1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:01,840 Hello everyone and welcome to another. 2 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:04,480 Podcast episode of Busy. Glowing up I am. 3 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:07,000 So excited for today's episode we're going to be talking all 4 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:08,560 about. Balancing your feminine and 5 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:12,880 masculine energy and showing up in your relationships using your 6 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:16,840 feminine energy, which will ultimately completely change the 7 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:19,320 way that the men in your life are showing up, right? 8 00:00:19,320 --> 00:00:21,200 Like when you. Start to really. 9 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:25,000 Embody your feminine energy. It's all about sitting back, 10 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:29,120 being grounded in knowing who you are and. 11 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,400 Also creating the stability. Within yourself and naturally it 12 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:35,640 will reflect on two others. First off, I want. 13 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:39,320 To talk about how? Being in your feminine energy is 14 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:44,120 not all about being just fun and happy and oh, I'm so feminine. 15 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:45,600 Right. Like it's also. 16 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,840 Important to have that masculine energy to yourself. 17 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:51,960 Because that's how you. Have divine feminine energy. 18 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:56,000 You have a balance of both. A lot of people view. 19 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:01,200 Feminine energy as just being very soft, easy to be around, 20 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:02,640 which is also. Really great. 21 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:06,600 But you also need to have that masculine energy. 22 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:09,200 Where you take? Over in other areas of your 23 00:01:09,200 --> 00:01:12,000 life, like maybe it's your career and stuff, but it is also 24 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:13,400 important to have that masculine. 25 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,160 Energy towards you too, where you are really. 26 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:19,640 Grounded in yourself and you're not afraid to say what's on your 27 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,680 mind. You are not afraid to say things 28 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:24,880 to people that will make them uneasy, right? 29 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:28,680 You're also not. Afraid to really speak. 30 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:31,880 What's on your mind? You need to have that balance 31 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:34,560 because if you're too much in your masculine, you might be 32 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:37,080 overpowering and trying to take on the. 33 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:41,040 Role of. Pursuing the person, taking over 34 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:44,480 the relationship, controlling things or if you're too much in 35 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:47,080 your feminine energy. Maybe you'll be too laid back, 36 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:49,120 you. Won't communicate enough. 37 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,240 That's something I used to struggle with. 38 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,360 I was in my feminine energy, but I didn't know how to speak up 39 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,360 for myself. And kind of like I was in a 40 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,680 wounded feminine energy because I was more so on the spectrum of 41 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,840 like, I wanted to be fun, to be around, I wanted to be pleasant 42 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:06,600 to talk to and stuff. I didn't want to stir things up 43 00:02:06,600 --> 00:02:07,720 with. People I was always. 44 00:02:07,720 --> 00:02:10,000 Just more like in a in a sense, being a people. 45 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:11,080 Pleaser right. But I was. 46 00:02:11,080 --> 00:02:13,000 Always more so. Flowy with. 47 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:15,800 It but at the end of the. Day that still was. 48 00:02:15,960 --> 00:02:17,960 Not beneficial for me whatsoever. 49 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,040 And I actually realized that it caused a lot of. 50 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:23,520 Problems when I. Tried so hard to make others 51 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:25,360 happy. With my feminine energy and I 52 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:28,520 realized that it actually became a problem when I tried so. 53 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:31,000 Hard. To just be fun and easy. 54 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,440 To talk to but I. Realized that I'm actually not 55 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:37,360 being authentic with myself. I just overlooked stuff. 56 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:41,080 Or when things would come up, I wouldn't deal with them head on. 57 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:44,560 I'd kind of just step away from it completely, which is also not 58 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:46,680 the route that you want it take. The way. 59 00:02:46,680 --> 00:02:48,280 I like to look at feminine energy. 60 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,120 Is that you were? So grounded within yourself, you 61 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:55,480 have done so much in our work to understand who you are as an 62 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:57,240 individual. You understand? 63 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:00,640 How you operate. How much value you bring into. 64 00:03:00,640 --> 00:03:02,600 People's lives that you have this. 65 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:06,600 Energy to you that you know how much you bring to a table. 66 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:10,320 A woman in her divine feminine energy, she. 67 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:15,600 Values herself first before. Anybody in her life, she knows 68 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:17,440 how valuable. She is so she. 69 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:21,920 Would never be going after people chasing people, trying to 70 00:03:21,920 --> 00:03:25,080 get validation from others. It just doesn't make sense for 71 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:29,160 someone that is really embodied in who they are. 72 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,600 I want to explain this concept because once you fully 73 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:36,720 understand this, you will never be approaching your 74 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:40,280 relationships your partner in the same manner again. 75 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:43,240 Especially if you. Tend to take on the masculine 76 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,280 energy role. You want to initiate, you want 77 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:48,400 to do everything, and it's simply just not being 78 00:03:48,400 --> 00:03:50,200 reciprocated. So if this is something you 79 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:53,800 struggle with, this concept is going to change everything for 80 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,440 you. Men fall in love with doing 81 00:03:56,440 --> 00:03:59,000 things for the woman that he loves. 82 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:02,920 So if you are. Taking on the masculine role. 83 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,920 You're texting first. You're making all the plans. 84 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:10,280 You're the one asking him to hang out all the time and go on 85 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:12,480 dates. You're stripping him of his 86 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:17,519 masculine energy. And even though he may seem like 87 00:04:17,519 --> 00:04:21,320 he's into it unconsciously, it is repelling for men, because 88 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:24,720 men are created in a way that they need. 89 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:27,960 To go after the. Things that they love, like they 90 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:32,160 need to earn it, even if at the beginning stages it's all fine, 91 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:33,880 like you know. You already are. 92 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:37,400 Taking on the masculine role you are the 1 initiating and stuff, 93 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:40,520 but for for whatever reason. It's still you guys. 94 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:44,600 Are still together over time, naturally. 95 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,320 He will start to fall out of love. 96 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,600 With you because he never had to fight. 97 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:51,560 For you it's like. Almost he. 98 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:53,840 Always had that access. To you right. 99 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:59,240 And often times men will still stay with a woman even if he is 100 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:02,120 not in love with her still. Because it's just. 101 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:05,480 Coming from a place of convenience, but it's also not 102 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:07,080 good for. You as the. 103 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:10,120 Woman, right? Like you deserve to have a man 104 00:05:10,120 --> 00:05:12,520 every single day being so happy that. 105 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:16,160 He's with you that he just adores every. 106 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:18,240 Little thing about you. That's the way it. 107 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:20,040 Should be. It shouldn't be that you are 108 00:05:20,040 --> 00:05:23,760 always the one trying to make him fall in love with you. 109 00:05:23,760 --> 00:05:27,360 It's never going to work that way if you want a man to. 110 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:30,880 Love you. And like be always. 111 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:35,120 Head over heels for you? You need to allow him to be the 112 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:37,480 one. To pursue you. 113 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,960 To fight. For you to put in the work to 114 00:05:39,960 --> 00:05:42,800 win you over. And The thing is when you do the 115 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:46,480 self concept work and the inner work even if you are. 116 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,120 In a relationship. Where a man is not showing up in 117 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:51,840 the way. That you would like. 118 00:05:51,840 --> 00:05:53,400 Or in a way. That you deserve. 119 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:56,600 You wouldn't be attracted. To him anymore, like. 120 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,920 You would literally let. Him go. 121 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:01,760 Because it is so. Unattractive for men to. 122 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:04,160 Treat you like shit. Some people. 123 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,800 It's the other way. Around and that also comes from 124 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:10,160 a hurt self concept if you have never experienced a loving 125 00:06:10,160 --> 00:06:12,480 relationship or you came from a broken family. 126 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:15,840 Or love. Was not something that you would 127 00:06:15,840 --> 00:06:18,480 experience on a day. To day basis before. 128 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:21,360 If someone is. Treating you bad or. 129 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:24,160 Just not putting an effort. You may find yourself just 130 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:25,840 settling for that or putting up with it. 131 00:06:25,840 --> 00:06:29,520 Because that's at a core level, that's what you believe that you 132 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,200 deserve. And you don't believe you can 133 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:33,880 have better and so that's. Why a lot of people choose to 134 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:35,480 stay? In these relationships where 135 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:38,200 they know they're not happy. Because it's at. 136 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:40,280 Some core level. It's comforting for them. 137 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:44,960 A lot of people have this. Programming that the more love I 138 00:06:44,960 --> 00:06:49,360 give, the more work I put in for this man, then the more he will 139 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:52,040 love me. But that's not the case because. 140 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:54,840 At a. At a core level, this man like 141 00:06:54,840 --> 00:06:58,320 he needs to love you more than you love him if you want it to. 142 00:06:58,320 --> 00:07:00,600 Work because if you. Are always the one chasing after 143 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:02,760 this man. You're always going to. 144 00:07:02,760 --> 00:07:05,440 Feel as though. You can lose him at any moment. 145 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,360 It's almost going to be like you're fighting for him every 146 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:11,840 day, trying to keep him in your life when you can, just as. 147 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:15,720 Easily have this exact. Man showing up every day being 148 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:17,920 like, I'm so happy to have you in my life. 149 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:19,760 Like you are the only woman I want to be with. 150 00:07:19,800 --> 00:07:22,760 And it's not about changing him, it's about changing yourself. 151 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:27,960 Man can literally feel the shift in your feminine energy yourself 152 00:07:27,960 --> 00:07:32,440 concept when you start to do this inner work, and I always 153 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:34,960 find the number one way to start. 154 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:38,440 Is by raising. Your standards and actually 155 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,760 coming to terms with. What do you believe that you 156 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:43,040 deserve? From relationships, from a man, 157 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:45,760 what are your expectations? OK, if he gets. 158 00:07:45,760 --> 00:07:48,960 You a gift once a year and you are happy about that and you're 159 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:52,440 like, Oh my God, he got me something like that's the bare 160 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:55,160 minimum you need to raise your standards. 161 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:58,240 Or if you ask. Him to buy you flowers and he 162 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:00,400 gets them for you and you're so happy. 163 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:03,480 But the fact that you had to ask, right, Like that's where. 164 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:07,200 You need to stop settling for the bare minimum, because if you 165 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:10,600 show a man that you're OK accepting the bare minimum, he's 166 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:12,480 not going to go above and beyond for you. 167 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:14,240 He's going to see. You're OK. 168 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:17,280 With just little things. Like that you'll be head over. 169 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:19,640 Heel in love with him when he just gets. 170 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:22,640 You a little. Gift once a year on Christmas or 171 00:08:22,640 --> 00:08:24,360 your birthday and that's good enough. 172 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:28,400 What you need to understand is. You are the prize, OK? 173 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:32,360 Like having access to you, and especially if you are intimate 174 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:36,120 with this man he has. Access to your body like he is 175 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:38,640 lucky to have you. So don't go. 176 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:42,720 Giving yourself away easily. He needs to prove himself to you 177 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:47,160 and the more you start doing the self concept work and shifting 178 00:08:47,160 --> 00:08:49,840 your beliefs around. Relationships what you believe 179 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:53,040 that you deserve. Naturally, your perception of 180 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:55,680 things is going to change, and I see this happen with a. 181 00:08:55,680 --> 00:08:58,120 Lot of people where? They're manifesting a specific 182 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,720 person and over time they build up their self concept to the 183 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:02,880 point that. They're just like. 184 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:05,440 You know what? I can do so much better than 185 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:07,280 this person, and I love hearing that. 186 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:08,840 Like, I genuinely love hearing that. 187 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:12,240 I know that I can help you manifest your specific person 188 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:15,680 back, but I also know that you can find someone 10 times better 189 00:09:15,680 --> 00:09:18,480 and. Whatever you decide to do is up 190 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:20,360 to you, but like. You can have. 191 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:22,320 Absolutely everything with this type of work. 192 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:25,480 That's the best part. If you're in a situation right 193 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:29,360 now where maybe your person, they're not showing up 194 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:32,040 consistently, they're not showing up as the version of 195 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:37,080 them that you want or whatever your circumstances are, you need 196 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:41,440 to stop fighting and stop trying because you're coming from a 197 00:09:41,440 --> 00:09:45,400 place of this masculine energy and it's actually very repelling 198 00:09:45,400 --> 00:09:47,600 for a man. That's not how you're going to 199 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,280 attract a man back. To you, it's actually. 200 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:54,040 Going to be shifting your focus inward, doing the inner work, 201 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:57,160 doing the self concept work, focusing on you because that is 202 00:09:57,160 --> 00:10:00,360 extremely attractive. Because if you. 203 00:10:00,360 --> 00:10:03,960 Look at someone that is maybe a little more desperate. 204 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:07,600 Or they revolve their life. Around this one person, it will 205 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:09,920 always be unattractive to others. 206 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:12,600 The truth is. One woman can be pouring her 207 00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:15,160 heart out for this man, revolving her life around him, 208 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:18,200 texting him good morning every day, checking in on him. 209 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:21,160 How's work going and all this stuff? 210 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:26,400 And there can be another woman that maybe she is not even as 211 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:29,000 attractive. But because she's so. 212 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,640 Embodied in her feminine energy. And she's putting. 213 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:33,080 Herself. First, she has this. 214 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:36,240 Mysteriousness to her. She's not checking in on you 215 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:39,240 every hour on how you're doing or texting you. 216 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:41,200 She's just focused. On herself. 217 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:43,280 She has priorities. She's. 218 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:45,720 Immersed in her own. Work that she has. 219 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:47,920 Going for her. And she has this. 220 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:51,480 Energy to her that when you're around her, you feel literally 221 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:54,520 empowered. Who do you think this guy is 222 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:57,160 going to be energetically drawn to? 223 00:10:57,160 --> 00:11:00,120 The one that is pouring her heart out for this man? 224 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:02,920 Desperate. Chasing after him, hoping that 225 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:07,680 he chooses her or the one that's like, no, actually, I'm the. 226 00:11:07,680 --> 00:11:10,680 Prize Here I. Know how much value I bring. 227 00:11:10,680 --> 00:11:14,400 I'm more focused on myself. I know how much I bring to the 228 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:16,520 table. And you know what? 229 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:18,400 I'm not going. To chase after you he going to 230 00:11:18,400 --> 00:11:21,280 choose this other. Woman that has this powerful 231 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:27,000 energy to her that she just is so confident and knows her value 232 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:31,640 and worth that she knows that when people are around her they 233 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,480 feel some type of way. It's almost like. 234 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:35,360 She has the. Spell on people. 235 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:38,880 She's so magnetic. Who do you think this guy is 236 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:41,080 energetically going to be drawn to? 237 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:43,960 Even if that desperate girl is more. 238 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:47,040 Attractive. On an energetic level, he's 239 00:11:47,040 --> 00:11:50,600 going to be drawn to the other woman that is more in her 240 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:52,560 feminine energy, even though maybe she's not as. 241 00:11:52,560 --> 00:11:55,840 Attractive or whatever. Like sometimes it doesn't come 242 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:58,680 down to looks. A lot of people think that men 243 00:11:58,680 --> 00:12:02,160 will pick their woman. Based off looks, but at the end 244 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:04,320 of the day. Looks fade, and a smart man 245 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:07,480 understands that. The best type? 246 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:11,160 Of woman to choose is one that's extremely secure within herself. 247 00:12:11,160 --> 00:12:13,960 She's smart. She has a very. 248 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:18,720 Strong self concept within her. She has good beliefs and. 249 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:22,000 She is has the. Sense of independence, right? 250 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:26,680 You can ask any man, even if you are the most beautiful woman in 251 00:12:26,680 --> 00:12:30,760 the world. If you struggle with your. 252 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,080 Confidence or you don't feel good enough. 253 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:36,920 Or you get jealous. Or you even maybe. 254 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:41,120 You just like don't know how to interact with people that. 255 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:44,240 Will still overpower your beauty even. 256 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:46,720 If you are the most beautiful person in the world, and that's 257 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:51,600 why interwork is so important, because you can't rely on looks 258 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:56,240 your entire life and what's inside is more important, you 259 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:57,880 don't want to be with someone that. 260 00:12:58,040 --> 00:12:59,920 Chooses you based off your looks. 261 00:12:59,920 --> 00:13:02,720 You want someone that? Loves you for you because the 262 00:13:02,720 --> 00:13:05,480 truth is. You have so many layers to you, 263 00:13:05,920 --> 00:13:09,200 not just your looks. And the people that don't care 264 00:13:09,200 --> 00:13:12,120 to get to know you on a deeper level. 265 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,520 They're not it. When you're in your feminine 266 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:18,720 energy, you don't have to ask a man to show up in a certain way 267 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,360 to do things for you. It's OK to. 268 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:23,560 Learn how to ask for things right? 269 00:13:23,560 --> 00:13:26,040 Because that's important. To voice yourself but. 270 00:13:26,040 --> 00:13:29,880 If a man's not putting an effort and stuff like that, you 271 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:35,000 shouldn't have to ask him to put an effort or text you more often 272 00:13:35,000 --> 00:13:36,120 or. Buy you flowers. 273 00:13:36,120 --> 00:13:38,640 They're not stupid. They know what they're doing. 274 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:44,160 And if they are not valuing you, you need to understand that you 275 00:13:44,160 --> 00:13:47,160 need to step back. You don't need to ask them to do 276 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:49,400 more for you. You need to step away. 277 00:13:49,960 --> 00:13:54,400 Men are very simple, so if you find yourself confused with a 278 00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:57,000 man that you're with, you don't know what he wants and stuff, 279 00:13:57,240 --> 00:14:02,360 it's most likely because he is at some level playing mind games 280 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:05,520 with you. Because men are very logical and 281 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,120 they are very straight up and when. 282 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:09,440 You are with a. Masculine man. 283 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:12,120 He is going to be very upfront about how he. 284 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,360 Feels about you right off the bat. 285 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,080 He's not going to play these games and make you. 286 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:19,280 Guess. And you don't even want to be 287 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:22,840 with a man that's like guessing and unsure. 288 00:14:22,840 --> 00:14:25,120 About you I don't like. Even if he's extremely. 289 00:14:25,120 --> 00:14:27,840 Attractive at the end of the. Day again. 290 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:31,920 Attractiveness fades if you. Are not a good person. 291 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:35,320 Or maybe you lack. Personality, you're. 292 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,440 Just hard to be. Around you're always just 293 00:14:38,440 --> 00:14:40,600 causing problems. I don't want to keep you in my 294 00:14:40,600 --> 00:14:41,400 life. I don't care. 295 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:44,960 If you literally look like. Like a model like I don't want 296 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:47,080 to deal with that. It's not worth it to me. 297 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:51,680 I recently had someone DM me on Instagram and they're in no 298 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,440 contact. With their specific. 299 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:55,840 Person. And they're like, he didn't 300 00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:59,720 message me happy birthday and like I was posting on my stories 301 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:02,760 for him to see and stuff and he's not like hurting my 302 00:15:02,760 --> 00:15:04,800 stories. And I responded. 303 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:06,880 And I was. Like that is the. 304 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:09,560 Bare minimum and if he's not even. 305 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,960 Able to do that? Completely let go. 306 00:15:12,960 --> 00:15:15,920 Like, detach from him. I'm not saying to give up on 307 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:18,560 your manifestation, but this is a time to just go. 308 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:22,240 No contact and stop giving a shit what he's doing. 309 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:25,360 Because clearly he's not worthy of you right now. 310 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:27,080 You should never. Have to ask for. 311 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:29,400 Someone that you are wanting to be with? 312 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:33,280 To say happy birthday to you or like your story, right? 313 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:35,880 And I get in the manifestation community. 314 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:39,800 We are taught. To change the version of the 315 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:43,400 person we are manifesting, which is 100% true, you need to change 316 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:45,440 the version. Of that specific. 317 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:47,640 Person in order to get the new version. 318 00:15:47,920 --> 00:15:50,600 But if you are. Constantly checking their 319 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:53,960 location, what they are doing, if they are viewing your story 320 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:57,800 or not, unconsciously your subconscious mind is going to 321 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:00,720 hold on to that story even if. Throughout the day. 322 00:16:00,720 --> 00:16:03,480 You're telling yourself that they love me, They're committed 323 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:06,680 to me. Every time you check the phone 324 00:16:06,680 --> 00:16:08,800 and see what they're doing, you're reminding. 325 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:10,080 Yourself. Oh yeah, actually. 326 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:12,840 They don't give a shit about me. They don't even care to wish me 327 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:14,720 a happy birthday. That's what your mind's going to 328 00:16:14,720 --> 00:16:16,680 stick to. And the goal? 329 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:19,160 Is to get. Yourself into a self concept 330 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:22,840 where you could care less about someone wishing you a happy 331 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:25,560 birthday or viewing your stories. 332 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:29,400 Because again, when you are in the self concept where you know 333 00:16:29,680 --> 00:16:31,200 how. Valuable You are How? 334 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:33,440 Amazing you are. You're putting yourself on the 335 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:36,520 pedestal if someone doesn't. Say happy birthday to you. 336 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:38,680 Or they're just. Showing you that they don't have 337 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:41,040 any interest. You would not have any interest 338 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:42,400 in them, you'd. Be like, I'll like. 339 00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:44,680 What kind of a man are you? You don't even have it. 340 00:16:44,680 --> 00:16:46,280 And you to wish me a happy birthday? 341 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:48,560 Like, what the heck? And this? 342 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:52,840 Is where the growth. Comes from as well when you. 343 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:55,360 Start to do. A lot of inner work within 344 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,560 yourself and. You raise the. 345 00:16:57,560 --> 00:17:03,440 Bar for yourself yourself concept when you are surrounded 346 00:17:03,440 --> 00:17:06,200 by men. Specifically that are. 347 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:08,760 Maybe unhealed. They're just not where you're 348 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:11,760 at. You're going to at some level, 349 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:16,599 view them as not on your level. It's just I don't know how to. 350 00:17:16,599 --> 00:17:19,599 Say this, but you're just gonna. See them for someone that 351 00:17:19,599 --> 00:17:21,520 doesn't have. Their shit figured out. 352 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:24,400 And I'm not saying that, everybody. 353 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:26,280 Has their stuff figured out right, but like. 354 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:28,800 When you're with someone. That is. 355 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,600 Not putting in any effort to make themselves better, they're 356 00:17:31,600 --> 00:17:34,600 just making. You feel as though. 357 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:37,000 You have to question. Yourself, you'd be repelled. 358 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,040 By it you wouldn't even. Fall for that you'd. 359 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,440 Just be like I'm not dealing with that. 360 00:17:41,720 --> 00:17:44,920 And what I told her is if you really want to get his attention 361 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:47,360 and you really want him to start thinking about you like. 362 00:17:47,360 --> 00:17:50,080 Crazy. Turn off the location, 'cause 363 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:51,200 she said she. Had like shared. 364 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:53,960 Location with him, remove him off everything. 365 00:17:54,680 --> 00:17:57,960 Mute him off your story so he can't see what you're doing. 366 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:00,520 Because that's. What's going to get him to start 367 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:04,720 thinking men need time to miss you, To think about you? 368 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,240 If you're always giving them access to you, you're always in 369 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:09,160 their face. You're always texting them. 370 00:18:09,440 --> 00:18:12,840 You're not giving them a chance to miss you because men fall in 371 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:16,120 love differently than women do. Men fall in love with the things 372 00:18:16,120 --> 00:18:18,080 that they do for women, like I said. 373 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:21,160 Earlier at the. Beginning of this episode, you 374 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:23,400 need to allow him to. Pursue you to do. 375 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:25,040 The things for you. Because that's how he's. 376 00:18:25,040 --> 00:18:28,040 Gonna fall in love more and more for you because he's investing 377 00:18:28,040 --> 00:18:31,120 his time within you. It's not through like intimacy 378 00:18:31,120 --> 00:18:34,360 and stuff like that. That's not how you make a man 379 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:35,880 fall in love. With you it's about. 380 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,880 Taking things slow and allowing him to. 381 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,160 Develop that love towards. You and you. 382 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,440 Do that by just. Focusing on yourself and really 383 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:47,800 embodying your own feminine energy and falling in love with 384 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:49,800 yourself. We're women. 385 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:51,960 We fall in love with acts of service. 386 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:55,360 The more that men do stuff for us, the more we fall in love 387 00:18:55,360 --> 00:18:58,200 with them. But if you have maybe a hurt 388 00:18:58,200 --> 00:18:59,280 self. Concept. 389 00:18:59,920 --> 00:19:04,240 You may find yourself being OK with not having men do anything 390 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,320 for you. You'll just be happy that you. 391 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:10,080 Have a man in your life so you won't be setting the bar up any 392 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:12,920 higher, and that's why I. Like to talk? 393 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:13,720 About. You know what? 394 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:16,280 If he's sending you a good morning text, that's the fucking 395 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:19,960 bare minimum if he's buying you a present for your birthday. 396 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,080 That's like. Less than $100. 397 00:19:22,120 --> 00:19:25,920 He's not a keeper. Because a man knows that for a 398 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:28,040 woman, he. Loves he is. 399 00:19:28,040 --> 00:19:30,400 Willing to spend any amount you know and. 400 00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:33,240 Even if he is broke, like he will still put. 401 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:37,400 In some effort and time into a thoughtful gift, right? 402 00:19:37,400 --> 00:19:39,280 Not just some. Like easy. 403 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:41,880 Half assed gift. That's. 404 00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:43,440 Why? In my Love Manifestation 405 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:47,920 Blueprint, I tell all my clients to focus on self concept work 406 00:19:47,920 --> 00:19:52,240 for one or two weeks straight. Because naturally you're going 407 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:54,480 to start realizing things about yourself. 408 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:58,080 You're going to start to feel more confident and a lot of the 409 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:01,280 time people are spending too much time focusing on their 410 00:20:01,280 --> 00:20:03,320 specific person. They want to manifest this man 411 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:06,680 back, they want to manifest him to change, and they are so hyper 412 00:20:06,680 --> 00:20:09,880 focused on changing him, but they don't take the time to 413 00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:12,200 change within themselves and that's why they're not seeing 414 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:13,800 the results that they want. Or maybe. 415 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:16,680 It's a little bit. Of a mix where he does come 416 00:20:16,680 --> 00:20:18,920 back, but then things go. Back to the way. 417 00:20:19,120 --> 00:20:23,080 They were before and it's not working out and the reason why 418 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:24,440 is. Because your old self. 419 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:27,360 Concept is still present. Right, there's maybe you. 420 00:20:27,360 --> 00:20:30,760 Haven't done enough inner. Work to get yourself to a place 421 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:33,080 where you are. Viewing yourself differently, 422 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:36,480 you're viewing him differently and that's really what you need 423 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,160 to do to. See the results. 424 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,800 That you want and you achieve this by changing your mindset. 425 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:45,760 Really understanding what are things about myself that I need 426 00:20:45,760 --> 00:20:48,400 to change with how I'm operating. 427 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,480 Like for example for me, I'll share one of my. 428 00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:54,200 Biggest issues? Within myself concept in 429 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,440 relationships and that was not being able to speak up for 430 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,240 myself. I was always more focused on 431 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:04,440 keeping other people happy that when they would do something 432 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,800 that I didn't like, I'd be more like, oh, I'm not going to 433 00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:10,920 confront it. I'm just actually going to step 434 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:12,320 away from the situation completely. 435 00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:14,200 I'm not going to tell them anything, but I'm just going to 436 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,480 take time away from them. And that's also coming from a 437 00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:19,560 hurt self concept because. Because at a core level. 438 00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:23,680 That's just me believing that my opinion doesn't matter, that I 439 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,800 don't get a say in things. And when I shifted that and I'm 440 00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:29,320 just like, I don't care. I'm going to say the way I feel. 441 00:21:29,560 --> 00:21:30,800 I'm going to start. Speaking. 442 00:21:31,120 --> 00:21:32,440 The way that I. Think. 443 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,600 And if I don't like something, I'm going to talk about it. 444 00:21:34,800 --> 00:21:38,360 And I never came from a way of like being a victim, right? 445 00:21:38,360 --> 00:21:41,240 Because I hate being a victim to my experiences. 446 00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:42,400 Because again you are creating your. 447 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,400 Reality at a core level. Everything that you think of you 448 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,120 are manifesting into reality. But I would. 449 00:21:48,120 --> 00:21:50,960 Approach it from a mature standpoint where I'm just like, 450 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:54,320 I don't like this and I'm just not willing to deal with this 451 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:56,600 anymore. I don't want it and I'd get 452 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,480 really real with myself with what I do want and what I don't 453 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:01,360 want. And I realized the people in my 454 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:05,840 life respected it 10 times more. People can sense when your 455 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:10,280 energy changes and that is why people manifest their specific 456 00:22:10,280 --> 00:22:12,920 person back after doing just only self concept work. 457 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,200 Like I've had so many clients, they manifest their specific 458 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:17,200 person back only doing self concept work. 459 00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,320 They don't even affirm for their specific person. 460 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,360 Why? Because they can literally feel 461 00:22:22,360 --> 00:22:24,880 that energy, that shift within themselves. 462 00:22:24,880 --> 00:22:26,840 And it is. So attractive. 463 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,800 That's why a lot. Of the time when you have an ex 464 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,800 crawling back, but you no longer want them, you're not thinking 465 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:34,840 about them all day. You're just actually. 466 00:22:35,120 --> 00:22:36,680 Recovering from the relationship. 467 00:22:36,680 --> 00:22:39,120 You're trying to work on yourself. 468 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,440 That's when you notice. Your ex is obsessed. 469 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,040 With you and like, Oh my God, what can I? 470 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:44,520 Do to have you back. Like I miss. 471 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:45,400 You. I love you. 472 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:47,520 It's because you took. Them off that. 473 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:50,400 Pedestal you stopped seeing. Them as someone that is so. 474 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:52,680 Special as the. Best you can have. 475 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:55,360 Whatever, You stopped. Entertaining the thought of them 476 00:22:55,360 --> 00:22:58,160 every single day and you chose yourself for once. 477 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,720 That's what happened. That's why they're obsessed with 478 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,080 you. And that's why I always say 479 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:05,720 obsess over yourself. Put yourself first. 480 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:09,080 Be that girl. That thinks about herself day in 481 00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:13,200 and day night because that's what's extremely attractive to a 482 00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:16,080 man. A man wants a powerful woman 483 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:19,720 because divine, feminine, masculine energy like you guys 484 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:23,560 balance that energy together when you see yourself. 485 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:27,040 As a powerful. Woman, you will only attract a 486 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:30,280 powerful man, whether that's a new person, into your life. 487 00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,920 Or your specific. Person they're gonna. 488 00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:37,600 Have to level up to your level, OK, because you at that. 489 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,200 Point When you see yourself as someone extremely powerful, 490 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,040 you're not gonna. Raise the bar like low. 491 00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:44,880 You're not gonna settle for things. 492 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,160 So I'm starting this new thing where at the end of all my 493 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,040 podcast episodes, I'm going to give you guys actionable steps 494 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:54,480 because I want you to actually implement this work so that you 495 00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:56,640 can see the results, right? Because sometimes it's. 496 00:23:56,640 --> 00:24:01,280 Hard to like decipher OK what? Are my next steps to get from A 497 00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:05,240 to point Z, so I'm going to give you something to follow on a 498 00:24:05,240 --> 00:24:06,280 day. To day basis that. 499 00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:07,880 Is going to help you tremendously. 500 00:24:08,120 --> 00:24:11,160 So number one, you're going to self reflect and do some self 501 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,680 concept work. Specifically with the. 502 00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:17,960 Way you are showing up every day when it comes to men and your 503 00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:20,840 relationships. If you are doing any of these 504 00:24:20,840 --> 00:24:23,960 things I'm about to list, you need to cut it off right now. 505 00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,920 OK? Number one, you need to cut off 506 00:24:26,920 --> 00:24:30,440 always messaging him first. You need to be OK with not 507 00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:33,360 speaking to him for a few days and not spiralling IF. 508 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,840 It's hard. For you to not talk to someone 509 00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:39,440 every single day because you have nothing else going for you 510 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:42,800 or you're spiraling, that is a self concept issue you have to 511 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:44,360 address. And I'm saying this from a 512 00:24:44,360 --> 00:24:48,000 loving space, like I love you so much, but you do not. 513 00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,520 Revolve your life. Around some other man. 514 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:53,040 OK, you are the prize here. So if. 515 00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,520 You can't spend like even 3. Days. 516 00:24:55,880 --> 00:24:59,120 Without speaking to him and being content, that's something 517 00:24:59,120 --> 00:25:01,240 you need to address. Why do you feel that way? 518 00:25:01,440 --> 00:25:02,320 Because. A lot of the. 519 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,680 Times what I realized. With working with clients is. 520 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:07,880 It doesn't come from that other person. 521 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:09,880 It's most. Likely a rooted. 522 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:13,440 Self concept issue that you need to address where maybe you. 523 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:17,080 Feel as though. You have abandonment issues, or 524 00:25:17,360 --> 00:25:19,080 you? Feel as though you. 525 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:22,560 Hate being alone, that you always need someone to entertain 526 00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,160 you to. Talk to because you. 527 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:26,920 Hate being alone. That's something you need to 528 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:30,480 address and see. OK, how can I fix this if you're 529 00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:32,600 posting on your stories for him to? 530 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,600 See every day. And you're checking your. 531 00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:38,200 Views to see if he viewed it. You need to stop doing that. 532 00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,480 You need to get into the self concept of. 533 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,120 Of course he cares to. View my stories. 534 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,400 You need to get into the self concept of I could care less 535 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:49,280 what he's doing right now. I could care less about posting 536 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,400 on my stories for his validation. 537 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,400 If I want to post on my stories, I'm going to do it for me. 538 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,040 I'm not going to do it for someone else. 539 00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,840 See what I'm up to. Because again, I'm telling you, 540 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,800 men will. Start to obsess. 541 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:04,480 Over you when you. Actually cut off access where 542 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,440 you're at the. Point where you're just like I 543 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,080 don't care what they're doing and I don't want them to see 544 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,360 what I'm doing every day. Like I want to keep that to 545 00:26:11,360 --> 00:26:14,800 myself and even just doing that like you. 546 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,960 Will see, you'll see they'll be like. 547 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:22,280 Obsessing over you #2 I want you to create an identity for 548 00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:27,000 yourself, a version of yourself that is really embodied in her 549 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,200 divine feminine energy. Where she feels, really. 550 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,320 Powerful. Essentially what I'm saying is I 551 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,280 want you to view. Yourself as. 552 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:39,680 You're the type of woman that a man comes into your life and he 553 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:43,200 is a changed man. That is how powerful you are. 554 00:26:44,040 --> 00:26:47,840 That you inspire him. To be better that he would do. 555 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:52,680 Anything for you, because that is just how mesmerizing you are, 556 00:26:53,120 --> 00:26:57,120 and I want you to maybe write down the qualities of this 557 00:26:57,120 --> 00:27:00,440 woman. Or if you can create a visual of 558 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:04,160 what this looks like. It can be even a 10 second scene 559 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,800 that you're playing in your mind and you're viewing. 560 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,280 Yourself as this powerful. Woman and you can actually 561 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,680 meditate on this. And I find like when you do 562 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,240 this, you'll go out in public and you'll notice. 563 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,920 Like a lot of. People have attention on you. 564 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,600 They're like, just mesmerized. By you so I. 565 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:24,800 Really love that technique as well and #3 is actually raising. 566 00:27:25,120 --> 00:27:29,200 The bar for yourself. I want you to get to a point in 567 00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:34,080 yourself concept that if a man is not giving 100%, he's not 568 00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:35,600 worshipping the ground that you walk on. 569 00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,000 He's not obsessing over you. You're not. 570 00:27:38,000 --> 00:27:40,760 Attracted to it? You're just simply. 571 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:45,600 Repelled by that behavior. You need to let him work for 572 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:46,440 you. Because if you're. 573 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,560 Working for him? Then he doesn't need to work for 574 00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:50,960 you, right? Like. 575 00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:54,880 Because it's always going to be. That one person that is going to 576 00:27:54,880 --> 00:27:58,280 be initiating and putting the work, obviously when you are in 577 00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:00,280 like a long term committed relationship. 578 00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:02,920 That kind of shifts, but if you. Are in the beginning. 579 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:05,680 Stages of a relationship. Or you are trying to manifest 580 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,920 someone back. It is never going to happen by 581 00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:13,080 you forcing it and trying and being desperate and pouring your 582 00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,640 heart out and soul for someone to choose you one day. 583 00:28:16,760 --> 00:28:18,000 You need to choose. Yourself. 584 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:21,040 Essentially what I'm saying is you need to love yourself too 585 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:23,120 much. To give yourself away. 586 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:27,120 For a man that doesn't choose you like you simply know how. 587 00:28:27,120 --> 00:28:28,960 Valuable you are that. You're not just. 588 00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,240 Going to give yourself. To any man that shows you 589 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:34,200 attention, or. Calls you pretty like they need 590 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,920 to work for you. That's the type of. 591 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,360 Standard, I want you. To have for yourself. 592 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:41,680 And when you have the standard, you'll notice that you won't 593 00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:44,920 even be attracting the type of men that don't put. 594 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:48,480 An effort or they see you as just a regular girl? 595 00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:51,120 You're going to be attracting men that are like, holy shit, I 596 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:54,160 am so lucky. How did I find Someone Like You? 597 00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,080 I know I'll never come across a girl like you in my life, so I 598 00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,760 know I'm going to do everything I can to keep you in my life. 599 00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:02,680 That's the. Type of self concept you need to 600 00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,240 have. And I want you to walk around 601 00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:07,160 every day knowing that, visualizing that, seeing 602 00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:11,960 yourself as that woman, that men are like, Oh my God, how am I 603 00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:13,160 so? Blessed. 604 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:16,440 To have come across a woman like you, you are just something 605 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,000 else. And you need to feel as though. 606 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:22,640 When you are with a man, you empower him. 607 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:26,000 You make him feel so good about himself. 608 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:28,520 That you are. Addicting to him because you are 609 00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:32,360 levelling him up and that is divine feminine energy. 610 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,840 Thank you so much for listening you guys. 611 00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,480 I really loved making this episode. 612 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:38,800 Because I love. Incorporating, of course, 613 00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:41,960 manifestation, specifically when it comes to manifesting 614 00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,160 relationships. But I also love. 615 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:47,240 Using feminine energy and masculine energy dynamics. 616 00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,600 As well because. When it comes to manifesting a 617 00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:53,400 specific person and relationships, sometimes we need 618 00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:56,320 to just go back to the basics and understand feminine and 619 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,840 energy dynamics. A woman is not designed to chase 620 00:29:59,840 --> 00:30:02,000 after a man. If you look back. 621 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:04,480 Thousands of years ago, it was never like that. 622 00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,680 It was always the man. The man proposes. 623 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:10,280 The man asks. You to be his wife like. 624 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,520 He needs to fight for you. So if you're fighting for him, 625 00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:17,040 that entire dynamic is not going to work out. 626 00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:20,000 And you will notice that the second you stop fighting for him 627 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:23,440 and allow him to pursue you is when he's going to pursue you. 628 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:25,920 Thank you so much for listening, you guys. 629 00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:28,600 If you haven't already, check out the Love Manifestation 630 00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,800 Blueprint. Which is a new. 631 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:34,760 Program I recently launched. Which teaches you exactly how to 632 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:36,840 shift. Yourself concept and. 633 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:40,640 Also attract your specific. Person or new love and 634 00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,560 relationships into your life extremely fast by doing the 635 00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:46,480 inner work, so if you haven't already, feel free to check that 636 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:49,160 out and I will see you in the next episode.