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Welcome to the new. 
Manager Podcast. 

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I'm your host, Kim Nicol. 
Hello and welcome. 

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I'm glad you're here, and I hope
you're doing well. 

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For today's episode, I wanted to
share something that I actually 

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had recorded several years ago, 
and I happened to come across it

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when I was going through some 
other files. 

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And when I listened to it again,
it kind of made me smile. 

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And I really liked how short and
specifically helpful it is. 

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And I thought, I think I need to
share this with you. 

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So you're going to get that for 
today's episode. 

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And as bigger context, I wanted 
to remind you of the value of 

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your being. 
It is so easy to forget that, 

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especially if you're getting a 
lot of messages about doing 

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things like productivity and 
time management and all of the 

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tasks and all of the things that
you know you do as a person and 

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in your work, there's a lot of 
focus on doing what are we 

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doing? 
How are we doing it? 

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When will we do it? 
Well, you know, what will it 

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cost us to get it done? 
How much time before you can do 

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the thing? 
There's a a real emphasis on the

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action and the doing. 
And it's easy to forget that who

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you are being is of tremendous 
importance. 

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Who you are being at work, who 
you are being in your life, who 

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you are being in the moment, is 
important because who you are 

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being will drive your doing. 
It will inform the way that 

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actions happen or don't happen. 
It will inform the way your 

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communication lands or doesn't 
land. 

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The way you are being will have 
such a profound effect, both on 

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the way you experience your own 
life and your own time at work. 

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But it will have a profound 
effect as well on you know how 

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you end up navigating and making
decisions and communicating with

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others and just, you know, 
handling all of the things that 

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come to you to handle. 
So this practice of the to be 

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list is so helpful for cutting 
through the noise and the 

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overwhelm when you feel like the
To Do List is way too big. 

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It's OK. 
We're just gonna set that aside 

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for a moment and I'm going to 
teach you about the to be list 

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and this will be very helpful, 
not just in your work setting. 

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But in other areas of your life,
one of the things I love most 

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about what I coach and teach on 
is that yes, it helps you at 

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work and it helps you at life. 
I mean communication skills, 

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you're going to use them like 
all over. 

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We're just elevating and 
developing your abilities. 

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So when you learn you know how 
to be effective at setting 

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boundaries or creating 
agreements or you know all of 

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those things, when you are good 
at doing that in work, you can 

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also be good at doing that in 
life. 

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And so it's just it it makes me 
happy because it's the kind of 

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thing that really does enhance 
your experience in every venue 

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and in all these different 
relationships. 

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So today you're gonna learn the 
to be list and you know as we're

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coming into the holidays and you
might have you know some 

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challenging moments just either 
with, you know, accomplishing 

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all the things that need to get 
done, maybe the, you know, if 

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you have kids, sometimes school 
schedules can change and get 

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challenging to juggle when 
you're also managing your 

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workload. 
Also sometimes you know family, 

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we can love family and sometimes
really struggle in those 

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relationships. 
It can be a very interesting 

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dynamic and so this practice of 
the to be list is also something

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that you can use in your 
experience with your family and 

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all of those things. 
So having said that, I am 

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excited for you to listen to 
this episode and at the end of 

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it two things I want to invite 
you to. 

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One is be sure that you get on 
my mailing list. 

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I have some workshops and some 
announcements that I have 

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planned and the way that you 
will be able to join is by on 

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the mailing list. 
That's the only way you're going

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to find out all the details. 
So go to my website 

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kimnickel.com and with the new 
managers tab you'll find that a 

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link right up at the top to join
the wait list for the program 

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for the group program. 
That's the mailing list you want

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to get on to. 
And secondly, if you want to 

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work with me one-on-one, I am 
taking new clients and we can 

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talk about how we would work 
together, what that would look 

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like. 
Go to my website kimnickel.com 

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and you will find on the first 
page a link to schedule a 

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consult. 
All right, now let's get back to

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the. 
To be list, OK, let's set your 

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to be list for today. 
Your To Do List is long enough. 

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Your to be list is only one 
thing and you can change it 

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every day. 
Today choose how you would like 

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to be. 
Maybe you want to be patient? 

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Maybe you want to be kind to 
yourself. 

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Maybe you want to be resourceful
or present. 

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Choose one word or a very short 
phrase that describes how you 

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would like to be. 
And then over the course of your

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day, check in with yourself and 
ask How am I being right now? 

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Am I being curious? 
Am I being kind to myself? 

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Am I being resourceful? 
And if you are fantastic, give 

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yourself a Gold Star. 
And if you're not, then shift it

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right in that moment. 
Let your being drive your doing.

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So you might ask, what would it 
look like for me to be more 

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patient in this moment? 
What would it look like for? 

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Me to be more kind. 
In this moment, meet reality and

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whatever is in front of you 
exactly as it is. 

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But you're in charge of how you 
relate to that. 

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You're in charge of how you want
to be. 

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So decide and be kind. 
It takes a little bit of. 

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Practice. 
See what happens, treat it like 

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an experiment, and then check 
in. 

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At the end of the day, how did 
you do? 

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I bet you're going to do great 
When you're more effective at 

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work, you're happier in your 
life. 

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And when you're happier in your 
life, you're more effective at 

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work. 
I can help. 

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Go to my website, kimnickel.com 
and sign up for a coaching 

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consult. 
It can get better.