Vancouver. True Crime, podcast, welcomes.
You my name is Mark. I am the host of the show.
This episode is called evil intentions.
Narcissistic Monsters the tactics.
They use the emotional impact that it has some tactics to
defend yourself against them. And how to recognize them in the
first place. Thank you for listening to the
Vancouver True Crime podcast. Before I begin the show, I like
to make an announcement, very honored, and pleased.
The narcissistic Survivor will be coming on Vancouver, True
Crime podcast, very honored, a ver, we're going to be doing
some great shows together on gaslighting love-bombing and red
flags and much much more. Also, David Visa me back on the
show twice a month. We're going to be doing a new
series called the history of organized crime in Canada.
Of course, he's going to be sharing his experiences, his
insights, he was a top drug trafficker Hitman and
extortionist for many different crime families that operated in
Canada. Very honored to have him on the
show. Also working on getting a London
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the UK prison system, and bring some other London gangsters from
England on the Vancouver. True Crime podcast.
Thank you so much. Let's get in on the show.
Evil intentions. The nature of evil intention is
a complex and multifaceted topic.
That has been studied by philosophers theologians and
site colleges, for centuries generally.
Speaking evil intentions can be defined as deliberate actions or
motives that cause harm or suffering to others.
Some people believe that evil intention stems from a lack of
empathy or compassion. And that individuals who engage
in evil actions do not I fully understand or care about the
impact, their actions on others. Others believe that evil
intentions stems from a desire for power or control that
individuals who engage in evil actions do.
So in order to assert dominance over others, Some psychological
theories, suggest that evil intentions may be the results of
a personality disorder such as social pathy or psychopath e
that leads to a lack of moral compass and an inability to
empathize with others. There are also theories that
evil intentions are driven by certain ideologies belief
systems our cultural conditioning that justify
harmful actions and leads people to commit them.
It's important to note that there isn't a single explanation
for the nature of evil intentions.
And each person's motivations may be unique and different
understanding the complexity of evil intentions may help prevent
and respond to harmful actions. It also highlights the
importance of Education, empathy, and understanding as a
means to prevent evil intentions and actions, emotional abuse.
Is a pattern of behavior that's used to control and manipulate.
Or intimidate another person. This may take many forms.
And it can be difficult to recognize.
But some of the common tactics is of course, gaslighting
gaslighting is a tactic where the abuser manipulates the
victims and to doubting their own memories perceptions or
sanity. For example, the abuser may deny
that a conversation or event took place Even if the victim
clearly remembers it. So boil down gaslighting.
It's to make you doubt your own memory.
Your own perception of reality. Isolation.
The abuser may try to isolate the victim.
And may forbid their partner from going out, going to work
seeing friends or just doing activities that they enjoy doing
Hobbies Recreation. An isolated person is weak by
slowly isolating your victim. You make them more vulnerable to
your influence. Their isolation.
May be psychological by filling their field of vision through
the pleasure and attention that you may pay them.
You crowd out everything else in their mind, they see they think
of only you, the isolation may also be physical, you take them
away from their normal. Environment, their friends,
their family, their home. You give them a sense of being
marginalized in limbo. There are leaving One World
Behind and entering another one once isolated like this.
They may have no outside support in their confusion there easily,
LED astray liar, the seduced into your lair, where nothing
else is familiar. That is an excerpt from chapter
15 So late the victim and the Art of Seduction.
By Robert Greene, isolation is a tactic that's utilize bike alts,
manipulators human traffickers pimps and an abuser may use
threats or intimidation to control the victim.
For example, an abuser May threaten to hurt the victim or
someone they care about if they don't comply to their demands
emotion. Anal, blackmail, the abuser, may
use the victims a motion to control them.
For example, an abuser May threaten to harm themselves,
suicide, attempts, or suicidal ideation.
For example, abuser May threaten to harm themselves if the victim
leaves them or guilt to manipulate the victim into
staying. Of course, there's economic
abuse, the abuser May control, the victims access to financial
resources. For example, an abuser May
control. The vix of the access to money
or make them ask permission to spend money.
It's important to note that emotional abuse can happen in
any type of relationship. Including romantic relationship,
friendships family relationships, even in work
environments to I wanted to kind of dig more into like
psychological manipulation some more of the subtle tactics so in
one that comes up is triangulation, this is a tactic
where the manipulators involve a third party in the manipulation
often to gain information or crate conflict between the
victim and a third party. For example, abuser may use
their children to manipulate the partner by taking the children.
Aaron away if the partner doesn't comply with their
demands. Projection.
This is a tactic where the manipulator accuses the victim
of having the same narrative characteristic or intention that
they themselves have. For example, an abuser make use
a partner of being controlling when in reality, they are the
one that's controlling. Scapegoating this tactic is
where the manipulator blames the victim for the problems that are
not their fault. And they're not responsible for
an example, an abuser may be. The abuser May blame the partner
for the failure of the relationship, even though the
abuse is a real cause for the failure.
Love bombing. This is a tactic where the
manipulator uses excessive affection attention and gifts to
control and manipulate the victim.
For example, the abuser May shower, the partner with gifts
and attention and beginning of the relationship, to gain their
trust and then uses that trust to control them later on, of
course, their stocking stockings atactic were manipulators,
follow track and monitor the victims, movement activities, or
Or say shins for example, an abuser May track the person's
phone or social media activities.
Or may follow them in person to keep tabs of their movement mind
games. These are tactics where
manipulator uses psychological games or mind tricks to control
the victim. For example, an abuser, may play
a game of good cop/bad cop, where they alternate from being
nice, to being cruel, to keep the victim guessing and
off-balance. It's important to note that
these forms of manipulation can also also be used in combination
with other forms of manipulation and abuse.
For example, intimate partner. Violence is a pattern of
behavior used by one partner to exert control over the other
partner in an intimate relationship.
This can include. Of course physical abuse,
hitting punching slapping choking, using a weapon to harm
the partner. Sexual abuse forcing coercing
the partner into sexual acts emotional abuse.
Again, belittling and salting threatening isolating,
controlling the partner economic abuse controlling the partners
access to money, resources or employment opportunities.
Psychological abuse manipulating, the other
partners, thoughts feelings, and behavior, harassment, repeated
phone calls messages. Emails visits that can cause and
strike fear, or distress stocking watching moderating,
the person's movement cyberstalking using technology
to stock and harass the partner. All these things can also be
known as especially if they cross the line as criminal
harassment. Criminal harassment is also
known as stocking. It's a pattern of abuse and
behavior, that's intended to cause fear and distress in the
victims, repeatedly following or watching someone either in
person or online. Sending repeated and unwanted
messages or communication, either by phone email or social
media threatening to harm a victim or their loved one
damaging the victims property, posting personal information
about the victim online, harassing the victims, friends,
and family showing up at the victims, workplace, or home
Uninvited using technology to track the victims move.
Moments or activity criminal harassment and stalking or
criminal offenses and can result in severe penalties including
imprisonment, it's important to seek help.
If you or someone's experienced criminal harassment or stalking,
please make a police report as a good start.
And it's important to note that the side effects of this
behavior is comes down again to emotional abuse.
Emotional abuse can be just as harmful as physical abuse.
Emotional abuse can be very difficult to recognize can lead
to long-term mental health issues, such as depression,
anxiety, post-traumatic stress, disorder, emotional abuse can
also have physical. Co effects such as headaches,
stomach problems, sleep disturbances.
Emotional abuse is not limited to.
One gender can be done by anyone and it can be suffered by
anyone. Emotional abuse.
Can take many forms as we said verbal, social, isolation, and
controlling Behavior, a pattern of chronic Behavior rather than
a one-time occurrence. Emotional abuse can be subtle
and Insidious. Making it difficult.
Alt for the victims to realize that they're even being abused
in the first place. Emotional abuse can be hard to
detect as it's not physical, but it can have very long lasting
effects on the victims. Mental health and well-being,
that I think is important to talk about in this evil.
Intention podcast is pathological Liars, because one
of the The effective gaslighting tactic is the ability to lie
with this. Such certainty going all the way
back to the beginning of the series.
Paul Bernardo in that police station and lie with such ease
and conviction. So pathological liar is is
someone who lies compulsively and uncontrollably often for no
apparent reason or benefit. They may have a difficult
distinguishing between truth and fiction to recognize a
pathological liar. You may, you may have to observe
the pattern of lying and dishonesty, a lack of remorse or
guilt and a tendency to become defensive or invasive.
When confronted about their lives dealing with a
pathological, liar can be extremely challenging and
Requires a great deal of patience.
If you're dealing with a pathological liar, don't
confront them directly. This is more likely to make them
more defensive and likely you're going to hear more lies and
bullshit. Keep records of the lies.
They tell I've even in my case, I've even had to record people
and then they will be like, oh, I never said that.
Oh, really. And then you play the recording
So keep records of the lies. They tell this may help you see
a pattern and be able to confront them with specific
examples. When the time is right, do not
engage in their lives, refuse to participate in their deception,
And do not provide them with an audience avoid being mostly
invested. Remember that pathological
lying. It's a set boundaries rather
trying to change that person. Pathological lying is not a
standalone Condition, it's a symptoms of underlining
psychological issues. Some of the common psychological
issues that may be Associated includes narcissistic
personality disorder sense of grandiose sense of importance
and the need for admiration. Borderline personality disorder
have unstable. Able relationship, self-image
emotions, and they may engage in pulse of Reckless Behavior.
Antisocial personality disorder age and deceitful, and
manipulative, Behavior, hissa tronic personality disorder,
excessive, emotionality and attention-seeking behavior.
Bipolar disorder. May have manic episodes that are
characterized by an Some energy impulsivity that may lead to
lying post-traumatic stress disorder, may have experienced a
traumatic event in their past and use lying as a coping
mechanism. It's also worth noting in some
cases, that pathological lying can be a symptom of other mental
health conditions, such as schizophrenia and brain injury.
It's important to understand that these conditions require
professional help. And accurate diagnosis.
Effective ways to guard against mental abuse of tricks by
narcissists. Here are some effective ways to
guard against the mental manipulation tactics, used by
narcissist first and foremost awareness is everything.
Educate yourself about narcissistic abuse.
Understanding the tactics that nurse's use can help you
recognize when you're being manipulated or controlled.
Learn to trust your own instincts and feelings.
Listen to your gut feeling narcissus off and try to make
the victims doubt their own reality.
So, it's important to trust your own instincts and feelings.
Even if the nurses is trying to convince you, otherwise, hence,
again, the gaslighting Establish boundaries learn to set and
enforce boundaries with a narcissist communicate them.
Clearly this can help you maintain autonomy and protect
yourself from further in manipulation.
Seek support. Surround yourself with people,
you trust and support. You don't be afraid to seek,
professional help, practice, self-care narcissistic abuse,
can take a toll on your mental and emotional, well-being,
engage in self care practices, such as exercise therapy
mindfulness, which can help you build a resistance.
In cope, with the effect of the abuse, create a safety plan, in
a case, Better emergency. It's important to have a plan
for leaving the relationship safely.
This may include having a bag packed money saved a safe place
to go, do not engage in communication with the
narcissus. When you're feeling vulnerable,
narcissists are skilled at exploiting vulnerability.
It is essential to be in a clear State of Mind when interacting
with them. It's important to remember that
healing and recovering from the nurse's abuse is a process.
It takes time, it's important to be patient and compassionate
with yourself again. Hypnotherapy Can Be an Effective
tool for helping individuals who have been in a relationship with
a narcissist to heal from the emotion and psychological trauma
caused by the abuse. Here are some hypnotherapy
techniques that can be used in the treatment of narcissistic
abuse regression therapy. This technique can help an
individual access and process repressed memories and emotions
related to the abuse by identifying and resolving past
trauma. An individual can gain insight
and understanding and begin to heal.
Positive visualization affirmations.
This technique can help individuals replace negative
thoughts and beliefs with positive ones by visualizing a
positive, future and repeating positive affirmations.
An individual can develop a more positive self image and self
improve their image relaxation. And stress management, this
technique can help individuals, relax, reduce stress.
And improve their overall well-being, cognitive reframing
this technique can help an individual change their thought
pattern, replace negative thoughts with more positive and
constructive. One anchoring this technique can
help an individual associate anchoring, this technique can
help an individual to associate positive emotions with specific
trigger such as words gestures. Or an image, this can be used to
help them feel more positive in difficult situations break the
negative pattern of thoughts and behavior associated with the
abuse. Re scripting.
This technique can help an individual rewrite, their past
experiences, create a new narrative, A New Perspective,
and past events. This can help reduce the power
and the past trauma, and the negative experiences and reduce
the hold of The abuser over the victims mind.
It's important to note that hypnotherapy should be conducted
by a licensed trained experienced professional.
Also, it's important to note that hypnotherapy can be used as
a complementary approach. It should be used in conjunction
with other therapy, modalities such as cognitive behavior
therapy. So I'm going to end this podcast
with a guided meditation. I'm going to end this podcast
with a guided meditation. This one, please be in a
comfortable place, laying in bed, the couch comfortable
chair, and somewhere quiet. So we're going to start off with
your eyes closed. And we're going to first focus
on your breathing, going to close your eyes.
And don't worry. If your mind wanders, we're just
going to count your breasts. We're going to breathe to a
count of 10, but we're going to take exaggerated breasts.
So we're going to do like this for an example, one. 23.
Four. Five.
Six. Seven.
Eight. Nine. 10:00.
With your eyes closed. Allow yourself any tension in
your body? You're going to first feel, a
warm glow of light, penetrating light.
A powerful light penetrate the top of your skull and it's going
to move down your body and as it moves down your body, it's going
to relieve any stress or tension that you may have in your body.
So as of Golden Light starts, penetrating the top of your
head. Working down into your face,
your cheekbones, your job, muscles your neck, the back of
your neck, your chest, your arms, your shoulders.
Your midsection, your torso, you feel this energy swirling around
relieving, any tension, you may have in your body.
Now it's going to go in your waist down your legs, right?
Down to your feet, until your entire body is by this golden
relaxing, light. You breathe slowly, exhale as
each breath leaves your body. Your body becomes more relaxed,
as you continue to breathe deeply and slowly, imagine
yourself in a peaceful beautiful place, it's quiet.
It's a place you visited before. It may be a place you've been
over. It could be a place of your own
choosing and Imagination. However, this place you feel
completely comfortable at ease. And at peace as you imagine this
place, you notice the colors, the brilliant beautiful colors.
The Sounds the sensation, you can still feel the Warm Glow of
the sun on your skin. There's a cool breeze on your
hair. It almost makes the back your
neck. Tingle.
You hear sounds of birds singing in the breeze in your hair.
If Phil's gentle warm and relaxing, allow yourself to be
fully immersed in this peaceful, beautiful place.
As you continue to feel relaxed and safe.
I would like you to think of a time when you felt emotionally
abused or traumatized, it may be a specific event or a pattern of
behavior. As you think about this, notice
any feelings are thought that comes up for you.
Now, as you continue to relax, imagine yourself standing in
front of a door, the door, represents the past events or
pattern of behavior that caused you this emotional.
Pain and Trauma. Imagine yourself opening the
door and stepping through it. And as you do, notice that
you're in a different place, a place where you're safe and in
control. As he stand and this new place.
Imagine yourself, looking back at the door.
Notice that it is now far behind you that you no longer are a
victim of the abuse. Instead, you're a Survivor,
you're strong, you're capable of overcoming.
Any obstacle that comes your way.
Now, as you continue to relax, imagine yourself.
Taking some time to reflect on your past experiences, notice in
any insights or learning that has come to, you allow yourself
to progress and integrate these insights into your life.
Remember that? You are safe, you're in control.
You have the power to create a new reality for yourself.
One. That is free from emotional
abuse and Trauma. Take some time, relax.
Slowly slowly come back to reality.
Take your time. Breathe.
Breathe, take your time. Open your eyes and enjoy the new
you the new powerful you and the new battery, you the new you of
your own choosing