The more that you obsess over yourself, the more.
That you prioritize yourself. You put yourself first.
You choose yourself. The more people will.
Obsess over you. Prioritize.
You. Choose you.
And everything in between. The truth is.
You cannot expect for someone to be madly in love.
With you if. You are not madly in love.
With yourself if you ever. See a relationship dynamic where
the man is just. Obsessed with his.
Girlfriend or his wife and he caters.
To her he is. Willing to do anything for her.
And it's like a pattern for this woman.
No matter what man comes into their life, they're always
getting treated like a queen. The reason?
Is because they are. Valuing themselves that way,
they are holding those beliefs about themselves.
It is not the person that they are changing, it is the energy
that they are vibrating within themselves that is making this
confidence and belief within themselves, making men want to
show up and adore them and the way.
That you do that. Is by putting yourself. 1st
every. Single time.
No matter what situation you're in.
No matter. Who it is you are always going
to choose. Yourself 1st and the people
that. Choose themselves first.
Always have people. Going after them now, I do want
to explain if you are already in a committed relationship,
obviously it's so important to respect your partner and treat
them good and still love them. But if you are.
Placing them up on that pedestal and you are not valuing
yourself. You're like looking at this
person as if. They are God.
And you're looking at yourself like I'm like the luckiest girl
in the world. To have a guy.
Like him, girl? No.
He's. Lucky to have you.
And when you view. Yourself that way.
He's going to show you every single day.
How lucky he feels to have you because.
That is the energy that you are emanating.
Hello my loves and welcome to another.
Episode of Busy. Glowing up.
I'm really excited. For today's episode because.
We're going to be talking all about manifesting.
Love, but also. Creating this extremely magnetic
self concept within ourselves. This podcast episode.
Is going to teach. You exactly how to.
Manifest love and relationships using the formula that I teach
within my love Manifestation blueprint.
Which I have just released if you.
Haven't checked it out. It is an amazing program if you
are looking to attract and call in love into your life.
OK, so let's get into. It how do we?
Attract somebody back into your life.
How do we call in new? Love.
How do we? Change.
The way people are. Showing up and treating us?
The answer is going to always come back to you and the way
that you think and feel about yourself.
Because the way that you think and.
Feel about yourself creates your reality, I want to remind you.
Whatever is. Going on right now in your
relationships, how men are showing up in your life, the
experiences that you've had in the past.
Are all created by the Thoughts. And beliefs that you have been
holding on to as of right now, but you can easily shift this
and when you make the shift within yourself.
You also attract. New experiences, new people.
Or you attract. Those same people back into your
life, but they show up as a completely different person.
It always reflects back to the way you are.
Viewing yourself and feeling about yourself.
If you've noticed that you have been attracting very similar
patterns in your relationship and you are feeling very similar
with each single person that you are with.
Whether it be that? You are feeling like you are not
good enough. That they might find someone
better. That they don't care for you,
Even if that person deeply loves you and they spend every single
day reassuring you and telling you how much they love you and
care for you, and they're going to stick by you if you continue
to think every single day. You don't love me, you don't
care for me, you're going to go find someone else.
I know you're going to leave me. They are.
Going to do that. Because you are manifesting for
that experience to happen. See, this happens unconsciously
when we are just thinking things over and over, playing these
stories in our head. Whether they're positive or
negative, they eventually manifest.
I'll give you 2. Examples of how this happened to
me and one of my relationships I was unsure.
How to leave this relationship? I was no longer happy, and I
was. Like I just hope.
That maybe they'll just. Choose that they.
Don't want to be with me anymore.
The relationship was. Going great.
I just didn't want to be with them.
But I was just like in my head playing the story.
I want them to leave me. I just want them to go because
for some reason I didn't want to be the one to end it.
I don't know why. I always feel bad.
Being the one to end things so. I decided I was like.
Well, let's manifest for them to leave me.
And that happened and when it. Did I was shocked.
Because then I didn't feel good when it happened because and
then it affected myself concept and I was like oh like why am I
not good enough? But then I realized earlier on
like you wanted this and another example.
That I did this. Was when things ended.
I started working myself. Concept building myself, concept
becoming really confident within myself, to the point where I was
just naturally thinking thoughts like I am the best they'll ever
find. I am extremely magnetic, like
they're just gonna miss me like crazy.
I know that I'm irreplaceable. I know they can't help but think
of me. It's just natural.
And I wasn't trying to manifest them back, even though I was
aware how manifestation works. Those were just the thoughts.
That were coming out as I was working myself concept and as a
result this person came back. But they were like.
Obsessed to the point that I was like.
Who is this? Person because they're
completely different. And that really gave me a really
great understanding of how important your thoughts and
beliefs are. Your.
Thoughts are literally. Dictating how this person is
showing up right now because the second I changed up my thoughts
and started leveling up myself and I started viewing myself as
like you are so amazing. You are so incredible.
People love spending time with. You like, you change people's
lives like. Being in a relationship with me
is like life changing for the other.
Person I don't want to sound too.
Cocky. Like, I genuinely think everyone
should feel this way about themselves.
Because if you have. A self concept like this your.
Relationships will always be like.
People reflecting that back to you because you are creating
your reality based on your thoughts and beliefs, I
genuinely want you to view. Yourself this way because.
Like, you only get one life. Why spend your time thinking how
somebody doesn't care for you, doesn't want you, They're going
to move on, find someone better when you can Just choose to
think the complete opposite and be like, no, I know I'm hard to
replace. I know how much value I bring.
I know that I am an amazing individual.
I'm literally incredible when you start talking to yourself.
Like that throughout. The day like I'm serious, spend
like 5 or 10 minutes just telling yourself the story.
Of who? You now are how you want people
to view you and they're going to view you that exact same way.
So when I teach people. How to?
Shift their self concept we work on.
How are you currently viewing yourself and how are you
currently thinking other people are viewing you?
What are they thinking about you?
And also it's getting? Clear with what are.
Things within yourself that you want to change.
Who do you no longer want to be? Like, pick up the habits that
you have. Had in previous.
Relationships where you're just. Like, I don't want to be that
person anymore. I don't want to do that.
So whether it's you have a habit.
Of like going through their following or being.
Obsessive with what they're. Doing when they're not talking
to you and you're just like letting your insecurities.
Pour out, choose today that you. Don't want to be that person
because honestly. If you are really.
Stuck in that space of checking what they're doing and like
obsessing over them. You are just.
Signaling to yourself that you don't feel good enough.
That's where that behavior is coming from.
It's not that other person, it's you.
It's something within you that's being triggered and that's where
it you need to flip it and be like I don't.
Care to stalk? Them I know my worth and value,
and if they're doing things behind my back, I don't care.
I don't have time to waste my energy on something like that.
It's just not worth my time. And once you start viewing
yourself as like someone that is a high value individual, you
don't have time. To do that like you are the
prize here, OK? Someone that views themselves as
the prize. As people are lucky to have a
relationship. With you, you're not going to be
obsessing and stalking them and seeing what they're doing on
their phones and stuff. You have this mindset of.
You better show up. To me in this specific way and
if you do something that's. Like, disrespectful?
You're out. I don't care.
I genuinely will not put up with that.
A practice that I really. Like doing for shifting
yourself. Concept is every morning when
you wake up and you're getting ready.
For the day. Is to put on like some
affirmations and just listen to them and let them help you feel
really good within yourself. Or you can.
Even just. Tell yourself compliments.
Like Tell yourself how amazing you are.
How? Beautiful you are.
How great you. Look in the outfit that you're
wearing and just build. That love for yourself.
Your confidence is everything. That's why self concept is
really important. When you're feeling good within
yourself magnetically, you will draw in everybody to show up
and. Reflect the way that.
You are thinking and feeling about yourself.
I'll give you an example so you understand how this kind of
works. Let's say you're going to the
gym and you're not feeling confident and you're just like
comparing yourself. To the other people.
Around you're like, oh, that girl.
Looks really good. Like, I wish I had a butt like
her. I wish.
That I had this girl's hair like she looks beautiful.
I wish I had confidence like this other girl.
Naturally when other people. Look at you.
They're going to. Pick up that vibe.
Where you're comparing yourself, you don't feel good within your
skin, You're just looking around the room and you're not
embodying yourself now. If you were to.
Shift yourself concept and you hold the mindset of.
You are so attractive, you are obsessed with your body.
You know that your energy is magnetic, like when you walk
into a room, people are like, Oh my God, who is that girl?
Like I want to talk to her. There's just something about her
that I can't get enough of. Like I feel this.
Certain type of way around this girl.
I love it. I need to get to know her and
you just stop entertaining the. Voices of like, what about that?
Person. What about that person?
Oh, I hope I look good right now.
I hope other people aren't thinking that I'm not.
Attractive or whatever. Your limiting beliefs are
instead you're just like I don't give a shit when anyone thinks I
know that I'm the shit. I am putting myself up on that
pedestal. I'm literally obsessed with
myself. I want you to walk around and be
obsessed with yourself and you will see how quickly.
People will start. Obsessing over you.
That man that goes to you. That man that you're in no
contact with. You want him obsessing over you.
Start obsessing over yourself. That's it.
You will see how quickly he changes and he's going to be
begging to. Have you back?
So how do we start? Obsessing over yourself, right?
What I. Like to do is.
Kind of fake it. Maybe right now you're in a
place where you've never felt really confident within
yourself. You've always struggled.
With your self esteem, that's where you need to kind.
Of develop this alter. Ego and create this new story to
like. How does she dress?
How does she look? What does she?
Think about herself. How does she think other people
view her? So for example if you want to
create an alter. Ego where you're like this girl
Views. Herself as a model.
Like she has this catwalk to her.
Like when she's walking, even in public.
People are just like. Looking at her like.
Crazy because she has this walk to her.
She. Has this amazing style.
Her hair is. Perfect.
And she smells like so delicious.
It can be whatever you want like start creating this alter.
Ego of yourself that you would. Literally become obsessed.
With a version of yourself that you would just.
Look at and be like. I would date her.
Right. If you wouldn't date yourself,
if you wouldn't be. Attracted to yourself?
Why? Would anyone else be?
Attracted. To you, it all starts with your
own energy. So when you really understand
that the way that you're thinking and feeling about
yourself is how other people are going to show up and reflect it
right back. To you.
Is how you're going to have people completely shift the way
they are showing up and treating you.
Even if you. Are in a relationship.
It is so important to maintain a strong self concept, like for
example if you are dating someone.
That is very successful. That is always being approached
by. Other women, you need to make
sure you're maintaining that self concept where you are still
putting yourself up on that pedestal, that man you are with
that may be very. Successful have a lot of like.
Woman that are attracted to him, you're not going to be
threatened by it because someone that values themselves and puts
them up on that pedestal is not going to be insecure about
others. Because you see yourself as the
best. Point blank.
Period. That man that all these other
women are obsessed with, he's going to be obsessed with you.
Because you're. Different.
You're not kissing his ass and being like, what can I do to
make you happy? You're like, no, this is who I
am. You make me happy.
You do things for me, OK? Like.
Your world revolves around me now.
That's how things are around here.
OK. I was once dating this athlete
and a lot of women. Would try to approach.
Him and they'd always be looking at him and stuff and not once.
Did I ever get triggered by it like there'd be times?
Where they'd actually walk up to him and like try to like talk to
him and like get him away from me and I wouldn't like I
wouldn't do anything about. It.
I'd just laugh because that's. It it just didn't bother me
because I know the most. Attractive.
Thing a woman can do is not be intimidated by other women
approaching their man because the man is like.
What's up with this? Girl, why is she not like trying
to chase after me and make this? Girl go away.
Like she's just going to allow it.
She's not threatened by it. Who does she think she is?
Like, trust me, once you have that energy to you, that man's
not going to let you go because that.
Is. Extremely attractive, magnetic
energy. And the funny part is, when that
girl was talking to him, I just like not even pay attention to
it. And the funny part was, not once
did I like, entertain the thoughts of like, what if he's
into her? What if she's prettier than me?
What if he's gonna leave me for her?
I was just very. In my own world, because that's
just the way I am. I do what I.
Like to do I think about what I want to think about and I'm just
kind of the center of my world. I wasn't always like this.
But I just decided. That that's who I am now, and I
revolve my life around me. And I realize the more I do
that, the more people revolve their life around me, too.
So after he was done with this conversation with this girl,
'cause she was like trying so hard to talk to him, he came
back and he's like, I'm so sorry.
About that. She she knew me from somewhere
and like, she was so annoying and I was just like thinking
about you the whole time and how.
I just would. Rather be talking to you right
now. I'm like, yeah, I know, don't
worry, I was thinking the same thing.
But if instead I'd get mad at him and be like.
How dare you do that like you. Left me alone with.
These other people. And you're talking to this girl,
It's not attractive and it also it just screams out your
insecurities. It really does like.
There is nothing more attractive than being with someone that's.
Super secure. Within themselves that's able to
regulate themselves in a way that.
They're so put together. Like nobody is going to break
you. That's how strong you are and
that's where the self concept work comes in.
Is so important to hold. Good beliefs about yourself.
And be confident because the 2nd that you are just kissing
someone else's ass and trying to change yourself.
So that they like. You and you're not feeling good
within yourself. It's going to be.
Such a struggle to have. People show up in the way that
you want them to, so you need to make the changes within yourself
if you really want that other person in your life to change.
So when I started dating this guy, I wasn't used to dating
someone that people are extremely.
Attracted to that, everybody. Wants to be around like this
person. Had a very.
Magnetic personality to them. So I had to readjust myself
concept and get myself. To a place where?
I'm unbothered. I'm not jealous.
I'm not insecure because I knew that in order to maintain this
relationship, I need to step into the most confident version
of myself because I'm not going to keep someone around.
If I'm being extremely insecure and always seeking out
validation, I need to create that security within myself.
This guy that I was. Dating.
He was very used to, always. Being the one to break up with
woman. He'd always have.
Woman like cater to him and put him on the pedestal.
He was so. Used to always being.
Treated like the prize. And that kind of.
Boosted his ego. So when he met me and I was
like, no, we're not doing that. That's not how this works with
me. He.
Got with the memo, and it's not like I was in his face, like I
am the prize and I'm the best you'll ever find.
Like don't do that what I was. Doing is I was just.
Having this little internal dialogue with myself, concept
happening where I was like, yeah, like.
He views. You as his dream girl like he
knows that he will never come across a girl like.
You so he's so. Fucking lucky.
To have you like he is just grateful for.
Every single minute he gets to spend with me because I'm rare,
like point blank, period. I'm irreplaceable.
So I just know he's going to treat me like a queen because I
view myself as a queen. Why wouldn't he?
You know? And so.
As a result. Like he had no.
Choice, but to reflect that he was so used.
To having a girl put him on the pedestal and cater to him and
remind him on how special he is. But no, no, no.
In my world, you are going to put me on the pedestal and value
me right, 'cause like as a woman, it's so important to have
a man be the one to pursue. You go after you.
Put in the work for you and really make you.
Feel like? The Queen that you are.
And so when I was holding these beliefs about myself, I didn't
have to say a thing. He was just showing up in the
way. That I was.
Treating myself. Right, like I was.
Already treating myself like a queen.
Viewing myself like a queen. I held beliefs that.
Men. Always.
Go out of their. Way for me.
So obviously he was. Going out of his way for me
because everyone is you pushed. Out.
They're just. Reflecting the thoughts and
beliefs that you have about. Yourself SO step.
One to this formula. Is to work.
On yourself concept. Literally obsess over yourself.
Start to. Find evidence and proof.
Of why you are. Choosing to view yourself.
This way little. Technique that.
I like to use is I will go. And find evidence, I would think
a thought and be like men are always so affectionate to me,
they go out of their way for me and they just love and value me.
And I would try. To go.
Back to a time where I can see that experience, where I had
that experience and then it's so much easier for your brain to
pick it. Up and be like, yeah, that's
true, but if you are. Using like self concept
affirmations and telling yourself that you are a love
magnet that you are. Worthy.
Of love and commitment. But let's say in the past you've
never experienced commitment. You were always dating men that
were disrespectful, that they were not meeting your
boundaries, then that's OK too. I don't want to put out a
limiting belief that if you can't find evidence of something
and you affirm for it, it's not going to happen if you continue.
To just tell yourself. The story on a loop.
Men commit to me. I am always loved and
prioritized. I get Princess treatment.
It's just natural for me, like that's the bare minimum around
here. Naturally, you will step into
the version of. Yourself that believes that to
be true. Even if you've never experienced
it before. That's the same thing with the
example that I gave with obsessing of yourself and
building that confidence. If you're walking around, even
at your house or if you go out in public and you are kind of
being a little delusional and just stepping into that alter
ego where you feel confident, where you.
Feel like you? Are the main character naturally
you. Will start to.
Become that person. This is very logical.
And a lot of. Celebrities actually have alter
egos. For example, I've heard actors
when they're acting, they step into an alter ego version of
themselves. Right where they are.
Playing out this character even though they might have 0
similarities with this person they are acting.
They're able to act it to AT. To the point where some actors.
They start to create new characteristics that this.
Character. They are now adapting into their
actual personality. To summarize that whole 20
minutes where I went on a rant on self concept, Work on your
beliefs. OK, remind yourself every
morning on who you are, how you now want to view yourself, how
you now want people to view you. Create affirmations.
Tell yourself those affirmations.
Or you can listen to affirmations on YouTube.
Whatever you like. When you were going out in
public, step into that alter ego of that confidence and start
showing up as her. Even when you are talking to
your specific person or something like that, or you're
going on a date, step into that alter ego.
Become the most confident version of yourself.
Even if you're not feeling like her right now, that's OK.
Naturally you will become her. Now we're going to step into the
second part. Of the.
Formula that I teach in The Blueprint, which is creating new
assumptions about the person that you are manifesting.
If you're manifesting a specific person to change the way they
are showing up, or if you want them to act a certain way, you
need to change. The beliefs that you have about
how they are. Currently showing up and acting
towards you. This means letting go of any
resentment that you have. A lot of people.
That are manifesting a specific person back and there's.
Like a lot of. Circumstances that have
happened, it's really important to just forgive.
What has? Happened in the past.
Maybe that means forgiving yourself, forgiving them, and
just coming to the conclusion you know what, maybe this was
meant to happen. I was able to.
Learn from the situation and as a.
Result I was able. To readjust myself, readjust the
beliefs that may have triggered me in some sort of way in the
past. And I'm going.
To shift the way. I am viewing the situation for
me. A way that I.
Like to kind of. Let go of the past is to view.
That person as they didn't know any better sometimes.
I'll just look at people as just a soul.
That came on this earth. I know I'm getting a little.
Esoteric with you guys, but. That's really.
All that we are, I look at people as just the soul that
they are. I let go of like their
appearance, their looks. And I just see them for.
This soul. That chose to come on this earth
and experience life, and that life is not perfect and people
make mistakes and I'm choosing to believe.
That their soul. Is making these mistakes so that
they can learn from it, so that they can grow from it because
that's. What life is about?
We're not on this planet to be perfect and.
Always make the best. Decisions in life, but we learn
through our mistakes. How to re evaluate ourselves?
How to make better decisions so when you're able to create?
That level of. Forgiveness within yourself, no
matter what that person did to you.
There has been things in my life that I.
Was just. It was really hard for me to
let. Go of it.
And I was like, how can you do something like that and I just
chose to view them. As a lost soul.
Like they didn't know any better.
And it's OK. Like I forgive you.
It really helps to just let. Go and release the anger.
That you have towards. Them.
And from there you're gonna choose to view them from a
different perspective. And that's why I really.
Like the process of. Letting go of any resentment
because then it's like a clean slate.
You're choosing to see them from a different lens, and when you
do this they naturally will start to show up differently.
Because this is how. The law of assumption works.
What you assume about yourself or another individual is.
Exactly how they're. Going to reflect.
Back to you. So if you're manifesting this
person to come back and love you and prioritize you, make you
feel chosen and just show up in the way that you want them to,
you need to start holding beliefs like they love me, they
deeply care for me. They see how?
Valuable I am, they realize that I am extremely hard to replace,
that they're never going to find someone like me.
They realize that I. Literally changed their life for
the better and that to them losing me is like losing
$1,000,000 for example if someone lost $1,000,000 lottery.
Ticket they would be. Thinking about that their entire
life, I want you to view. Yourself as that lottery.
Ticket losing you is extremely detrimental, like nobody's ever
going to. Forget about you.
OK, they're going to be thinking about you for the rest of.
Their. Life and how they wish that they
could. See that lottery ticket?
One more time and just. Have access to it.
The thing is, only after you've worked on yourself concept and
you have built your confidence back up is when you start to
work on changing the assumptions that you have around your
specific person. I see a lot of times.
People try to just. Throw their self concept work
under a rug. They're like, no, I feel good in
myself concept. I don't need to work on that.
And then they go manifesting their specific person back.
They come back, but again, they're giving hot and cold
treatment and it's triggering the fuck out of them and the
reason why is because they did not.
Thoroughly do their self. Concept work and that's why in
the blueprint I make it extremely clear you need to do
self concept work first and get yourself to a point where.
It's just like of. Course they want me.
Of course they want to be with me.
I am the prize. I love myself.
I'm literally obsessed with myself.
Then when you are feeling that confident within yourself,
you're seeing yourself as that fucking girl, the dream girl.
Then you go on to shifting your assumptions around them and
telling yourself how much. They care for you.
How much? They see how valuable.
You are. How much you've impacted their
life, How they? Love you and care for you.
That's when you. Take this.
On this episode went a little longer than I.
Expected, but I really believe that this podcast episode.
Went a little longer than I was anticipating.
But there was so. Many gems in this episode and I
really want you. To like, take.
All this in and implement it. Because this is life.
Changing this is exactly what I teach my clients and through
this work. They're able to, really.
Step into the most confident version of themselves, where
maybe in their past they've never felt this confident and it
just makes me. So happy to see people.
Step into their most authentic self and be unapologetic.
About it. And as a.
Result. They always attract.
The love they want they. I always have people.
Showing up in the way that they want.
Because it is just. A change within yourself that
needs to be made and so I really.
Hope that you receive. So much value from this.
Podcast episode. And really, implement everything
that I talked about and you will experience the changes within
your life too. If you haven't already, feel
free to check out the Love Manifestation Blueprint, which
is my new program that I have just launched.
Where? I go over this exact.
Step by step formula, so if you're interested.
Feel free to check that. Out.
But I just wanted to say thank you so much for listening and.
As always, I'm so. Grateful for each and everyone
of you rating the podcast five stars.
It means so much. I love making these episodes and
I will continue to make more and more.
So again, thank you so much for listening and I will see you in
the next. Episode.