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Hey my loves, welcome back to 
the No Judgment Zone with your 

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favorite sensual nurse. 
Today we're going to be talking 

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about being your full self. 
If you are following me on 

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Instagram, you saw in the 
stories where it's OK to be both

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sensual and spiritual. 
It's 2025. 

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We're not living in boxes 
anymore and we're not letting 

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society tell us we can't be 
multiple things at once. 

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Just because you're a mom 
doesn't mean you can't be a 

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freak. 
Just because you're a 

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professional doesn't mean you 
can't have tattoos. 

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You can be all things all at the
same time. 

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Also this week I've been at the 
Podcast Summit with David Shans 

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here in Atlanta. 
And after only one day who the 

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gyms I have taken away, I'm 
going to save those for last. 

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So you got to stick around to 
hear what I have picked up in 

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some of the people who were in 
the building. 

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But let's go ahead and get into 
it. 

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So the main point for this week?
Breaking out-of-the-box. 

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Sometimes we feel as though we 
must choose one identity and 

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stay there. 
If we are to be a mom, we have 

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to keep the house clean, make 
breakfast, take the kids to 

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school, pack their lunches, pick
them up, take them to the after 

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school activities, help them 
with homework. 

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We have to be a certain type of 
person to fit that title. 

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Sometimes, a lot of not even 
sometimes majority of men get 

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stuck in what it means to be 
this masculine being. 

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They have to go to work, they 
have to perform, they can't 

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complain, they can't be 
emotional. 

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They have to show up and cater 
to their woman's knees. 

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They also have to be present and
their kids lives, but they got 

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to work enough to cover 
everybody's bills because 

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they're not supposed to be going
5050 and they're not supposed to

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split any bills. 
And that's a lot of pressure. 

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I was speaking to someone today 
and I told her I said 

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essentially I said now some 
things granted are just wrong. 

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Like we not going to go out and 
commit murder, OK? 

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However, a lot of the decisions 
that we make in life and the way

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that we choose to live really, 
truly, you need to get to know 

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who you are at the core. 
Figure out what your soul needs 

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to thrive. 
What can you honestly tolerate 

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and decide from there what is 
actually best for you? 

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Sticking to one identity is 
outdated and is limiting because

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it doesn't allow you the freedom
to get to know all the different

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aspects of yourself. 
A lot of times for men who may 

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be trying to portray a certain 
status model, they see their 

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wife as what is it, the Madonna 
complex. 

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They see their wife as a sweet, 
angelic creature who's a great 

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wife and a great mom, but 
they're afraid to slit her out. 

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They don't see her that way. 
They feel like that's degrading 

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her, but it doesn't stop them 
from having those desires. 

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They just go somewhere else and 
slit somebody else out. 

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Versus if you were able to 
remove that perception, imagine 

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the freedom that you can have in
your marriage with your partner 

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also. 
And I mentioned some of the 

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things earlier, motherhood and 
sensuality. 

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You know, you may feel like you 
have to be responsible and you 

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have to take care of everybody 
and you have to be in control 

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and you got to know the 
schedules and you got to make 

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sure the juice boxes are stocked
and all these things. 

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And you have to be this 
reserved, dignified person at 

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all times. 
However, my philosophy if those 

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kids ain't around, baby life is 
my playground. 

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OK, y'all only got to know 
everything I do I'm grown. 

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Y'all are kids. 
Mind your business, do what 

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you're supposed to do. 
But Mama got to have a life too,

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Jody, and that is extremely 
accurate. 

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As a woman, getting trapped in 
your title is so stifling, is so

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detrimental to the magnitude of 
the being that you are. 

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All of us, men and women, have 
the capability of being 

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absolutely whoever we want. 
We just have to choose to own 

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every side of us. 
And it can be layered, it can be

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complex. 
You can be very kind, but if 

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somebody crosses you or betrays 
you, you can turn very evil. 

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Both things are true about you 
own who you are. 

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When you own every part of who 
you are, there's nothing anybody

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could say that could really hurt
you. 

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Like you, you admit to it. 
Yes, I am this, but I am also 

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that. 
You understand what it takes to 

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bring out those different sides.
You're honest about choosing to 

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display both of those sides at 
different times. 

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That can be like, I used the 
example of kindness versus being

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evil, being honest, and choosing
when to be deceitful. 

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And not all deceit is bad. 
If you're hiding a surprise, you

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have to lie, right? 
Or sometimes there are 

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situations where you decide to 
omit the truth, but be honest 

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with yourself about the range of
the characteristics that you 

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have. 
When you are honest, at least 

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when you are honest with 
yourself, that automatically 

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removes a lot of shame and guilt
because you know who you are. 

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You're not trying to hide 
anything. 

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There's nothing. 
You don't have shadow work 

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because it's not in the shadow. 
You're open about it. 

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And also when you embrace all 
parts of yourself that makes you

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so so so magnetic and inspiring 
to other people simply because 

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they see you doing it and your 
being, your existence reminds 

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them that they can do it. 
Your life can be a permission 

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slip to the people around you 
without you even knowing that 

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simply by you existing. 
I am a nurse. 

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Y'all know that? 
Hence your favorite sensual 

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nurse. 
And I took pole lessons for a 

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whole year. 
Only thing that made me stop is 

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change. 
What change? 

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No, I bought a house. 
When I bought the house and 

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changing locations and getting 
settled in and all that stuff, 

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and one of my coworkers found 
out that I did it and she was 

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like, Oh my goodness, not you. 
I just thought you were so 

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sweet. 
But girl, you was just swinging 

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around that pole and did. 
And I'm still sweet too. 

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I'm all the things. 
I am a great employee, but I'm 

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also a great time with my 
friends, so you can be multiple 

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things and own all of that and 
I'm not going to hold y'all. 

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Today is going to be short, 
sweet, and to the point. 

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Your girl is tired, absolutely 
tired. 

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I don't want to rush this fact. 
However, when it comes to 

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exploring pleasure and healing, 
you have to give yourself the 

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permission to explore. 
Hello, catch that or else you 

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won't be able to experience the 
full magnitude of your life. 

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When you think about all the 
things that you want to see and 

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experience, it doesn't have to 
fit a certain aesthetic. 

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It you don't have to be a 
certain type. 

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You could love riding the four 
Wheeler, going through some mud 

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and getting all dirty and 
gritty, but then you could also 

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be a girly girl who loves to 
dress up and put on heels and 

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wear lip gloss everywhere you 
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Both things can exist in the 
same vessel. 

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And I'm saying that because 
there are a lot of people who 

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have what you call guilty 
pleasures. 

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It doesn't have to be a guilty 
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It's just something that you 
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There are people walking around 
who don't fit the expected 

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stereotype. 
I remember growing up, people 

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used to call me an Oreo, and at 
first it used to hurt my 

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feelings, but now I like what I 
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I am who I am and it is what it 
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Period. 
So in that, being able to 

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establish your confidence 
because you know who you are and

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you're comfortable with who you 
are allows you to be able to 

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experience the things that make 
you happy, that bring you 

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pleasure. 
You got to start somewhere. 

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And this is a very, very, very, 
very, very small step to accept.

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I like what I like, and I am who
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The caveat is if there's 
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about yourself, then it's up to 
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But you have to be honest about 
what's there first. 

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Before you can even get to audit
it, before you can even get to 

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the point of evaluating whether 
it's going to stay or go, you 

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have to acknowledge its 
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I execute very well on the 
things that motivate me and give

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me passion, on the things that I
can see will bring me closer to 

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my dream. 
My dream as far as the type of 

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mother I want to be. 
My dream as far as the type of 

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wife I want to be. 
My dream as far as the type of 

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woman I want to be. 
Now when it comes to folding 

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clothes, I'm looking at 2 piles 
of clothes that I probably 

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should have folded at the 
beginning of this week and I 

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still haven't done it. 
Those things don't motivate me. 

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But I am both ambitious and a 
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I both execute and I can be lazy
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It all exists within the same 
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I'm honest with that. 
So because I'm honest now I can 

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try to incorporate systems to 
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I can say, OK, I know this is my
problem, so this is how I'm 

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going to try to work around it. 
Or I can say, I really don't 

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like this about myself. 
How can I work on it? 

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What? 
What studies are there? 

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What tools, what methods are 
there to help me to correct this

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pattern or this characteristic 
that I don't like about myself? 

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Again, you have to 1st 
acknowledge it and see it and 

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accept it before you can make 
the choice to change it. 

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And always, if you feel like 
this is going to make you less 

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of a person, please, please 
understand that once you are 

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honest, you regain the power 
over your life. 

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Because the power isn't your 
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But if you avoid, if you 
deflect, if you push it to the 

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side, if you never acknowledge 
what it is inside of you, then 

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you give your power away. 
You refuse to choose and so life

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is going to choose for you. 
Your past is going to choose for

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you. 
Your subconscious brain that is 

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on autopilot, that likes comfort
whether it's toxic or not. 

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For the people who wonder why 
they keep attracting a certain 

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type of people, your brain is 
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It feels unsafe and the unknown,
so it will make you repeat 

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cycles over and over and over 
again simply because it feels 

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like there is safety in knowing 
what the outcome is. 

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Until you stop and take 
inventory of what it is that's 

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attracting you down the same 
path over and over and over 

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again, you won't have the power 
to choose something different. 

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You'll be subjected to the 
torture of your own mind. 

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That's crazy to think about when
you can really just stop and 

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think and be like well why do I 
show up like this? 

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Why do I tolerate half assed 
efforts from people who claim 

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that they like me? 
Get to know yourself, see what's

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there. 
Get to understand yourself, the 

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way that you tick, the way that 
you work, and then take your 

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power back and choose whether 
you will accept that or not. 

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Going forward starts in the mind
and then when you start to play 

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out what you want, step by step,
baby, you are creating the life 

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that you want. 
You are creating your dream 

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person and becoming the reality 
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That's what I got for y'all this
week. 

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That's what I got so yesterday. 
Well hold on. 

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So y'all will be hearing this. 
It's Friday morning currently. 

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Wednesday was the kick off, cook
off, cook out for the Podcast 

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Summit. 
Thursday was our first full day 

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and then Friday is the second 
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I will say Thursday morning was 
absolutely phenomenal. 

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It was extremely motivating and 
encouraging. 

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We started off the day with Wall
Street Trapper as the first 

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speaker and he took some. 
He took it to the Bible, 

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actually, and gave some biblical
points as to how to build your 

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platform. 
And some of the things that 

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really stuck for me is that my 
voice is my superpower and I'm 

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not meant to speak to everybody.
And that's the blessing when I'm

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able to speak to my people, when
I'm able to speak to my tribe, 

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that is when we are able to 
thrive and we are able to be 

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comfortable and we are able to 
grow our community. 

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Like attracts like in that I 
mostly speak to women, but there

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are men who can resonate with 
the content. 

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There are men who want to break 
out of the norm in the mundane 

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and they want to be the fullest 
expression of themselves, and 

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those are the men that I am here
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I speak to the people who are 
doing life, but they want to do 

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it differently. 
They want to do it with more 

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enjoyment, more fulfillment, 
more pleasure. 

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We don't mind working hard and 
we don't mind grinding and 

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getting to the bag and taking 
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also we refuse to work our lives
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We refuse to repeat the patterns
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and not clean up our act. 
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of ourselves for ourselves, for 
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for those around us, and for the
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Period. 
It's enough negativity out here.

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We want to be a light walking 
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That is who my podcast is for. 
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breaking those generational 
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It's for the person who is 
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to separate the voices inside 
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their critics to the voice of 
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purpose and find out who they 
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That's who I meant for. 
If you're just going through 

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life day-to-day and you cool and
you can send you not my person 

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and that's OK. 
I absolutely love you though, 

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but you're not my person. 
You're not my target audience. 

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If something interests you, 
please listen, please comment, 

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please share. 
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that stuck out. 
He used the apostle Peter, who 

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was a fisherman and he brought 
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but he brought out how when 
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trying to catch everything. 
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entrepreneurial space, sometimes
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see what they're doing or you 
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you try to mimic that. 
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trying to get their people. 
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their fish isn't your fish. 
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So I am learning to master the 
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that belong to me. 
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But it just so happened that ET,
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Atlanta and he said pass me to 
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experience his energy in person.
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I've listened to recordings, 
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to really be in the room and 
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this stage and transform the 
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said that extremely spoke to me 
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everybody else is thinking when 
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And that's all that matters. 
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although I live my life for 
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of others ain't going to stop me
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want to do. 
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don't produce the content that I
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perfect or what is somebody 
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My podcast Hello is anonymous 
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like this or if they saw this 
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respond? 
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reach the people I am meant for 
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to visual, letting you see my 
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me. 
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because y'all be up in my 
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all of me. 
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speaker, Sean from the Model 
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gems on 10 ways to monetize your
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amazing. 
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when it comes to money, we have 
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mission, then why wouldn't God 
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brought out. 
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one lessons that I picked up on 
David Shan's himself broke it 

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down during his presentation was
to remain consistent, keep 

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showing up. 
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duration of two years with no 
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to his platform, they had other 
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other content to consume. 
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it is coming, I want to be 
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ready by being committed to the 

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journey, by being committed to 
my growth and by being 

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consistent and showing up, which
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not skip out on recording this 
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We have been going strong for 
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We have actually almost two 
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It's been almost two months. 
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week, so in that this is a very 
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is one where I am being 
consistent, one where I am 

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showing up despite how I feel, 
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But I am grateful for those who 
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I am grateful for this process. 
I am grateful for my obedience 

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to the vision, and I'm excited 
to see how it continues to 

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stretch me, how it continues to 
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And even in this experience, 
it's so nice meeting new people,

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people who are aligned, people 
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mission and journey. 
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really connected with, she's 
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Her story is amazing, just 
meeting people that you can root

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for that you genuinely want to 
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But until then, just letting 
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me to show up on the podcast. 
I'm still working on the 

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content. 
Don't judge me. 

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No judgment zone. 
No judgment zone, but I will be 

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in your ears every freaky 
Friday, baby, that you don't 

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have to worry about, that you 
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And so when y'all keep telling 
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me, to come holler at me, 
they're going to have a whole 

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plethora of information to 
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And in the meantime, I will also
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building my audience, building 
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platform, building my content 
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Like if you are here now, this 
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beginning. 
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to come. 
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the journey that this podcast 
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At the end of the day, I just 
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and just remind you that being 
your full self is your 

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superpower. 
All the things that you are 

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wanting to call into your life, 
they are meant specifically for 

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you. 
But if you're acting like 

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somebody else, if you were not 
being your full true self, those

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blessings don't know where to 
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They get confused, they think 
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You are allowed to be soft and 
strong, to be sexy and 

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spiritual, to be wild and wise, 
all in the same lifetime, even 

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in the same day. 
Baby, don't let anybody box you 

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in. 
I just want to say thank you so 

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much from the bottom of my 
heart. 

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Thank you for tuning in to No 
Judgment Zone. 

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Make sure you are following us 
on Instagram at No Judgment Zone

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Pod. 
Share it with a friend, comment 

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on the content, comment on the 
podcast, and don't forget to 

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leave me a whisper in my ear. 
Baby, on the IG page, it's a 

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link in the bio. 
Tell me what you're thinking. 

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Share a confession, ask a 
question, whatever you want to 

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talk about, it's on the table. 
And I will say y'all, I am 

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super, super, super, super, 
super super excited. 

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So next week we are going to 
have our first guest on the 

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podcast. 
I am very, very excited. 

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I won't share too much, but I 
will tell you this shit going to

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get juicy, OK? 
It's going to be very juicy. 

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We are going to be talking about
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threesomes, talking about all 
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come with that. 
So please, please, please, by 

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all means, TuneIn next week, I 
hope you have a beautiful week 

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in between. 
And baby, don't you ever forget 

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you deserve pleasure.