Hello, my loves, and welcome to the podcast episode of Busy
Glowing Up. I'm your host, Liv Marima, and
it feels so good to be back. I had to pick up my phone and
just start recording. Don't even have any equipment or
anything like that today. Just straight up opened my voice
memos app. And I just had to share this
with you guys today because it is something that I have also
been working on and implementing myself.
And that is your confidence comes through discipline, your
consistency and your daily resume of what you have
accomplished and things that you are doing on a day-to-day basis.
That is implying that you are embodied your highest self.
You are doing the things that the dream version of you would
be doing. Whenever you are in a place
where you're feeling not good enough, you're questioning
yourself. You're not feeling confident,
you're insecure. It means that there's a part of
you that you're not fully proud of who you are.
And then that manifests in a way where you are looking for
validation through other people. You're looking for other people
to tell you how amazing you are, of what a great job you're
doing, for them to acknowledge what you are doing, how amazing
you are in all these things. And when you just start to do
what your highest self would be doing, you are out working every
single person around you. You have developed this in
mindset, this level of discipline that most people
lack. That's when you start to develop
that confidence within yourself because you start to see
yourself as that top 1% person. That's where confidence comes
from. And you know, anyone that
disagrees with that, that's listening right now saying like,
oh, you know, like that's kind of egotistic.
This podcast is all about self concept and seeing yourself as
the version of you that you're obsessed with, OK?
Seeing yourself as the best because it's your life, you
know? If you don't love yourself, why,
how, how is anyone else going to love you?
If you don't think you're amazing, how is anyone else
going to think you're amazing, right?
Everything I talk about is the way that you perceive yourself
is how other people perceive you.
So in order for you to fully thrive in life and develop that
level of confidence, you yourself talk needs to be
strong. You need to see yourself as that
girl. You need to see yourself as
successful. You need to be confident in your
body. You need to be confident about
your health and really embodied within yourself that when you
think about yourself and how other people perceive you, it's
automatically really positive. That is just like an obvious of
like when people see you and what you are doing and they're
just like, holy shit. Like I want to be like her.
It all starts with you and it's always going to start with you.
Whatever it is that you want to accomplish in life, it all
starts by turning inward and doing the personal development
work. You know, and if you feel like
you've been on a lifelong journey doing the personal
development and still you feel like things haven't unfolded for
you, I guarantee there is still some sort of block, some limited
belief that is holding you back. And you know, it's crazy because
sometimes you can have like really, really great beliefs in
one area of your life and then, you know, unconsciously, maybe
it's something even rooted in your childhood that you don't
even know is potentially holding you back.
Like, for example, let's say you want to build a business, you
want to be successful, and that's all you've ever wanted is
you wanted to break that generational curse in your
family and you want to live a life of abundance where there is
no limit. You can buy anything you want,
you can travel whatever you want.
You have all the freedom in the world, right?
And you've been working really hard for years to get yourself
to that place. Maybe you already started that
business, but it's not taking off as fast as you want it to.
You feel like it's a really hard trying process, right?
If you have been doing the personal development work,
right? Like you're doing all the
meditations, you're doing all the breathing exercises, you're
doing everything that you're hearing in these personal
development podcasts and in these coaching programs and
stuff like that. But The thing is, you can be
doing that every single day. But if you're not targeting the
the limiting beliefs, you're still going to find yourself
stuck in that situation because your beliefs create your
reality. You can be meditating all day
long, but if deep down in your subconscious mind you believe
that success is really hard to come by, that it's hard for you
to make money through your passion, your reality is going
to continue. No matter how much you do the
personal development work, you're going to continue to
experience this reality where it is hard, where it feels like it
takes so long that you have to really struggle with it.
And I'm not saying that like being where you want to be in
life doesn't take hard work. I think it always like takes
hard work, but it shouldn't, you shouldn't have to try so hard to
the point that it takes years and years for things to kick off
because there's some people that it, things just manifest so fast
for them. Things just unfold like
effortlessly and you just look at them and they're just like,
why? Like how, how do they do that?
It's not that they're different. It's not that they're more
special than you. We all have the same brains, the
same exact brains that God has given us.
We were all born out the same stuff.
It's just everyone's is wired and programmed differently.
And that's why some people when they go after the things they
want in life, it go it comes really easily because their self
concept, they believe that it gets to be easy.
They don't they don't subscribe to the story of struggle.
And this is what I'm constantly teaching you guys is that you
don't have to subscribe to any limiting beliefs.
Like life is a game of what you believe and what you believe is
exactly what you'll experience. Same thing goes with love and
relationships. If you believe that love is
really hard to come by or that there's no good men out there or
even the amount of coaches that are like all men cheat and you
just got to get what the program and that's just what it's like.
It's just like if you're subscribing to that and that's
going to be a reality, like, sorry, you can go think whatever
you want about men or money. That's your struggle boss.
I'm not going to subscribe to that.
Life's too short to be living your life in a way where you are
constantly limiting, limiting yourself.
There is no limit except for the one that you put on yourself.
The way that you build up that confidence and you actually
embody your highest self and start to become her is the 1%
rule every single day, 1% a day. Each day you're getting better
and better. A compounding effect.
The game of life is built on discipline and consistency.
That's it. When you can train your mind and
learn how to steer the ship to the point that you tell your
brain how things are going to go.
Your brain doesn't rule you. You don't subscribe to lack
limiting beliefs, fears, doubts. You have programmed your brain
for success. That's when it's going to become
inevitable for you. That 1% a day requires
discipline. That's going to the gym.
Going to the gym is so important.
And you know, if you're someone that doesn't like to work out, I
totally get that. But some sort of physical
activity every single day for one hour.
It's not even about getting your dream body or being healthy.
It's actually a huge way of creating discipline, right?
If you can't get your health or like that exercise in every
single day, first of all, it regulates your nervous system,
right? Like, yes, meditating and doing
breath work is a really great way of regulating your nervous
system, but sometimes it's not fun.
When you train yourself to do the things you hate most and you
start doing it like you love it. Oh my God, that's when you build
that confidence. That's when you become that
girl. Because most people in this
world lack discipline. That's just the truth.
Most people, they, they want to be cozy in bed at 5:00 AM in the
morning. They don't want to get out of
bed. And I'm not trying to turn this
into a podcast of like, in order to be successful, you have to
wake up at 5:00 in the morning and do like 20 cartwheels and
backflips and all that stuff. No, but it's about doing things
that most people aren't willing to do.
That's how you build that confidence.
Most people are not willing to get up and go to the gym before
work or before they start their day.
Most people aren't willing to do the things that make them
uncomfortable. Most people aren't willing to
push themselves. When you start pushing yourself
and doing it, you're doing it for you.
That's when everything's going to turn around.
So for all my girlies that listen to me because listen to
my podcast because I talk about loving relationships, today's a
little different. This is like really going in on
just like yourself and you know, when you just start to focus
more on like your personal development and succeeding in
life in general, the love just comes.
It comes because you're coming from a place of abundance.
Your cup is filled. You're not trying to put the
pieces together of like, why is he like me or what should I do
to make him like me? More like you're, you're not
even in that mindset anymore because you don't give a fuck
what he thinks. It's either he, it's either he
like gets on board with you or you just simply outgrow him
because you're just like, no, my dream man.
He's going to be very ambitious. He's going to treat me like a
queen. He's going to be consistent as
fuck. And if he can't do that for me,
then I'm just going to continue to level up and playing the game
of leveling up. The more and more you level up
and evolve as a person, the more and more you're going to just
start to attract more and more opportunities that align with
like the future version of yourself that's doing really big
things. Another thing that makes you
lose confidence in yourself is breaking your own promises.
If you can't keep a promise to yourself in a way that is self
sabotaging yourself, because if you can't trust yourself, how
can you trust anything else around you?
Your word is everything. So when you tell yourself, oh,
I'm going to start going to the gym every day, oh, I'm going to,
I'm going to start that business I've been wanting to do, or I'm
going to do the 10K steps every single day.
And you do it for a few days and then you stop, you're breaking
that promise to yourself. So if you can't even do those
little things, how can you promise yourself that you're
going to create a life that you are so proud of?
How are you going to create a life where you are living your
dream? It all starts with that 1%.
And when you can master those little things, start doing the
things that you hate doing most and start doing it like you love
it. Doing the hard things, doing the
things that are really, really big, they're going to come to
you a lot naturally. This is something you got to
train for. You can do all the mindset work
in the world, but if you, if you're not following through
with action that it's just it's never going to stick because
that's we live in a world where you can manifest anything that
you want, but the this 3 dimensional world requires
action for things to materialize.
We need to actually take action on it, being consistent and
having that self-discipline to do the things that you don't
even want to do every day, but you still, you do it regardless
because you tell your brain, no, we're doing this.
Even when your brain is saying I don't want to do this, you are
going to push your brain and say no, I'm in control.
We're going to do this. We're going to post that post
and we're going to do it every single day.
Regardless of what results I'm getting, I'm going to continue
to show up every single day. If you're trying to start that
business, going to the gym, I'm going to get out of bed.
Even if I want to sleep in really bad and I want to be cozy
in my bed, I'm going to get out of bed and work out in the
morning. Because you know it's one thing
to work out like later in the day but trust me as someone that
prefers working out at night and I hate waking up in the morning.
I hate it so much. I love to sleep in.
Sleeping in is my favorite thing ever.
When I started forcing myself to get out of bed early in the
morning, even though I, I have the freedom to sleep in till
whenever I want, I still force myself to get out of bed and go
to the gym. And it just like after that
workout it, it just feels so uplifting.
It feels like a reward because on that daily resume, you should
be creating a daily resume of the things that you have done
today that you are proud of that you can go to sleep being like,
wow, I'm so proud of myself for accomplishing these things.
You know, sometimes when we're trying to create our dream life
and build up this new self concept, we get so into the
future of like, this is who I want to be.
This is what I want to be doing. But then it puts us into a
place, a lot of times subconsciously where we just
start procrastinating and we're like, oh, I really want this.
And I'm going to do like a meditation here and there.
And you know, it's so easy for you to lose that momentum and
lose that consistency, and then you break your promise.
And then suddenly that dream of like where you want to be,
you're not showing up as that version every day.
So your confidence of actually embodying that version and
getting what it is you want, it's not strong enough because
you're not keeping your promise to yourself.
That's why the discipline and consistency is so important.
When you gain control over that, it's just going to completely
rewire your mindset. That's it, you guys.
Today's episode is a little short.
I'm really sorry about the audio quality.
It's really bad, but I just had to start recording and get this
out. And remember, focus on doing the
things that you are procrastinating on most, the
things that you know you need to be doing and showing up every
day in your life and focusing on that 1% of getting 1% better
every single day and never breaking your word.
Never break the promises that you have to yourself.
Prove to yourself that when you say you're going to do
something, you do it. Thank you so much for listening
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