1 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:07,400 Welcome to the New Manager Podcast. 2 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:16,440 I'm your host, Kim Nicoll. Hello and welcome. 3 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,240 I'm glad you're here and I hope you're doing well. 4 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,200 This is the new day of the New Year. 5 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:28,320 This is the New Manager Podcast and I want to welcome you as we 6 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:33,000 start this new year. Whether you are a first time 7 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:38,160 manager and you are suddenly realizing that that's a 8 00:00:38,160 --> 00:00:42,000 different job than you've done before, or whether you are 9 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:46,200 simply looking for a new approach, Being a new manager is 10 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:50,320 not just about being a first time manager, but it's also 11 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:55,960 about choosing a new approach, some new tools, thinking about 12 00:00:55,960 --> 00:01:00,160 new skills, how do you want to manage? 13 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:04,040 How do you want to lead? And I also include this bigger 14 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:09,840 perspective of the way that a lot of us have been modeled of 15 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:13,680 how to manage effectively might not work anymore. 16 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,800 There are a lot of things that are changing in the way that we 17 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:19,360 work. And we're really asking new 18 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:21,920 questions about what does it mean to work effectively 19 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:24,760 together. You know, how does the workplace 20 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:26,960 function? You know, how, like, just how 21 00:01:26,960 --> 00:01:28,440 does it work? How does work work? 22 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:31,880 And there are some new ways that we can start thinking about 23 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:34,760 that. So having a fresh perspective 24 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:41,680 and looking with new eyes at a familiar situation will reveal 25 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:45,960 new opportunities. It will show you new paths. 26 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:51,040 It will illuminate old problems, but in a way that you might see 27 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:55,280 something new. That's what it's all about. 28 00:01:55,440 --> 00:01:59,720 And as I kick us off into the new year with this podcast, 29 00:01:59,960 --> 00:02:03,360 that's where my mind and heart are at when I'm thinking about 30 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:08,199 what I'd like to share with you. So I live in San Francisco, and 31 00:02:08,199 --> 00:02:13,160 one of my favorite places here in the city is the Botanical 32 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:16,160 Garden. It's this beautiful garden with 33 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:20,600 lots of different plants from lots of different parts of the 34 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:23,360 world, and they're all really different. 35 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:28,600 Some of them are really, you know, beautiful with flowers 36 00:02:28,640 --> 00:02:32,160 and, you know, like like beautiful rich green leaves. 37 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,440 And some of them are beautiful in a very different kind of way. 38 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:39,440 They're very spiky or they're very, you know, very, very 39 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,640 small. Like, there are so many 40 00:02:41,640 --> 00:02:46,200 different parts of this garden. There is the herbs and the 41 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:50,040 garden of fragrance. There is this kind of dinosaur 42 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:55,240 era garden with these really wild plants that definitely look 43 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:59,240 very prehistoric. There is the California native 44 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:03,640 section of the garden. There is this, you know, like 45 00:03:03,640 --> 00:03:09,000 lots of beautiful Magnolia trees that start to bloom now, start 46 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,800 to bloom in January and into February. 47 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,360 And I mentioned this because one of the things that really 48 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:22,160 strikes me when I go into this garden is the variety of plants. 49 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:27,800 So they are all plants and they all are a bit different, and 50 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:31,560 they all have some different needs. 51 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:36,080 They all kind of bloom and grow under slightly different 52 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:40,040 conditions. They have different needs for 53 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:45,640 water and sunlight and shade like they all have slightly 54 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:50,280 different timings and somewhat different requirements. 55 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:56,600 And the point of the garden is not that they're all the same, 56 00:03:57,120 --> 00:04:02,400 but to actually understand and be mindful of what is the timing 57 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:05,800 and what are the needs of all of these different plants. 58 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:10,960 And I think about this as such a beautiful metaphor for life 59 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:17,200 generally and for career and the workplace especially. 60 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:23,280 So this idea that there are seasons, this idea that you know 61 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:28,840 what you need or what is required at one season of your 62 00:04:28,840 --> 00:04:33,720 career or your professional life might be different in another 63 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:37,200 season. For example, a lot of us, when 64 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:43,240 we are first in our career, when we are new into our adult work 65 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:48,320 life, the strategy for success is I'm just going to say yes to 66 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,160 everything. I'm going to do everything as 67 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:55,160 best I can, and that is what will work. 68 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,160 You know, we're trying to prove ourselves, We're trying to 69 00:04:58,160 --> 00:05:00,560 learn. We're really open. 70 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:05,760 We probably haven't specialized very deeply and so we say yes to 71 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,080 all the things. However, at some point in your 72 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:13,960 career, that stops being an effective strategy. 73 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:20,280 And what we need to learn then is how to discern what do I want 74 00:05:20,280 --> 00:05:25,120 to say yes to and take on, and then what do I want to say no 75 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:27,160 to? And either that might be 76 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,400 delegating it to somebody else, it might be pointing someone to 77 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:35,200 a different resource or an alternative person, or, you 78 00:05:35,200 --> 00:05:38,160 know, place for help. And sometimes it's actually the 79 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:44,280 skill of saying no without providing any comfort or any 80 00:05:44,280 --> 00:05:47,920 additional support. It's kind of that skill of the 81 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:51,360 greatest service I can give you in this moment is giving you a 82 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:57,200 fast, clean no, so that you can then move on and figure it out. 83 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,680 Like, I'm not going to figure it out for you. 84 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:04,520 That's not my role right now. And so the ability to discern 85 00:06:04,840 --> 00:06:09,960 what stage are you at, What is the strategy or the skill that 86 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:13,360 will best support and serve your thriving? 87 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:17,360 And you know, coming back to this garden metaphor, you're 88 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:21,200 thriving and the thriving of the ecosystem and community that you 89 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:24,440 are a part of that will change over time. 90 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:28,920 And it's so important, I think, to understand that, that it's OK 91 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,920 to let go of and and change things. 92 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:36,480 Just like if you have a garden, it's OK to prune some of the 93 00:06:36,480 --> 00:06:41,480 plants back. If you have mint, you know that 94 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,720 mint, it is a very unapologetic plant. 95 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:48,280 It will take over as much space as it can get. 96 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:52,720 It is very resilient, very resourceful, and it's OK to 97 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:55,280 prune that back. It's OK to pull it out. 98 00:06:55,280 --> 00:06:58,000 It's OK to say OK, we're going to, you know, kind of contain 99 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:01,880 the mint over here and then we're going to not let it take 100 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:05,520 up as much space as it wants to. So the health of the garden also 101 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:10,200 requires kind of this awareness of what it what are the needs, 102 00:07:10,200 --> 00:07:13,360 how are they changing and thinking, You know, as the 103 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:17,200 gardener, it's OK to decide, all right, you know what, We're 104 00:07:17,200 --> 00:07:20,680 going to prune back the mint. We're going to, you know, plant 105 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:22,760 something else. We're going to adjust the 106 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:27,040 balance of what what is in the garden and being mindful of the 107 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:31,440 life cycle of some of these different plants and realizing 108 00:07:31,440 --> 00:07:36,320 what is it time to pull or weed or, you know, let go of and then 109 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,960 we compost it. And The thing is, is, you know, 110 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:41,320 with the garden, we don't do it in anger. 111 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:44,880 So we're not, we're not angry at the plants. 112 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:46,960 They're just being plants, you know. 113 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:50,760 And so we're in this really intentional relationship with 114 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:53,400 them. And in your career, too, there 115 00:07:53,400 --> 00:07:57,440 will be stages when you feel like, OK, my strategy is to say 116 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:01,400 yes to everything, keep my head down, do the hard work and just 117 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:04,320 get by. That's a totally valid strategy. 118 00:08:04,320 --> 00:08:06,720 And there are different times when you're going to want to use 119 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,360 that. And there will be other times 120 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:13,280 when the strategy is I'm going to give a quick and clear no, 121 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:15,680 I'm going to learn how to delegate. 122 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:20,280 I'm going to stretch beyond a little bit into something that 123 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:22,720 might feel a little bit different, where I I don't have 124 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:29,360 complete knowledge and skill, but it's time for me to extend a 125 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:35,280 bit into this next stage. And that's that feels right for 126 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,320 this time, for this season, right. 127 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:43,200 This is the season for that. And so with your career too, and 128 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:47,200 especially if you happen to be in an in an environment that 129 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:53,480 might not be really supportive or awesome for your professional 130 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:57,320 growth and your, you know, personal development, we can 131 00:08:57,320 --> 00:09:04,520 think about what is the season that you are in and how do you 132 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:10,880 want to use what you know, what is, what is around you to your 133 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:15,240 best advantage, and then prepare for what's next. 134 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:22,680 And we can do all of that without, you know, feeling angry 135 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:28,800 at everything around you. Kind of in that same sense of 136 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:31,440 it's like, you know, the Mint is going to take over. 137 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:34,200 It's not personal. You're going to work with some 138 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:38,920 people and in some systems that are just not awesome, but 139 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:42,280 they're doing what they were designed to do or they're just 140 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:47,320 doing what they choose to do. And so rather than invest your 141 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:55,160 energy in kind of feeling stuck and frustrated, it's more of 142 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:58,680 this sense of, you know, allow and acknowledge all of the 143 00:09:58,680 --> 00:10:03,800 emotion, all of the frustration, and then invest your energy into 144 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:08,160 your change strategy. So whether that means what is it 145 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:13,200 that I can do to change, you know, where I am and what I'm 146 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:19,320 doing and how I'm doing it? How might I change or influence 147 00:10:19,560 --> 00:10:23,760 the way we do things? And that and like the way that 148 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:27,000 you answer that will be different over the course of 149 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:30,720 your career. But I want to come back to this 150 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:36,240 idea that when we think of, you know, career as a garden, and 151 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:39,800 you are the gardener, and you know, to take the metaphor in 152 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:41,920 another way too, you're also the plant. 153 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:44,880 You know, you want to be nourished, you want to grow, you 154 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,560 want to thrive. And what you need to do that 155 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:51,520 might be a little bit different than your neighbors because you 156 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:55,120 know, you're an individual human, so you want to have that 157 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,800 bigger perspective for yourself in the workplace. 158 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:03,400 And the new year is such a great time for that because we all 159 00:11:03,560 --> 00:11:06,960 sort of collectively take a step back, take a deep breath and 160 00:11:06,960 --> 00:11:11,200 say, OK, wait, where are we? What are we doing and what will 161 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:14,320 be required? So a couple of things I wanted 162 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:18,440 to share with you to make this even more specific and practical 163 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:22,600 as you move into this new year, As you're thinking about, you 164 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:27,680 know with new eyes what it is that you are facing in your 165 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:31,800 work, what it is that you want for yourself, right? 166 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:35,600 Like career is also a place not just of professional 167 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:37,640 development, but personal growth. 168 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:42,600 They go hand in hand. The first question you want to 169 00:11:42,600 --> 00:11:46,000 consider is what's the vision? And there are so many ways to 170 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:49,160 think about this. What's the vision can also mean? 171 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:54,360 What does success look like? What is the big picture goal 172 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:59,720 that you want to achieve? What is the effect you're going 173 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:03,440 for, or what is the feeling you're after? 174 00:12:03,680 --> 00:12:07,520 Sometimes the success is about, you know, we're doing everything 175 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:12,120 and that's it's working well, but it feels so awful. 176 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:15,800 And I want to be able to make it feel better. 177 00:12:15,800 --> 00:12:19,080 Like, can we do this but in a way that doesn't feel so bad, 178 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:21,000 right? Can we do this in a way that 179 00:12:21,000 --> 00:12:25,800 doesn't feel so draining or so exacting or that doesn't feel so 180 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:29,240 discouraging? Like sometimes it's not about we 181 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:32,520 need to do things differently, but it's understanding why is 182 00:12:32,520 --> 00:12:35,360 this having such an adverse effect on how we feel? 183 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:37,400 And is there a way that we can change that? 184 00:12:37,840 --> 00:12:41,200 All of those are some of the questions that start to come up 185 00:12:41,520 --> 00:12:45,880 when we ask what's the vision? And what's lovely about this is 186 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,360 you will answer this in a few different ways. 187 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:52,160 For yourself, you might have a vision of your career for the 188 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:54,640 next six months or for the next year. 189 00:12:55,000 --> 00:13:00,120 You might also have that bigger picture of your life and how 190 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:05,240 your career fits into that, depending on you know where 191 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,520 what's what else is happening in your life. 192 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:12,120 You know career is just one part of you know who you are as a 193 00:13:12,120 --> 00:13:15,160 person. So take some time to consider 194 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:19,760 what's the vision, what's that big picture and have fun As you 195 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:22,960 think about that. Don't worry yet about being 196 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:27,040 super practical or realistic. We want the vision to be a 197 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:32,360 little bit generous. When you think about it, don't 198 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:39,040 be stingy or mean spirited, but really be generous As you think 199 00:13:39,040 --> 00:13:41,480 about what's the vision? What does success look like? 200 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:44,240 What is it that you want? What is the effect you're going 201 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,760 for? Then we've got three questions 202 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:52,960 to ask yourself. The 1st is what will I stop 203 00:13:53,320 --> 00:13:57,360 doing? What will I stop investing in? 204 00:13:57,360 --> 00:13:59,760 What will I stop putting my time and energy into? 205 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:02,760 What do I want to stop telling myself? 206 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:07,640 You know, if you have a very strong inner critic, maybe it's 207 00:14:07,640 --> 00:14:11,560 time to, like, turn the volume down on that. 208 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:16,360 Maybe it's time to stop telling yourself that you can't do it, 209 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:19,920 or that you are not good enough. Or maybe it's time to stop 210 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:23,560 telling yourself that other people's opinions carry so much 211 00:14:23,560 --> 00:14:26,400 weight. Maybe we want to stop telling 212 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:31,040 those stories on the inside of your own mind and also thinking 213 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:35,800 about what relationships or patterns do you want to stop 214 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:39,120 perpetuating. And again, this might be a right 215 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:44,400 timing thing, the sense of, oh, it is now the right time to stop 216 00:14:44,400 --> 00:14:49,120 perpetuating this pattern in my relationship or in my work life 217 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:51,480 or in, you know, in the world, Right? 218 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:55,360 Like you can decide I want to stop participating or stop 219 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:59,120 perpetuating that. So deciding what is it that you 220 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:01,280 will stop? That's question one. 221 00:15:01,720 --> 00:15:05,240 Question two, what will you start? 222 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:11,360 What is it time to start doing? What will you start putting your 223 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:15,040 time and energy into? What do you want to start 224 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:18,920 telling yourself right? One of my favorites is hey done 225 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:22,880 is better than perfect. And if we, you know, like 226 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:24,800 iterates, get iterative about it. 227 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:29,160 The idea of it's it's, it's more valuable to do something, have 228 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:32,480 it be imperfect, because you will learn and you will keep 229 00:15:32,480 --> 00:15:34,880 going. What do you want to start 230 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:39,680 telling yourself? What relationships or patterns 231 00:15:39,680 --> 00:15:44,920 do you want to start nurturing? This is a really good one when 232 00:15:44,920 --> 00:15:48,680 you think about all of the different relationships in your 233 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:51,680 life. The relationship with your Co 234 00:15:51,680 --> 00:15:56,520 workers, the relationship you have in your industry, the 235 00:15:56,520 --> 00:16:01,760 relationship you have with your career or with, you know, other 236 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:04,680 other people in your life, personal and professional. 237 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:10,240 What relationships or patterns do you want to start nurturing? 238 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:14,080 One pattern you might want to start nurturing is the pattern 239 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:18,760 of appreciative inquiry, which is where we ask what's working? 240 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:22,600 What's of value here? What you know, What are the the 241 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:29,000 wins you start training your attention to look for the value 242 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:32,880 and the things that are going well rather than being focused 243 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:36,960 on the gap or the things that are difficult or not going your 244 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:40,320 way. You can create this pattern, 245 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:45,640 this relationship by looking at the positive things and it's not 246 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:49,640 again to, you know, disregard the negative, but it's to 247 00:16:49,640 --> 00:16:52,560 rebalance. It's like recalibrating your 248 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:58,360 internal attention so that you don't over focus on the the 249 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:00,840 negative. But we want to bring that into 250 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:04,319 balance because there's a lot of value that we can gain from the 251 00:17:04,319 --> 00:17:07,960 positive things, especially when you're managing people and in a 252 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:14,400 leadership role, be very mindful of where you tend to rest your 253 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:17,839 attention. Because when we start to add 254 00:17:17,839 --> 00:17:23,599 more appreciation and gratitude and acknowledgement of others, 255 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:28,560 that's also a way of building a sense of goodwill, a sense of, 256 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:32,560 oh, I'm being seen and appreciated and everybody wants 257 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:36,160 to feel seen and appreciated and valued. 258 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:40,200 It's one of those things that can be such a small practice, 259 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:45,400 but it really can have a very positive long term effect. 260 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:48,240 You can think of it just like watering the plants a little 261 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:52,680 bit, you know give them a little bit of that, that positive 262 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:59,000 nourishing attention to create and grow more of the positive 263 00:17:59,000 --> 00:18:04,520 behaviors and the sense of goodwill that you know we have 264 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:08,440 in the workplace. So what will you start is our 265 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:12,120 second question. And the third one is what will 266 00:18:12,120 --> 00:18:16,280 you continue? So as you think about this 267 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:19,720 coming year, what is it that you're going to keep doing? 268 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:23,040 What is it that you know, worked last year that you want to 269 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:26,200 continue to perpetuate and keep going? 270 00:18:26,640 --> 00:18:29,240 What's working that you will keep doing? 271 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:34,440 And also what's tough that you want to keep up anyway. 272 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:38,120 So it, you know, it might be like, oh, like it's it's such a 273 00:18:38,120 --> 00:18:41,400 pain to be a, you know, to have to do this, this particular 274 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:44,040 thing. But I'm going to keep at it 275 00:18:44,480 --> 00:18:47,480 because I know it makes me better. 276 00:18:47,480 --> 00:18:51,200 I know that it is valuable. I know that you know for now, 277 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:56,880 for this period of time, it's still the the choice that I want 278 00:18:56,880 --> 00:19:01,320 to make, even though it's tough. And I think what also helps when 279 00:19:01,320 --> 00:19:04,480 we have this perspective, right? Like here's the big picture, 280 00:19:04,680 --> 00:19:06,880 what will I stop? What will I start? 281 00:19:07,080 --> 00:19:12,080 What will I continue is it also helps us remember the 282 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:16,880 temporariness of things. It helps us be intentional in 283 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:20,640 the choices that we make so that we're not simply going through 284 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:24,880 the motions and kind of you know doing the last year, but on 285 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:29,600 repeat it gives us a little bit of that space to reflect and 286 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:35,240 make micro adjustments. And those micro adjustments can 287 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:41,560 make very positive accumulative long term effects. 288 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,360 Kind of like you know when you when you have a garden, it's a 289 00:19:45,360 --> 00:19:49,360 lot easier to maintain it if you're checking in on it 290 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:54,440 regularly and tending to it as you see different needs arise. 291 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:58,240 It's a lot harder if you just kind of you know, neglect it or 292 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:02,000 you know, assume that everything is just going to be fine and 293 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:05,480 then you only look at it, you know once a year or twice a year 294 00:20:05,480 --> 00:20:07,160 then there's a lot more work to do. 295 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:11,960 So taking that. Moment, a small moment to pause 296 00:20:11,960 --> 00:20:16,160 and check in, to ask yourself, OK, what's the big vision? 297 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:18,800 What will I stop? What will I start? 298 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:23,560 What will I continue? Will help you as you move 299 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:26,880 through the year and help you to take a little bit of that new 300 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:30,120 perspective with you. What I also really like about 301 00:20:30,120 --> 00:20:34,680 this framework is because it's so simple, you can use it in a 302 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,560 lot of different situations and contexts. 303 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:41,000 You might bring it into a team meeting. 304 00:20:41,360 --> 00:20:44,720 And at the beginning of the year, as you're deciding as a 305 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:51,440 team, how will we work together this year or this quarter, you 306 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:53,920 might have a conversation as a team. 307 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:55,880 Is there anything we need to stop doing? 308 00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,040 You know? And maybe that's something 309 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:02,920 simple like instead of having 60 minute meetings, let's have 45 310 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:05,720 minute meetings. Let's stop assuming what has to 311 00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,440 be an hour. And let's make it a little bit 312 00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:11,560 shorter so that we all have a bit more buffer space, a bit 313 00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:15,520 more breathing room so we can context switch and just not feel 314 00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:17,600 so pressed. You know, time pressed all the 315 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,480 time. Maybe that's the thing that we 316 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,280 stopped. What is it that we want to start 317 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:24,320 as a team? Is there anything that we want 318 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:26,960 to start or do differently this year? 319 00:21:27,120 --> 00:21:30,640 Anything that we've been putting off, anything that we want to 320 00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:35,200 do, even in a small way. I used to work at a company and 321 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:38,080 the founder liked to do Gratitude Fridays. 322 00:21:38,600 --> 00:21:41,240 So, you know, maybe you decide, hey, let's start doing a 323 00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:44,440 Gratitude Friday where, you know, we just share an 324 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:48,240 appreciation for someone else that's helped us on the team. 325 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:52,840 Or maybe it's oh, what let's do, let's do no Meeting Wednesdays. 326 00:21:53,520 --> 00:21:55,600 Like, let's try that out and see how that goes. 327 00:21:55,960 --> 00:21:58,720 Maybe that's what you want to start and what will you 328 00:21:58,720 --> 00:22:02,400 continue? What is it as a team that you 329 00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:06,440 are going to continue to do in the coming year? 330 00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:09,880 And this gives you room to acknowledge the things that are 331 00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:12,360 working. Hey, as a team, we do this thing 332 00:22:12,360 --> 00:22:14,520 and it works really well, so let's keep that. 333 00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:18,080 And it also allows you to acknowledge the things that are 334 00:22:18,080 --> 00:22:21,320 difficult that maybe you have to do anyways. 335 00:22:21,360 --> 00:22:25,400 So, OK, as a team, there's this thing that we have to do and 336 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,960 nobody likes it, and it's not the most perfect system, but 337 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:31,240 it's the one that we're working with, so we're going to continue 338 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,560 to do it anyways. Let's see if we can do it, you 339 00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:38,120 know, like without feeling so bogged down. 340 00:22:38,120 --> 00:22:41,280 Let's just acknowledge it. Yes, it's not awesome, but it's 341 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:44,200 what we're working with and so we're going to continue it 342 00:22:44,200 --> 00:22:49,240 anyways. So take this framework, use it 343 00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:53,240 in any way that was going to help you either with a specific 344 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:57,120 person, with your team, even with your manager. 345 00:22:57,480 --> 00:23:00,360 My gosh, Can you imagine if you go to a one-on-one with your 346 00:23:00,360 --> 00:23:04,400 manager and you say, OK manager, as I'm moving into this coming 347 00:23:04,400 --> 00:23:07,640 year and we're working together, I just wanted to do a check in. 348 00:23:07,960 --> 00:23:11,240 I've got three questions. You know, what do we want to 349 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:12,880 stop? Is there anything that we're 350 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:14,520 doing that we don't need to do right now? 351 00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:17,640 What should we be starting? What will we start? 352 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:19,760 Is there anything we want to continue? 353 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:21,960 Right. It just gives you that brief 354 00:23:22,120 --> 00:23:28,720 check in that gentle evaluation, very clear, very simple and so 355 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,400 useful in so many ways just to make sure like where are we 356 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:35,480 going, are we going in the right direction, Is this working? 357 00:23:36,040 --> 00:23:39,840 So that is what I wanted to offer you As we begin the New 358 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:45,840 Year, I hope that you are feeling a sense of welcoming, 359 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:49,360 right, like we're all moving into this New year. 360 00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:53,640 You are here. There is some work for you to 361 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:58,360 do, and the way that you do that, you have so much influence 362 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:02,640 and agency over that, perhaps even more than you realize. 363 00:24:03,240 --> 00:24:07,720 And if this is all something that you want to have more 364 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:11,640 structured support with, then I invite you to work with me. 365 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:15,640 You can do that in two ways. I have a group program that will 366 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:20,640 be opening up again and starting in February, go to my website 367 00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:27,840 kimnickel.com/new Managers and get on the wait list to learn 368 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:31,240 and be invited to that as soon as that opens up for enrollment. 369 00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:35,760 The other way you can work with me is with one-on-one coaching. 370 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:39,240 That's the most customized way to work together. 371 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:44,400 We work together for about 6 months and we really get more 372 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:49,320 clarity and more groundedness for you specifically so that you 373 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:53,040 can address the things that are happening in your career and in 374 00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:57,240 your workplace and just feel so much more supported and so much 375 00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,400 more at ease and how you're going to do all of that. 376 00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:04,040 So if those are interesting to you, go to my website 377 00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:07,560 kimnickel.com or go into the show notes for the links. 378 00:25:08,000 --> 00:25:11,440 Thank you so much for listening. I hope your year is off to a 379 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:14,880 great start and I will talk to you next time. 380 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,200 When you're more effective at work, you're happier in your 381 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:26,000 life, and when you're happier in your life, you're more effective 382 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,800 at work. I can help. 383 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:32,400 Go to my website, kimnickel.com and sign up for a coaching 384 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:34,800 consult. It can get better.