Account add me with her name and I said hi babe, she says hey, my
social was deleted. And I said, oh that's weird.
And I will tell you that she'd had that that one Instagram for
years and years and years and years.
So her whole life was on there. Every picture of her and her
son, every picture of her, all her travels, thousands of
friends, everyone seen her. She was so popular, you know,
and she had multiple businesses. So she shared a lot of her
businesses on that page as well and she had tons of followers.
And I said, Oh no, why did they delete you?
And she said I I'm not sure that was the So with this first new
Instagram and then we we chatted a little bit and I said did you
get my birthday message? And she said no, babe, my social
got deleted and I said okay here, I'll go into it and I'll
screenshot it and I'll send it to you.
So that's what I did. And in that message was, hey,
did he do it in front of your son?
And she didn't reply to that. She just replied, Aw, I love you
so much. Thanks.
Thank you my Angel. And we've had it a little bit
And then a couple days had gone by and again this new P0V 0X0
account was adding me and I said, what the heck is going on
here? And so I messaged her and I said
I'm not, I don't feel comfortable what is going on.
They wouldn't keep. Just this is not random.
Somebody is is doing this to you that knows you and she says no
babe, you know it, it's just I've I've broken the laws on
Instagram And here she sends me a screenshot of the deactivation
from Instagram saying, hey, we've deactivated your account
for this reason and it basically says I still have it.
It says for not following the the rules.
Guidelines, yes. And so I I still said I'm not
buying it. But it did say that the e-mail
was from the day before and I don't know what, Maybe someone
had been reporting it. I don't know how Instagram
works. I'm not good with social media
at all. Do you think someone was May who
was making these fake accounts? You think they weren't making
fake accounts? She was really making the new
account. Oh.
OK, OK, someone was having her accounts deleted.
Oh, OK. That's strange.
And she truly, I don't know if she truly thought it was.
It was Instagram saying that she did something wrong and so then
she said to me it's my IP address.
What? What?
So just to back up for a SEC, she said she had it when
Instagram started. So she had it for years, Yes.
And did she ever post anything that would be over the top that
would get her in trouble? The community guidelines and
your memory? No.
God no.
If yeah posted anything, it was crying out for help writing sad
messages, little quotes about how just like this cat go on
forever and you just keep being strong and stuff like that.
Never. So generally, she's Instagram
record her life, yes. What she was doing, her trips,
her family, her friends, the places that she went to.
She wasn't posting like crazy content that would put her in
the crosshairs of Instagram and your memory.
Okay. So that's strange.
That's strange. But her main account though her
main account that she had for the longest time, is deleted,
deleted, and every picture of her being abused is now black.
It shows that there's a photo there coming from her end, but
it's black and it has a white arrow on it and you try and
click on it and it does nothing. Weird.
That's so strange. So, and everyone's saying, oh,
we can never get those back. And you know, that's in the
detective's hands now. And they're trying to figure all
this out because her phone's been stolen.
Oh, so now also her phone's missing, right too.
Yes, right. So she gets this new Instagram
and she's, hey, I'm in Thailand and I said, oh, where's your
baby? And she said he's with me.
And I said I just sent her that like evil eye hand and I said
wow, how amazing. I said babe enjoy.
I love you so much. What?
Was the timeline of this though just for the audience?
I understand the timeline of the events of what you're talking
about right now, What kind of time stamp it?
I wanna say in the middle of May she went.
Okay I. Can get the previous before she
passed away. Then she had only been home like
5 days or a week at this point when she passed.
Okay from the Thailand trip. And and then one of the charges
that Danny was stalking, So he, in your opinion or
understanding, he was actively stalking her.
Oh, harassing her left and right.
Wow, OK, so from my understanding, he didn't get
bail, so he's currently locked up, yes?
OK. And then there was some issues
with the family of regarding the child.
Yes, in court. It is all over the news that his
family was there supporting him. Sadly enough, you know you can.
You can believe your family, your blood, whatever you want to
call it. But it doesn't make it right.
Or in my opinion, it makes it very strange that his family,
his mother, wouldn't reach out to Tania's mom to say hey, so
sorry about the loss of your daughter and our daughterinlaw,
you know? Anything I could do, please let
me know. But his family's full of abuse.
His mother is abused by his father.
She's probably scared of her son and and this is now what we're
left with. But yes, the the the child.
Tanya's son at Danny's son as well.
So where is the child living now?
Done with Danny's mother. OK, so the grandma.
The grandma has the custody of the child at the currently, yes.
This got large media attention. Australia.
There was a candlelight visual in Australia.
She was a very beautiful woman. Everyone loved her.
She had a great personality. A lot of people are heartbroken.
The community's heartbroken. They all came together.
They had a beautiful candlelight visual.
You held one in Surrey and there's been an outpouring of
grief and support. What's next then?
No, I've talked to a lot of her friends there, her mother and
father here. I guess what's next is her dad
is currently in Australia working with the detectives and
the police. Just gather the last bit of
evidence of her life, you know, figure out what the next step is
legally. They are obviously looking at
the police in this situation because of the response time and
the the lack of, I guess you can call it care or putting her on a
priority. So I'm not sure.
I'm just waiting to hear. I'm still gathering evidence.
People are messaging me saying, hey, this is the conversation
Tanya and I last had. She had reached out saying like,
hey, I'm with the narcissist and I'm trying to leave and I'm back
in Vancouver now to gain my strength.
And it actually did gain her her strength and she moved out.
And so, yeah, I think, you know, from my understanding, again,
not being a detective, they are working hard.
We're trying to have patience, you know, to act.
This seems like, hey, this is like, so obvious.
Like what do you mean you haven't charged him?
They really have to make sure they have a solid open shut
case, yes. So I think that's where we're
at. And again, I'm just trying to
give support to everyone that loved her so dearly and
especially her parents who are now left without their child.
Well, Amber, she's lucky to have you as a friend.
I'm sure she's shining down and supporting you from above like
an Angel. This is an awful tragedy and the
worst possible outcome. Absolutely the worst possible
outcome. I wanna touch on a couple things
before we end this conversation. We've done some media interviews
and they felt that they weren't very accurate and reporting on
what you had to say and maybe you can clear that up.
Yeah, so definitely of the Australian news, they actually
were here for the candlelight in Vancouver and were absolutely
amazing. I feel that they're
knowledgeable, they care, they were very helpful.
I feel like they got a good message across and the global
was kind of, I wasn't very happy with it, It what it is, what it
is like they had stated that I was holding a a candlelight when
in reality I was actually doing more of a rally against domestic
violence and that was never put on the news.
And the time that I was holding it was never put on the news.
It just said, hey, you know, she's going to be holding a
candlelight for Tanya in Surrey at Holland Park tomorrow.
Right. But let me say what time Okay,
that's that's an important fact, right?
Yeah, because someone go over there, when are they supposed to
come if they wanted to attend? So that could have, that could
have helped bringing more people.
Yes. And again, I never had Facebook,
I've never spoken publicly, I've never done any of this.
Or you're. Doing an amazing job.
Thank you. So having to get a Facebook,
having to try and add these groups, I was writing the the
Surrey Women's Abuse Center and doing all these things, trying
to reach out to whoever I could to get her story out there, to
get help, to get people to come and and protest against domestic
violence. That didn't happen, but you know
what, the people that loved her, they were there and
unfortunately something couldn't make it.
We are going to be holding another event for her more more
towards domestic violence. I have one of her friends that's
reached out and is is willing to help me.
So we're going to do that. But in in specific the Daily
Hive. They were the last person to
contact me and this was just a couple days ago.
They contacted me saying hey Amber writing a report on this
story. We hear you know Tanya and we
would just like to clarify a couple things.
Can we please speak to you? And I said yeah, no problem.
Little did I know they had already published a their side
or whatever they thought was true.
I have people calling me, texting me freaking out, crying,
saying Oh my gosh, like what have they done?
Like they've completely twisted the story as like basically this
girl was traveling to Australia and with her son and she got
killed and now she didn't have travelers insurance and or life.
What? Yeah, life insurance.
And it's like so. Let's put back that up again so
there cuz I didn't read the article.
I remember you sent me the screenshot.
I'm not trying to be disparaging, but their take on
it or twist on it was she traveled to Australia, didn't
have travels insurance and then met some guy and got killed.
It's basically what everyone's saying and the comments are just
horrid. It's people that are uneducated
hide behind a computer. Just yeah, and.
Tell me about trolls. Ha ha.
We could have a four hour conversation about trolls.
They're probably abusers theirself.
And this is what them off. It's just disgusting behavior.
So I had written her, so she called me and I had a
conversation with her. She seemed lovely, she really
did. She seemed very empathetic.
Listened to my side, prayed, said I I really hope you know,
justice is served. Da da da da da this that the
other she has never written anything that I said.
She has not made a new post. She posted this thing basically
with a picture saying Tanya's family is raising funds for a
burial for Tanya. What?
No actually we we didn't. Her family never even.
And it says her family started a GoFundMe.
Her family didn't start a GoFundMe.
Her family has never met or knows who the person that
started that GoFundMe is. You know, bless her heart and I
pray that you know that is one of her best friends and she is
just. Listening to Go Fund Me in
Australia, I think you've talked about doing a second one local
and maybe explain what the go Fund me here and what it's for
and what with the potion, you know, getting that all set up by
tomorrow. I was just waiting to hear more
from what's going on in Australia.
But at the end of the day, you know, her parents are left with
memories of her and then their grandson.
And they really want to make sure that Zayn does have a
little bit of a hopeful future. It's going to take a lot of
therapy. It's there's circumstances that
need to be figured out. But this isn't easy for a child,
right? So you want to try it, you know,
do what Tanya was doing and and raise some money to give to him
for when he's, you know, give him, make him a trust fund and
give it to him when he's older so that he has a little bit of
help, the help he's never going to have from his mother.
And it's directly, you know, for that reason her parents are
going to be going into some debt.
Well for sure it's international, right?
The travel to Australia must be super expensive and then having
to get a lawyer that's couldn't untangle the international
aspect of it, the Canadian to Australian jurisdiction.
Recovering the body and bringing it home, the burial, the
funeral, the memorial, and then, like he said, therapy for the
child. This child has witnessed
something that no child should ever witness.
And that in itself is monster. What, Left for over 20 hours
with his mother's deceased body? Unacceptable.
It happened on his birthday. You know, that day for the rest
of his life. He's.
How can you be happy? How can you?
Oh my. God, though, every birthday now
is going to be tainted. So there's a there's a lot of
things just the way it was worded, the way it was presented
was basically and every comment says like, oh this living a high
lifestyle and and you can't even get life insurance when you have
a kid and blah blah blah traveling.
Even she did get travel insurance.
Maybe you should have got travel insurance and it's like but.
How would travel insurance saved her life?
That's that's the question I want to know.
Well, they're saying that her family wouldn't have to be
raising money for funds for her burial.
But The thing is, is travelers traveling.
That was her address. Right, yeah.
Because as far as I know from what you're saying, she was a
resident of Australia and she's. And just for the audience, to
Claire, for the audience. How long did she live in
Australia? For 10 years. 10 years.
When you live somewhere for 10 years, you're not buying travel
insurance. They wouldn't even give it.
To you probably kind of landed immigrant status for in Canada.
That would have been like the status that she would have had
if she was Australian and met someone here.
Until she got, she got her citizenship.
The the classification is a landed immigrant status, right?
So I don't think she would even qualify for travel insurance.
This is my rudimentary understanding.
Maybe some expert can set me straight.
But yeah, I know the comments are are always concerning, Like,
even on my Facebook page I, you know, I did a post for her and
people were like, oh, so glamorous.
Yeah. And I just delete like.
What does that have to do with it?
And you're just jealous because she was a more attractive than
you? Yeah, and you know what?
I We loved that glamour about her.
She was a true trendsetter. She was a fashionista.
She loved being beautiful. And she was, until the very last
second of her life that. Shouldn't matter.
And you know, again, like people saying, oh, but did she do drugs
and drink It meant well, even if she's like I said to you and
began this podcast. If she was drinking Jack Daniels
for 24 hours straight and then 8 ball.
Oh yeah, that gives her the right to get beat up and killed.
Yeah, right. Regardless the fact of the truth
of what actually happened here. Totally.
So this is a vicious we all, you know, do things that I'm sure a
lot of people don't approve of. But to each their own.
For sure. And you know what?
A people are allowed to live their lifestyle the way they
want without judgment, as long as they're not hurting people.
In this case, she got hurt by someone that couldn't control
themselves, and she'd obviously this.
To recap for the audience. She moved away.
She got her own place. This guy was actively stalking
her. He was very dangerous.
Obviously she made a call. They couldn't find where she
was, they couldn't help her and it was too late.
For all the narcissistic abuse podcasts I've made all the
guests I interviewed. This is the ultimate worst
outcome. And This is why I feel more like
energized to even go even deeper into the subject and try to
understand more about it. Because.
This shouldn't have happened. Now there's a child without
their mother and parents who lost their beautiful daughter
and you who lost your beautiful friend.
So you know it's it's the worst absolute outcome Paul.
You know, and I I I must get this in the media's attention as
well that the night of the this horrific incident happened one
of her good girlfriends was actually at her place until 8:30
PM. She called for help around 11:42
and you know she's given a statement and she's she's
cooperating. But her testament is that Tanya
was in a great mood and that like they were having so much
fun and she they would like nothing there.
There was an 8 balls of coke and stuff going on that night.
She had her son and they were just having a great night.
She left around 8:30 PM and then unfortunately he attended that
that unit so. Yeah, I know.
It's just just truly terrible. Is there anything any other
statement or anything you'd like to make just against the cycle
of abuse domestic violence? Like people need to educate
themselves. Any victim suffering like I pray
people start reaching out there is help you you just we got to
get over the the bump of being scared because I think that's
what holds a lot of us back. We think that the consequences
are are going to be worse than the actual help.
So yeah, I'm I'm devastated for her, for her family.
Most importantly her son. We can't get tiny back and
that's what's driving me to keep fighting and and pray for for
justice so her family can somewhat heal.
You'll never heal from there's a piece of you that will have some
peace knowing that someone is held accountable.
I really appreciate you speaking to me Mark.
This hasn't been easy as the days go on I'm I'm she know she
really is the one giving me the strength and that's who she was.
The strongest, most beautiful, caring, loving mother I'd ever
met. She's she's here with me because
there's no way I've lost people in my life and I've never gone
on the news. I've never done these things.
I, you know, I I lay down, I cry, and I just, I move on with
life. I will not move on until until
this is this is dealt with properly.
For sure, and you know, like I said to you know, for someone
who you know I. Who experienced the loss and,
you know, went through the whole roller coaster of emotion and
spectrum of grief and stuff. I can't emphasize this.
You're doing an amazing job, Amber.
But please don't forget yourself.
Care. Take care of yourself.
Take time for yourself. Do the things that are important
to you because they will renew you and then you'll be stronger
for the fight. I'm extremely sorry for
everything you've been through and I admire your strength and
determination to get justice. There's has to be a good outcome
of this. There's always has to be a
silver outline. Her death should have been
preventable. Maybe it can help spread
awareness and prevent someone else from having to be in the
situation. Domestic violence can happen to
men. It can happen to women, but
obviously it happens some more women and man or a woman out
there or whatever your gender that you identify with.
It's important to get help and for your safety.
The earliest signs, even though it's hard at the earliest stages
of red flags, listen to red flags, listen to your gut
instinct. In my situation, I wish I had
time to to back up and see the picture.
But in in my case it was a such a crazy tornado.
That it was just like you just feel like you're in a world
when, and I think in a lot of these situations, it's similar,
right? And it's quite overwhelming to
the person until it's too late for other people who've been
through this and maybe they're just recovering from the trauma.
Do yourself. Work.
Build yourself. Do things that are important to
be the best version of that you can be.
Especially if you have kids and family, other people that rely
on you, right? Well, thank you so much, Mark.
And I look forward to speaking to you again with you.
Yeah, for sure. You can come on the platform as
well. This story will progress.
And yeah, my platform is completely open.
My platform's your platform, Amber Okay, I appreciate it.
So, yes, I appreciate you very much.
No, we'll speak soon. Okay.
Thanks. So much.
Have a lovely day. You too.
Take care. Bye.