1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,080 Yeah, you are tall. Yeah. 2 00:00:01,080 --> 00:00:03,200 Can I say that? Yeah, yeah, it's OK for you to 3 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:04,920 say. It's not something just we can 4 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:05,760 say. You can say it. 5 00:00:06,640 --> 00:00:08,520 How tall are you? I'm 6 feet. 6 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:11,840 We measured like a couple weeks ago, 'cause I was like, I, I 7 00:00:11,840 --> 00:00:15,080 don't think that I'm 6 feet. Well, no, I didn't think I, I 8 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:18,960 was like, I think that I'm 510 1/2 was kind of where I was at. 9 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:25,760 And every time I used to tell guys that they would get so 10 00:00:25,760 --> 00:00:27,400 weird about it. Like they would be like, no, no, 11 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:31,040 no, 'cause I'm, I'm like 5/8, so you must be like 6-4. 12 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:33,560 And I was like, I don't think so, buddy. 13 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:36,520 I really don't think so. But so we measured like a couple 14 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:37,960 weeks ago. Not that it like matters 15 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:41,120 anymore, but yeah I I'm 6 feet like. 16 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:45,600 Wow, OK, so whenever I go on a like a like a date with a guy, I 17 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,240 can I can bring you. So you're like the perfect. 18 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:51,640 I'll all show up and then we can stand next to each other and 19 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:53,440 then you can decide whether he is the height. 20 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:55,880 He says yes. It's my thought is and this is 21 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,960 not, this isn't a new take. If a guy says he's 58, he's 22 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:02,280 probably 5-6. If a guy says he's 6 feet tall, 23 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:06,360 he's 510. And if a guy says a height over 24 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:10,560 six, if a guy says he's 61, he's 6 feet and if he says he's 62, 25 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:12,600 he's probably 6-2. That's when you start. 26 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:14,360 That's like the measure of accuracy. 27 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:16,440 I would say once you hit 62, they stop lying. 28 00:01:16,440 --> 00:01:19,360 That's and if they're lying, it's 'cause they genuinely don't 29 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:20,760 know, like they haven't thought about it. 30 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:22,080 That's my take. That's. 31 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:23,840 Actually very accurate and I feel like. 32 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:31,680 Hey, how are you? I'm good. 33 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:34,480 I'm supposed to ask the first question. 34 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:37,320 I'm sorry, my bad. It's OK. 35 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:39,960 OK. So Charlotte, yes, what's 36 00:01:39,960 --> 00:01:44,200 keeping you up tonight? What's keeping me up is that not 37 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:48,200 everybody is meant to be polyamorous, and I think that's 38 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:49,480 OK. I think it's OK. 39 00:01:49,800 --> 00:01:52,240 It's OK for people to not. Be it's OK for people to not be 40 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,360 polyamorous. That's kind of what's keeping me 41 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,400 up. Wait, I don't think it's OK. 42 00:01:58,080 --> 00:01:59,440 You think everybody has to be Polly? 43 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:02,560 Wait, I think the norm should be Polly and some people can come 44 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:06,400 out as not Polly. I OK, I mean, fair, but I think 45 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:09,600 there are a lot of people who are like, I'm me and my partner 46 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:11,320 are like, have you ever seen those Tik Toks where it's 47 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:14,120 somebody being like, here's my routine for when my partner goes 48 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,680 on a date and it's like them just basically like trying to 49 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,440 calm themselves down from like having a panic attack in a 50 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:20,840 TikTok. And I'm like no. 51 00:02:22,440 --> 00:02:25,240 What? What TikTok are you on? 52 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:30,160 But I feel like I saw one of those Tik Toks. 53 00:02:30,160 --> 00:02:32,200 I feel like I see a lot of things that are like, here's how 54 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:35,400 like, they're like jealousy and some really normal emotion even 55 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:37,760 when you're Polly. And here's how I calm myself 56 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:39,560 down. And I'm like, yeah, I think that 57 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:42,040 being jealous is a normal emotion even when you're Polly. 58 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:45,720 But I also think that, like, if you're having a panic attack 59 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:48,240 every time your partner, like, goes on a date, then maybe you 60 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:51,200 just aren't Polly, right? Like, I just think that that's 61 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:52,760 OK. And I don't think it's like 62 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,840 unwoke for you to not be Polly. I think it's OK. 63 00:02:56,840 --> 00:02:58,720 Like it's OK to be monogamous. It is. 64 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:00,760 I haven't, yeah. Yeah. 65 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:05,400 I had some like I didn't, I didn't need crisis earlier about 66 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,760 this too, because I was like, maybe I used to think that I was 67 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:12,520 Polly because I feel like I can like multiple people at the same 68 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:16,720 time for the same amount. But then and then recently I'm 69 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,480 realizing maybe it's because I don't like any of them. 70 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:23,480 You know what? And I think that's truly being 71 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:26,400 Polly is when you I really hate all of your bitch wives. 72 00:03:28,640 --> 00:03:30,160 OK. And no, I think I think it's 73 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:32,040 like it's perfectly OK to be Polly. 74 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:34,840 And I think people are Polly. Obviously, like they exist, 75 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:37,840 they're real. But I also think, like, maybe if 76 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:41,720 you have to convince yourself to be Polly in like a very real 77 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:45,520 way, then maybe it's worth thinking about why you're trying 78 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:48,280 to make yourself be Polly. You know, that's a that's a 79 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:50,600 deeper question. Like I think some people like, 80 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,560 want to want their partner to see other people or like want. 81 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:57,200 Want to to be. They like want to want to be 82 00:03:57,200 --> 00:04:01,680 Polly, OK, because it's like cooler or like people say it's 83 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:04,040 like decolonial. Like they're like, yeah, like 84 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:07,000 the chains of monogamy. Shake them off and you're free 85 00:04:07,480 --> 00:04:11,920 and I'm I just think that I don't think it makes you Woker 86 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,760 to be. Polly, it doesn't. 87 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:17,760 No, I. Think it's like I've been doing 88 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:18,079 it. Wrong. 89 00:04:18,160 --> 00:04:21,200 The whole time you were like, this is how I'm gonna do it. 90 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,240 That's how that's how I wanted to try and. 91 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,840 Move to New York Step 2. Be Polly. 92 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:29,720 No, this I woke. Yeah, this is a real 93 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:32,400 conversation that I had with someone that I was seeing. 94 00:04:32,840 --> 00:04:36,080 I was like, I told them about like all these other people I'm 95 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:38,600 seeing and, and I'm like, I don't know if I like that 96 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:39,280 person. I don't know. 97 00:04:39,280 --> 00:04:43,200 I don't like that person. And and they're like, maybe 98 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:44,680 you're not maybe you're not Polly. 99 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:45,560 It's OK, it'll. Be. 100 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:48,400 I mean, I also think maybe you just didn't like those people, 101 00:04:48,600 --> 00:04:51,720 you know what I mean? No, but they're like, it's OK. 102 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:54,960 I know it's very hard for Gen. Z's to feel that you have to be 103 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:57,960 a monogamous. I think it just feels like kind 104 00:04:57,960 --> 00:05:01,760 of like not like old school. What is the word like not what 105 00:05:01,760 --> 00:05:03,440 is. I feel like to be monogamous. 106 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:05,600 I think sometimes Gen. Z is like, well, the cooler 107 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:07,440 thing to do is to be Polly. Yeah. 108 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:11,320 And I'm sort of like, well, is it cool if you're Polly and your 109 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:13,880 partner is like going on dates and having a good time and 110 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:16,120 you're like, I hate this and praying yourself to sleep every 111 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:17,320 night. I'm like, is that cool to you? 112 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:19,960 Because that's not doesn't sound cool to me. 113 00:05:20,280 --> 00:05:21,840 Yeah. I don't know. 114 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:24,840 I don't know. I, I, I definitely know. 115 00:05:24,840 --> 00:05:27,280 I know a really good friend of mine. 116 00:05:27,280 --> 00:05:31,360 There are a couple that's Polly and they definitely had like 117 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:34,560 they're much older than they had like years of therapy for going 118 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:36,440 into Poly. And I feel like it's like such 119 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,560 like an important or like a very hard thing to do. 120 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:45,520 Yeah, I feel like it's something that just requires a lot of 121 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:50,080 thought and care. And I think some people like, 122 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:53,160 obviously that's something that can work and people do it all 123 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:55,000 the time. A lot of celebrities are like, 124 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,160 we have an open marriage. Or wait, I don't know any 125 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:57,880 celebrities. I don't. 126 00:05:57,880 --> 00:06:00,600 Have to watch like Dolly Parton wasn't Dolly Parton was like, 127 00:06:01,280 --> 00:06:03,520 rest in peace to her husband, but she was like, yeah, he does 128 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:06,120 his thing, I do mine. And we're just married. 129 00:06:06,160 --> 00:06:08,920 I think a lot of that's not uncommon, right? 130 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:13,160 For people to be like, yeah, we have like non monogamous, but 131 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,840 it's like we whatever, wait, which is I guess different from 132 00:06:15,840 --> 00:06:19,040 being Poly, but like, I don't think it's it's like it 133 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:23,040 definitely can work. I think that some people who are 134 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,440 like, I just think that it, I don't think that it needs to be 135 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:31,840 like the central struggle of your relationship. 136 00:06:31,840 --> 00:06:33,960 Like, I'm sort of like, if your partner is Polly and you're 137 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:37,880 really, you're trying to get on board with being Polly, That 138 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,080 just feels like a recipe for resentment. 139 00:06:40,280 --> 00:06:41,600 Right. You know, right, Yeah. 140 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:45,360 If you're you can't be like a being Polly, it's OK Being 141 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:49,520 monogamy, being monogamous is OK, but trying to like one 142 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:52,640 person is monogamous and the other person is Polly, it's not 143 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:54,440 OK. I mean, it's just, I think that 144 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:59,080 you shouldn't, I expect your partner to change on that front. 145 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:00,440 Yeah. And I think you shouldn't try 146 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,840 and make yourself change on that front for your partner because I 147 00:07:03,840 --> 00:07:05,360 feel like it would just be stressful. 148 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:06,360 But I don't. I mean, I don't know. 149 00:07:06,360 --> 00:07:07,960 I've never been Polly. So maybe like these 150 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:10,040 conversations happen and it works out totally fine and 151 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:11,960 everybody's happy. And I'm sure that has happened. 152 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,000 Yeah, this is not a. It's just I'm like you. 153 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:17,040 You just don't. You don't have to be Polly. 154 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:19,640 Like I feel like also everybody is like I'm Polly. 155 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:23,080 Wait, if you have never been Polly, how seems like why do I 156 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:24,040 have such a strong. Opinion on it? 157 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:27,120 It's 'cause I think about it a lot. 158 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:29,840 I have, I've been, I have a girlfriend and we've been dating 159 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:33,560 for four years now. And like, thank you. 160 00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:39,200 We had like talked not even like about becoming Polly. 161 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,760 Yeah, but like had just talked about the concept of being 162 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:43,920 Polly. And I was like, yeah, I guess it 163 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,040 like sounds fun in theory, but I don't know if I'd really like 164 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:48,320 it. And she was like, what about it 165 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:50,160 sounds fun in theory. And I was like, I guess just 166 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:54,080 kind of like having a group of friends, like kind of the main 167 00:07:54,360 --> 00:07:56,120 thing. And I was like, yeah. 168 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,160 So I think actually I'm I'm just not Polly. 169 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:00,760 Why don't you just have a group of? 170 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,360 Friends, I do, I do now. I'm like, I think that I just 171 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:06,240 was like, like I think being Polly sounds fun when I think 172 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:09,320 about it in terms of like, what if me and all my friends lived 173 00:08:09,320 --> 00:08:11,240 in a house together and we're all hung out. 174 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:13,760 But I'm like, I actually don't want to sleep with any of my 175 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,360 friends. Like I'm kind of not. 176 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:17,240 I'm not really interested in that piece of it. 177 00:08:17,360 --> 00:08:19,520 OK, I'm. Sort of like I think that the 178 00:08:19,720 --> 00:08:21,880 the part of being Polly that makes the most sense is just 179 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:23,640 having a group of people you hang out with. 180 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:26,080 Yeah, but you can also not. Fuck them. 181 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:28,040 Yeah, that's kind of what that's like. 182 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:31,440 What what is it called? Like queer platonic is what 183 00:08:31,440 --> 00:08:34,760 people call it sometimes, which I that's just friends, but. 184 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:38,400 No, I heard, I heard a but I feel like, like, you know, 185 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:40,760 there's different type of types of Poly and people, some people 186 00:08:40,760 --> 00:08:43,760 they just do their own thing. Some people like like, you know, 187 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:47,240 like if if you're living with your friends, then they have to 188 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:49,200 interact with each other too. And do they like? 189 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:53,080 And so anything, yeah, where it's like, I have this partner 190 00:08:53,080 --> 00:08:55,040 and I have this partner and they don't really interact with each 191 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:56,400 other, but they know about each other. 192 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:59,760 Yeah, yeah. And I've also met people who 193 00:08:59,760 --> 00:09:02,800 said, oh, we do each other's things, but we have our rule is 194 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:06,960 that we don't talk to like we don't tell anyone like we don't, 195 00:09:07,160 --> 00:09:10,560 Oh my God, my English. We don't tell my partner. 196 00:09:10,560 --> 00:09:13,880 Yeah, about the I think a lot of people do that where they're 197 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:16,440 like, yeah, you can hook up with other people, but I just don't 198 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:17,720 want to know about it. Yeah. 199 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:20,960 I don't know which one is like the better way like I. 200 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:22,200 Don't know if there's I mean like I think. 201 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:24,000 Transparency or no? I don't know. 202 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:27,560 I also like think that there's a level of transparency that 203 00:09:27,560 --> 00:09:31,840 people think is like good in dating now in a way that I'm 204 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:36,400 like, bring back euphemisms for I don't want to date you 205 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:38,160 anymore. Like, I think it's just. 206 00:09:38,520 --> 00:09:39,640 Wait, people have been saying that? 207 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:41,000 No, no. No, I just think people are 208 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:42,800 like. Too direct. 209 00:09:43,680 --> 00:09:46,040 Not even. It's like sometimes I'm like, if 210 00:09:46,040 --> 00:09:49,680 you had a bad date with someone and they're like, hey, like, had 211 00:09:49,680 --> 00:09:52,200 a great time, see you around. You don't need to be like, yeah, 212 00:09:52,200 --> 00:09:54,360 I had a great time too. Full transparency, You really 213 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:56,680 gave me the ick earlier when you were wolfing down that 214 00:09:56,680 --> 00:09:58,320 spaghetti. So I think this isn't going to 215 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:00,200 work. Like you can just be like, yeah, 216 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,640 maybe and leave it. I don't think you need to be 217 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:05,640 that straight up about it. And I think a lot of people are 218 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:10,600 like, it's ethical to be Polly. Yeah, because I'm telling all my 219 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,280 partners, yeah, that I'm sleeping with other people. 220 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:15,800 And I'm also like, if I were in a situation where I casually 221 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,760 dating someone, I don't know that I would super wanna know if 222 00:10:18,760 --> 00:10:21,000 they were like sleeping around. I'd be like, that's kind of your 223 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:23,360 business if we're not exclusive. Yeah, that's what I've been 224 00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:25,760 thinking too. But about you're like being 225 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:29,720 transparent when you're like break up or in a situation ship, 226 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:33,200 I feel like I'm the victim of I'm the I'm the problem that you 227 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:34,880 were talking about. I feel like some people. 228 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,240 Want to know? But like I think that sometimes 229 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:40,440 people are like like after one date, I'm like you. 230 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:42,680 I don't think you really need like it's one thing if you've 231 00:10:42,680 --> 00:10:44,880 been like in a situation ship for three months and you're 232 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:46,160 like, I just want to be honest, whatever. 233 00:10:46,160 --> 00:10:48,480 But after one date, I'm like, you can just be like, I had a 234 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:51,880 good time and that's a lie. Like that's OK, I think. 235 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:53,440 Yeah, I just. Don't want you just don't want 236 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:56,200 unsolicited advice. But sometimes I, I do want to 237 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:57,440 tell them, like, if you like, I mean, yeah. 238 00:10:57,520 --> 00:10:59,520 Do it What? Like what have you told them? 239 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:02,760 I don't I have no idea maybe like just something like the the 240 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,680 ick or I have the urge to tell them but I didn't tell them but 241 00:11:05,680 --> 00:11:07,120 I feel like. What would what would you have 242 00:11:07,120 --> 00:11:10,080 said if you could go back? If I could go back, maybe I'll 243 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:12,920 tell like my my ex to like, I don't know. 244 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:16,320 There's there are things that he should have done better for his 245 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:19,520 future girlfriends. I feel like that is that makes 246 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:21,400 sense to me. I feel like that's also 247 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:24,400 something I would want to know. I don't know if I were if the 248 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,040 shoe were on the other foot, I mean, maybe not if it's like a 249 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,040 really bad breakup, maybe I wouldn't. 250 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:31,560 But I also kind of feel like if they were like, Hey, you do this 251 00:11:31,560 --> 00:11:34,120 one thing that like makes it really difficult. 252 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:36,920 I mean, I guess I would hope that would come up during the 253 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:38,280 relationship, right, Right. But. 254 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:40,480 Yeah, no. Then they're like, why don't you 255 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:42,000 tell me earlier so we don't have to break? 256 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,320 Up. I mean, yeah, that's the tricky 257 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:47,280 part, right? I guess if it's like a 258 00:11:47,560 --> 00:11:50,800 personality thing that you can't change, then it's not, yeah. 259 00:11:51,120 --> 00:11:52,920 I mean, I don't think it's useful if it's not something you 260 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:54,360 can change. Like if they're like, I just 261 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,240 don't like your voice or something. 262 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:57,640 I'm like, why did you tell me that? 263 00:11:57,680 --> 00:11:58,720 I. Think you're ugly? 264 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:00,440 Yeah. I just, I just thought you were 265 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,360 kind of ugly, unfortunately. Like what am I gonna do with 266 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:04,520 that? Right, Right. 267 00:12:04,560 --> 00:12:07,160 Yeah. I sometimes I do think that that 268 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:08,960 that's something that I don't think out loud, yeah. 269 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:11,120 I think that's OK. It's OK to think someone is 270 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:12,600 ugly. There's nothing wrong with being 271 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,800 ugly. It's just, it's just what it is. 272 00:12:14,800 --> 00:12:16,240 Is there nothing wrong with being ugly? 273 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:18,920 Why do we have to get a surgery and go to a hospital? 274 00:12:19,160 --> 00:12:21,600 Well, you don't have to. You can just be ugly, right? 275 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:25,720 Like, I mean, people do. You're there's societally we 276 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:28,680 place, we make it so that there's something bad about 277 00:12:28,680 --> 00:12:30,080 being ugly, but you can just be ugly. 278 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:31,920 I know plenty of people do it all the time. 279 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:37,160 You can be ugly and happy. Yeah, I think that I wish I can 280 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:43,360 be ugly and happy, but now I feel like I, you know, I feel 281 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:48,480 like it's like internalized misogyny and it's like, I wish I 282 00:12:48,480 --> 00:12:49,920 can. Like, you know, it's always a 283 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,760 constant. Like trying to look good. 284 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:54,200 Yeah, yeah. And not even look good, but it's 285 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:55,480 like, look better. Yeah. 286 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:59,000 It's like, if I'm taking so much time into how good I look, why 287 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:01,560 aren't everybody else? Why is everybody, why am I 288 00:13:01,560 --> 00:13:03,760 seeing you? And you're like ugly and. 289 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:06,440 Yeah, I mean, there is something I feel like really upsetting 290 00:13:06,440 --> 00:13:08,880 about putting a lot of effort into your appearance and going 291 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:10,640 out and seeing someone just be ugly. 292 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:13,080 I'm like, it's like the kind of thing where you're like, I could 293 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:16,160 just, I guess I could just not, not try, but like, yeah, it 294 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:18,400 feels like you have to. Yeah, you know, yeah. 295 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:21,560 Now on 1st dates I don't even like dress up anymore I feel 296 00:13:21,560 --> 00:13:22,240 like. That's fine. 297 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:25,280 Yeah, that's my hot take. Don't dress up, Don't dress up. 298 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:27,640 No makeup, no hair on 1st dates. Really. 299 00:13:27,640 --> 00:13:29,320 Yes. OK, wait, tell me more. 300 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:32,160 No, it's just like, I feel like I've heard a lot of stories 301 00:13:32,160 --> 00:13:35,800 where like they go on first date and then like the other person 302 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,760 is fucked up and like it's like, but you spend like an hour. 303 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:41,080 Yeah, Yeah, I think that makes sense. 304 00:13:41,120 --> 00:13:44,080 And it's like sometimes even the first date the person like 305 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:46,120 studio stood. You up? 306 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:48,520 Yes, Yeah. And it's like you already on 307 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:50,640 your way out after like 2 hours of. 308 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:53,000 Makeup and pay? Yeah, all dressed up and nowhere 309 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:53,680 to go. Right. 310 00:13:53,800 --> 00:13:56,080 Yeah. So just don't bother for the 311 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:58,040 first date. If the person is like good 312 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:00,200 enough, maybe you'll do it for the second date. 313 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:02,320 So I guess that's, that's kind of good advice, right? 314 00:14:02,320 --> 00:14:04,800 I really don't put too much. I also feel like people put a 315 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:08,320 lot of pressure on 1st dates which is like hard not to do but 316 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:12,160 not dressing up for it is kind of like this is my normal 317 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:14,760 whatever. Yeah, don't give it away all at 318 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:15,440 once. Yeah. 319 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,640 Always leave them wanting more, yeah. 320 00:14:18,520 --> 00:14:24,880 Yes, I'm looking at you Vic. Oh my God, that's so funny. 321 00:14:25,520 --> 00:14:26,920 I haven't really been on 1st dates. 322 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:28,280 What about? I guess you're not because 323 00:14:28,280 --> 00:14:29,560 you've been together with. Your no. 324 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:31,760 OK, so this is actually my first relationship. 325 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:36,080 So I've really only been on 1st dates and then no, I mean we've 326 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:40,040 gone on dates in the four years. Sorry. 327 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:43,560 It's like, imagine I was like, yeah, we went out one time and 328 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:45,080 we were like, this is it? I guess. 329 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:49,680 I guess we're calling it here. We're we're making, yeah. 330 00:14:49,800 --> 00:14:53,680 Yeah, I used to when I was back in my like straight days when I 331 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:56,240 was really trying very hard to be straight, I went on a lot of 332 00:14:56,440 --> 00:15:00,120 first dates with men and that was shocking. 333 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:01,960 What was? How was it? 334 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:06,360 Just it's one of them. We talked about like conspiracy 335 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:08,120 theories the whole time. Oh my God. 336 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:11,720 And it was like right after Jeffrey Epstein died in prison. 337 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:13,040 Wow. And we talked about that for 338 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:15,320 like most of the date. And I was like, you know, I 339 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:16,560 don't know that this is actually. 340 00:15:17,080 --> 00:15:20,680 And honestly, I may have brought it up so that maybe that's not 341 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:21,120 me. Maybe. 342 00:15:24,280 --> 00:15:26,080 He was thinking, he was thinking about the same. 343 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:29,200 Thing, I guess I mean it like last, it was just like, it was a 344 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:33,040 surprisingly detailed like conversation about like like 345 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,000 conspiracy theories and. What kind of conspiracy? 346 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:40,040 Like I think I was like the conversation I think was not 347 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:42,960 going great. So I was like OK, if you could 348 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:48,120 ask the US government to reveal any 3 secrets or something like 349 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:51,000 that, wow, what would it? Be it's a fun game and. 350 00:15:51,560 --> 00:15:53,560 Well, what would your people? I don't, I don't know. 351 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:57,360 I well, let's see the let's see the Epstein list 1st and then. 352 00:15:57,360 --> 00:15:59,720 Yeah, I agree. Let's get that out. 353 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:01,680 Yeah. And then we'll talk about what 354 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:03,800 other secrets I remember for a long time, mine was the moon 355 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:07,000 landing because I was like, I don't think that the United 356 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:08,320 States faked the moon landing. Yeah. 357 00:16:08,320 --> 00:16:10,920 I don't think. So I think it would be so funny 358 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:13,000 if they did. That's like because it just the 359 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:16,800 circumstances were such that they were incentivized to fake 360 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:17,840 it. I don't think they did. 361 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:21,480 But it would be so funny if it came out like all this time 362 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:23,800 later that they were like, yeah, we we faked that. 363 00:16:23,800 --> 00:16:26,080 That was not fucking real. We did not go to the moon. 364 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:28,920 That's so funny because I've like, like I feel like growing 365 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:33,160 up going to the moon, seeing the yeah, the American flag are like 366 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:34,200 people on the moon. It's not. 367 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:37,320 It's just a I never thought people would question it, but. 368 00:16:37,360 --> 00:16:38,680 Yeah. I mean, people would question 369 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:40,840 anything. Yeah, you can put anything out 370 00:16:40,840 --> 00:16:41,880 there. That's true. 371 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:44,920 And and then third question would be, are birds actually 372 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:46,560 real? Yeah, probably. 373 00:16:46,640 --> 00:16:49,920 Yeah #1 even, yeah, I don't know. 374 00:16:50,000 --> 00:16:52,520 I'm like, now that I'm thinking about it, I'm like, there aren't 375 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:56,240 a ton of like I sort of, I'm at a place where I'm like, you know 376 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:57,640 what, Maybe it's better to not know. 377 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:01,800 That's true. Ignorance is a bliss. 378 00:17:02,120 --> 00:17:02,880 Bliss. Yes. 379 00:17:04,599 --> 00:17:07,640 Yeah. But yeah, that was, I think that 380 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:10,960 that wasn't the last first date that I went on before I met my 381 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:12,400 girlfriend, but it was one of them. 382 00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:17,960 Wait, so I feel like it is a fun, It's a fun like ice 383 00:17:17,960 --> 00:17:19,880 breaking game. Yeah, I mean it. 384 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:22,599 And now you know each other very deeply. 385 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:24,720 Yeah. And was that the last date like 386 00:17:24,880 --> 00:17:26,920 No, I mean like was did you have a second date after that? 387 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:28,319 No, we did not have a second date, no. 388 00:17:29,280 --> 00:17:30,720 Was it because of the conversation? 389 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:34,680 No, like the translation. I think I was like, well, I was, 390 00:17:35,080 --> 00:17:37,760 I'm like a lesbian and I was on a date with a man and I was 391 00:17:37,760 --> 00:17:40,120 like, something didn't feel right there. 392 00:17:40,760 --> 00:17:42,200 And so we didn't have a second date. 393 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:45,760 Wait, I want to know more about how did you like realize that 394 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:49,160 you like girls? Yeah, I that's such a good 395 00:17:49,160 --> 00:17:52,440 question. I like kissed one girl in high 396 00:17:52,440 --> 00:17:56,400 school and then was like, I'm not ready to be, I'm not ready 397 00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:58,040 to be queer. And then was like, OK, we're 398 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:01,400 gonna, I'm gonna not do anything about this for a long time. 399 00:18:03,040 --> 00:18:10,880 And then like during college started like seeing men mostly 400 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:17,600 and like dating men. And then I went on a date. 401 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:22,240 Well, when I met my girlfriend, I was like, you're so 402 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:24,880 interesting to me in a way that I can't describe. 403 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:28,360 And then later I was like, oh, that's what having a crush feels 404 00:18:28,360 --> 00:18:29,360 like. You're not supposed to like 405 00:18:29,360 --> 00:18:33,400 manually select which man that you like, think is OK. 406 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:35,280 You kind of just like meet someone and you're like, wait, 407 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:38,600 what I like. Really before before you even 408 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:41,600 getting to know them. Yeah, I used to like manually 409 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:43,520 pick. Like have you seen sometimes the 410 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:46,960 I see Tik Toks that are like people being like, these are the 411 00:18:46,960 --> 00:18:49,920 types of crushes you have when you're like a lesbian and in 412 00:18:49,960 --> 00:18:55,280 middle school and it's like, you know, super hot John Cena and 413 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:56,720 shit like that where you're like, what? 414 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,640 I don't know. Wait, they say if you're a 415 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:02,640 lesbian and you you would have a crush on John Cena? 416 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,040 No, not always. But it's like, I think that when 417 00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:10,200 you're a little gay girl, you're like picking boys arbitrarily to 418 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:11,560 have a crush on. Yeah, I see. 419 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:14,520 So I was like, I think I'm gonna have a crush on Eric. 420 00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:16,960 And then I would just be like, I'm obsessed with Eric, and I 421 00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:19,120 love Eric. And I was actually like, I did 422 00:19:19,120 --> 00:19:21,080 not know that man at all. Like I was like, I don't know 423 00:19:21,080 --> 00:19:22,040 you. I don't care about you. 424 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:23,360 Yeah. It was just like I wanted to 425 00:19:23,360 --> 00:19:24,880 have a crush since I picked a guy. 426 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:26,520 It's funny. Like, but I like, didn't realize 427 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:28,440 that that wasn't what everybody else was doing. 428 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:32,160 Interesting, I did not now I have to do some like 429 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:35,600 introspection about like how now I'm thinking who are who are my 430 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:37,680 crushes. I definitely didn't like a lot 431 00:19:37,680 --> 00:19:39,960 of the male. Like I feel like I had 432 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:44,640 definitely more like celebrity crush it not celebrity like the 433 00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:48,520 celebrities I like are all women and I never like and you know, 434 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:51,520 people are obsessing over, I don't know, like all the 435 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:56,640 superhero superstars and or like the K pop idols, but I'm just 436 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:59,240 like, I don't feel. I don't yeah, they're just guys. 437 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:01,760 I don't they're just guys. Yeah, they're just they're guys, 438 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:04,240 but yeah. And they're like all the Divas 439 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:07,760 out there, putting their work, doing their dances and like. 440 00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:10,320 That I think that male celebrities also can get away 441 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:12,560 with giving a lot less. Right, right. 442 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:16,680 In some cases, yeah, Like I think, yeah, you have to. 443 00:20:16,720 --> 00:20:18,960 I mean, we were talking about you have to put in you like feel 444 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,080 a lot of pressure to put in a lot of maintenance as like a 445 00:20:21,080 --> 00:20:27,080 woman to like really give, like give it all, I guess. 446 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:29,040 I don't know. No, it's like literally like I 447 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:34,080 remember the weekend concert was the same around the same time as 448 00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:38,800 like a the Katy Perry concert and we went to see the at the 449 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,600 weekend and he didn't even change. 450 00:20:41,840 --> 00:20:45,560 He's like the whole the one outfit for the whole show. 451 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,680 The whole show he's like in like a sweatpant with. 452 00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:49,400 Sweatpants and like not even sweatpants. 453 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:53,480 It's like a Cape because he it's like there's not. 454 00:20:55,360 --> 00:20:56,560 That's so. Funny, right? 455 00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:59,160 And then, like, sometimes he disappears or take a break from 456 00:20:59,160 --> 00:21:00,560 the stage. You would think that he comes 457 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:01,600 out with another outfit. Yeah, you. 458 00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:04,480 Would think like maybe like chain shirt or like, I don't 459 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,960 know, like put on a hat. Right, the only like outfit 460 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:09,120 change was that he took the mask off. 461 00:21:09,120 --> 00:21:10,840 I feel like it's like, I don't know. 462 00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:14,240 There's also like I'm trying to think of a male artist who does 463 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,000 a lot of outfit changes. I don't know. 464 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,600 I don't know Harry Styles. Or does he, does he do outfit 465 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:23,000 changes or does he just does he just kind of like pull up? 466 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:24,000 Does. I don't know. 467 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:25,280 I don't. I've never watch him. 468 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:26,120 I don't. Me neither. 469 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:30,240 I've never. Seen him Vincent. 470 00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,160 Boom. Yeah. 471 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:35,320 I mean, Benson Boone. Do we think Benson Boone? 472 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:38,000 Actually, we won't speculate. Well, we won't speculate. 473 00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:40,800 I'm not. I'm not answering that. 474 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:44,320 Benson Boone is Benson Boone, and I, I hope that he has a 475 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,840 beautiful journey wherever it ends up, wherever it ends. 476 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:49,960 Right, I'm just thinking about his like high waisted pants. 477 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:52,080 All the time. I love high waisted pants. 478 00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:55,280 Like I love wearing them. I when I look at him and they're 479 00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:57,080 high waisted, I'm like, I would wear that right? 480 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:01,440 Yeah, yeah. And reminds me, maybe Elvis did 481 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,720 a lot of off food change cuz or Michael Jackson. 482 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:07,080 I was thinking about that, but I didn't want to sound stupid if 483 00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:10,120 it was wrong. Like if people were like, no, 484 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:13,280 you idiot, like Michael Jackson only ever wore one outfit for. 485 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:16,120 I mean, I don't think people are going to do that, but yeah. 486 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:19,640 I don't know, I think he definitely had different outfits 487 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:20,920 for sure. Yeah, for sure. 488 00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:24,440 Yeah. How do we get on this? 489 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:27,840 What are we talking about? We were talking about what was 490 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:31,160 your what was your Polly? Polly People and. 491 00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:36,560 Wait, no, after that we were talking about dating men right 492 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:40,320 and having manually selecting your crushes exactly right. 493 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:41,240 Wait. Yeah. 494 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:46,240 OK so then I met my girlfriend who's non binary but we met can. 495 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:48,960 You say? Can I say girlfriend? 496 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,560 Yeah, yeah, we talked about it. We had like a talk about it. 497 00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:53,600 OK, OK. Because I also am like, I don't 498 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:57,760 know that I would 100% be like I'm hashtag girl, hashtag lady, 499 00:22:57,760 --> 00:22:59,440 hashtag woman boss or whatever. Yeah. 500 00:22:59,640 --> 00:23:04,120 But I'm I don't when when I say partner, like it always just 501 00:23:04,120 --> 00:23:05,720 feels like we work at a law firm. 502 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:07,200 I would rather just be her girlfriend. 503 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:09,800 The partner does. Yeah, sometimes. 504 00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:15,160 My my my partner, my ex referred me to as a partner. 505 00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:17,640 Yeah, I think it just, I don't like it. 506 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:19,800 I just don't like it. Yeah, it feels like we're in a 507 00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:20,480 business. Project. 508 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:21,640 I know. I feel like we're both wearing 509 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,160 suits and shaking hands and the briefcase. 510 00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,480 Okay wait what do you think about the partner Cuz I feel 511 00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:29,720 like people have different opinions about partner other 512 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:31,760 than it feels business like people say. 513 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,080 So if you are a straight couple and you refer to each other as 514 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:39,680 partner, it's like you're protecting the non heterosexual 515 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:42,240 people from. Like having to disclose if you 516 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,840 like normalize it, Yeah. But then I think some people. 517 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,560 There's people also saying like if you say if you're a straight 518 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:49,920 couple and you're saying you're partners and it seems like 519 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:53,000 you're trying to be cool and like not disclose like trying to 520 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:55,000 be. Yeah, I think it started out 521 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,520 that people were like, it normalizes it that you don't 522 00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,920 have to disclose like what gender your partner is. 523 00:23:59,920 --> 00:24:05,840 And I think now it's more people are like, am I, am I queerer? 524 00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:08,800 Am I not like you'll never know which I'm like, I guess that's 525 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:10,520 your right. But I think when I hear straight 526 00:24:10,520 --> 00:24:15,040 couples being like my partner, I'm always like, OK, like, 527 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,160 that's fine. It's like it's your 528 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:18,600 relationship. You do what you want. 529 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,440 But I'm always a little bit like, all right, OK, maybe. 530 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,600 Thank you. Yeah, it feels like they just 531 00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:26,000 don't love each other enough to. That's how the partners. 532 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,040 I don't know that I would say that, but I just am like, it's a 533 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:32,640 little, I get that like girlfriend boyfriend sounds a 534 00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:37,560 little middle school, but like I am also like, well, I mean, you 535 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,520 can say, I mean, obviously the issue with girlfriend boyfriend 536 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,840 is that there's no like gender neutral term that. 537 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:45,960 Is all weird. All of the terms are like my 538 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:49,920 they friend and I'm like that's worse, that's worse, that's so 539 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,120 much worse. My they friend, my they friend, 540 00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:55,000 my lover. I'm like, no, I we can just be. 541 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:57,440 You could be partners. The person I'm dating. 542 00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:58,120 Right. The person. 543 00:24:58,360 --> 00:24:59,640 Yeah, yeah. Or just name. 544 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,720 Yeah, this person we're dating like, yeah, I think. 545 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:08,600 But yeah, I what was I saying? Oh, when I met my girlfriend, I 546 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:13,560 was like, oh, you're so I keep forgetting what I was saying. 547 00:25:14,120 --> 00:25:16,880 But when I met my girlfriend, I was like, why are you so 548 00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,760 interesting? And then I was like, I later was 549 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,440 like, oh, it's because I have a crush on you. 550 00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,760 And I was like, oh, And then I was thinking back to all of the 551 00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,800 times that I'd felt like that before. 552 00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:33,640 And I was like, OK, so those are all about like, none of those 553 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,160 were about men. Yeah. 554 00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,360 And like, thinking back to what I thought was a crush before, I 555 00:25:38,360 --> 00:25:42,920 was like, oh, IA lot of them. I was like, you know, what it 556 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,400 actually was is that I thought you would make a good writing 557 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:47,640 partner. Writing partner, that's what it 558 00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:48,720 is. We also, yeah. 559 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,640 That's What Every Girl Wants is just a writing partner. 560 00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:55,200 And I was like, honestly, most of it was like, this is somebody 561 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,880 who I could have really funny bits with, like. 562 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:02,040 That's the that's the men. You have the men that I was like 563 00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,400 I, I am in love with you. It was actually like, I think 564 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:07,320 that we could have some really good banter. 565 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:09,520 Like we're, we're, we're gonna be very good scene partners. 566 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:11,720 We're gonna be incredible scene partners. 567 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:13,640 And I was like, that's how you build a life, Yeah. 568 00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:16,240 It's just like cuz I. Was like what is life if not 569 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:20,080 like improv but like prolonged? Right, if you like, it's just 570 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:25,760 like how we sometimes love men because or or not we some some 571 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,720 people. Love not, not we. 572 00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,640 We as in. We as in not me. 573 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:34,400 I know. I got it. 574 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:40,000 I. Yeah, for their like, like 575 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:41,680 purposes for that's not about love. 576 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:43,880 Maybe they're like, I don't know, they can reach the top 577 00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,480 shelf or Yeah. Yeah, my girlfriend uses me to 578 00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:47,720 really reach the top shelf. Yeah. 579 00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:49,360 Yeah, you are tall. Yeah. 580 00:26:49,360 --> 00:26:51,440 Can I say that? Yeah, yeah, it's OK for you to 581 00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,200 say. It's not something just we can 582 00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:54,040 say. You can say it. 583 00:26:54,880 --> 00:26:56,800 How tall are you? I'm 6 feet. 584 00:26:56,800 --> 00:27:00,520 We measured like a couple weeks ago cuz I was like, I, I don't 585 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,360 think that I'm 6 feet. Well, no, I didn't think I, I 586 00:27:03,360 --> 00:27:07,240 was like, I think that I'm 510 1/2 was kind of where I was at. 587 00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:14,000 And every time I used to tell guys that they would get so 588 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:15,760 weird about it. Like they would be like, no, no, 589 00:27:15,760 --> 00:27:19,320 no, because I'm, I'm like 5/8, so you must be like 6-4. 590 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,840 And I was like, no, I don't think so, buddy. 591 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,800 I really don't think so. But so we measured like a couple 592 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:26,240 weeks ago. Not that it like matters 593 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,400 anymore, but yeah I I'm 6 feet like. 594 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:33,840 Wow, OK, so whenever I go on a like a like a date with a guy, I 595 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:36,520 can I can bring you. So you're like the perfect. 596 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,920 I'll all show up and then we can stand next to each other and 597 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:41,720 then you can decide whether he is the height. 598 00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:44,520 He says yes. My thought is, and this is not, 599 00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:47,320 this isn't a new take. If a guy says he's 58, he's 600 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:50,640 probably 5-6. If a guy says he's 6 feet tall, 601 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:54,720 he's 510. And if a guy says a height over 602 00:27:54,720 --> 00:27:57,000 six. If a guy says he's 61, he's 6 603 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:59,040 feet. And if he says he's 62, he's 604 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,000 probably 62. That's when you start. 605 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:02,720 That's like the measure of accuracy. 606 00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,840 I would say once you hit 62, they stop lying. 607 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:07,920 That's and if they're lying it's cuz they genuinely don't know 608 00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:09,040 like they haven't thought about it. 609 00:28:09,120 --> 00:28:10,440 That's my take. That's. 610 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,360 Actually very accurate and I feel like my ex on his dating 611 00:28:14,360 --> 00:28:17,760 profile, he said 61 and he's actually 66P. 612 00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,000 Yeah. And which I'm like, that's fine. 613 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,720 I would lie. What what did I do? 614 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:24,160 I can't you lie. I would lie. 615 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:25,640 I mean, I would lie a little bit. 616 00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,760 I was like, I'll put 511 because then they won't get intimidated. 617 00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,880 Right, right. Because if you put 6 feet, but 618 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:32,400 then I was like, no, I'll put 6 feet. 619 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,040 So they expect me to be tall. And they're not weird about it. 620 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:37,520 They're not like you're much taller than 511. 621 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:41,720 Because it was very, it's very like when you tell a man like 622 00:28:41,720 --> 00:28:44,040 now I kind of do it to rage bait them a little. 623 00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,880 Like people are like, yeah, it's so fun If they're like, you're 624 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,040 so tall, how tall are you? I'll be like 5-9 and then 625 00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,840 they're like, no, no way. Because because I'm 59. 626 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:54,680 I'm like, no, I was measured yesterday, man. 627 00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,200 You must be like, what, 55? It's so mad. 628 00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:01,600 Can we like like plan on like a, you know, like a video idea we. 629 00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:02,920 Just go out. Yeah, We just go out. 630 00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:06,080 And I tell men that I'm 59 and watch them just kind of 631 00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:07,000 distraught. Yes. 632 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:08,280 No. I think that's so fun. 633 00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:12,480 I love that. Yeah, I was gonna say something 634 00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,520 about, oh, I saw people say, well, cuz I'm from China, They 635 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:18,440 don't, they use like metrics. Yeah, yeah. 636 00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:23,280 So like, you know, right now here like 6 feet, yeah, yeah, 6 637 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:27,360 feet is like 183 centimeters, but it's more like 180 is like 638 00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:28,960 the threshold. Is like, like whether or not 639 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,960 you're tall is 180 that makes sense. 180 Think about that. 640 00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,920 Yeah, 180 and six feet are like a similar. 641 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:40,360 And people say there's nobody. No guy is actually gonna say 642 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,400 that they're 180, because if they're actually 180, they're 643 00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:46,040 gonna say they're one. 83181. Yeah. 644 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:50,680 And if they're like saying 180, that's because they're one. 78 645 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,360 yeah 170. Yeah, just like nobody's 6 feet 646 00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:55,240 on dating apps. Nobody. 647 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,560 I mean, yeah, no. If a guy says he's 6 feet on a 648 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,280 dating app, it means he's 5-10, yeah. 649 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,760 Or like 5-10. 11 maybe. 5-11 maybe? 650 00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:06,160 Yeah, depending on the shoes. Yeah, depending on the kicks, 651 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,440 but. Yeah, or nobody's actually 511 652 00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:10,040 because they're if they're actually 511. 653 00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:13,040 They'll just say 6 feet, yeah. Yeah, it's all a guessing game. 654 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,600 There's a lie, there's a lying epidemic in the hype community, 655 00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,200 but it is, yeah. It's all kind of a guessing 656 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:21,600 game. But then once my girlfriend's 657 00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:23,360 like 5-5. So I was like, it doesn't you, 658 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:27,040 you can't tell. I was like, but she'll she'll be 659 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,640 like, can you come be tall? And I go and I. 660 00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:32,200 Take her beans down, whatever. That she needs. 661 00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:35,080 I can imagine you 2 look so cute together. 662 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:38,360 Yeah, we are really cute. You're like a perfect like 663 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:42,400 straight couples hire. Really, sometimes I worry that 664 00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:46,400 like in a straight cup, like if we are, if you put like a 665 00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,920 straight couple dynamic on to us, that I'm falling too much 666 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:55,600 into the man role just in that. My sister plays volleyball and 667 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,360 so I watch a lot of, I watch all those games and there's a lot of 668 00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:01,840 time that I spend watching the game and she's like cooking 669 00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:05,520 something behind me, which makes me just feel like a piece of 670 00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,800 shit husband who's like not helping with the meal at all. 671 00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:11,000 Sounds like why don't you? Why aren't you helping them with 672 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,120 the meal? Yeah, I mean a lot of times. 673 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:15,280 Here's what I'll say. Yeah, my girlfriend does not 674 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:16,880 like for me to help her in the kitchen. 675 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:19,760 That's exactly what a straight guy would. 676 00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:23,360 Say, I mean, no, I mean you got me. 677 00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,560 Wait, you actually totally got me there. 678 00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:27,720 That's exactly what a straight guy would say. 679 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:29,880 And you know what? I have been called in. 680 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:33,120 I will reflect and I'm listening and I'm learning and I'm growing 681 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:36,360 from this experience. Yeah, no, I, I, I love that for 682 00:31:36,360 --> 00:31:39,560 you. Like I what? 683 00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,240 What would I do to be like the man in the relationship? 684 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,440 I'm trying to think of my most like girly trait in a 685 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,680 relationship now. Or like traditionally like 686 00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:48,840 stereotypically girly trait in a relationship. 687 00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,040 What is it? Do you like? 688 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,880 So what do you sew? No. 689 00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,400 She sews. Oh, no, I crochet. 690 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:56,280 You crochet. OK. 691 00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:57,760 Yeah. I feel like if you take 692 00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:01,600 traditional gender roles, the girliest thing I do in the 693 00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:04,760 relationship is I'm the like, I'm the mushier one. 694 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,160 Like I'm the one who's like I wrote you a poem and here it is. 695 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:09,960 Or like I I. Feel like guys do that. 696 00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:13,080 You think so? Yeah, guys, guys write poems. 697 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:14,600 What's something a girl could do? 698 00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:19,640 Well, girls can do anything. Yeah, but what's something? 699 00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:23,040 What's the stereotype? I'm trying to think. 700 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:25,960 Yeah, but I feel like poems are always written. 701 00:32:26,200 --> 00:32:28,720 I've had, I've had three guys write me poems. 702 00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:30,240 It's it's getting old. Yeah. 703 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:34,360 Wait, were any of them good? No, no, they're OK. 704 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:35,400 They're OK. They're. 705 00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:38,320 Yeah, I wrote a poem for my girlfriend and I only really 706 00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,360 read it. I only really showed it to her, 707 00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,440 but she like actually writes poetry. 708 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:45,040 So I was like, well, this is just this is like, you'll be 709 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:47,880 like, this is cute, but it'll be I'll be like this. 710 00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,000 I was like, this is here It is, right? 711 00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:52,400 I was like, this is just this is just something I. 712 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:55,000 Mean it's cute that's cute I. Mean it's cute, but it's like 713 00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,920 she like does it like well, and I was like, here's a poem I 714 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,200 wrote and it rhymes. Yeah, it's like you're you're 715 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,360 singing to Michael Jackson. Yeah, yeah. 716 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,560 Or like, fucking like Kelly Clarkson. 717 00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:08,960 You're like, I wrote you a song. She's like, oh, thanks. 718 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:12,960 Yeah, no, but it's OK. I mean it's the gesture helps. 719 00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,080 Yeah, yeah. Wait, what's what's like a 720 00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:17,400 traditionally masculine thing you do in relationships? 721 00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,480 Interesting. Yeah, that's a good question. 722 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,120 What's masculine? I don't know. 723 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:27,800 I think I'm sometimes the one that I don't know that that 724 00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:36,120 sends the text of you up. That's so funny. 725 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:40,120 That's so funny. Right, that's the hence the 726 00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:41,640 title of the podcast. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 727 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:44,280 No, I see that now. That's so funny. 728 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,760 Wait, I love that for you. That's girl boss behavior, 729 00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:48,720 right? Is what I would say. 730 00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:53,360 I wish I can like I was thinking, I wish I can have like 731 00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,880 my own like one bedroom apartment so I can like be like 732 00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:57,800 you up and then come back, come to my place. 733 00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,000 Come over. Come over to my place. 734 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:00,920 Yeah. No, that's the that's the dream. 735 00:34:00,920 --> 00:34:02,600 Yeah, and don't sleep. Over and don't sleep over. 736 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:03,920 You'd be like, I called you an Uber. 737 00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:05,680 Like at the end. Yeah, like your Uber's 738 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,360 downstairs. Oh my God, that's my dream, 739 00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:11,800 Yeah. Your dream is living like a 740 00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:14,840 bachelor. Yeah, Yeah, I think that's, I 741 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,400 think that's beautiful. Women can be bachelors. 742 00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,400 I think you could be a wonderful bachelor, right? 743 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:23,880 Like a little bachelor pad. Yeah, we need some, I don't 744 00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,600 know, lesbian dating shows of the. 745 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,040 The Bachelor Yeah, that would be so messy. 746 00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:33,719 Actually, I read this book that was about 2 girls who go on like 747 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:35,120 a bachelor. They can't say the Bachelor 748 00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:37,239 because of copyright, but they're like, it's like the same 749 00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:39,000 show. Yeah, but they go on that show 750 00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,639 and they fall in love with each other when they're like, 751 00:34:40,639 --> 00:34:42,600 supposed to be dating the main guy. 752 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:43,600 I liked it. I. 753 00:34:43,639 --> 00:34:46,000 Liked the book It's. Called here for the wrong 754 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:47,760 reasons. Well, they. 755 00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:48,880 Were they? Were they were there for the 756 00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:52,679 wrong? Reasons I loved it today's other 757 00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:57,880 what I love today's topic. I have one of my best friends. 758 00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,480 They're like a lesbian couple and they were I just saw them. 759 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,400 They were like, you should have more like queer people on there. 760 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:09,040 I want to hear about gay sex. I mean, that makes sense. 761 00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,480 I feel like I talk about the gay sex a lot on the podcast. 762 00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,960 Yeah, I was listening to some of the episodes in preparation. 763 00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,320 I was like, OK, this would be great. 764 00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,280 OK, OK. Which one did you listen to? 765 00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,000 I listened to like a little bit of a bunch of them just to get 766 00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,560 it like a feel for what what I was supposed to bring to the 767 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:23,120 table. Yeah. 768 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:24,840 No, you're doing great. Thanks. 769 00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:26,360 Yeah, really appreciate it. How are you? 770 00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,120 Thank. You so good to be here. 771 00:35:28,120 --> 00:35:30,840 Thank you. Sometimes I have my bad days and 772 00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:32,720 my good days. Sometimes if I'm doing the 773 00:35:32,720 --> 00:35:36,200 podcast on a cuz you were asking if I wanted to do it on Sunday. 774 00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:38,960 I'm like usually I go out on Saturday, so Sunday. 775 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,440 So Sunday is not the day. Yeah, Sunday my brain is not 776 00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:42,160 working. That makes sense. 777 00:35:42,240 --> 00:35:47,640 I don't really like as far as I feel like young, like people our 778 00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:50,080 age who are like queer in New York. 779 00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:55,360 I would say that I am on the much like tamer side, like I 780 00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:56,480 don't. On the straighter side, I. 781 00:35:57,600 --> 00:36:03,920 Mean I would say like no, cuz I think straight people are going 782 00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:05,720 out. I'm just like not a huge partier 783 00:36:05,720 --> 00:36:09,440 like I just don't like it right. I just, I think that I, I like 784 00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,880 keep earplugs on me at all times because sometimes the world is 785 00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:14,400 too loud. So I'm like, I don't really 786 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:17,080 wanna be in a party. Wait earplugs for just like 787 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,960 day-to-day New York walking. Yes, because sometimes, 788 00:36:20,240 --> 00:36:22,480 sometimes you're in the subway and it's just so loud and you're 789 00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,240 like, and then you put in your earbuds and earphones and or 790 00:36:25,240 --> 00:36:27,880 your earplugs and then you're like, I'm happier now. 791 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:29,840 Or like, sometimes I'll go to a show. 792 00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,400 Yeah. And the sound balance is like, 793 00:36:31,400 --> 00:36:33,000 really? Or they're obviously are trying 794 00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,080 to make it so like the back row can hear, but you're not sitting 795 00:36:35,080 --> 00:36:37,360 in the back row and you're like, well, I'm gonna die if I'm up 796 00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:38,680 here. Like I can feel this in my 797 00:36:38,680 --> 00:36:40,120 teeth. Well, I love that for you. 798 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,840 Yeah, I love having earplugs, but like, yeah, I'm not. 799 00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:44,560 I'm not at the club. I'm not. 800 00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:48,000 I bring, I bring earplugs with me everywhere too, for different 801 00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:49,000 reasons. Cuz I don't. 802 00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:50,200 You don't. You never know when you were 803 00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:52,800 gonna go into an emergency clubbing situation. 804 00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:54,480 Yeah. I mean, I think that's smart. 805 00:36:54,480 --> 00:36:58,560 I think that's really smart. But yeah, I'm not a, I'm not 806 00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,280 like a partier. I'm not like. 807 00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:01,720 Partier. Yeah. 808 00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:04,080 Are you a partier? You're like, you like to go out. 809 00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,160 I go out sometimes. What's your favorite like? 810 00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,280 What's your ideal night when you're going out? 811 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:13,000 Oh, I don't know, come back and be able to go to sleep. 812 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,080 OK, yeah, sometimes I can't go to sleep. 813 00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:16,800 Do you just like, stay up all night? 814 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:21,400 No, I try to go to sleep but I just end up massive and no. 815 00:37:26,520 --> 00:37:28,520 I mean, that'll put you to sleep though. 816 00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:31,560 I don't know. Sometimes I just want to keep 817 00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:33,440 going, you know? That's fair, yeah. 818 00:37:34,240 --> 00:37:36,520 Maybe like that. Ohh, you. 819 00:37:39,640 --> 00:37:42,200 But yeah, that's when I send the text. 820 00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,920 The you up text, Yeah, that's that's a hazard of the yeah. 821 00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:48,640 The fun thing about me and my girlfriend live like a 15 minute 822 00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:52,200 walk away from each other now. So it's very, I don't really. 823 00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,520 I mean, I never really have to be like, are you up? 824 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:56,160 Because I'm usually over there. Yeah. 825 00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:01,160 But if I ever were like, I want to see you in the middle of the 826 00:38:01,160 --> 00:38:02,960 night, I'd be like, but it's a quick little walk. 827 00:38:03,440 --> 00:38:07,720 Yeah, it's a it's come back. Come come over for a quickie. 828 00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:12,040 Yeah. Yeah, that's what guys would 829 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:13,440 say. That's what, yeah, that's what a 830 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:15,240 guy would say. I don't really say. 831 00:38:15,240 --> 00:38:16,880 I wouldn't say. I wouldn't say that, probably. 832 00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:23,680 But yeah, would you ever move in with her? 833 00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:28,160 Yeah, we've talked about it. I think like we are, I would say 834 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,360 the opposite of a stereotypical couple in that I think we moved 835 00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:35,760 pretty slow or stereotypical lesbian couple. 836 00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:38,160 I mean, in that we, we didn't like U-Haul at all. 837 00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,480 But I, I would, I we've talked about it a little. 838 00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:41,960 I think we're we're happy where we are. 839 00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,440 She like has her own apartment and I hang out there and she'll 840 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:45,960 like come and stay with me. But it's nice, yeah. 841 00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:47,880 Yeah, I don't. I feel like in New York it's 842 00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:51,320 like cheaper to move. In, yeah, I think a lot of 843 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:54,280 people, but that gets you in like a lot of tricky situations. 844 00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:57,160 Yes, like a lot of people, the housing market is kind of 845 00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:00,400 responsible for a lot of bad relationships out there is my 846 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:04,200 take is that if a lot of people could afford to live not with 847 00:39:04,200 --> 00:39:06,440 their partner, they would not be in the relationship they're in. 848 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:08,640 Yeah. And I think that's sad. 849 00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:10,480 Who said that? That's like that. 850 00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,760 You're you're the whistleblower. Yeah, I'm the whistleblower for 851 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,040 the housing market. Yeah, and the relationship 852 00:39:16,040 --> 00:39:17,920 damage it's doing. Yeah, yeah. 853 00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,720 I feel like it definitely does a lot of damage or like it 854 00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,120 definitely prolonged a lot of relationship that should have 855 00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,640 been that long. Yeah, I mean, I think also like, 856 00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,240 I just think it's, I think it's just the housing market's fucked 857 00:39:29,240 --> 00:39:30,800 for a lot of reasons. But yeah, I think a lot of 858 00:39:30,800 --> 00:39:33,480 people are like, well, we have to make this work because we 859 00:39:33,480 --> 00:39:35,440 live together. And I think that's like a really 860 00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:36,720 hard situation. Yeah, yeah. 861 00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:39,640 Because you, like, neither one of you wants to be looking for 862 00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,240 housing and going through a breakup. 863 00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:45,600 And like, I'm sure sometimes it's like it stops people from 864 00:39:45,600 --> 00:39:48,200 making like impulsive decisions, like I want to end this because 865 00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:50,320 whatever and makes them like think through it more. 866 00:39:50,320 --> 00:39:51,400 But I think sometimes people are. 867 00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:53,160 This is really not right for me, but I can't. 868 00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:57,840 It just makes you feel trapped. Yeah, that's how I feel about. 869 00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:02,600 That's why I can't be really practicing Poly because I can't. 870 00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,840 I already have like 2 roommates. I can't have more people in your 871 00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:06,200 life. You can. 872 00:40:06,240 --> 00:40:08,600 Have more people involved in your living situation? 873 00:40:08,600 --> 00:40:11,600 Yeah, I think it's really, I also think one of my hot takes 874 00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:14,440 is that it is better to live with people that you are not. 875 00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:18,480 You are either such good friends with and like have known since 876 00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,520 you were young or people that you don't really know at all but 877 00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:25,000 get a good vibe from. That's been my take since. 878 00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:29,200 Victoria wants to live with me and and and we haven't known 879 00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,320 each other since we're we're childhood. 880 00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,440 Like we're, I think that's the kind of thing that can work. 881 00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,320 Like I feel like my best. We haven't, so it's not gonna 882 00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,520 work, according to. You you haven't known each other 883 00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,600 technically new. York because we just got here 884 00:40:41,720 --> 00:40:43,600 for. Like, OK, fair enough. 885 00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:47,320 OK, fair enough, yeah, she said. We're New York babies cuz we're 886 00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:48,880 just got here. For yeah, because you guys got 887 00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:50,120 here at the same time. I don't know. 888 00:40:50,120 --> 00:40:51,680 I mean it obviously works outside of that. 889 00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:57,160 I think for me, I find it easiest to either be close 890 00:40:57,160 --> 00:41:00,440 enough with somebody that I can be like, hey, if you don't do 891 00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:03,680 your dishes, I'm gonna kill you. And they'll be like heard and do 892 00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:04,920 it. And they can be like, hey, 893 00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:07,440 you're pissing me off. And I'll be like, yeah, I'm sure 894 00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,280 I am. And like, fix it or somebody 895 00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:13,120 that you are not friends. Like you don't have to worry 896 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:15,520 about ruining your friendship or like complicating your 897 00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,320 friendship by being like, hey, like we'll have a really hard 898 00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:19,800 conversation with you. And it's just like about 899 00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:21,760 laundry. Like I think it's just like it's 900 00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:23,200 hard. I feel like to live with 901 00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:25,520 somebody, right? And I think it's easier when 902 00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:27,720 it's not. There isn't like an existing 903 00:41:27,720 --> 00:41:29,960 relationship. You're adapting to living 904 00:41:29,960 --> 00:41:32,320 together. But I mean like I've been wrong 905 00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:33,680 before. It like works for some people. 906 00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:37,320 I think for me I'm just like, I like, like I'm met my roommates 907 00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:39,880 from being roommates like. We went on the Internet and I 908 00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:43,280 was like and like to. Be fair, some of them have been 909 00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:44,960 really bad. That's true. 910 00:41:44,960 --> 00:41:47,720 I feel like it's a hit or miss. Yeah, I definitely had. 911 00:41:47,720 --> 00:41:49,720 But like fortune. When you have a really bad 912 00:41:49,720 --> 00:41:51,760 roommate that's not your friend, you can be like, hey, you're 913 00:41:51,760 --> 00:41:53,800 being a really bad roommate right now and you don't have to 914 00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:56,080 worry really as much about hurting their feelings. 915 00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,400 I don't know, I still worry. I mean you, I mean you probably 916 00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:00,760 will, but you like kind of don't. 917 00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,840 Like it's like if this person hates me that will be 918 00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:05,280 uncomfortable but like I'm not losing a relationship. 919 00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,200 That's true. Like I'm like, we don't hang 920 00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:08,680 out. We don't need to hang out. 921 00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:11,600 I don't know, I'm still, I'm still too much of A people 922 00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:12,560 pleaser to. Not yeah. 923 00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:14,680 I mean, you don't want to hurt people's feelings in general. 924 00:42:14,680 --> 00:42:18,000 It just is like I think it's much easier to be like, hey, I 925 00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,440 have to say something difficult to you when you aren't like, 926 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:24,000 this is my friend and I just want the best for them cuz I 927 00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,480 want the best for my roommates too. 928 00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:30,640 And like a what was I gonna say? I don't know. 929 00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:33,920 And I want the best for my roommates, but I'm not like, we 930 00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:37,080 were roommates before we are before we were friends. 931 00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:40,160 So I don't feel like in order to preserve our friendship, I have 932 00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:42,320 to sacrifice our relationship as roommates. 933 00:42:42,320 --> 00:42:43,480 You know what I mean? Yeah. 934 00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:45,320 Like when they're like, hey, can you guys make sure that you're 935 00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:49,080 wiping down the counters after, like, every time you do dishes 936 00:42:49,080 --> 00:42:52,320 or like, every time you cook? I'm not like, you're being so 937 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,680 mean to me right now. I'm like, yeah, well, we're 938 00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:56,760 roommates, so that's how that's gonna go. 939 00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:58,720 Yeah, you know. Yeah, I used to. 940 00:42:58,720 --> 00:43:00,040 Can I say this about my roommate? 941 00:43:00,040 --> 00:43:01,560 I think, yeah, I don't care anymore. 942 00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:03,960 Well, I do. No, I do. 943 00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:08,240 I don't give a shit this. Is like a previous roommate or 944 00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:11,680 yeah. And he would just like, be like, 945 00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:13,760 I know. I wish he said it to my face. 946 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:18,840 Yeah, I can be in my room and I can hear him. 947 00:43:18,840 --> 00:43:20,040 Like, fuck. Why is it? 948 00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:22,160 Yeah. That's the kind of thing, but 949 00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:22,920 I'm like. Myself. 950 00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:25,280 Yeah, that's so frustrating. Yeah. 951 00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,080 And I'm like, do I, do I intervene or do I come out and 952 00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:29,200 say something or. Yeah. 953 00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,640 I also feel like in order to be a good roommate, you do need to 954 00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:35,560 be able to just be like, hey, this is what I. 955 00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:37,960 Need from you in. Like some cases, like I'm like, 956 00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:42,720 if I'm bothering you don't sit on it and then like not tell me 957 00:43:42,720 --> 00:43:44,920 because like if you're like, hey, it really bugs me how you 958 00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:47,240 leak comes on the stove. That's an easy fix. 959 00:43:47,240 --> 00:43:49,880 Like I can just clean that up. But if you don't tell me, then 960 00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:53,360 I'm like, no one cares. And then now you're mad and I'm 961 00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,760 fine. And I think it has similarities 962 00:43:56,800 --> 00:44:01,000 with being in a Poly slash or or a monogamous. 963 00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,400 With any relationship, yeah, you do need to be able to. 964 00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:07,360 I think people also are really conflict is hard, like it's hard 965 00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:08,560 for a lot. It's hard for everyone. 966 00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:10,960 I think like I think there aren't people who are like 967 00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,960 conflict is super easy for me because it's like kind of I 968 00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:15,600 guess maybe there are. I don't, yeah, I mean. 969 00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:17,680 I mean, there are people who are really confrontational. 970 00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:19,440 Right. I don't like those people. 971 00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:22,440 Conflict is, I mean me, actually, you know what? 972 00:44:22,560 --> 00:44:25,200 I'll say a hot take. I kind of prefer somebody who 973 00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:26,560 is. Confrontational. 974 00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:28,440 Yeah. I mean like I think that it 975 00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:34,800 forces me to think about like, like it forces me to stand up 976 00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:37,960 for myself and be like, or to be like, yeah, you're right, I 977 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,760 fucked up, you know what I mean? Like I would rather my friend be 978 00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,560 like, hey, this thing you did really hurt my feelings and I 979 00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:47,040 want to talk about it then to like have them tiptoe around it 980 00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,640 for like 2 years and have it come out when like we're drunk 981 00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:51,800 or something like that. Like I'm like, I would always 982 00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:54,080 rather you just straight up be like, Hey, you hurt my feelings 983 00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:56,040 or like, Hey, this thing you does like you, this thing you do 984 00:44:56,040 --> 00:45:00,000 like bugs me or whatever. I guess I don't like people when 985 00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:02,520 people are like mean or like aggressive, right, Right. 986 00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:04,840 But when people are like, not afraid to be like. 987 00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,760 Be direct, yeah. I think I appreciate being 988 00:45:07,800 --> 00:45:10,680 direct. My dad was very when he was he 989 00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,640 was telling me that when he was dating my mom, he was like, I 990 00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:14,760 don't do like the mind reading stuff. 991 00:45:14,760 --> 00:45:16,920 So like, if you're upset with me, you can, you should just 992 00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:20,120 tell me because I'm probably not going to be able to like guess. 993 00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:21,760 OK. But you should just like, let me 994 00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:23,000 know. And I was like, I think that's 995 00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,760 actually really. I think that's a mature move. 996 00:45:24,760 --> 00:45:28,600 I agree because I'm also like I struggle with the like there's a 997 00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,200 certain amount of like consideration and care that you 998 00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,600 should absolutely give the people around you. 999 00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:37,400 And also sometimes people are thinking things about your 1000 00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:39,960 actions that you just like didn't think of. 1001 00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:45,400 And like, sometimes it's like you obviously wish that they had 1002 00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:47,880 just like thought of that. Like I wish that people would 1003 00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:51,360 think of like would just know exactly how I would react to 1004 00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:52,600 things. But sometimes, like if they 1005 00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:54,520 don't know, you should tell them. 1006 00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:56,840 I think you should give them. You should make an effort. 1007 00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,080 Right. To like, give people a chance to 1008 00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:01,960 change. Yes, that's why I tell them that 1009 00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,200 they the way they slurp their spaghetti, they. 1010 00:46:04,200 --> 00:46:05,000 Really. Give you the ick? 1011 00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,400 Yeah, that's exactly, that's exactly what you should do. 1012 00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,520 That's feedback. That's constructive criticism. 1013 00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:12,920 Right, so you should. Yeah, I mean, OK, I'll tell us 1014 00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:14,920 one more story about my girlfriend then I'm gonna leave 1015 00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:16,240 it cuz she's a very private person. 1016 00:46:16,240 --> 00:46:21,080 But she, one time I, we were packing to go on a trip together 1017 00:46:22,280 --> 00:46:24,640 and I have this outlet extender thing. 1018 00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:28,280 Yeah that has like 6 outlets in it and it plugs into one outlet. 1019 00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:32,480 And I was like, I got it out and she was like, you can't bring 1020 00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:34,200 that. And I was like what? 1021 00:46:34,240 --> 00:46:35,840 And she was like, it sets a precedent. 1022 00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:38,360 I was. Like it sets a precedent. 1023 00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:42,440 She was, I was like, I mean, to be fair for her, for her part, 1024 00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,640 we were going to like her aunt and uncle's house. 1025 00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:46,800 So it wasn't like there were going to be no outlets. 1026 00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,000 But I was like, what if there are no outlets there? 1027 00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:51,520 And she was like, no, you don't need to bring that. 1028 00:46:51,560 --> 00:46:54,120 And I was like, you know what? And I'm glad you said that to me 1029 00:46:54,120 --> 00:46:56,720 instead of being like, that was really weird that you did that 1030 00:46:56,720 --> 00:46:58,440 and I'm just holding onto it forever. 1031 00:46:58,800 --> 00:46:59,800 You know what I mean? Did you bring it? 1032 00:46:59,960 --> 00:47:02,880 No, I didn't. I was like, she was like, what 1033 00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:06,680 she said was if you don't bring it and there aren't enough 1034 00:47:06,680 --> 00:47:09,640 outlets, you can bring it up whenever you want, OK, And you 1035 00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:11,760 will always have been right. And I was like, OK, I'll take 1036 00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:14,440 that deal. And then and then. 1037 00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:15,680 I was wrong. So. 1038 00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,840 No, I was wrong so. I so now you can. 1039 00:47:17,840 --> 00:47:20,680 So now I can't bring it up, but she could if she wants. 1040 00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,000 Wait, so you you went to the uncle's house and then there's 1041 00:47:23,000 --> 00:47:24,320 no. No, there were outlets. 1042 00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:25,640 There were, there were lots of outlets. 1043 00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:26,760 She was like, do you see all these? 1044 00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:27,840 I was like so. She was right. 1045 00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:28,320 She was. Right. 1046 00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:29,560 You're wrong. OK, She was right. 1047 00:47:29,720 --> 00:47:31,240 I was like. No, you can't. 1048 00:47:31,320 --> 00:47:33,840 Now, I can't bring it up, but she was, she was right to be 1049 00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:36,280 like, if it if I'm wrong, you can bring it up forever. 1050 00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,240 I was like, you know what? Yeah. 1051 00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:42,200 Yeah, you kind of wish she was. I kind of wish that I was right. 1052 00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:43,800 Yeah. But even though it would be like 1053 00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:46,440 a bad setup for an apartment, like I'm like, that would be bad 1054 00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:49,680 for your aunt and uncle. But I kind of wish I was right. 1055 00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:52,840 But honestly, bringing outlets everywhere, it's such a smart 1056 00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:53,560 move. Like if. 1057 00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:54,880 We're going on a trip. I would look. 1058 00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:56,520 Definitely too. I think that it's more of an 1059 00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,800 issue when you're in hotels because sometimes they have like 1060 00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:01,360 the one outlet by your bed. And like if you and your partner 1061 00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:04,320 both want to plug in like your phone and then like your Airpods 1062 00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:07,040 or something, then sometimes you need like more than one. 1063 00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:09,800 But when you're going to a house, it's like they're gonna 1064 00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:11,880 have more than one outlet in the house. 1065 00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:13,520 I'm sorry you were wrong, but it's OK. 1066 00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,440 I you have my, you have my support like I. 1067 00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:19,520 Yeah, I'm building up a team. I'm gonna bring back a list of 1068 00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:21,800 names to my girlfriend and be like these are all the people 1069 00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:23,360 who thought I was justified in bringing. 1070 00:48:23,360 --> 00:48:24,880 The outlet, it's very much justified. 1071 00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:27,040 I would. I would be so happy if you're 1072 00:48:27,040 --> 00:48:28,480 the friend that actually brought the. 1073 00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:31,120 Outlet, I mean, yeah, I feel like if I were going on a trip 1074 00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:34,080 with a bunch of people, like if me and my like high school 1075 00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,120 friends or whatever were going on a trip, I would definitely 1076 00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:37,960 bring it Cuz I would be like, we're all gonna want to 1077 00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:39,440 something. Yeah. 1078 00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:42,920 And like if we're all sharing like 2H rooms or one hotel room, 1079 00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:44,920 like there's not gonna be enough outlets at one point. 1080 00:48:44,920 --> 00:48:45,840 Yeah. Or whatever. 1081 00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:47,440 Yeah. And you don't wanna be like 1082 00:48:47,440 --> 00:48:50,680 moving the couch or like the whatever so that you can get to 1083 00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:52,360 like an outlet that's behind something. 1084 00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:55,920 I'm like, no, yeah, my outlet extender, everybody's excited. 1085 00:48:56,760 --> 00:49:00,040 You're a good friend. You're a planner in that in that 1086 00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:02,440 regard. No, I just, I mean no. 1087 00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:04,080 You know what? I'll take it. 1088 00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:06,120 Yeah, yes. Yeah, I just like having 1089 00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:07,880 outlets. Yeah, I do too. 1090 00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:10,800 It's definitely better to have more holes than no. 1091 00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:15,920 You know what? That's it. 1092 00:49:16,240 --> 00:49:17,720 That's it, everybody. We did it. 1093 00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:20,560 We did it. We did it, yeah. 1094 00:49:20,880 --> 00:49:22,680 Thank you so much for coming. Thank you SO. 1095 00:49:22,720 --> 00:49:24,320 Much for having me. This was so much. 1096 00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:25,920 Fun. Yeah, I had a great fun.