Welcome to the new. Manager Podcast.
I'm your host, Kim Nicol. Hello and welcome.
I'm glad you're here, and I hope you're doing well.
For today's episode, I wanted to share something that I actually
had recorded several years ago, and I happened to come across it
when I was going through some other files.
And when I listened to it again, it kind of made me smile.
And I really liked how short and specifically helpful it is.
And I thought, I think I need to share this with you.
So you're going to get that for today's episode.
And as bigger context, I wanted to remind you of the value of
your being. It is so easy to forget that,
especially if you're getting a lot of messages about doing
things like productivity and time management and all of the
tasks and all of the things that you know you do as a person and
in your work, there's a lot of focus on doing what are we
doing? How are we doing it?
When will we do it? Well, you know, what will it
cost us to get it done? How much time before you can do
the thing? There's a a real emphasis on the
action and the doing. And it's easy to forget that who
you are being is of tremendous importance.
Who you are being at work, who you are being in your life, who
you are being in the moment, is important because who you are
being will drive your doing. It will inform the way that
actions happen or don't happen. It will inform the way your
communication lands or doesn't land.
The way you are being will have such a profound effect, both on
the way you experience your own life and your own time at work.
But it will have a profound effect as well on you know how
you end up navigating and making decisions and communicating with
others and just, you know, handling all of the things that
come to you to handle. So this practice of the to be
list is so helpful for cutting through the noise and the
overwhelm when you feel like the To Do List is way too big.
It's OK. We're just gonna set that aside
for a moment and I'm going to teach you about the to be list
and this will be very helpful, not just in your work setting.
But in other areas of your life, one of the things I love most
about what I coach and teach on is that yes, it helps you at
work and it helps you at life. I mean communication skills,
you're going to use them like all over.
We're just elevating and developing your abilities.
So when you learn you know how to be effective at setting
boundaries or creating agreements or you know all of
those things, when you are good at doing that in work, you can
also be good at doing that in life.
And so it's just it it makes me happy because it's the kind of
thing that really does enhance your experience in every venue
and in all these different relationships.
So today you're gonna learn the to be list and you know as we're
coming into the holidays and you might have you know some
challenging moments just either with, you know, accomplishing
all the things that need to get done, maybe the, you know, if
you have kids, sometimes school schedules can change and get
challenging to juggle when you're also managing your
workload. Also sometimes you know family,
we can love family and sometimes really struggle in those
relationships. It can be a very interesting
dynamic and so this practice of the to be list is also something
that you can use in your experience with your family and
all of those things. So having said that, I am
excited for you to listen to this episode and at the end of
it two things I want to invite you to.
One is be sure that you get on my mailing list.
I have some workshops and some announcements that I have
planned and the way that you will be able to join is by on
the mailing list. That's the only way you're going
to find out all the details. So go to my website
kimnickel.com and with the new managers tab you'll find that a
link right up at the top to join the wait list for the program
for the group program. That's the mailing list you want
to get on to. And secondly, if you want to
work with me one-on-one, I am taking new clients and we can
talk about how we would work together, what that would look
like. Go to my website kimnickel.com
and you will find on the first page a link to schedule a
consult. All right, now let's get back to
the. To be list, OK, let's set your
to be list for today. Your To Do List is long enough.
Your to be list is only one thing and you can change it
every day. Today choose how you would like
to be. Maybe you want to be patient?
Maybe you want to be kind to yourself.
Maybe you want to be resourceful or present.
Choose one word or a very short phrase that describes how you
would like to be. And then over the course of your
day, check in with yourself and ask How am I being right now?
Am I being curious? Am I being kind to myself?
Am I being resourceful? And if you are fantastic, give
yourself a Gold Star. And if you're not, then shift it
right in that moment. Let your being drive your doing.
So you might ask, what would it look like for me to be more
patient in this moment? What would it look like for?
Me to be more kind. In this moment, meet reality and
whatever is in front of you exactly as it is.
But you're in charge of how you relate to that.
You're in charge of how you want to be.
So decide and be kind. It takes a little bit of.
Practice. See what happens, treat it like
an experiment, and then check in.
At the end of the day, how did you do?
I bet you're going to do great When you're more effective at
work, you're happier in your life.
And when you're happier in your life, you're more effective at
work. I can help.
Go to my website, kimnickel.com and sign up for a coaching
consult. It can get better.