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Welcome back to another episode of the package, you know,
podcast today I have with me a guest named Brandon Miller fun
fact Brandon is actually one of the first seven.
Certified Gallup Clifton strengths finder coach in the
world. This is probably one of those
people who you would see pretty rare because strengths finder
has been around for quite some time and he is like the first
seven certified strengthsfinder coaches in the world.
He is now the CEO of the default, strong a coaching and
consulting firm, dedicated to improving Employee Engagement
based on. Strengthsfinder.
Yes, lots of experience, providing specialized leadership
training, coaching advising and facilitating.
So today I'm really happy to talk to you.
Brendan to discuss about strengths finder.
How is it relevant for leadership and how we can grow
from knowing about strengths finder?
So welcome to the show. Thank you, Henry.
It's great to be here today. So Brendan I'd like to always
start with my guests to invite them, to share their Journey.
They are career highlights, or any turning points, anything.
That you think would be interesting for listeners to
learn from you sure, some of your listeners, might be
interested to know that entrepreneurs.
So those of us who enjoy the challenge of starting, something
from the beginning often, first begin, our careers working for
others, inside of us. Lives a dream or a passion to
have the independence, have the opportunity to build our own
brand or own company and some of us to venture out and may not
have the best success that was Me multiple times and then what
I found in my career Henry is I just stayed with it.
I just stay with it. Even when Aventure didn't go the
way I had hoped. I could see out there and
opportunity and decided to continue to work there.
So I have been a part of investing companies.
I've been a part of a business that we manufactured what we
call hidden doors. So these were bookshelves that
were made to look like a normal book shelf but they open like a
secret passage like what you'd see in the movies so we made
those, I Then also was a part of an art gallery and had a chance
to launch that a carpet cleaning company and a chiropractic.
So I've done many different Investments and opportunities my
longest stage of career. I spent 10 years in full-time to
part-time Ministry capacity. So I served as a pastor, many
people who go into that sort of work, don't do that.
To make a lot of money and so as we get into my family later, I
have a large family. So I always had second jobs For
my business startups that I did, thankfully, I eventually made it
to the place where I had one business focus, and that's where
strengths finder and Drew the picture.
Wow, thanks for sharing the story.
So if I can just ask for the right.
So you have been in so many different jobs.
So many different Industries, so many different skill set.
What actually brought you to strengths finder?
What are the things that? Probably peaked your interest at
that time? Sure.
My number one strength. According the strengthsfinder is
maximizer and maximizers. Enjoy taking things that are
strong and then building them to be even stronger.
So you could say that the idea focusing on people's strengths
more than their weaknesses came very natural to me who's very
easy to understand easy to embrace as a leader at the time
in our church, we had a large staff for church about 30 liters
that run staff. And then we had hundreds of
volunteers, So, I was introduced to this at the church, one of
the members of our congregation had done a training through the
Gallup organization, they are the company that owns the
intellectual property. And so we were invited to take a
course as just part of our service.
I was tasked with being the person to lead the effort.
So being a maximizer, it resonated well by began to
engage with the team and figure out what different people did.
Best learned to not ignore their areas of it's or weakness, but
to learn just to manage it. Instead of trying to change
them. I was a big turning point for
me, instead of trying to make you better at something.
You weren't naturally good at. Could we managed it?
So, it was adequate. It didn't get in the way, but
put more effort, into building, on the things that you really
excelled at, that's where my journey began and took root for
strengths finder. So, this is one of the concepts
when I read strengths finder, many years ago.
I don't remember when exactly, but it's one of the concept that
I Really interesting because the book actually said you have both
the strengths and weaknesses many people.
Since we are children, we are being taught that we should also
focus a lot on improving our weaknesses.
But the book actually said that instead of doing that actually,
you should put more focus on your strengths and try to manage
your weaknesses so that they don't get in the way like what
you said. So tell us more about this
concept of strengths finder so for people who haven't heard
about it, right? Why is it so important to focus
a lot more on your strengths Quest?
Has your weaknesses. I'm going to take us through dr.
Donald Clifton, the founder of strengths finder.
They had many partners around the world.
Dr. Donald Clifton over the course of a few decade 30 years.
He was drawn to study Human Excellence, he wanted to
understand what was it about really successful people.
And he picked many different walks of life, many different
careers and he wanted to know why is it that some people could
really Excel and not just Excel once or Expect sustained
excellence and why many more people seem to just live in
mediocrity in that space through his journey.
What he discovered is that the people who really were in touch,
they have high self awareness, they knew who they were and they
knew who they were not, meaning they knew their strengths and
they knew their non strengths and they were comfortable with
both without judgment, but they put more effort into being the
best that they could according to their strengths.
So what he called this was the strengths-based approach.
Approach to development simply a shift in time, most of us who
were taught the conventional approach to human development,
were taught to put more time into our areas of weakness or
inadequacy. His question was, well what if
we just flipped it would if we put more time into our strengths
and the two places Henry were, he saw this very natural again
and again practiced were Athletics and in Performing
Arts. So when a player would come, To
either of those scenes, the instructor, or coach would
determine their skill set, and almost without a doubt, without
fail position them to do, what they do best.
So as he observed, this is question became an all.
Tell you one of his famous interview set occurred, it was
in 1984 and it was the table. Tennis team picked to win the
gold medal in the Olympics in Los Angeles.
The team from China had an athlete.
That was renowned an amazing athlete.
But he was renowned for not having a good backhand, he could
not had a good back. And so any of us who play table,
tennis, or tennis know, without a backhand, you have a serious
deficiency, very likely you won't be successful.
So an interview was conducted that dr.
Clifton was a part of where they asked the coach, so what is it
that you do with your very best player who doesn't play?
Well from his backhand? He said that's easy.
We spend eight hours a day, focusing on his forehand to make
it the most lethal very best in the world.
Old, and we ignore the back end all together and with dr.
Clifton surmise from. This was, we can become so far
advanced in our strengths that they can essentially Eclipse
theories of weakness. Conversely.
And this is an interesting statistic based on his research
and I don't know that this is one of his more cemented facts.
This is one, I think that was more anecdotal.
But I think you'll understand the point.
He said that for every one strength, a person has they have
one Thousand weaknesses. So one strength over 1,000
weaknesses. And so his comment was the most
responsible thing. I human can do either personally
for their own development or development of others is played
to a person's strengths in their entire lifetime they could never
solve their weaknesses. This is where we begin the
journey with an organization or with a family, or with an
agency. A non-profit to say, you only
have so much time to develop people.
That's the great equalizer. You only have so much time.
You may find that you will not only get better results focusing
on their strengths, but then you'll have qualitative benefits
happier people. People that want to be better,
team members people that treat customers better.
So this is some of the beginning space of where we build on this
concept. Well, thanks for sharing this
story. I haven't heard about this China
Olympics athlete that had to train to focus more lot on his
strength, which is the forehand and can win the championship
without the back end. We just some people think how
could could that be 1984? It was 1984, the reference is a
book titled soar with your strengths so the bookstore with
your strength is where this story is immortalized.
Wow, okay. I'll make sure to put that in
the show notes, which brings me to the next discussion, right?
Because again, since we are children, we are being taught
focus a lot more to improve your weaknesses.
I mean, the idea is not so much to say that we should improve a
lot on so many different areas but is to probably make us all
rounder. Someone who can do many of the
things. This is probably the reasons why
many people if you ask. What are your strengths not?
Everyone can easily say just like you're just now, right?
I'm a maximizer, not everyone could actually easily say that,
but if you ask them what Witnesses, people can easily
throw so many things. I'm bad at this.
I'm bad at that, but to focus on the strength, maybe, some people
need to find some time to actually summarize.
Why do you think this is big problem?
What could people do to actually change that?
Well, since you brought the Family are mentioned this
children who are taught to focus more on their strengths than
other weaknesses. We've seen three major advances.
So first of all they can increase their confidence when a
child has high confidence, it permeates into their ability to
make friends their performance in their school.
Their ability to face difficulty which all of us will face some
difficulty in life. So it impacts resilience number
two, we watch children. Increase in creativity.
So their ability to approach complex problems, and see
Alternatives. Instead of closed doors.
They find open doors with that creativity, and expands
learning. So it opens up opportunity for
increased learning and increased space for them to really develop
a very full and healthy brain. Third, we see competence when we
study brain science, when we lean into what is called the old
brain, our limbic system, this is the part of our Brain that's
reactive. So it's fight flight or freeze
as compared to our new brain. The prefrontal cortex where this
is where we have wisdom and logic, and a depth of knowledge.
It's our Sage brand our deepest intelligence.
Well, it is space where child feels confident in their
creative than their competence goes up.
They can learn more. They can experience more,
they're not capped by fear. They're not capped by insecurity
and doubt dr. Clifton was very passionate Even
more so than gallops work in the business world and they do
extensive work with very large companies around the world.
He was very interested in parenting and education because
if a child at a young age, could learn to build on their
strengths. His reasoning is that person
into their career into their family into their future would
be much more successful and this is interesting much happier in
life, much more fulfilled, higher well-being, and so, I
think this is important and I'll give you two primary statistics.
When we advance the children to their careers.
Number one is this, let's say that you and I were working
together, Henry, and let's say that I was your manager.
If I spent more time talking to you about your strengths and
your weaknesses, you are six times more likely to be engaged
on your job. So this means all that would
connect to your productivity, your accuracy, your punctuality
your friendliness, with our customers, with our team
members. Times more likely.
And because you're engaged, you're three times more likely
to report having excellent quality of life.
And this is Henry outside of work.
This is your loved ones places where you volunteer and your
ability to get good rest and your health and fitness.
So, this is where we believe at 34 strong, I believe this
personally with the work we do with families, that this
approach can really not only positively affect positive
change workplaces, but they can affect positive change.
Change in a person's life. It can change their life because
of how deep it will impact their psychology.
And eventually the physiology associate, well, thanks for
sharing that just to summarize. So you mentioned, if we focus on
strength since we are young, there are three things that
probably could increase because of that.
So you have increased confidence, you have increased
creativity, and ultimately increase in confidence and those
will lead you to a happy and fulfilled life.
So I think that's probably a message for all the listeners,
right? So, if you Even known for the
longest side of your strength, try to find some of those
strengths. Maybe you can go to strengths
finder or buy the book. There's a free test that you can
go through online. You can probably start
categorizing. What are some of your strengths
and start to build from there because the impact is so
massive. And you mentioned that
statistics in the workplace, where if the management focus on
their direct reports strengths typically, they will be more
engaged in the work. Again.
I've seen this traditionally, many companies in the
performance. View.
Yes, they will talk about achievements and all that, but
they will also try to focus on people's weaknesses.
You are not good at this and try to build action items to what
those things. But, again, coming back to this
strengthsfinder concept, I think maybe that's not the right
approach. So, tell us more baby.
How can managers put more focus on the strengths so that people
are more engaged and why people are more engaged specifically if
we focus on their strings. Sure.
So I want to say this point Salient to your comment, man.
Rent or whomever it is that you call your boss, okay?
So I'll use the example of you and I get.
So let's say I was the boss and you and I will have a
professional relationship because of this, the tone of
that relationship, the posture, the effectiveness, I will set
more of that tone then you will because I'm the boss I am more
responsible for the health of the relationship than you are
because I'm usually paid more, I have increased responsibility.
And my job is to help you to perform Formed or to get you to
perform. So when a company focuses this
way on helping their managers, do this from a strengths
approach simply Henry by the fact that I'm going to talk to
you when we meet. So by percentage you're going to
hear more about what you're doing.
Well, the success you could build on the opportunity to grow
and to learn. You're going to look forward to
our talks more often than if by percentage.
It was well Henry. You The work on this and then
you need to work on that and that's almost.
Okay. But now you need to do this,
those conversations, it would be a simple as I send you an
e-mail, please go onto the platform.
We're going to have a meeting. If you look forward to that
meeting because you think this is usually a good conversation
with constructive. We're building.
You will naturally be more engaged.
If every time you see my email pop up, you go.
Oh no. What does he want?
Now, what did I do now? What did I get wrong?
You will absolutely begin to feel that will pull life from
you. So when a company wants to spend
time thinking about the strengths of its team members,
there is a necessary investment made from leaders into managers
and the investment is we're going to give you tools and
resources to know how to have these sorts of conversations.
Because most of us were not taught this as children.
We weren't taught this in University, we weren't caught
this In our jobs were learning a new approach, one that we can as
I shared, if we did participate in extracurricular activities
that had the spirit we can recall it, but we're going to
learn new Behaviors new habits. This is where Performance
Management Systems Commander Place.
The essentially we have a new system that we rank managers.
Oh yes, I want to be evaluated on your performance, Henry.
But I also want to be evaluated on a, my regularly.
You recognition meaning to you Phil, I appreciate you.
Do you feel I respect you? Do you think that I know you do?
You know that I care about you as a person?
You don't only work here, but I happen to know some things about
your life and I keep those in mind.
So, for example, today, I learned that one of my employees
was involved in a car accident. Thankfully, he and his wife were
okay, but it was enough that they had some trauma that they
needed to work through. And so we attend to that, we
want to make sure they're okay. We Make sure that they're
seeking proper medical attention and looking into how we can
support them. We would want this in this sort
of relationship, that's healthiest, drinks approached.
So, when managers are taught, we find that the more resources, we
can help them to be meaning, giving them practical tools and
practical steps so that they can learn this.
This is where we see success. This is where we see what we
call a sustainable strengths approach because now it's going
to be part of the organization's.
Its standard operating procedures.
I think, if I'm not wrong, your place that the false from the
oil company also has won numerous bestwick place a ward.
Can you share it as maybe some practical tips or practices that
you did in your company? So that people are engaged and
they do their best work. So that your company also, as a
result of that becomes most successful.
So maybe if you can share that the bit on that sure companies
that are known as best places to work often also win awards for
In, they win a rewards for growing fast.
They went awards for places that succeed in accomplishing
different contest different exploits for us as a company.
Our most prestigious award and the ones that we are the most
proud of our when were recognized nationally here in
the United States. As a great place to work to get
there though because this is what we teach to other
companies. We like to say we have to eat
our own cooking. We can't just give you our great
cooking. Do we have to eat our own
cooking? So some of the ways that we do
that, we have regular interactions with our team or
company. And in those regular
interactions, we make sure that as a company, we are very clear
on our company Mission and our company vision and our company
values. We reset these.
We tell them again. For example, if a person in our
company is unclear on where we're going, we want to make
sure they know what our mission is and what?
Our pardons that's one thing we do is connect to Mission.
Secondly, we teach coaching as a manager mindset.
So a manager when they see themselves more as the coach
than the boss, they learn that relationship by nature is
developmental in its focus. So my interest is in seeing you
grow seeing you learn and it's the difference between a growth
mindset as compared to a fixed mindset.
A growth mindset. It is, we both agree.
Our objective is to help you to be successful in a fixed
mindset. I just need you to do your job.
I don't really care how you grow.
I just need you to get it done cause me as little problem as
possible and we will call this a somewhat healthy relationship.
Well, growth mindset challenges, that it says Henry has a future,
Henry has aspirations and goals. How can I help them be
successful in this job? But also prepare him for his.
Next job is next stage and they're That is one of the most
important things we do as a company as we want to see people
through the filter of who they're becoming not just who
they are today in a strengths-based culture.
You're always looking ahead for where a person can grow and
develop and become their next best version of themselves.
Well, thanks for sharing all these practices at these really
interesting. Some of the things that I
picked, for example, you train the manages to become more, like
a coach, so it's not necessarily just the boss and get things
done. But you also invest time in
their direct reports so that That they can grow and fulfill
the aspirations that personal goals and things like that.
So I must assume that probably as part of this you would ask
people to do strengths finder test so that they can find their
Clifton strengths. For example, I have done this
test a long time back from their what's next?
Because many people might have taken this test individually not
necessary in the workplace but they just don't know where to
continue from there on. They be, we can discuss about
what should we do after we know our clips and strength.
So the The strikes assessment is something Henry that at 34
strong, we do take a little bit of a different approach than the
Gallup organization. Gallup talks about a person can
take it the first time and the first time is sufficient to know
your strengths for the rest of your life.
We actually believe that people change throughout their life.
So going online and taking the assessment is step one.
We think that the 34 test. So the tests were you get back
all 30? For strengths in order and
receive a very thorough. I mean probably the most
personalized thorough report. I think that one can invest in
on the market is a great place to start.
The assessment can be purchased from Gallup or purchased from a
reseller like 34 strong and then you go online and take it.
So that takes about 40, 45 minutes if it's been a while for
somebody, it's a good idea to do it again.
You know, two or three years because when you take the
assessment it's like taking an x-ray of your leg at that point
in time. That's what Was and so two or
three years later, it could look different.
That's some of the power of this particular assessment is, it
does grow with you? And so when a person takes it,
first things first, is every strength coach in the world.
Those this Paradigm, it's naming claiming and aiming.
So the first thing we learn to do is name our strength.
So I am a maximizer. I'm an achiever.
I'm an activator, I'm strategic. And I'm a ranger.
I can name them. I can name you my top 15 in a
row. I know exactly what Strengths
are mine because I've learned their names and number two, I've
learned to claim them as my own. So I can say, I am an activator,
which is my number three. I know that I'm an activator
because I've taken strengths finder, four times, and all four
times. Activator is one, two or three
all four times, which means to say Henry, I could not unbe an
activator. If I tried its core to my being
claiming right next to name. A big part of that is so first,
learn what the names are and become familiar.
Second, there is a report. As I said, go into this report,
have a pen or higher and read through it, and really assess.
If you can own these strengths meeting, did the assessment.
Get it right? Is this?
You are you comfortable with these results?
You know. Someone were to ask you what are
your strengths? You could say I'm a relator.
I'm high self-assurance, I'm strong in input.
Could you say that? Because that's claiming that's
own? Worship.
And with claiming we really recommend to post the strength
somewhere where you can see them.
So for a while, whether it's on the mirror in the morning where
you get ready or it's in your workspace, have them where you
can see them and be reminded of. Yeah that's me.
That's why I am. And then the third stage is to
begin thinking about how to leverage these and we call it
aiming your strings. So starting with number one as a
maximizer, what can I do to aim these strengths?
Thankfully For me, it was right away.
I got to start helping people find their strengths and I got
to learn how to see strengths and spot it and grow it.
I also learned that maximizer was going to be a part of I like
to coach Athletics, how I coach people, I have a large family, I
love to coach my kids that mindset there, re much affected,
how my maximize your would be so naming claiming and aiming your
strengths, the aiming its one at a time, just starting to see.
See and to build on your knowledge.
Wow, I like that approach name. Claim and Aim.
So first identify with yourself? What are your strengths and you
claim that you accepted? Okay?
This is who I am and then third is to build from there.
So try to aim what's next that you can leverage from your
strengths. I myself that top three of mine
are achiever learner and deliberative.
I have done this so many years ago, I guess I must have taken
another one maybe in these days, and see if they're change or
not. And I will A Henry for your
listeners per any that might be interested, they can reach out
to us. I've done this for other leaders
of podcasts that if they would like to reach out, request a
code, we could provide them with one to learn complementary as
just a part of our time. You include it.
I will mention that your first two strengths, a cheering.
Learner are the two most common strengths in the world.
So after 20 million people have completed Clifton strengths in
60 countries and in 30 languages.
Were one. And number two are a cheering
learner, which is to say that your drive, your work ethic,
your endurance, your willingness to work hard until a job is
done, which definitely is you have almost an inability to quit
it. Meaning it's almost not possible
for you to not continue, even when it's hard because you have
reserves of energy and learner allows you to be deeply,
curious, the stay in a space where I know that the more you
learn, the more there is to learn, so it keeps you in a
space of curiosity and it keeps you in a space where you stay
humble Learners are some of the best team members, some of the
most effective leaders, because they lead with questions, they
lead with a curiosity. Instead of, I need to tell, they
want to ask and understand and appreciate very respectful
strength. Now you're number three.
Deliberative. This is a Fascinating strength.
So it is actually one of the most rare strengths in the
world. So this is a strength that very
few people share in their top five deliberative what you enjoy
is the opportunity to really carefully, evaluate the
decisions you make. So, as a result, the Liberties
are often very well trusted. There's an adage here in the
United States. Maybe you've heard this measure
twice cut once. So before you act, make sure
you've thought through all the ramifications you've carefully
considered the options and then what you've established that,
this is the right course. Now we move forward, funny
thing. My number three activator, and
your number three deliberative are opposite strengths their
opposite. So we would be good partners.
You would be the voice of caution and reason and pause and
let's think and process. I have a bit more of the, I'll
just take the risk. So my wrist threshold might be
higher times where you might pause.
One second too long. I might have already been going
or times where I need to stop and listen to you.
So they're very good, call them complementary partners because
those strengths can really work off of each other very well.
So, when you find these would be interesting for you to know, and
this is a little bit Advanced for your listeners of those
three. When you think back about your
life, could you see a tail? You were that person as far back
as you can remember. So can you remember being that
person who would strive to do really well?
Well, as your cheever, the person who's very curious us, a
lot of questions, sometimes so many questions that people were
like Henry and up too many questions.
That would be your learner because you're curious you
wanted to know were you at times maybe a shy person.
Deliberative sometimes can be a little more introverted, but
careful you thought through it. You can see those back into your
early childhood Good. Those are what we would call
your or strengths core means they are genetically coded,
they're a very deep part of you. And so, when you would retake an
assessment like lifting strength, it's very unlikely,
they'll stay not assume top five this in the top 10 and they will
group there. And so you would see them recur
because you could identify them at that very strong level.
Thank you for your assessment, a brief assessment but really
insightful and Powerful to me. Thank you for noticing some of
my strengths and how some of the things that I myself thinking
back. I think yes I kind of like
growing all this strength from my journey from my childhood as
well. And I think you mentioned, one
of the things that is interesting that we should
discuss next. So this is like how you can use
it in your workplace as well. So knowing people's strengths
and actually try to see where you can see energized, right?
The moment when you and we could be good partners.
So this is where you use the strengths-based approach to
actually form a team or make your team as best as they can
perform. I read in another book of
Clifton strengths based leadership that effective
leaders, not just focus on people's strengths, but they
also surround themselves with the right people and maximize
their team based on the strength, tell us more about
this approach because I don't think many managers put a lot of
effort in building a formation. That can complement the banks
worldwide. There is a conversation around.
Inclusive leadership being Equity, minded, making sure that
people are feeling heard and appreciate it.
All kinds of ways that we can accomplish this, the most
effective leaders do surround themselves with a team that is
diverse. And one of the places where you
can find the deepest roots and tubers city is in our strengths,
when you took Clifton strengths, the odds of someone having the
same five in the same order, so you gave me your three but we
went to number five, the The odds of someone and having those
same five and that same order as one in 33 million.
So very unique, that's like your fingerprint compared to my
fingerprint, very unique to each one of us.
And so as a leader it's serves a team.
Well, to have representation in as many strengths as you can
bring, because you get a richness of perspective, a
difference in approach, we talked about people learning
their 34 strengths. And when one does that, they're
going to acknowledge. When I shared earlier about core
strength, They're also going to find what we call less certain
strengths. This would be number 34, number
33, and number 32. And so the reason I mentioned my
activator your deliberative would be good.
Partners is deliberative is one of my strengths I think it's
number 29 out of 30 for so it's a lesser strength.
So even if I tried to be strong at deliberative the same way you
are, I would never measure up. I could maybe do half of your
Effectiveness because I honestly wouldn't want to be as soon as I
got going, I would find it just deflated my energy.
I couldn't be successful. So this is where it serves the
team well to represent themselves.
I actually had a team hired me recently to say, we just want to
make sure that we didn't just hire a bunch of the same people
because we don't want to just make decisions in an echo
chamber. We need to diversity of thought.
We want different perspectives, different opinions.
I said, I can't agree more. That's a very good way to
approach leadership. Yeah, the topic of equity,
diversity, inclusivity and all this, I think it's pretty quite
growing. These days as you mentioned, we
don't want to hire the same kind of people because at the end of
the day, you have maybe one single-minded approach to solve
problems where with more inclusive D.
I think it has been proven by research that you will have a
more diverse thoughts and hence, probably, you will make a better
decisions out of it having known people strengthen your team.
I think it's one way to go towards that route where you can
actually say, okay, if I'm weak at this point, maybe you
leverage on someone else who can do much better for certain kind
of problems. So, really appreciate that
approach. You mentioned about the core
strength. This is something that is also
kind of like unique, put individuals, and maybe it is
like a talent you born with it, which brings us to probably the
next topic because you are also passionate into parenting,
right? How to grow children, maybe it
in the first place. How do you identify children's
core strength? Do they need to go through
Clifton strengths finder test as well?
How do you actually nurture children?
They Identify coasters and build from there.
Yeah, so the first step with young children is what we call
strength spotting, it's just learning to see them.
Through the perspective, that your children have emerging
beautiful core strengths that are part of the transference of
DNA, right? It's just part of who they're
going to be as parents. We really encourage an open
heart and mind that they might be different than yours and
that's okay. They're entitled to be
different. They don't have to be the same.
Nor would it. Be even best case scenario for
them to be a carbon copy. So strength spotting is learning
to see strengths and there's a couple clues to first.
It's we call it the enthusiasm clue, what activities are
children drawn to, what seems to pique their interest, where do
they make time? And then second of those
activities which ones just come really natural to them.
So they just seem to really enjoy the process.
They seem to just pick up the steps fast.
They seem to just really resonate with it and then Third,
where do they seemed to derive energy and this is going to come
in the form of their ability to keep going.
So even when the puzzle gets hard or the game is boring,
they'll finish it because it derives some level of energy to
them. So those are three of the clues
that appear can use to start to see some of the core strengths
from there. What Gallup has done.
It's very nice is, what's a child crosses into early
childhood education? But attend the reach about force
or fifth grade there is AIDS and assessment for kids.
This is where it's called the strength Explorer.
They can actually take an assessment and learn their core
strengths. Yes, I think now that you say
it, we should identify kids enthusiasm than natural ability
and where they derive the energy from.
This is also very interesting because we can see kids with
plenty of energy, but we can actually also tell that some
activities that they will not, but dissipate they'll be cranky
and things like that. So I think these are definitely
agree. Clues for me.
I'm a parent myself of three kids.
It's really hot to actually spot this naturally as parents.
Unfortunately, I have to say that we all tend to one our kids
to behave or maybe to beep. A person where we think is best
as parents. We think they should be a doctor
whatever. I think, again, coming back to
the strengths-based approach, I think this is not effective,
even though the kids are all different.
We should try to customize nurturing them differently.
So any tips around that because obviously Dealing with so many
different styles of kids. May not be handy.
Maybe any parenting tips here that you can share?
Yeah, the comment you just made. I think is the most important
Henry is your children if you have more than one as you do.
Are each very unique if we can customize our parenting approach
to recognize that there are certain things that would be the
same. Let's make sure they have the
same nutrition and make sure they get rest and make sure they
have opportunities. But when it comes to Flipping
them as a person and their strengths, and their personality
and their interest allow for diversity, allow for
differences. Let them have room to explore.
We have children who enjoyed very different curricular
activities, two of them were very into music.
I have two of them very much into American football one.
That was very into football Global football soccer, as we
call it here another that was into Horticulture, she loves
plants and It was her passion and so supporting them in areas
of interest in areas of study and areas of growth and allowing
for as they age. Some autonomy to make some
decisions and to get some things wrong and get some things right?
And be there to support. Because what we have found is
where we apply influence to our children.
Is when we know that they are in an area of strength, we know
that it's an opportunity for growth, this is where we put our
strongest encouragement, but we have sought to Avoid is to put
the same encouragement or influence in an area of none
strength. Meaning of we see one of our
kids really struggling, we may ask is this something that
you're really fighting easy to, really see this.
And if they come back with, maybe you're right.
Maybe this isn't for me, and letting that be, okay.
I think it'd be okay, that some things aren't for them.
That's one of the gifts. I think children need from us as
parents is to help them realize, they don't have to compare to
others to be successful themselves.
They can learn to be as they were Made and be the best
version of that. And that's good enough.
Well really beautiful. Thanks for this parenting tips.
I think we must put some of the show notes for your other
parenting work, because the importance of building strengths
Focus approach since children is really powerful.
Because as you have said before, increase in creativity, increase
in competencies and increasing. I think I forget anyone.
But yeah, all these basically lead you towards a better
fulfilled life, right? So people will get happier if
they Had nurtured right at the beginning when they are
children. Because if you do it later, then
it might be even more difficult because you need to undo some of
the mindset that you rule into and your kids.
So, thanks for sharing all these beautiful tips.
I think for parents listeners out there, do check your
children strength, try to strength spot them.
As Brandon mentioned, probably try to do, maybe customize your
parenting approach from there. Don't just do helicopter
parenting where you dry for? You want to your children.
I think that's basically an anti-pattern.
So Brandon has As we move towards the end of our
conversation, I really enjoyed our conversation so much.
I have one last question that I normally ask all my guests which
is about sharing your version of three technical leadership
wisdom. It doesn't have to be intact but
maybe any kind of leadership wisdom that you think will be
good to share with the listeners here so that they can grow and
learn from you. I have a word that I have made a
life word against the word, magnanimous, or to practice
magnanimity. The definition is to be
high-minded. To be free of petty,
vindictiveness to be gracious. Noble forgiving, I was drawn to
this word at a young age and my 20s.
When I first learned it as the style of leadership, I want to
embrace As Leaders. It can be such a lure to go down
the path and vindictiveness, or to feel offended, or to allow
rivalry to exist or to carry a grudge.
But I have found in many others would agree that magnanimity
allows you to To maintain objectivity.
Stay objective to look past a situation to think with your
most effective parts of your brain that give you the best
opportunity to not carry forward in life.
Those things that can weigh you down, literally weigh you down,
and your health, and Your vitality and your relationships.
And it has served me. Well and I have to work at it to
keep magnanimity in front of my eyes as the focal point of my
growth and development as a later.
And I encourage others to Consider some clear philosophy
cleared Schreiber, what it is that they will subscribe to to
be effective as a leader. Thank you so much for sharing
your meghna. I can't even pronounce it.
Now make them retreat, but I guess it's a really beautiful.
So people should find their own clear philosophy as well that
they subscribe to try to identify that as the value.
So brand has been a great conversation.
If they are people who want to reach out to you again, maybe
also following up on the code that You will share with all the
listeners here. Is there a place where they can
find you online? Yes, first place is email.
Brandon be our A and D 0 n at 34 strong.com.
The number 3, the number for the word, strong.com is a great
place and then on LinkedIn. Brandon Miller. 34 strong is a
place where we can connect and learn more about each other and
what work we're doing and perhaps to share a strengths
code. For those that might be
interested. Thank you.
I'll make sure to probably reach To you closer to the release and
put it in the show notes so that people can participate and know
their strengths because this is very important.
So, thanks again for your time. Brandon, I really appreciate
your sharing today, and I learned a lot.
So thank you again for that. Thank you, Henry.
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