1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,640 Hello my loves, and welcome to another podcast episode of Busy 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:06,720 Glowing Up. I'm your host, Liv Marima, and 3 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:10,000 today we are going to be diving into some tough love. 4 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:14,680 If you feel like you've been stuck in a rut, that you feel 5 00:00:14,680 --> 00:00:20,480 like you have lost yourself, that you have felt stagnant in 6 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:24,920 your energy, that you kind of forgot, like what it is that you 7 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:27,600 are going after in life, what is your purpose? 8 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:31,280 What is it that you really want? What is it that makes you feel 9 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:33,480 fulfilled? If you feel like you have kind 10 00:00:33,480 --> 00:00:38,720 of lost touch with yourself and that you know, life has just 11 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:42,000 kind of felt stagnant lately, this episode's for you. 12 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:47,760 So what inspired me to make this episode is as a mindset and 13 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:51,280 dating coach, I work with people every single day who want to 14 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:56,080 call in love, who are ready to find the man of their dreams, 15 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:59,440 who are ready to live the love life that they have always 16 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:02,360 dreamed of. But a lot of the people that 17 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:06,560 come into my world is what I notice is that it's this one 18 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:12,080 thing they are waiting for, that person, that man, that 19 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:16,680 opportunity, that love to come in so that they can feel whole 20 00:01:16,680 --> 00:01:21,040 and fulfilled from within. And I felt called to make this 21 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,480 episode because I think this is something that everyone 22 00:01:23,480 --> 00:01:26,080 struggles with at one point in their life. 23 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:30,520 We find ourselves trying to seek validation from others that we 24 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:36,120 are looking more into our external world of trying to be 25 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:40,160 saved, to feel complete. And the truth is, is that nobody 26 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:43,920 can save you but yourself. You can have all the support in 27 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:49,400 the world, you can have friends, family, partners, everyone in 28 00:01:49,400 --> 00:01:54,520 your life supporting you and helping you to become the person 29 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:58,520 that you want to be. But if you are constantly 30 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:03,400 relying on others to guide you and make you feel complete you, 31 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:06,600 you will just never feel whole and fulfilled from within. 32 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:10,479 Everything you do in life needs to be for you. 33 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:15,200 And as a society, especially as women, we are raised to think 34 00:02:15,200 --> 00:02:18,160 that that's selfish. It's selfish to focus on 35 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:22,040 ourselves, that we need to worry about others and prioritize 36 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:23,680 others and put others before ourselves. 37 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:28,280 But that is actually how you go into people pleasing and it's 38 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:31,040 self sabotaging and it's actually repelling to other 39 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:34,560 people. We think that by doing all these 40 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:37,720 things to make other people happy and like overextending 41 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:41,360 ourselves to the point that we are pouring into others from an 42 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:45,400 empty, that does not benefit you and it does not benefit other 43 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:47,880 people. It actually builds resentment 44 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:52,240 because no matter what you do, if you are doing stuff from an 45 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:55,320 empty cup, it's not going to feel fulfilling for whoever is 46 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:59,280 receiving it. I want you to start focusing on, 47 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:03,760 okay, how can I start filling up my cup and from there I can pour 48 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:05,960 into others. When you're constantly in your 49 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,440 head, you just cannot experience reality. 50 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,880 You cannot experience the people in your life, the the 51 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,560 opportunities of whatever things you got going on in your life 52 00:03:15,560 --> 00:03:17,800 that are really great for you. If you were stuck in your head, 53 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:21,760 if you were in the negative headspace, no matter what, 54 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:25,200 you're just not going to be able to fully feel fulfilled. 55 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:28,920 And that's why we see like some people, they have it all in 56 00:03:28,920 --> 00:03:31,240 life. They have the money, they have 57 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:33,800 absolutely everything. You look at their life and 58 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:35,360 you're like, wow, they're living my dream life. 59 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:36,800 And you see that they're still miserable. 60 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,320 They're not happy, they're not fulfilled. 61 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:41,560 Why? Because what matters most is how 62 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:43,120 you feel on the inside. Okay? 63 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:46,680 You can be living in a mansion and still feel like you're not 64 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:50,600 at home where you don't feel good because it's not about 65 00:03:50,600 --> 00:03:53,680 where you are. It's really like the home that 66 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:56,360 you make within your mind, your headspace. 67 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:58,760 And that's really where nervous system regulation comes. 68 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:01,120 And you guys know I'm always talking about nervous system 69 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:04,280 regulation, right? Like, and I feel like a lot of 70 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:07,000 people overlook that. I know when I first started 71 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,440 doing this work and practicing it, regulating my nervous 72 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:13,600 system, I overlooked it. I'm like, I don't need to 73 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:15,640 regulate my nervous system. I'm not anxious. 74 00:04:16,399 --> 00:04:18,120 That's just unnecessary. It's kind of silly. 75 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:20,920 Like I used to think that I was just too good for that. 76 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:25,880 Like my ego got in the way and you know, trust me, just fucking 77 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:27,320 do it. Do the nervous system 78 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:29,040 regulation. So when I say nervous system 79 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:30,640 regulation, what does that really mean? 80 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:34,440 That can be going for a walk, going to the gym, regulating 81 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,880 your nervous system is disconnecting from the mind and 82 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,640 going into your body. And when you can do that, that's 83 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:42,960 when you start to feel really good. 84 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:46,040 You start to completely like take yourself out of that fight 85 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:48,640 or flight mode. It's just completely shifts your 86 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:51,840 energetic field. And that's when you will start 87 00:04:51,840 --> 00:04:54,920 to receive downloads. OK, the reason I'm making this 88 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,560 episode to begin with is because I went to the gym. 89 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,360 I was feeling really stressed out that day. 90 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,720 I took myself to the gym and that whole workout session it 91 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:05,760 was like, I don't even go to the gym to workout. 92 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,920 Like obviously I love having like being healthy and like 93 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:13,480 working on my physique, but I I go to the gym for my own 94 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:18,640 well-being with within my mind. Like I'm someone that can get 95 00:05:18,640 --> 00:05:24,400 like easily anxious and stressed out because I just, I tend to 96 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:28,200 like just overthink stuff. And you know, this is something 97 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:31,840 that a lot of people experience right at this point, a lot of my 98 00:05:31,840 --> 00:05:34,320 workouts, like I set the intention that this is like my 99 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:37,440 time to receive downloads. These are my conversations with 100 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,720 God. And the truth is you are able to 101 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:44,720 receive these downloads when your nervous system is 102 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:48,200 regulated. So a lot of clients that I work 103 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,840 with when we start doing the nervous system regulation work, 104 00:05:51,080 --> 00:05:53,760 they always like ask me like, OK, why are we, why are we like 105 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:55,640 doing this now? Like, why are we starting off 106 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:58,560 with the basics of just like doing some nervous system 107 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:02,120 regulation, right? The reason why is because you're 108 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:05,280 going to start to perceive reality differently. 109 00:06:05,280 --> 00:06:09,200 Like when you are triggered, when you are stressed out, you 110 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:12,120 start to look at reality in a distorted way. 111 00:06:12,480 --> 00:06:15,960 And it's in a way where you are constantly trying to find the 112 00:06:15,960 --> 00:06:18,880 problem in something when there isn't even a problem sometimes. 113 00:06:18,880 --> 00:06:24,520 But your mind is like so wired to focus on something wrong, 114 00:06:24,520 --> 00:06:26,920 like it can't rest right. That's the fight or flight mode 115 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:28,840 of like, OK, we're, we're really triggered right now. 116 00:06:28,840 --> 00:06:30,240 Where is the problem coming from? 117 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:31,800 Let's let's try to find a problem. 118 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,680 And you find yourself investing so much time into worrying about 119 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:39,360 stuff that has no reason to stress you out. 120 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,280 We are all connected to infinite intelligence. 121 00:06:43,280 --> 00:06:45,960 Now, when I say infinite intelligence, that's when you 122 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:49,840 have like those epiphanies where, you know, sometimes you 123 00:06:49,840 --> 00:06:52,000 ask yourself, OK, like where are my keys? 124 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:55,880 And then you just start to somehow the keys just appear 125 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,120 like you get the idea of, oh, here the keys. 126 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,920 I, I'm going to go look there. And there they are, right? 127 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,800 Like that's you having a conversation with God, Like 128 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:06,600 infinite intelligence. This is something that we have 129 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,360 access to. We can all download any 130 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,120 information that we want and receive it. 131 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:16,120 In order to receive that information, you have to be in a 132 00:07:16,120 --> 00:07:18,840 place where your nervous system is regulated. 133 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:22,400 You are receptive to those ideas. 134 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,000 If you are actually triggered, like you can't focus on 135 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:27,600 anything. You can't receive, you can't 136 00:07:27,600 --> 00:07:32,600 download anything because you are just so focused on your 137 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,040 distorted reality that you are creating for yourself that you 138 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:36,480 can't have those conversations with God. 139 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:37,880 You can't receive those downloads. 140 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:41,080 You can't get that clarity on whatever problem or situation 141 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,640 you are going through. Now, I'm not trying to make this 142 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:48,960 a little woo woo, but you know, we do talk about manifestation a 143 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:53,120 lot on this podcast as well. But if you ever feel like you 144 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:57,720 are stuck and you need the answer to something and this is 145 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:01,840 just something that you want guidance with, leave it to the 146 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:03,960 higher power, ask infinite intelligence. 147 00:08:03,960 --> 00:08:06,280 And this is something I practice myself. 148 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:10,280 I would get into like a meditative place, like, you 149 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:14,840 know, right before bed and just kind of close my eyes and 150 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:19,400 obviously make sure that I'm like feeling calm and like, you 151 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:21,400 know, not anything like running through my mind. 152 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,080 And then I asked infinite intelligence to like, give me 153 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:28,440 the answer, like show me how to fix this problem or like guide 154 00:08:28,440 --> 00:08:32,159 me or whatever it is that you are looking for clarity on. 155 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:37,280 Maybe you're going through a difficult time in your 156 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:40,200 relationship or something like meditate and ask Infinite 157 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:42,320 Intelligence, Infant Intelligence. 158 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:45,320 Guide me on how I can handle this situation. 159 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:50,240 How can I show up for myself and my partner and make the best out 160 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:53,400 of this situation? How can I bring us closer 161 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:57,600 together and also make my partner feel appreciated and 162 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:00,560 understood? Maybe you do a lot of problem 163 00:09:00,560 --> 00:09:04,920 solving for work and mind you, this is something that I didn't 164 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,160 personally come up with asking infinite intelligence. 165 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:10,800 I believe it's something that I actually found in Think and Grow 166 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:13,280 Rich by Napoleon Hill. He talks a lot about the 167 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:16,760 subconscious mind and I think somewhere in the book he 168 00:09:16,760 --> 00:09:19,680 mentioned where there was a scientist that was trying to 169 00:09:19,680 --> 00:09:22,240 find an answer. He spent years and years trying 170 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:26,320 to solve this equation or something that he was working 171 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:27,560 on. I can't remember. 172 00:09:27,560 --> 00:09:32,200 I read this book like years ago, but I do remember this story 173 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:33,840 because I still use it to this day. 174 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:37,400 And before bed for a few nights he would ask infinite 175 00:09:37,400 --> 00:09:41,440 intelligence like show me how I can solve this situation. 176 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:46,920 Show me how, show me the answer. And lo and behold, within like a 177 00:09:46,920 --> 00:09:50,400 few weeks, he actually found what he was looking for in a 178 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:52,120 dream. And this was something like he 179 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:56,120 spent years trying to figure out through the logical mind and 180 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:58,360 turns out like it actually showed up through the 181 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:00,640 subconscious, that your subconscious creates your 182 00:10:00,640 --> 00:10:02,120 reality. Your subconscious mind is so 183 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,880 powerful. So that's what I mean by when 184 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:08,120 you are like deep into like fight or flight mode, you're 185 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:12,480 trying to like approach things from like the logical point and 186 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:15,440 you're extremely triggered and you're just trying to force an 187 00:10:15,440 --> 00:10:17,600 outcome. It's not going to work out. 188 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:21,800 You're better off just taking a step back, collecting yourself, 189 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:25,040 getting yourself to a place where you feel good, OK, like do 190 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:30,360 like an energetic reset. And then from there, approach it 191 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:34,880 from the way where you surrender it and just leave it to like the 192 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:37,760 higher power to guide you and it's going to give you the 193 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:40,880 download. You will see that this works 194 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:44,480 every single time. And this is just a gift. 195 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:49,120 Like us humans, like we are the only species on the planet that 196 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:53,200 is gifted with this ability to be like create, to have this 197 00:10:53,200 --> 00:10:57,760 level of consciousness. We are all able to access these 198 00:10:57,760 --> 00:10:59,600 types of downloads and information. 199 00:11:00,040 --> 00:11:03,800 So back to what I was saying is that I was at the gym and I was 200 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:07,320 receiving the downloads of OK, I need to make a podcast talking 201 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:10,640 about nobody can save you but yourself. 202 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:13,000 Now what does this actually mean? 203 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:18,160 No person, no place, no thing can make you feel better about 204 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:21,840 yourself. Only you can make yourself feel 205 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:25,400 better about you. Sometimes in life we forget to 206 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,760 have our own back. Especially when you are someone 207 00:11:28,760 --> 00:11:31,960 that has so many loving people in your life. 208 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:35,480 You have a great support system and you're always relying off 209 00:11:35,480 --> 00:11:38,840 the support system. Like on your down days, you have 210 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:40,520 the support system to come to you. 211 00:11:40,920 --> 00:11:46,520 And you know, sometimes over time we just start to like lose 212 00:11:46,520 --> 00:11:48,480 ourselves. We start to just forget who we 213 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,920 are. We kind of go through like this 214 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:54,400 rebranding phase in our life. But if a day comes where that 215 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:58,520 support system isn't there for you or that support system is 216 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:02,880 lost, then you essentially lose yourself because you completely 217 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:05,320 forgot how to self soothe yourself. 218 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:06,720 You forgot how to show up for yourself. 219 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,120 You forgot how to make yourself happy and show up. 220 00:12:09,120 --> 00:12:13,200 For you, the most important relationship that you are going 221 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:16,920 to have throughout your life is the relationship that you have 222 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:21,120 with yourself. I repeat, the most important 223 00:12:21,120 --> 00:12:23,680 relationship that you will ever have in your life is the 224 00:12:23,680 --> 00:12:25,880 relationship you have with yourself. 225 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:31,840 And the reason being is that everyone is just a reflection of 226 00:12:31,840 --> 00:12:34,160 you, OK? If you're not taking care of 227 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:37,680 yourself, if you're not loving yourself, you're not filling up 228 00:12:37,680 --> 00:12:43,080 your own cup, whatever relationship or like situation 229 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:47,600 that you're in is just never going to feel fulfilled, OK? 230 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:50,640 The reason you're feeling that disconnect is because you're 231 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:54,600 disconnected from yourself, OK? Whenever you feel disconnected 232 00:12:55,040 --> 00:12:59,000 from the people around you, the world around you, OK, check in 233 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:00,920 with yourself. Do you feel disconnected with 234 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,480 yourself? Have you been showing up for 235 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:04,800 yourself? Have you been loving yourself? 236 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:06,600 Have you been prioritizing yourself? 237 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:11,120 That is the most important thing because when you are falling in 238 00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:15,160 love, when in with yourself and you are just someone that is 239 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:20,720 naturally filled with joy, you are just such a happy overall 240 00:13:20,720 --> 00:13:23,040 person. People around you are going to 241 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:25,840 reflect that energy to you. Now, you're not going to be 242 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:27,560 happy every single day, OK? There's going to be days where 243 00:13:27,560 --> 00:13:30,000 you're not feeling your best, and that's totally fine, right? 244 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:34,960 But the problem starts to happen is when you start overly relying 245 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:38,520 on the things outside of you to bring you joy. 246 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:41,920 Like that's really dangerous because then when the things 247 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:44,680 outside of you, suddenly they're not bringing you joy. 248 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:47,800 Suddenly things feel shaky. Then you feel like your life is 249 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:49,800 crumbling apart. You feel like you have 250 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:54,720 completely lost control. Whenever you feel like things 251 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:58,120 are stagnant, you feel stuck. You don't know what to do. 252 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:03,360 It's important for you to remind yourself that you don't have to 253 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:07,520 continue to be in this identity. You can decide tomorrow or 254 00:14:07,520 --> 00:14:08,960 today. You can literally decide today 255 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:10,840 that you were going to be a completely different person. 256 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:14,800 And it is just insane. Like that's honestly what I call 257 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:16,680 quantum jump. Because your identity is 258 00:14:16,680 --> 00:14:19,560 everything, right? Like when you are showing up as 259 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:22,120 a certain version of yourself, you are grounded in that 260 00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:24,760 identity. And you tell yourself, I am now 261 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:26,880 a person that shows up like this, this, and this. 262 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:28,400 I'm perceived like this, this, and this. 263 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:31,840 You're going to start to develop those mannerisms. 264 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:33,680 You're going to start to interact differently. 265 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:35,920 People are going to start to feel differently about you. 266 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:36,960 They're going to see you differently. 267 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,040 This is what I teach. This is what I teach in all of 268 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:40,720 my programs. This is the foundation, right 269 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:44,320 self concept work. When you're at your lowest, it's 270 00:14:44,320 --> 00:14:46,800 important for you to fall back in love with yourself. 271 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:48,680 OK, There's going to be times in your life where you don't feel 272 00:14:48,680 --> 00:14:51,080 good about yourself, you don't love yourself, you don't 273 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:52,440 recognize yourself and that's OK. 274 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,600 That's a part of life, OK? There's going to be times where 275 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:58,560 we lose ourselves. And you know the most beautiful 276 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:01,400 thing about that is like to view it as an opportunity to find 277 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:04,000 yourself again, to build yourself back up again, to 278 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,840 embody a new version of yourself, the highest version of 279 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:09,120 yourself. You also know how to forgive 280 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:11,160 yourself. Some people get stuck on that. 281 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:15,800 You know, you cannot embody a new identity and show up as this 282 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:18,760 new version of yourself. If you're still tied down and 283 00:15:18,920 --> 00:15:21,440 identifying as the old version of yourself and you haven't let 284 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,640 the past go, forgive yourself. Let the past go. 285 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:28,960 Don't guilt trip yourself, okay? Like guilt is such a low 286 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:31,160 vibration. I always tell my clients, like, 287 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,280 when when they're angry, they're frustrated with something. 288 00:15:33,280 --> 00:15:35,560 Like that's OK. Like you can transview anger. 289 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:37,680 OK. If you are angry, you can use 290 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:41,680 that anger to transmute it into something positive where you are 291 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:44,320 so angry that you're like, I'm going to become the best version 292 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:46,160 of myself. I'm going to go after my dreams. 293 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:48,400 I'm going to finally do the things that I've been putting 294 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:52,040 off and start going after it. I'm going to accomplish all the 295 00:15:52,040 --> 00:15:55,520 things, even use it as like, I'm going to prove everyone wrong. 296 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:58,720 Like I'm so angry that, you know, things have went this way. 297 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:00,360 I'm going to transmute that energy, OK? 298 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:04,000 You can create a lot from anger. And like, I'm speaking from 299 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:05,600 experience, right? Like there's been times in my 300 00:16:05,600 --> 00:16:07,040 life where I was just so frustrated. 301 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:08,280 I was so angry. I'm like, you know what? 302 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,680 Fuck this. I'm going to go after everything 303 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,400 that I've been putting off. I'm going to show up as my best 304 00:16:13,400 --> 00:16:15,000 self. I'm not waiting around on 305 00:16:15,000 --> 00:16:17,000 anyone. I'm just going to do it. 306 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:19,880 I'm going to become the version myself coming from a place of 307 00:16:19,880 --> 00:16:21,480 anger. That's totally fine. 308 00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:24,920 Because once that anger, you know, is transmuted, you're 309 00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:27,880 going to feel inspired. That's where like that great. 310 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:30,720 That's how you build that obsession in a good way. 311 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:33,080 You know, like when you are building, you are creating. 312 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:34,400 Like maybe you want to start a business. 313 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:40,400 Maybe you want to, you know, go after things in your career. 314 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:44,560 You want a promotion, you want to level up spiritually, 315 00:16:44,560 --> 00:16:48,800 whatever it is like use that anger, even if you've been hurt 316 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:53,280 by someone to like maybe you've been feeling really hurt by 317 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:57,840 someone in your life and you're just so angry with how they've 318 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:00,640 been showing up and treating you and you you know that you don't 319 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:02,160 deserve that and you're so mad at them. 320 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,480 Don't go wasting your energy on that person. 321 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:08,040 You know, use that anger to transmute of like, that's it. 322 00:17:08,599 --> 00:17:10,079 I'm not waiting around on anyone. 323 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:13,640 I am not waiting on anyone to make me feel better about 324 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:15,800 myself. I don't need you to make me feel 325 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:18,200 better about myself. I'm not waiting on anyone to 326 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:20,119 save me anymore. I don't need to be saved. 327 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:24,800 I don't need a rescuer. I'm going to pick myself up from 328 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:27,640 this and I'm going to come out 10 times better. 329 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:30,280 And all the people in my life that have doubted me, that have 330 00:17:30,280 --> 00:17:33,560 hurt me, they're going to see me at my best. 331 00:17:34,520 --> 00:17:38,160 And that old version of me that they disrespected, that they 332 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:40,200 walked all over, that versions gone. 333 00:17:40,360 --> 00:17:43,040 She's not coming back. That's over. 334 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:48,080 I'm going to be in the version that they regret hurting, that 335 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:49,840 they regret doing all those things. 336 00:17:49,840 --> 00:17:53,960 And you know, that's the type of energy that we want to transmute 337 00:17:53,960 --> 00:17:56,680 When you are feeling like shame and guilt of like, oh, I made 338 00:17:56,680 --> 00:17:59,760 this mistake and I just feel like shit that I did this and I 339 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:03,080 shouldn't have done this. Like guilt is not going to do 340 00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:06,560 anything. Guilt is such a useless emotion. 341 00:18:06,760 --> 00:18:08,920 And if you were something that like experienced a lot of guilt 342 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:16,160 and shame, EFT tapping, go on YouTube and type in EFT tapping 343 00:18:16,160 --> 00:18:18,320 for guilt and shame and just do a round of that. 344 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:19,560 You're going to feel so much better. 345 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:23,280 You're just going to feel like the weight got lifted off your 346 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:25,200 shoulders and that's going to be something that you might have to 347 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:27,240 do like for a few days, right? If you've been someone that's 348 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:31,400 been carrying so much guilt and shame for like your whole life, 349 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:34,440 one session is not going to like, it's not going to cut it 350 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:34,920 for you. OK. 351 00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:37,720 This is something that you're going to have to like, uh, adapt 352 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:40,840 into like your, uh, daily mindset routine. 353 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:43,640 And again, this is another form of nervous system regulation. 354 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,320 Like for the clients that like work one-on-one with me, like 355 00:18:46,720 --> 00:18:50,560 you guys know, like I teach a lot of different ways of like 356 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:53,640 regulating your nervous system. But again, EFT tapping is a 357 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:55,960 really powerful one. But going back to what I was 358 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:59,040 saying, you feeling guilt and shame, it's not benefiting you. 359 00:18:59,040 --> 00:19:00,840 It's going to continue to make you feel stuck. 360 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:06,400 It's going to make you feel like it's just the worst energetic 361 00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:10,480 field that you can be in. Because when you feel like the 362 00:19:10,480 --> 00:19:13,640 energy, the emotion that you're feeling like it leaks through 363 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:16,400 the way that you carry yourself. If you're someone that's feeling 364 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:20,160 like guilty or not even guilt. Because a lot of times like we 365 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:23,400 carry guilt over like stupid things that we shouldn't be 366 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,920 feeling bad for, but we feel like we're the worst person in 367 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:28,400 the world. And then it's like the replaying 368 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:32,680 things in your mind, the stories like, right, maybe you got 369 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:37,120 really angry and you lost your temper and you said something 370 00:19:37,120 --> 00:19:40,280 that hurts someone, right? Like you feeling like all the 371 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:43,000 guilt and shame, it's not going to benefit you and it's not 372 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:44,760 going to benefit that other person. 373 00:19:45,360 --> 00:19:47,800 Or maybe you feel guilt and shame towards yourself, you 374 00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:52,120 know, maybe you feel like, why did I let this person like hurt 375 00:19:52,120 --> 00:19:53,920 me? Why did I let this treatment 376 00:19:53,920 --> 00:19:56,120 like go on for so long? Like I just feel shame. 377 00:19:56,120 --> 00:19:58,560 I don't feel good about myself. I feel shameful that I let 378 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:02,760 something like this happen. That also like it diminishes 379 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:06,320 yourself concept like your energy is not a good place to be 380 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:08,120 in. You need to decide today that 381 00:20:08,120 --> 00:20:11,680 you're no longer that version of you and recognize like the old 382 00:20:11,680 --> 00:20:15,160 version is also someone that other people they're no longer 383 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:18,920 going to. Experience either when you start 384 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,680 to identify as a new version of yourself. 385 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:25,000 And like when I say identify, it's not like you have to like 386 00:20:25,400 --> 00:20:27,960 walk around and tell everyone like I'm now this person. 387 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:31,040 I'm now this person and like, you know, the person that you 388 00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:34,400 knew, like she's gone. This is like all like an 389 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,280 internal thing, like an internal dialogue that you have with 390 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:39,920 yourself, but you just start to no longer resonate with that old 391 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:42,320 version of yourself, Like the version of yourself that was a 392 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:45,080 doormat, that was taken for granted, that wasn't 393 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:49,520 appreciated, whatever it was that you were showing up before. 394 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,800 Like you're just like, no, I've released that part of me that's 395 00:20:52,800 --> 00:20:55,440 not someone I resonate with. When I look at that past version 396 00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,000 of myself, I don't recognize her. 397 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:01,200 And you know, that's just not the person I am anymore. 398 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:04,240 When you just start to feel that way about yourself, like the 399 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,400 people in your life, they adapt to it very quickly. 400 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:10,400 So like, even if you're someone that like experiences like 401 00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:13,200 disrespect from like your family members and stuff like that, and 402 00:21:13,200 --> 00:21:15,960 you want to change that, like you spent your whole life 403 00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:19,360 feeling disrespected by your family, it starts with you. 404 00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,960 You need to change how you show up through your actions and 405 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:24,200 behaviors, right? So identifying it within 406 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,840 yourself concept of I'm no longer someone that is 407 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:28,960 disrespected. I don't tolerate disrespect from 408 00:21:29,120 --> 00:21:33,520 anyone. I am not someone that is going 409 00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:38,640 to tolerate being spoken down to, to be degraded. 410 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:42,400 And I will completely remove myself from anyone in my life 411 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:46,120 that makes me feel that way naturally from your behavior 412 00:21:46,120 --> 00:21:49,520 around your parents or your family members when they try to 413 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,800 like pull the same stuff that they were doing before. 414 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:53,520 Like you're just going to handle it differently. 415 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:55,680 You're not going to react, you're not going to respond. 416 00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:57,240 You're just going to simply remove yourself. 417 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:00,160 And again, this ties into what I was saying at the very beginning 418 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:04,400 of infinite intelligence, right when it all comes hand in hand. 419 00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,520 So when you are changing your identity, you are now choosing 420 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,160 to be a different version of yourself, that infinite 421 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,480 intelligence and you're doing the nervous system regulation 422 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,240 work. That's when the downloads and 423 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,560 you're just naturally going to have the ideas. 424 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:19,480 You're, it's not even going to be like a thought where you're 425 00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,480 like, hmm, I have to show up and now like remove myself from the 426 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:24,120 situation. Like it's just going to be like 427 00:22:24,120 --> 00:22:25,840 a byproduct of like who you are now. 428 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:27,520 Like it's just going to be natural. 429 00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:30,080 You just know how to handle these situations and you handle 430 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,760 it very differently. This is why like clients too, 431 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:36,120 who are like previously they were like super anxiously 432 00:22:36,120 --> 00:22:38,080 attached. We work on completely changing 433 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:40,520 the identity around that they're no longer anxiously attached. 434 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:42,280 We shift to secure attachment style. 435 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:45,000 The way that they go to dating is completely different. 436 00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:48,440 They don't, they don't like identify as like the anxious, 437 00:22:48,440 --> 00:22:50,920 like constant, like second guessing and like worrying if 438 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:52,960 they're good enough or if the person likes them, Like no. 439 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,800 And that's how like when they go into dating, like they have that 440 00:22:56,800 --> 00:22:59,000 game. They have that rizz when they're 441 00:22:59,920 --> 00:23:03,480 rizz, like when they go into dating, like they just naturally 442 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,120 know how to play it cool and how to be that girl that like men 443 00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:07,760 fawn over. It's just like a byproduct. 444 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,240 You don't have to like sit there and think like, oh, this is this 445 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:13,200 is how I have to show up now. Like it just it comes in a 446 00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:14,160 download. OK. 447 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,280 That's why you need to make sure that you are receptive for those 448 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,360 downloads. Now, when you are creating this 449 00:23:20,360 --> 00:23:23,560 new self concept, when you are deciding how you now want to be 450 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,000 show up, how you want to be perceived, it's important that 451 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:30,080 you do not lose yourself, OK? Make sure that you have a strong 452 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,120 sense of purpose, a strong sense of self. 453 00:23:32,120 --> 00:23:35,280 You know who you are, you know what your goals are in life. 454 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:36,960 You know what you're worthy and deserving of. 455 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,120 And you know when you're like, making these changes in your 456 00:23:40,120 --> 00:23:42,400 life like this is a huge change, right? 457 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,440 Because when you change, like everything around you is going 458 00:23:44,440 --> 00:23:45,520 to start to change for the better. 459 00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:51,800 You have to have that strong self assurance because if you 460 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:55,880 are like able to be like shaken with your values, how you see 461 00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,800 yourself just by like what others say about you and you 462 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:02,000 take it so personally, like don't take everything so 463 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,320 personally, OK? Like that is a that is a like 464 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:08,520 coming from a place of people pleasing tendencies of like, Oh 465 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,240 my God, everything that people say about me, like I have to 466 00:24:11,240 --> 00:24:13,200 take it so personally. I have to feel it to the core. 467 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,200 Or like maybe if someone's in a bad mood and they put their bad 468 00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,760 mood on to you and like you're like, oh, now I have to be in 469 00:24:18,760 --> 00:24:21,880 bad mood or like, Oh my God, like why are they like acting 470 00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:23,800 this way towards me? Like what did I do wrong? 471 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:27,400 Am I like, not good enough? Like, did I screw up? 472 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:30,920 Did I do something wrong? And you know, half the time it's 473 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:32,960 like it's not that deep. It's not that personal. 474 00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,440 Like that person could have just like been having like a tough 475 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:38,160 day, maybe like something happened to them, like at work, 476 00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,600 maybe they had like a bad interaction. 477 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,240 Like you never know. Like a lot of the times, like we 478 00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:46,320 make everything about ourselves because like humans, like we're 479 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:48,200 just naturally like self-centered like that, OK? 480 00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,480 Like that's just how God created us. 481 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,400 Like we're all in our own little bubble and that's OK, right? 482 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,160 But it's like, also important to know like, OK, is it worth my 483 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,760 time to sit here and like think like, what did I do wrong? 484 00:24:57,760 --> 00:24:59,840 And oh, like this person's mad at me. 485 00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:02,800 And you know, just like doing all these like mental gymnastics 486 00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:04,760 over something that's actually like, it's not that deep. 487 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:07,600 Like that's their emotions. Let them experience their 488 00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:09,720 emotions. Don't take it so personally. 489 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,560 And that's another thing too, like for my girlies that are 490 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:17,200 like anxious attachment and, you know, maybe like you have a 491 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,000 secure attachment, man, like you're not even dealing with an 492 00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:23,080 emotionally unavailable man, but like you're constantly trying to 493 00:25:23,120 --> 00:25:27,680 like overanalyze the situation. Like don't do that. 494 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:29,280 Don't do that. Like if you find yourself like 495 00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,800 constantly like overthinking, overanalyzing, like your nervous 496 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,240 system is dysregulated. Like that's number one, OK. 497 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:39,560 Like if you want to like live an incredible life, my number one 498 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:41,640 piece of the dice is like nervous system regulation. 499 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,440 OK? As someone that thought that it 500 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,880 was all bullshit, like, trust me, it's not bullshit, OK? 501 00:25:46,360 --> 00:25:49,480 And again, like you, I'm not telling you have to do like all 502 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,520 these like, crazy exercises, OK? Like even going to the gym and 503 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:56,480 going for a walk or reading a book, like doing something that 504 00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:58,960 like fills up your cup and makes you happy, that will regulate 505 00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:03,000 your nervous system. And if you want to be the most 506 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:07,960 like happiest, like fulfilled content version of yourself, no 507 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:09,720 location can bring you happiness. 508 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,280 You can be the most beautiful places in the world, the most 509 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,160 beautiful vacation. But if you're in negative 510 00:26:14,160 --> 00:26:17,920 headspace, no vacation can bring you that happiness that you're 511 00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,080 hoping to find. It's all in your mind and having 512 00:26:20,080 --> 00:26:25,160 that Peace of Mind is priceless. Your perception of life is 513 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:28,120 completely different. Your outlook on every aspect of 514 00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:29,880 your life changes. You start to get to a point 515 00:26:29,880 --> 00:26:32,320 where you are so content and grateful with your life that it 516 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:35,000 makes you want to cry. And if you're not there yet, 517 00:26:35,000 --> 00:26:37,520 that's OK. But that's my mission to get you 518 00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,720 there to like change people's lives for the better. 519 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,640 Like, I want people to just be able to, like, wake up and like, 520 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:48,560 feel so much gratitude for what they have in their life and 521 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,280 like, the blessings that are coming into your life. 522 00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:53,840 And like, we are all meant to have blessings, OK? 523 00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:57,800 No matter what's going on in your life, if you can just focus 524 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,080 on pouring into yourself and making yourself happy, 525 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:04,400 everything is going to unfold for the better. 526 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:06,960 That's where you're going to feel the most content. 527 00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:13,680 And in my opinion, like the way to feel fully fulfilled within 528 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:18,200 and have your cup filled and filling it yourself is to just 529 00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:22,560 do things that bring you joy and to have a passion and a goal in 530 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:26,080 life. We are meant to constantly be 531 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:30,080 growing and doing something. OK, if you feel like so stuck 532 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:35,360 right now, find something that you can put your energy and 533 00:27:35,360 --> 00:27:38,080 attention into. Like to create something like we 534 00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:41,320 are all creative beings, OK, when we are being creative, like 535 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:45,600 it's, it's sparking up new neural pathways in our mind, OK. 536 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:49,680 Like in a world where like we have like all of this instant 537 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:53,440 gratification, like the doom scrolling, like I know, like 538 00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:56,360 sometimes I get stuck in like the doom scroll situation where 539 00:27:56,360 --> 00:27:58,640 like, you know, you just like you're constantly scrolling on 540 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,680 social media, like do things that are going to spark that 541 00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,960 creativity. OK, reading, reading is really, 542 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,400 really powerful because when you're reading, you're able to 543 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,360 like create visuals in your mind. 544 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,840 Reading is so good for the brain. 545 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,200 Practicing concentrating for long periods of time, OK, like 546 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,720 even doing art and stuff do things that spark your 547 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,560 creativity. OK, whatever that may be. 548 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,280 Maybe it's baking, maybe it's cooking. 549 00:28:23,600 --> 00:28:27,160 Be creative from what I found like filling up my cup. 550 00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,600 I love to be creative like anytime I can like express 551 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:34,400 myself through creativity, I just I start to feel really 552 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:36,120 great about myself, right. That builds up that 553 00:28:36,120 --> 00:28:39,480 self-confidence within you too of like, wow, like I'm capable 554 00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:42,120 of doing these things and like I'm, I'm talented, I'm good at 555 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:43,960 something right? Like that creates that positive 556 00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:47,280 reinforcement when you're like scrolling on social media or you 557 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:51,400 just like brought in bed all day, like that's you don't feel 558 00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,240 accomplished from that. You don't feel fulfilled from 559 00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:56,440 that. So it's like also to like do a, 560 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,760 a backlog of like, OK, how am I spending my free time? 561 00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:01,920 Like am I bring being productive? 562 00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:05,080 Am I doing things that the highest version myself would do? 563 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,200 Am I regulating my nervous system like you guys? 564 00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:13,000 There is nothing more attractive than loving yourself and 565 00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,760 choosing yourself. That's when your cup is full and 566 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:19,920 that's when you can pour into others and make a huge impact in 567 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:23,680 their lives. OK, whatever it is that you are 568 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:29,160 wanting in your life, it all starts with making sure that you 569 00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:34,000 feel really good within, OK? Like prime yourself concept in 570 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:37,600 your energetic state and from there everything is going to 571 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,400 sort itself out. You know, and I know sometimes 572 00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:44,600 it's scary to like lean back and like not have control and just 573 00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:48,840 surrender that and, you know, let the universe take care of 574 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,640 it. But you know, like everything, 575 00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:54,360 and I'm sure that you have also experienced in your life of like 576 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,960 when you're really trying to force an outcome and you're 577 00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,360 trying to make it work and you're really trying to figure 578 00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:04,480 it out, no matter how hard you try, it's still not working out 579 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:06,520 in the way that you want. That's because like the 580 00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:09,920 energetics behind it, they're, they're just not in the right 581 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:13,200 place. I know self love kind of sounds 582 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,920 a little cheesy, like just love yourself. 583 00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:19,600 And you know, we hear that all the time, all the time. 584 00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:24,000 And it's just like you don't, you won't fully understand what 585 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:27,640 that means until you truly adore yourself. 586 00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:29,800 Like when you look in the mirror, you're just like, I'm 587 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:33,240 obsessed with myself. Like I'm the most coolest bitch 588 00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:37,040 I know. And if you're not there yet, 589 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:41,360 right now, if your self concept isn't at a place where you can 590 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:43,960 look at yourself, be like, Oh my God, like I'm incredible. 591 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,600 I'm obsessed with myself. Then that's how you know, like 592 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:50,080 you got some work to do and like you'll get there, right? 593 00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:53,360 And it just all starts with doing the things that you love, 594 00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:56,120 like prioritizing yourself. Wow. 595 00:30:56,120 --> 00:31:00,040 OK, so I think I'm going to cut it here at the 30 minute mark, 596 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:05,320 but I hope that you, I've received a lot of wisdom from 597 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,000 today's episode. This is probably 1 of like my 598 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:13,160 favorite episodes I have made so far because this has literally 599 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,440 changed my life. And I hope that whoever is 600 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:21,360 listening and in this current situation, in this part of their 601 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,080 life, like trust me, you're going to get there. 602 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,600 This is just the beginning for you and you have so many 603 00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:31,960 blessings on the way. Also, thank you so much to those 604 00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,920 who are rating the podcast 5 stars and leaving comments. 605 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:36,720 I absolutely love reading your comments. 606 00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:41,880 Also, feel free to send me Adm on IG at Liv Marima and let me 607 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,160 know what you thought of today's episode or if you have any 608 00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,200 future ideas for podcast episodes. 609 00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:50,000 I just, I love to hear from you guys. 610 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,520 And yeah, I will see you in the next episode.