1 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:07,600 Welcome to the new manager podcast. 2 00:00:07,700 --> 00:00:18,800 I'm your host, Kim nickel. Hello, and welcome back. 3 00:00:19,300 --> 00:00:23,900 I am recording this episode on New Year's Eve. 4 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:28,000 Well, actually New Year's Eve day and so I'm feeling very 5 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,900 reflective and I'm thinking about life and career in this 6 00:00:31,900 --> 00:00:35,500 very holistic, full circle, big picture way. 7 00:00:35,700 --> 00:00:42,100 And so today I want to talk with you about self-care and why that 8 00:00:42,100 --> 00:00:49,000 matters as a leader and as a manager and initially they might 9 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:54,000 seem like different things, but they're not, because I can tell 10 00:00:54,000 --> 00:01:00,800 you with a high degree of certainty that you will be a 11 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:05,700 better person to work with. You will make better decisions, 12 00:01:06,100 --> 00:01:10,300 you will have more patience. You will communicate more 13 00:01:10,300 --> 00:01:13,800 effectively. And in general, be a more 14 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:19,200 effective and enjoyable person at work when you are taking care 15 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:24,200 of yourself. And there are four specific 16 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:28,400 categories of self-care that I'm going to share with you today to 17 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:33,200 help organize how to think about this, as well as how to 18 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:37,900 implement and put into practice some kind of self-care that 19 00:01:37,900 --> 00:01:42,400 works for you. So let's start with the 20 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:47,100 physical, the physical body, because you're human, you have a 21 00:01:47,100 --> 00:01:55,100 physical body and your physical body needs sleep or rest. 22 00:01:55,900 --> 00:02:04,600 It needs to eat and it needs to move the very most basic level 23 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,700 your physical body needs. These three things, it needs to 24 00:02:07,700 --> 00:02:09,300 rest. It needs to eat it. 25 00:02:09,500 --> 00:02:13,300 Needs to move. And a lot of times at work, we 26 00:02:13,300 --> 00:02:17,100 spend a lot of hours inside sitting down. 27 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:21,400 We completely forget that our body needs to move, we end up 28 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:24,200 getting kind of collapsed forward and hunched down 29 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:27,000 especially if we do. A lot of sitting work, a lot of 30 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:29,800 work on our computers and I know a lot of us do. 31 00:02:30,500 --> 00:02:33,000 We don't always eat well, sometimes we eat too many 32 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:34,600 snacks. Sometimes we just eat. 33 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,300 What's convenient? Sometimes we just eat at our 34 00:02:37,300 --> 00:02:39,400 desk, we don't really appreciate it. 35 00:02:39,500 --> 00:02:43,600 Joy and and taste the food or we eat for a very emotional 36 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:45,500 reasons, we're really stressed out. 37 00:02:45,500 --> 00:02:50,000 So we eat a lot of whatever makes us feel better or we drink 38 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:54,400 because that's a way of soothing our nerves or of connecting with 39 00:02:54,400 --> 00:02:57,900 friends or it's just part of the professional culture, that's 40 00:02:57,900 --> 00:03:00,600 what you do with your work colleagues as you go, have a 41 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,700 drink and a lot of times we don't sleep. 42 00:03:03,700 --> 00:03:08,100 Well, if there's a lot on your mind, you might not sleep. 43 00:03:08,100 --> 00:03:10,800 Well, if your brain doesn't Doesn't turn off and you keep 44 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:13,600 thinking thinking, thinking about this problem, we don't 45 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:17,200 sleep well. And so all of those things can 46 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:21,200 combine into you making, you know, just not great decisions 47 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,100 or being difficult to work with or just not feeling your best. 48 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:28,700 So I want you to take a moment and, you know, because I'm 49 00:03:28,700 --> 00:03:32,000 recording this and it's New Years that cusp of changing 50 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,100 years. It's such a nice time to pause 51 00:03:34,100 --> 00:03:38,200 and reflect and notice what are the different ways that you 52 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:41,200 already do. Good job of taking care of your 53 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:45,700 physical self and I don't mean, you know, you don't have to go 54 00:03:45,700 --> 00:03:48,800 to the gym, you don't have to change you know, do anything 55 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:52,100 crazy with your diet? Just acknowledge and give 56 00:03:52,100 --> 00:03:54,900 yourself credit for. How do you currently take care 57 00:03:54,900 --> 00:04:00,800 of yourself and as if you really cared about your body like as if 58 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:05,000 you really enjoyed and appreciated having a physical 59 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:09,300 body that lets you move through the world and be a human. 60 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:14,400 So notice what you do to support your physical body and your 61 00:04:14,700 --> 00:04:18,200 self-care there. And then just think what is one 62 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:23,500 or two things that you can do to help improve or to help care 63 00:04:23,500 --> 00:04:28,200 even more for yourself and maybe it's around sleep, maybe you're 64 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:32,400 not getting enough of it, or maybe you're not getting a nice 65 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,100 quality of sleep. Maybe it's interrupted a lot. 66 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:39,300 Maybe there's something you can do differently in your ear. 67 00:04:39,500 --> 00:04:42,700 Dang, that will help you have more energy, and just feel 68 00:04:42,700 --> 00:04:47,400 better in yourself. Maybe there's something around 69 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:52,000 your movement, maybe going to a dance class or going for a walk, 70 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:56,200 or, you know, finding some kind of physical. 71 00:04:57,300 --> 00:05:00,200 Aliveness. That lets Your Body Move would 72 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:03,700 feel better. So that's our first level 73 00:05:03,900 --> 00:05:07,200 physical body and its really, it's one of those things that 74 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:10,500 seems very simple and very obvious But it can be really 75 00:05:10,500 --> 00:05:16,700 easy to neglect our physical self and it can also be really 76 00:05:16,700 --> 00:05:21,600 easy to think unkind thoughts about our physical body. 77 00:05:22,100 --> 00:05:24,900 You might not know about that, you not, you might not know this 78 00:05:24,900 --> 00:05:28,400 about me yet, but I have also been a yoga and teacher a 79 00:05:28,400 --> 00:05:31,200 fitness instructor. And so I've done a lot of work 80 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:35,000 with people's bodies, and with movement, and I've also done a 81 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:39,300 lot of dance in my life as well. So I understand very well, the 82 00:05:39,500 --> 00:05:47,000 Practice of being in extreme scrutiny of oneself of looking 83 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:51,000 at yourself in a mirror or just in your mind's eye and thinking, 84 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:54,500 oh, all of these things about me are are not okay, or my life 85 00:05:54,500 --> 00:05:56,800 would be better if my body was different. 86 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:58,800 Or if there was something different about my physical 87 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:02,600 being and it can be really settle, it can be very 88 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:06,100 persistent and sometimes we don't even notice it, because 89 00:06:06,100 --> 00:06:10,100 our logical brain is like, but your body would be You know, 90 00:06:10,100 --> 00:06:12,300 your life would be better if your body is different. 91 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:16,300 I just want to invite you to consider the possibility to just 92 00:06:16,300 --> 00:06:18,600 take yourself, like, give yourself a break. 93 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:22,100 You've got a physical body. That's awesome. 94 00:06:22,300 --> 00:06:27,300 And so much of our work life, we can completely disconnect from 95 00:06:27,700 --> 00:06:33,200 what we need, we can completely deprioritize our own physical 96 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:40,200 well-being and There's another way and it's just starts by 97 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:42,800 noticing and by caring. So that's our first level, 98 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:48,200 physical body, rest feed yourself, move yourself as you 99 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:51,200 care for yourself. It makes you better and how you 100 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:54,300 think and how you show up for others, okay. 101 00:06:54,600 --> 00:07:00,100 Second level is our emotional body, our emotional well-being, 102 00:07:00,500 --> 00:07:05,200 our emotional care and that is the part of you that wants 103 00:07:05,200 --> 00:07:09,900 connection with other The part that wants Community or friends 104 00:07:09,900 --> 00:07:12,800 or family. It's the part that wants to be 105 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:16,100 with somebody else and feel like, wow, this person really 106 00:07:16,100 --> 00:07:18,800 gets me. I can be myself with them. 107 00:07:19,100 --> 00:07:23,600 I feel accepted and loved and cared for and appreciated. 108 00:07:23,700 --> 00:07:28,300 We all need that humans. We are social creatures. 109 00:07:28,300 --> 00:07:32,600 We are wired for connecting and being in relationship with 110 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,900 others. And when we don't do a good job 111 00:07:35,900 --> 00:07:39,600 of caring for For those relationships then our quality 112 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:44,600 of life goes down and it also makes us less effective at work. 113 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:49,200 And I have a friend who was going through a really tough 114 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:54,300 time at work and was not doing a good job of leading her team and 115 00:07:54,300 --> 00:07:58,100 actually got called into HR and had a talk with her because she 116 00:07:58,100 --> 00:08:02,300 wasn't doing a very good job and people were very unhappy and 117 00:08:02,300 --> 00:08:05,200 they didn't like the way that she was leading and said, hey, 118 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,600 you got to turn this around? This isn't working. 119 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:10,800 We've been getting some complaints about you and it 120 00:08:10,800 --> 00:08:13,100 brought her up short. She thought, oh my gosh, like, 121 00:08:13,100 --> 00:08:17,600 what's going on? And after a moment of 122 00:08:17,600 --> 00:08:23,100 reflection, she realized that the issue was not so much her, 123 00:08:23,300 --> 00:08:28,000 her work situation like the real issue going on for her was that 124 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:33,299 her marriage was falling apart. And she was putting all of her 125 00:08:33,299 --> 00:08:37,000 emotional energy and to dealing with her relationship, And her 126 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:41,200 marriage that when she came to work, she had no patience for 127 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:46,400 anyone. She was very impatient and she 128 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:52,100 was very Curt with people and she wasn't bringing any energy 129 00:08:52,100 --> 00:08:55,100 into the relationship and the way that she communicated at 130 00:08:55,100 --> 00:09:00,100 work because she felt completely depleted because of everything 131 00:09:00,100 --> 00:09:01,700 that was happening in her personal life. 132 00:09:02,600 --> 00:09:08,400 So for you to, as a human, the way that your relationships are 133 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:13,300 in the whole of your life, will really affect the way you're 134 00:09:13,300 --> 00:09:16,900 able to be in relationship with people at work. 135 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:21,000 And so, in terms of self-care, what I want you to think about 136 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:25,300 is, who are the people and what are the relationships that 137 00:09:25,300 --> 00:09:31,900 really leave you feeling relaxed and energized and cared for 138 00:09:32,100 --> 00:09:36,000 like, Who are the people that you really enjoy spending time 139 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:42,000 with and if you are in a place where you realized, wow, I have 140 00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:46,700 completely neglected my friendships or maybe I've moved 141 00:09:46,700 --> 00:09:49,700 it to a new city or I'm in a new place where I don't feel like I 142 00:09:49,700 --> 00:09:52,600 have strong friendships then that's going to be a really 143 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:58,800 strong call to you to begin to tend to and prioritize. 144 00:09:59,700 --> 00:10:04,000 Those friendships, those relationships, bringing more 145 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:10,000 care and putting more creating more room for that part of your 146 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:15,400 life to be healthy and happy and robust and thriving and you 147 00:10:15,408 --> 00:10:18,500 might also think of two and your professional life and at work 148 00:10:19,300 --> 00:10:23,500 who are the people that you feel have your back? 149 00:10:23,900 --> 00:10:26,200 Who are the people that you feel? 150 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:29,100 Appreciate you and the work that you do. 151 00:10:29,500 --> 00:10:33,000 Who are the people that you enjoy working with who are the 152 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:38,000 people, that you genuinely feel like, oh, this person gets me. 153 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:41,400 I really enjoy this person. Who are those people? 154 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:46,400 And if there are none of those people in your life at work, 155 00:10:46,500 --> 00:10:50,100 that's also a really strong signal to pay attention and 156 00:10:50,100 --> 00:10:53,500 start to ask, okay, like, what is going on here? 157 00:10:54,500 --> 00:10:59,100 Is this a place I want to be? Or are there people who I think 158 00:10:59,100 --> 00:11:02,200 could be Friends at and I have not reached out to that person, 159 00:11:02,200 --> 00:11:04,500 or I have not made myself available to that. 160 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:09,100 So care for your emotional well-being, notice the 161 00:11:09,100 --> 00:11:13,300 relationships and the people that really fill you, that 162 00:11:13,300 --> 00:11:19,800 really let you feel connected and a part of something good, in 163 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:24,000 your relationship and choose. How can you nurture? 164 00:11:24,300 --> 00:11:27,500 And create more connection more time with those people. 165 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:32,400 And also, So notice our is there someone or are there people in 166 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:36,700 your life who really diminish or get in the way of that 167 00:11:36,700 --> 00:11:39,300 well-being? Is there, is there someone that 168 00:11:39,300 --> 00:11:42,900 you are in constant conflict? With is there. 169 00:11:42,900 --> 00:11:48,200 Someone who really disrupts or really creates a great feeling 170 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:52,800 of self-doubt, or frustration or anger in your life and just be 171 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:56,700 aware, like, where is that? Who are those people? 172 00:11:57,000 --> 00:12:00,700 And then you start to start Begin to ask yourself. 173 00:12:00,700 --> 00:12:03,800 Okay. How can I engage with those 174 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:07,100 people if I have to, but in a way that's not going to get 175 00:12:07,100 --> 00:12:10,600 under my skin and keep me up at night and really take up all of 176 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:14,400 my time so that second level emotional body. 177 00:12:15,500 --> 00:12:17,100 Okay? Third level. 178 00:12:17,100 --> 00:12:23,400 That is our intellectual body or our analytical and thinking mind 179 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:29,300 and your mind wants to learn. It wants to grow. 180 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:35,100 Row it wants to play. And the play aspect is often 181 00:12:35,100 --> 00:12:39,400 what we lose sight of when we are in a state of high pressure 182 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:41,900 and high stress and achievement and work. 183 00:12:42,300 --> 00:12:47,100 When our mind gets to activated in the analytical space, that's 184 00:12:47,100 --> 00:12:49,600 when we can become really obsessive. 185 00:12:49,700 --> 00:12:53,500 And that feeling of you're always working, even when you're 186 00:12:53,500 --> 00:12:57,300 not at work, you never feel like you have time away and it feels 187 00:12:57,300 --> 00:13:02,000 burdensome and it feels like it's It's this looming, entity 188 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:06,200 that you can't get away from. So the thing that helps to shift 189 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:09,800 that is bringing a little bit of playfulness into it. 190 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:14,100 Bringing a little curiosity into it because that will still let 191 00:13:14,100 --> 00:13:19,100 your mind, be awake and active, but it creates a little bit more 192 00:13:19,100 --> 00:13:24,200 space, so it doesn't feel like you're being crowded by your 193 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:30,000 thoughts. It allows you to be open and to 194 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:34,500 feel comfortable, not having all of the answers and that can be 195 00:13:34,500 --> 00:13:37,900 really challenging because in our work life, very often, we 196 00:13:37,900 --> 00:13:41,900 feel like I'm supposed to have the answers or my job is to 197 00:13:41,900 --> 00:13:45,700 solve all the problems and the truth is, sometimes there's not 198 00:13:45,700 --> 00:13:50,900 a straight solution, there's not an answer, there's not this kind 199 00:13:50,900 --> 00:13:53,100 of, you know, magical answer. Key. 200 00:13:53,100 --> 00:13:55,900 There's just challenges and complexity. 201 00:13:56,100 --> 00:13:59,300 Tease and nuanced and imperfect information, and imperfect 202 00:13:59,300 --> 00:14:02,400 timing. And all of these other Dynamic 203 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:06,500 elements that you're really in this Dynamic relationship with. 204 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:13,600 So giving your mind the space and the permission to not know 205 00:14:13,900 --> 00:14:17,800 to not have an answer to not need to solve something and 206 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:22,600 still be relaxed and okay. And let yourself be engaged in 207 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:26,000 the act of play and curiosity that can help bring. 208 00:14:26,100 --> 00:14:30,200 That mindspace into balance and that's often why there are so 209 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:34,200 many stories about people having these brilliant, aha moments 210 00:14:34,400 --> 00:14:38,700 when they are out for a walk, or they are in the shower or they 211 00:14:38,700 --> 00:14:41,700 wake up from sleep. It's because they've let their 212 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:47,100 thinking analytical mind, relax, a little bit and take a step 213 00:14:47,100 --> 00:14:51,000 away from the problem or the question that they've become 214 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:54,600 obsessed with. And when they start to let their 215 00:14:54,800 --> 00:14:57,400 mind. Look at Elsewhere and they start 216 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,300 to engage their body or do something sort of different, 217 00:15:00,500 --> 00:15:04,500 that's when new ideas and solutions and possible path 218 00:15:04,500 --> 00:15:06,900 start to emerge. So there you go. 219 00:15:07,300 --> 00:15:12,700 Oh and the other thing is have a curiosity about what you want to 220 00:15:12,700 --> 00:15:17,700 learn because that desire to learn and grow and become 221 00:15:17,700 --> 00:15:22,000 masterful at something. Also is really healthy for your 222 00:15:22,000 --> 00:15:24,800 own well-being. And it's nice way of caring for 223 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:28,000 yourself. You know, none of us like to 224 00:15:28,000 --> 00:15:32,600 Plateau or become complacent or just level out and not have 225 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:35,600 anything new to learn, we start to get bored and that's not 226 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:39,200 funny either. So in your life let there be 227 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:43,200 something that you're interested in learning about and it might 228 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:45,500 have nothing to do with your work. 229 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:48,500 Maybe you want to learn a new language or maybe you want to 230 00:15:48,500 --> 00:15:53,700 learn to cook or maybe you want to learn like a new like kind of 231 00:15:53,700 --> 00:15:58,000 style of dance or a sport or Circus Arts. 232 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:02,500 It could be anything but your life will be much more enriched 233 00:16:02,500 --> 00:16:07,300 when you have something that you're enjoying learning about 234 00:16:07,300 --> 00:16:11,100 and very often when we are in a state of learning and we get to 235 00:16:11,100 --> 00:16:16,900 be in that student mindset. Again, we can also gain insights 236 00:16:16,900 --> 00:16:23,000 and ideas that will then help us in our work situation because we 237 00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:28,100 get a fresh perspective. We get New analogy and need like 238 00:16:28,100 --> 00:16:31,400 all of life becomes a metaphor that you can then bring as 239 00:16:31,400 --> 00:16:34,500 leverage and tools into your workplace. 240 00:16:34,900 --> 00:16:37,000 So find something that you want to learn. 241 00:16:37,700 --> 00:16:41,100 Give yourself not just the permission but really allow the 242 00:16:41,100 --> 00:16:46,400 encouragement to continue to learn and grow so self care of 243 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:50,300 your mind State. Oh and if you have a mind that 244 00:16:50,300 --> 00:16:54,900 also is very very overactive and you can't sleep at night or you 245 00:16:54,900 --> 00:16:57,400 wake up at 3:00 in the morning. Earning and you can't go back to 246 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:01,400 bed because your mind is really obsessing over its thoughts or 247 00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:04,200 you're worried about work. You have a lot of anxiety. 248 00:17:05,099 --> 00:17:09,500 That is also where meditation which I am, of course, a huge 249 00:17:09,500 --> 00:17:14,599 fan of and teach on separately that can become really useful to 250 00:17:14,900 --> 00:17:18,300 and there are lots of resources for meditation and how to go 251 00:17:18,300 --> 00:17:20,300 about that. We can talk about that more in 252 00:17:20,300 --> 00:17:25,000 another day but care for your mind and how it learns and how 253 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:28,800 it rests and It likes to be engaged and playful. 254 00:17:29,900 --> 00:17:33,200 All right. Now, fourth lover level of 255 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:37,500 well-being and a self care is about your spiritual body. 256 00:17:37,900 --> 00:17:43,400 And by that, I mean it is your awareness that you are part of 257 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:49,100 something much bigger than just yourself and your own life and 258 00:17:49,100 --> 00:17:55,600 that can be a sense of you are a part of life on the planet that 259 00:17:55,600 --> 00:18:00,800 you are part of a bigger cause or purpose or Mission, it can be 260 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:05,900 related to your sense of Legacy. Can be related to your sense of 261 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:09,700 what you want to contribute and leave on the planet. 262 00:18:09,800 --> 00:18:13,100 It's this awareness that you get to be alive for just a little 263 00:18:13,100 --> 00:18:16,700 bit of time. And what would you like to do 264 00:18:16,700 --> 00:18:20,400 and what would you like to experience with the time that 265 00:18:20,400 --> 00:18:26,800 you have on the planet? For some of us for me too, it 266 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:29,500 can be really easy when you're just trying to get through the 267 00:18:29,508 --> 00:18:33,200 day or when you're just focused on the month or the quarter, it 268 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:37,500 can be easy to lose sight of that big picture and your 269 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:41,600 self-care around. Your spiritual self is when you 270 00:18:41,600 --> 00:18:46,700 pause and you take a step back and you say, wow, I really have 271 00:18:46,700 --> 00:18:49,800 a perspective that whatever it is that I'm struggling with 272 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,700 right now. I'm really part of something 273 00:18:52,700 --> 00:18:56,300 bigger and this is just one. Moment in a series of moments, 274 00:18:56,300 --> 00:19:00,600 of my life. For me, one of the things that 275 00:19:00,600 --> 00:19:03,100 connects me to that sense of purpose. 276 00:19:03,100 --> 00:19:08,700 And that sense of perspective is spending time in nature, I live 277 00:19:08,700 --> 00:19:11,900 in San Francisco, and I'm fortunate that we have some 278 00:19:11,900 --> 00:19:16,600 beautiful Parks here and that I can also drive to the coast and 279 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:22,700 go for a walk along the beach and to be near the ocean to be 280 00:19:22,700 --> 00:19:26,800 near that. He Huge sky and to really feel 281 00:19:26,800 --> 00:19:33,300 so small. Like I'm just one tiny person in 282 00:19:33,300 --> 00:19:37,900 front of this enormous ocean beneath this incredible Sky. 283 00:19:37,900 --> 00:19:44,100 If you've ever spent time in a garden or a forest, and I grew 284 00:19:44,100 --> 00:19:49,500 up in Santa Cruz in the hills, in these Redwood forests among 285 00:19:49,500 --> 00:19:53,200 all of these ancient redwood trees and these trees are so 286 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:57,000 tall and they are So old, they've been around for hundreds 287 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:01,300 of years and to stand beside one of these redwood trees, and to 288 00:20:01,300 --> 00:20:04,600 just look up and not even be able to see the top of it. 289 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:10,700 It really is very humbling and it really reminds me of this 290 00:20:10,900 --> 00:20:18,300 bigger sense of scale. It lets me connect and feel just 291 00:20:18,300 --> 00:20:22,400 a little bit, both more relaxed. But also this sense of I want to 292 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:25,200 live my life in a way that that feels meaningful. 293 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:29,900 And when I lose track of what that is for me, then things get 294 00:20:29,900 --> 00:20:33,000 really hard. It gets really easy to lose 295 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:38,300 oneself and The Daily Grind or in the demands that are coming 296 00:20:38,300 --> 00:20:42,200 in Non-Stop. But connecting with that sense 297 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:46,700 of spiritual nests that sense of I get to be here for a little 298 00:20:46,700 --> 00:20:49,800 while. I want to make this as wonderful 299 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:53,700 and learning full and useful and experiences. 300 00:20:53,700 --> 00:20:57,700 I And that will also really help. 301 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:08,700 So when you tend to your own self care, when you treat 302 00:21:08,700 --> 00:21:12,700 yourself like a friend, like someone you care about when you 303 00:21:12,708 --> 00:21:16,900 become your own life partner, in this sense of you are aware of 304 00:21:16,900 --> 00:21:21,700 and care about your physical well-being, you are aware of and 305 00:21:21,700 --> 00:21:26,300 care about your emotional. Oh well, being you are aware of 306 00:21:26,300 --> 00:21:29,400 and you care about your intellectual well-being. 307 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:34,300 And your mind State you are aware of and you care about your 308 00:21:34,300 --> 00:21:40,200 spiritual well-being. When you tend to all of these 309 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:46,300 levels of yourself, All of the ways that you are alive and a 310 00:21:46,300 --> 00:21:53,100 human. You can then Step Into Your Role 311 00:21:53,100 --> 00:22:00,500 at work as a manager, as a leader, as a Riri whole human. 312 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:09,500 And I will tell you that you can then be more insightful, more 313 00:22:09,700 --> 00:22:15,800 communicative. You have a better like a better 314 00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:19,900 resource fulness. A better sense of Millions for 315 00:22:19,900 --> 00:22:23,500 dealing with the the highs and the lows and the unexpected 316 00:22:23,500 --> 00:22:28,400 challenges. And all of the emotions of all 317 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:35,200 of the people that you also work with, you will be a better, more 318 00:22:35,200 --> 00:22:39,700 grounded, more resilient calm in the center of the storm kind of 319 00:22:39,700 --> 00:22:42,100 leader. When you remember to tend to 320 00:22:42,100 --> 00:22:46,900 that for yourself, you also then start to role model for those 321 00:22:46,900 --> 00:22:50,700 around you that we care about. About who we are as humans and 322 00:22:50,700 --> 00:22:54,800 you create that sense of, hey, like be responsible and care 323 00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:57,800 about who you are and care for yourself and communicated along 324 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:02,300 the way. So I hope that's been really 325 00:23:02,300 --> 00:23:05,600 helpful for you. And that as you think about what 326 00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:11,600 the next year will be, there might be a particular Dimension 327 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:17,500 that you really want to put some time and energy to which one of 328 00:23:17,500 --> 00:23:20,900 those four elements. Pence will help you to show up 329 00:23:20,900 --> 00:23:25,400 more fully, and with greater power and with greater Clarity 330 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:30,200 and insight and resilience at work, which will help you to be 331 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:35,200 a better manager, a better leader, a better communicator 332 00:23:35,300 --> 00:23:39,100 and colleague, at work, that's where the stuff gets really 333 00:23:39,100 --> 00:23:41,800 interesting. You know, this idea of 334 00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:47,100 professional development and personal growth, they really 335 00:23:47,100 --> 00:23:51,000 intersect quite a lot. Not as you start growing into 336 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:55,000 your leadership role and as a manager because so much of what 337 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:59,200 you do is, how you do it, and how you show up, how you 338 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:03,900 communicate with others, and how you relate with them, that's 339 00:24:03,900 --> 00:24:07,600 what gets things done. And it's also one of the easiest 340 00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:11,600 things to break and to create friction and to slow things 341 00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:14,800 down. So we begin by tending to and 342 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,300 caring for oneself and especially as we transition from 343 00:24:18,500 --> 00:24:22,900 2019, and to 2020. I hope you've had an incredible 344 00:24:22,900 --> 00:24:26,000 year. I'm excited for the year to 345 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,300 come. Thanks for listening, we'll see 346 00:24:28,300 --> 00:24:38,100 you next time. If you know it's time to level F 347 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:42,800 but you feel your perfectionism Self Doubt and uncertainty 348 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:45,700 getting in the way then come work with me. 349 00:24:46,100 --> 00:24:49,600 We'll have six months of one-on-one coaching and it all 350 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:55,800 starts by going to my website, chemicalguys.com coaching and 351 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:59,700 joining my waitlist talk to you soon.