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Welcome to the new manager 
podcast. 

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I'm your host, Kim nickel. 
Hello, and welcome to this bonus

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episode of the new manager 
podcast. 

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Today, I need to talk to you 
about the skill of learning how 

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to ask. 
Have you heard this quote, you 

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don't get what you don't ask 
for. 

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And it makes sense until you 
then realize, how do I learn how

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to ask for things? 
Especially if you are an 

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introvert. 
If you are conflict or 

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confrontational avoidant, or if 
you are a person and you just 

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does not like asking anyone for 
anything. 

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If any of those things are true 
for you, you are probably under 

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asking. 
And I want to teach you about 

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the Of learning how to ask. 
I want to teach you about 

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self-advocacy which is speaking 
up on behalf of yourself at work

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and I've decided I'm going to 
host a free workshop on this 

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topic. 
So go into the show notes, you 

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will find the Eventbrite link 
where you can sign up for this. 

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Now, if you are already on my 
mailing list, you probably 

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already saw that. 
I emailed you about this. 

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Earlier today. 
But I know that some of you only

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hang out with me here in the 
land of audio and podcasts, and 

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I wanted to make sure that you 
are not left out because I 

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decided to put this together 
pretty quickly. 

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It's come up in a lot of my 
coaching lately and I see that 

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so many of you are really 
interested in the topics around 

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confidence, how to speak up, how
to be assertive? 

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And they all go together and 
when you learn how to ask how to

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advocate for yourself so many 
things start to make sense and 

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become easier, including 
establishing clear, boundaries 

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accessing money for professional
development. 

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That might be available to you 
and you just never thought to 

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ask it also means you will use 
your time. 

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Better. 
You'll be able to protect your 

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time. 
You'll be able to ask for 

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schedule changes accommodations.
And it really is one of those 

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skills that has so many 
applications. 

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And I think we just forget that 
learning how to ask is a skill, 

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which means it's something you 
can get better at. 

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Even if you're an introvert, you
avoid conflict and confrontation

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and you're someone who doesn't 
Like, asking anyone for 

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anything? 
We'll talk all about that. 

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So join the workshop. 
It is this coming Monday? 

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It is at 4 p.m. 
Pacific time, so for some of you

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I know that's going to be 
inconvenient but that's what I 

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had available. 
So that's what that's where we 

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get to meet and hang out. 
And if you want to get emails 

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from me in the future, so, you 
know, when additional workshops 

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and other kinds, Of things come 
up, then make sure that you get 

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on my mailing list. 
If you don't like email, that's 

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okay, I'll continue to leave 
notes for you here on the 

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podcast. 
That's it really quick note come

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to this Workshop, I want to 
teach you what I have taught. 

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So many of my students and 
clients about how to speak up 

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for themselves at work, and how 
to ask for things. 

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And I'll actually add like, how 
to ask for things in a way that 

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Your boss actually really happy 
to give you what you want. 

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That's the best. 
So let's talk about it. 

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All right. 
I hope to see you there and yeah

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that's it. 
Okay. 

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Bye. 
Hey before you go if you like 

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this podcast leave a review. 
Tell me why you listen and what 

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has helped you? 
Thanks so much. 

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I'll see you next time. 
I'm