1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,800 People sending me like a meme, they think that they're so, 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:05,440 they're so funny. They're like, oh if, if it's 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:08,840 cheaper to hire a woman doctor, why wouldn't they all hire women 4 00:00:08,840 --> 00:00:11,960 doctors? I was like, Oh my God, flames on 5 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:14,840 the side of my face. I'm like, that is enraging me. 6 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:17,600 And it reminds me of a conversation that I had with my 7 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:20,280 ex where I was like, it is so ridiculous. 8 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:24,120 Like how few women directors are nominated for Oscars and all 9 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:26,120 this stuff. And he was like, well, maybe 10 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:27,640 they're not making as many movies. 11 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,480 And I'm just like, yeah, because people aren't hiring as many 12 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:32,560 women directed. Like it's, it's all from 13 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,400 stemming from the same issue where it's like we are not given 14 00:00:36,480 --> 00:00:41,720 giving women these opportunities or they are, you know, supposed 15 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:44,520 to be the primary caregiver. And so, yeah, maybe they don't 16 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:46,800 go out and get that medical degree because we're assuming 17 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,040 that they're going to stay home and with the kids, so. 18 00:00:50,200 --> 00:00:53,320 Putting in so much emotional and unpaid work and they're that's 19 00:00:53,320 --> 00:00:55,920 not recognized. And when they are doing the paid 20 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:58,960 work, they're not recognized either because there's not that 21 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:02,520 much women presentation in the male dominant field. 22 00:01:02,600 --> 00:01:09,440 Yeah, they're not. So, Brid, what's keeping you up 23 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:11,840 tonight? What's keeping me up tonight is 24 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:15,360 women who stay way too long with men who don't deserve it. 25 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,080 So I think my thesis is dump his ass. 26 00:01:18,080 --> 00:01:20,320 Like, that's it. Yeah, that's it. 27 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:23,240 It's dump his ass. You remember Britney Spears wore 28 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:25,000 that iconic shirt? That's a dump him. 29 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:30,160 That is, that is my message to so many women, so many young 30 00:01:30,160 --> 00:01:32,320 women in this. Country. 31 00:01:32,320 --> 00:01:34,440 Is that your message to yourself younger? 32 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,720 Yes, I'm like get out of there sooner. 33 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,720 Wait, what's your story? I want to know more about your 34 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:42,360 story for the for the viewers who are not familiar. 35 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:43,600 With it? Absolutely. 36 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:45,680 If you don't mind. No, this is, this is what I'm 37 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:49,360 here for. I will say I went through a 38 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:53,880 string of bad boyfriends and then got into a very toxic 39 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:56,320 relationship that I Oh my God. You didn't learn your lesson. 40 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:59,680 I did not learn my lesson and I wish I could go back in time and 41 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:03,240 tell my younger self that it's not weird that I got into a 42 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:05,840 really bad relationship and I ended up marrying the guy. 43 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,479 That's how bad it is. Yeah, you know when you say way 44 00:02:09,479 --> 00:02:13,120 too long sunk cost fallacy. Don't don't fall for it. 45 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:14,600 You know, you thought. Exactly. 46 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:16,960 Oh my God, so smart you've learned. 47 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,640 I've learned. I've learned from my mistakes. 48 00:02:19,640 --> 00:02:21,680 Yeah. You think you put in too much 49 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:24,560 time and you're like, I need to stay and you don't. 50 00:02:24,920 --> 00:02:30,960 And kind of more importantly, I don't think that you should be 51 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:33,000 arguing in your relationship. And I know that that's a hot 52 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:35,280 take, but. You don't. 53 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,480 You shouldn't be arguing. I don't think you're arguing. 54 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:39,840 What if there's an argument in the relationship? 55 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:41,960 So dump his ass. Yeah, dump his ass. 56 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:46,440 But I I really feel like I should be a professor. 57 00:02:46,440 --> 00:02:49,800 Like I really feel like I am. I have like a master's degree in 58 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:53,640 bad relationships. You actually, No, I should, I 59 00:02:53,640 --> 00:02:56,400 think I should get an honorary degree from NYU like Taylor 60 00:02:56,400 --> 00:02:57,240 Swift. Yeah. 61 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:01,800 Yeah, but here's the thing. I'm in a new relationship now. 62 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:03,440 Congrats. Thank you. 63 00:03:03,640 --> 00:03:07,840 Yeah. And we don't argue at all. 64 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:10,560 We disagree. OK, what's the difference? 65 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:15,040 I think the difference is arguing is like the type of 66 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:19,880 arguments that I was in. Were these like loud all out 67 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:21,880 brawls? OK, where? 68 00:03:21,880 --> 00:03:24,360 Wait, that's not healthy. No, it's not healthy at all. 69 00:03:24,360 --> 00:03:28,120 But I think that a lot of people stay because they a maybe get 70 00:03:28,120 --> 00:03:30,640 addicted to that toxicity. Some people find it really 71 00:03:30,640 --> 00:03:32,880 exciting to fight and I don't know why. 72 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:35,920 Well, sometimes. Well, now you're thinking of. 73 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:39,120 No, I'm thinking about it. You're like, I love makeup sex 74 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,880 and that's fun. After that is a big fight. 75 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:44,160 Probably. Maybe that's why people argue 76 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:46,000 it's for the makeup sex. Maybe. 77 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:49,280 Yeah, it's so not worth it. No, it's not sorry. 78 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,600 You're what's your point? What's? 79 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:54,840 Your Oh, no, totally. So I think I think that, Oh, 80 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:56,600 wait, yeah. A, like you, you might be like, 81 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:58,440 really addicted to it or, B, do you think that that is 82 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,080 acceptable because maybe you grew up in a home where yelling 83 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:02,960 was really acceptable? Me. 84 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:07,920 Yeah. And so you let someone yell at 85 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:09,400 you. And this isn't just for hetero 86 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:13,200 relationships, but I do find more so as a bisexual woman, 87 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:17,519 that I was being yelled at by men, specifically one man. 88 00:04:18,399 --> 00:04:21,800 And he was yelling a lot. And he was, you know, poking 89 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:25,560 holes in the drywall or punching holes in the drywall and. 90 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:26,520 No. It's OK. 91 00:04:27,280 --> 00:04:29,160 Hey, look at look at where I am now. 92 00:04:29,160 --> 00:04:30,440 I'm in this beautiful pink bedroom. 93 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:32,480 Look at. That, and he's not. 94 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:33,520 And he's not. Yeah. 95 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:35,640 And I'm in a healthy relationship now. 96 00:04:35,640 --> 00:04:37,920 And I feel like that is the point. 97 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:40,920 Oh, my God. Speaking of, do you want to tell 98 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:42,840 me lies? No, wait, tell me. 99 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:44,440 Tell me lies. Tell me lies. 100 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:45,440 Yeah. You're like, tell me about it. 101 00:04:45,440 --> 00:04:47,440 Tell me about it. I want, I actually want to send 102 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:50,000 this message out. The women of of tell me lies. 103 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:53,960 If you were with a man like Steven Run, you do not need to 104 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:57,160 stay with that guy. That's that is the prototype. 105 00:04:57,160 --> 00:04:59,560 I'm like that kind of man. He's like this manipulative 106 00:04:59,960 --> 00:05:02,400 lying. What's toxic? 107 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:06,080 That is the guy. Is that something that reminds 108 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:09,280 you of the bad boyfriends? Yes, he reminds me, my 109 00:05:09,280 --> 00:05:12,520 ex-husband. He came on screen and I was 110 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,120 like, Oh my God. That is the way that he lies, 111 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:18,480 the ease with which he lies. He lies like breathing. 112 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:21,720 Is there an example like from yourself or from the show if you 113 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:22,800 don't mind sharing? Totally. 114 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:24,680 Oh my God no. Well here's the thing. 115 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:27,680 My ex-husband. He lied and cheated in a lot of 116 00:05:27,760 --> 00:05:30,400 crazy creative ways. More than one time. 117 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,120 Oh yeah, totally. But I stayed because I was 118 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,560 dropped. You know, you just feel like you 119 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:38,640 can't get out. But the last straw was that he 120 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:41,000 was exchanging nudes with a ball on Instagram. 121 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,520 What? Oh my God, what? 122 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,080 Yeah, really. You know, sometimes they're 123 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:47,960 really convincing looking and I have to give them that. 124 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:52,040 That's like pre AI, Yeah. Pre AI, Yeah, that's crazy. 125 00:05:52,040 --> 00:05:56,440 This is in 2023, OK, So it's before they got really good. 126 00:05:56,440 --> 00:06:00,280 Yeah, and that wasn't even AI. Like, how did he get into it? 127 00:06:00,280 --> 00:06:02,240 Like he believed that it was a real person. 128 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:06,160 Yeah, and he was talking to her for, I guess a while and then, 129 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:11,000 yeah, really crazy. Problem that sounds like like. 130 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:14,480 Boomers, I know. I don't know, sorry for calling 131 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:17,720 out boomers. Do not be sorry for tearing down 132 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:21,560 that man. He deserves every single time I 133 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:26,520 mentioned it, but you know that And then like this guy on the 134 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:28,880 show that I'm sorry, I keep talking about this show, but I'm 135 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:30,560 just really obsessed with. It right now tell. 136 00:06:30,840 --> 00:06:36,800 Me lies, but you know this guy like, you know, lie about like 137 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:40,640 who he saw that day and like who he was talking to and he was 138 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:42,120 talking to an ex and stuff like that. 139 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:44,280 And it's like, oh, that was just so classic. 140 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:46,800 And you don't have to put up with that. 141 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:51,680 No, you don't say yeah, I well, what if you OK, Yeah, yeah, my 142 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:56,200 my hypotheticals. My turn on that is that you do 143 00:06:57,400 --> 00:06:59,840 it to the other person to for revenge. 144 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:01,840 You give revenge. You like sleep with his best 145 00:07:01,840 --> 00:07:05,200 friend, Yeah. You like lie and like you, I 146 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:08,360 don't know, you mastered that way of lying like, you know, 147 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:12,560 like, just like breathing. I'm like 2 wrongs don't make it 148 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:16,040 right and you got to get out, you got to dump him like right, 149 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:18,800 you just have to leave and. That's the healthy way. 150 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:20,600 More mature. Way that is the healthy way. 151 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:26,440 And I feel like I don't look back like you go and you don't 152 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:27,680 you don't even look at the rear view. 153 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,600 Like I have no regrets. And so I hope that someone 154 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,000 listening to this is like, Oh my God, I'm with this guy and he 155 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:38,000 keeps lying and cheating and yelling and they're like, wait, 156 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:39,920 I could just have a happier life. 157 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:42,440 I'm you in the future and I'm happier and better for him. 158 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:48,040 This is APSA, Yeah, to all the anybody who's listening who is 159 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:51,080 in an abusive relationship. Exactly, you should leave. 160 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:54,160 You should leave his ass. Yeah, and sometimes even I feel 161 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:55,840 like sometimes it's not even the yelling. 162 00:07:55,840 --> 00:08:00,840 Sometimes it's the, you know, the ignorant, the avoidance. 163 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:04,920 Yeah, that's like hurtful too. That's also like, manipulative. 164 00:08:06,040 --> 00:08:08,040 Absolutely. So if you're feeling like you're 165 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:13,400 being emotionally abused or verbally abused, yeah. 166 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:15,000 Dump his ass. Dump his ass. 167 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,640 Yeah. And I even think we can apply 168 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:20,120 dump his ass to so many other things. 169 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:24,920 Like I'm a big believer in that. He if he wanted to, he would. 170 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:27,560 Yeah, I agree. I know that it's been said. 171 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:30,680 It is so true. I'm just like, if your situation 172 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:34,559 ship is leaving you hanging, if you're like, you know, feeling 173 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:36,880 like someone isn't giving you their full attention, I'm like, 174 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:41,559 get out of there. OK, I wish younger me can 175 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:43,440 understand that too. That's something. 176 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:45,800 Yeah, me too. I wish. 177 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:48,560 And here's the thing, I think that sometimes we have to learn 178 00:08:48,560 --> 00:08:52,560 the lessons for ourselves and that's why we don't. 179 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:55,280 But I don't know. I don't know if I had this much 180 00:08:55,280 --> 00:09:00,720 access to like other women in media where I didn't. 181 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:03,640 I didn't have the tools. I didn't hear the advice. 182 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:03,840 Oh, you. Oh. 183 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:05,520 I see what you mean. Yeah. 184 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,200 You know, Yeah. Like, like you said, the show, 185 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:09,880 it's still the women's, the victim. 186 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:12,440 Yeah. Did they like, depict her to 187 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,320 like, you know, dump his? Ass. 188 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:16,880 So I'm OK. This is where it gets tricky. 189 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:19,440 I'm only on season 2. OK, you don't know yet. 190 00:09:19,520 --> 00:09:23,840 I know there's a season 3 but no, I mean she season 1 it ends 191 00:09:23,840 --> 00:09:26,360 pretty badly for her. Like she gets dumped and I'm 192 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,040 like, see, you got to leave him first. 193 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:32,080 Yeah, you got to have it like, examples in the media for women. 194 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:35,120 Like, what do you do? Like, what's a good situation? 195 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:38,200 What's a? You know what you should do 196 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:39,400 instead? Of what you should do. 197 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:44,160 And yeah, I don't well, like like this, like this podcast 198 00:09:44,400 --> 00:09:47,680 we're we're teaching. Yes, this is an informative 199 00:09:47,680 --> 00:09:48,160 thing. Yeah. 200 00:09:48,400 --> 00:09:50,560 And so I didn't have this growing up. 201 00:09:50,560 --> 00:09:53,040 And so I think I let dudes walk all over. 202 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:55,200 Me, I agree. I feel like something that 203 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:58,760 really helped me with like, going over breakups is, yeah, 204 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:02,240 looking at other women's Tik toks about like you get the fuck 205 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:03,680 up like. Guys, yeah. 206 00:10:04,120 --> 00:10:08,320 And just being the proof that life does go on and you will get 207 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:11,600 through it and it will get better and you will find someone 208 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:13,640 else. It's like all of these lessons 209 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:16,520 that I feel like maybe I heard of. 210 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:20,080 Yeah, that I just didn't believe or didn't understand. 211 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,600 Like there's so many other fish in the sea that's. 212 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,480 Literally true. That is true, but sometimes when 213 00:10:25,520 --> 00:10:27,800 you're in the zone of like grieving, you don't. 214 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:29,720 It doesn't get. Into your mind, but. 215 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,280 No, you just see time heals all wounds. 216 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:33,880 Yeah, I'm, I'm a Hallmark card right now. 217 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,680 I'm just saying all the like. No, I love it. 218 00:10:36,840 --> 00:10:39,440 That's what I need to remember. Sometimes when I'm in the zone, 219 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:42,120 I don't remember those things. I need someone to like, be like, 220 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:43,720 nagging me, like in my ears all the time. 221 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:45,720 Like there's more fish in the sea and like, what else? 222 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,200 Give me more. So there's that. 223 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:49,800 There are more efficiency. Oh yeah, I'll. 224 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:52,000 Just say all. All the things that have been 225 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:55,280 true, that have proven to be true, if he wanted to, he would. 226 00:10:56,200 --> 00:11:00,520 Time heals all wounds. Because it's, I mean, really all 227 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,560 you do need is a certain amount of time. 228 00:11:02,560 --> 00:11:05,600 I don't know what amount of time it's going to be, but you will 229 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:07,680 get over it and you will stop praying about it. 230 00:11:07,680 --> 00:11:09,960 Yes, like that literally has happened. 231 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,120 It might take some time, but it's going to happen. 232 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:15,880 What's another cliche that is unfortunately true You. 233 00:11:16,480 --> 00:11:21,480 Said time heals all wounds. That one, I'm I'm trying to 234 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,920 think of ones that also aren't true, where I don't really like 235 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:27,680 when people say it'll happen when you're not looking. 236 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:32,200 Oh, that one used to annoy me really, because I'm always 237 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:33,520 looking. I'm like. 238 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:37,600 So how did it happen for you? So now you're in a good 239 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:39,160 relationship. I'm in a good relationship. 240 00:11:39,160 --> 00:11:41,640 Yeah, yeah, you should say it as a an example, a good example 241 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:43,920 like what does it look like? What does it look like? 242 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:49,480 Yeah, I think that we started out very good because they think 243 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:54,280 we're evenly matched and like our morals. 244 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:56,280 And I think that. That's a good start. 245 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:58,560 Start with more, I'll start your data. 246 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,520 We didn't start there, but I'm like, I don't know, on a first 247 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:05,720 date, if you can tell like the person is like rude to the 248 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:07,880 waiter or something like that. I'm like, run. 249 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:11,000 Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, So I feel like that. 250 00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:18,400 It's not that I was look, I I'm like, I wasn't looking, but I 251 00:12:18,400 --> 00:12:19,720 thought that this person was hot. 252 00:12:20,560 --> 00:12:23,880 And so, like, again, like I said, not when I'm in a 253 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:26,880 relationship, but when I was single, I was always looking. 254 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:30,240 Like I'm always, you know, checking the scene. 255 00:12:30,240 --> 00:12:32,240 Yeah, yeah. So I don't, I feel like, you 256 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,320 know, it'll happen for you when you're not looking is like 257 00:12:34,440 --> 00:12:36,600 horrible advice to give someone, especially when they're single 258 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:38,440 'cause I'm like we're we're looking. 259 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:40,320 But yeah, where are it's not Yeah. 260 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:43,600 I have eyes. It's not unavoidable. 261 00:12:43,720 --> 00:12:48,080 It's exactly, but no, when I, when I met my career partner, I 262 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:50,400 did not know that it was going to go so well. 263 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:54,000 But I feel like, yes, we were evenly matched on like humor, 264 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:57,120 morals, like things that we found really important. 265 00:12:57,280 --> 00:13:00,680 And you never fight. We don't fight, we disagree. 266 00:13:00,720 --> 00:13:02,320 OK, tell me more. I want to know more about. 267 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:03,600 I feel like you divert. Yeah. 268 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:05,720 No, you. I think that disagreement is 269 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:07,280 healthy. You're not going to agree A. 270 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:11,320 100% on everything that you've recently disagreed on and how 271 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:13,280 does you like? Yeah. 272 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:18,000 Solve the. We are very different in our, I 273 00:13:18,000 --> 00:13:20,520 think like cleaning styles at home, OK, cleaning styles. 274 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:26,120 So he's cleaner than me, OK. I am a pretty clean person, but 275 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:30,440 I think that we have had like an issue that has come up is like 276 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:33,320 I'm doing the dishwasher way more often. 277 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:35,760 Like he's he's saying this like I'm, I'm doing the dishwasher 278 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:38,560 way more often. And I'm like, totally, that's 279 00:13:38,560 --> 00:13:40,480 fair and valid. But it's not like a screaming 280 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:42,720 match. It's like, OK, you're coming to 281 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:45,960 me with an issue. I'm going to take it in. 282 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:49,360 I'm going to process it and I'm going to be like, OK, I'm going 283 00:13:49,360 --> 00:13:53,280 to be better at AB and C, Whereas I don't know what 284 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:54,680 happens. I think maybe people get their 285 00:13:54,680 --> 00:13:56,680 ego involved. Oh, they get. 286 00:13:56,880 --> 00:13:58,960 Personal and they take it personally and they and they 287 00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:02,720 fight or this is it's hard to compare because it's so apples 288 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:05,440 and oranges, but I'm like the fights I was getting in in my 289 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:08,200 marriage were like, Hey, can you please not cheat on me? 290 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:14,280 So it's a little different. It's not about the dishwasher. 291 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:17,400 No, it's like a little bit different. 292 00:14:18,240 --> 00:14:21,280 So yeah, but I, I think that in other relationships when I was 293 00:14:21,280 --> 00:14:25,360 younger also, like, I don't know, there's just there was 294 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:29,920 always a cycle of, of fighting and I don't, I hate fighting. 295 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:32,600 I'm so non confrontational. I don't like getting in fights 296 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:36,560 with my friends or anyone. Well, is it good to not be in 297 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:39,080 fights, to not be confrontational? 298 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:41,080 Because I feel like I've been looking at a lot of, like, 299 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:42,560 TikTok videos. Yeah, of course. 300 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:43,880 That's where I get my therapy. Of course. 301 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:46,480 Yeah. It's been saying that, you know, 302 00:14:46,480 --> 00:14:49,560 if you're not confrontational, if you're like letting, if 303 00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:53,200 you're not like letting out your emotions or, you know, bringing 304 00:14:53,200 --> 00:14:55,240 out what's not making you comfortable or. 305 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:57,920 Yeah. You know, it's, it's, it's a 306 00:14:57,920 --> 00:14:59,480 sign that you're like holding it in. 307 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:01,320 It's not like you are not good for you. 308 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:03,880 Yeah. This is where I go back to like 309 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:09,160 I think you need to bring things up but in a non confrontational 310 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:12,320 way. Yeah, non violent negotiation, 311 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,320 yeah. Like the way that we talk to 312 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:18,560 each other is just really kind and leading with like, we are a 313 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:21,000 team. Here's something that is making 314 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:22,960 me upset. And then it's like, Oh my God, I 315 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:25,920 would never want to make this person that I love upset. 316 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:29,120 Let me fix the problem. Yeah, You know well. 317 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:30,640 I'm so happy for you. Thank you. 318 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:34,400 No, it's it's lovely, but I definitely have not been in this 319 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:39,800 situation ever in my life. And so it's unusual to me. 320 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:42,720 And then it makes me want to, yeah, make APSA where I'm like, 321 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:45,600 stop fighting. You love each other, you don't 322 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:47,320 need to fight. If you love each other. 323 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:49,800 You wouldn't fight? Yeah, that's you can disagree, 324 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:52,760 but I don't know. This is the other thing where 325 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:55,960 I'm like, if your boyfriend's Republican, dump him. 326 00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:03,600 I'm like, if that man does not value, you know, immigrants and 327 00:16:04,160 --> 00:16:07,800 different races, like, like there's some base level things 328 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:10,080 where I'm like, then he's not going to respect you. 329 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:13,560 You know, if he doesn't respect a woman's body, like there's so 330 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:15,440 many things that I'm like, red flag. 331 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:18,320 Exactly. And like, you know, during the 332 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:22,240 last election, people were like, oh, you know, like my 333 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:24,520 boyfriend's voting for Trump. I'm like, poison him. 334 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:26,160 Why are? You why are you still late with 335 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:26,960 him? Like, yeah. 336 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:29,840 I'm like, no way, which is bringing me back to the thing 337 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:34,280 where I'm like, I feel like my partner and I are very morally 338 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:35,560 aligned. I see. 339 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:39,080 And that's why we don't get in a lot of the arguments that I feel 340 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:41,120 like I maybe got in with other partners. 341 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:43,480 Are you switching me like like internally? 342 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:47,280 The core concepts of like being a human are aligned. 343 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:48,840 Yeah. So, like, we're not going to 344 00:16:48,840 --> 00:16:52,520 disagree on, you know, something we see on the news because we 345 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:54,040 feel very similarly about it, OK? 346 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:56,880 I feel, I feel, I feel that. I feel like I had boyfriends 347 00:16:56,880 --> 00:17:00,280 where I, like, would have disagreements about like, yeah, 348 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:01,960 sometimes I feel like, oh, my God, are you a little 349 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:03,360 Republican? Yeah. 350 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:07,400 It's scary. Yeah, that's kind of funny, but. 351 00:17:07,599 --> 00:17:11,599 Yeah, and I think a lot of men start out that way. 352 00:17:11,599 --> 00:17:13,480 And I'm not saying it's not their fault, but it's like, 353 00:17:13,599 --> 00:17:17,200 because they've been raised in this like patriarchal society, 354 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:21,000 that they're raised to think that they are right, that they 355 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:24,880 know better, that they deserve to make more money than women. 356 00:17:26,079 --> 00:17:27,920 That was actually. That was literally one of the 357 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:29,400 arguments I had. Yeah. 358 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:34,120 Like, like the gender pay gap? Like how can you deny that 359 00:17:34,120 --> 00:17:37,000 there's a gender pay gap? Oh my God. 360 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,880 Let me just put it out there like I that's such a red flag. 361 00:17:40,120 --> 00:17:42,920 Huge red flag. Also I'm just like was he saying 362 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:46,080 he was denying that it existed? Yes. 363 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:50,680 OK, so that's just like if you want to borrow a a term. 364 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:52,680 Facts don't care about your feelings, honey. 365 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:55,840 And it is a fact that women are paid less and women of color are 366 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:58,480 paid even less than that. Yeah, he's like, oh, it's 367 00:17:58,480 --> 00:18:01,640 because like women don't do like high paying jobs. 368 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,560 Or I've also gotten like people sending me like a meme. 369 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:07,520 They think that they're so they're so funny. 370 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:11,080 They're like, oh if, if it's cheaper to hire a woman doctor, 371 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:13,360 why wouldn't they all hire women doctors? 372 00:18:14,080 --> 00:18:16,480 I was like, Oh my God, flames on the side of my face. 373 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:19,880 I'm like, that is enraging me. And it reminds me of a 374 00:18:19,880 --> 00:18:23,680 conversation that I had with my ex where I was like, it is so 375 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:26,840 ridiculous. Like how few women directors are 376 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:28,400 nominated for Oscars and all this stuff. 377 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:30,880 And he was like, well, maybe they're not making as many 378 00:18:30,880 --> 00:18:33,160 movies. And I'm just like, yeah, because 379 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:34,960 people aren't hiring as many women directors. 380 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:39,280 Like it's it's all from stemming from the same issue where it's 381 00:18:39,280 --> 00:18:42,400 like we are not given giving women these opportunities or 382 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:47,200 they are, you know, supposed to be the primary caregiver. 383 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:49,440 And so, yeah, maybe they don't go out and get that medical 384 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:51,360 degree because we're assuming that they were going to stay 385 00:18:51,360 --> 00:18:53,000 home and with the kids. Exactly. 386 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:56,960 So putting in so much emotional and unpaid work and they're 387 00:18:56,960 --> 00:19:00,160 that's not recognized and when they are doing the paid work, 388 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:03,200 they're not recognized either because there's not that much 389 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:06,480 women presentation in the male dominated fields. 390 00:19:06,480 --> 00:19:11,360 Yeah, you're not trusting women to be ACEO or whatever it is, 391 00:19:11,360 --> 00:19:14,320 like these high paying jobs or whatever that he's talking 392 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:17,200 about. It's like, yeah, man, that is 393 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:20,080 what's happening because they're not giving them those jobs. 394 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:23,800 That makes me so mad, but so baseline. 395 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:28,760 If these men are willing to make, like, misogynistic jokes 396 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:31,920 in the privacy of their home with their guy friends and stuff 397 00:19:31,920 --> 00:19:33,840 like that. That's what I mean, too, with, 398 00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:35,560 like, moral alignment. Yeah. 399 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:37,280 Yeah. You know, I'm like, if you're 400 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:39,280 going to make a joke about me making a sandwich in the 401 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:41,480 kitchen, like, you're probably not going to be a good partner 402 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:42,360 long term. Oh, yeah. 403 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:43,320 Yeah. You know. 404 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:45,880 Although I feel like that's like a lot of male comedians make 405 00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:49,360 that joke. And hear me when I say this, you 406 00:19:49,360 --> 00:19:52,360 are hacked, you're hacking your bad. 407 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:56,120 But totally. It's like if you're punching 408 00:19:56,120 --> 00:19:59,600 down at women who historically have, you know, been 409 00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,120 undervalued, undermined, not able to get the same 410 00:20:02,120 --> 00:20:06,680 opportunities as men, men who make like, I hate my wife jokes. 411 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,360 I'm like, is it what year is it? I know like don't, don't have a 412 00:20:11,360 --> 00:20:16,320 wife, don't already have someone said it better than I did and 413 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:20,160 I'm sure it's been talked about at length, but that I'm like 414 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:21,960 these men. Are they even? 415 00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,760 Do they even want women? Like, are they even attracted to 416 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,720 women? Like they think so little of us 417 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:29,880 and yet they want to date and marry us. 418 00:20:30,120 --> 00:20:32,600 Yeah, but. I yeah, maybe dating and 419 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:35,720 marrying us means that we're like belittled by them. 420 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:38,480 So and then like they want control over women and they 421 00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:40,040 don't like they're not attracted. 422 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:42,960 They just want power. Yeah, it's so upsetting. 423 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,560 So then my other piece of advice would be be queer. 424 00:20:48,520 --> 00:20:50,960 I'm getting I am in a relationship with a trans man. 425 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:56,880 I'm a queer woman, and I think that trans men are men. 426 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,000 They're just men with empathy and. 427 00:21:00,040 --> 00:21:02,480 You're a whistleblower. It's a little, yeah, it's a 428 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:06,040 little bit better. OK, I, well, give me, I want to 429 00:21:06,040 --> 00:21:10,160 get myself a trans man. I, you know, they're, they're a 430 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,160 minority. There's not that many of them. 431 00:21:12,160 --> 00:21:16,120 So I I I can't find one. You can find there's. 432 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:18,960 Yeah. And if if you are queer and you 433 00:21:19,120 --> 00:21:21,640 are, I mean, here's the thing. I'm a queer woman. 434 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:23,760 So even when I was in a hetero relationship, it was still a 435 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:25,240 queer relationship because I was in it. 436 00:21:25,800 --> 00:21:30,840 But I do, I know that there are bad people in every community, 437 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,840 but I do feel like my experiences with the queer 438 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:36,240 community have been way better. Yeah, exactly. 439 00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,760 I think that we just have a baseline better sense of 440 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:41,000 empathy. Yeah, yeah. 441 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,920 I feel like even interactions with straight men, the straight 442 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:49,200 men who have like a connection to the queer community are much 443 00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:50,720 better. Yes, straight men. 444 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:54,080 Oh my gosh, yes. Like if you find a man who is 445 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:57,720 like, best friends with lesbians, green flag, that is a 446 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:01,440 good guy, you know, like, there's they're out there. 447 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,680 You just have to do a little bit of searching to find them, you 448 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:06,480 know, Come, come, do a queer event. 449 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,600 And yeah, yeah, I feel like those men exist. 450 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:11,600 I feel like they do around. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 451 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:15,400 Like at the at like shows or like queer parties, they're 452 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:17,360 around. Yeah, if you go to those parties 453 00:22:17,360 --> 00:22:21,720 and you find a straight guy or bye guy or whatever who finds 454 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:25,400 himself in the company of other queer people, he's usually a 455 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,200 little, a little better groomed than these straight men, you 456 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:30,680 know? Yeah, don't like, I feel like 457 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,360 they usually exist in Brooklyn instead of like, you know, like 458 00:22:33,360 --> 00:22:34,760 downtown. Yeah, yeah. 459 00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:36,600 You got it. You got to get it. 460 00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:40,040 I train. OK, I, I try to go to to see 461 00:22:40,120 --> 00:22:43,400 Super Bowl, I try to, you know, fit in the American culture and 462 00:22:43,480 --> 00:22:45,760 Oh my God, there's so many straight. 463 00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:49,040 I mean, I should, that's what I expect, but. 464 00:22:49,120 --> 00:22:53,440 Of course, that's the thing. And you know something that I 465 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:56,680 learned they. Left the bar, Yeah, during 466 00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:00,120 halftime show. Wait, they didn't watch Benito? 467 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,480 No. What is the point? 468 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,480 I know that's that's everything that's. 469 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:09,720 Crazy, where did they go? I don't know, I hope not to 470 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,360 their wife and kids because they don't deserve one. 471 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:15,800 That's crazy. Yeah. 472 00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,480 I mean, that's the thing, Straight culture is. 473 00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:23,000 So maybe it's the one last monoculture we have is straight 474 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:28,560 culture is like, no, but what I learned getting into a queer 475 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:33,080 relationship is that I 'cause I'm just self self appointed. 476 00:23:33,120 --> 00:23:35,640 I'm not. I am not a sports girl and I've 477 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:39,760 always been that way. Was never good at doing sports 478 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:43,000 or watching them, and that's OK, that's on me. 479 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,480 But when I got into a queer relationship, I was like, my 480 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,040 God, I'm still gonna be subjected to watching sports. 481 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,200 I did not realize. Really. 482 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,840 Yeah, because we're watching a lot of women's sports. 483 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:56,000 Yes, yes, yes. Women's sports. 484 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:57,000 Hell yeah. Hell yeah. 485 00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:02,120 And you know what? I'm there for the girls, but I 486 00:24:02,120 --> 00:24:04,800 couldn't tell you what is happening on that field or that 487 00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:07,160 court. Yeah, I remember I was like 488 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,160 asking ChatGPT about the, you know, the rules about, like, 489 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,480 Super Bowl, like on the night, like that night. 490 00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,440 It's something that I'm just never going to figure out. 491 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:18,720 You know, I wasn't good at math. I'm not going to be good at 492 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:20,840 sports. We all have our flaws and. 493 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:25,080 Yeah, well, what did you study? I studied radio and television. 494 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:27,400 Oh my. God, and you're thriving. 495 00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:31,240 Oh my God, thank you. Well, I mean, that was my major 496 00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:33,920 and I worked in TV for many years and now I work in digital 497 00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:37,000 media. And wow, OK, how did you meet 498 00:24:37,000 --> 00:24:39,920 your current partner? Through comedy. 499 00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:41,520 So. Yeah, Really. 500 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:42,880 Yeah. So they're also a comedian. 501 00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:46,120 And so we actually met at a friend's show. 502 00:24:46,120 --> 00:24:48,680 OK. That's great. 503 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,040 That's why you're so aligned. You're doing like. 504 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:55,880 I know, yeah, it feels good. It's again, it's nice to be on 505 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:57,240 the same page about a lot of things. 506 00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,640 Yeah, and you would understand each other because you're both 507 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,480 in the same struggle. Exactly. 508 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:02,160 Yeah. Yeah. 509 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:06,960 So we met at a show and I, you know, Oh my. 510 00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:10,680 God, do I know them? I think maybe I don't know, I 511 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:14,320 don't know, but I can show you after OK and you can yeah. 512 00:25:14,360 --> 00:25:20,440 But very, very cute. I, I had also like seen this 513 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:24,640 person online before we ever met in person and I was like, oh, 514 00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:26,600 they're really hot. You're a fan. 515 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,560 Yeah, definitely. And then when we met up in 516 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,800 person, I was like, Oh my God, I was so nervous. 517 00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:34,600 And then it was just this weird thing. 518 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,840 It was like fate. We just kept running into each 519 00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:38,240 other that week at different shows. 520 00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,040 OK, so it's like Universe put you together. 521 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:46,960 The universe put us together and then we were all at a bar. 522 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:49,280 It was like a Wednesday night or something. 523 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:53,480 It was during pride. So which was so like we, we were 524 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:57,200 at some like gay event and I was like, you should take my number. 525 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,520 And he did. And then we've been together 526 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,280 ever since. Like we just, we went on a date 527 00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:04,800 and wow. That's quick. 528 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:08,920 Yeah, it was like that is the thing we. 529 00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,640 Yeah. We did U-Haul pretty quickly. 530 00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:16,480 It's like that is a stereotype and it did happen to us, so 531 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,360 that's another. Cliche, that's true. 532 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,240 OK, well, I mean, that's not a bad thing. 533 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:22,200 Is that a bad? Thing no. 534 00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:22,760 It's. Just. 535 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:24,080 Neutral. It's not, Yeah. 536 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:25,560 And I sometimes I think it's a good thing. 537 00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:27,440 Like I feel like there's so many people who are not. 538 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:30,480 Why are you not rushing into a relationship? 539 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,200 How old are you and what the world is ending? 540 00:26:33,360 --> 00:26:36,040 The world, literally the world is crashing down around us like 541 00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:41,040 be in love and move in together and it's. 542 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:44,280 Expensive to live on your own. Come on, living in. 543 00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:47,720 Why do you live in New York City or any other major city like, 544 00:26:47,920 --> 00:26:49,760 you know, San Francisco or LA or whatever? 545 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,240 I'm like, you got to live. Together. 546 00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,160 Yeah, No, Why not? Yeah. 547 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:56,040 In love, like, yeah. Especially people that I'm 548 00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:56,840 talking to. What? 549 00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,240 Yeah, no, hey, we're both comedians. 550 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:01,120 Like it was. We had to, right? 551 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:04,320 I've been looking at your nails, they're so cute. 552 00:27:04,320 --> 00:27:06,640 Oh my God, thank you. I'm going tomorrow for my 553 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,160 Valentine's Day set. What are you going to do for 554 00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,400 Valentine's? Day, I don't know, you know what 555 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:16,280 I was I was thinking Margot Robbie has been doing this 556 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:19,400 incredible press for that Wuthering Heights movie and 557 00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:22,600 she's a sick outfit every time. But I really loved the one that 558 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:26,440 was like red and black that was like faded readable. 559 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:28,280 I don't know. I was like, I'm going to show my 560 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:29,880 girls great. Like, you know what, we're 561 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,360 friends and I can show her something and she'll like whip 562 00:27:32,360 --> 00:27:33,440 something up. Oh my God. 563 00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:38,880 Anyways, yeah, I. Was in a sexy sexy situation. 564 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:43,240 With a girl and. I didn't have, I had short nails 565 00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:45,360 on. Yeah, so I I could. 566 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:47,560 She had very long nails on, so I could. 567 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,680 I couldn't get anything. Oh my gosh, yeah. 568 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:56,160 Well, here's OK, I know that people have a lot of opinions on 569 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:59,800 this and are like, you know, you should, because I've I've 570 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:04,600 thought about getting like the gay hand, which is you just take 571 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:08,360 down these two or whatever two you use, you make these short. 572 00:28:08,360 --> 00:28:12,120 But then I was like, then I'm walking around and it's kind of 573 00:28:12,120 --> 00:28:16,760 like, yeah, I'm fucking. I don't know, I felt weird about 574 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:21,680 it, but I don't know. I have never had any complaints. 575 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:24,000 And again, these are what I'm like overdue. 576 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:27,360 These are like 6 weeks, OK, you know, long. 577 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,280 I usually go down and and make them shorter. 578 00:28:30,640 --> 00:28:33,240 But this is not bad this. It's not that bad. 579 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:38,680 And I think that if you're not like scratching someone like 580 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:42,480 you're fine. But I'm so sorry that you you 581 00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:45,440 couldn't get any, right? I couldn't get any action. 582 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:46,560 Yeah, I know. That's hard. 583 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:50,600 I know. Yeah, I still I cry about it. 584 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:52,720 They cry about it. So do you. 585 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:54,640 Are you? Do I identify as queer? 586 00:28:54,960 --> 00:28:56,760 Yeah, Yeah, Yeah. I love it. 587 00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,800 Well, so then you get it. Like I think dealing with the 588 00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,640 queer community is a lot easier. Right. 589 00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:03,120 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely feel that. 590 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:07,720 Although I feel like sometimes when I because I don't live in 591 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,520 Brooklyn and I feel like I don't know where to go. 592 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,600 Where do you need people? I'll tell you. 593 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,960 Yeah, No, Tell us, tell us, tell us. 594 00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,680 Tell me now. I'm like what are some like you 595 00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:18,480 should. I mean places. 596 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:27,000 You can go to there's Pat, which is like a queer night at Union 597 00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:30,960 Pool. It's like, is it Thursdays and 598 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,600 then Wednesdays at the Woods is also a queer night in Brooklyn. 599 00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:40,720 There's there's plenty of of places and Henrietta's on on 600 00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:43,440 Hudson is another like lesbian bar. 601 00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:47,880 I'm trying to think the Bush. I'm like. 602 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,880 The Bush, it's literally called. The Bush, it's literally called 603 00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:52,720 the Bush, honey. Like, you can go there and you 604 00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,400 will. You'll clean up, you know? 605 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:58,960 Oh yeah, like. My thing, Yeah. 606 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:01,680 I don't have Bush anymore because I lasered you. 607 00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:03,240 Lasered. Oh my. 608 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,200 God, I know I lost my wings. You. 609 00:30:07,400 --> 00:30:11,000 Oster Wings. What's so funny is like when I 610 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:15,080 got out of my straight marriage, I grew the Bush out. 611 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,520 Yeah. I was like, it's time. 612 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:21,280 You should. Yeah, here's the thing. 613 00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:25,160 I'm like pussy's pussy. No it Bush or no Bush. 614 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,200 But it's so funny that you lasered and like you can't. 615 00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:30,240 It hasn't grown back. Well, it's grown back, very. 616 00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:33,440 It doesn't go back to where it used to be, like it should not 617 00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,360 be restored. I don't know, maybe like I 618 00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:37,400 thought. To her former glory. 619 00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:40,560 Yeah. That's so crazy. 620 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:42,560 Yeah. Wait, so can I ask you a 621 00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:47,840 question? You came here and. 622 00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:51,520 And what like what are the differences between dating here 623 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,200 first back home? Oh. 624 00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:57,680 Wait, like when or maybe when did you get here? 625 00:30:57,680 --> 00:30:59,640 Because like, were you old enough to date? 626 00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:01,600 Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 627 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,360 That's a good question. I don't know. 628 00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:08,920 I feel like you're, I feel like OK, people don't say I love you 629 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:10,840 as much. OK here. 630 00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:13,320 Here, yes. Wow. 631 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:18,440 I feel like people here attach a big value to I love you. 632 00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:22,840 Yeah, it's a big step here. Yeah, it is, but it's not back 633 00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:27,520 home, I think. OK, yeah, cuz I feel like yeah, 634 00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:29,960 people are like they have rules about it. 635 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:31,480 You have to wait like a certain amount of time. 636 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,960 You have to wait three months to say I love you or like 3 months 637 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,400 is you can have the conversation about dating. 638 00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:38,880 Oh, there's a top. Line. 639 00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:40,600 I don't know. These are arbitrary. 640 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,680 Yeah, that's why I got domed. No, no, I'm kidding. 641 00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:47,600 No, but I no, people put these arbitrary timelines on things, 642 00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:48,640 and I don't agree with that either. 643 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,040 I think it's like when you know, you know, another cliche. 644 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:54,120 This episode's all about cliches, but they're true. 645 00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:59,360 Yes, yeah, they're true. But I'm like, you can say 646 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,000 whenever I know people are like, oh, when do you have the talk 647 00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,640 about like, what are we? Yeah, yeah. 648 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:06,680 Is that like a month in or is that three months in? 649 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:11,640 And then when is I love you, I love you is like I'm like you 650 00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,160 should say it when you feel it, right? 651 00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,760 So I never want to be the first I. 652 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:20,080 Feel like I never got that feeling when I was like, back 653 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:21,120 home. Yeah, yeah. 654 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:23,280 You just say it whenever you feel like it, yeah. 655 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,520 Or nobody's like weird about it. Like like whoever said it first. 656 00:32:26,600 --> 00:32:28,480 Like doesn't care who said it first. 657 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:30,840 Wait, this is fascinating. Really. 658 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:32,640 Yes, but. I mean, I guess. 659 00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:37,520 I love learning about like what dating or like relationship 660 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,160 stigmas exist in other countries. 661 00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,080 Like I think it's it's or other cultures. 662 00:32:42,080 --> 00:32:45,240 Like it's so fascinating. But I feel like, OK, my college 663 00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:48,880 roommate was Italian, OK, And she was like, I don't know. 664 00:32:48,880 --> 00:32:53,160 I feel like she like it's even more like words of affection. 665 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,600 Oh yeah. Like she was, she was calling. 666 00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:59,480 I'm on it. And yeah, no, I saw you're like 667 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:00,920 Italian. Yeah, I know. 668 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,640 I'm, I'm crazy. Italian brings me back. 669 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:06,440 To like college days. Yeah. 670 00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,800 Talking to my roommate. So she wasn't just like Italian 671 00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,360 American, she was like. Italian. 672 00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,520 Yeah, Italian like. OK, from Rome. 673 00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:13,920 From Rome. Yeah. 674 00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:18,920 So that's the thing in America. Like I learned this cuz I was in 675 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,280 like the UK over the summer and they're like, yeah, you guys 676 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:24,960 will say like you're Italian, but you're not like from Italy. 677 00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,680 And I'm like, I know, but because I'm like Italian 678 00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,160 American. So I wasn't born there or 679 00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:31,760 anything. Like I have no, you know, it was 680 00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:33,880 my grandparents that were born there. 681 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:39,720 But yes, Italians I think in general with like our family and 682 00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:44,400 our loved ones are very overly words, words about probation, 683 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:49,360 like affection. I was scrunched a lot as a kid. 684 00:33:49,400 --> 00:33:53,680 Like, you know, it's very, very affectionate households for 685 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:55,800 sure. But I feel like but the society 686 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:59,560 is not as affectionate like. I can't speak on like actual 687 00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:03,560 Italy, like what goes on there because like, yeah, but but I 688 00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:06,800 will say I think that yeah, I don't know. 689 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:08,320 I don't. Know, I feel like I kind of 690 00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:12,719 like, I don't know, I kind of like how people are putting like 691 00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:16,159 weight to I love you because then they served like a hallmark 692 00:34:16,199 --> 00:34:20,840 like yeah, you know, like a you when you've reached this, that 693 00:34:20,960 --> 00:34:25,400 it means that it's it's like explicitly means that it's 694 00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,040 something serious. It's a big step, yes. 695 00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:31,400 Yeah, it's like this is. But this is huge. 696 00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:35,000 You like, if I'm saying it all the time to everybody, then I 697 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:38,120 don't know who like I'm being serious with, I guess. 698 00:34:38,199 --> 00:34:39,840 Yeah. Or like it's not verbal. 699 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:44,199 And I'm a big like outside of my relationships because I did, you 700 00:34:44,199 --> 00:34:45,400 know, I was like scared to say it first. 701 00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,960 And thankfully my partner said it first and so I didn't have to 702 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,639 worry. I think it was like, I don't 703 00:34:50,639 --> 00:34:52,560 know if it was two or three months in or something like 704 00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:58,920 that. But with my friends, I am overly 705 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:00,920 effusive about love. OK. 706 00:35:01,280 --> 00:35:05,560 I love that like I'm, I'm, I don't know, I'll meet someone 707 00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:08,400 and we've we're newer friends or something and I'm like, love you 708 00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:12,080 like I love, I love saying that. No, I, I feel that. 709 00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:14,520 I love that. I love it when people say to me. 710 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:16,160 Yeah, I love making people feel loved. 711 00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:16,680 I love you. Oh. 712 00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,320 Yeah, I love you. Oh, this is the sole reason why 713 00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,760 I'm having you on the podcast. It's because I need to hear I 714 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:25,640 love you from another human being. 715 00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:27,160 It's. Nice, we need to hear it. 716 00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:28,160 Wait, so what's going on with you? 717 00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:29,960 What is your love life? Current status. 718 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,720 It's it's wait, I can tell you. You can't. 719 00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:35,000 I'll tell you off the. Pod. 720 00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,480 Oh, OK, OK, OK, OK after the pod yeah, yeah, yeah. 721 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:38,760 You don't get to know. No, you don't get. 722 00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:42,680 To know, but I can tell you about my past relationships. 723 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:43,800 Yes, OK. Tell me. 724 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:48,120 Wait, what do you want to? Know what is the worst? 725 00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:52,360 Because I think that my marriage that ended in a divorce was 726 00:35:52,720 --> 00:35:55,240 arguably my worst relationship. So what is the worst 727 00:35:55,240 --> 00:35:57,240 relationship? You've ever had worst 728 00:35:57,240 --> 00:36:00,560 relationship? Oh my God, can I even call them? 729 00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:02,360 Relationships. I feel like situationships, 730 00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:08,000 whatever. This is so I've never actually 731 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:10,480 publicly talked. About this but this is the time 732 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:14,840 girl. Yeah, I was dating someone who 733 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:19,800 had a girlfriend back home. Like he's American and he had a 734 00:36:20,120 --> 00:36:22,840 girlfriend in America and he was in China. 735 00:36:23,240 --> 00:36:26,760 Oh my God, yeah. Well, I wasn't dating. 736 00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:28,520 I was seeing him. I mean, we're not, but. 737 00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:30,600 Still. I know. 738 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:32,120 What apos? Yeah. 739 00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:38,240 I know and then like he broke up with his whole like girlfriend 740 00:36:38,240 --> 00:36:41,200 back home. Yeah and COVID happened so I 741 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:45,160 never got to see him or like be boyfriend and girlfriend with 742 00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:46,640 him. Oh my God, yeah. 743 00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,400 It's so sad. Did how did you find out that he 744 00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,880 had a girlfriend? It's very obvious. 745 00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,000 It's kind of my fault. No, it's it's not. 746 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:58,120 Hey, we never, we never blame ourselves or the other woman. 747 00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,120 If it's a man's fault, it is. A man's fault, Yeah, He wasn't. 748 00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,480 He was making it look like they're going to break up or 749 00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:06,160 they're not in a good relationship, that he or he 750 00:37:06,240 --> 00:37:09,680 shouldn't be seeing me again but kept seeing me so. 751 00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,600 That's on him. He wasn't being truthful. 752 00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:14,400 He was omitting stuff. Yeah. 753 00:37:14,960 --> 00:37:16,440 I mean, we've seen this a million times. 754 00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:19,000 A guy will be like, or. I mean, it happens both ways, I 755 00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:20,840 know. But statistically, men cheat 756 00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:21,880 more. I'm just going to say it. 757 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,600 Facts or facts. But, you know, someone will be 758 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,520 like, oh, yeah, like I'm married, but like, I'm we're 759 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:29,640 getting a divorce or something. But they're not actually. 760 00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:30,480 Oh my God. Yeah. 761 00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,000 And they, like, lead you on. Yeah. 762 00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:33,680 Yeah, wait, I think I've just talked. 763 00:37:33,720 --> 00:37:35,840 I was just talking about this with my other friend. 764 00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:40,400 She was like, oh, maybe like maybe he will divorce a wife, 765 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,240 but but then you wouldn't want to be the person that's like the 766 00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,120 second choice. Like you wouldn't want to be 767 00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,520 like. It's hard unless like, they're 768 00:37:49,520 --> 00:37:54,800 truly it's mutual and getting divorced and it's happening and 769 00:37:54,800 --> 00:37:59,120 then, you know, he dates you or they date you right after it. 770 00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:03,200 Like, whatever. I mean, that is my current 771 00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,200 partner's situation technically, but there was no overlap. 772 00:38:06,240 --> 00:38:06,800 OK. OK. 773 00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:10,280 It was, you know, many months afterwards. 774 00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:14,240 Yeah. But yeah, like, you don't always 775 00:38:14,240 --> 00:38:17,320 have to feel like second fiddle, especially if that is really 776 00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:20,480 what's going on. But if they're lying, yeah. 777 00:38:20,720 --> 00:38:23,040 Thank you for saying that, it's very appealing to me. 778 00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:26,240 Wow. It's not your fault and like we 779 00:38:26,240 --> 00:38:28,760 can only believe what people tell us. 780 00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:32,080 I take a lot of people at face value and that's why I've gotten 781 00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:36,520 hurt a lot. And it's very hard to not 782 00:38:36,640 --> 00:38:38,720 believe people right what they say. 783 00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:42,480 Yeah, it's the default. Like believing was the default 784 00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:46,120 and we're being punished for people being like normal. 785 00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:49,520 Yeah, you're like this guy is in China, He's not in America. 786 00:38:49,520 --> 00:38:51,080 He's saying that they're breaking up. 787 00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:53,240 I mean, you're not whatever. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 788 00:38:53,360 --> 00:38:54,760 It's, yeah. It's fine. 789 00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:56,200 It's over. And I feel like I've learned the 790 00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:57,640 lesson. I feel like that, definitely. 791 00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,960 Teach me a lesson. Now when I yeah, definitely, I 792 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:05,040 wouldn't fall for that again. It's hard though, and it's hard 793 00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,600 when you're really attracted to someone and you're really 794 00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:12,120 excited about something and you know you want to, you want to 795 00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:16,240 believe it's OK. Yeah, well, let's, well, I, I 796 00:39:16,240 --> 00:39:17,760 feel like we have like 5 minutes left. 797 00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:21,560 OK, let's end on a happy note. Oh, yes, I'm sorry. 798 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,160 I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. Is that too serious? 799 00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:25,160 No, I love it. OK, I love it. 800 00:39:25,720 --> 00:39:29,760 Yeah, it's, it's sometimes this podcast gets very serious. 801 00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,840 Well, I mean, yeah, it's about like relationships and love and 802 00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:35,920 hooking up and. It's it's complicated. 803 00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:37,400 Yeah. Humans are messy. 804 00:39:37,720 --> 00:39:41,360 Very. Yeah, I'm trying to think of a 805 00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:45,600 happy note. Let's What's your most recent? 806 00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,760 What's something that made you? Laugh last time. 807 00:39:49,720 --> 00:39:51,920 Oh my gosh. Well, I was just in an open mic 808 00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:58,760 and a comedian made me laugh. But I I'm like, that's the most 809 00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:01,040 like recent recent that I can think of. 810 00:40:02,040 --> 00:40:04,080 Something that makes you smile, I guess, Not laugh. 811 00:40:04,080 --> 00:40:10,640 Smile, I think that my I love and cherish my girlfriend so 812 00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:14,600 much and they always make me smile and laugh. 813 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:19,120 And we have a really fun love language where we say kind of 814 00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,680 mean things to each other because we know we don't mean 815 00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:22,480 it. OK. 816 00:40:22,720 --> 00:40:26,440 And so like, you know, one of them will be like you ugly 817 00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,720 bitch. I know sometimes. 818 00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:31,360 I need that, yes. Sometimes I need to have to 819 00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:33,640 brown myself. Yeah, or they'll be like, you're 820 00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:37,200 so dumb and I'm like, I know, but they really mean the 821 00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:37,880 opposite. They. 822 00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,720 They will be the one that's calling you out when you're 823 00:40:40,720 --> 00:40:44,240 dating a dumb guy. Yes, that's the other thing. 824 00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:47,840 I mean, it's not on, it's not on the friends, right, because they 825 00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:49,480 can't make a decision for you, right. 826 00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:56,360 But you know, I do you think that I now I'm really surrounded 827 00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:01,880 by a lot of people who I trust that would Get Me Out of a bad 828 00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:03,960 situation. Yeah, I think the support system 829 00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:05,880 is good. Like, yeah, like when I'm 830 00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:09,440 complaining to my friends about my situation, ship and stuff. 831 00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:14,680 Yeah, I will tell them that. Well, if this ends badly, I know 832 00:41:14,720 --> 00:41:17,120 you're gonna be there. I'm gonna cry, but I will be 833 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:18,240 okay because you're gonna be there. 834 00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:21,280 It's so true. They're the ones that will be 835 00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:24,080 taking care of us. I really hope that one day we 836 00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,240 all get a house and we all live together with like 1,000,000 837 00:41:27,240 --> 00:41:28,960 cats. Like that's why, yeah, that's 838 00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:29,960 what. That's my dream. 839 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,240 Yeah, yeah. Me and my girlfriends, like when 840 00:41:32,240 --> 00:41:33,800 no one else got me, they've got me. 841 00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:37,600 Yeah, I was just reading. I was just looking at Sex and 842 00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:38,520 the City clip. Yeah. 843 00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:42,280 And Charlotte was like, well, maybe we could be to the girls, 844 00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,920 maybe we could be soul mates. We don't need men to be our soul 845 00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:46,160 mates. We can be soul mates. 846 00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,360 We can take care of each other and men are just something to 847 00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:53,800 have fun with. Yes, I kind of really believe 848 00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:55,720 that. I mean, listen, I'm in such a 849 00:41:55,720 --> 00:41:58,800 healthy like wonderful relationship, but God forbid 850 00:41:59,000 --> 00:42:02,760 anything happened. Like yes my girls are my soul 851 00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:07,160 mates for for real. That's why the podcast for like 852 00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:10,720 girls, I feel like guys, no straight guys will be on my bed. 853 00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:14,120 It's for the girls and the gays and that's it. 854 00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:20,480 Wait, OK, I have a fun ending. I think you should teach me how 855 00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:23,000 to say I love you in Mandarin. OK, it's. 856 00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,720 Actually very simple. I think it's simple. 857 00:42:24,720 --> 00:42:26,840 Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's what I need. 858 00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:29,960 What I need Yes. Oh, is it good? 859 00:42:30,480 --> 00:42:33,280 OK Wow. Well, I mean, because we talked 860 00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:34,760 about saying I love you and. How? 861 00:42:35,240 --> 00:42:37,880 Fun and nice it is, yeah. Or if you want to say it like 862 00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:39,520 you, you don't have to say what it's like. 863 00:42:39,720 --> 00:42:41,280 If you want to say love you, it's I mean. 864 00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:46,120 I mean, oh, I mean that's. So fun you how do you do you say 865 00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,600 other languages? I speak a little bit of Italian. 866 00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,080 How do you say Italian? I love you. 867 00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:53,240 It's diamo. Diamo. 868 00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:58,680 Yeah, it's easy. Do you say Italian to your? 869 00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:00,280 Do you speak Italian to your family? 870 00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:05,960 So yes, I have some family that is still in Italy and I have 871 00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,440 this one cousin who will come here and she's around my age and 872 00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,880 I love her so much and she speaks like she speaks way 873 00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:15,040 better English. OK, then I speak Italian, but 874 00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:17,840 we'll speak like broken Italian English to each other. 875 00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,120 Oh, OK. And it's really fun, but it's 876 00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:23,000 like it's so true if you use it. If you don't use it, you lose 877 00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:24,600 it. And I took it for like 7 years 878 00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:28,400 in school and then I was not practicing and so I lost it. 879 00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:30,880 Oh no, I know it's so sad, but I can still say some things. 880 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:33,800 OK, let me like I love you. I love you too. 881 00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:35,880 T MO Yeah. MO why me? 882 00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:39,440 Why me? But OK, I have one last question 883 00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:42,040 before. Yes, it's very unrelated, but I 884 00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:45,120 want to ask you, can you like answer this on behalf of the 885 00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:48,000 Italians? Maybe not, but I'm going to just 886 00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,840 ask you because I saw House of Gucci. 887 00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:55,960 Yes. Why is everyone speaking English 888 00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:59,040 with an Italian accent instead of speaking Italian? 889 00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:02,720 Now, I don't know what those people, the producers and 890 00:44:02,720 --> 00:44:06,040 everything of House of Gucci were thinking, but I think that 891 00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,000 maybe it was because they're making an American film. 892 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:10,120 And so they're like, I guess we have to make them speak 893 00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:12,160 American. But Italian is such a beautiful 894 00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:14,520 language and it should have been spoken in Italian. 895 00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:19,200 Yeah, but no, me this Piache. I'm sorry. 896 00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,640 It's. OK, how do you say it's OK in 897 00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:25,240 Italian? Honestly, it's, it's really 898 00:44:25,240 --> 00:44:28,760 funny, OK, but like you didn't know no, a lot, a lot of the 899 00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:32,080 things like I, there's an amazing comedian, Mateo Lane, 900 00:44:32,080 --> 00:44:35,400 who has a joke about this. But when you say like gay and 901 00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:37,960 Italian, it's just gay. Like it's just in it. 902 00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:44,080 And so they, they will say like it's OK, like it's OK, you know, 903 00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:50,440 or, or it's good, like it's OK but but you know, they still 904 00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:54,240 they will say like OK. So wait, so gay and Italian 905 00:44:54,240 --> 00:44:57,080 it's. Just gay, gay with Italian he 906 00:44:57,200 --> 00:44:58,280 please. It is not my joke. 907 00:44:58,280 --> 00:45:01,480 It is Mateo Lane's and he is so, so funny and it is such a good 908 00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:04,240 joke. But yeah, he's like gay and 909 00:45:04,240 --> 00:45:08,760 Italian is just gay. Just like with like in an 910 00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:12,480 Italian voice, basically. I guess. 911 00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:14,920 Go look for the joke. It's so funny. 912 00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:17,720 Yeah, I'm trying. To think maybe, yeah, I don't. 913 00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:20,800 There's no no, no such thing for that in Chinese. 914 00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:23,720 Really, they they don't have a word for gay. 915 00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:26,400 Well, yes, no, they well, they do. 916 00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:29,000 But people say gay, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. 917 00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:30,880 But they just say gay. That's. 918 00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:32,680 Like in English. That's wild. 919 00:45:32,680 --> 00:45:35,760 So in all these other languages, they're like, we're not coming 920 00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,280 up with a word for that. It's just gay. 921 00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:41,480 Yeah, we're united. Yeah, we're united in that it's 922 00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:46,120 gay no matter what. That's so that's the essence of 923 00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:48,560 the Super Bowl halftime show. It's gay no matter what. 924 00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:50,960 Yeah. Well, thank you SO. 925 00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:52,800 Much Thank you for having me. So fun. 926 00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:54,240 Fun, yeah.