1 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:16,200 Happy Monday, we are back in with the ERC Leftovers podcast. 2 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:17,960 I'm Pastor Matt. Pastor Crisp. 3 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:26,560 Here as well, week removed from Easter, we're into a new a 4 00:00:26,560 --> 00:00:29,840 sermon series called Made in His Image to Admit Biblical Manhood. 5 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:36,600 This week you get to espouse your thoughts on biblical 6 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:38,720 womanhood. This week I've already 7 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:43,560 determined that they are going to be 0 of my thoughts and 100% 8 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,600 Bible thoughts. I joked with my group last night 9 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:51,520 that maybe I will just read passages only and make 0 10 00:00:51,520 --> 00:00:55,040 comments on anything and I'm just going to read all the Bible 11 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:57,560 passages about biblical womanhood and make no 12 00:00:57,560 --> 00:00:59,120 commentary. It feels safe. 13 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:04,560 It's very safe move that that's the safe play this upcoming 14 00:01:04,560 --> 00:01:07,280 week. Yeah, so biblical manhood, 15 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:12,160 biblical womanhood, and then how we are all children of God. 16 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:16,040 This series is really, I mean, ultimately it's about identity 17 00:01:16,520 --> 00:01:21,640 and, and how God orchestrated that in his image bearers in, in 18 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:25,040 men and women and then all of us as his children. 19 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:28,440 So that's the posture that we continually have regardless of 20 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:33,080 our earthly age and maturity. That's a position that doesn't 21 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:35,000 change for us as children of God, right? 22 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:38,840 That was perfectly well. I mean, that was perfect. 23 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:41,160 That could have been my. I mean, that was. 24 00:01:41,320 --> 00:01:43,120 Did you craft that? Just a second. 25 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:44,960 It just came off the top of my brain. 26 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:48,360 You said that perfectly. In fact, now I need to go back 27 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:51,680 after this publishes, and I need to listen to you say that again, 28 00:01:51,720 --> 00:01:55,400 because that was so perfectly well done as a descriptor. 29 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:57,160 But that's that's the thinking, yeah. 30 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,360 It's not just for children, it's all of us. 31 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:04,800 So yeah, we are rocking and rolling back with the ERC 32 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:07,880 leftovers here. Thanks for hanging with us. 33 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:11,480 Got a couple of just, I don't know, we don't even have 34 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:16,520 segments for these, but I wanted to discuss just some offhanded 35 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:18,720 things that came up at staff meeting this morning. 36 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:24,600 You you said you got into a debate over Doctor Pepper or Mr. 37 00:02:24,600 --> 00:02:27,840 Pibb. Doctor Pepper, Sir, he is a 38 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:29,680 fraud. I don't believe he's a real 39 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:31,600 doctor. I have not seen any of that 40 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:35,520 paperwork signifying that he is. And those 23 flavors or 41 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:37,800 whatever, it's one flavor. It's called sugar. 42 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:42,160 You don't have 23 flavors. And I don't hate Doctor Pepper 43 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:47,360 as a soda flavor, but PIB is far superior and he's more honest 44 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:51,600 about his level of degree. He's just a Mr. He's just a 45 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:54,640 dude, and he accepts that. He doesn't have to put the fancy 46 00:02:54,640 --> 00:02:59,000 title Doctor on anything. So I think Doctor Pepper is a 47 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:01,760 fraud. Wow, OK, I feel strong about. 48 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:04,000 It Yep, deep thoughts with pastor Chris. 49 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:07,480 Yep, I I mean, I'm with you. What? 50 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:12,720 I really don't understand the 23 flavors and there's so there's 51 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:15,280 23 flavors, but cherry isn't one of them. 52 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:19,880 Like we need cherry Dr. pepper or like cherry vanilla doctor, 53 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,360 but you're telling me cherry and vanilla aren't in the 23 54 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:24,560 flavors? Seems weird. 55 00:03:24,640 --> 00:03:27,080 Seems sketchy. What are the 23 flavors? 56 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:32,400 I mean, like, should I dare? I dare I ask the interwebs what 57 00:03:32,440 --> 00:03:36,000 are the 23? Yeah, the 23. 58 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:38,560 Flavor. Oh my goodness. 59 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,520 Doctor Pepper. Amaretto Almond. 60 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,680 OK. BlackBerry, black licorice, 61 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,440 caramel, carrot, cherry. OK, so Cherry isn't that So why 62 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,200 do we have Cherry Dr. Pepper? Seems. 63 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:54,800 Redundant Why do we have cherry, Dr. Pepper, clove, cola, ginger, 64 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,840 juniper, lemon, molasses, nutmeg, orange pepper, plum, 65 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:02,320 prune, Raspberry, root beer, rum, tomato and vanilla? 66 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,080 Baloney. Baloney. 67 00:04:05,080 --> 00:04:07,600 No way. That's the 23 flavors yet we 68 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:10,520 have. Why do we have cherry Vanilla 69 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:15,080 Doctor Pepper, right? If it's already in there, now 70 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:16,079 we're just. Very hypocritical. 71 00:04:16,079 --> 00:04:20,640 It does and and Mr. Pip is just a better tasting soda anyway in 72 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:22,400 general. I agree. 73 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:24,840 I definitely agree. So we're like Coke or Pepsi 74 00:04:24,840 --> 00:04:25,080 though? Oh dude. 75 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:30,560 It's not. The fact that our machine inside 76 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:34,120 this building has a giant Pepsi image on it hurts my. 77 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:36,000 We sell Coke. Yeah, that. 78 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,520 We sell Coca-Cola. Products out of hurts my soul. 79 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:43,960 But I do have one staunch Pepsi believer who just loves it. 80 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:49,200 In fact, this student wore a Pepsi shirt to youth group last 81 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:52,760 week and I was like, you know what I can respect it. 82 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:54,880 Like your your team Pepsi all day. 83 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:57,040 You you don't really enjoy coke. Good for you. 84 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:01,080 I'm glad at least you have a strong opinion so I can I can 85 00:05:01,080 --> 00:05:03,680 respect it. And I did put Pepsi back in the 86 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:07,200 machine for that student because they have harassed me for months 87 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:09,280 on end about putting Pepsi in the Pepsi machine. 88 00:05:09,600 --> 00:05:11,680 So I finally did it. But I I've warned them. 89 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:15,360 I said if this stuff doesn't sell, it will never be back. 90 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:18,440 So there you go. Speaking of not selling, is my 91 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:22,720 is my son's petition still going around for the soda machine? 92 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:26,600 OK, OK, yes, we need to I we should draw this out to the 93 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,600 masses because we. Should because I didn't even he 94 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:32,320 this kept quiet some. I didn't know about this till 95 00:05:32,320 --> 00:05:34,800 like this past week. Yeah, he went really hard on it. 96 00:05:34,800 --> 00:05:39,000 I'm I'm proud of Oliver because what he did was he loves grape 97 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:42,080 soda and he is convinced he loves. 98 00:05:42,080 --> 00:05:46,200 Crushed grape soda specifically. Well, I'll keep that in mind 99 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:48,680 because I did say I would honor his petition. 100 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:51,760 I'm going to, I'm going to honor that petition. 101 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:56,880 So what happens is Oliver Schweitzer tells me how great 102 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,960 this soda is, and I'm like, dude, gross. 103 00:05:59,960 --> 00:06:02,480 That's never going to sell. And then he went around and I 104 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,960 think he collected 25 signatures. 105 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:08,480 Of. People who want to support grape 106 00:06:08,520 --> 00:06:12,000 soda in the machine. And so I was like, dude, I, you 107 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:13,200 know what I'm going to give it to you. 108 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:16,360 I'm I'm going to find this in the store and I'm put it in 109 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:18,640 there. But when it doesn't sell and it 110 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,160 won't, I'm taking it out forever. 111 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:25,080 And I will remind him of that until he's a senior in high 112 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:27,400 school. Like, dude, it's. 113 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:32,320 Not didn't happen. So he got like a six pack of 20 114 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:34,720 oz crushed grape soda bottles like for his birthday. 115 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:39,120 Usually our kids are getting into this age where, I mean, 116 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:41,000 they maybe want one or two things. 117 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,960 It's usually something that gifts are getting bigger as 118 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:46,320 they're getting up. They don't want like whatever, 119 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:48,720 they don't want three different Barbie dolls anymore. 120 00:06:48,720 --> 00:06:51,760 They want like one big thing or actually what they're mostly 121 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:55,680 into now, they want their own, like their own bag of goodies 122 00:06:56,160 --> 00:07:00,120 that is just, it's like their snack or sweet bag. 123 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:02,120 So that's essentially what. Yeah. 124 00:07:02,600 --> 00:07:07,600 Anyway, that was in his bag. He got his 6 bottles of Grape 125 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:10,880 Crush. Yeah, just straight purple 126 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:15,720 sugar. Go with his sour patch kids and 127 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:17,320 salt and vinegar Pringles. Oh. 128 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:21,800 Wow, so I love that. Anyway, so thank you for 129 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:23,440 humoring him. So it's going to happen though. 130 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:24,920 There's going to be Grape Crush. There is. 131 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:28,880 Oh man, I do need to find it on sale because honestly, in in a 132 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:33,200 kind of a serious way, this is like that pop machine exists 133 00:07:33,600 --> 00:07:36,600 because when I get sewed on sale, if I can get it for 134 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:40,920 basically 45 or $0.50 a can people buy the pop And then the 135 00:07:41,000 --> 00:07:43,800 profit of that goes towards our youth fund. 136 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:48,200 And so like it is a fundraising mechanism that we have. 137 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,400 And so I did tell him I have to wait until I see it on sale 138 00:07:51,400 --> 00:07:53,040 because I'm not paying a dollar a can. 139 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:54,600 We're not going to break even on this. 140 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,760 Like I'm not doing that. So I did warn him it may be a 141 00:07:57,760 --> 00:07:59,080 little bit I got to see it on sale. 142 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:00,680 All right. That's fair. 143 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,560 But all right, thanks for the thanks for the soda machine 144 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,920 update. I know you were all wondering 145 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,440 about the contents of the soda machine. 146 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:13,880 Off the rails. Off the rails. 147 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,720 Yes, yes. Wouldn't, wouldn't, wouldn't be 148 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:21,000 an episode of The Leftovers without just something absurd. 149 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:25,600 So yeah, that's all we really got for Icebreaker today. 150 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:29,000 We're going to jump right into content kind of reviewing the 151 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,960 sermon from biblical manhood this week. 152 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:34,880 If you haven't listened to that sermon, it's further back in the 153 00:08:35,159 --> 00:08:38,440 in the ERC Sunday's podcast feed here. 154 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:45,400 But I jumped off yesterday. I really wanted to talk more 155 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:48,520 about what biblical manhood is rather than what it isn't 156 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:54,200 because I think we see a lot of what it isn't in if, if we're 157 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:58,720 getting informed from society sometimes if we're letting our 158 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:01,800 even our experiences. I've talked about this in in 159 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,320 weeks past and thinking about fatherhood. 160 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:07,560 If your picture of what fatherhood should be is defined 161 00:09:07,560 --> 00:09:12,160 by your earthly experience with your earthly father. 162 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:15,400 There's probably some scars there, right? 163 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:19,000 There's, there's probably some imperfect memories there or 164 00:09:19,000 --> 00:09:22,800 things that have informed your view of fatherhood from your 165 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:27,560 imperfect fathers. We, we need to take the lens of 166 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:31,440 with fatherhood, we that the earthly father, the heavenly 167 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:33,000 Father, the perfect heavenly Father. 168 00:09:33,160 --> 00:09:38,400 That's the model of fatherhood. In the same way, I wanted us to 169 00:09:38,400 --> 00:09:43,920 look at how God prescribes manhood, not not informed from 170 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:47,880 our experiences, what society, especially Hollywood, would say 171 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:52,800 or inform about manhood. So rather than call out problems 172 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:55,480 and shortcomings, I'd rather just like, like I started up 173 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:56,920 yesterday, let's start with the blueprint. 174 00:09:57,120 --> 00:09:58,560 What is this supposed to look like? 175 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:02,400 And when we've deviated from that, how should we be getting 176 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:03,400 back to it? Right. 177 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:10,920 So Genesis 1, God said, let man, let us make man in our image. 178 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,720 Verse 26 through 28 of Genesis one, let us make man in our 179 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:17,240 image after our likeness. Let them have dominion over the 180 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:19,040 fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens, over the 181 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:21,400 livestock, over all the earth or whatever creeping thing that 182 00:10:21,400 --> 00:10:24,160 creeps on the earth. So God created man in his own 183 00:10:24,160 --> 00:10:26,920 image, in the image of God. He created him, male and female. 184 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:30,000 He created them and God blessed them and God said to them, be 185 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:32,680 fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have 186 00:10:32,680 --> 00:10:36,480 dominion over it. So together, and I started off 187 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:40,680 with this, though we started off with the tagline of men and 188 00:10:40,680 --> 00:10:41,720 women. Women are different. 189 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:46,360 Actually the starting point is the same, right? 190 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:51,200 Designed in God's image to reflect that God's glory. 191 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:55,480 That's that's the purpose now we see that drawn out in very 192 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,720 different attributes, very different characteristics, very 193 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:02,440 different leanings and strikes between men men and women right. 194 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:11,480 So from that I pointed out yesterday that God said for the 195 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:17,280 first time that man being alone wasn't good and that isn't a 196 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:20,880 call out. We addressed singles and we'll 197 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:25,360 address singles next week too. What what I don't want you to 198 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:30,040 hear and what I don't think I said yesterday was that biblical 199 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:34,480 manhood, you're not biblically a man until you're married to a 200 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:35,640 wife. Not true. 201 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:41,600 We have examples from Paul even where he he calls out those in 202 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:48,040 ministry especially actually probably simpler in a lifestyle 203 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:53,520 of solitude for for those called to like extravagant evangelism 204 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,960 or or missionary situations. Some of Paul's writings make the 205 00:11:56,960 --> 00:12:00,120 argument that that's better done in singlehood. 206 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:05,080 Or at least it increases your ability to focus on that thing. 207 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:07,280 Yes, which is very practical actually. 208 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:11,280 And, and he's not wrong. If I was, you know, if I was a 209 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:15,120 missionary or whatever, it would probably be easier and I could 210 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:19,120 focus easier if I was unmarried in some ways. 211 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:23,000 However, in my current context and hopefully my forever 212 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:26,440 context, it actually helps that I'm married in a lot of ways 213 00:12:26,680 --> 00:12:30,760 simply because like man, now we have two sides of, you know, we 214 00:12:30,760 --> 00:12:34,120 have this one flesh, but we have two sides of the same idea. 215 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,720 And it, and you're right, it's, it's drawn out in different ways 216 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,400 between me and my wife and, and I think that's incredibly 217 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:43,960 powerful thing. Yeah, So all I just all I wanted 218 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:47,200 to point out in this kind of extra time was I hope you didn't 219 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:51,080 hear me say that like marriage is the crowning achievement of 220 00:12:51,080 --> 00:12:55,520 manhood on earth. There's a lot of good things in 221 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:59,880 a God honoring marriage. God, the Bible makes this 222 00:13:00,480 --> 00:13:05,320 metaphorical similarity between men and women being married as, 223 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:08,160 as Christ and his bride, the church are, are married. 224 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:11,480 So like those things are there, but hopefully that didn't come 225 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:12,720 out yesterday. I don't think it did. 226 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:19,880 The next part of this is kind of the the more specifics of men's 227 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:22,280 calling to dominion and stewardship over the earth. 228 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:23,960 So the first point I kind of talked about yesterday was 229 00:13:23,960 --> 00:13:29,120 created in God's image for dominion and stewardship of of 230 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:31,920 creation. Genesis 2 gets into that a 231 00:13:31,920 --> 00:13:34,680 little more specifically in these work it and keep it 232 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:39,200 phrases as as Adam is in the Garden of Eden and his purpose 233 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:43,520 there was to work it keep it. We get the the ideas in these 234 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:46,680 Hebrew phrases of cultivate, develop, guard, protect, watch 235 00:13:46,680 --> 00:13:49,440 over. And then we get to the IT was 236 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:53,680 not good for man to be alone and created Eve as a helper fit for 237 00:13:53,680 --> 00:13:56,280 him. And this I didn't, I didn't dive 238 00:13:56,280 --> 00:14:03,320 into it yesterday. It's amazing that God, I said a 239 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:06,840 lot yesterday about our need for dependence on God and that God 240 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:11,480 created us that way. He also created the not good 241 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:15,280 part about this was that Adam still needed help. 242 00:14:16,680 --> 00:14:22,480 God would not have created a helper for him if that wasn't a 243 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:29,360 good thing for him, right? So even even within that, as 244 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:35,600 much as we as guys especially don't like to admit weakness, 245 00:14:35,760 --> 00:14:39,600 don't like to say that we don't have it figured out, God's 246 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:42,880 saying from the beginning, you don't have it all together. 247 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:49,040 You don't have all the tools you need to do the job that I've 248 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:51,680 given you. So here here is a helper 249 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:57,080 suitable to have you fulfill the purposes that I created you for, 250 00:14:57,200 --> 00:14:58,760 right? And I think you use the word 251 00:14:58,760 --> 00:15:03,480 complimentary yesterday and that is just a fantastic word for 252 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:08,240 being able to say, you know what, like God's got a strategy 253 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:13,280 for completeness and wholeness. And again, there are people 254 00:15:13,280 --> 00:15:17,360 certainly out there who do not necessarily need a spouse to 255 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:20,640 feel complete and to feel whole and to feel fulfilled. 256 00:15:20,640 --> 00:15:25,080 And that's great for them. However, the vast majority of 257 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:29,520 people don't feel that way. They do feel some kind of some 258 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:33,160 kind of just loss or, I don't know, there's, there's a gap 259 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:37,320 there, right? And so God fills the gap through 260 00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:39,320 this relationship with man and woman. 261 00:15:39,320 --> 00:15:42,560 And that's really interesting to me too, that that's how he 262 00:15:42,560 --> 00:15:45,920 decided to do that because God couldn't he have certainly gone, 263 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:49,800 Oh, I'm the gap filler for all things like you've got me. 264 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:53,560 And that's enough. But he takes it a step further 265 00:15:53,560 --> 00:15:56,920 and says, no, I'm going to create somebody also made my 266 00:15:56,920 --> 00:16:00,120 image and likeness that will really kind of complete this for 267 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:02,160 you. And it's going to be a joyful 268 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:05,120 experience on every level for you that I've done this. 269 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:07,200 And I think that's really neat. Yeah. 270 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:12,520 And just how it, how it kind of processed in my mind was as we 271 00:16:12,520 --> 00:16:16,400 get into ideas of servant leadership later and, and love 272 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:22,400 and respect in those things, it, it shouldn't seem jarring to us. 273 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:25,120 I know it's an off putting stance of saying, OK, no, I 274 00:16:25,120 --> 00:16:27,520 need, I need help or I don't have it all together. 275 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:29,560 We don't, we don't like to admit that weakness. 276 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:31,560 That's, that's literally how it started though. 277 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:36,360 God from the beginning, God designed us with this 278 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:39,800 deficiency, this need for dependence. 279 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:43,480 And not that he's not setting up men to be dependent on women, 280 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:50,040 but we are in need, in need, ultimately of him and in need to 281 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:55,960 work in Symphony with with a complimentary helper of a woman 282 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:59,960 and working that into a household and a family event. 283 00:16:59,960 --> 00:17:05,079 Like there there is that be fruitful and multiply, which may 284 00:17:05,079 --> 00:17:09,520 be to some degree, speaking to speaking to singles. 285 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:13,480 Again, if you're if you're not married, how are you 286 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:16,680 multiplying? How are how are you being 287 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:17,880 fruitful? I think this is one of my 288 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:20,920 questions in the in the study guides, like whether whether at 289 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:24,440 work or whether at church, whether in your your 290 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:30,440 neighborhood or community, like how are you leading? 291 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:34,640 How, how, how are you multiplying, discipling those 292 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:36,440 around you? That's that's the other reason 293 00:17:36,440 --> 00:17:39,920 that marriage isn't like the crowning achievement of manhood, 294 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:43,760 because you're not off the hook to make disciples if you're not 295 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:46,640 married, right? Like if you are married, you 296 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:48,560 have a very specific, OK, your household. 297 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:53,720 That's your first discipleship field, not in a relationship. 298 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:56,920 You have to be almost even all the more intentional about those 299 00:17:56,920 --> 00:17:58,240 relationships, because those are your. 300 00:17:58,280 --> 00:17:59,720 Those are your primary relationships. 301 00:18:00,440 --> 00:18:03,560 And I actually love that because I've met, you know, various 302 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:05,960 single aunts and uncles of kids and stuff like that. 303 00:18:06,280 --> 00:18:09,800 And they joyously pour into nieces and nephews and kids in 304 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:12,520 the community and other people, you know, at their work and 305 00:18:12,520 --> 00:18:15,840 stuff like that. And that that very much can and 306 00:18:15,840 --> 00:18:18,200 does exist. And I think it's, it's amazing 307 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:22,400 to watch, especially when it's not like this kind of thing of 308 00:18:22,400 --> 00:18:24,160 like, well, no, this is super obvious to me. 309 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:25,680 It's my kids, it's my wife, whatever. 310 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:29,880 No, like they go out and they find that and they are disciple 311 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:31,200 makers in a lot of different ways. 312 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:34,000 And, and I think that's really encouraging, especially for 313 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:37,320 people who like to or, or find themselves single. 314 00:18:37,320 --> 00:18:40,560 I think that's incredibly encouraging because you're still 315 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:43,840 always in the game. Always, no matter what, Like 316 00:18:43,920 --> 00:18:45,600 there's no excuse. You should always be in the 317 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:49,120 game, single, married, whatever. Like that's, that's God's call 318 00:18:49,120 --> 00:18:51,440 for all of us. Yep, absolutely. 319 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:55,560 And that gets into a big passage. 320 00:18:55,560 --> 00:19:00,560 We could have, we could spend weeks on this husbands and wives 321 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:05,800 passage from Ephesians 5. But we'll, we'll just spend a 322 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:07,840 couple extra. I have extra thoughts. 323 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:10,800 I've got lots of thoughts that I left out of yesterday, could 324 00:19:10,800 --> 00:19:13,400 have gone on for a long time, way longer than I did. 325 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:18,600 But Ephesians 5, we'll start at verse 23. 326 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,800 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ, as the head 327 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:24,240 of the church, his body of which he is the Savior. 328 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:27,040 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should 329 00:19:27,040 --> 00:19:29,040 submit to their husbands in everything. 330 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:34,360 We talked a bit yesterday that this, I feel like this verse, 331 00:19:34,360 --> 00:19:37,880 this phrase is passage actually gets a really negative 332 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:44,000 connotation a lot of the time gives men just free reign or it 333 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:46,920 has been used at least for men to have free reign of just 334 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:49,880 domineering the household. Which is no, not the design. 335 00:19:50,080 --> 00:19:54,240 Whatsoever that's that's not the original intent here and I 336 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:59,920 actually asked I asked the church gathered yesterday if 337 00:19:59,920 --> 00:20:05,640 they if they felt oppressed in sitting in church in their 338 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:08,480 submission to Christ as the head right now, if it's as Christ is 339 00:20:08,480 --> 00:20:12,320 the head of the church church. Do you feel no, you don't you 340 00:20:12,320 --> 00:20:14,640 don't feel oppressed by your savior. 341 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:18,800 You don't you don't feel exploited or dominated by or 342 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:21,160 ruled over really, which is interesting because we. 343 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,480 We should, we should feel Christ's ruling and reigning 344 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:27,280 over our lives, but there's trust in that. 345 00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:34,280 That's not like there's not discomfort or a dictatorship 346 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:37,640 feeling in in that. And I think this passage with 347 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,600 husbands and wives, it can get twisted in that way. 348 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:43,600 Oh, well, if I, if I, if I submit to my husband, I'm, I'm 349 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:47,160 just giving him a free pass to just walk all over me and make 350 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,440 every decision without, without consulting me about everything 351 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:54,000 and, and all those things. And that's not the design here. 352 00:20:55,320 --> 00:21:00,560 I actually, I made the joke yesterday that it's, it's good 353 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,040 news and bad news and they're both, they're both the same. 354 00:21:03,040 --> 00:21:04,760 The good news is guys, that you're in charge. 355 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:07,040 God, God placed you in charge. And the bad news is that you're 356 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:10,600 in charge. You're you're now accountable as 357 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:14,920 head of household for for your wife, for your your children, or 358 00:21:14,920 --> 00:21:19,240 your someday children. I actually think that that level 359 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:23,400 of accountability, if you take it at face value from God's 360 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:30,360 Word, man, that is almost scary. Almost scary simply simply 361 00:21:30,360 --> 00:21:36,080 because like you know, you are, you are now responsible for 362 00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:40,920 actively discipling and protecting and developing these 363 00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:45,320 people who God has allowed you to to help steward. 364 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:50,320 And of course, obviously he is everybody's father ultimately. 365 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:56,080 Yet we are we are called as men, especially married men to be 366 00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:59,200 those developers and those protectors. 367 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:04,120 And man, if we take that seriously as we should, that is 368 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:08,360 a substantial responsibility that it does become my first and 369 00:22:08,360 --> 00:22:11,680 most important human relationship, right? 370 00:22:12,120 --> 00:22:14,360 It has to. So I think we've said it here, 371 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,960 man, God comes first in, in that. 372 00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:21,320 And I'm saying priorities that are aligned correctly with what 373 00:22:21,320 --> 00:22:22,680 God says. God comes first. 374 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,720 My, my second first, if if you want to say it that way, is my 375 00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:30,440 wife, period. And listen, I have been pretty 376 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:32,680 clear with our kids on that. Like we love you to death. 377 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:37,120 We will do anything for you. But our marriage, my, my, my 378 00:22:37,120 --> 00:22:42,080 relationship to my wife even comes before them and then they 379 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,520 are immediately after and then comes the church, right. 380 00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:49,200 And so I mean, like we have these kind of pretty clearly 381 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:52,080 laid out priorities in terms of relationship and, and who we're 382 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:53,640 pouring into and all that kind of stuff. 383 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:57,960 And so like, I just don't think that, yeah, coming back to what 384 00:22:57,960 --> 00:22:59,880 you were saying about the submission thing, there's 385 00:22:59,880 --> 00:23:04,160 nothing inferior about the woman's role in that. 386 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,360 There's it's not an inferiority thing. 387 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:09,040 It's a different thing, but it's not inferior. 388 00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:12,320 God creates us differently for different roles and purposes, 389 00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:14,760 but there's nothing inferior about it. 390 00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:20,080 Yeah, because then the answer in verse 25, Ephesians 5 is 391 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,000 husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and 392 00:23:23,000 --> 00:23:28,240 gave himself up for her. He he goes on to elaborate on 393 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:34,160 the posture of submission and, and how that works because 394 00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:35,560 husbands, you are to love your wife. 395 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:41,320 You are to put her needs first. You are to put your caring for 396 00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,680 her first as you would just as much as you care for yourself. 397 00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:48,640 That's how you would care for her just as Christ loved the 398 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:52,800 church and gave himself up for her and I I said that so there's 399 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:57,040 a qualification for the submission there and and and 400 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,280 later this whole passage can be referred to as the love and 401 00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:04,760 respect passage. Husbands love your wives wives 402 00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:08,920 respect your husband submit submit to your husbands and I 403 00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:10,880 think you're going to get into it a little more the next week. 404 00:24:10,880 --> 00:24:17,360 This this sort of cyclical pattern there that when working 405 00:24:17,360 --> 00:24:20,040 in God's design works really well. 406 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:25,760 When a husband is feeling respected by his his wife, he he 407 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:32,440 naturally easily readily loves her care, cares for her. 408 00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:38,000 And and that's not to put the onus on the wives, because when 409 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:42,960 the husband naturally readily taking the initiative loves his 410 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:47,000 wife, it's also in turn a lot simpler, I think more natural 411 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:50,320 for her to want to respect him, for her to respect him. 412 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:57,320 So the disconnect happens when someone wakes cycle, or when 413 00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:01,760 maybe when both break the cycle and it it can't get started 414 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,600 again because no one's doing either of the things. 415 00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,360 Yeah, and, and why and why can't it get restarted? 416 00:25:07,360 --> 00:25:11,360 Because pride gets involved. This this sneaking pride of 417 00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:13,360 well, I'm not going to be the first one because it's probably 418 00:25:13,360 --> 00:25:14,560 his fault. I'm not going to be the first 419 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:15,800 one because it's probably her fault. 420 00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:17,360 And if she would do that, then I would do that. 421 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:22,400 But the, the you can't get anywhere in those. 422 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:26,360 Both parties are sold out and involved in that process. 423 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:32,920 And I said it strongly yesterday because I do, I do think for for 424 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:37,000 anyone who's stuck in that state where there is not love or 425 00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:40,920 respect being given and you're both waiting for the other one 426 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:44,320 to blink to see it, to see who's going to whatever apologize or 427 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:48,480 move first. I said it, I said it strongly 428 00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:53,000 that it's still, I think it still falls to the men. 429 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,280 Be the first mover. You're you're still the first 430 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:58,160 repenter. You're still the first mover. 431 00:25:58,160 --> 00:26:02,880 It is still on you to love her sacrificially the way Christ 432 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,760 did, even when, even when she doesn't deserve it, even when I 433 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:07,960 said it yesterday, when, well, that doesn't seem fair. 434 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:12,320 Even when it's not fair. I think it's still on the man. 435 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:15,040 And that's the the bad news of you being in charge. 436 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:21,520 You have to do the the part of it that seems that seems unfair 437 00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:24,240 or undeserved. That's the just that's the just 438 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,640 as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for that's 439 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:32,600 that's that unconditional posture of of gracious love in 440 00:26:32,600 --> 00:26:36,000 that. So if you're stuck outside of 441 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:39,120 that cycle, I still think it is on the mend to initiate that. 442 00:26:39,120 --> 00:26:45,080 Now I did say also yesterday, and I want to clarify, I don't 443 00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,320 want it to seem like I said, I feel I feel like it maybe could 444 00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,880 have been taken. Yeah, that's not that's not fair 445 00:26:52,040 --> 00:26:54,920 that you have to do that and too bad. 446 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:58,360 I I like I feel like that's right. 447 00:26:58,360 --> 00:27:03,920 I feel like I kind of just said you just got to deal with it and 448 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:05,800 endure it because you're the man. 449 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:15,440 There's partial truth in that, but there's also no no, that God 450 00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:18,080 didn't make you to just struggle in that. 451 00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:23,600 If you are if you are a husband who is acting in God's design 452 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:29,320 and faithfully holding to that even when your wife is not 453 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:33,000 acting in God's design in in womanhood, which we're going 454 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:34,800 we're going to get into in the next week. 455 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:37,680 It's still on the that I talked about yesterday. 456 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:40,080 There's not excuses. You don't get to not act like a 457 00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:44,880 man if your if your husband, if your wife is not acting as God 458 00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,920 designed as a woman, you, you don't get to be off the hook 459 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:51,800 because she's off the you need. You need to hopefully lead her 460 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:55,280 back into that. There's still reconciliation and 461 00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,040 redemption for that within your marriage. 462 00:27:58,080 --> 00:28:02,840 And if it's that, if that's if that's counseling, if that's 463 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:06,880 bringing her back to to Jesus in a relationship that you're 464 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,400 leading her in within your household in scripture, like 465 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,120 there's there's ways to get out of that. 466 00:28:11,120 --> 00:28:16,160 I wasn't saying yesterday that this is just the way your life's 467 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,320 going to be for the rest of your life and it's not going to be 468 00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:20,200 great, but you just got to deal with it. 469 00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:24,000 That's that's not right now. I hope I hope I didn't leave 470 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:27,000 anybody in that despair yesterday. 471 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:30,800 But I did want to emphasize, I still I think it is on the men 472 00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,640 to bring your relationship out of that. 473 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:37,520 And, and that's also a warning for guys who aren't married yet, 474 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:42,320 Like that's, that's part of what you're jumping into with 475 00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:47,240 marriage is, is leading yourself and your wife out of those pits 476 00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:48,640 should you find yourself in them. 477 00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:53,080 Well, and it's interesting too, if we zoom out for a second on a 478 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:58,440 broader scale, the call on the Christian amongst A secular 479 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:03,360 society is to be this loving example, the first forgiver, 480 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,200 etcetera, etcetera. And so like even on a broader 481 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:11,800 zoomed out scale, this, while it is for men within that 482 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:15,440 relationship, it is for Christians in general to be the 483 00:29:15,440 --> 00:29:18,320 first movers, to be the first leaders of things like 484 00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,960 forgiveness and reconciliation and all those kinds of things, 485 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:26,040 because we are ultimately ambassadors for the king. 486 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:30,320 If you're a Christian, you are a living, walking, breathing 487 00:29:30,320 --> 00:29:35,600 ambassador for the king. And we need to be faithful, 488 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,680 representing him in a biblically accurate way. 489 00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:42,480 And that does mean forgiving when other people wouldn't. 490 00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,520 And it does mean reconciliation when it's difficult. 491 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:49,560 And it does mean you're the first mover and you're the 492 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:52,120 first, you know, person to apologize. 493 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:54,280 That's that's the call on all Christians. 494 00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:58,240 So I mean, broadly, Yep, that's exactly how that works. 495 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,880 If you're a Christian and more narrowly if you're within a 496 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:06,120 familial household, OK, it still works that way. 497 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,120 But men biblically are called to be the leaders in that. 498 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:15,160 Yeah, absolutely. So I think that's yeah, a little 499 00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,440 a few more thoughts on sacrificial leadership and what 500 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:25,000 that does and doesn't look like. But yeah, guys, it's still heavy 501 00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:26,360 as the head that holds crown, right? 502 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:31,480 Like it's, that's not, that's not an inaccurate phrase for 503 00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:35,800 headship of the household. Yes, it comes with the benefit 504 00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:37,000 of leadership. It also comes with the 505 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,920 accountability of leadership. You got to do things. 506 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:43,360 Now I'll also say because this is interesting, there are a lot 507 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:50,040 of godly couples and maybe the, the woman is actually the, the 508 00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:53,840 primary kind of speaker teacher to the kids and stuff like that. 509 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,760 And that's, there's nothing wrong with that. 510 00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,360 And some women are just really great at it. 511 00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:03,480 God has gifted them in that way. And so they, they, they, they do 512 00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,640 that. But I suspect based on 513 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:11,560 everything that the Bible says, that it is part of the man's job 514 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:14,520 as the head of household to encourage that. 515 00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,400 And maybe you do have to encourage your kids because 516 00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:19,480 maybe they're not listening well and stuff. 517 00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:22,600 You get to be the encourager and you get to maybe you're not 518 00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,080 always the voice, the quote, UN quote, teaching voice of, of 519 00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:28,560 what God's word says within your household, but man, like you are 520 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,640 the encourage or you're the one who's going to bring the troops, 521 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:34,920 you know, to the speaker And, and, and I think that's OK too. 522 00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:39,960 I love we talk about Pastor Josh Howerton sometimes and they have 523 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:45,120 a he shared a dynamic they have in their household of of how 524 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:49,120 this works with mom doing the things she is she cares for 525 00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:55,240 their household house housewife. They have a fairly regular 526 00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:58,640 rhythm of family dinner, which I know not everyone has and 527 00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:02,240 actually we're pretty bad at for just kids going every which 528 00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,040 direction and we we have we try to hold the Fridays, but it's 529 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,240 definitely not like every night of the week that we are sitting 530 00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:11,400 down for a family meal together. When they do though this 531 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:16,680 Howerton household, she usually she's cooking dinner, he's 532 00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,280 coming home from work. Kids set the table, gathered 533 00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:27,520 around the table. Nobody, nobody eats till till. 534 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:30,440 Mom sits down though, like and he's. 535 00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:31,480 The I like that a lot. Wow. 536 00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,400 Yeah. And and he's the so like she's 537 00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:40,160 she's doing things, but Dad's the enforcer of that. 538 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,440 Maybe Dad. Dad's coming in last and he's 539 00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:47,480 sitting down at the table. Nobody, nobody digs in till 540 00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:51,440 mom's done with the things and dad's the enforcer of that. 541 00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:54,480 Like that's he's he's supporting her in that. 542 00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:58,440 Not again, not ruling over dominant that that like she has 543 00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:02,840 to do that, but he's saying in that in how you're serving. 544 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:07,520 I'm going to back you up and and this is this is how we're going 545 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:12,280 to honor your part in this. I'm I'm putting this in place to 546 00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:13,960 honor you in in the work that you're doing. 547 00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:15,840 So it's similar. I think that's awesome what 548 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,400 you're saying. Like, yeah, that's not to take 549 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:23,800 away primary giftings from the wife dynamic in there too. 550 00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:29,360 But if that's not you dad's father's, you better have your 551 00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,280 wife back in in how she's leading in that like you, you 552 00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:36,480 need to be cheerleader, supporter, enforcer of of how 553 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:38,440 she's leading. One of the most interesting 554 00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:42,520 things that kids can sometimes do for their own potential gain 555 00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,960 or benefit is they can pit mom and dad against each other. 556 00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:51,400 Well, mom or dad said no. So without without communicating 557 00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:54,040 that, I'll go ask the other to see if I get a different answer 558 00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,040 and ultimately putting them against each other. 559 00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:59,280 And my wife and I, I think we saw that once before. 560 00:33:59,280 --> 00:34:05,880 We said, oh, never again. And so now The thing is when you 561 00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:08,120 know, and they're older now, so it doesn't happen very often, 562 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:11,199 but if one of our kids were to ask us something, have you 563 00:34:11,199 --> 00:34:13,000 talked to mom? Have you talked to dad? 564 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:16,760 Because we need to know, quite honestly, if the other person is 565 00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:20,520 already given a decision and whatever that decision is, agree 566 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:24,040 or not, I'm always going to back my wife every single time. 567 00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,920 I'm never going to undermine her because I do respect her and I 568 00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:30,199 do love her. And so even if I quietly 569 00:34:30,199 --> 00:34:33,719 disagreed with whatever that was her and I can talk about that 570 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,560 later without the kids around, but I'm never going to, I'm 571 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:40,080 never going to show her up and I shouldn't because she is my 572 00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,840 partner and all these things and there's just no reason to ever 573 00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:47,600 do that. Yeah, no, that's that's a good 574 00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:50,600 dynamic. And yeah, definitely not even if 575 00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:55,040 you disagree, it's a well, I'm going to talk to your mom about 576 00:34:55,040 --> 00:34:56,080 that. Like you don't, you don't. 577 00:34:56,159 --> 00:34:58,320 You don't unpack that in front of the kid. 578 00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:04,160 No, no, be be on team marriage and the kids, you know, they'll, 579 00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:05,920 they'll hear the final outcome at some point. 580 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:17,000 Yeah, so first, first three as men designed, oh man, I have too 581 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,280 many pages in front of me. Men creating God's image to 582 00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:22,320 reflect his character. Men called to work and guard, 583 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,200 cultivate and protect. Men are designed for sacrificial 584 00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:29,520 leadership in relationship. And then in that I mean in 585 00:35:29,520 --> 00:35:32,760 marriage, in parenthood, men are called the fatherhood and 586 00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:38,520 spiritual instruction. The sort of mandate 1 flesh 587 00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:44,240 union, be fruitful and multiply implies discipleship with it. 588 00:35:44,240 --> 00:35:49,040 Within that dynamic, Ephesians 6 Paul writes bring up your 589 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:52,400 children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. 590 00:35:53,320 --> 00:35:56,560 He writes in Ephesians 3 avoid provoking them to anger, but 591 00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:00,520 teach them diligently. This is something we didn't dive 592 00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:02,000 into yesterday. I brought up those verses. 593 00:36:02,720 --> 00:36:06,400 I didn't jump into the do not provoke provoke them to anger 594 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,320 part of this and we were actually talking earlier. 595 00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,480 I hope you noted yesterday I didn't, I did not talk so much 596 00:36:14,480 --> 00:36:19,000 about feelings and emotions that are that like define a man, 597 00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:25,280 because I think those are all that's that's largely societally 598 00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:29,760 infused. There isn't to my knowledge and 599 00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:30,920 theology. Man, you can guard me. 600 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:37,280 I don't I don't think there's a passage in the Bible that like 601 00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:39,040 we have the fruits of the spirit, Lovejoy, peace, 602 00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,160 patience, kindness, gentleness, goodness, self-control. 603 00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:45,360 Like there's not a passage somewhere that says the fruits 604 00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:53,920 of a man are strength, pride, anger, discipline. 605 00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:56,240 Like I don't, I don't, I don't think there's a list of those 606 00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,800 fruits of fruits of the men and fruits of the women, right? 607 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:00,400 The. Bible. 608 00:37:01,040 --> 00:37:06,720 Doesn't even prescribe specific characteristics for for men to 609 00:37:06,720 --> 00:37:09,920 embody, right? But it was interesting talking 610 00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:12,280 with our group last night. You know, we just kind of gave 611 00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:13,960 the general survey. I think it was coming out of 612 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:17,120 your first study guide question, which is OK. 613 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:21,440 So what have we seen societally or in our own experiences? 614 00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:24,520 Like what do you what do you think is defines a man? 615 00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:28,080 And when we talked about emotions, it was interesting 616 00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:33,880 that we all kind of collectively grew up with it was OK for men 617 00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:39,200 to express anger and maybe only in themselves, they felt like it 618 00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:43,600 was not OK to express sadness or vulnerability. 619 00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:47,880 And I find that pretty interesting because again, I 620 00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:51,240 didn't totally grow up that way, but I can see it all over the 621 00:37:51,240 --> 00:37:53,560 place. Like, man, it's, it's, it's 622 00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,400 fine. We all expect you to express 623 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:59,240 anger, but maybe it's not so fine if you're expressing 624 00:37:59,240 --> 00:38:02,600 vulnerability. And I don't think the Bible 625 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:06,320 would ever indicate that that's the, that that is the case. 626 00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:09,760 But that's how we've grown up. And, you know, culture and 627 00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:13,600 family ties it, it draws a lot of that stuff out in US or it 628 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:17,200 suppresses other things in us. We can't totally escape, you 629 00:38:17,200 --> 00:38:21,000 know, our cultural moment or how we were raised, but we can 630 00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,560 recognize it, we can see it, and we can then look at the Bible. 631 00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:28,160 We can look at God's word and say, OK, does how I was raised 632 00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:32,040 or my culture, does that line up with what God says I'm supposed 633 00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:36,720 to be as a man or as a woman? And you know, in the case of 634 00:38:36,720 --> 00:38:41,720 men, I think we've leaned too hard into stoicism for too long 635 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:43,920 now. Of course, the overcorrection of 636 00:38:43,920 --> 00:38:48,320 our culture is now men need to basically almost be effeminate 637 00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:51,200 to be accessible because otherwise we can label it as 638 00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:55,200 toxic masculinity. And again, it's the pendulum 639 00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,120 swinging too far in either direction. 640 00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:01,920 It's not, It's not. That's not how God, as you said 641 00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,360 as the architect, designed this thing to work. 642 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:09,120 Yeah, and that avoid provoking them to anger. 643 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:13,880 We're going to have AI maybe refocusing the meaning of mere 644 00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:17,680 mortal Monday, but I'm going to have a mere mortal moment here 645 00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,120 as your yeah, pastors are humans too. 646 00:39:22,560 --> 00:39:26,560 This avoid provoking them to anger hit me between the eyes 647 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:31,440 yesterday because I have I mean I have yelled at my children and 648 00:39:31,440 --> 00:39:35,880 this is I actually saw this. I'll come back to mere mortal 649 00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:37,920 Monday in a minute, but I wanted to share this post. 650 00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:42,240 It's from a an account called good financial sense that he's I 651 00:39:42,240 --> 00:39:45,280 think he's a pretty good financial social influencer 652 00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,040 shares some things about random things every once in a while, 653 00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:52,120 but he jumped on this. Here's what I noticed trend a 654 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,240 little bit. I stopped dealing at my kids for 655 00:39:54,240 --> 00:39:56,160 a week. Here's what I noticed and he 656 00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:58,760 lists off we relate to school every day. 657 00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:00,840 They didn't clean up a single thing. 658 00:40:01,240 --> 00:40:03,440 They didn't shower, they didn't do their homework. 659 00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:07,680 They looked homeless. What? 660 00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:11,000 No, I did not. I did not see that going that 661 00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:14,000 direction. That's what that's what I 662 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:18,560 thought it was funny that like, OK, his greater point and of 663 00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:20,560 course he got razzed in the comments for like, oh, you've 664 00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:23,680 conditioned your kids to only yell, to only listen to you when 665 00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:26,280 you yell at them. No, his greater point was like 666 00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:31,000 his kids lacked discipline for a week and their lives were a 667 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:37,000 train wreck like so there there has to be that line of 668 00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:41,040 discipline. But as we called out the 1st 669 00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,320 Corinthians 16 we'll get into in just in just a second. 670 00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:47,920 Let all that you do be done in love that that's written All in 671 00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:52,200 all in Paul's writings even OK Jesus love the Lord your God 672 00:40:52,720 --> 00:40:55,640 love people as yourself right love your neighbor as yourself. 673 00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:58,520 The things we do have to be done in love true thing in love. 674 00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:03,720 Let let everything that you let everything that you do be 675 00:41:03,720 --> 00:41:06,720 seasoned with grace and love like we have. 676 00:41:06,720 --> 00:41:08,520 We have to do that even in discipline. 677 00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:12,960 So raising my voice at my children is not very loving like 678 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:17,800 gonna gonna own that. I think you all understand like 679 00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:20,720 most of you have been brought to that point where they just can't 680 00:41:20,720 --> 00:41:26,000 get their attention and do what you need them to do unless you 681 00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:27,840 do that. I'm not saying that's right. 682 00:41:27,840 --> 00:41:29,600 I'm not saying I'm justified in that. 683 00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:33,080 I just, I hope that's relatable. However, where it hit me between 684 00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,960 the eyes. Mere mortal Monday pastors are 685 00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:42,960 humans too. Yesterday one of my children had 686 00:41:42,960 --> 00:41:46,240 an outburst at the rest of their siblings playing all the 687 00:41:46,240 --> 00:41:51,600 trampoline playing this game and it it went from zero to 10 in an 688 00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:52,920 instant. Like they did. 689 00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,480 They just had a quick disagreement and one of them 690 00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:57,880 just hit 10 and raised their voice at the rest of their 691 00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:00,960 siblings. And that hit me between. 692 00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:03,400 Oh, guess where they learned that from? 693 00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:08,440 Yeah, that was me. That was that was me. 694 00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:13,120 So I think that's part of the warning here is is the modeling 695 00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:14,880 of that. I think the other part of the 696 00:42:14,880 --> 00:42:16,720 warning in avoid provoking them to anger. 697 00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:21,640 Discipline has to be done in love. 698 00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:24,080 Otherwise, I think it incites rebellion. 699 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:28,800 It, it's just going to become if, even if it's God's truth, 700 00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:32,600 even if it's God's laws, which are perfect and true and the 701 00:42:32,600 --> 00:42:36,720 blueprints for how we should live if they are given in such a 702 00:42:36,720 --> 00:42:40,960 rigid, disciplinary and authoritarian way without love, 703 00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:45,360 even as adults, we, we just naturally want to not do that, 704 00:42:45,360 --> 00:42:45,840 right? Nope. 705 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:48,800 That's that's oppressive. That sounds like a bad time. 706 00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:51,760 I don't, I don't need the man telling me what I can and can't 707 00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,280 do, right? Like that's that's just that's 708 00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:57,640 the provoke to anger. I think it's provoke to anger to 709 00:42:57,720 --> 00:43:00,720 the things of God even. Like if we do discipline in a 710 00:43:00,720 --> 00:43:03,840 non loving way they're just going to want to reject it all. 711 00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:07,200 Absolutely. And maybe, maybe they should. 712 00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:12,440 Because here's the thing. Any kind of discipline without 713 00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:16,880 love as the basis or background or impetus to it, that's just 714 00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:22,720 called punishment. And no, no, absolutely not. 715 00:43:23,720 --> 00:43:26,080 You know, because The thing is maybe, well, let's take the 716 00:43:26,080 --> 00:43:27,440 example. Your kid does something they 717 00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,520 weren't supposed to do. And you know, you fire off 718 00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:34,680 whether provoke, you know, you fire off and you say, oh, you're 719 00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:38,800 grounded for a week. OK, Was that punishment or was 720 00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:40,560 that discipline? Because I think there's a clear 721 00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:44,000 line there. Discipline is built to help 722 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:47,160 teach you because I love you and I and I want you to be better at 723 00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:50,040 this and I and I don't want you to make XYZ mistake. 724 00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:53,720 Punishment is just. I'm having a bad day. 725 00:43:53,720 --> 00:43:56,080 Care, I'm having a bad day and now you're going to get it. 726 00:43:56,640 --> 00:44:00,360 So I think like God disciplines and the Bible says God 727 00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:05,320 disciplines those whom he loves. Punishment is something totally 728 00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:07,400 different. And I think we punish when we 729 00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:08,920 let our anger get out of control. 730 00:44:09,240 --> 00:44:12,720 Yep. So and that comes back to first 731 00:44:12,720 --> 00:44:15,840 repenter too. Like if you, if you hit that 732 00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:20,680 level, OK, that happened, you need to go back and, and own 733 00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:24,800 that and, and say, OK, you, you were wrong. 734 00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:30,040 I was wrong. I, I acted wrongly in bringing 735 00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:33,920 this discipline to you. Will you forgive me for that? 736 00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:37,720 And and that's, that's going to go a long way to modeling that 737 00:44:37,720 --> 00:44:39,640 behavior in your in your children as well. 738 00:44:39,680 --> 00:44:43,920 As a as a man, as a husband, as a dad, that was one of the most 739 00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:47,520 powerful things that maybe, and I would have to ask my kids 740 00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:49,440 specifically, but that was probably one of the more 741 00:44:49,440 --> 00:44:52,920 powerful things that happened in my development as a Christian is 742 00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:58,440 being able to call myself out in front of them and not being so 743 00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,720 prideful and arrogant as to say, well, they had it coming and I 744 00:45:01,720 --> 00:45:04,200 don't need to apologize to them because it's their fault. 745 00:45:04,200 --> 00:45:06,920 I was like that anyway. OK, sure. 746 00:45:06,920 --> 00:45:11,480 Maybe the initial thing was, you know, something that they've 747 00:45:11,480 --> 00:45:16,480 done wrong. But my reaction, I'm, I'm the 748 00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:17,840 man. I'm supposed to be able to 749 00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:21,240 control that in some way and to bring them up and to show them 750 00:45:21,240 --> 00:45:25,720 what a man looks like who is not punishing because I'm angry, but 751 00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:29,240 disciplining because I love. And that was incredibly powerful 752 00:45:29,240 --> 00:45:32,680 in my life and my family's life. That's really good. 753 00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:38,720 First Corinthians 1613 and 14 is the is the last point men are to 754 00:45:38,720 --> 00:45:40,920 glorify God in strength and love. 755 00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,320 First Corinthians well first Corinthians can't say that word 756 00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:50,600 today. The Bible says no First 757 00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:54,200 Corinthians 1613 and 14 be watchful, stand firm in the 758 00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:59,120 faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in 759 00:45:59,240 --> 00:46:02,560 love. From this I derived men are to 760 00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:05,880 glorify God in strength and love. 761 00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:09,880 That's that's the ultimate purpose to glorify God. 762 00:46:10,640 --> 00:46:14,840 And I just wanted to share this reflection of just a quick 763 00:46:15,040 --> 00:46:17,880 experience that I had on our way down to Florida over spring 764 00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:19,720 break. We were driving through, I think 765 00:46:19,720 --> 00:46:25,880 it was Birmingham, AL, bigger metropolitan space, 55 lane wide 766 00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:30,560 highway. And we were, we weren't all the 767 00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:34,640 way over in the right lane, but there was a semi truck on the 768 00:46:34,640 --> 00:46:36,760 left and I and I was passing them. 769 00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:40,000 And just as I get to like the front of the semi truck, this 770 00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,720 car comes cutting across from our left across like they cut 771 00:46:43,720 --> 00:46:45,840 the semi off. They clearly didn't see we were 772 00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:50,120 there like, and it was a, it was a brake swerve sort of move at 773 00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:53,160 highway speeds. We're going 6065 miles an hour 774 00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:58,800 for sure. And in that moment, and there's 775 00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:02,040 lots of other, lots of other things that went through my 776 00:47:02,040 --> 00:47:04,720 head, I was, I mean, I was scared for an instant. 777 00:47:04,760 --> 00:47:07,200 I was reactive and defensive for an instant. 778 00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:13,600 Then I was just mad at the person that brought this threat 779 00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:17,240 into my life and with, with my family in tow and all these 780 00:47:17,240 --> 00:47:20,920 things. But it actually got me thinking 781 00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:24,000 about this verse. This is the this is the key 782 00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:27,080 verse for Joey Martin's stand firm and act like men book. 783 00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:33,720 So we we've gone through this backwards and forwards, but that 784 00:47:33,720 --> 00:47:37,520 that be watchful part. If I wasn't, if I wasn't alert 785 00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:44,280 and aware of what was happening in and around my family in that 786 00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:47,920 moment, I would not have been ready to react. 787 00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:53,040 If, if that car was sin or death, I mean quite literally in 788 00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:56,440 that moment, possibly death. But but if that was sin or 789 00:47:56,440 --> 00:48:00,680 death, wanting to assault, coming to assault, entering into 790 00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:08,440 the proximity of my family, how do I react as father, husband, 791 00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:12,560 shepherd of that household? Am I ready to react? 792 00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:16,440 Am I ready to? Am I watchful and I am I 793 00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:22,160 standing firm in those things to protect my family and am I, am I 794 00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:26,120 reacting rightly? Am I ready to react? 795 00:48:26,280 --> 00:48:28,880 Is, is basically what it was coming out for. 796 00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,320 So after I after I calmed down from that moment, like I had, I 797 00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:34,240 had some of those, I had some of those things. 798 00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:42,040 But guys, men, fathers perspective fathers, husbands, 799 00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:50,440 is there sin there threatening your family, threatening death, 800 00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:56,000 really on on your family? And it could be it doesn't even 801 00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:58,960 have to be your sin necessarily. Not that we ever have a sin 802 00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:00,760 really licked, but but I get that. 803 00:49:00,760 --> 00:49:03,160 There's seasons where it feels like no man, like there's not, 804 00:49:03,920 --> 00:49:07,760 there's not stuff hanging over me right now like I'm I'm good. 805 00:49:07,760 --> 00:49:10,840 We're in step of the spirit. This is things are good with the 806 00:49:10,840 --> 00:49:14,200 wife, good with the kids. Like it could be someone else's 807 00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:18,720 saying it could be a barreling car out of nowhere bringing sin 808 00:49:18,720 --> 00:49:23,120 and disaster to your household. Are you watchful? 809 00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,640 Are you ready to stand firm in opposition to that? 810 00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:29,440 Wow. You know, you, you made me think 811 00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,600 quite quickly. You know, if you're raising 812 00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,960 kids, for example, and maybe they're teenagers, do you know 813 00:49:35,960 --> 00:49:38,440 their friends? Not that you have to micromanage 814 00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:40,360 who they're friends with dads. But do you know? 815 00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:42,720 But do you know them? Do you know who they're hanging 816 00:49:42,720 --> 00:49:43,960 out with? Do you know that kind of stuff? 817 00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:46,600 Are you being watchful? Are you guarding their hearts 818 00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:50,640 from friends or potential boyfriends, girlfriends, all 819 00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:52,040 that kind of stuff? Are you watchful? 820 00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,480 Are you guarding their hearts? Are you doing that with your 821 00:49:55,200 --> 00:49:57,320 spouse? You know, are you watchful for 822 00:49:57,440 --> 00:50:01,280 how she comes home from work and what she kind of tells you about 823 00:50:01,280 --> 00:50:03,840 this boss or this Co worker? Like are you, are you watchful 824 00:50:03,840 --> 00:50:07,440 of their heart? And and that is as men, like we 825 00:50:07,440 --> 00:50:11,360 need to guard the hearts of our family pretty closely. 826 00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:13,600 Again, you're never a micromanager. 827 00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:15,960 You're not telling them necessarily what they can or 828 00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:17,680 can't do. Not necessarily. 829 00:50:17,680 --> 00:50:19,360 But I mean, like, are you watchful? 830 00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:22,840 Are you, are you the vigilant 1 standing firm for them? 831 00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:24,640 I hope so. Yeah, I hope so. 832 00:50:24,840 --> 00:50:27,400 Yeah, that's what we're it's what we're called to, 833 00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:31,840 definitely. So the actual Mere Mortal Monday 834 00:50:31,840 --> 00:50:36,960 takes some summing up the the sermon in one sentence, which 835 00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:39,920 isn't easy. But for for mere mortals this 836 00:50:39,920 --> 00:50:42,000 Monday, what was the point of this week? 837 00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:46,080 God's design for men is strength and love, courage and 838 00:50:46,080 --> 00:50:49,920 gentleness, work and worship. This is God's design. 839 00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:52,840 That's it. There. 840 00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:56,760 It is, yeah. That's all we've got for this 841 00:50:56,760 --> 00:51:00,760 week on the ERC leftovers. Thanks for hanging with us. 842 00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:05,040 Church next week, Biblical womanhood, Chris, going to take 843 00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:06,680 a crack at that. And. 844 00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:10,880 Pray for me. Yeah, no, it'll be great. 845 00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,280 It'll be stated. It'll be stated humbly, if 846 00:51:13,280 --> 00:51:16,120 anything. Terribly humbly, yes. 847 00:51:16,320 --> 00:51:20,280 Yeah, lots of things coming up in church life. 848 00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:22,760 The month of May is packed with a confirmation Sunday and 849 00:51:22,760 --> 00:51:25,400 Mother's Day and graduation Sunday as well. 850 00:51:25,760 --> 00:51:29,120 So lots of things coming up. Family bingo this Friday. 851 00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:31,600 Oh yeah. Yeah, we love doing life and 852 00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:33,960 community with you all. Church, if you would like to 853 00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:38,560 join a life group, please find Kristen or Lissa at the 854 00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:40,840 Connection Center on Sunday mornings and we can get you 855 00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:44,600 connected with community outside of just Sunday mornings. 856 00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:47,640 We'd love for you to be known. The New to ERC Luncheon is 857 00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:50,920 coming up this Sunday as well. If you feel like you're new or 858 00:51:50,920 --> 00:51:55,120 just we don't know you and you would like us to know you come 859 00:51:55,120 --> 00:52:00,240 to the New to ERC Luncheon after church this Sunday, April 19th. 860 00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:03,200 We'd love to see you there. Until then, have a blessed week.