1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,760 Hello my loves and welcome to another. 2 00:00:01,760 --> 00:00:05,360 Podcast episode of Busy. Glowing up, I'm your host, Liv 3 00:00:05,360 --> 00:00:08,160 Marima, and I'm. So excited to be back. 4 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:12,640 You guys, I know I took some time away from uploading but I 5 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:14,280 am really excited. For today's episode. 6 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:17,280 We're going to be doing a bit of AQ and A on my Instagram I. 7 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:20,920 Asked you guys what? You wanted me to cover in our 8 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:22,360 Q&A today. And by the way, if you're not 9 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,320 following me on Instagram, it's at Liv Marima. 10 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:29,200 The majority of the Q&A questions were about manifesting 11 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:31,880 axes. Moving on from X's how to call 12 00:00:31,880 --> 00:00:35,800 Your power back detachment, and I'm really excited to get into 13 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:39,800 this because a pattern that I have noticed within these QA 14 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:44,560 questions is there's so much waiting happening when it comes 15 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:46,960 to people wanting their exes to come back. 16 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,880 You're waiting for them to call you, you're waiting for them to 17 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,640 text, You're waiting for them to tell you how much they love you. 18 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:56,720 And that's the thing, the reason why you're not seeing any 19 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:59,960 movement. Is because you're waiting. 20 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:03,080 For something outside of you to make you feel a certain way 21 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:04,000 about. Yourself. 22 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,040 I'm definitely going to dive into that a little bit more 23 00:01:07,040 --> 00:01:09,000 later on in. Today's episode, but. 24 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:11,080 I want to. Start off with the 1st. 25 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:15,400 Question that we have and that is how to move on from your ex I 26 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:17,960 promise you if you. Follow this step by step. 27 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,640 That I'm about to give you for moving on from your ex. 28 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:24,200 Not only are you going to feel the most magnetic version of 29 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:26,240 yourself, most confident version of yourself. 30 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:28,680 You're going to be detached. From your ex, you're not going 31 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:31,080 to be waiting on them, you're not going to be giving your 32 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:33,200 power away to them. You're going to be removing them 33 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:35,520 off the pedestal and as a result, they're going to be the 34 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,760 ones obsessing over you and. This is through the power. 35 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,040 Of self concept work and really doing the inner work and 36 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:42,840 removing any unhealthy attachments that you. 37 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:46,360 Have. To men or your exes from the 38 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,120 past. When you start doing this then 39 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,120 you have plenty of options. You know if you want your ex, go 40 00:01:51,120 --> 00:01:53,040 for it. If you want to call in a Newman 41 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:55,800 that checks all your boxes. Go for it. 42 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,160 Because you're going to have multiple options. 43 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:00,480 My biggest advice to moving on from an. 44 00:02:00,480 --> 00:02:03,760 X That also really works fast to get. 45 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,480 Them running back. After you if that's what. 46 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:07,960 You want. Either way it creates detachment 47 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,400 is to look back on all the times that they've breadcrumbed. 48 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:13,600 You or just did something that gave you the. 49 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:16,400 Ick. And I want you to think about 50 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:20,680 that scenario and be like, Oh my God, I can totally do better 51 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:22,280 than that. Like that is the bare minimum 52 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,000 and get really turned off by that. 53 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:27,040 Behavior. And I get it because the those 54 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:28,840 who are manifesting their X fact, they're like, well, why 55 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:30,920 would I think negatively about my ex? 56 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:34,520 Because you don't want that version that treated you like 57 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,200 shit and gave you bread crumbs. That's not who we're manifesting 58 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:39,880 back. We are manifesting a whole new 59 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,240 different person, a completely different identity within this 60 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:44,680 specific person. And that's the problem that 61 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:48,400 people have when it comes to manifesting a specific person. 62 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:51,400 They don't even want to let go. Of the old story. 63 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:54,000 And the bread crumbs. It's almost like some people 64 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:56,000 are. So attached to that old. 65 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:00,040 Version of how they hurt you of the things they said to you. 66 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:04,000 And unfortunately, manifestation cannot happen if you. 67 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,320 Are stuck to that old. Version and telling yourself on 68 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:09,040 a day-to-day. Basis what they did. 69 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:11,040 To hurt you in the past and thinking that you're going to 70 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:13,960 get anything different in the future, that is just complete 71 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:17,520 delusion in a bad way. But what happens is when you 72 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:20,960 look back on all the things. That your ex did that was just. 73 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:24,920 Bare minimum, like giving bread crumbs, it makes you realize 74 00:03:24,920 --> 00:03:28,040 that you were kind of doing charity. 75 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:29,600 Work. That you can do way. 76 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:31,560 Better. And what does that do? 77 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,000 That raises yourself. Confidence in what? 78 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:37,760 You believe that you deserve. And when you increase your worth 79 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:42,280 and value and grounded in believing what you deserve, 80 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,480 naturally your exes and the men in your life are going to have 81 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,880 to show up meeting those standards because otherwise 82 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:51,600 you're completely turned off by it. 83 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:54,920 And that's what I want for everyone is for you to be turned 84 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:59,000 off by bad treatment. Why are we attracted to men who 85 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,200 don't text us back, or don't call us, or don't plan? 86 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:04,400 Any dates like I? Want you to really look within 87 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,040 yourself concept because at this point it doesn't even have 88 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:10,200 anything to do with that person. Why are you entertaining someone 89 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:13,680 that gives you bread crumbs? Is it because like and don't 90 00:04:13,680 --> 00:04:16,040 give me the reason of like they're attractive or they have 91 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:17,200 money? Because guess what? 92 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:18,800 There's. Plenty of other people that. 93 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:20,440 Are also. Attractive and have money. 94 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:23,360 It's just not even worth it to be putting up with something 95 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:24,600 like that. You're just doing a. 96 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:27,640 Disservice to yourself. I know sometimes I come across 97 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,400 very strong in my. Podcast episodes, but. 98 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,600 You know, that's sometimes like the motivation we need to really 99 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:37,080 awaken that within ourselves and be like, wait a minute, like, 100 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:39,400 what am I doing? And why am I settling for this? 101 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,320 Because girl, trust me. Like, I've been there. 102 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,480 And now that I'm on this other side of it, I'm in my dream 103 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:46,040 relationship. I'm so happy. 104 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:48,320 I literally want that. For all of you, because. 105 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:51,040 Trust me, like at one point I was also in that. 106 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:54,000 Place where I was like is this the best that I get like just. 107 00:04:54,160 --> 00:04:56,000 Waiting on a text message and a call. 108 00:04:56,840 --> 00:04:59,880 No bestie like you deserve a man that goes out of his way, that 109 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:03,240 plans the dates that. Pays for your trips that flies 110 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,840 you out takes. You on trips and The thing is 111 00:05:05,840 --> 00:05:07,720 when it comes to this type. Of work, you need to believe 112 00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:08,960 that's available for you. Too. 113 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,840 And that's like another story. Maybe I can go and talk about 114 00:05:11,840 --> 00:05:13,840 that like later on in this. Episode because there's still 115 00:05:13,840 --> 00:05:15,120 other. Questions I want to cover. 116 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:16,840 But. You know, if you don't. 117 00:05:16,840 --> 00:05:18,960 Believe you're. Deserving of a man that treats 118 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:21,360 you like a queen. That obsesses over you. 119 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:23,600 That goes out of his way for. You, you're not going to get it 120 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:25,680 right. Because at a core level. 121 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:28,680 Everything that you are experiencing with men is a 122 00:05:28,680 --> 00:05:32,240 creation of your own beliefs. You can't even call in your 123 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:34,560 dream man or the dream version of your ex. 124 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:36,560 If you are so stuck. On the old. 125 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:40,440 Story of how they hurt. You it just can't happen. 126 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:42,360 And for that to. Shift you have to be. 127 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:45,440 Disciplined enough to tell yourself the new story? 128 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:49,480 OK, if he's been dry and inconsistent or you're in no 129 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,960 contact, you need to tell yourself the new story of what 130 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:55,360 you want to experience with this person and how you want them to 131 00:05:55,360 --> 00:05:58,560 show up, raising your standards and setting that. 132 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,920 Bar up high. And seeing yourself as the dream 133 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:04,160 girl, as any man is. Lucky to be with you. 134 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,560 Is going to open up a lot of. Doors for you. 135 00:06:06,840 --> 00:06:09,360 It's going to attract very different types of men. 136 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,280 Who treat you very. Differently than what you're 137 00:06:11,280 --> 00:06:16,560 used to, and it's also going to call in your SPS and your exes. 138 00:06:16,560 --> 00:06:17,440 For those who don't know what an. 139 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,200 SP is SP is specific. Person for in the manifestation 140 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:23,840 community, but it's going to cause them to show up in a very 141 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:24,960 different way and I want to share. 142 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,680 With you a success story. Because I want you guys to be 143 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:29,240 really motivated. To do this type. 144 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:30,600 Of work. I don't want it to be like, oh, 145 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:32,760 it's so much inner work like. It. 146 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:34,600 Pays off bestie. Not only does it. 147 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:37,080 Feel good for you, but you see crazy results. 148 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:41,120 And this can change your life and your love life for forever. 149 00:06:41,360 --> 00:06:45,480 One of my beautiful clients who took my manifestation blueprint 150 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:47,600 a few months. Back she started with. 151 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,520 Being in no contact with her specific person, the 152 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,640 circumstances where he was saying he doesn't want to get 153 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:53,960 back together. With her that it's. 154 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:58,760 Over for this time, all of that stuff and what she did is she 155 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:01,080 really went in and did the internal. 156 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:03,840 Work. She started to do the. 157 00:07:03,840 --> 00:07:08,080 Self concept work and realize wait a minute I can have so much 158 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:10,440 more. She did not put a limit for 159 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:11,960 herself. A lot of people just limit 160 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:15,760 themselves to an SP. But what she did, is she just. 161 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:18,800 Fully went in on herself concept for those who have taken my 162 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:22,960 manifestation blueprint you know that I teach manifestation in a 163 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,360 way where we work on self concept our. 164 00:07:25,360 --> 00:07:27,800 Identity the way that we. Think and feel about ourselves 165 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:29,960 and then the other. Part of it is also. 166 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:33,680 Shifting the beliefs that we have around or desire a specific 167 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:37,440 person. She did not make this about him 168 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:41,160 or this journey that I'm doing this work so I can get him back. 169 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:45,560 I'm doing this work so I can feel so good about myself, feel 170 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:47,640 confident, get back to a. Place where? 171 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:52,000 I'm feeling so good about myself, just like I was before I 172 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:55,920 even met this man. And by doing that, I know and I 173 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:56,840 trust. That. 174 00:07:57,280 --> 00:08:00,040 He's going to come back into my life, but not only that, I know 175 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:03,560 I'm going to be calling in multiple men because I know that 176 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,240 I can not only just get my specific person, but I can have 177 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:09,040 multiple men showing up and treating me like a queen 178 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:10,280 because. It's that easy. 179 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:14,000 I know that I have full control over my reality and the key part 180 00:08:14,120 --> 00:08:16,240 to my client's. Success is that she? 181 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:18,480 Was not obsessing over the outcome. 182 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:22,720 She was not checking her 3D every single day and being like, 183 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:25,200 oh, I did this for a week and I don't see any movement. 184 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:27,840 I must be doing it wrong or you know, he's never going to come 185 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,760 back, right? Like she was not telling herself 186 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:33,240 that it's not going to work out when she doesn't see any 187 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:35,120 movement. She really worked on getting 188 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:36,880 herself. To a place where she's. 189 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:39,600 No longer triggered that she continues to enjoy. 190 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:42,760 Her. Life even without having him in 191 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:45,000 her life right now. Because here's the thing, 192 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:47,520 manifesting a specific person doesn't have to be this like, 193 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:49,400 dreadful, miserable. Process where you put your. 194 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,840 Life on hold and you spend your free time worrying about them 195 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:56,760 and waiting on a message and telling all your friends about. 196 00:08:56,760 --> 00:08:59,720 How he treated you poorly. And talking bad about your 197 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:02,360 specific person, right? And the reason why I'm saying 198 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:04,000 these things is. Because if you are doing. 199 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:07,320 Any of these things you need to stop right now if you want. 200 00:09:07,360 --> 00:09:10,800 To see results happen within. Your reality when it comes to 201 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:12,720 your relationships and your specific person. 202 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:16,280 After she did the. First portion of the blueprint 203 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,320 which is self concept. She also. 204 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:22,040 Worked around her beliefs around manifestation in itself. 205 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,560 Right, you have to believe that you. 206 00:09:24,560 --> 00:09:27,720 Can get what you want, you have to believe that manifestation. 207 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:31,520 Is real that you? Can call in the things that you 208 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:34,600 want regardless of circumstances and to. 209 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:36,080 Do that. It is as easy as. 210 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:39,080 Telling yourself I am a master at manifesting. 211 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:43,800 It is so easy for me to manifest and then put in your person's 212 00:09:43,800 --> 00:09:45,800 name. The more and more you tell 213 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:48,440 yourself that, the more your mind accepts that, and it's. 214 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:51,080 Going to start to reflect. Those beliefs, it's going to. 215 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:53,960 Speed up the process. For you, you can have a great 216 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:57,040 self concept, you can have great beliefs around your specific 217 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,080 person, but if you also. Struggle with the fact that. 218 00:10:00,360 --> 00:10:05,080 You can manifest someone back. You can do it that circumstances 219 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:07,800 don't matter then. That could also be the. 220 00:10:07,800 --> 00:10:11,320 Problem and the reason as to why you still haven't seen shifts 221 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:14,200 happen yet. You need to understand that this 222 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:16,600 world is a simulation. Like, I don't know how else to 223 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,240 explain it to you, but we live in a world where there is 224 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:24,000 multiple infinite realities happening all simultaneously. 225 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,680 There's a version of you. That has your specific. 226 00:10:26,680 --> 00:10:29,000 Person, there's a version of you that doesn't, and it's all 227 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:32,120 happening simultaneously. And the other thing that she was 228 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:34,640 working on is she was going back into the past. 229 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:36,080 Right this. Is what I was mentioning in the 230 00:10:36,080 --> 00:10:37,920 beginning. Of this episode she was. 231 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:42,320 Changing the story of what happened in the past so for the 232 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:44,440 times where. She was really triggered or. 233 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:48,040 Her person said something that was triggering, triggering for 234 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:48,920 her. She would go. 235 00:10:48,920 --> 00:10:51,560 Back and revise it with. A new story with a positive 236 00:10:51,560 --> 00:10:53,840 story. So for example where he said 237 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:57,440 that he doesn't want to be. With her that he's breaking up 238 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:00,600 with her, she would. Revise that and change the story 239 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:04,360 and instead place her focus on the loving moments they shared 240 00:11:04,360 --> 00:11:07,000 and going back into that moment and really feeling it to be 241 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:08,480 true. And here's the thing, that's 242 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:10,280 where thought transmission comes in. 243 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:13,960 When you are thinking about someone in a positive way and 244 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:16,760 you are feeling these heightened emotions around them. 245 00:11:17,040 --> 00:11:18,320 Positive. Or negative, right? 246 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:19,920 This is where you have to be careful too, because. 247 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:21,680 If you're constantly triggered by someone, you're thinking 248 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:23,800 really negatively towards them. They're picking that up. 249 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,040 They're picking that up from your energy and that's also 250 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:28,440 keeping them away. But if you do that. 251 00:11:28,680 --> 00:11:31,560 In a positive way where you're feeling like. 252 00:11:31,560 --> 00:11:33,280 Wow, I felt so loved. By him. 253 00:11:33,280 --> 00:11:38,360 I could really feel how special. I am to him and reminding 254 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:41,320 yourself of all the good memories you shared and you can. 255 00:11:41,320 --> 00:11:45,000 Continue to really focus. On that, you're going to 256 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:48,280 continue to. Solidify the beliefs of. 257 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:50,840 The new. Story of how this person shows 258 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:54,120 up by using the past right if it's hard for you to create. 259 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,400 A new experience of how you want them to show. 260 00:11:56,400 --> 00:11:59,480 Up use the past of the. Good times that you shared with 261 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:02,280 them and then when you go back and think about them, you're not 262 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:04,120 going to think about all the times they hurt. 263 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:05,840 You. You're going to think about all 264 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:07,920 the good times that. You shared with. 265 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:13,360 Them and I believe after just I think 2-3 months of my client 266 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:16,040 doing this. Work she had her specific. 267 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:20,080 Person reach out to her and say how much he wants to. 268 00:12:20,080 --> 00:12:22,400 Be back together with her regardless of. 269 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:25,720 Circumstances, regardless of what he said in the past, none 270 00:12:25,720 --> 00:12:29,160 of that stopped her from getting the results that she wanted 271 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:33,240 because she believed in this process and she stuck to it and 272 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:36,360 she didn't allow self. Sabotage to take over I see a 273 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:39,240 lot of. People also self sabotaging 274 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,960 relationships. This is where the identity work 275 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:43,360 comes in. You know you. 276 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:46,680 Have to show up as that. Version that has this man 277 00:12:46,680 --> 00:12:48,320 already. Obsessed with you? 278 00:12:49,080 --> 00:12:52,920 That means the version of you that has this man all over you, 279 00:12:52,920 --> 00:12:54,960 obsessing over you, taking you out on dates. 280 00:12:54,960 --> 00:12:56,640 You're not checking his following. 281 00:12:56,640 --> 00:12:59,160 You're not stalking him. You're not spending your whole 282 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:01,880 day waiting on him to text. You or call you. 283 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:03,800 You're too busy for that. You have other. 284 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:07,120 Things going for you, you don't settle for bread and try. 285 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:09,800 To fill the gap. For a man and plan the dates and 286 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:13,880 take on that masculine role being stuck in the waiting 287 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,080 energy. Is the worst possible. 288 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:20,800 Thing you can do because when you are waiting, subconsciously 289 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:24,160 you're telling yourself you don't have what you want because 290 00:13:24,160 --> 00:13:27,240 if you did have what you want you wouldn't be waiting around 291 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:29,280 for it. And I get that sometimes it's 292 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:33,600 hard to, you know, assume and feel like you already have it. 293 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:36,720 And you know, you don't even have to. 294 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:38,280 Feel as though you already have it. 295 00:13:38,480 --> 00:13:41,560 If you can, continue to tell yourself the new story, even if 296 00:13:41,560 --> 00:13:44,360 you don't believe it, and fill up your mind with. 297 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:48,120 The idea of. Having it, eventually those new 298 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:50,680 thoughts are going to replace the old ones. 299 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:54,160 If you're in a no contact situation and you're constantly 300 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:56,480 reminiscing on the fact that you're in no contact and they 301 00:13:56,480 --> 00:14:00,200 haven't texted you yet and it's been how many months now or 302 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:03,840 whatever your circumstances. Are there's a third party you 303 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:06,080 need? To stop entertaining. 304 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:09,600 Those thoughts because yourself talk is what is. 305 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,560 Creating your reality and not what you're saying out loud, 306 00:14:12,560 --> 00:14:14,280 what you were thinking in your mind. 307 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:19,760 You can't expect to say your affirmations or listen to a 308 00:14:19,920 --> 00:14:24,680 affirmation tape a few times a week but then spend majority of 309 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:28,560 your day thinking negative thoughts and how they don't want 310 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:31,720 you and how they moved on and how they don't miss you and how 311 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:33,920 they hurt you in the past and how they're never going to 312 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:36,000 change. That's not going to help. 313 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:40,160 Whatsoever it is about. Telling yourself the new story 314 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,320 every single day and sticking to it. 315 00:14:42,320 --> 00:14:45,760 Regardless of what you see. Out happening on the outside, 316 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:48,720 regardless of how much time has. Passed because. 317 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:52,560 Essentially, it only takes 21 days to form a new belief and 318 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:55,360 understand it's not your thoughts that manifest, it's 319 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:58,320 your beliefs. So if you have a core rooted 320 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:01,280 belief that. You will never get your. 321 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:07,360 Person back or that they're. Never going to want you back. 322 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:10,360 That belief is going to. Override all of the. 323 00:15:10,360 --> 00:15:14,240 Affirmations that you're saying if you are dominantly thinking 324 00:15:14,760 --> 00:15:19,120 negatively, you simply just cannot entertain those negative 325 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:22,320 stories if you want to experience something different. 326 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:25,680 That was like a really. Long Q&A response, but we are 327 00:15:25,680 --> 00:15:29,720 going on to another and actually love this question and somebody 328 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:32,840 asked how to make him spoil you and do nice things. 329 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:36,280 For you I absolutely love. Teaching this because it is. 330 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:39,560 So easy. To have men spoil you and give 331 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:41,360 you Princess treatment and it all. 332 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:44,440 Starts with exactly that. You have to believe that it is 333 00:15:44,520 --> 00:15:46,080 effortless. It is easy. 334 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:48,480 For men to do nice things for you and go. 335 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:51,800 Out of their way for. You and see you as deserving of 336 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:55,320 being treated like a queen. You have to radiate that energy. 337 00:15:55,320 --> 00:15:57,880 You. Have to see yourself as worthy. 338 00:15:57,880 --> 00:16:00,080 Of that, you're not the type of. Girl, that just settles. 339 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,160 For anyone like the man that. You choose to be with. 340 00:16:03,320 --> 00:16:05,440 He has to. Meet your standards, and those 341 00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:08,200 standards come with having a man that's very thoughtful. 342 00:16:08,400 --> 00:16:10,640 He doesn't necessarily have to. Blow a lot. 343 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:14,280 Of money on you either it's about doing thoughtful things 344 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:16,200 right and for the guys listening. 345 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:18,880 To this episode I. Really want you to understand 346 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:20,960 that when you find the right girl. 347 00:16:20,960 --> 00:16:22,960 That. Shows her interest in you. 348 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:27,120 The way to win her over is to do sweet and kind gestures. 349 00:16:27,360 --> 00:16:30,160 I know that there's a. Lot of stuff out there. 350 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:34,120 Where men are saying that, you know, girls no longer want a man 351 00:16:34,120 --> 00:16:37,720 that is very romantic and does all these things they want like 352 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:40,560 this. Asshole who's hot and cold? 353 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:44,320 And ghosts and play games they want the bad guy. 354 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:47,360 If you're looking for a healthy and long long term relationship, 355 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:49,120 that is just not the route to go. 356 00:16:49,120 --> 00:16:52,480 You're going to continue to attract women who are either 357 00:16:52,480 --> 00:16:56,000 very clingy and. Possessive over you or the other 358 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:58,360 way which. Is emotionally unavailable and 359 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:01,000 want nothing to do with you when you find the. 360 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:04,040 Right girl who appreciates. The things that you do for her 361 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:08,400 and she will do everything she can to mirror back that love and 362 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:10,640 appreciation to you. But it all. 363 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:13,520 Starts with being vulnerable and being OK. 364 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:17,680 To show that. Affectionate and loving side of 365 00:17:17,680 --> 00:17:20,480 you, but also be. Protective over it. 366 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:24,599 If you do a kind gesture and it's not being appreciated or 367 00:17:24,599 --> 00:17:27,160 you're being taken for granted. You were tracked right away. 368 00:17:27,160 --> 00:17:29,680 And know that OK, this is not the one, but I'm going to 369 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:31,880 continue to be this version of myself. 370 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:34,400 Because it feels good. For me, and eventually you will 371 00:17:34,400 --> 00:17:36,800 attract the one that is right for you. 372 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:40,240 So many people in the dating space try to be someone they're 373 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:42,800 not. And that's the problem, because 374 00:17:42,800 --> 00:17:44,520 then you're going to attract people who mirror. 375 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:47,720 Back that exact. Energy to you when you come into 376 00:17:47,720 --> 00:17:49,760 the dating space with an open heart. 377 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:53,640 You will attract people who also have a very. 378 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:56,840 Open heart and are loving. You attract what you. 379 00:17:56,840 --> 00:18:01,600 Are and if for whatever reason you call in someone that is not 380 00:18:01,600 --> 00:18:04,640 respectful or taking you for granted, you will completely 381 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:07,480 shut it down right away. And that's how you know you've 382 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:11,160 evolved with yourself concept because your standards are up 383 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:13,440 higher. You know your value. 384 00:18:13,480 --> 00:18:16,320 Back to what I was. Saying before, if you want a man 385 00:18:16,320 --> 00:18:20,520 to spoil you, tell him that. You like to receive gifts? 386 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:21,680 Tell. Him, the things. 387 00:18:21,680 --> 00:18:25,320 That you like. Men are very simple and you 388 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:28,200 can't expect for a man to always know what's going through your 389 00:18:28,200 --> 00:18:29,880 head. A lot of women, they get mad at 390 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:32,160 their man because they're like, Oh well, why don't you do this 391 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:33,320 for me? Why don't you do that for me? 392 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:36,640 Have you asked him? Have you told him what you want? 393 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:40,040 Because sometimes you know, you can't blame them. 394 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:41,840 Sometimes they just simply don't know. 395 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:46,240 But I guarantee if you start to communicate your needs to a man, 396 00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:48,040 either he's going to do. It for you or he? 397 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:49,400 Doesn't. And if he doesn't, then that's 398 00:18:49,400 --> 00:18:51,200 how you know like he's not the right one for you. 399 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:52,680 Don't waste your time with someone like that. 400 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:57,080 Don't go trying to someone instead when you pull away and 401 00:18:57,080 --> 00:19:00,080 show that you are not. Afraid to lose. 402 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,520 Them you're not afraid to go off and find someone that will meet 403 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,200 your needs, then that will trigger him to show up in the 404 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:09,160 way that you want him to, because then it's going to 405 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:10,200 trigger. That like fear of. 406 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:12,680 Losing you. And if he's not afraid to lose 407 00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:16,880 you, bestie like he's not it because the man that loves you 408 00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:18,840 and that would do anything for you. 409 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:19,760 He'd fight. For you. 410 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,360 Simple as that. There is a specific way to 411 00:19:22,360 --> 00:19:25,240 communicate. What you want from a man, and 412 00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:29,280 you want to make sure that you do this in a very sweet, 413 00:19:29,280 --> 00:19:32,320 heartfelt way. You never want to demand 414 00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:35,800 something from a man because that will automatically make 415 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:37,720 them. Feel as though they are. 416 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:40,640 Competing with you, it's you're going to be stepping into your 417 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,280 masculine energy. You have to start being 418 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,160 comfortable with asking for things and doing it in a. 419 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,960 Way that is really effortless. In a way, it's not like you're 420 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:52,760 trying to make him do these things. 421 00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:54,960 You just simply ask for it and you receive it. 422 00:19:55,120 --> 00:19:58,880 And of course, it's really nice to have someone that does things 423 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:00,840 for you without having to ask. But the way that. 424 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:03,600 You set the tone for that is by telling them the things that. 425 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:05,200 You do like so. That they know. 426 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:10,040 Briefly like what are? Things that they can do to just 427 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:13,120 put a smile on your face and make you happy and make you feel 428 00:20:13,120 --> 00:20:16,240 like you are just in your feminine energy so you want to. 429 00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:18,600 Portray this idea. To a man that like. 430 00:20:18,880 --> 00:20:21,520 If he does. This thing for you, if he makes 431 00:20:21,520 --> 00:20:25,560 you happy, it's going to make him really happy. 432 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:28,400 Men want to make. You happy, It feels good. 433 00:20:28,400 --> 00:20:31,280 For them, because when they. See that they do. 434 00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:33,080 Something to put a smile on your face. 435 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,880 It feels good for them. So I want you to get used to the 436 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:39,120 idea of asking for things and holding the belief that they 437 00:20:39,120 --> 00:20:42,080 like to do things for you. It makes them feel good. 438 00:20:42,120 --> 00:20:43,680 My favorite way to set the tone for. 439 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:46,920 This is just what you. Expect from your partner not. 440 00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:50,200 Expect but like just. You know ways that you want your 441 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:51,480 partner to show up. For you. 442 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:55,080 Is to start the conversation of like, what are things that make 443 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:58,680 you feel really valued and appreciated in relationships or 444 00:20:58,680 --> 00:21:02,920 like small kind gestures that make you feel really happy? 445 00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:08,200 And then once you hear his, then you know you're going to assume 446 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:09,960 that he's going to ask the same for you. 447 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:12,520 And that's where you can say. Well, I really love it. 448 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,440 When you would do like small things for me, like even 449 00:21:15,480 --> 00:21:18,960 surprisingly with flowers once a week, I really want to have. 450 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:21,280 This flower. Vase in the kitchen where? 451 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:23,520 It just gets filled with fresh flowers. 452 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:26,400 Every week that would make. Me, the happiest girl ever. 453 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,000 And I would just feel. So adored by. 454 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:31,600 You and I think that would continue to keep that 455 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:34,400 flirtatious connection, continue. 456 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,080 To hold that spark. Between us. 457 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:40,480 Or you can say something like. I love to receive gifts. 458 00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:43,920 Like for example, I really love when I. 459 00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:46,320 Receive gifts I really love. Jewelry. 460 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:48,040 It just makes me. Feel so beautiful. 461 00:21:48,040 --> 00:21:51,080 And am I feminine? And I love to know that the 462 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:55,120 things that I'm wearing are from you so that it always reminds me 463 00:21:55,120 --> 00:21:55,800 of you. See. 464 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,240 Notice how you say. Like how? 465 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,920 Them doing these things for you is always going to. 466 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:04,040 Circle. Back to them and how special and 467 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:07,400 grateful you are for them. Trust me, every time you say 468 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,640 this to a man, he's going to be like, what more can I do for 469 00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:13,720 you? Another question that I have. 470 00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,000 Here is how to be. Confident around your ex when 471 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:20,000 you see them, so I'm going to assume that you know there. 472 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:23,160 Is a lot of people. Out there who have an ex or a 473 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:25,400 specific person that they see in public. 474 00:22:25,760 --> 00:22:28,480 Whether it's through. Work or events and stuff and the 475 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:29,280 way that you. Carry. 476 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:33,440 Yourself speaks volumes. You can completely not say 477 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:35,640 anything. To your specific. 478 00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:38,680 Person, but if internally you are feeling anxious, you're 479 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:42,360 feeling insecure, you're overthinking around them, it's 480 00:22:42,360 --> 00:22:46,680 just automatically going to strip away your magnetism and 481 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:48,800 they're going to just overlook you and they're going to mirror 482 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,240 back that same energy to you. If you want to appear confident 483 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:55,640 and magnetic around an axe, that you don't really. 484 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,360 Speak to or for whatever. Reason You're seeing them out in 485 00:22:58,360 --> 00:23:03,280 public and you want them to see you that you're doing good you 486 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:07,360 need. To feel super good without. 487 00:23:07,360 --> 00:23:09,280 Having them in your. Life you want to get. 488 00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:12,880 To a point where you don't even think about them whatsoever. 489 00:23:12,880 --> 00:23:16,240 It's almost like they disappeared from your mind and 490 00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,400 your life. Because remember, the more time 491 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,560 you're focusing on someone else and thinking about them 492 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,920 constantly revolving your life around them, the more and more 493 00:23:24,920 --> 00:23:26,720 they're going to look away from you and they're going. 494 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,760 To put the focus back. On to them. 495 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:33,760 However, when you create. A life where you are. 496 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:39,560 So happy without them where you finally feel like you don't need 497 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:43,680 them to be happy and you've fully moved on and you're in a 498 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:47,000 better place without them is always when you're going to 499 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:50,280 trigger them to be like Oh my God I miss you. 500 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:52,480 Think about it like this in a messed up. 501 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:58,560 Way it feels good for. Your ex or your specific person 502 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,840 to see that you're not doing good without them because. 503 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,840 That. Boosts their ego and they're. 504 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,400 Like, Oh yeah. I made their life so much better 505 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:08,440 and now that I'm not in. Their life, they're lost. 506 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:10,080 They're. They're not doing good without 507 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:11,960 me. Because I placed, I had. 508 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,600 So much importance in their life and I'm just such this great 509 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,240 person, right? They're going to put their focus 510 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:18,440 on them and feed their own ego and be. 511 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:21,560 Like oh wow. You know, like this person can't 512 00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:23,360 get over me. They're obsessed with me. 513 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:25,680 If you want to call your power back, you need. 514 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:29,600 To get to a place where you. Feel so fucking good without 515 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:34,520 having them in your life where you being apart from them or 516 00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:38,000 breaking up or the breakup doesn't affect you whatsoever. 517 00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:44,000 If you can level up and glow up and do way better with them not 518 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,640 being in your life, they're instantly going to come crawling 519 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:51,440 back because then, and even if you're not seeing them out in 520 00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,920 public, even if you're in a no contact situation, this is the 521 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,480 same thing. People can feel that energy 522 00:24:57,480 --> 00:24:59,400 shift within you, even if they're on the. 523 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:01,600 Opposite side of the. World or they're in the same 524 00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:04,080 room with you. Understand that you're connected 525 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,960 to everyone. Especially the people that 526 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:08,840 you've shared a past with they're. 527 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:11,520 Always going to be connected to you because you have to 528 00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:14,840 understand that at one point there was like a transactional 529 00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:17,880 energy transfer between you 2. You have to understand that 530 00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:21,080 they're always going to be connected to your energy. 531 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:24,520 The way to get yourself. To this place is to accept the 532 00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,880 past. In order to move on from your ex 533 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:31,480 and no longer let the. Past dictate your future. 534 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:34,280 And the past hold you down and make you feel not good enough 535 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:37,600 and remind yourself on how you weren't chosen or whatever you 536 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,040 need to accept the past and be like. 537 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:43,160 This is what? Happened and I'm going to just 538 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:48,480 choose to accept what happened, not overthink it and move on 539 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,920 because what what are my options right now? 540 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:56,080 I can sit here and be the victim and feel insecure and give them 541 00:25:56,120 --> 00:26:00,120 all my power. Sit here and feel so lonely and 542 00:26:00,120 --> 00:26:02,520 let them. Feel how they hurt. 543 00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:04,960 Me and that my life is not the same without them. 544 00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:08,440 Or I can choose to level up and become the version of myself 545 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:10,440 that they have not even ever seen before. 546 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:13,640 The version of myself where I love myself like never before. 547 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:18,080 Have a complete glow up, raise my standards, believe that I can 548 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,560 do even better than this man, and start walking around like I 549 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:22,880 am that. Bitch that gets. 550 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,040 Everything she wants because she is the dream girl. 551 00:26:26,360 --> 00:26:29,600 Any man that loses me, that's detrimental to them, that's a 552 00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,440 loss for them. And they always realize that 553 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:36,200 down the road, when you start to have that energy and that 554 00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:39,160 outlook on the breakup, that's when they're going to be running 555 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:40,960 after you. That's when they see you in 556 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,200 public and they're going to be like, holy shit, she's doing so 557 00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:45,440 much better than me. I look like a total loser now 558 00:26:45,440 --> 00:26:47,480 because you know, my life isn't together. 559 00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,800 I'm still the same guy. Like I still. 560 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:51,640 You know, not much has changed my life. 561 00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:53,720 But look at this girl. Like ever since we broke up, 562 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,480 she's just doing so much better without me. 563 00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,600 And guess what? That makes them feel like shit. 564 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,520 And they're going to try to come back and be like, you know what? 565 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,960 Like she's changed so much. Like I want to feel energized. 566 00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:07,640 I want to feel. Good like this too. 567 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:09,200 And I. Realized how good I felt. 568 00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:12,000 Being in her energy and it really sucks for me to. 569 00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,480 See that I brought her. Down you have to understand this 570 00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:17,520 isn't just like a manifestation thing, this is like a 571 00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,920 psychological thing. We are always. 572 00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,760 Drawn to people that have confidence, that carry 573 00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:26,320 themselves with grace, that think highly of themselves, that 574 00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:30,680 prioritize themselves and don't put anybody on the pedestal, 575 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,920 fortunately. We are also repelled by people 576 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:37,800 who are people pleasers, who live their lives for others. 577 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:40,480 Who don't prioritize themselves, Who don't think highly of 578 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:42,720 themselves. You have to understand that 579 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,960 you're never going to get the love that you want by being the 580 00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:49,320 victim and feeling bad for yourself for what happened in 581 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:53,160 the past, whatever happened in the past with your exes and all 582 00:27:53,160 --> 00:27:55,440 your past relationships. You have to let that go. 583 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,160 If you are wanting to get married and have a man that 584 00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,840 treats you like a queen, you need. 585 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,680 To choose to believe that. You are only deserving of that 586 00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:05,520 and a man like. That is out there. 587 00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,440 For you and you are going to. Have it because if you. 588 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,840 Carry on the beliefs. Of well, I was always. 589 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,960 Cheated on the past and all the men that were with me, they 590 00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:16,280 didn't want me or they left me for someone else. 591 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:19,520 But I want to have my husband. I want to get married. 592 00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:23,480 But every single man that you go into dating, but in the back of 593 00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:26,480 your mind you're thinking, oh, I don't think it's going to work 594 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:27,560 out. And they're going to be just the 595 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,600 same like every other guy. History is going to repeat 596 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:31,280 itself. I'm really hurt, scared to get 597 00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:35,240 hurt again. You need to let that shit go. 598 00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:38,760 Because at that point that's just self sabotage and I see it 599 00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:41,200 happen a lot where there's. People that self. 600 00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:43,160 Sabotage their relationships all the time. 601 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:47,560 They find the right person, but because of the inner work that 602 00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:51,560 they haven't done or they carry on their past hurts onto these 603 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:55,280 new relationships, these people, it pushes them away. 604 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,200 And then they sit there thinking like where did I go wrong? 605 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,080 Why is my love life never work out for me? 606 00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,440 Because you didn't. Shift the beliefs that you. 607 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:05,480 Originally had when it comes to men and how you. 608 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,720 Believe that relationships work out for you if you if you simply 609 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:11,120 chose to. Believe that you know not all 610 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,960 men are the same, that men have the best intentions for you, 611 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,520 that they treat you with grace and love and respect, that you 612 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:18,320 don't have to worry and that it is OK. 613 00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:19,920 For you to feel safe. Around a man. 614 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,920 And that they will. Stay by your side. 615 00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,440 Then you will have to experience that, but you have to understand 616 00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:30,480 that every single experience that you have had that went, 617 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:34,120 that turned negative look back into your thought pattern and 618 00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:37,080 your beliefs. There's also people that are. 619 00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:39,800 In relationships and then they're constantly anticipating 620 00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:41,720 this person is going to leave them and then they eventually. 621 00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,360 Do leave because you. Created that in your mind first. 622 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:48,160 Things were perfectly fine until you chose to continue to believe 623 00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,040 that they're going to leave you. What makes you think that you're 624 00:29:51,040 --> 00:29:52,920 going to get anything other than that? 625 00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,040 You need to have self-control, and when you are dipping into 626 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,560 that mindset, you need. To also realize that. 627 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,400 You are not your thoughts and that it is. 628 00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:03,320 OK to choose to believe. Something else the way? 629 00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:06,840 To fix this is to. Do nervous system regulation, do 630 00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:10,640 breath work, do EFT tapping, practice self talk and telling 631 00:30:10,640 --> 00:30:12,440 yourself the new. Story like if you. 632 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:15,680 Have been in really traumatic relationships in the past and 633 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:17,800 you're afraid of getting hurt. You need to start telling 634 00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,440 yourself the new story of. Even though I was hurt in the 635 00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,280 past, I am still choosing to believe that there are good men 636 00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:25,040 out there that will treat me with love and. 637 00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:28,120 Respect or if you are. In a situation with your 638 00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:30,800 specific person, even though this person told me that they 639 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,400 never want to be with me and that they lost feelings for me 640 00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:36,480 or that they even found someone else, I'm choosing to believe. 641 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,840 That they still. Love me and that. 642 00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:40,960 They feel a deep. Connection with me that they 643 00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,320 cannot find with anyone else. Because I know how much value I 644 00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:46,800 bring into relationships. I know that I change people's 645 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:48,120 lives for the better, and I know. 646 00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:49,520 That it is hard. To replace me. 647 00:30:49,520 --> 00:30:52,200 I am irreplaceable if. You are able to shift. 648 00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:54,880 The story like that you are going to be manifesting on 649 00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:58,200 autopilot every single time because again, your beliefs. 650 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:01,200 Yourself talk creates. Reality, you have full control 651 00:31:01,200 --> 00:31:04,280 over this and you need to stop falling back and thinking that 652 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:05,480 everything that's happening on the. 653 00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:07,600 Outside has. Control over you. 654 00:31:07,600 --> 00:31:10,000 Because it doesn't. It is all created within the 655 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,600 mind first. You need to also look into the 656 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:14,760 self concept. Of like do I? 657 00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,240 Want to be the version of myself that's constantly feeling bad 658 00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:20,120 for herself, that's feeling like the victim, that's feeling not 659 00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,920 chosen. That feels like men don't love 660 00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:24,520 me. Why you need to? 661 00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,920 Work on your relationship with yourself and also your 662 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:29,160 relationship with men. Start telling yourself I love 663 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:32,440 men, men love me. I always get amazing treatment. 664 00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:34,600 I always manifest the things I want easily. 665 00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,480 Start changing the way that. You talk to yourself. 666 00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,520 And inside my blueprint I. Have this very easy to. 667 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:44,880 Follow out process on how to do this on a day-to-day basis and 668 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,440 how to really shift these old patterns, these old beliefs, and 669 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,560 start calling in new experiences. 670 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:53,520 I adore you. Guys, and I appreciate every 671 00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,440 single one of you that have been here supporting the podcast, 672 00:31:56,440 --> 00:31:59,760 rating it five stars. And if you are interested in 673 00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:03,840 downloading the blueprint, you can use Code Magnetic to receive 674 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,160 40% off. And I almost never have it 675 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:10,360 discounted that much. So you definitely want to not 676 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,120 miss out on this really big promo. 677 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,880 But I just want to summarize really quickly everything that I 678 00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:20,160 talked about in the podcast that is really going to help you 679 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:24,480 transcend and shift a lot of the things that you may be going 680 00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,360 through right now when it comes to your dating life and your 681 00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:30,320 overall self. Concept number one, you want to 682 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:34,240 make sure that you are creating a daily routine for. 683 00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:36,560 Yourself where you are. Feeling really good within 684 00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:39,720 yourself and you are not waiting on anyone to make you feel a 685 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:41,680 certain type of way you are giving yourself. 686 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:44,920 All of the love that you require or search. 687 00:32:44,920 --> 00:32:46,720 For in a partner because when you can give. 688 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:51,080 Yourself that love first. Then you essentially you don't 689 00:32:51,080 --> 00:32:53,960 need anyone to. Fill up your cup, you feel 690 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,480 already fulfilled. And so your partner is just 691 00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:59,840 going to be an additional. Part to your life of. 692 00:32:59,840 --> 00:33:02,160 Bringing in that happiness. You want to create that 693 00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:04,000 happiness and confidence from within. 694 00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,640 You want to make sure that you are not waiting around for 695 00:33:06,640 --> 00:33:10,400 anyone if you are doing anything that you know. 696 00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:12,760 Suggests that you are. Waiting. 697 00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:15,840 Then you're going to keep finding yourself in that waiting 698 00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:17,520 situation. If you're waiting on a text, 699 00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:19,920 waiting on a call, waiting for them to choose you, you're just 700 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,080 going to continue to manifest experiences. 701 00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,960 Where you are. Waiting and you're not seeing 702 00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:26,480 any change, instead what you want to do. 703 00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:30,440 Is tell yourself that you. Are master at manifesting your. 704 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:31,720 Desire. It is so easy. 705 00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,720 For me to manifest my specific person is so easy. 706 00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:38,000 For me to get the things I want, I manifest on autopilot. 707 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:39,400 I don't have to. Work hard to get. 708 00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:44,280 The things that I want #2 Work on shifting your beliefs around 709 00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:48,160 your past dating experiences, your past relationships, or your 710 00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:51,400 specific person. If you have a pattern of always 711 00:33:51,400 --> 00:33:55,080 being hurt, always being left, always being cheated on in your 712 00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:58,560 relationships, you need to. Close that chapter of your. 713 00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:01,240 Life and. Choose to believe, even though 714 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:04,280 that was my past. Experience and relationships I 715 00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:06,200 am choosing now to. Believe that. 716 00:34:06,720 --> 00:34:11,040 Finding a loving person that treats me like a queen, that 717 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:14,960 respects me, that does nice things for me is available for 718 00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:18,000 me and that is the only treatment I receive now from all 719 00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:19,679 the men in my life, if not just one. 720 00:34:19,679 --> 00:34:23,639 You want to get to a point where if someone bread crumbs you or 721 00:34:23,639 --> 00:34:27,639 does things that makes you feel not good about yourself, you get 722 00:34:27,639 --> 00:34:29,480 turned off by it it. Gives you the ick. 723 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:33,480 Like a man not texting you back or not calling you or texting 724 00:34:33,480 --> 00:34:35,400 you every. Few days that gives you the ick 725 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:37,520 like. Why do you think that I'm the 726 00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:39,239 type? Of girl that settles for that. 727 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:42,520 Because babe. Like I'm not that girl, you 728 00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:44,280 know, Go find a girl. That will deal with that. 729 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:46,600 Because I'm not. I'm out here trying to find a 730 00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:50,080 man that's going to treat me like a queen and spoil me. 731 00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,480 And if you can't provide that for me by like, I'm not wasting 732 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,840 my time on you because I. Also have the belief of. 733 00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:59,720 There's an abundance of men out there, you know, even if. 734 00:34:59,720 --> 00:35:01,520 You have a good. Career. 735 00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:04,120 You have money, whatever, but you're not treating me good. 736 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:05,800 I'm not afraid. To walk away because I. 737 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,480 Also know that I can find other successful men, other men with 738 00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,800 money, other men with the. Traits that I I. 739 00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:13,560 Enjoy it within you. I know I can find in someone 740 00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:15,360 else because I'm not going to limit myself. 741 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,160 And here's the thing you have to understand. 742 00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:20,360 Sorry again, I'm kidding. I'm making this podcast long. 743 00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:23,880 Men have an abundance mindset when it comes to women. 744 00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,480 Men believe that there is plenty of fish in the sea. 745 00:35:26,480 --> 00:35:29,480 There is so many girls and if. A girl just has like. 746 00:35:29,480 --> 00:35:32,720 Maybe a few things that he doesn't like, he's on to the 747 00:35:32,720 --> 00:35:34,880 next one because he's not wasting his time. 748 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:36,240 He's going to find his dream girl. 749 00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,720 You need to start seeing your dating life the same way like a 750 00:35:39,720 --> 00:35:42,360 lot of women we tend to. Just like accept and forgive. 751 00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,320 You know a few times you screwed up, but you know, I really. 752 00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:47,120 Like these other qualities about you so I'm. 753 00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:50,200 Just going to stay with you and hope that you never do it again. 754 00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,600 No, because also if you show a man that when he disrespects 755 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,120 you, you're going to stay, he's going to continue to. 756 00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,240 Do it. You have to. 757 00:35:57,240 --> 00:35:59,760 Show a man that you are not afraid to walk away and that is 758 00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:02,360 what triggers him to change. That is what triggers him to be 759 00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,680 the man that you want him to be. So make sure you keep that in 760 00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:06,320 mind. If you are manifesting a 761 00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,640 specific person, you need to go back and change. 762 00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:11,800 And rewrite the old. Stories, for example, if they 763 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:12,760 told you that they don't want to be. 764 00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:16,160 With you or they broke up with you, whatever the story is. 765 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:20,360 You need to go back and focus on the good and rewrite that. 766 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:22,080 You can also. Rewrite it of like. 767 00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:24,040 Even though. They said all these. 768 00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,480 Things I know that deep down they don't mean it, and I know 769 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:27,720 that they're going to change their mind. 770 00:36:27,720 --> 00:36:31,600 I know people can change because that way you're not placing all 771 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:35,080 this importance and significance on what they said one time. 772 00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,240 It makes you have the. Belief that you are. 773 00:36:38,240 --> 00:36:41,840 Open to receive a different outcome from this that it's not 774 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:46,040 just stuck in this one way of what happened who knows how long 775 00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:48,960 ago and the way that. You do this is by. 776 00:36:49,200 --> 00:36:52,520 Telling yourself. A new positive story start. 777 00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:54,520 Speaking to. Yourself as if you already. 778 00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:57,000 Have the things that you want in your life start speaking to 779 00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:00,360 yourself like you have this man in your life and that you're so 780 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:03,360 happy and just talking about the dream life. 781 00:37:03,360 --> 00:37:05,200 Already. Because that's really what. 782 00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,960 Closes the gap from where you are right now to having the 783 00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,520 thing that you want. You have nothing to lose. 784 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:16,280 There is no reason to reminisce on the past and things that are 785 00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:19,240 hurting you from the past. You need to understand that's 786 00:37:19,240 --> 00:37:21,680 not serving you in any way. And when you continue to do 787 00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:25,600 that, it's just going to continue to prolong this entire. 788 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:29,120 Process today's episode. Went a little longer than. 789 00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:33,360 Usual, but I really hope that today's episode gave you. 790 00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:37,760 Some more insight on certain things and different 791 00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,880 perspectives as. Always please feel free to. 792 00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:44,120 Send me Adm on Instagram at live Marima and tell me what? 793 00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:47,920 You thought of today's episode. Or if you have any suggestions 794 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:49,280 for future. Episodes. 795 00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:52,280 I'd really love that. And if you haven't already. 796 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,840 Please rate the podcast 5. Stars, it means so much to me. 797 00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:58,960 Again, thank you so much for listening and I will see you 798 00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:00,400 guys in the next episode.