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Welcome to the New Manager 
Podcast. 

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I'm your host, Kim Nicoll. 
Hello and welcome. 

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I'm glad you're here and I hope 
you're doing well. 

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Last week I attended a 
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It was the California Conference
for Women and it was held in 

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Santa Clara, CA, which is about 
45 minutes of driving from where

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I live in San Francisco when 
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When there is traffic, it can 
easily be twice that amount of 

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time, maybe a little longer, but
I share this because it was such

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an incredible experience. 
It was just one day and there 

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were amazing speakers and there 
were incredible attendees. 

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And the reason I was there was 
to participate in what they had 

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designated to be the Coaches 
Corner. 

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And the conference organizers 
partnered with the local chapter

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of ICF, the International 
Coaches Federation, which I am a

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part of. 
And so myself and maybe 20 other

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coaches were there to offer free
coaching to whoever dropped in. 

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Each session was about 20 
minutes, and I have to tell you,

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people were lined up the entire 
day. 

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I coached as many folks as I 
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It turned out to be about 16 
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And it was incredible. 
The energy of the group, the 

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energy and the inspiration of 
the speakers. 

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And it was so much fun to be 
both with some of my coach peers

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and have some professional 
collaboration and connection 

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with them. 
And it was also a lot of fun to 

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be available to offer these 20 
minute coaching sessions on any 

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topic at all. 
Career, life, leadership, you 

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know, managing like what all of 
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And it made me really think 
about the importance of choosing

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to put yourself in rooms with 
people that will both inspire 

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you and help you to see things a
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And also the importance of 
gathering with others in your 

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industry. 
And gathering with others where 

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you get to exercise the gifts 
and talents and perspective that

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you have gained in the course of
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Because doing that feels really 
good and it will get you out of 

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both kind of being in the weeds 
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It will give you a bigger 
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at who you are, what you do, 
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And I think that now, as you 
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the world is opening up a bit 
more, I think there's also a 

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just a hunger for the community 
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person sharing space together. 
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beautiful full experience of it 
and it made me want to remind 

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you that you you want to choose 
that for yourself as well. 

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And it might require looking for
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industry events, the kinds of 
professional communities where 

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you will find that connection 
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But it's so, so important. 
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topics that came up quite a bit,
especially as folks were asking 

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me about job changing, so people
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career progression. 
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the next step in the career, 
stepping into higher levels of 

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leadership, how to navigate the 
internal ecosystem of promotions

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and managers, And you know all 
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works. 
One of the recurrent themes that

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came up was about the importance
of networking and we were at a 

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conference, so that was also a 
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But I had found myself having 
quite a few conversations about 

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this and I wanted to share this 
with you too. 

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Also, I will be at the Transform
Conference in Las Vegas in about

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a week. 
We'll be there from, let's see, 

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March 11th to the 13th. 
So if you happen to be at that 

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conference too, because it's all
about transforming the 

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workplace, how we work together,
people and culture, all of that,

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then let me know because it 
would be so much fun to meet up 

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in person and have some of these
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But when you are thinking about 
growing your network, I want to 

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take some time today to talk 
about why you would do that and 

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also how. 
And if you are a person who's a 

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little bit more of an introvert 
or a little bit more reserved, 

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then this is especially for you.
Because what we tend to do when 

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we're not that excited about a 
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Whether it's having a difficult 
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event and meeting people or 
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establish a relationship with 
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expanding relationships, 
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If that feels uncomfortable to 
you in any way, there's a good 

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chance you will avoid it. 
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over time because so much of how
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that you will find new job 
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opportunities and not just for 
you, but you might find yourself

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in a position of needing to hire
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And the more active and robust 
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have resources of folks to reach
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being able to simply, you know, 
pass along, Hey, this is who 

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we're looking for. 
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know, collaborative opportunity 
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It will be to your benefit to 
recognize that you are not an 

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independent individual kind of 
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But whether you realize it or 
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community and you can become 
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to Foster and nurture 
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community. 
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creates the increased likelihood
that you will thrive in your 

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career and life, but also that 
the community of which you are a

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part can also thrive because of 
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engagement there. 
So why you want to grow your 

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network? 
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just the people that you know, 
you know like why you want to be

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mindful of growing. 
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access to new perspectives, to 
fresh ideas, to different 

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opportunities both for yourself 
like if you are looking for your

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next career step, your next 
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But also as I mentioned before, 
you might have an opportunity 

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that you are looking to give to 
someone or to connect somebody 

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with. 
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network helps you to do that 
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And also in kind of also very 
selfish perspective, it it will 

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give you a better experience, 
like you'll just have a more 

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enjoyable quality of life and 
quality of work when you have 

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this sense of connection with 
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It's one of the things that 
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the world, to help us feel less 
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challenges. 
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of those that we see all of the 
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But having that connection, that
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valuable, so important to do 
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And if you think about it 
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part of your life, you have some
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the way the education system 
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through our education and our 
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more intentional effort in order
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maintain some of these 
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So that's why you'd want to do 
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relationships that you already 
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Now, if you are like me and 
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years, some of those friendships
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little stagnant. 
It is OK to choose today to 

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reignite and re engage in some 
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relationships. 
That's part of what I've been 

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working on too. 
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reconnecting with folks that I 
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different folks that I've known 
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conversations around. 
Hey, it's been a while. 

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I'm sure there's a lot that's 
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too. 
Would you like to have a catch 

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up call? 
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you know, it could be 15 
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It could be 20 minutes, but 
simply inviting someone, saying,

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hey, it's been a while. 
I'm so curious to hear what 

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you've been up to, how you're 
doing, having that invitation to

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connect and have a conversation 
that can be a very simple way of

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engaging with your current 
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And when I say that, what I mean
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adding this quality of attention
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It feels good when someone says,
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how are you doing? 
I'd love to hear what you're up 

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to these days. 
Like it can be just that simple,

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that kind of human connection. 
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this to you before, but I also 
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I think in my mind it is the 
best platform out there if 

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you're interested in meditation 
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mindfulness at work and life and
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myself space to speak and teach 
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and how that affects us in our 
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And last week in the talk that I
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focused on how the quality of 
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most valuable things that you 
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And in any relationship, whether
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friendship or a colleague or a 
work relationship or with your 

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clients, the quality of your 
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And so it doesn't have to feel 
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think about, oh, I have to add 
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sounds so transactional. 
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very human level, it's simply 
the willingness and the 

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intention to bring a quality of 
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interested in them, this desire 
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and hearing what they're up to. 
If you work in similar fields or

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in similar industry, you can ask
the question of I'd love to hear

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what you're seeing in our 
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I'd love to compare notes with 
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I'd love to chat with you about 
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what what you're seeing in in 
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value because your perspective 
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different. 
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you know what are we seeing And 
that additional perspective adds

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value to that other person as 
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big, things move really fast. 
It's rather impossible to know 

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everything about everything. 
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it like you get to learn and 
hold up perspective from your 

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corner of the world, and then 
you get to connect with and 

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share that with someone else and
they may find it really 

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valuable. 
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The same way that them sharing 
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they're doing it and what 
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might also really help 
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So just by being who you are in 
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attention, the perspective that 
you have, those are two very 

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valuable things. 
And that's what you can think 

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about, you know, when you're 
wanting to engage with your 

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network. 
So valuing the connections and 

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the relationships that you have 
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gotten a little bit neglected, 
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You can always reach out and 
just say, hey, I was thinking of

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you, I would love to know what 
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Would you like to schedule a 
catch up call or a virtual 

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coffee something, something you 
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light? 
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how you'd like to grow your 
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And this is really good, 
especially if you're thinking 

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about making a little bit of a 
pivot in your career or if 

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you're, you know, considering 
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something slightly different or 
maybe I want to go into a 

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different industry or a 
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If you're sort of, you know, re 
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and thinking about what else is 
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you find out what it's like and 
what's out there and how you 

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might make your way there. 
You can always start looking for

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people you'd like to connect 
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LinkedIn makes this really easy.
You can look for people in 

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different specific organizations
or industries, or with certain 

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job titles and responsibilities,
and you can simply send a cold 

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e-mail. 
Hi, we haven't met, but I saw 

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this about your profile and I 
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Would you be interested? 
Would you be open to having a 

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brief conversation? 
I'd love to hear more about what

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you do, how you got there. 
You know what you're seeing in, 

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you know XY and Z. 
It can be that simple. 

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The one thing you'll have to get
over is the fear of bothering 

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people. 
If that's something that's 

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pretty active for you, remember 
that they can always just say no

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or ignore you, so that's OK. 
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tired. 
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inbox. 
Everyone is like, oh right back,

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back to the grind. 
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send them a note saying, hey, it
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conference. 
I'd love to chat a bit more and 

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learn more about you. 
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continue the conversation about 
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Would you like to have a virtual
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that, you know, it can be so 
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a conference to connect with 
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never go back. 
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Like in make this part of your 
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you'll follow up with them, 
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conversation to learn more about
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you're doing, who you are. 
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work situation where you feel a 
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take ourselves for granted if 
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industry, the work, the world is
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Just because like just because 
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motivate you or to remind you 
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It's OK to say, hey, would you 
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invite you to a conversation if 
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to and to make it super easy. 
This is why I started doing is I

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love Calendly. 
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anything, but I just love the, I
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to do is I now create this like 
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minute conversation and I'll 
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find a time for that works and 
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at this conference or we were 
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when I see that calendar invite,
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this is How I Met this person. 
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human, you're very intelligent. 
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forgetful. 
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you meet people just by having 
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right into the calendar invite. 
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You know the how of building 
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When you're at a conference or 
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someone, simply ask them 
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connect on LinkedIn? 
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starting point and then the 
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It was great meeting you at this
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Love to hear more about XY and Z
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relationship and network. 
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this in your own life. 
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That you're not just building 
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organization, but you can also 
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organization. 
Especially if you work in a very

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large organization. 
Be curious about what other 

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Just get to know who people are,
what they do, what they care 

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about, what makes their job 
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to do next in their career. 
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other people from this place. 
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easiest but one of the most 
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if you're in a leadership role, 
it becomes very useful to have a

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well nurtured network. 
The higher you go, the more you 

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want to have relationships with 
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opportunities. 
Insights like that will be a 

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good thing for you to have. 
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Do not limit yourself to people 

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of your same generation. 
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network in both directions with 
folks who are older than you and

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with folks who are younger than 
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different perspective, different
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about what they're seeing and 
the resources that they find 

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useful. 
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It's so great to have people 
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the generation above and the 
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So make sure that you do that. 
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share with you today. 
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the conference I attended last 
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My handle there is at Coach Kim 
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I am still in my 30 day 
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I am posting every day. 
I have to say I'm a little bit 

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proud that I am continuing to 
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It's a little bit different for 
me, but you know, we're learning

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So you can see some of the video
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TikTok. 
If you want to connect with me 

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on more of the meditation 
mindfulness front, then you're 

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going to want to find my profile
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I'll see if I can add that into 
the show notes as well and if 

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you want to work with me 
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If you're looking for 
leadership, coaching, career, 

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communication, life questions, 
like all of it, come and talk to

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me. 
Book a consult. 

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I will be taking new clients and
I'd love to talk with you about 

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what your goals are and help you
understand your options with my 

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coaching engagements. 
So link to that is in the show 

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notes or just go to 
kimnickel.com. 

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All right, that's it for me 
today. 

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Have a great one and I will talk
to you next time. 

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When you're more effective at 
work, you're happier in your 

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life, and when you're happier in
your life, you're more effective

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at work. 
I can help. 

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Go to my website kimnickel.com 
and sign up for a coaching 

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consult.