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Okay, let us talk about time management and I feel like this
is a topic that can feel very dry.
It can feel very prescriptive. Like people will tell you what
to do or how to do your schedule.
It can also feel kind of overwhelming, you know, like
there are so many things to do and how do you get them all done
in the course of the day, but when I think about time
management, I really see this as a very sacred practice.
Because when you are making decisions about how to spend
your time, you are making decisions about how to spend
your Life. You are making decisions about
what to give your energy to what to give your attention towards.
That is some of the most important decision making that
you do as a person is to decide, where am I going to direct my
life force energy. And from that perspective.
I wanted to introduce this topic and share it with you.
It's also a topic that has been coming up a lot recently in my
coaching practice. So I've been working with a lot
of my clients on this. And the number one thing I've
noticed that I want to share with you is that when we're
asking questions about how we spend our time, it is never just
about how you spend your time. It is always about something
else. It is always about more than
simply what you're doing. When and how many meetings are
on your calendar. It's always connected to who you
are as a person, what you value how much?
Autonomy, you believe you have, what is important to you at this
stage in your life? Not just at work and in your
career, but in terms of your whole life, so for example, if
you have elderly parents and you are needing to manage their
care, that is going to have an effect on your schedule.
If you have kids, and they are in the school year or they're
out of the school year on holiday, that is going to Fact
your schedule. If you are dealing with chronic
health issues, that also is going to affect your schedule
and how you choose to use your time.
And one of the interesting things that came up very
recently in a conversation I had with one of my clients is she
has a lot of success in her professional life and now she's
at a stage where she is launching her own work.
Under her own name and in her own voice.
And she found that she was feeling overwhelmed with all the
things to do around getting that started.
And she had a lot of judgment. The Judgment was, this should be
easier. I should know how to do this.
You know, what, why am I, you know, feeling confused about
which, you know, like which platform to use all of this.
So there was added pressure because of that solved.
I meant and what we found in the course of working together and
exploring this, like what was really going on was actually, it
was very scary to be doing work under her own name and in her
own voice. And because of that fear of, you
know, will it work? What if you know, what if nobody
comes, what if it's, you know, a flop.
Like what if I, what if I can't do it, right?
What if I get rejected? All of that fear?
Fear was creating this resistance which turned into
avoidance. And once we understood kind of
what was going on under the surface, then it actually became
very easy to make decisions about what she was spending time
on and why it mattered. And so for you notice if you
have a lot of should like a lot of pressure of I should be able
to do these things in this timeframe, or I should be
focused on. Even though my heart really is
interested in that if you feel a lot of pressure, be super tuned
in and curious about what is the effect of that pressure.
Now some of you might perform really well under pressure, you
might like that feeling of compression and that sense of
urgency and like it is go time. You might use pressure as a way
to generate a Drennan to Then move you forward in a way that
feels enticing and exciting to you.
If you are not that person, then what might happen is, you create
pressure thinking it will move you into action.
But what actually happens is, it ignites your resistance, it
activates your avoidance, and then we go into procrastination,
or as I like to call it in my own life research mode.
You're an intelligent person and your brain will think, you know,
what I need to do. I need to do more research and
it can be a very tricky form of avoidance of stalling of
delaying something because it seems smart.
I'm going to do more research. But what ends up happening is
you spend more time, simply going down, rabbit, holes, or
becoming overwhelmed with information and then the The
information overload creates overwhelm and that creates fear,
and that adds more pressure and more avoidance and becomes very
fascinating pattern. So notice for yourself kind of
what what your relationship is to pressure and how that fits
into the way that you schedule things and begin to question if
it is effective, or if it isn't, that's all we're doing here.
So we just want to notice What is actually happening and ask is
this effective. And is, it isn't now one
practice? I also want to share with you is
at the beginning of the week or at the end.
Actually. I'm going to just throw this out
here for some of us. We like to do our
forward-thinking towards the end of the week when we feel like
the week is behind us for some of us who like to do it at the
top of the week, what we feel really fresh, but choose a point
in the week where you're going to step back.
Take a higher level. Look at what is on your
Calendar. That's the number of First like
the number first question. The number one question, is to
Simply ask what is on my calendar and then ask yourself?
Why? Why is this on your calendar?
Did you choose it? Or did you feel like you have no
choice? You might be a person who
anytime someone sends you a meeting invite.
You feel like you have to say, yes.
You don't think that you can decline or you're worried about
what they'll think, if you decline, or you're not sure if
you can ask for it to be at a different time, or a different
day. So, just notice, what is on your
calendar. And why because what is on your
calendar? Is what you are agreeing to give
your life to. And this is not a trivial thing.
This is actually really important for you.
As a human, you know, we get to be alive for a certain amount of
time. We don't know how much time we
have. And so it's meaningful to spend
time noticing what is on my calendar and Y and notice the
stories you tell yourself about. What is on your calendar?
And why one more point I want to share with you is we often think
about organizing our time as though Each bit of time is like
a little brick like a little unit.
Like I imagine the calendar grid that I have an each day or each
hour or each little block of time is a little chunk and I get
to allocate it and I only have so many little chunks of time.
I only have so many little bricks and so I'm trying to
match tasks or responsibilities to little bricks or chunks of
time. It's how I used to think about
it. What I've come to find that.
I find to be much more helpful. Is to think in terms of energy
and attention. So on one hand, if I have here
are all the things that I want to accomplish here, all the
tasks that I want to get done, then on the other hand.
I want to ask myself. What is the quality of energy
and attention that I will need for each of these different
things. So some tasks don't require a
lot of energy or attention. It's just kind of going through
the motions. It might be a very
administrative tasks or it might be something that doesn't
require a lot of creative thought, because you already
know how to do it really? Well, that will take different
energy and different attention than something that requires
really creative work, or really focused Innovative work or
higher level strategic thinking, where you need to kind of, like,
take a high-level view of a project, and Think about it in a
different kind of a way. And so you can think about
organizing your schedule and organizing your tasks and your
time in terms of how do I appropriate appropriately,
allocate energy and attention to the outcomes or the tasks that I
want to accomplish? If you know that the morning is,
when your brightest and most alert and most attentive, then
use that energy. G and attention for the tasks
that need that kind of thinking. If, you know that the afternoon
is, when you're a little bit more sleepy and your little bit
less sharp. Hey, maybe that's when you do,
you know, the the admin work or the meetings where you can be
really collaborative with others, be aware of how your own
mind, and how your own system works and design your schedule
around that. You might also be very
effective. Affected by the time of year.
So depending if it's cold and dark or depending if it's really
sunny and bright and warm that might have a strong effect on
your energy and on your attention or whether your kids
are home or whether they're at school.
And so don't presume that your calendar should look the same
over the course of a year or more.
And in fact, you can take this pause and look at each month or
each quarter or according to the school year, but take this
strategic perspective of what are the things that I want to
work on or accomplish or experience?
What is the quality of energy and attention?
I want to bring to those. And then how does that kind of
map out on my calendar? And what this means to you is
that you will be making choices. To say yes, to some things and
you will be making choices to say no to some other things.
It may also mean in the workplace, making decisions
about delegating work about advocating for additional
resources, either, in terms of head, count or budget or
timelines. It may require collaboration
with others, but now all of a sudden were not focused on a
certain amount of hours. Is that you're trying to parcel
out. Now, we're working with this
Dynamic quality of being a person and that level of
awareness and flexibility can inform your decision making in a
way that can be really useful and will also uncover your
hidden assumptions and your deep fears.
And by Deep fear. It doesn't even need to be like
a deep scary fear. I just mean it.
It's a bit out of sight and it's underneath the surface.
And then as you understand and learn this for yourself, it also
becomes helpful. If you notice other people that
you work with who might have a very let's say wobbly sense of
time and if they are consistently blowing through
deadlines or they're not reliable about their agreements.
About when they say, you know, things will be.
This also gives you Another way to have conversations.
So rather than just focusing on the time, things take with
people on your team. You can be aware of and even
have conversations around. Hey, like what is the energy and
the thinking that you'll need in order to accomplish this and
then given that like, how can we organize schedules and time so
that you have that energy and that Focus to get it done as
effectively and efficiently as possible?
So that That is why I want to share with you today.
Time management is really about, how are you choosing to spend
your life? This is a sacred practice.
These are really personal questions.
They do tie into your values, your fears, your desires.
They are connected. Not just to you today and your
goals, but you might also be influenced by the season in the
year and just what is going on. On in your life as a human and
you'll realize that's also true for everybody else as well.
Thank you so much for listening. Have a great week and I'll talk
to you next time. If you know it's time to level
up but you feel your perfectionism Self Doubt and
uncertainty getting in the way then come work with me.
We'll have six months of one-on-one coaching and it all
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Talk to you soon.