Welcome to the new manager podcast.
I'm your host, Kim nickel. Hi, thanks for joining me today.
I hope you're doing great today. I wanted to talk about Job
change and also just recognizing that the relationship we have
with our workplace is one of the most significant relationships
that we have. I mean, think about it, it
connects to our sense of identity, our sense of
community, our financial well-being, and how that works
for us. So So it's not a small thing to
be looking for a new job to be laid off from a job to be fired,
like any kind of job change in your life.
Really does have this profound effect.
And also I mean, even if you are in a happy relationship with
your work, That's also not insignificant.
I mean, think about the effect that a happy relationship in
your work has in the entire rest of your life.
I feel now at this stage in my life and my career, I wish that
I'd had a coach or some kind of relationship therapist just to
help me get my head clear and to get some clarity around how my
work relationship like my relationship with this
organization. Ation really does affect my
sense of well-being, my sense of identity and what it is that I
want to do while I'm here on the planet.
So the reason this topic is coming up right now in the
podcast is because there have been so many people in my world
and in the world who are facing all kinds of challenges and
changes around their jobs. So many Industries, I've been
disrupted due to covid and shelter in place.
And people changing behaviors about, you know, working from
home, and not going out. And just everywhere, I'm seeing
this, and I wanted to share some thoughts with you.
Also, in my coaching practice, and in my classes, this has
started to become a topic that's coming up.
It's coming up with people who are currently job-seeking with
people who are currently employed, but are thinking about
gosh, I'm not sure I want to To stay at my company anymore
because I'm feeling a little uncomfortable about, you know
what I'm what, how I'm seeing the industry affected by covid.
I'm also seeing it with people who are first-time managers and
now have the very uncomfortable task of furloughing, people
laying people off and we know when they started managing
people at the beginning of this year, this was not what they had
planned was going to Happen. And so that's why we're talking
about this today. So, a few things one is that
Even if you are not job hunting or, you know, personally
affected, remember too that there might be people in your
personal life who are going through this, but also at work
on your team, you might have people that you work with and
maybe their Partners or their family members or their close
friends are having jobs disappear, or they're getting
laid off. Or they're just deciding that
their industry is, you know, they need to rethink how they're
going to do their work now. So remember that to.
So this perspective of as a person who is managing humans,
even if it's informally remembering that a person, as a
whole human, is also connected to the well-being of others and
that if someone in your personal life is struggling, then it
might affect you, too. So this is also helpful
perspective for you So, a couple of thoughts.
If you are actively job searching my number one tip be
kind to yourself this process, takes a lot of energy and a ton
of emotion, even under the best circumstances.
If you have been furloughed or let go or if you've been fired
or if you're realizing that, you've outgrown your current
company and it's time to go give yourself some Grace.
Be kind, be gentle, realize that this is going to be a little bit
challenging and uncomfortable. So be sweet to yourself.
If you did not expect to be job searching right now or if you
haven't done it in years, give yourself some Grace.
You're not supposed to know how to do this.
You know, like how would, you know you have like the skill of
job searching of networking, a writing, a resume, like this is
something that nobody knows me. Like, just waking up in the
morning unless you spend a lot of time actually doing it.
So there might be some things that you have to learn.
So give yourself some Grace, be gentle to yourself.
Care about your mind and your heart, notice the thoughts,
you're thinking, notice the emotions you're feeling and care
about that because the more that you can get into a good
headspace and really create room for all of the emotions.
Those two things will help with your both your energy, your
creativity, your resourcefulness, and your
ability to just show up to tend to whatever you need to tend to.
On this particular day, there will be so many emotions in this
process. Grief is a big one
disappointment or anger or fear might show up self-doubt. can
come in big and also anxiety with the feeling of uncertainty
and also hope As you go through the process of job-seeking, one
thing that happens is that all possible, Futures will play out
in your mind and activate your heart.
So the mind has an idea, and then the heart has an emotional
response to that idea. And even if the idea is
imaginary, the emotional experience is immediate and
feels very real. So, as you're going through this
process, your mind will imagine a best-case scenario. you a
worst case scenario and everything in between, this is
also why it can get exhausting. So manage your mind, tend to
your heart, just be aware that that is part of what happens
sometimes. Also remember, you know, this is
not a timeline that you're in charge of this is something you
partner with life in. So you can influence the
timeline, you can't control it, you can influence the outcome
but you can't control it. And that can create feelings of
powerlessness the under discomfort of the uncertainty,
because you don't know how or, when, or if things will work
out. So what I do know is this I do
know that life loves living itself through you.
Life loves living. It's all for you.
I do know that humans are creative.
You're just made that way. We all.
Are I know that Serendipity is active here and I love
Serendipity because it's a perspective that reminds me that
there are people and forces and things happening beyond what I
can perceive that I am kind of in this dance with all of these
other elements and You never know when something that is
exactly, the right person or conversation or idea will show
up in your world. There's this wonderful Rumi poem
and the short part of it says, remember whatever you are
looking for. Is also looking for you that to
me is the magic of serendipity that things are happening even
without you controlling them, right?
If you go and you dance you don't have to Play every
instrument. You just need to listen to the
music, allow for it to invite you and engage with the dance
floor, and the music and just you know, feel it.
Another perspective to someone is looking for the skill and the
experience and the energy that you have to bring and more than
one person is looking to hire right now.
There are companies and industries and people that are
looking to hire more than one. And so, you know, with one of my
clients whose whose job seeking, one of the conversations we had
was The goal is to have lots of conversations.
We don't have to put a lot of pressure on.
Okay got a nail this interview. Let's just start by having
conversations and let's just take it one conversation at a
time, right? What is like what is it that we
want to have happen in this conversation?
Just take it one at a time and the goal is not one job offer.
The goal is, what if the goal is 3, wouldn't it be nice to have
three offers. So let's have some Oceans and
the process of how we think about it changes.
How we feel that changes the energy and that influences the
actions that we take, it's all connected, but more than one
person is looking to hire right now, let's help make it easy for
them to find you. I want you to remember also that
you are designed for growth. You are a human and humans,
learn and grow. This has been true since the day
you were born. Also take time to rest.
This is also been true since the day you are born and growth
requires rest. This doesn't necessarily mean
just, you know, watch like an entire Netflix series, but
sometimes resting means, I'm just going to go for a walk and
rest, my brain from my screen time.
I will feel rested by giving myself time in nature.
I will feel rested by taking a hot bath and just enjoying the
feeling of the water all around me.
Take time to Best take time to enjoy and to play.
And to let yourself be nourished beyond the narrow scope of the
job because you are so much more than that for this Dynamic,
vibrant living being and you need rest.
Also celebrate small wins, you have to acknowledge and
appreciate and celebrate. All the Little Steps along the
Way doing so will help to nourish and support you and keep
you aware that one step at a time, is how you get to where
you want to be, and also, just acknowledging and enjoying where
you are right now. Just in this one breath, just
this one breath celebrate. You are alive, you are here.
You are learning, like, I believe in you, you can Get
through this, it's okay. Care about your energy, your
mindset and your heart space. Let other people know that you
are looking. And let people help you to feel
better about this process that can feel very isolating and it
can feel very alone and there can be so many uncomfortable
emotions that come up along the way.
So let people help you feel better.
You don't have to do all of this by yourself.
And remember, you're bringing something wonderful to the
conversation, your skills, your energy, your experience, your
care. I want to offer you a lot of
love today for being alive for being here, for caring about
yourself. When you do it, affects everyone
around you. This is one of the reasons why
self care is so important. This is also the idea of by
tending to your own inner whether by really caring about
your experience and who you are as a person it does Ripple out
in a A positive and useful way to others.
If what you're feeling right now is a lot of uncomfortable,
emotion, grief, or anger, or fear or self-doubt.
Then I want you to bring a lot of love and a lot of tenderness
to the part of you, that's feeling those things.
It's not easy. We all go there from time to
time and when you're in it oh my gosh.
It can feel like the heaviest scariest, most alone, kind of
feeling, it's not fun, but it's part of being human, right?
So, I hope that this episode has been helpful for you and maybe
giving you some perspective and ways to think about the other
people in your life right now who might be Going through a
hard time and maybe just need a little bit of human.
Kindness, a little bit of appreciation.
A little reminder that, you know what?
Like this is hard, it does take energy one step at a time.
One breath. At a time.
You're not alone in this. You've got some friends.
You've got some support here. All right, thank you so much for
listening. I hope you have a really great
rest of your day. Bye.
Do you want personal confidential help with your
situation at work? I offer one-on-one coaching and
can help you overcome challenges reach your goals and become a
more effective leader. The schedule a consult go to my
website, Kim nickel.com coaching and we'll schedule time to talk
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