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Welcome to the bringing the 
human Back To Human Resources, 

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podcast, the podcast, all about 
the delicate balance between 

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people and business. 
And quite literally reconnecting

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the to my name is Tracy Ruben, 
and I've spent nearly my entire 

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professional career in h.r., 
join me as I share stories 

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opinions and words of advice 
with you each week. 

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Hey everyone. 
Welcome back to bringing the 

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human Back To Human Resources 
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So, let's get right into the 

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episode. 
I have been more active on 

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social media now more than ever.
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HR Tracy Instagram, and I'm on 
clubhouse, and it's made me 

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think of a few things. 
The first is authenticity, and 

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I've talked about this before on
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Odds. 
But I'm just getting kind of 

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sick and tired of what I'm 
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Can I, can I have like a vent 
sesh right now. 

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I'm on clubhouse. 
I'm on LinkedIn. 

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I'm on Instagram. 
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like them all for different 
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I like Instagram because it's 
aesthetically pleasing. 

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You've got videos. 
You have stories. 

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You have live. 
I feel like it covers everything

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and I actually feel like it's a 
lot more authentic. 

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At least in the HR Community the
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like on the career and 
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Instagram. 
I feel like it's really, really 

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authentic, and dare I say 
wholesome, and I love that. 

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Clubhouse is a game-changer. 
I love that. 

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It's Audio Only. 
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The trolls have to come off of 
mute in order to troll like that

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probably sounds ridiculous. 
But keyboard Warriors are the 

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bane of my existence? 
Like I just don't get it. 

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And so removing that element, I 
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I love it. 
And not only that like not to 

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just focus on the negative. 
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that you connect with people, 
you probably never would have 

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connected with otherwise. 
And I love the open Forum of 

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discussion and conversation 
hard-hitting, topics. 

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I love it. 
And at first, I was a little 

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skeptical. 
I was like, what is this going 

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to do for me? 
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and being more consistently 
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I just love it. 
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with LinkedIn. 
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Finding a job asking for support
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But I hate the inauthenticity. 
Do you guys know what I'm 

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talking about? 
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scrolling? 
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on a journey here. 
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things, maybe you're like, 
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I guess. 
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that, that's what I do. 
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scrolling through Linkedin 
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And you see this heartfelt, one,
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and then it says, read more. 
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Sometimes I think it's just 
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looking for recognition and so 
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authenticity. 
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certain things but I feel really
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what develops loyalty and 
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Loyalty. 
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important to me that, you know, 
I'm always going to be authentic

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and it's important to me that, 
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what I speak about or who I 
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of authenticity and not just 
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attention. 
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said this before, I thought the 
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five people tuned in and that's 
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So it's all the more important 
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myself. 
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podcast is which is really to 
bring humanity and the human 

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back into Human Resources, back 
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functions of the world that have
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And so, thinking about that on 
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opinion again are not authentic 
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is to gain followers, it's just 
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I mean, yes, we put out content,
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gain traction, and to gain 
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But it's not because I want a 
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it's because I feel I have an 
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get it out there and I want 
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Then I want businesses to be 
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That's what I want. 
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have to put out, content on 
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engaging, then I'm going to do 
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a way that's authentic. 
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at a Crossroads I guess I should
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I'm somewhat feeling like I 
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there anymore, but I don't have 
that option when I'm trying to 

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To grow a very specific 
following which is people who 

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are looking to have answers 
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coming up in their experiences 
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And for people who are in the 
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any industry. 
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on LinkedIn, to Market on 
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to do it in the way that others 
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authentically myself. 
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people who I feel are being 
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I get the reason why people want
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buying your products, listening 
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book and that's fine. 
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bought into what LinkedIn is 
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I feel like there's a more 
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On my Instagram story is a few 
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I posted that someone connected 
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Audio greeting basically and he 
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video. 
It was raw it was in the moment 

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off the cuff and I loved it. 
I thought it was a brilliant way

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of capturing my attention 
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and really being open to a 
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with a video. 
And now, since being connected 

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with him and seeing him on my 
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and there's Thing about seeing a
video that's different than 

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reading a long post about 
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that we've learned. 
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that you can get the tone of 
voice that you see the person's 

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reactions, it's just better in 
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I find that it's more authentic.
It's easier to relate to and it 

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doesn't make me question whether
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just one hundred percent more 
authentic and this made me We 

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think about the way that we 
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at work. 
In this new space, we have an 

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opportunity when we are working 
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video. 
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who are in new positions, I 
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really important. 
People don't know you. 

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If you're starting a new job in 
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what it is that you're 
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The video gives you an 
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information. 
That's different, that's harder 

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to relay when you're not on 
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So I think about before the 
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conference calls and we dial 
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a conference code number. 
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their names and then we'd start 
talking and it just like wasn't 

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a great way of connecting. 
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when we first close the stores, 
we were still using these 

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conference call numbers and I 
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to ditch these numbers, we have 
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which is the tool that we are 
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know how to use teams. 
They don't know how to use the 

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the functionality that, you 
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the conference call numbers, and
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We should connect over video, 
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We should connect over video and
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with using that technology and 
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And slowly people started 
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And joined by video, we were all
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So your our hair was up, you 
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even still wear that way. 
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To this new technology. 
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that, as we've hired new 
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we've hired new, even interns. 
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in an environment that is 100% 
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them? 
Helping them acclimate to this 

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new environment has been really 
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training virtual, we've taken 
all of our Um, resources virtual

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for the most part and I think 
it's actually allowed us to 

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develop closer relationships 
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doing that. 
So all of this is to say that I 

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think there are better ways that
we can express ourselves 

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authentically, whether it's in 
the workplace or in our side 

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hustles like this podcast, for 
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And so, if you are a new 
employee or if You're a content 

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creator or you have a business 
of your own. 

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I challenge you to, think of 
ways to challenge, again, 

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challenge, the status quo. 
I know I've been saying this, 

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like, on every single episode 
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LinkedIn is your your place to 
go, that's great. 

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But is there a way to that? 
You can be more authentic to 

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capture and heightened 
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of Engagement without negating? 
Your authenticity, is there a 

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way to You on board in a new 
company where you are adapting 

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to a new environment. 
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authentically yourself and you 
are taking the bull by the horns

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and you're connecting with 
people and you're getting on the

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video. 
Those are all ways that I think 

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challenging the status quo is 
really valuable coming back to 

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this bubble of what feels like 
inauthenticity in the online 

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space. 
Clubhouse has been an app and 

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I've talked about this, I know 
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people can really have open 
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We can make mistakes we can talk
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I think it's devoid of that 
cancel culture, ask environment 

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that we all navigate every 
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communication. 
I don't know about you. 

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Anytime I put something in 
writing, I think like, is 

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someone going to get mad at me? 
Is someone going to say that 

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I've done something wrong that 
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I mean, I really always think 
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that someone is going to have 
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exactly what I'm thinking and 
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I just think about do I need to 
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much, an unscripted unedited 
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I think that we need to be able 
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anything. 
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Instagram live for the first 
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was one day where I was 
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Survivor the very first 
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clubhouse. 
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and then I went to a room. 
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stocks that you should be on the
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variation in topics and 
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highly recommend it enough. 
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member, I guess we can say on 
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really geared toward people 
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Just wanting to hear themselves 
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I did speak twice. 

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I spoke twice. 
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what the topic was about because
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anyone under the bus. 
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meat and potatoes if you will of
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or unless you said something 
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in the room. 
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speak and I say that because 
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actually ended up connecting 
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interesting person with 
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Instagram, and we had a little 
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kind of like glad to hear that 
it wasn't Just me taking that 

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away from the room because I 
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things. 
Personally, we're all human. 

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Sure? 
I can take a direct message, 

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tell me anything you want 
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depending on the response, 
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insecure about what I've just 
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because I was authentically me. 
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something wrong? 
Did I say something to offend 

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someone, but looking back on it 
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follow more people and have more
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I was like, okay, actually there
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benefited from something that I 
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So anyway, going back to this 
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people I had shared a point 
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that was contrasting to 
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I just, I'd they didn't like it.
It's not even I think, They 

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didn't like it. 
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that someone jumped in no one 
said like, hey, thanks for, you 

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know, taking part in the 
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Like so glad to have you, they 
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literally didn't make any sense.
There was no connection to the 

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topic. 
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they were just saying words to 
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you're not in the HR Space. 
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about HR, you hear someone 
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are an expert in. 
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saying. 
This kind of comes back to the 

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last episode from a couple weeks
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navigating mentors and public 
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If you don't look into what 
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factual, it all sounds like it 
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using words that you've heard 
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and all of the above But when 
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know what they're talking about,
you can tell when it just 

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doesn't make sense. 
So when they moved from me with 

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no thanks, thanks for being 
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Great to have you blah blah blah
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person that other person. 
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about things that literally made
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I was like, oh, they low-key 
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actually, the transition was 
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this. 
They said, I can't even 

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remember, but they said 
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there's someone who I think has 
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then they went into that person 
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kind of feel a little shut down.
But all right, we it's fine. 

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You know, it is what it is. 
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Still in the room, I'm listening
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And again, it was just like the 
other person talking to talk. 

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Was it related to the topic? 
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information that I thought were 
really good. 

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Yes. 
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continuation that it felt like 
it was just a room to boost 

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those people's platforms. 
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And those people do similar 
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And it just it makes me feel 
like they're not in this for the

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reasons that help other people 
where they're being authentic 

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and they're looking to support 
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not there, their mission great 
that's fine. 

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But their mission they say that 
their mission is to help and 

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support people. 
So why are they only talking 

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about their platform? 
Don't get it. 

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So I'm sorry I'm really 
digressing here. 

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And again, I'm not looking to 
shoot down anybody. 

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Like, I'm just kind of 
expressing the frustration that 

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I am feeling and some of these 
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platforms because it's such a 
bubble, like, it's a bubble that

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we've got a burst, like, be 
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a wall there and you're keeping 
people out and you're not being 

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vulnerable. 
So, Even though I was just shut 

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down, like, 10 minutes, prior, 
15 minutes. 

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Prior I decided to shoot my shot
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And I failed, I spoke I was 
super brief, maybe 20 seconds 

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and I was talking about how 
every leader. 

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Every people manager has a 
responsibility to be HR leaders,

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that was the essence of my 
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That it's not just HR that 
manages, the people function, so

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to speak. 
It's everybody to me, that's a 

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really good point. 
Like, that's what. 

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I really try to hone in on them 
so many of these episodes and 

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with my own employees and again,
they shot me down, I completely 

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failed, I completely failed and 
may be on the outside looking 

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in. 
I didn't fail because I did get 

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a few people who reach out 
reached out to me on clubhouse 

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like by following me. 
But also, then on Instagram 

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saying, hey like, you know, I 
really liked your points, 

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whatever. 
Which that again that's not why 

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I was speaking. 
I really just wanted to engage 

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in great discussion about this 
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gets words They didn't say 
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They didn't say thank you. 
They they just totally ignored 

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me and then they moved me from 
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rejected rejected. 
In clubhouse terms, in order to 

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speak, you have to raise your 
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to speak and basically that 
brings you up on stage. 

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If you are just listening and 
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you just want to listen, no 
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You stay in ads, the audience 
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the stage you can stay there so 
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discussion which sometimes I do.
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I actually don't even join the 
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like to hear what other people 
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small. 
Are interesting people out 

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there. 
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incredible. 
I keep saying this. 

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So they moved me to the audience
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to the audience with with me. 
I'm sorry, I'm like recalling 

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this and I'm just I can't help 
but find it so amusing that 

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there's such a power trip over 
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That's that's the perception I 
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It could be completely devoid of
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It's possible that that's not 
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what they were feeling. 
Nevertheless myself and to 

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others. 
We got kicked out, we got the 

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boot, okay, we got the boot and 
this is what I was referring to 

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before that. 
There was this really 

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interesting person who I had 
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both followed each other, and 
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and she, and I were talking 
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audience after we spoke and how 
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and how unwelcoming it was. 
And I was like, yeah, don't 

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forget about So, and so guy, who
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just the three of us and I 
thought it was only me. 

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She thought it was only her and 
it was just so funny because 

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that's not a way that you engage
in thoughtful discussion and 

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they have these events that are 
recurring and now I just kind of

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feel like I'm not going to go to
them. 

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Maybe I'll just create my own 
version that's more welcoming 

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and more open. 
So there is a There was a silver

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lining there that this, this 
woman, and I were able to 

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discuss outside of Clubhouse, 
how it made us feel and what 

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we'd want to do differently. 
And then, it's so funny later in

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the day, we ended up being on 
the same or in a same room for 

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women in Business and 
Entrepreneurship and we were 

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able to share this story and the
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that's crazy. 
Like, that is not cool, but it's

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all about finding the right 
Roofing. 

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Room for you. 
So, moving away from that, long 

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story that I just shared the key
here. 

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And the reason why I am taking 
this week's episode to talk 

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about authenticity is because 
while I am so focused on D 

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stigmatizing HR. 
I am now. 

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So focused on the authentic 
self, there is nothing that 

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destigmatize has HR more than 
authenticity and transparency. 

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That is the Kryptonite of HR. 
People who are not authentic and

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I've come to this realization, 
after those weird Clubhouse 

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moments this week. 
But I'm glad that I got there 

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and I'm glad that I'm coming to 
the point where I don't care 

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that those people have massive 
followings and they could help 

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me get more engagement or more 
Focus or whatever. 

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I don't need them because I 
don't want to be like them and 

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so I am focusing my platform. 
My Episodes for you guys, my 

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content, whatever that means on 
being authentic, remaining 

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authentic, because I've always 
been myself and bringing people 

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on who want to be vulnerable and
want to be authentic. 

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So all of that is to say that I 
have some really exciting 

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episodes coming up for you guys.
I'm going to have a few guests 

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on in the next few weeks and I'm
just really looking forward to 

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the future of this podcast. 
I mean, every single I tell you 

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this. 
I'm so grateful for all of your 

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support and that you listen. 
And that you subscribe, it's 

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really given me the ability to 
be vulnerable. 

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But also have space to talk 
about things that I'm probably 

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not alone in feeling be 
authentic, be vulnerable and 

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don't feel like you need to be 
in someone's Network just 

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because they have a wide reach. 
You can create that for 

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yourself. 
I'm going to listen back to this

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and I'm Going to remind myself 
that not only am I speaking to 

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you about that, but I'm also 
speaking to myself. 

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So I'm just really excited to 
continue to meet people who have

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like-minded approaches with what
this whole social media thing 

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offers us. 
So I hope you guys have a 

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wonderful week as a, reminder, 
every Tuesday, I am doing an 

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Instagram live office, happy 
hours. 

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So the first one went really, 
really well. 

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I'm still deciding on whether 9.
I'm Eastern is the right time I 

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did. 
Do a poll in my stories. 

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It looks like we're a bit 50/50 
but I might rotate it. 

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So for this week coming up, it's
going to be 9 p.m. 

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Eastern. 
Please make sure you join if 

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you're listening to this episode
way later than Tuesday, the 

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second week in February, that's 
okay. 

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Just take a look on my Instagram
for the time that the Instagram 

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live is going to be. 
I also on Thursday, zico 

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moderate In clubhouse. 
A room that is all about 

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navigating the workplace in this
new normal. 

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So again, if you don't have 
Clubhouse yet, make sure you 

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find someone with an invite. 
I don't have any invites right 

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now but reach out to me on 
Instagram, sometimes I do get 

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them randomly and I'd love to be
able to invite you and help you 

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navigate a really wonderful new.
Social media Network. 

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Don't forget to rate review And 
subscribe. 

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Connect with me on Instagram at 
HR. 

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Tracy on Clubhouse as HR. 
Tracy, you can go to my 

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Instagram and click the link 
Tree in my bio and that will 

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connect you to every single 
place where you can find me. 

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Thank you guys so much for 
joining me for another week and 

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I will see you next week.