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Vancouver. 
True Crime, podcast, welcomes. 

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You my name is Mark. 
I am the host of the show. 

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This episode is called evil 
intentions. 

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Narcissistic Monsters the 
tactics. 

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They use the emotional impact 
that it has some tactics to 

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defend yourself against them. 
And how to recognize them in the

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first place. 
Thank you for listening to the 

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Vancouver True Crime podcast. 
Before I begin the show, I like 

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to make an announcement, very 
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The narcissistic Survivor will 
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Crime podcast, very honored, a 
ver, we're going to be doing 

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some great shows together on 
gaslighting love-bombing and red

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flags and much much more. 
Also, David Visa me back on the 

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show twice a month. 
We're going to be doing a new 

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series called the history of 
organized crime in Canada. 

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Of course, he's going to be 
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insights, he was a top drug 
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extortionist for many different 
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Canada. 
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show. 
Also working on getting a London

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gangster on the show is going to
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the UK prison system, and bring 
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England on the Vancouver. 
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Thank you so much. 
Let's get in on the show. 

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Evil intentions. 
The nature of evil intention is 

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a complex and multifaceted 
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That has been studied by 
philosophers theologians and 

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site colleges, for centuries 
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Speaking evil intentions can be 
defined as deliberate actions or

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motives that cause harm or 
suffering to others. 

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Some people believe that evil 
intention stems from a lack of 

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empathy or compassion. 
And that individuals who engage 

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in evil actions do not I fully 
understand or care about the 

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impact, their actions on others.
Others believe that evil 

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intentions stems from a desire 
for power or control that 

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individuals who engage in evil 
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So in order to assert dominance 
over others, Some psychological 

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theories, suggest that evil 
intentions may be the results of

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a personality disorder such as 
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that leads to a lack of moral 
compass and an inability to 

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empathize with others. 
There are also theories that 

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evil intentions are driven by 
certain ideologies belief 

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systems our cultural 
conditioning that justify 

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harmful actions and leads people
to commit them. 

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It's important to note that 
there isn't a single explanation

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for the nature of evil 
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And each person's motivations 
may be unique and different 

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understanding the complexity of 
evil intentions may help prevent

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and respond to harmful actions. 
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importance of Education, 
empathy, and understanding as a 

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means to prevent evil intentions
and actions, emotional abuse. 

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Is a pattern of behavior that's 
used to control and manipulate. 

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Or intimidate another person. 
This may take many forms. 

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And it can be difficult to 
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But some of the common tactics 
is of course, gaslighting 

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gaslighting is a tactic where 
the abuser manipulates the 

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victims and to doubting their 
own memories perceptions or 

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sanity. 
For example, the abuser may deny

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that a conversation or event 
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clearly remembers it. 
So boil down gaslighting. 

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It's to make you doubt your own 
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Your own perception of reality. 
Isolation. 

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The abuser may try to isolate 
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And may forbid their partner 
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seeing friends or just doing 
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Hobbies Recreation. 
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slowly isolating your victim. 
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your influence. 
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May be psychological by filling 
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the pleasure and attention that 
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You crowd out everything else in
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of only you, the isolation may 
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away from their normal. 
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their family, their home. 
You give them a sense of being 

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marginalized in limbo. 
There are leaving One World 

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Behind and entering another one 
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They may have no outside support
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LED astray liar, the seduced 
into your lair, where nothing 

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else is familiar. 
That is an excerpt from chapter 

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15 So late the victim and the 
Art of Seduction. 

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By Robert Greene, isolation is a
tactic that's utilize bike alts,

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manipulators human traffickers 
pimps and an abuser may use 

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threats or intimidation to 
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For example, an abuser May 
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someone they care about if they 
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emotion. 
Anal, blackmail, the abuser, may

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use the victims a motion to 
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For example, an abuser May 
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suicide, attempts, or suicidal 
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For example, abuser May threaten
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leaves them or guilt to 
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staying. 
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abuse, the abuser May control, 
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resources. 
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control. 
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or make them ask permission to 
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It's important to note that 
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any type of relationship. 
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friendships family 
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environments to I wanted to kind
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psychological manipulation some 
more of the subtle tactics so in

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one that comes up is 
triangulation, this is a tactic 

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where the manipulators involve a
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often to gain information or 
crate conflict between the 

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victim and a third party. 
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their children to manipulate the
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Aaron away if the partner 
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demands. 
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This is a tactic where the 
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of having the same narrative 
characteristic or intention that

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they themselves have. 
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a partner of being controlling 
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one that's controlling. 
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where the manipulator blames the
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not their fault. 
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an example, an abuser may be. 
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for the failure of the 
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abuse is a real cause for the 
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Love bombing. 
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manipulator uses excessive 
affection attention and gifts to

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control and manipulate the 
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For example, the abuser May 
shower, the partner with gifts 

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and attention and beginning of 
the relationship, to gain their 

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trust and then uses that trust 
to control them later on, of 

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course, their stocking stockings
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follow track and monitor the 
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Or say shins for example, an 
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phone or social media 
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Or may follow them in person to 
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games. 
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manipulator uses psychological 
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the victim. 
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a game of good cop/bad cop, 
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nice, to being cruel, to keep 
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off-balance. 
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these forms of manipulation can 
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with other forms of manipulation
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For example, intimate partner. 
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behavior used by one partner to 
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partner in an intimate 
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This can include. 
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hitting punching slapping 
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the partner. 
Sexual abuse forcing coercing 

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the partner into sexual acts 
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Again, belittling and salting 
threatening isolating, 

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controlling the partner economic
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Psychological abuse 
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partners, thoughts feelings, and
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phone calls messages. 
Emails visits that can cause and

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strike fear, or distress 
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the person's movement 
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to stock and harass the partner.
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known as especially if they 
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harassment. 
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known as stocking. 
It's a pattern of abuse and 

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behavior, that's intended to 
cause fear and distress in the 

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victims, repeatedly following or
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person or online. 
Sending repeated and unwanted 

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messages or communication, 
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media threatening to harm a 
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damaging the victims property, 
posting personal information 

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about the victim online, 
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and family showing up at the 
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Uninvited using technology to 
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Moments or activity criminal 
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criminal offenses and can result
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imprisonment, it's important to 
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If you or someone's experienced 
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please make a police report as a
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And it's important to note that 
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behavior is comes down again to 
emotional abuse. 

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Emotional abuse can be just as 
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Emotional abuse can be very 
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to long-term mental health 
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anxiety, post-traumatic stress, 
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also have physical. 
Co effects such as headaches, 

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stomach problems, sleep 
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Emotional abuse is not limited 
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Can take many forms as we said 
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controlling Behavior, a pattern 
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a one-time occurrence. 
Emotional abuse can be subtle 

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and Insidious. 
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Alt for the victims to realize 
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in the first place. 
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detect as it's not physical, but
it can have very long lasting 

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effects on the victims. 
Mental health and well-being, 

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that I think is important to 
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Intention podcast is 
pathological Liars, because one 

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of the The effective gaslighting
tactic is the ability to lie 

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with this. 
Such certainty going all the way

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back to the beginning of the 
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Paul Bernardo in that police 
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and conviction. 
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someone who lies compulsively 
and uncontrollably often for no 

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apparent reason or benefit. 
They may have a difficult 

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distinguishing between truth and
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pathological liar. 
You may, you may have to observe

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the pattern of lying and 
dishonesty, a lack of remorse or

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guilt and a tendency to become 
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When confronted about their 
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pathological, liar can be 
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Requires a great deal of 
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If you're dealing with a 
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confront them directly. 
This is more likely to make them

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more defensive and likely you're
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bullshit. 
Keep records of the lies. 

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They tell I've even in my case, 
I've even had to record people 

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and then they will be like, oh, 
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Oh, really. 
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So keep records of the lies. 
They tell this may help you see 

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a pattern and be able to 
confront them with specific 

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examples. 
When the time is right, do not 

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engage in their lives, refuse to
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And do not provide them with an 
audience avoid being mostly 

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invested. 
Remember that pathological 

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lying. 
It's a set boundaries rather 

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trying to change that person. 
Pathological lying is not a 

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standalone Condition, it's a 
symptoms of underlining 

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psychological issues. 
Some of the common psychological

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issues that may be Associated 
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personality disorder sense of 
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and the need for admiration. 
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have unstable. 
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emotions, and they may engage in
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Antisocial personality disorder 
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manipulative, Behavior, hissa 
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excessive, emotionality and 
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Bipolar disorder. 
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characterized by an Some energy 
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lying post-traumatic stress 
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mechanism. 
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cases, that pathological lying 
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It's important to understand 
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professional help. 
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Effective ways to guard against 
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narcissists. 
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narcissist first and foremost 
awareness is everything. 

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Educate yourself about 
narcissistic abuse. 

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Understanding the tactics that 
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recognize when you're being 
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Learn to trust your own 
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Listen to your gut feeling 
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the victims doubt their own 
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So, it's important to trust your
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Even if the nurses is trying to 
convince you, otherwise, hence, 

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again, the gaslighting Establish
boundaries learn to set and 

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enforce boundaries with a 
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Clearly this can help you 
maintain autonomy and protect 

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yourself from further in 
manipulation. 

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Seek support. 
Surround yourself with people, 

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you trust and support. 
You don't be afraid to seek, 

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professional help, practice, 
self-care narcissistic abuse, 

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can take a toll on your mental 
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engage in self care practices, 
such as exercise therapy 

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mindfulness, which can help you 
build a resistance. 

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In cope, with the effect of the 
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a case, Better emergency. 
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for leaving the relationship 
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This may include having a bag 
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to go, do not engage in 
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narcissus. 
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narcissists are skilled at 
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with them. 
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healing and recovering from the 
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It takes time, it's important to
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with yourself again. 
Hypnotherapy Can Be an Effective

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tool for helping individuals who
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a narcissist to heal from the 
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caused by the abuse. 
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techniques that can be used in 
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abuse regression therapy. 
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individual access and process 
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related to the abuse by 
identifying and resolving past 

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trauma. 
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and understanding and begin to 
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Positive visualization 
affirmations. 

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This technique can help 
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thoughts and beliefs with 
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positive, future and repeating 
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An individual can develop a more
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improve their image relaxation. 
And stress management, this 

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technique can help individuals, 
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And improve their overall 
well-being, cognitive reframing 

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this technique can help an 
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pattern, replace negative 
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constructive. 
One anchoring this technique can

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help an individual associate 
anchoring, this technique can 

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help an individual to associate 
positive emotions with specific 

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trigger such as words gestures. 
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help them feel more positive in 
difficult situations break the 

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negative pattern of thoughts and
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abuse. 
Re scripting. 

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This technique can help an 
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experiences, create a new 
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and past events. 
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and the past trauma, and the 
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the hold of The abuser over the 
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It's important to note that 
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by a licensed trained 
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Also, it's important to note 
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a complementary approach. 
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with other therapy, modalities 
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therapy. 
So I'm going to end this podcast

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with a guided meditation. 
I'm going to end this podcast 

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with a guided meditation. 
This one, please be in a 

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comfortable place, laying in 
bed, the couch comfortable 

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chair, and somewhere quiet. 
So we're going to start off with

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your eyes closed. 
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on your breathing, going to 
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And don't worry. 
If your mind wanders, we're just

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going to count your breasts. 
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count of 10, but we're going to 
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So we're going to do like this 
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With your eyes closed. 
Allow yourself any tension in 

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your body? 
You're going to first feel, a 

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warm glow of light, penetrating 
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A powerful light penetrate the 
top of your skull and it's going

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to move down your body and as it
moves down your body, it's going

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to relieve any stress or tension
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So as of Golden Light starts, 
penetrating the top of your 

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head. 
Working down into your face, 

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your cheekbones, your job, 
muscles your neck, the back of 

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your neck, your chest, your 
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Your midsection, your torso, you
feel this energy swirling around

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relieving, any tension, you may 
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Now it's going to go in your 
waist down your legs, right? 

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Down to your feet, until your 
entire body is by this golden 

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relaxing, light. 
You breathe slowly, exhale as 

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each breath leaves your body. 
Your body becomes more relaxed, 

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as you continue to breathe 
deeply and slowly, imagine 

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yourself in a peaceful beautiful
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It's a place you visited before.
It may be a place you've been 

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over. 
It could be a place of your own 

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choosing and Imagination. 
However, this place you feel 

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completely comfortable at ease. 
And at peace as you imagine this

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place, you notice the colors, 
the brilliant beautiful colors. 

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The Sounds the sensation, you 
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the sun on your skin. 
There's a cool breeze on your 

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hair. 
It almost makes the back your 

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neck. 
Tingle. 

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You hear sounds of birds singing
in the breeze in your hair. 

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If Phil's gentle warm and 
relaxing, allow yourself to be 

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fully immersed in this peaceful,
beautiful place. 

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As you continue to feel relaxed 
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I would like you to think of a 
time when you felt emotionally 

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abused or traumatized, it may be
a specific event or a pattern of

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behavior. 
As you think about this, notice 

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any feelings are thought that 
comes up for you. 

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Now, as you continue to relax, 
imagine yourself standing in 

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front of a door, the door, 
represents the past events or 

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pattern of behavior that caused 
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Pain and Trauma. 
Imagine yourself opening the 

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door and stepping through it. 
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you're in a different place, a 
place where you're safe and in 

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control. 
As he stand and this new place. 

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Imagine yourself, looking back 
at the door. 

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Notice that it is now far behind
you that you no longer are a 

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victim of the abuse. 
Instead, you're a Survivor, 

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you're strong, you're capable of
overcoming. 

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Any obstacle that comes your 
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Now, as you continue to relax, 
imagine yourself. 

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Taking some time to reflect on 
your past experiences, notice in

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any insights or learning that 
has come to, you allow yourself 

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to progress and integrate these 
insights into your life. 

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Remember that? 
You are safe, you're in control.

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You have the power to create a 
new reality for yourself. 

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One. 
That is free from emotional 

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abuse and Trauma. 
Take some time, relax. 

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Slowly slowly come back to 
reality. 

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Take your time. 
Breathe. 

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Breathe, take your time. 
Open your eyes and enjoy the new

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you the new powerful you and the
new battery, you the new you of 

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your own choosing