and I heard so many amazing stories that you just 1139 00:57:46,040 --> 00:57:47,280 told. Oh, thank you. 1140 00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:49,240 No, I feel like my brain started to crash. 1141 00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:53,400 Here's the, I feel like we, we kind of like, oh, when I you 1142 00:57:53,400 --> 00:57:56,480 were here and I was here and then I was here and then you 1143 00:57:56,480 --> 00:57:58,320 were here. So we, we balance each other 1144 00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:02,000 out. I think collectively we have one 1145 00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:07,880 non hungover brain. Good, Good job. 1146 00:58:08,560 --> 00:58:10,720 Oh yeah. I I would look forward to 1147 00:58:10,720 --> 00:58:12,600 working with you again. Me too. 1148 00:58:12,600 --> 00:58:14,880 Oh my God I would love to. Do you ever have a repeat guest 1149 00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:18,200 or? I well, I just had yeah, 2 two 1150 00:58:18,200 --> 00:58:20,520 months. So hopefully this gets bigger 1151 00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:23,000 and I can have you on it. I love this idea. 1152 00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:24,280 I love. It so close. 1153 00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:26,520 Thank you so much for coming. Yeah, thank you for having me. 1154 00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:28,680 I was excited when you asked. And then when we ran into each 1155 00:58:28,680 --> 00:58:30,160 other at City of Gods, that's the next day. 1156 00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:33,040 It was like meant to be. I'm sorry if I scared you at 1157 00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:35,640 City of Gods. I was like in the clown makeup. 1158 00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:37,360 Oh no, you didn't scare me after. 1159 00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:39,800 Did you see the other people there? 1160 00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:43,600 You were fine. I love the makeup. 1161 00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:46,240 I wish I was good at makeup. I'm always like, really lazy on 1162 00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:48,560 Halloween. It wasn't really like technique. 1163 00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:51,680 It was just mainly time. Like if you like it, just put 1164 00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:53,680 like, yeah. No, you looked great. 1165 00:58:53,680 --> 00:58:55,120 You looked awesome. Thank you so much. 1166 00:58:55,920 --> 00:58:57,520 You look awesome too. Thank you. 1167 00:58:58,080 --> 00:59:00,600 And you were you were dressing as a white girl. 1168 00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:04,000 Yeah, yeah, I was Starlight from The Boys. 1169 00:59:04,520 --> 00:59:07,840 I love Co opting white superheroes. 1170 00:59:07,840 --> 00:59:11,560 I do Wonder Woman a lot. Too like I remember I should 1171 00:59:11,560 --> 00:59:14,000 start doing that like. Yeah, no Starlight. 1172 00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:15,760 She's blonde. And I thought about doing a 1173 00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:17,840 blonde wig and I was like, no, fuck it, I'm just gonna be me. 1174 00:59:17,840 --> 00:59:19,760 And you know what? I still got recognized. 1175 00:59:20,520 --> 00:59:22,600 Hell yeah. Yeah, by people who knew the 1176 00:59:22,600 --> 00:59:26,600 costume. Yeah, so people who can see you, 1177 00:59:27,160 --> 00:59:30,440 see for who you are, always gonna see who you are. 1178 00:59:30,480 --> 00:59:34,200 Such a good note to end up. Thank you. 1179 00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:40,920 Okay, this is our. One Brain podcast for tonight. 2 1180 00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:43,480 Asians, 2 Asian. Girls, one brain.